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Really? Interesting Be roommates with your mother
1:42
as an adult and I had just
1:44
turned thirty I think when I left
1:46
after nine months of like working with
1:48
her on this company and I felt
1:50
real shift our like wow or less
1:52
ship is different now because spending time
1:55
with her just the day to day
1:57
of it and I sing or wins
1:59
or maybe. she was having a good day
2:01
or a bad day. We've established different kinds of
2:03
rules and boundaries. And I think that's
2:05
lovely. It's constantly evolving and I think I'm in
2:07
the process. Welcome
2:11
to Your Mama's Kitchen, the podcast where
2:13
we explore how the food and culinary
2:15
traditions of our youth shape who
2:17
we become as adults. I'm
2:19
Michelle Norris. My guest today
2:22
is Eric Kim. He skyrocketed to
2:24
food writing fame and acclaim at
2:26
The Food Network and Food52. Eric
2:29
is now a staff writer and SAS
2:31
for the New York Times food section.
2:33
His recent cookbook is called Korean American,
2:35
Food That Tastes Like Home. It's
2:38
a luscious book. And we had it
2:40
with us in studio as we talked
2:42
so we could swoon over how beautiful
2:44
it was together. The photos alone will
2:47
knock you out. And each chapter reads
2:49
almost like memoir. It's not
2:51
surprising that this book became an instant
2:53
New York Times bestseller. Eric dedicated the
2:55
book to his mother, Jean, and the food
2:57
he grew up with. He was raised
2:59
in suburban Atlanta, eating a combination of
3:02
southern food and traditional Korean
3:04
staples like savory kimchi and
3:06
delicately fried fish for Sunday
3:08
supper. Now, remember the subtitle
3:11
for his book, Food That Tastes Like Home?
3:13
Well, the recipes in the book were actually
3:15
developed when Eric was home in his mama's
3:17
kitchen. During the pandemic, Eric
3:19
left New York City and returned to
3:21
Atlanta, living with his family and cooking
3:24
right next to his mother, Jean. Now,
3:27
to some of us, that might sound, shall
3:29
we say, challenging, working
3:31
with your mother day in and day
3:33
out in her space while trying to
3:35
produce your masterpiece. But for Eric Kim,
3:37
the famous food writer, it was a
3:39
productive time. And for Eric Kim, the
3:41
son, it was a healing
3:44
experience. Even
3:48
in the closest families, recognizing
3:51
boundaries can be difficult. And it's
3:53
not just about space or the
3:55
geography of a house. Kids
3:57
want autonomy. Parents want to exercise.
4:00
authority and those two things
4:02
usually collide. Today we hear
4:04
how Eric learned how to break free of
4:06
his parents' expectations and chart his own path,
4:08
including a stint where he ran away from
4:11
home in the family car to go to
4:13
Nashville, we'll learn how he developed a
4:15
greater respect for his mother's kitchen skills
4:17
when he became a food writer, and
4:20
how his journey brought him back to
4:22
Jean's kitchen and all of her refrigerators
4:24
filled to the brim with jars and
4:27
jars of delicious kimchi. So
4:34
hey Eric, Kim, thanks so much for being with us. Thanks
4:36
for having me. It's an honor, truly.
4:38
Well, I am so excited because your
4:40
latest cookbook fell into my hands
4:43
and I have been wanting to talk
4:45
to you about your story in
4:48
part because it's just such a beautiful
4:50
book and I love many other recipes
4:53
and you grabbed me with the introduction, which of
4:55
course is all about your mom. Yeah, thank
4:58
you for saying that. So you know the deal.
5:00
This is a podcast that always begins
5:02
with a simple question. Tell
5:04
me about your mama's kitchen. Take me
5:07
inside her space. Close your eyes, describe
5:10
what the kitchen of your youth
5:13
looked like, smelled like.
5:15
Put me inside that space.
5:18
Well, I didn't
5:20
think to do this before the interview and now I'm like
5:22
closing my eyes and thinking about it. So
5:25
I would say we
5:28
moved a few times, not that many times, but
5:30
every time we moved as you know when I
5:32
was little it would be 10 minutes
5:34
down the block or something and then eventually
5:37
it was like 10 minutes closer to my dad's
5:39
office. And anyway, we were always quite in the
5:41
same area, which meant all the houses kind of
5:43
looked the same for the most part. Each
5:45
house, the garage is always next to the kitchen
5:47
or the garage even opens into the kitchen always,
5:50
which meant the garage was also used as
5:53
a, I don't know, like a little refrigerator
5:55
in the winter. Lots of like
5:57
jars and things like that. So our kitchen kind of starts.
6:00
outside of the kitchen, you know, where the
6:02
garage door is. That's a
6:04
very like suburban Georgia, but I mean, maybe it's
6:06
a suburban American like house design. And
6:08
then you go in and you
6:11
know, I don't know how, but every single house,
6:13
like three or four houses, it's always just the
6:15
same kitchen island. There's like a big kitchen island.
