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and about it is not as and
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is line so there is days where
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I am not happy healthy and that's
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of get paid as real that it's
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so hard like Zelig when you write
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a butcher so challenge with the the
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best accountability ever buy your own message
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it's like okay I set it up
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put. It out there Now I gotta live
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it. But there's so much grace in that suit
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and know that hey I'm saying as an as
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not because I'm perfect. It is. It is that
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I'm trying to become that this is who I
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am in crisis is who I am, their friends,
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their god given me the streets to be but
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and who I even one of the that maybe
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not where I'm at every day. So grace for
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that journey. Absolutely always
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like the whole goal of the book
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when says letting people know we're not
3:04
perfect, we all struggle but here have
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the tools to help you overcome. And
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fight the good fi and here's impractical biblical
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things you can apply to day the as
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a hobby because trust me I know this
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life is not easy. We all know by
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now and so if I could help in
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any shape or form that was really my
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goals. Gray at what you did a great
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job fantastic job on writing of a huge
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congratulations see and and to say it's so
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fun whenever I know the guess around the
3:31
Pie Castillo that more like and realize and
3:33
we don't know to their super well but
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one thing I know about you is that
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you can break. It down on the dance
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floor. Of
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ah ah. Ah
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ah, the real. As big as
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you're at her Ls answer and acid
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or treats and we're like this and
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forty and evidence like he and you
3:53
know they were like girls. There was
3:55
a standalone bar then and then in
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mean gets in the middle. I see
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that was me. yeah, alias So at
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this. I'm like so embarrassed.
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but also honor that you brought that up
4:06
because I remember being there and be like
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oh my gosh I don't things as to
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do this a guy think I stand out
4:12
like a fish out owner I should not
4:14
be doing as in that he was like
4:16
j who yourself sound like you're literally at
4:18
a camp for treats. I had to like
4:21
bring it back down but that is hilarious.
4:23
I love to dance so I think we've
4:25
learned a new fun fact about me sooner.
4:27
It was absolutely ebay and new we're supposed
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to be doing that. The only reason other
4:31
people weren't doing it is because. They can't
4:33
do that. They were you his life and
4:35
I remember the last. Let the world's adding
4:38
that he was like yeah she was a
4:40
cheerleader and Matty was lights and and calm
4:42
down there there's no calmly doubt it was
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awesome says ah anyway as I wish one
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day everyone listening can be in a dancer
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go ads in A and on Which by
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the way because he just got married not
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to lie ago a how is the dance
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party at your wedding. Oh. My gosh,
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I. Was like one of those moments I wish
5:00
I could relive over and over and over. On
5:02
the first felt that way about your wedding. But
5:04
he was size the insider night here.
5:06
I mean people literally were coming up
5:08
with after a wedding and they're like
5:10
we'd never experience at the and for
5:12
like that before and I'm like. Release.
5:15
Like even my mom, she got a
5:17
Sage. She was dancing like a go
5:19
go dancer on the stage either driver,
5:21
office A to the mom. Calm
5:23
down low, I think that's probably where I
5:25
got it from a lot. So agile as
5:27
is is so funny and we were the
5:29
same way our wedding and it says i
5:31
am biggest prison I were actually does on
5:34
a date the other night and now we
5:36
the mail with Siberia Too good but still
5:38
in the car on a date night as
5:40
song came on that we both remember dancing
5:42
to add their as as and and were
5:44
like oh like it. Very easy ride back
5:46
as if is so special so I love
5:48
that again. Before we get too carried away
5:50
with talking about Dnc I have to ask
5:52
you the question. I. ask everyone who comes on
5:54
the would as the of high gas i hope
5:56
your prep for it spreads any what is the
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best season as i see that been given. Oh
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Sadie okay so I watched the podcast and
6:04
I was like I knew this question was
6:07
coming I've tried to prepare myself it
6:09
took me a couple of hours to really
6:11
really sit and think and the one memory
6:14
that was unlocked was honestly with my dad
6:16
and so my dad is probably one of
6:18
the hardest working men that I know he
6:21
still works for this day it's almost 75
6:23
and I remember just watching
6:27
him do that growing up and I'd always wonder
6:29
like how does my dad do what he does
6:32
and the one piece of advice he
6:34
always told us growing up was whatever
6:36
you do work really hard for the
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Lord and do it with full integrity
6:40
and my six older
6:43
siblings and I we carried that through
6:45
all of life anything we did we're
6:47
gonna do with full integrity you were
6:49
gonna be honest about how many hours
6:52
you worked you weren't gonna steal you
6:54
weren't gonna show up late you weren't
6:56
gonna make excuses so I really carried
6:58
that in my business even today of
7:01
if something feels morally wrong if something
7:03
feels just wrong in my spirit or if
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God is asking me don't do that that's
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gonna get you in trouble it's truly protected
7:09
me from so many mistakes and so I'm
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really thankful that my dad gave me that
7:14
message because it has really protected my business
7:16
my life and so many other aspects of
7:18
my life and so I really encourage everyone
7:20
to take that to heart I love that
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I love that so much and I thank
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you for actually thinking about the question and
7:27
it's so funny you can tell the people
7:29
who were prepared and those who weren't like
7:31
I've had people in the fight castor I say the
7:33
question they go oh my gosh
7:35
certainly how am I gonna think of this real
7:38
fast so I love that you thought about it
7:40
and it's such a good piece of advice and
7:42
honestly I love it you said that about like
7:44
if it feels morally wrong don't do it and
7:47
it's so crazy because you would think that that
7:49
would be almost common sense for
7:51
people you would think you know but that
7:53
it's so not I think so often in
7:55
industries and in business things and
7:57
even ministry sadly There can.
8:00
The sometimes a way that everyone does things
8:02
and then people get so used to the
8:04
fact that that's just the way everyone does
8:06
things and it's okay because everyone does it
8:08
but as I see no okay you know
8:10
and as I think one thing that's really
8:13
helped me a lot to is Canada same
8:15
advice at your parents use similar by set
8:17
my parents gave me and I think even
8:19
just living where I live we live in
8:21
such a like removed place from an industrial
8:24
here for a remove blaze through the way
8:26
that everyone does it and as the like
8:28
had just been able to go about. It
8:30
and obscure way that sells authentic and I
8:32
think that there is this lie that you
8:35
have to overcome that the enemy says oh
8:37
boy if you do it that way than
8:39
it's not gonna be a successful or it's
8:41
not gonna be as big or it's not
8:44
gonna have it's whatever. But man is the
8:46
total opposite. You know if you do it
8:48
with integrity and pure heart like truth stance
8:50
truth last when you do things and an
8:53
honorable way the longevity of something is is
8:55
just so much more beautiful and my it
8:57
might take all that more time to grow.
