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fashion is advised. Hey
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there. Welcome to Food Psych. I'm
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your host, Christy Harrison, and today I'm gonna
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be answering a question I've gotten from many
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people over the years about emotional
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eating. Or should I say so called emotional
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eating actually. This is a topic
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that comes up a lot because so many people
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see themselves as emotional eaters And
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I know I very much did 277 back in my
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disordered eating days a decade or
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two decades ago. But as we'll
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discuss, quote unquote emotional
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eating actually isn't what it seems.
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And identifying as an emotional eater
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can actually be a clue that something else
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might be going on. So
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before I get into all that though, just a couple
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the wellness trap. Now
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without any further ado, let's get into
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this week's question. It's one that
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I've gotten many times over the years in
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my online courses and media interviews
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and one on one coaching with people, and
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it's some version of this. Am
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I doing intuitive eating wrong if
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I find myself eating just because I
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feel bored slash tired
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slash sad, slash otherwise
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emotional or if I find
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myself eating just because I want to eat
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without being hungry per se. So
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thanks to everyone who's asked that great question.
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And before I answer, I'll just give my standard
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disclaimer that these answers and this
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podcast in general are for informational
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and educational purposes only, aren't
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a substitute for individual medical or
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mental health advice, and don't constitute
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provider patient relationship. Also,
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this is just my take as one
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dietitian slash journalist, and I
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hope you'll seek out other perspectives and
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consult your own inner wisdom as well.
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Okay. So here are five things I would say in
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response to that question about emotional eating.
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First, there is no such thing as quote
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unquote doing intuitive eating wrong.
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As long as you're practicing it in good faith
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and not like trying to sell it
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to others as a weight loss plan which
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goes against spirit of intuitive eating. But
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if you're doing intuitive eating in good faith,
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you're trying to practice it. You know,
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this approach is not about doing things perfectly.
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Right? It's not about checking all the boxes
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or never wavering. It's not
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about being on the wagon or
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off the wagon, good or bad.
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It's not about these moralistic and perfectionistic
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sort of ways of seeing things because that kind of
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perfectionism is diet culture's
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bag. And Intuitive Eating
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is very much an anti diet approach. So
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instead 277 eating is about experimentation,
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letting go of diet culture's rules, and
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figuring out what works for you with lots
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of self compassion. If you're
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asking yourself questions about a particular
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pattern you have with food, then that's a
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great thing to explore and definitely
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very much in the spirit of intuitive eating.
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I just encourage you to move away from black
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and white labels like quote unquote doing
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it wrong because that feels very self
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critical. Number 277,
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there is nothing inherently wrong with eating
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when you simply want to eat. Even
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if you don't necessarily feel hungry.
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There are lots of reasons to eat even in the
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absence of obvious hunger, including
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eating as a part of a celebration. Eating
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for comfort and pleasure, or
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even eating preemptively as a matter of
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self care, like before going into a situation
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where you won't have access to food for a while.
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Those are all very much a part of intuitive
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eating and aren't a cause for concern,
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guilt, or self flagellation. On
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the other hand, if you're eating in what
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feels like a quote unquote emotional way
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because you're actually deprived and not
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eating enough overall, or
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if you're doing it because you don't have any other
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coping mechanisms other than eating,
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then those can be signals that something
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needs attention. But in those cases,
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the solution is not to push yourself
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to quote unquote stop eating emotionally because
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that's just more deprivation, that's just more
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trying to stop something, trying to not do
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something. But instead, the solution
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is to take care of the deprivation and
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to add other coping skills in addition to
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eating. And we'll talk a little bit more about that
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in a moment. Number
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three, it's often the case that
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just having thoughts of food or
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feeling like eating actually
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is a sign of hunger. So a lot
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of people, especially those who've been restricting
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their eating in some way for a long time,
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think that hunger only manifests as
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a sense of growling or emptiness in
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the stomach or just like overwhelming,
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you know, deprivation or depletion. I
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know I thought that back in the day when
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I was dieting and disordered eater
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as well. But the truth is that
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those are pretty late stage hunger signals
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for many of us or perhaps most of us.
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And they only happen when we're profoundly hungry
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or maybe even on the verge of like a hangry
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emotional meltdown. So there
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are lots of subtler signs of hunger that
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show up much earlier in the process, including
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thoughts of food and just wanting to
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eat. Believe it or not,
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for people who have a peaceful relationship
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with food that is unmarked by
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ongoing deprivation, right? People who've
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healed with their their relationship with food
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and don't have that ongoing deprivation or
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those rare lucky few who have never
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had any sort of deprivation in their lives
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and relationships with food. For those
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folks, there are typically stretches
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of few hours between meals and snacks
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where we're not thinking about food or wanting
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food at all. And I know that's very much
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true for me as someone who was
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an intuitive eater and then fell
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into dieting and ordered eating and then healed
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my relationship with food, it's just miraculous
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now to think like there are hours that go
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by where I just am not thinking
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about food. And then I start thinking about it
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again and that's a sign that I'm getting hungry.
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So for those people who are still living
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with deprivation or in the earliest stages
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of recovery from disordered eating. Thoughts
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of food can sometimes feel persistent
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and just unrelenting. Which
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signals actually a deep need for food
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and renourishment in an ongoing way.
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And for others who are little farther along in
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recovery, You might notice too
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that there are times when there's a marked absence
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of thoughts about food followed
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by an uptick in those thoughts. So
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wherever you are on that continuum, it
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can be helpful to try eating sooner
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than you otherwise would 277 the extent
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that that's available in your economic circumstances.