6:18
So I really value kitchen islands because I think
6:20
that's where like a lot of the cooking happens. And
6:22
in one of the kitchens, the
6:25
stove was at the kitchen island, which I thought
6:27
was kind of amazing. At the center of
6:29
the kitchen versus to the side, you know, but
6:31
each kitchen kind of created the same sort
6:34
of environment where everyone's eyes. It's
6:36
like a cheesy image that every food writer gives, but
6:38
you know, everyone does hang around the kitchen. That's where
6:40
the food is. So we barely used
6:42
our dining room or our dining tables. We
6:45
were always in the kitchen. Did, does your
6:47
mom, you call her Jean
6:49
by the way, which is
6:51
interesting because in, and you grew up in the
6:53
South and in the South people don't call their
6:55
mother by their first name. So
6:59
what's that about? To be
7:01
clear, I don't call her Jean to her face.
7:03
It was sort of a narrative device that I
7:05
decided early on when I was writing about her
7:07
for the first time, you know,
7:09
not even in the book, just in my stories at 52 or an
7:11
hour. She
7:14
was really just fleshed out as a character,
7:16
you know, cause she's so dynamic and interesting
7:18
and fun. And she's, um, she's a big
7:20
character and I think
7:22
I wanted people ultimately to get to
7:24
know her individually, not just as a
7:27
mom or an immigrant trope. You
7:30
know, actually in Korean culture, even Korean
7:32
mothers, they take on their children's names.
7:34
It's like, oh, Eric's mom or Jesse's
7:37
mom. She was
7:39
the first kid's name plus mom. So
7:42
it's like almost a literal
7:44
loss of identity once you have children,
7:46
but I just wanted to reverse that
7:48
here in the telling and
7:50
to show her as herself. And it's also
7:52
a big learning process for me. Work on
7:54
the book really helped me to see her
7:57
from her objective perspective so we can write
7:59
about her. I don't know, with nuance
8:01
or with the truth. So that was a writing tool
8:03
for you. It was easier to write about Jean than
8:05
to write about your mom in some way? You
8:08
know, yes. I think there is a part of
8:10
that because, I don't know, for
8:12
me, I need distance from something.
8:14
I need time. I need to know that
8:17
what I'm providing is only the tip of
8:19
the iceberg because the rest is for me
8:21
and my family. Because actually,
8:23
my mother is very private. She's a very
8:25
private person. She'd never wanted to do
8:27
any of the PR for the book She
8:29
agreed to one talk in Atlanta, which is great. It
8:32
was like her, because we're home and there's a lot
8:34
of people we knew that would show up. But
8:37
she just hates the idea of fame or anything like
8:39
that. Well, now I feel bad because I have a
8:41
bunch of questions I want to ask about it. No,
8:43
no, no. But I'm kind of feeling like maybe I
8:45
shouldn't intrude her privacy. No,
8:48
no, I mean, I've written about her and
8:50
she knows that I talk about
8:52
her. It's more that she doesn't want herself
8:54
want to have to be that person. But
8:57
you know what's interesting? She kind of is that person
8:59
in Atlanta. She's so popular in
9:01
the Korean American community for her food.
9:03
It's obviously really delicious, like before this
9:06
book. So I don't know, we deal
9:08
with it in different ways, but I'm
9:10
happy to talk about my mom. Hey, this
9:12
book really is dedicated to her. And I
9:14
think she loves, she secretly also likes
9:16
the attention, I think. Your
9:19
mother sounds like she is
9:22
fully in command in her kitchen.
9:25
Yes, she is. And so I
9:27
want you, thank you for painting a picture of the kitchen
9:29
and how you enter through the garage and how the garage
9:31
is an extension of the kitchen. But now I want you
9:33
to paint a picture of your mother in
9:36
command in her kitchen where she's making,
9:39
I don't know, let's say she's making Sunday supper. Oh
9:42
man, she always has an apron on. And you
9:45
know, Sunday supper for a lot of people is
9:47
like a rush chicken or a red sauce. And
9:49
that's actually my Sunday supper now as
9:51
an adult in my own kitchen. But
9:53
my mother always puts on an apron. It
9:56
usually has like cute little cartoon figures on it.
10:00
Korea as Us prices as lot assistance
10:02
in our house and as if you
10:04
make sense and Korean cuisine like people
10:06
don't really talk about that much but
10:08
there's always the fried fish smell and
10:11
a good way like and let let's
10:13
you know that dinners happening and there's
10:15
there's a race that for hims steaming
10:17
on the side and of and the
10:19
rest copper more kind of says you
10:21
know it's usually yellow croker it's is
10:24
very better relates soft almost salmon lights
10:26
but not as. Rich.
10:29
Be salts it beforehand and the reason
10:31
to do that as to get it's
10:33
really. Soak, Up the to
10:35
the seasoning but also it makes it
10:37
not rubbery but like the just firms
10:39
that up slightly so it's it's tender but
10:42
from and i'll surveyed to seats sars
10:44
explain and it's just like a different
10:46
kind of says that is so good and
10:48
like not quite dried. you know it's
10:50
not like a jerky, it's more like
10:52
just the perfect and so. That's
10:54
like a really familiar salford. that's.
11:02
Different. Kitchens have different personalities and they
11:04
reveal themselves often in the sentiments and
11:07
in the wheels and the things that
11:09
are all around the side. Your smile
11:11
even before I did to The question
11:13
is you know where I'm going to
11:16
kill me all about. That access
11:18
if your mother's kitchen and
11:20
it's personality as revealed to
11:22
the sentiments. And. Is
11:25
a gay person? Thinks of us? Is
11:27
really unless the memory my mom has. This.