9:00
But now when it does girl, you have something
9:02
solid that you bill and so I love that
9:04
you shared by and you know. I
9:06
mentioned as I we try to prepare very
9:08
well for any only how the pie. guess
9:10
I know that more about your story the
9:13
maybe I said because you have a shared
9:15
it with the last. I do know that
9:17
both your parents were from different countries so
9:19
speaker whatever about just your upbringing and how
9:21
you feel like maybe your parents background brought
9:24
your dad to even give you that It
9:26
was. Yeah. Oh my
9:28
gosh such a great question. So he
9:30
I'm actually one of seven kids I'm
9:32
first sin American and so my dad
9:35
is born and raised Germany my mom
9:37
is from Guatemala the and they have
9:39
i like one of the cause stories
9:41
and I hope to shirt one day
9:44
as they're just like the coolest flash
9:46
weird of people as her of them
9:48
but they're so not american that it's
9:51
hilarious. But they
9:53
they mess and got married after six
9:55
months of meeting. Which are you. know
9:57
usually don't recommend by has So,
10:00
um, worked in their relationship. It's
10:02
really true why their relationship has
10:04
worked and lasted. They've almost been
10:07
married for 45 years. Wow. Um,
10:09
and so they raised this in
10:11
Dallas. So I'm from Dallas now
10:13
and I was homeschooled. So I
10:15
grew up extremely, extremely sheltered and
10:17
I would say with a very
10:19
strong lack of identity. And it's
10:22
not just like the classic like, Oh,
10:24
who am I? It was truly wondering
10:26
even which culture do
10:28
I belong in? Like am I
10:30
American? Am I Guatemalan? Am I German?
10:33
I didn't really know which bucket
10:35
I fit in. And I think that
10:37
even caused more confusion all
10:39
growing up because I didn't really feel
10:41
like I fit anywhere. I wasn't
10:43
American enough to hang out with my American
10:46
friends and then I wasn't German enough to
10:48
be, I didn't look German and I didn't
10:50
speak German and then I didn't also speak
10:52
fully fluent Spanish, but I looked Spanish. And
10:54
so it was just a ton of kind
10:57
of confusion around that and
10:59
you know, certain racial slurs that were
11:01
said to me growing up. And so
11:04
it honestly caused me to get
11:06
this massive disdain for
11:08
myself where I was like,
11:10
God, why did you make me like this? Like
11:12
people don't accept me. I'm always the outcast. I'm
11:14
the girl that's left out. I don't
11:17
look like my peers in my neighborhood and my
11:19
church and my school. And
11:21
so it really made me change myself
11:23
to do whatever I needed
11:25
to do to fit in. And so
11:28
that looks like dye my hair differently
11:30
wearing color contacts, disliking
11:32
my tan, beautiful skin that God
11:34
gave me. I mean, really changing
11:36
almost every facet of myself. I didn't
11:38
even like, you know, having an
11:40
accent because I had like a minor one growing
11:43
up. We would say certain words differently. And I
11:45
remember my friends being like, why are you talking
11:47
like that? Or they'd be like, that's not how
11:49
you pronounce that word. And I'd be like, yes,
11:51
it is. And so I
11:53
was like, oh my gosh, I need to adapt
11:55
as quickly as possible to fit in with my
11:57
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yourself today. The
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older that I got, the more I realized that
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God never called me to fit in. He called
14:06
me to be set apart. But
14:08
I just wanted to do everything to fit
14:11
in. And so that truly carried
14:13
me throughout most of my life. I got
14:15
into high school, that just
14:17
bred in security all there. And
14:19
then into college, I would say
14:21
is when it absolutely
14:23
spiraled in probably to one of the
14:25
worst seasons of my life. I
14:28
ended up transferring to University of Texas.
14:30
And while I am a diehard Longhorn,
14:32
hook'em horns, I love it so much.
14:36
You know, you add in money and sororities
14:39
and degrees and all these labels that people
14:41
place on you of, oh, what degree are
14:43
you in? OK, if you're a comm major,
14:45
they look down upon you. If you're a
14:47
business major, they see you in a certain
14:50
way. If you have certain Greek letters on
14:52
your shirt, they immediately label you as something.
14:54
And I wasn't the girl that was in
14:56
a sorority. I wasn't in a certain financial
14:59
status. Like I went on on loans
15:02
like I couldn't even afford college. And so I
15:04
just remember being like looking in
15:06
the mirror one day and saying, God, why
15:09
did you make me like this? Like, why
15:11
am I the way that I am? Just
15:13
so angry at God. And it made
15:16
me run away from the Lord. It made
15:18
me run away from everything about him. Even
15:20
my own siblings, my two sisters went to
15:22
UT with me. And it
15:24
just caused me to be like, I'm going to do whatever it
15:26
takes to fit in. And so that
15:28
looked like trying to join a sorority and
15:31
still not fitting in, joining the cheer team
15:33
and forming to whatever they told me to
15:35
do that was going out every single weekend.
15:37
And that was drinking and that was boys
15:39
and just trying to find identity and worth
15:42
in all of that. And then
15:44
to be the cherry on top of that, I was
15:46
doing social media at the time. And so I Was
15:49
doing YouTube at this moment. And So
15:51
then my channel began to take off
15:53
my junior and senior year of college.
15:55
So Now you're adding in followers, you're
15:57
adding in fame, you're adding opportunities and
15:59
finances. And it was pretty
16:01
much a recipe for does admirer of
16:04
you could say the ass. On and
16:06
then my senior year of college when
16:08
I think I was at my utmost
16:10
rock bottom of low self esteem, low
16:13
self worth and been extremely isolated, I
16:15
made very poor decisions with an ex
16:17
relationships that lead to one of the
16:20
worst heartbreaks of my life and a
16:22
very toxic relationship that my fam ended
16:24
up having to basically rescue me from
16:26
being like this is not guys best
16:29
for you. So and miss
16:31
all of that, I ended up
16:33
finally been like. I need
16:35
to hide like I need something
16:37
because clearly what I'm doing it
16:40
is it's not working. And.
16:42
You to change something about this. And
16:44
so when I moved to California that
16:46
was my attempt to escape. Basically I
16:48
thought if I states as ugly as
16:50
I just got a book a plane
16:52
ticket move away that a solve my
16:54
problem is if I'm up at the
16:56
beach and unfortunately here to tell you
16:59
that your problems will follow you because
17:01
they're still you know, a part of
17:03
your past and something of a shield
17:05
from. And so they did carry me
17:07
there and was until I hit that
17:09
rock bottom of finally reaching out to
17:11
a mentor. At my church and
17:13
we can get into the Slater.