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So eating when you start thinking about
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food or you start feeling like you want
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to eat rather than waiting until
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you get to that stage of stomach growling,
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empty feeling, hunger. So
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in other words, far from being quote unquote
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wrong, eating just because
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you 277 eat might actually be a
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great form of self care. I
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talked about this more on my episode of the ten
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percent happier podcast with Dan Harris,
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who's actually one of the people who asked me that question.
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And we'll link to that in the show notes for this
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episode. I also go into a lot
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more depth about how to navigate emotional
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eating, reject diet culture
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and find peace with food in my
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277 eating fundamentals course, which
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you can find at christy harrison dot com slash
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course. And then we'll talk next
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week on this podcast about some
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of the other subtle signs of hunger that
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might help alert you that it's time to eat.
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Because thinking about food, wanting
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food are definitely some of the
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subtle signs of hunger, but they're not the only
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ones. So we'll get into that more next week.
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Number four. Seeing yourself
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as an emotional eater. So seeing
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yourself as someone who eats in response to
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feelings rather than hunger might
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be a clue that diet culture is afoot.
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There have been decades now of psychological
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research on emotional eating, And
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the conclusion that many researchers have come
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to is that it may not be a scientifically
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sound concept actually because In
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experimental settings, self
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identified emotional eaters don't
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eat anymore in the presence of emotional
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stimuli than anyone else. Instead,
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those people who identify as emotional eaters
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seem to be simply more worried about their
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eating and feel like they lack
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control over it. And follow
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external rules about quote unquote healthy
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eating. There's also evidence
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that people who see themselves as emotional eaters
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have a greater tendency to attribute
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any perceived overeating to
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emotions. So
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that's really interesting. Right? And begs
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the question, why do so many of us worry
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about so called emotional eating? Well,
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that would be because of diet culture, really, which
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has a deep investment in making you feel
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like your eating is driven by mere
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emotions, quote unquote, instead
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of by legitimate needs that diets will
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never meet. And instead of by deprivation because
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diets don't 277 to admit that they're depriving
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you in this day and age. And so
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diet culture has a major stake in making
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you feel like a failure. Right? Making you
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feel like you gave into your emotions rather
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than knowing the truth, which is that diets
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themselves are the failure. The
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concept of emotional eating really
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took root in the nineteen sixties from
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my research and weight watchers
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and other diet companies did a
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pretty great job of disseminating that
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idea. It was really an ingenious
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way to sort of pass the buck deflecting
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attention from the fact that dieting made
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people feel so unhinged around
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food and that people
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were eating in ways that felt really out of
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control. It's nice to, you know,
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for diets to have something to blame, like, oh,
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it's your emotions that are driving that out
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of control behavior. So if
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we can pull back from diet culture and
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stop letting it control us like this,
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we can see that there's no reason to demonize
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the practice of eating to sue the emotions
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and that when we truly heal from dieting
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and deprivation, we likely won't
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quote unquote eat our feelings as much anymore
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either. Finally,
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number five. Adding other
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coping skills can definitely be helpful
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once you've addressed the underlying deprivation
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that's there. So for many people
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who identify as emotional eaters, finding
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additional ways to cope with difficult emotions
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is definitely important too. Some
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folks have labeled themselves as emotional
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eaters for so long, that they
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don't have many other tools in their coping
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tool boxes if you will. And so
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if that describes you, right, if
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you're one of those people who seems
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to turn to food for comfort and for
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soothing all kinds of emotions and don't feel like
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you have a lot of other 277 to cope.
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Adding more of those tools can help
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address the vast array of feelings
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and situations that might come up for you over
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the years. And that's not to say that
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you must stop turning to food for comfort
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at all. Right? That's not what I'm saying.
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Whatsoever. It's just a matter
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of adding more coping skills so that you
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feel better equipped to deal with
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life and everything it throws at you.
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Dioculture's MO is to say
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take a bath instead of eating. Right?
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You see this in the so
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called emotional eating literature that is
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very much still rooted in diet culture. Well,
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what I'm saying is, what if
13:43
you call a friend after you finish that ice
13:45
cream? Right? Or what if you do some other coping
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skill in addition to eating.
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So with enough practice at intuitive eating,
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the desire to eat in response to emotions
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typically does decline on its own as I mentioned
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before. But in the meantime, there's
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absolutely nothing wrong with eating
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if that's what you feel like doing when you're bummed out
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or having whatever emotion you have.
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Right? And if you're recovering from chronic
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dieting, you probably will feel like
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eating in those moments. So
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bottom line to all this, is that if you
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identify as an emotional eater, it's
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not your fault. Really, I'd
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say that it's the fault of diet culture,
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and it's perfectly okay to eat for emotional
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reasons rather than strictly biological
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ones. Because how can you really distinguish
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between the two anyway? Right? Dieting
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and restricting foods creates such
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a chronic deprivation that there's
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almost always some hunger going on, some
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physical need not being met, in
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addition to whatever emotional need is
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there. And sometimes that deprivation
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is actually what's driving emotions in the first
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place. Right? Chronic food deprivation
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can make anyone feel anxious, cranky,
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sad, depressed, all of those
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things. So instead of trying
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to substitute other coping mechanisms for
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eating every time you find yourself
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soothing a feeling with food. You
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might instead try to stop demonizing
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emotional eating and stop following
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diet culture's rules, really letting
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go of that deprivation. You
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might still comfort yourself with food sometimes
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and that's a completely understandable part
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of a peaceful relationship with food and an
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intuitive relationship with food because
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even the most intuitive eater occasionally
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eats in a quote unquote emotional way,
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and there's nothing wrong with that. So
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thanks again to everyone who's asked some version
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