11:31
Time memory of violence. Cabinets
11:33
were. like sesame
11:35
oil smell and kind of like
11:38
also all over everything oliver every
11:40
bottle like see the when you
11:42
see coach was i guess i
11:44
wouldn't say messy like sesame oil
11:46
does get everywhere it was her
11:48
olive oil she was using it
11:50
so much policies in neutral but
11:52
that's sesame oil is this i
11:54
didn't realize until later how corinne
11:56
it was another really lovely moment
11:58
in my life cooking life
12:00
because when I moved back home to
12:03
write this cookbook with her, I stayed with her
12:05
for nine months, and that was like my first
12:07
time being back home like that in a very
12:10
permanent way since I had left
12:12
for college, you know? And it was
12:15
one of those moments when I realized,
12:17
wow, her pantry, it's quite specific actually.
12:19
Specific to her, not just Korean cooks,
12:21
but to her, the sesame oil is
12:23
still a thing. It's like still kind
12:25
of all over everything. And kind of
12:28
sticky too. It is a little viscous,
12:30
yeah. But not to mention
12:32
she has these syrups that she loves, and
12:34
then gochugaru, which is that Korean red pepper
12:36
powder, and then in her other pantry, like
12:38
in the fridge, which is where
12:40
her kimchi fridges are and stuff like that, she
12:42
has gochujang, she has tenjang, she has these changs that
12:45
are kind of seasonings
12:47
that underpin a lot of
12:49
Korean cooking, and people call them condiments,
12:51
but they're more like bases for cooking, like a
12:53
sofritu or something. I sort of saw these sets
12:55
of ingredients. I was like, no one
12:57
just bought these five, six
13:00
items, then they could cook everything
13:02
in the book, you know, with pantry items.
13:04
And so I
13:06
was hoping to just like change people's mind about what
13:08
a pantry is and can be. It's like just so
13:11
personal to you. And I was really trying to channel
13:13
my mom when I did this book. And a lot
13:15
of those ingredients are now in my pantry, of course.
13:18
So you went back home to
13:20
write the book, and you were
13:22
in your mother's kitchen cooking with her,
13:25
observing. Does she like people in her
13:27
kitchen? Because not
13:29
everybody does. I feel
13:32
like you, I feel like
13:34
you, I'm laughing because I feel
13:36
like you know her so well. To me, the questions are
13:38
like pointed in a funny way because she
13:40
hates people in her kitchen. I somehow,
13:43
I somehow intuited that. I
13:46
love that you knew that. Yes, she, she
13:49
doesn't like people in her kitchen, but you know,
13:51
sometimes I don't either. Like when I'm cooking Thanksgiving
13:53
dinner, she's sort of my protector.
13:55
She's like, okay, Eric needs everyone out of
13:58
the kitchen. Like, stop crying to stuff. Like
14:00
we have to put out 10 dishes right
14:02
now. We run as a kitchen
14:04
duo pretty well. But
14:06
one of us is always taking lead. There's
14:08
never a moment where we're equal.
14:10
It's like the mark. There's always a
14:12
hierarchy. And is that negotiated? Or do
14:14
you just understand who's sitting
14:17
and who's lead? Oh,
14:19
I think it's honestly based
14:22
on feeling. Maybe we don't really discuss it,
14:24
but it's always clear who's leading and who's
14:26
not. Like who's dinner it is, who's dinner
14:28
it isn't. So I think we're just
14:31
like into it, maybe. Oh, that's
14:33
really pretty. Yeah. It's
14:39
really beautiful that you have this relationship with
14:41
your mom and that you can
14:44
cook together and that you can live peacefully
14:46
together during the pandemic when a lot of
14:48
us were thrown back into our
14:50
home spaces or locked down into
14:52
home spaces with people that we usually only
14:54
spent about six, eight, 10 hours a day
14:56
with. And then we were spending what felt
14:58
like 36 hours a day, even though there
15:00
were only 24 hours in a day. So
15:03
it's really wonderful that you have that
15:05
relationship, but we should note that your
15:07
relationship with your mother has been complicated.