17:16
but see she finally just called
17:18
me out. you like you are
17:20
a hypocrite Wow in a was
17:22
like it and tell me about
17:25
it. It was. A bold
17:27
same his as it hurts. I've never
17:29
been much okay like you to the
17:31
audacity to say that like you don't
17:33
know me and I mean it's just
17:35
such a core because it was true
17:38
and she spoke the truth in love
17:40
and it was exactly what I needed
17:42
to hear that day. And that phrase
17:44
that God gave her was the start
17:46
of a fresh new beginning with the
17:49
lord and myself In it was a
17:51
moment I will never forget upon some
17:53
there and lead to you know say
17:55
whatever eyes again. Years Suri already is
17:57
As as so many things I wanna say.
18:00
And I already love where this conversation is
18:02
going so much in Just thank you for
18:04
be so honest about different parts of your
18:07
story from the get go. Ours is so
18:09
enter same be guys. whenever.
18:11
I had changed my life.
18:14
I love Say! Started.
18:16
To change my life and no
18:18
one said that to me. but
18:20
that's what I knew was true.
18:23
Like I remember feeling like I
18:25
am a hypocrite and I hated
18:27
that about myself. You know Al
18:29
is like A and actually someone
18:31
so inclined to said it's someone
18:33
lovingly texted me actually and she
18:35
was like hey I don't think
18:37
the way represent yourself on social
18:39
media is probably the way that
18:42
you want to be portrayed as
18:44
a just gonna hit me like
18:46
you're. Right? I actually like what I'm saying
18:48
a while and when I'm sharing and where
18:50
and what I'm presenting that are why is
18:52
not the same thing and it's not actually
18:55
going to get me to what at once
18:57
And so I think like when she said
18:59
that it was almost like oh someone else
19:01
sees it to like someone else sees his
19:03
internal wrestle am having that. I feel like
19:05
I'm a hypocrite and I'm actually actually am
19:08
like I'm posting things that does not really
19:10
represent what I've said that I I care
19:12
about and desire and value and so is
19:14
So interesting Man, the truth. It. Hurts
19:16
the it's the best saying that you can do
19:19
for so it's the greatest gifts he can give
19:21
some. one person has a similar moment in history
19:23
where. It is like know and
19:25
like preach Sam and that's what made his
19:27
life changed So and caught a mouse, saw
19:29
an ad hoc ml on the fact that
19:31
he said that he was gonna be a
19:33
dry planes and he was little literally like
19:36
shotgun in beers on a balcony and so
19:38
am I Bought a little was left or
19:40
that you didn't read and wasn't even trying
19:42
to be like preachy about it, wasn't even
19:44
trying to like. I don't even know if
19:46
he really meant to calm and the whether
19:48
he did they christened my realize that moment
19:50
I'm being hypocrites and those someone like it
19:52
the power of calling someone our. power of
19:55
like being able to receive it when they
19:57
do as such a licensing moment as let
19:59
started person's life That's what started my life
20:01
changing to start at yours. And so friend,
20:03
if today you need to look yourself in
20:05
the mirror and come to terms with the
20:07
honest grittiness of your life, um, now's the
20:09
best time to do that. Don't wait for
20:11
someone to say it to you. If you
20:13
let this be your confirmation to what maybe
20:15
you're feeling, but, um, I love that you've
20:17
already went there. What I, what I thought
20:19
was so fascinating in your story is that
20:21
when you started to say that your social
20:23
media is taking off, you are having all
20:25
these followers, a hint of fame and all
20:27
of this different stuff. You said it's a
20:30
recipe for disaster. Now this is so
20:32
interesting because you're in college, you're partying
20:34
it up. You're having to get a
20:36
good quote unquote time drinking, baking friends,
20:38
joining sorority, hitting fame, your YouTube's all
20:41
of a sudden becoming successful and yet
20:43
it's a recipe for disaster where a
20:45
lot of people would say, that's not
20:47
a disaster. That's what I, that's what
20:49
I'm hoping for. You know, that's what
20:52
I, that's what I'm going for. Speak
20:55
into that a little bit. Um, were you,
20:57
and you can be completely honest, if you
20:59
were, were you ever happy
21:01
in that setting or did you
21:03
always like deep down know this
21:05
isn't really it? I
21:09
would definitely say there were moments of
21:11
happiness because it was, you know,
21:13
me chasing my dreams, accomplishing things I'd always
21:15
dreamt of as a kid, but
21:18
it's just like everything else it ran out. Yeah.
21:20
And so I get the next, you know, a
21:22
thousand or 500,000 views, right? I
21:24
get the next brand deal, the next opportunity,
21:26
the next magazine, whatever commercial,
21:28
and I'd be like, this is so exciting.
21:31
And then the high dies down and then
21:33
you're right back where you started. And
21:35
then you're like, well now what? And
21:38
so just like everything else, it doesn't
21:40
fully satisfy. You're always looking
21:42
for more. You're always looking for the next
21:44
thing, the next high, the next new thing
21:47
to try to fulfill. And
21:49
that's exactly what I found. I mean, throughout
21:51
this whole career, I'm very thankful for all
21:53
the opportunities I've gotten. I really, really am.
21:56
But if I look back And I'm
21:58
like, what, what was it all? For is
22:00
all along on the outside looking in
22:02
everyone's like wow she is a living
22:05
her best slice and then the whole
22:07
time I was actually creating a life
22:09
of regret. Yeah tires online I was
22:11
portraying and I'm traveling. I'm having so
22:14
much fine but behind the scenes and
22:16
when the cameras were off I was
22:18
making bad choices. I was making poor
22:20
decisions that I would wake up the
22:23
next day and be like why were
22:25
you thinking why of what got into
22:27
you and all along the lord so
22:29
graciously. Was just that gentle time. You know the
22:32
one who does. he can get rid of his
22:34
that gentle little nudge where he's like hey, come
22:36
back to need come back to me to back
22:38
to me out by Sadly no I'm not really.
22:40
I'm not ready. I'm not ready yet and I
22:42
think that is my it. One. Of
22:44
my regrets in line for something
22:46
that I'd actually just recommend to
22:48
people listening is a don't wait
22:50
for tomorrow to start over Don't
22:52
wait So you're ready to start
22:54
Now is there's no better time
22:56
than see. Get right with God
22:58
Now don't waste the waiting. Don't
23:00
waste the time because each day
23:02
to be that one new step
23:04
further of gaining that intimacy. Knowing
23:06
Jesus more building your confidence in
23:08
him. I waited until I saw
23:10
ready and they're barely was an
23:12
ever the right time. To be Ready
23:15
And so I think God is new He's
23:17
like she'd never going to choose their So
23:19
I made a habit of matter across the
23:21
face with somebody to tell the honest truth.
23:23
But I do think at that point I
23:25
had gotten so in that rock bottom where
23:28
I was like i'm I'm ready like the
23:30
soils ready for her to speak the truth
23:32
or love and for me to actually receive
23:34
it a didn't actually implemented. As you know
23:36
there's a difference between hearing something and just
23:38
going in. One year at the Utters had
23:41
other for you're not ready to hear he
23:43
hadn't actually implement its. I was actually
23:45
ready to implement it. There are sick
23:47
of him, ready to make a change.
