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On the Grit and Grace podcast , we
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shine the spotlight on the stories behind the
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leader Money negotiation
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. Who's great at it , who's not ?
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That question comes up all the time how
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much money do you think I am worth ?
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Joining us today is Jocelyn Yacoub , the
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trailblazing CEO behind Yacoub
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Elite Search . In 1997
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, she flipped the model on headhunting by
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acting as the agent to the talent . In
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this episode we explore the hot topic
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of salary negotiation and the art
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of leadership . Presence Plus
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, jocelyn offers her frank and honest
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take on a critical topic . Are
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you truly ready for that promotion and
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level up ? Get ready for an action-packed
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conversation . Let's dive in
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. I was thinking about how
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you've paved the way for so many
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top performers and leaders
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. You've been in business for 25
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years . Can you talk
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a little bit on your own personal stamina
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? You as a leader , a CEO , a
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founder ? What if you had to
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do in your life to sustain this
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business and reinvent yourself and
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to keep the passion alive ?
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Paving the way , so
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I like how you framed that . I
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was young , I was very naive . I
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decided that I wanted to flip
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the model of what the executive
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search world is all about
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, so I naturally
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became curious
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about how people become
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top performers In
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any job that you do . My first
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job was being a cashier . How
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can you be a better cashier than your friend
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next door ?
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Wherever you are right , Whatever role you're
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in .
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Whatever role you're in , I
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believe that because
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I was naive and I didn't know
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what it takes to
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start your own business , many
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people have asked me had I known what
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I know today , 25
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years ago , what I have done this ? Absolutely not
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.
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Naiveness is a good thing for entrepreneurs
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.
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Yeah , 100%
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, and I always
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knew I was an entrepreneur . I tell
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people I was very unemployable
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at a young age because I
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was just overly creative . I was
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ambitious , I
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wanted to make my own rules , and
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you can't do that in a large corporate
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environment . And
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I think that's really what motivated
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me to start my own business at
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a very young age , because I needed
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to change the rules about what
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headhunting was all about . And
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headhunting is you get a call
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and
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you're the candidate . So Jen gets the call
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and I'm trying to sell you
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a job and I'm thinking you
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don't even know Jen , so how can you
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sell her a job ? You know that this
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is the right job for her . So that was the first
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thing that the flaw in the system
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. The flaw in the system and
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secondly , at the time it's
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a commission based environment . It
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was very sales focused , so
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the firm that I was recruiting
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at you were on commission , so
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you only got paid if Jen got the job
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, and so that was a
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huge flaw in the system , for sure
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, and
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I quickly became
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really good at
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getting people excited and really good
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at helping
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people figure out that there could
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be better opportunities for them
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than where they are today . So
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that's really how my early
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stages in my career started , because
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when I flip the model and they
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say , like , how did you flip the model
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? I decided to act
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as the agent to the talent . Many
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called me the Jerry Maguire of
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the search world at an early stage
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, because if you remember the movie Jerry
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Maguire , tom
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Cruise did not have a client , right , and
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if he got that guy , yeah
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, show me the money . Then he was
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going to become famous . So it's
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, it's exactly what happened to
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me . That really tells
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you how old I am . But
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when that , most people listening will relate to
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the Jerry Maguire movie , right , and that movie
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taught me so much about
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what it's like to feel vulnerable
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, yeah , what it's like
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to be scared , and
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the pressure that you're
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in to make sure
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that your talent
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gets the right job , and
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I think that that played a huge role in
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the foundation
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of how I decided to create my
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new business .
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As you're talking about all that and I'm
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just thinking about who might be listening right now
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how do you see top
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talent , like , how do you know you
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are speaking to somebody with a
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high potential in them ? Like
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, what do you see ? This is your gift , you can
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see it in people , you can spot it . What
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is it that you see in them ?
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Talent , to me , is
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measured by proven
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success . Right , right .
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Because you can . You can see patterns in people's
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history 100 percent Right .
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My mother always taught me tell me who
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your friends are and I'll tell you who you are
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Right , and that played a big role
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in me developing
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my relationships , because great
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people surround
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themselves with great people most of the time
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and
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you become part of that community
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, right ? So really
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getting to know people and engaging
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conversations is something that I'm still working
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on . It took me 25 years to perfect
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. What types of questions
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are you asking people ? Right To find
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out what you need to know ?