15:11
Yeah, it has been. People gloss over
15:13
that part. Well, you don't. You
15:15
begin your cookbook. You just dive right in. I mean,
15:17
in the first chapter, I think it's in the first
15:19
sentence, I ran away from home. Yeah. You
15:22
know, I think it took living
15:25
with her again as an adult to
15:27
realize how much more nuanced our
15:29
relationship could be, how
15:31
it was gonna be different. Because
15:35
for a decade, I had just been coming
15:37
home for Christmas and Thanksgiving and just
15:39
like saying hi and bye and leaving. And that's
15:41
the joy of being a child, right? You get
15:44
to come home and just relax and not be
15:46
the adult anymore. But
15:48
writing this book with her, spending time with her,
15:50
just the day to day of it and like
15:53
seeing her wins or maybe she was
15:55
having a good day or a bad day. It's
15:57
really interesting being roommates with your mother as an
15:59
adult. And, you know, I had just
16:01
turned 30, I think, and I left
16:03
after nine months of working with her
16:06
on this cookbook, and I felt a
16:08
real shift. I was like, wow, our
16:10
relationship is different now because we've established
16:12
different kinds of rules and boundaries, and
16:15
I think that's lovely. It's constantly
16:17
evolving and something I'm in the process
16:19
with. Why was your
16:22
relationship with your mom so
16:24
complicated when you were a teenager? Oh,
16:27
wow. I
16:32
think the main
16:34
thing was that we
16:37
were so similar, maybe. I
16:39
don't know. I think that's a cop-out, but my
16:42
mother and I kind of occupied
16:45
a similar role in our family, and
16:47
I think it was the role
16:49
of people who communicate. My
16:51
brother would be hiding more of himself as
16:54
he grew up and gained confidence, and I
16:57
really told them everything I was thinking at all
16:59
times. So I was kind of a handful. Some
17:03
of that involved just maybe
17:05
rebelling a little bit. I think
17:07
I wasn't a bad kid, but I was
17:09
doing things that were a little different than
17:11
other kids. Like what? Something
17:14
as simple as in school, all of our
17:16
friends' kids were maybe going into science and
17:18
math or tech or something like that, but
17:20
her kid was this music, creative
17:22
writing guy in literature. But
17:25
every time I would present her with a
17:27
new thing, she'd be like, oh,
17:29
I didn't expect to have a son who would
17:31
want to become an English teacher or a musician
17:33
or something like that. I think with that, she
17:35
would try to learn the thing. She'd be like,
17:37
OK, I want to try to understand what your
17:40
dream is or what your thing is that you
17:42
like right now, because I had phases. In
17:45
the music phase, she was like, OK, if we're
17:47
doing this, we're doing it right. We're going to
17:49
get your voice lessons. We're going to get you
17:51
into Berkeley. She was always a very good height
17:53
man, I think. And so I
17:55
think the tension came from in
17:58
a much more superficial way in the kitchen. to
18:00
be honest, it was just disagreeing about how
18:02
to cook certain things. But I
18:04
think because we had such a strong foundation,
18:06
it was not that hard to like eventually
18:08
have some empathy in the kitchen towards
18:11
your mother and your son to just be,
18:13
just like listen to each other more. But we're both
18:15
very stubborn, so. That was
18:17
a really long answer. But I think that led
18:20
us back to the kitchen. When you
18:22
were a teenager, when she said, if you're
18:24
gonna do music, let's get you into Berkeley,
18:26
let's figure out how to get your voice lessons. Did
18:28
you feel in some ways that she was trying to control
18:30
the narrative for you? Oh
18:33
wow. Let you explore on your own and just figure
18:35
it out. Ooh,
18:37
that's interesting. My mom
18:39
wasn't a momager, she wasn't like a stage mom
18:42
or anything like that. Momager, I love that word.
18:45
Yeah, it's a big thing. But you know,
18:47
if my mom was a momager, it was
18:49
just that she learned how to drive better
18:51
so that she could drive like two hours
18:53
to, I don't know,
18:55
like Valdosta, Georgia for that flute audition
18:58
or state orchestra or something like random. She
19:01
always let me do the thing that I wanted to do.
19:04
She did her best to help it along. So
19:07
I look back on, I'm like, wow, that was really
19:09
lovely. She showed me a model of
19:12
how to find the thing that you're good
19:14
at that you're supposed to do. And I sort
19:16
of lived my life like that. And finding
19:18
food writing was really random, but maybe I wouldn't
19:21
have found it so easily if I didn't
19:23
have my mom. It's really
19:26
nice to have someone who's in your corner who
19:29
believes in you, who is
19:31
always telling you you can be what you wanna
19:33
be. Yeah, but who's also
19:35
really critical as well. I
19:37
had this cover story about Kimchi. You
19:40
know, it's a big win, I don't know, I
19:42
wanna say. Was this for the New
19:44
York Times? It was this huge picture
19:46
of Kimchi on the cover of the food section. And
19:48
I read this piece where I interviewed all these
19:50
Korean, really amazing Korean chefs.
19:52
And I haven't defend Georgia, so I picked
19:55
up a copy at Publix. I
19:57
like laid it out on the counter. I was like, I love Kimchi.
20:00
on the front page of the food section. I
20:02
think she was kind of like, oh, I feel like she
20:05
criticized the photo, mostly the way the
20:07
food looked. And
20:09
I was like, that's a weird thing to focus on.
20:11
I thought, I was trying
20:13
to share with her this nice moment in my
20:15
career where
20:18
I got to write about Kim Chi in a big way
20:20
for the New York Times. But when she's on my
20:22
face, that was kind of like, well, that's a weird thing
20:25
to focus on. She was like, well,
20:28
I'm not just anyone. It's
20:31
your work, so I thought you would want
20:33
my honesty because I have taste. And she
20:36
made a good point. I was like, you're right, you do have taste.
20:38
And so I don't know. It was one of those things where I
20:40
was like, it sounds like tough love,
20:42
but it's actually more just like she's, I
20:44
like her honesty. It was really helpful during recipe
20:46
development. She was just like, oh, that tastes terrible.
20:48
Or like, she wouldn't feed her in the bush.