23:49
I'm ready to quit his double life
23:51
because. Living. a double life
23:53
is quite exhausting you never fully get the
23:55
benefits of either one is you're doing city
23:57
present here city present they're like, you might
23:59
as well go all in with one. And
24:02
I hope it's Jesus because that's truly the
24:04
only thing that's gonna fully satisfy at the
24:06
end of the day. And
24:08
so that's, yeah, what I would probably say. That's so
24:10
good. My mom actually says that to us all the
24:12
time. She said that to us, especially when we were
24:15
young, whenever our family was starting to rise a little
24:17
bit to fame with our TV show. And she would
24:19
say, hey, pick away and go 100%, either
24:21
100% in with Jesus or 100% in with the world if
24:25
that's the direction you're gonna go. Because to
24:27
try to play the middle ground, especially
24:30
with fame, because when you have a large
24:33
following, I think so many people, especially on
24:35
social media these days, it's like, oh, well,
24:37
I don't wanna be too Christian because then
24:39
I'll lose the followers who don't like that.
24:41
And then I don't wanna be too worldly
24:44
because then I'll lose the Christian eyes. And
24:46
you wanna play this middle man. And my
24:48
mom was like, you're never gonna make everyone
24:50
happy. You're not doing it for
24:52
man. If you're living for God, live for God. And
24:55
don't be ashamed of that. And
24:57
I think that's helped me so much
24:59
be as bold as I am because
25:01
I'm 100% in. And
25:04
my platform isn't to gain more of
25:07
a following through
25:10
people liking necessarily what I'm saying or my
25:12
stance. It's not even about that. It's just,
25:15
I love God and I love people. And
25:17
so while I love people, it's gonna be
25:19
from my love from God. And so that's
25:21
just gonna come as an overflow moment. And
25:23
so it's so cool to see you being
25:26
so bold, but I know you
25:28
can't muster up boldness. It comes
25:30
from a true relationship that you have.
25:32
And I think it's really cool. I
25:34
think it's super honorable what you've done with your life. And
25:37
I know people have mixed feelings about
25:39
the Enneagram, but one thing I feel
25:41
is very cool about the Enneagram is
25:43
that it shows you that in these
25:45
numbers, whatever you feel
25:48
you identify as this number, you
25:50
can have a healthy version of that number
25:52
or you could have a very unhealthy version
25:54
of that number. So you can be a
25:56
six and you can be a very healthy
25:58
six different than an
26:01
unhealthy six and it looks completely different in
26:03
your own life whatever side you swing and
26:05
I think it's a good representation of
26:07
most everything in life that there is
26:10
a way to do things healthy and
26:12
there is a way to do things
26:14
unhealthy and I think that
26:16
fame is a good example of fame
26:19
is not bad fame is fame is not bad
26:21
I love mr. Rogers says it fame is a
26:23
four-letter word like tape or zoom or face or
26:26
pain it ultimately matters what you do with it
26:28
I love that you can do it well
26:30
you can do it beautifully you can
26:32
steward it well it can be a
26:34
huge asset and a huge blessing but
26:36
you can also use it to destroy
26:39
you and others you can also do it
26:41
so toxically and so I what
26:44
I love is that you're still
26:46
doing YouTube you're still doing the
26:48
the fame thing but in a
26:51
completely different way and so in
26:54
like you know continuing to do YouTube did
26:56
you ever take a break in that shift
26:58
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talk about this because it was exactly what you were
28:54
saying, the whole fame aspect of like, God
28:58
blessing your platform or God using
29:00
you. And I remember
29:02
during the pandemic is
29:04
when I hit such a low
29:07
because I remember chasing followers so
29:09
badly. I remember losing thousands
29:11
of followers. And I was like, what's wrong with
29:14
me? No one likes me. They're
29:16
canceling me. I'm not likable anymore. And
29:19
it took such a toll
29:21
on my identity. And
29:23
I think also I was
29:25
putting so much emphasis on that.
29:28
And I was chasing the wrong thing.
29:30
I was trying to find fulfillment in
29:32
that. And I was also doing
29:34
it for the wrong motive. I think anytime you
29:36
do anything for the wrong motive,
29:38
God exposes it and you're also going
29:41
to not be fully satisfied. It
29:43
was until I finally took a step back
29:46
and I was like, I've got to focus
29:48
on me. I have got
29:50
to know God for myself. I remember
29:52
taking several breaks of social media during
29:55
that time. I lived alone. I would
29:57
spend hours just soaking up God's word.
30:00
first time that I had fully
30:02
read the Bible. And so out of
30:04
that love and knowledge of God, that's
30:06
where I began to share on my
30:08
platform again, you know, I began to share scripture
30:11
and teach it, but I had to first get
30:13
right with God. I didn't want to share it
30:15
out of a means to be like, I'm
30:18
going to use this to get followers and
30:20
fame. Right. I shared it out of an
30:22
abundance of I need everybody to know how
30:24
good this is. You are missing out. And
30:27
so I think when you say that God
30:29
can bless you and bless your platform or
30:31
bless whatever, but I think
30:33
it has to come from a pure
30:36
place first. And for me, it wasn't
30:38
originally and it is now. And I
30:40
think having those moments offline, the secret
30:43
place, the quiet time with God in
30:46
this public platform, or honestly, any job that you're
30:48
doing, it's not just about social media or
30:50
fame or whatever is so
30:52
crucial. And I talk about this in
30:54
chapter three of my book, because that
30:56
quiet place, that God solitude with the
30:59
Lord is what prepared me
31:01
for those public moments, prepared me
31:03
for platforms for stages, because let
31:06
me tell you, and I'm sure you know, the
31:08
Sadie, you get up there and there's all these
31:10
alluring things and people telling you do this, act
31:12
this way. Do you want this opportunity? And it
31:14
is so easy to compromise or to say, you
31:16
know, maybe I should do it. But those
31:19
private moments with the Lord, when I got
31:21
offline, I said, God, who am I? My
31:23
identity is not my social media. It's not
31:25
my followers. It's not my likes. It's not
31:28
numbers. It is simply I am a child
31:30
of God. I'm a daughter of the King. That
31:32
first and foremost is important. And
31:34
then everything flows from there. And
31:37
so Godly solitude versus like
31:40
worldly isolation, huge, huge difference.
31:42
And one draws you closer to God and
31:44
one pulls you away. Preach. That's so good.