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I have to assume that because of that , you
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get to see where people fall
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short in certain skills and or excel
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in other skills , and I kind of wanted to
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talk about a few major components
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where leaders really either
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hit the mark or miss the mark on
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leadership and , specifically , negotiation
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.
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Negotiation is an art . Yeah
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, it's a skill . It's
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. It's something , that it's
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a process in your life . Early
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years of negotiation are usually
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terrible . I was a terrible negotiator
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and I started my business because the first thing people
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wanted me to do was discount my rate and
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I felt like I needed to because I was just starting
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off right . Right , so that
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can parlay into . Early in your career
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. You don't really have a lot of negotiation
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power because you're very new at what you do
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. Your negotiation power
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is all about the confidence
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that you have that you're the best
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at what you do , because once you have
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that , you're going to show up differently
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in an interview , you're going to show up
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differently in conversations , and
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the best negotiating power is
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that you don't have to leave where you are
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today . So there's
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two parts . So I'm going to
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. The first part is you're being headhunted
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. You're happy
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where you are . It's my role
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as your agent to find
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what I call is your wound , and that's
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my patented secret
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recipe to what I do is . I
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believe everybody has a wound and
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it's my job to figure out what that is . And
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depending on how big your wound is is depending
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on how much negotiation power that you have
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. So most of the time , I'm
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dealing with top talent
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who are
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excelling at what they do
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, and it's
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my role to move
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them from one place to another , which
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means that they're going to be
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looking for a major difference
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, financially and
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lifestyle wise , and , most importantly
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, jen , I think now more than ever , people's
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values cannot be compromised . And
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once you have those three things figured
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out , how much money do
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you think I am worth ? That's
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that question comes up all the
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time . Yeah , so to go
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back to the negotiating power , I
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coach people for a living , naturally , and
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the more confidence that
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you have , and I motivate
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people , and especially
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women , because women are known to be the
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worst negotiators and I don't
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allow that . It's
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. Negotiating should not be a gender .
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It is all rooted in their own personal value and sense
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of words . Okay , so that's the wobbliness
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If I have a wound where I'm not
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valuing some part of myself and
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it's that leaves me more vulnerable
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to not being a strong
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negotiator Is that what you say ?
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Yes .
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Yes , right , yes .
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How does it show up ? It shows up in your
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conversations , it shows up in your
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facial expressions , it shows up in
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your ability not to feel that
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you are confident enough
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about a certain wound that you may have
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Right , and the wound could be
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like I
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don't feel like my current leader today
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is teaching me anything Right
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and I'm looking for a much
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more inspiring leader , and that's the
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number one reason
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why people leave their jobs it's
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the leader that they work for , and
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I and I've become a leader expert at people
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expert and I stress
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to everyone If
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you're not working for the right leader
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, you will not feel inspired
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or successful . So my role
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has now become more of connecting
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the right leaders together , more
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so than being a headhunter . And you
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know , you asked me that at the very beginning , like how
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do you know that this person is a top performer
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? It's an obvious . It's
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an obvious because a top performer achieves
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results . A top performer
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can quantify their
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results as much as they qualify
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for them . A top performer can share
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success stories . A top performer
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can provide the
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new employer with reasons why
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they need to be hired
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, and that parlays into
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their negotiating power , right
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? So if I was to sum this up , the
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best negotiating power
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that a candidate would have is
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that they're so confident about their abilities
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to do the job that
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the salary that they require is
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a must have period . But
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it is very important to know
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your worth , yes , to believe
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in your worth .
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I think it's even even that practice of
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those tips , of that script
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that you just gave , is like you should
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be rehearsed and being able to know
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your results per your value
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, like you could give that talk
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at a cocktail party 100% , even
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at a cocktail party or a networking
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event or , you know , at
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any event where you're meeting somebody new
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.
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When they ask you , what do you do ? How
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do you respond ?
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And how prepared are you ?
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and how prepared are you to respond to that ?
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To respond to that in a way that services
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your value and your confidence and your
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worth in the moment . Right , it's kind
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of leading me to the next thing that I wanted
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to talk about , which is this kind of mysterious
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box that we call executive presence
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. And you
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know , I've worked for leaders the minute they walk
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into a room mail or female you just
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know there's a presence , there's a quality
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to them . What
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do you see in today's landscape with people
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who have strong executive presence ? What
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qualities are they demonstrating ?