20:51
So it's nice to have someone like that. She's
20:53
very honest. So many
20:56
of us have that, gosh, mom was right
20:58
moments. Like, yeah, absolutely. She
21:00
was actually right. I didn't want her
21:02
to be right. It's supposed
21:04
to be my thing. Yeah, I'm
21:06
starting to realize that now, luckily, like
21:09
sooner than later, but she's just, I
21:11
don't know, she's always right. Or
21:13
at least if she's saying something that I disagree with. Have you
21:15
told her that? She's always right? She probably
21:17
loved to hear that. You know, I think
21:20
she knows it. She doesn't need me to say it. So
21:22
yeah, I've definitely said those words to her in Korean. Yeah,
21:24
because we trust each other. In the book, it
21:27
begins with an introduction. And the
21:29
very first words in
21:31
the very first chapter are when
21:33
I was 17 years old, I ran
21:36
away from home. Okay,
21:39
I'm not gonna continue reading, but you're gonna have to
21:41
explain what happened. Why
21:43
did you run away from home? You went to Nashville. Why
21:45
did you run away and why did you go to Nashville?
21:47
You know, I ran away because
21:50
college acceptance letters had just come in. And
21:54
I went to a really competitive public
21:56
high school in Georgia and there was
21:58
so much pressure. But I
22:01
remember being so disappointed when I didn't get into
22:03
my dream schools and The
22:05
rejection letters were already torn open on my
22:08
mom's bed Like I walked in and I
22:10
didn't get to like feel that it's like
22:12
he opened the letters before you did Yeah,
22:14
all of my mother opened that she
22:17
opened all of my mail And
22:20
you know up until then I wasn't really getting that
22:22
much mail so like there wasn't a situation where she
22:25
saw that as a boundary crosser cuz I
22:27
was a kid and she was like I'm gonna open
22:30
the mail because it's gonna tell us whether he got into the
22:32
school that I'm gonna pay for you know and I Really
22:34
understand why she opened all that mail, but
22:37
we had to have a conversation about it after that I
22:39
was like well first I ran away because
22:41
I was so angry Well, I
22:43
was also just telling you that the sequencing of that was really
22:45
interesting. We had to have a conversation First
22:48
I ran away. I was so
22:51
young and so angry and I was
22:53
mostly projecting my anger because
22:56
Obviously, I was just mad at myself for not getting into
22:58
the schools that I wanted to get into and I was
23:01
disappointed and I just wanted
23:03
to go see my cousin in Nashville, which is
23:05
not around the corner from Atlanta How did you
23:07
get to Nashville? I just drove there. I took
23:09
the car You
23:12
took a car that did not
23:14
have your name No one pressed me
23:16
about this Everyone just lets the
23:18
story happen But
23:21
it was a really lovely trip. I think my
23:23
mom knew what had
23:25
happened. She liked to tell she just like
23:27
knew me So well, she was like oh Eric needs
23:29
to blow off steam Please
23:32
pretend to be mad at me and then he's
23:34
pretending She
23:38
How long did you stay away you went to go
23:40
visit your cousin in Nashville? She worked in
23:42
Nashville So over the weekend, it
23:45
was a very chill weekend But ultimately my mom did
23:47
reach out to my cousin Becky being like is he
23:49
okay and Becky was like, uh I don't know. I
23:51
talked about it. Let me check and
23:53
Becky played telephone and she's like, yeah, yeah, he's
23:55
fine He's just steam and
23:57
and when I came home, she was really nice So
24:00
what was it like, wait a minute, you leave
24:02
home, didn't tell anybody where you were going, come
24:04
home. What was the reentry like?
24:07
Oh God, I found so spoiled. The reentry
24:09
was my mom and I just had dinner
24:11
and she like had made food and she
24:14
was like, she asked me how
24:16
was it. And she just said, boy, where have you been? She
24:18
just asked me, how was your trip? Was
24:24
it dripping with sarcasm or was it? No, it
24:26
wasn't. I'm glad, I don't think, I'm glad you're
24:28
safe and I'm glad you're home. Yeah, I think she was
24:30
like, I'm glad you're home. It was very
24:32
unspoken, but yeah, I remember getting very
24:35
emotional. Like I just
24:37
hadn't done anything until that moment. I
24:39
was such a good kid. I
24:41
had a really good support network, a lot of
24:44
cousins around, a big brother. I
24:46
read an online review of this book just before coming
24:48
here because I was just like, how would
24:50
you have been thinking about this? I actually don't even know. And
24:53
one person had said, I loved
24:55
reading about a home that I was never a part
24:57
of, but I wish I was. Or something like that.
24:59
And I was like, whoa. I
25:01
mean, it puts into perspective and I recognize that
25:04
the upbringing I had was very charmed.