31:46
That's so good. I had a very similar
31:48
experience when it was actually three months before
31:50
I preached my very first sermon and I
31:52
could not have known what God was going
31:54
to do around the corner. But
31:57
I Got asked to seek and at
31:59
this. The region like see Louis degree
32:01
of first Sam I really taught to Louis
32:03
and he saw me at a winner jammed
32:05
They have a zoo and a ten minute
32:08
said like encourage that during winter jail other
32:10
move in the sage behind me This is
32:12
a four hour everly spoken to church and
32:14
is an easy can speak at passing college
32:16
night we have these like weekly college nice
32:18
and easy com and I'll his leg of
32:20
i've never priests who for i big I
32:23
don't know you understand why I don't even
32:25
know how to do that is a know
32:27
you see com like you have voice said
32:29
Gingers nice. To hear be really powerful and
32:31
I'm like okay okay yes because I can't
32:34
say know that, what in the world So
32:36
from the time he asked me that was
32:38
around like March and I had until the
32:40
end of May. And I
32:42
knew I needed to do like a lot
32:45
of work in my heart before I can
32:47
prepare for something like that. So I took
32:49
a couple months. our social media at believes
32:51
there's a media as it is. actually it
32:53
may be Cedric his armor having a few
32:56
more months and just sat and I'd take
32:58
all the time social media and I read
33:00
the book Anonymous which is an incredible bug
33:02
as highly recommend to anyone who hasn't read
33:05
that book. And anyways in the book it
33:07
was talking about that solitude and is being
33:09
with God and before you do anything for
33:11
him being. With us and we saw
33:14
he about when Jesus was baptized
33:16
and you know Jesus and God
33:18
speaks you know that descends and
33:20
words beside this is my son
33:22
whom I love and who will
33:24
please and I just love that
33:26
says he said that over him
33:28
that he loves them, they sleep
33:30
or him before Jesus went and
33:32
did anything and ministry publicly and
33:34
it was really emphasizing like you
33:36
have to know that you love
33:38
God and God loves you privately
33:40
before you go do things. publicly
33:43
tell him but a little god and then
33:45
how jesus repeat that same thing with peter
33:47
and john twenty one after you know jesus
33:49
comes back and they're having breakfast and seizes
33:52
as peter de la me he says yes
33:54
these has see my seat do love me
33:56
yes lord female as and visa three and
33:58
deal on the computer frustrated, you know I
34:00
love you." And then he says, okay, well, because you're
34:03
about to go do all these things for me, but
34:05
before we do any of that, and of course I'm
34:07
paraphrasing, we're establishing that we're in
34:09
relationship that you love me. And
34:12
I just remember reading that at such a crucial time
34:14
in my life and reading stories
34:16
like that and being like, okay,
34:18
before I go into like ministry
34:20
and whatever ministry looks like, like
34:23
the first and foremost fundamental thing is
34:25
that do I love God and do
34:27
I know that God loves me? And
34:30
then knowing more the love of God, that's
34:32
when it becomes that pure place and you're
34:34
right, you're not doing it to gain, you're
34:36
doing it from overflow. And then if you
34:38
lose followers, you lose followers. It's not the
34:40
goal. That's not the job. The job is
34:43
to love people and love them well. And
34:45
so it's so cool. My story is really
34:47
similar and I've found so much freedom in
34:49
that. I want to talk a
34:51
little bit more about some things in your book
34:53
that are really specific and I think really powerful,
34:55
especially to our listeners who definitely are in that
34:58
stage where I think 20s, I mean, we have
35:00
listeners of all ages, so I just want to
35:02
shout out every one of all ages, but I
35:04
want to speak specifically a little bit to the
35:07
20s right now, because I think the 20s are
35:09
such an interesting time where you can be 25
35:11
and your life looks absolutely completely different to the
35:13
other 25 year old, you know, you
35:16
can be 21 and the same thing is true. In
35:18
their 20s, some people are in college, some people are
35:20
moving for the first time, finding their first
35:22
job, some people are married, some people have
35:24
kids, all the things. And you talk about
35:26
in your book, like, how to, I guess,
35:29
stay in a place of contentment when your
35:31
friends are maybe a little bit further along
35:33
than you are that you wish you were
35:35
at. Can you speak a little bit to
35:37
that struggle? Yeah, oh
35:39
my gosh, it's such a real struggle.
35:41
I think that is one of
35:44
the worst or maybe not the worst, but
35:46
the biggest struggle that most young adults have
35:48
is comparison of wondering why do I not
35:50
have what she has or why am I
35:52
not where she is or why did she
35:55
get married before me or why doesn't
35:57
my body look like that or I thought I would
35:59
be successful. or have more followers at
36:01
this point in my life. And this was
36:03
such a struggle for me. I remember being
36:05
28 and a half, and
36:08
I had just gone through a year long
36:10
relationship that had ended. Meanwhile, my
36:12
best friend, her boyfriend at the time,
36:14
this was Grant, actually Grant comes to
36:16
me, and he's like, hey Jay,
36:18
I just wanna let you know I'm not to propose
36:20
to Maddie. And I'm like, oh, and I
36:23
just got dumped. And
36:25
it was the hardest time of my life. And
36:27
I had to really dig deep
36:29
into my heart and my soul and say, are
36:31
you gonna be the friend that you're looking for?
36:34
Are you gonna be a good friend that's gonna
36:36
champion Maddie? And also I had two other friends
36:38
getting married within six months of that same day
36:40
after her. So I was like, three of my
36:42
best friends are getting married within six months of
36:44
each other. I want to
36:46
be the friend that champions and celebrates
36:48
my girls, just as they would for
36:50
me. And I think the problem
36:53
here is that a lot of us are
36:55
looking outwards. And normally I'm telling people look
36:57
outwards. You don't wanna be someone super
36:59
self-seeking and selfish and only thinking about
37:01
yourself. But I think when it comes
37:04
to timelines in comparison, you've
37:06
gotta look inward and you've gotta
37:08
look upward because it's truly about
37:10
just you and God. Your timeline
37:13
is between you and God and no one
37:15
else. Because when you
37:17
compare your timeline, your story to
37:19
someone else, you'll either feel greater
37:21
than or less than them, which
37:23
could lead to feeling more superior
37:26
or inferior to them, which neither
37:28
are God glorifying. God does
37:30
not want us being both full or
37:32
also feeling insecure. He wants us just
37:34
to run alongside people regardless
37:36
of where we're at and champion them and
37:38
celebrate them. And so you just have to
37:41
know and trust that God works in the
37:43
waiting. He doesn't waste the waiting. Everyone's
37:45
timelines are different and it's also kind
37:47
of exciting. Because I feel like if
37:50
we all had the same timeline, life would be pretty boring. It's like,
37:52
okay, we all got married at the same time. We all had babies
37:54
at the same time. We all got, I
37:56
think it's kind of exciting knowing, oh, your
37:59
timeline's Different than mine. Hi my like we
38:01
don't have the same see a coffee
38:03
and pay lifeguard row you a unique
38:05
different story and I think that's so
38:07
cool because side is in the business
38:09
of always using your story for his
38:12
glory. So three while me be your
38:14
best friend or your friend in your
38:16
circle can't necessarily relate to you and
38:18
your season. Someone else can like thought
38:20
is using that season. For. Someone
38:22
else for someone else to be blessed
38:24
by the three. Maybe five years later
38:27
down the road when you've already accomplished
38:29
sitter overcome it. Yes. And so it
38:31
was a tough reminder of looking inward
38:33
and looking up to God and be
38:35
like this. Seems like it's okay to
38:37
men and be like this is not
38:39
where I thought I would be. This
38:41
is not what I thought my story
38:43
would be. A greeting that but also
38:45
waiting expectantly and hopefully with your head
38:47
open and sing got all surrender it.