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having the presence to command a room
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, to be
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heard , to have
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something to say
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that others will want to hear , and
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to be able to navigate through
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a group of people . So
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there's a whole list of things . On executive presence
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, I'm happy to give tips all the time , but most importantly is how are you
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received and and who is your audience and
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how did they feel after they
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met you ? So oftentimes we'll
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get feedback from
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from a meeting
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that occurred and
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anyone that's represented by Yaku . You'll
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never hear they didn't have executive presence because
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they wouldn't be presented if
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they did not . Right , so
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that's the magic , right ? So
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, however , they could feedback as
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they weren't confident in their answers . And
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that goes back to your point . Yeah , like
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, be prepared to validate why you
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are a top performer .
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I think that also in you know what I just
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know for myself and other leaders that I
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admire , you have to cultivate
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that on the inside and have
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that kind of core steadiness .
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I don't have the stats , but I can tell
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you that most top
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performers are athletes . Having
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that team sport to
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off balance your
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day to day corporate life
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is really , really , really crucial
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, and
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those that are not into sports have to be passionate about
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something . So I think I think to
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your point . Working on yourself requires a lot
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, and it's it's mental
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health month awareness . I
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just I just did a very simple
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post . Like you need to take care
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of your mind as much as you take care of your
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bodies , and that's really , really crucial
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. I think that plays a huge role
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in what leaders
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have to do to
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show up for other people , for
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other people , because are you inspired ?
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And it's a habit , and a mindful habit
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, and it's easy to be , you know , burnt
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out , overworked , but it's on us
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to turn it around . Absolutely
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yeah , lead a better life . The
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last piece I wanted to talk about do
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you ever see people chasing
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the role for the wrong reason ? Always
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, and how ? Should people ask themselves
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the question of why am
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I wanting this ? Like what could be
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some advice that people can just take away to
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know do I want to have this role
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or do I want to prove that I can
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have this role ?
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Like chasing the role for the wrong
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reasons is probably happening
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more in organizations these days
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than it should be . Because
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of people's ambition , because
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of people's ego , because
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everyone is so title-driven , so
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that would be the wrong reason
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, right ? Of
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course , chasing
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the job that you want has
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to come with a lot of
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work , and
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how are you going to be successful
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in that next role ? How ?
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do people know that they're doing it for the
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right reasons ? It should be . That body
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of work inspires me . I
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could put my own kind of stamp
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on that strategically or I think I could
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solve the problem for the company Like . That's how I
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look at it .
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Sadly , I see too much in my world . But
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how are you being received
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in that role ? So
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does the CEO of the company think that
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you should have your boss's job ? Because
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you're going to have to report to him directly or
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her , if you do get that job
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? And so it's really
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about understanding . I might want the
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next job and I might think I'm ready for
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the next job , but am I the right
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person for that leader ? And
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that's huge , right . So whenever
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the leader changes , everything changes
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. You might be ready for the next level , you
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might feel like you're ready for the next level , but as
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a next level you right . So
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it takes a lot of
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self-awareness , but it takes a lot
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of understanding
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from the leaders around
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you or the clients
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around you . And
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in my firm , for example , my juniors
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might want to be frontline
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with the clients , but do the clients
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want to work with them directly ? Period
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, right . So how are you received
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in a large organization ? The
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VP wants to become an executive vice
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president , but then they're sitting at the table with
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the board members . How are they received ? So
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there's a lot of
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discovery around that .
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Well , I think that perspective brings
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a lot of perspective to anyone listening to this
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. I don't know people think of it .
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I hope so . Yeah , I think it . I mean , I just learned a
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lot listening .
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I am so inspired by what
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you've done , how you've opened
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doors for so many people and how you care deeply
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about people's progress and growth and
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you're doing remarkable things . Thank
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you so much for joining .
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Thank you for having me . I
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do this naturally . I
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love to share , I love
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to inspire others . I love . I would
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love it if someone could learn a
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lesson that took me 10
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years to learn just by listening
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. And you have to
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live and learn . Yeah , you know , there are
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no limits to what you can do , but
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give yourself time . Absolutely
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Amazing .
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Yeah , so let's finish it off on mastery . Yes
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, I love it . I love mastery
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you are too .
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Thank you for having me here today . It's been so much fun .
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