25:06
You know, it had its hardships, which
25:09
every family does. But when I
25:12
really think back on it, I'm like, wow, I was
25:14
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25:16
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I travel, I'm usually looking for a way
26:42
to find a taste of home when I'm
26:44
not at home. And one of the things
26:46
I love to do when I am at
26:48
home is entertain. I love to be able
26:50
to cook in a kitchen and have a
26:52
good meal with the people I care about
26:55
all around me. Airbnb allows me to do
26:57
that. When I was in California recently, I
27:00
rented a house that had a great kitchen
27:02
and a big island and we were able
27:04
to all get in and do our thing
27:06
together and sit down in the adjoining dining
27:08
room and have a long, loud
27:11
meal and then clean up afterwards and
27:13
continue the conversation. I love being
27:15
able to do that and Airbnb allowed
27:18
that to happen. And when we were sitting around the table,
27:20
we're all thinking, we're in someone else's
27:22
house. And that could be in
27:24
all of our homes as well. Hosting
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slash host. Well,
27:49
you know, we have to talk about QMT. Well,
27:52
in one reason that many
27:54
people in Korean households have additional
27:56
refrigerators is because of QMT. I
27:58
wonder if we should start with the refrigerators. And
28:02
notice that I said refrigerator plural. Oh
28:07
yeah that's really spot-on. My mom
28:09
has so many refrigerators
28:12
she has two regular sized
28:14
ones. One is in the basement and
28:16
it sort of holds all the more
28:18
esoteric pantry ingredients that she flies over
28:20
from Korea every year. So she
28:22
only goes down there when she really needs to
28:24
replenish her like garlic stock for instance and then
28:27
sort of like a little garden. The
28:29
upstairs fridge is our regular fridge that gets swapped
28:32
out with the weeknight dinners and some
28:34
banchan that we heat regularly. But then
28:36
she also has these two kimchi fridges
28:39
and they almost look like freezer
28:41
door coolers like kind of like you're
28:43
looking for ice cream at the grocery
28:45
store. Anyway they're like the big chests
28:48
that you kind of open up and you
28:50
open up yeah and then you sort of
28:52
look at it like treasure. It's pretty incredible
28:54
and she has all of her kimchis in
28:56
these fridges. One of them's like you know
28:58
in the awning towards the garage the other
29:00
one is in the garage.
29:03
That's like four fridges. Yeah she's like
29:05
four fridges. Are there any secret fridges
29:07
that she has that you don't even know about? Well
29:09
actually they have a secret
29:12
fridge in my dad's room. Oh he does! He
29:14
actually does have a secret fridge. I was a
29:16
girl but he actually does have a secret fridge.
29:18
You made me realize they have a secret fridge.
29:20
They have this like mini one that they use
29:23
for like their liquids. Like my dad apparently drinks
29:25
so much whole milk that he needs a whole
29:27
carton like in his bedroom next to his desk.
29:29
It's so funny and they keep like a
29:32
beer and like fruit and stuff like that in there. Now
29:34
you have to explain why she has so
29:36
many refrigerators. Each
29:38
one sort of has a roll in her
29:41
realm of cooking and it just meant that
29:43
her pantry has grown so much because she
29:45
uses the freezer as an extension of her
29:47
pantry which is really smart. And in the
29:49
book you say that kimchi is a verb.
29:52
Explain that. Yeah you
29:54
know in doing the translation of
29:56
Korean food for an English audience
29:58
or just from Korean and culture to
30:00
American culture. It's interesting to
30:03
see how you can borrow the language as
30:05
well. And you're right, kimchi is not a
30:07
verb in Korean, but it's something
30:09
that I hear Korean Americans saying all the time.
30:11
They're always like, oh, I'm gonna kimchi this, or
30:13
I kimchied that. And that's how
30:16
special it is. It's not like I'm gonna preserve this,
30:18
but the specificity of the kimchi is
30:20
so great that you need a new word for
30:22
it. And I love stuff like that. We're not
30:25
leaning into the verb of
30:27
kimchi enough, meaning turning
30:29
a vegetable into kimchi. It's a process
30:31
that's really specific, just the salting and
30:33
then the seasoning and then the fermenting.
30:36
But that end product, I've been making
30:38
kimchi, like kale kimchi, just because I
30:41
love tusking kale. And it's
30:43
so bitter and delicious, and it's really different,
30:45
and I kimchied that kale. That
30:48
sounds like you're bragging, I kimchi'd
30:50
that kale. You
30:52
should brag, it's so much, it's kind of a lot of
30:55
work. Can we talk
30:57
about the process of making kimchi? It
30:59
seems like it's really simple, but
31:02
it also sounds like if you mess up one
31:04
of those simple steps that it could go in
31:07
the wrong direction. So what are the basics of
31:09
making your mother jeans kimchi?
31:11
Yeah, I think simple is
31:14
a great word. I always try to remind people
31:16
that just because something takes long doesn't mean it's
31:18
not simple. And it's just sort
31:20
of a progression of little things you have to
31:22
do. So wait, what do you need to begin? You
31:26
need a big, like a vat, right?
31:28
You need a big vat. Plastic? Plastic
31:30
is great, metal is totally fine as
31:32
well. In this step, it's really
31:34
just getting the salt on the kimchi and... And
31:36
you cut a cabbage in half? You cut one
31:38
half a cabbage in half, yeah. And
31:41
you salt it. I like to use just
31:43
regular coarse, kosher salt. This is
31:45
the one part that you just need to follow
31:47
the recipe because you need the proportion to be
31:49
right. The proportion of salt to the cabbage.
31:52
And in the recipe, I
31:54
do give a very specific type of salt.
31:56
It's like Morton coarse, kosher salt. And
31:59
I developed this with it. And I
32:01
used a different kosher salt one time when
32:03
I was like, you know, doing a video
32:05
and that kimchi didn't taste as good.
32:07
It like didn't come out right. The
32:09
salting step is the baseline
32:12
that helps you create a safe environment
32:14
for the probiotic production. Like
32:16
you're growing bacteria, but like in
32:18
a safe environment so that it's
32:20
only like beneficial, like good bacteria.