38:49
But I trust you with a story.
38:51
Yeah know. The timing way way way
38:53
better than I will ever comprehend or
38:55
a mansion and that gave me freedom
38:57
and then the lord when I surrendered
38:59
and really gave him my timeline my
39:02
heart as one. I met my husband
39:04
shortly after that which was very crazy
39:06
and I'm very thankful for that So
39:08
and may know what's happened like that
39:10
you may be got has you wait
39:12
longer but I promise you is in
39:14
the waiting his the always working, he
39:16
knows the future better than you do
39:18
and praise God that he does. You.
39:23
Know to be honest have always been
39:25
someone who leaned in the hard conversations
39:27
even other hard have always found that you
39:30
come out so much better on the
39:32
other sites. Dressy Sam I know it
39:34
can be difficult to have on as and
39:36
necessary conversations and these days we all
39:38
need to take an honest look at
39:40
our digital habits and this is where
39:42
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it also encourages accountability by sitting
39:57
regular reports see of your and
40:00
to a trusted friend or family member, creating
40:03
a space for honesty and support from someone
40:05
who loves you. Now, Christian is someone who
40:07
talks about this often. If you ever
40:09
listened to his 4-H-Man podcast, he talks about
40:11
his struggles in the past with porn and different
40:14
things on his phone. And I'm so proud of
40:16
him for not only overcoming that, but I know
40:18
he needed accountability to overcome that. And I'm proud
40:20
of him for also opening up that conversation for
40:23
many others to get help. And Christian also promotes
40:25
covenant eyes as well. So whether you're a student,
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a spouse, or a pastor, covenant eyes empowers you
40:29
to make wise choices online and stay true
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40:42
days. Again, that's covenanteyes.com/Sadie
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to try it for free for 30
40:47
days. It's
40:51
so true. It really is. And Lainey
40:53
and I, my bestie, we had a
40:55
very similar situation where we were always
40:57
talking and praying that we would meet
40:59
our husbands at the same time. And
41:02
I had just kind of
41:04
had a relationship and I was like, I am
41:06
done dating. Put me on camera saying it. Hold
41:09
me accountable to it. Well, then of course, right
41:11
after I said that, the next day I've met
41:13
Christian on the beach and I was like, forget
41:15
what I said. Holy moly, he's so cute. I
41:18
just knew. It was like, I don't
41:21
know if I want to be cheesy enough
41:23
to say hello at first sight, but literally
41:25
when I first saw him, I was like,
41:27
forget that I said I wasn't dating anyone
41:29
because if he is an option, then I'm
41:31
taking it. But you're like, delete the video.
41:33
I never said it. But thankfully
41:35
we didn't delete it and I still have it. And it's
41:37
so cute because it's like dated the day before we met.
41:40
But anyways, I meet Christian
41:42
and of course, you know, we start dating and we
41:44
try, I actually try not to, I tried to like
41:46
actually honor what I said. And so for a couple
41:48
of months, we just talked on the phone every day
41:51
until finally he came and took me on a date
41:53
and stuff. But Lainey was mad. Like she was so
41:55
frustrated with me because she was just like, You
41:57
said you weren't going to date anyone. But I Think like.
42:00
Under lie underneath says holding them accountable
42:02
was definitely a little bit of her
42:04
own. like ah one and be dating
42:06
someone always so crazy is on our
42:08
first date like you would like a
42:10
weekend thing is he came to Nashville
42:13
and all of our friends let's see
42:15
the loot brain cancer and lady came
42:17
with as and she was like america
42:19
scale out my options who's like the
42:21
and funny at first guy she sees
42:23
no jokes is I keep you on
42:25
that is now her husband and her
42:27
see their as and on our furry.
42:30
Way but it was. It's crazy how it
42:32
all worked out, but I remember like even
42:34
after finding Clayton and South for Laney like
42:36
she so they're held on to that a
42:38
little bit of an hour energy. Some very
42:41
unsure about being Christian and and and as
42:43
Sega live it was her own sauce. Well
42:45
I don't think I know because. Couple.
42:47
Months later, there has been so much
42:49
tension between her and I and. My
42:52
best friends of my goods going on and
42:54
so anyways one day and like cleaning out
42:57
the closet and season they're on a bed
42:59
and a just like all comes our is
43:01
like we did is like sherry these are
43:03
hard sub does everything that was it has
43:06
this been going on between as and she
43:08
just sure that she was afraid you know
43:10
deep down there is fear that maybe in
43:13
a relationship me and her were maybe not
43:15
going to be as close as we were
43:17
it was she get a Faizullah in all
43:19
diseases like the most honest moment and then.
43:22
It was really funny because we were
43:24
Sears and Christian and our other friends
43:26
rod downstairs plans and discard game and
43:28
a lady was like i think I
43:31
owe him an apology exhaust pretty rude
43:33
to him for a while as i
43:35
yeah you were a so he literally
43:37
go down together and see the hague
43:39
So I finally admitted that I've not
43:41
been very nice as I don't have
43:44
you know anymore and it was just
43:46
like such a powerful as the one
43:48
in our friends at that made us
43:50
so much closer to and and their
43:52
relationship. you know and and even dislike the
43:54
future like now you know is is amazing
43:57
because we did those get engaged two weeks
43:59
apart we married two weeks apart, we had our
44:01
first baby four months apart. We both have two girls now.
44:04
Our life has tracked in the sweetest way
44:06
and I'm so, so grateful for that. But
44:08
I don't know that we would still be
44:10
as close as we are now had
44:12
we not had those just honest,
44:14
gritty conversations. I
44:17
love that when Grant said that to you, you're just honest
44:19
enough to say, that was hard.
44:21
You're excited for your friend, but it's hard.