32:22
So no improvisation there. No improvisation
32:24
there. You know, I
32:26
will weigh my vegetables just so I know
32:29
that I have the right proportion of like
32:31
salt to weight of a veg. And then
32:33
you're just creating a sauce. And
32:35
the sauce is really where you can be
32:37
creative, but jeans is this really like punchy.
32:39
It's like super savory, salty,
32:42
tangy from like a little fruit. She
32:44
also adds pine nuts sometimes, which are
32:46
really, really nice. Ginger. Some
32:49
kimchis don't have as much ginger, but you just do
32:51
what you like. And the sweetness in
32:54
here comes from mexichang, which is that green
32:56
plum syrup. And that plum syrup is a
32:58
little fruitier and porter. And
33:01
what's really lovely is the sauce also
33:03
gets whole vegetables. So most of the
33:05
sauce is like pureed, but you also
33:07
matchstick like some Korean radish and
33:10
scallion and whatever vegetables you want. Some people
33:12
do carrots. The more like whole
33:14
vegetable that's in the pureed, those
33:16
let out their natural water and sort of
33:18
thin out the sauce as it's pickling. That's
33:21
something that I kind of like realized. There's sort of
33:23
a formula in this second step of the sauce is
33:25
really where you can like have fun. Like
33:28
sometimes I'll swap out the radish with
33:30
beetroot, just like raw, peeled,
33:32
matchstick, beetroot. And it turns the
33:34
kimchi like purple or like pink.
33:36
It's really beautiful. So that's
33:39
the second step. And then you just sauce
33:41
the cabbage. You're sort of like smearing
33:43
the sauce in between each leaf. So
33:45
once you actually slather the
33:47
sauce all over the cabbage inside
33:50
the leaves, get it all
33:52
over every place. Then you put it
33:54
inside a jar with a very tight
33:57
seal. So it's like a plastic.
34:00
lid, not an airtight mason
34:02
jar lid, because there's going to be gas in
34:04
the jar that needs to get out. And
34:07
that's how people's like jars explode. I don't
34:09
want to scare you, but I've never had
34:11
a jar of kimchi explode on me. My
34:13
mom has never had it happen to her.
34:16
It's like a baby. You have to burp
34:18
it. You have to burp it. You
34:20
know, after the first two days and then every
34:22
like week, but this is something you'll do
34:24
inherently if you're eating it, like if you need to dip
34:27
into it. And then when you do it, you'll hear this
34:29
almost like a bottle of Sprite. It's like, that's how
34:31
you know it's like doing well. So
34:34
once you have the jars of kimchi and
34:36
you're checking on them and you're letting a
34:38
little air out and you're burping your baby,
34:41
give us an example of something that
34:43
you would make with the kimchi because
34:45
the cookbook includes so many options.
34:48
There's a kimchi sandwich and there's
34:50
kimchi stew and there's all kinds of things
34:52
that you can do with kimchi. What
34:55
in particular would you recommend? Yeah,
34:57
I really think people should just start
34:59
with kimchi jigae. It's a kimchi stew,
35:01
jigae means stew. And it's one
35:03
of those things that you make out of the
35:05
jar of kimchi that you forgot about for many, many
35:08
months. And then you find it in the back and
35:10
you open it. You're like, whoa, that's like rank. But
35:12
you know, it's going to taste incredible because the fermentation
35:15
has caused like all of the
35:17
savoriness to be just super deep
35:19
and wonderful. That kimchi is
35:22
a really good stew. And I love
35:24
this recipe because it's a
35:26
very hands off kind
35:28
of like pared down version of
35:30
my mom's kimchi jigae. Hers
35:33
is already pretty simple. Like she'll rely on the
35:35
kimchi juice to provide most of the flavor of
35:37
the dish. So the kimchi has to be good.
35:39
But I'm also very aware of
35:41
people who don't have, you know,
35:43
day old mom kimchi. So
35:46
I tested it with other things and
35:48
really just a little kochujang, just like
35:50
this amazing fermented chili paste, add some
35:53
savoriness and depth and
35:55
pork belly and a
35:57
little onion at the end. And the things
35:59
are added to the pot. very gradually and
36:02
sequentially so like they're added in the order
36:04
in which they need to be cooked which
36:06
means the pork starts first but each ingredient
36:08
builds a layer of kind of flavor in
36:10
the ultimate broth and it's a really different
36:12
method of cooking it's relying
36:15
on that like fast burbling kind
36:17
of liquid kind of heat versus
36:20
in a lot of Western cooking it's like searing it
36:22
first very hard and then adding the
36:24
liquid and then braising for a long time but
36:26
this takes like 10 or 15 minutes but those
36:28
15 minutes are really optimized that's why
36:30
I love this kimchi jigae and when you overcook
36:33
the kimchi jigae actually the taste the flavors will
36:35
be a little more muddled so
36:37
you want everything to have its
36:39
own distinct yeah flavor yes yeah
36:42
and so very bright version of kimchi jigae and
36:44
the reason I take this recipe or I like
36:46
this recipe a lot is because the photo is
36:49
a shot from behind my mother in this
36:51
amazing hanbok just having lunch for herself and
36:53
what's funny is like I mean it was
36:55
her lunch she was really hungry and I
36:57
mean her outfit is stylized but there's just
36:59
really cute watching
37:04
her be like I get to eat this
37:07
like this is such a fancy version of
37:09
my you know we're trying to mimic what
37:11
her lunch would look like anyway I love
37:13
that recipe and I love that dish and
37:16
I know people make it because it's a
37:18
really everyday kind of
37:20
dish it's truly like Wednesday night you can
37:22
throw that together it's so good just looks
37:24
like a you know a bowl
37:27
of white rice or as my mother is having it here
37:29
with some burdock root tea which actually is
37:31
something she would do by
37:33
the way mom has a very nice manicure in that picture
37:35
it looks like nails did that day she
37:37
probably did she's like attention to person
37:45
is there in your relationship with your
37:47
mom dance that
37:49
you carefully navigate
37:52
in realizing that as good a cook as
37:55
she is you might become just as
37:57
good a cook I
38:02
feel like my mom has already given me that
38:04
sort of torch. I don't want it
38:06
and I don't believe it because like I
38:08
think there are things that she makes that I can't
38:11
make yet. And so I always
38:13
believe that cooking is really just it's you know, sometimes it
38:15
is kind of a muscle that you get better at the
38:17
more you do it. But
38:19
taste and like flavor and
38:21
seasoning and ingenuity
38:24
like I think those things are kind of inherent
38:26
in the person. I've like
38:28
thought a lot about this. Can you learn to cook? And
38:30
I do think you can learn to cook but you can't
38:32
teach taste and my mom
38:35
has taste. I have love
38:37
talking to you about your mama's kitchen.
38:39
What is it about that space that
38:42
leaves an imprint on us? How
38:44
was the time that you spent as a
38:47
young person and then going back again on
38:49
this pilgrimage to write this cookbook? How is that
38:52
shaped you and the person that you've become? It's
38:55
a pretty question. I think this
38:57
interview made me sort of think back on how
39:00
it didn't even matter which house it was. All the
39:02
kitchens were kind of the same. They were laid out
39:04
the same because the person who was
39:06
leading the kitchen was the same woman, you know. So
39:09
my mother was the one putting always putting the sesame
39:11
oil in the bottom left, you know, cabinet. Like why
39:13
didn't we put it in the top? Like that's what
39:15
I do now as an adult in my kitchen but
39:18
everyone has their own rhythm. It's just interesting that all
39:20
the houses bleed into each other for me because it
39:22
was her domain, you know. And
39:26
it takes like coming out of your mother's
39:28
like kitchen domain to really figure out what
39:30
your own is because I think every individual
39:32
adult can have their own if they enjoy cooking, if
39:34
it's part of their life. I
39:38
have love talking to you. Thank you so
39:40
much. Thank you so much for having me. The
39:42
book is called Korean American Food That
39:44
Tastes Like Home. I've been talking to
39:47
Eric Kim. Eric, thanks so much. Thank you. I
39:56
don't know about you, but I'm going to try that kimchi
39:58
and I'm going to try burping that baby. We'll
40:00
see how that goes. Well, Eric's
40:03
story reveals something beautiful and how
40:05
relationships evolve over time, whether it's
40:07
a parent, a sibling, a friend,
40:09
or a coworker, maybe
40:12
someone you don't feel particularly close to,
40:14
someone who's gotten on your nerves. Well, that
40:17
relationship always has the potential to
40:19
evolve and to grow. Sometimes
40:22
we need to do something a little dramatic
40:24
to jumpstart that change. And I'm not advocating
40:26
for running away from home to visit a cousin
40:28
in the family car, but sometimes
40:31
distance can provide a clearer vision
40:33
and a clean slate. Eric
40:36
was fortunate to have a mom like
40:38
Jean who understood he needed to leave
40:40
so that he could also feel the
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need to come back home and to
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share everything he learned along the way
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over a good home cooked meal. If
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you are up for trying Eric's
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kimchi or kimchi jigae at home,
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that's the kimchi stew, you can
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find the recipe at our website,
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yourmamaskitchen.com. And we wanna hear
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about your experiences, so share your
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pictures, your kitchen tips, and
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your interpretations of this delicious
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Korean American food. Thanks
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so much for listening to your mom's kitchen. I'm
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Michelle Norris, see you soon.
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Bye. Oh. Oh.
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Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh.
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Oh. Oh. Oh.
41:20
Oh. This has been a
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Higher Ground, an Audible Original produced
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by Higher Ground Studios. Senior producer
41:27
Natalie Wren, producer Sonia Tan. Additional
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production support by Misha Jones. Sound
41:31
design and engineering from Andrew Eapon
41:34
and Ryan Kozlowski. Higher
41:36
Ground audio's editorial assistant is
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Camilla Ferdicus. Executive producers for
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Higher Ground are Nick White, Mook
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to Mohan, Dan Fearman, and me,
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Michelle Norris. Executive producers for
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Audible are Nick D'Angelo and
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Ann Hepperman. The show's closing song
41:51
is 504 by the Soul Rebels.
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Editorial and web support from Melissa Bear
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and Say What Media. Talent
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Booker, Angela Peluso. Chief content. officer,
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Richard Giazza, and that's it.
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Good bye, everybody. Copyright 2024
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by Higher Ground Audio, LLC.
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Sound recording copyright 2024 by
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Higher Ground Audio, LLC. Sound
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recording copyright 2021
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by Higher Ground Audio, LLC.
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