44:23
And so I love that you were so
44:26
open and honest with that in the
44:28
book. And just for the girls listening again,
44:30
her book, I'm telling you, it is
44:32
so cool because it is the most like
44:34
practical, godly advice. Just how you talk. You're
44:37
so, you overflow so much wisdom, so much
44:39
truth. And that is what her book is
44:41
from start to finish. It's what her podcast
44:43
is where I'm, I'm wrapping the shirt
44:45
right now. There's so much great advice
44:48
from a sister and a friend. That's what we're all about
44:50
here. So I love that you share that. Now I
44:52
got to ask you about high school because I
44:55
loved hearing in your testimony video,
44:57
just how you kind of started a
45:00
very authentic relationship with the Lord. Can
45:02
you talk a little bit about the
45:04
camp experience? Absolutely. Oh
45:06
my gosh. So yeah, I
45:09
think in high school is when God
45:11
really truly helped me encounter him. That
45:14
was the moment when I remember being
45:16
like, I can't deny this because
45:18
I think at some point in all of our lives, you
45:21
have to come to the conclusion of yourself is,
45:23
is God real and is God the Lord of
45:25
my life? And growing up Christian,
45:27
my parents always instilled the value in me. So
45:29
I'm super thankful. I've always had that as a
45:31
foundation in my life, but it
45:33
took me getting absolutely smack in
45:35
the face again. God's in the business.
45:37
I can be willing to say specifically
45:39
me smack me in the face with
45:41
conviction and also me confessing. And I'm
45:43
not sure how transparent I can be
45:46
here on the podcast, but transparent as
45:48
you want. And you know what, this
45:50
is why I want to talk about
45:52
this. When I heard your testimony video,
45:54
I was so grateful that you shared
45:56
this part of your story. And
45:58
I asked you before podcast if I was allowed
46:01
to ask you about your story. And you said, yes,
46:03
you said I'll be as open as a book as
46:05
you want me to be. And I
46:07
said, I really appreciate that. And I was
46:09
really hoping we'd get to this part because
46:11
this is something that so many people shy
46:14
away from, because it's awkward, or it's hard
46:16
to talk about. But the truth is, there
46:18
are so many people who are listening to
46:20
this podcast right now who need to hear
46:22
someone like you say this was the struggle
46:25
of yours and that you overcame it. So
46:27
100% be honest. Okay,
46:30
let's let's go there. Because truly, I
46:32
do believe that our stories have so
46:35
much power to bring someone else freedom.
46:37
And I truly want nothing to have
46:39
power over me to have a hold over me,
46:41
I want to be able to speak everything freely.
46:44
And it just fall away word and it has
46:46
no root, no hold, no power over my life.
46:48
And so in high school,
46:50
I was actually exposed to pornography at
46:52
a very young age, it was not
46:54
something I sought out. I was at
46:56
a hotel with my childhood best friend
46:59
and my two sisters and we're just
47:01
casually flipping through the channels and full
47:03
on pornography was on the TV. And
47:05
I remember just like, Oh my
47:07
gosh, like I didn't even know what to do. I was like, do I
47:09
look do I not and it was like, the
47:12
scariest moment in my life because my
47:14
parents actually never fully gave me the
47:16
birds and the bees conversation. So I
47:18
didn't know what was going on. And
47:20
the Lord, I'm sorry, the devil actually
47:22
God did not do this. The devil
47:24
took this one literally like
47:26
a five second moment and use this
47:28
as a seed in my life of
47:31
lust and opening doors to this. And
47:33
so I began to be
47:35
addicted to pornography. And I also struggled
47:37
with masturbation. And so these were two
47:39
things that I kept in
47:42
the darkness for so many years.
47:44
And I remember feeling just like
47:46
a weight, like it was literally
47:48
these chains just dragging behind me
47:50
everywhere I went. It prevented
47:52
me from looking people fully in the eyes because
47:54
you know, when you carry sin and
47:56
shame, it causes you to hide and to
47:58
feel to feel ashamed. Adam and Eve. And
48:00
so I didn't even want to look people in the eyes. I
48:03
was like, they know, they for sure know, they know what I'm
48:05
doing. And of course they didn't.
48:07
But I felt like it was just like
48:09
a written on my forehead, like I'm addicted
48:11
to pornography and masturbation. And so
48:13
I go to this youth for this
48:15
camp called Youth for the Nations, that Christ for
48:18
the Nations, an amazing spiritual church. And
48:20
I didn't even want to go to be quite frank. My
48:23
brother started going to this church and he's
48:25
like, Hey, the young adults pastor wants me
48:27
to bring you and our sisters to this
48:29
camp. And I was like, you cannot pay me
48:31
to go. I was like, I'm not going. And
48:34
I was like, I don't have money. I made up
48:36
every excuse in the book. I was like, I have
48:38
plans. I want to hang out with my friends. I
48:40
can't afford it. And the pastor
48:42
was like, well, what if I paid for you to
48:44
go? And then I was like, well, she'd, I really
48:46
have no excuse then. Okay. And
48:49
so I was like, let's go. And I remember Jesus
48:52
culture is there. It's Kim Walker singing
48:54
on stage. Amazing singer. It was so
48:57
powerful. She's singing that song. Oh, how
48:59
Jesus loves us. And
49:01
I mean, I am encountering the Holy Spirit
49:03
for the first time in my life. I
49:05
mean, my heart is racing. I'm sweating, snot
49:08
bubbles. You name
49:10
it. I was experiencing it and I just, my
49:12
hands are lifted. And so at
49:14
one point in the service, someone comes up on stage and
49:17
they say, Hey, I just feel really compelled to do this.
49:19
I feel compelled to do an altar
49:21
call. And he said, I feel like there's
49:23
people in here that have been
49:25
carrying a secret for far too long. And it's
49:27
something that you need to release. And you're going
49:29
to break free of that tonight. He's like, if
49:32
that's you, I want you to
49:34
come forward and no longer, like no longer hide,
49:36
bring it, bring it into the light. And
49:39
some moment when your heart starts
49:41
pounding and you're sweaty and
49:43
it's like, Oh shoot, I, I know
49:46
I'm supposed to go. And I'm looking
49:49
around and I'm like, is anyone going to go? Is anyone
49:51
going to go? And I, all of a sudden people just
49:53
start going. And I was like, I'm just going to do
49:55
it. So I just break through, break free out of the
49:57
chairs. I like start pushing past all these people. I run
49:59
down. of the front. It is not a
50:01
short hallway, let me tell you. And
50:04
I get down to the front and
50:06
I just like fall. I'm just like,
50:08
I have to confess this. And
50:10
there's people up there. I tell her, and I
50:12
think it's like the scariest thing I've ever done.
50:15
She doesn't even blink. She doesn't even react. She
50:17
doesn't even, she's not even like, how dare you?
50:19
Like you think that they're going to
50:21
say, she's like, amazing. Thank
50:23
you for telling me, you know what? God's going to
50:25
set you free tonight. And she
50:28
begins to pray this powerful prayer over me.
50:30
I confessed it and I literally said, pornography
50:32
and masturbation, you have no hold over me.
50:34
And I said it over and over and
50:36
over. And I kid you
50:38
not from that day, the desire left.
50:40
I mean, by the grace of God,
50:42
it left me and it
50:44
never came back. And specifically pornography, I would
50:46
say. And so I've never went
50:49
back and I just praise God
50:51
for that moment of giving
50:53
the media ability to confess that sin.
50:56
And something I am so bold and
50:58
powerful in my book to say is
51:00
that in confession, you find
51:02
freedom when you are vulnerable, you are
51:05
honest, you have accountability, consistency,
51:07
confession, those are five ways
51:10
you will stay free. And
51:12
so that moment marked
51:14
my life forever. It's a moment where
51:16
I'm like, I could never deny God
51:18
because I know he's so real from
51:20
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Josh, that's so great.
53:34
And I just, I love that
53:37
the person who you confess
53:39
it to was just like you said, didn't
53:41
even bat an eye. It was just so
53:43
important. Like I loved that passion a few
53:45
years ago when Jenny Allen was leading and
53:48
she, you Jenny
53:50
does in typical Jenny fashion gets everyone
53:52
to confess their deepest darkest thing, which
53:54
is so powerful to the person beside
53:56
them. But then the most important thing
53:58
I think was that. she said, and
54:01
whoever you are, no matter
54:03
what they say, you respond to
54:05
them with, there's therefore no condemnation
54:07
for those who are found in
54:09
Christ Jesus. And see,
54:12
that is so important because I think
54:15
so many times the fear of confession
54:17
is that you're going to be met
54:19
with a lack of empathy, with judgment,
54:21
with more shame than you already feel.
54:24
And that is a really scary thing. It's a
54:26
very vulnerable thing because if you do confess and
54:28
you aren't met with that love
54:31
and the no condemnation, then it can cause
54:33
a deeper hole. And so I love that you
54:35
share that. And why I wanted you to
54:37
share that too is because I've never actually
54:39
shared this part of my story in this detail.
54:42
But when I heard your story, I thought, that
54:44
is so relatable to me because you were
54:46
in high school and you're like, I didn't
54:48
even know like what this was. I didn't even
54:50
mean to see it. I wasn't seeking this
54:52
out. And the same thing actually happened to
54:54
me. I was on Twitter one
54:56
day, which just is so interesting
54:59
because I heard you talk about this and how like
55:01
the songs you were listening to in high
55:03
school were like toxic. And you didn't really
55:05
realize how over time listening to
55:07
such sexual things led to sexual thoughts
55:09
led to sexual desire. And so you're
55:11
already like not even meaning to like
55:13
awoken that with songs you listen to.
55:15
And when I think back, I think
55:17
about Snapchat and back in the
55:20
day, I don't know how Snapchat is anymore because
55:22
I have not had it in years. But back
55:24
in the day, I remember that it was
55:26
like all these articles that were very
55:29
sexualized and it would be like 10
55:32
sex positions and this and that and like
55:34
cosmopolitan and like you would just have to
55:36
see that when you click on the app,
55:38
whether you were looking for it or not.
55:40
And I remember being like intrigued by these
55:42
things because it would be like super, you
55:44
know, intriguing magazine covers or words
55:46
that I would be like interested in because I
55:48
didn't know those things. Like I no one talked
55:50
to me about those things, tell me those things.
55:52
So every now and then I just kind of
55:54
see it. I try not to look and it
55:56
was probably not something I should be looking at,
55:58
but I would sometimes. look at them. Well
56:01
then one thing leads to another and
56:03
I'm on Twitter one day not seeking
56:06
this out at all, didn't type in
56:08
anything. It was straight up a porn
56:10
ad and it
56:12
was extremely graphic
56:15
and intense and instead of
56:17
continuing to scroll I clicked
56:19
on it and it
56:21
was kind of a
56:23
toxic cycle in just a day and what's
56:25
crazy is like I didn't even
56:28
know what the word like masturbation meant. Literally
56:30
I remember being at a camp in middle
56:32
school that was like middle school and high
56:34
school and I remember hearing that and people
56:36
like coming and getting forgiveness of that and
56:38
I didn't even know what that was. So
56:41
here I am in high school like accidentally
56:43
stumbling upon something and doing
56:45
something I don't even really know what it
56:47
is and then just feeling like an incredible
56:49
wave of shame from that
56:51
moment on and knowing like I cannot tell anybody
56:53
about this kind of thing and
56:56
thankfully like I was able to stop
56:58
that I did not become addicted to
57:00
it but even not becoming addicted I
57:02
lived with like so much shame from
57:04
even just that experience and hid it
57:06
for so long and I remember like
57:09
telling Christian about that at one
57:12
point whenever we were married and
57:14
just feeling like so much freedom because he
57:16
was so honest with his story always and
57:18
like he helped so many people through that
57:21
and finally when I shared and I continued to do
57:23
these things like if I shared to Christian it's so
57:25
crazy because like I was so scared what his reaction
57:28
was going to be and he was like man I
57:30
feel like I can relate to you so much more
57:32
now to know that like you're human too you
57:34
know like not that he didn't
57:36
know that before obviously because I mess up a
57:38
million other ways but just in a
57:40
way that we could actually relate and that was
57:43
a part of our past sin but something that
57:45
like we've been free of from the blood of
57:47
Jesus but I just remember that being like such
57:49
a secret of fame because I thought if anyone
57:51
knows that then they'll think like I'm gross or
57:53
that that's so bad and that like girls don't
57:55
do this or whatever and I've just found out
57:58
now because that was such a you
58:00
thought because like actually a ton of
58:02
girls struggle with this and a ton
58:04
of girls have accidentally um maybe accidentally
58:06
just like we do it or maybe
58:09
intentionally that's okay too like again there's
58:11
no condemnation not saying that to like
58:13
shame you if you search that and
58:15
that's how you got addicted what I'm
58:17
saying is like hey there's freedom there's
58:19
freedom for you from for you and
58:21
there's freedom from that on the other
58:23
side of confession and accountability and having
58:26
people and things help you come out
58:28
of that and you do not have
58:30
to stay in that forever friend don't stay in
58:32
that forever it's not a way to live a
58:34
happy and healthy life it's not a way to
58:37
live a full life it's not a way to
58:39
live a life of freedom and so today I
58:41
just I have all these lights around here you
58:43
know lighting up the podcast and I just want
58:45
to shine like a massive light on
58:48
just that being in hiding over your
58:50
life and I pray that there are
58:52
two people sharing their story that
58:54
you will feel the freedom to share your
58:57
story with someone and get the help that
58:59
you need and so Jenine thank you for
59:01
sharing your story you encourage me to share
59:03
in a way that I
59:05
never have either and I have to
59:08
say what I found so powerful because
59:10
this book Becoming Happy and Healthy is
59:12
amazing you're an incredible writer you're an
59:14
incredible speaker but I think sometimes like
59:17
I even knew you and I'm like
59:20
you're so beautiful you're so like you
59:23
know enthusiastic you're easy to talk to you're so
59:25
friendly you got it all going on it's easy
59:27
to look at someone like you and be like
59:29
well yeah she's happy and healthy like she's got
59:31
it all going on but what I
59:33
love about you is you're so honest about the
59:36
things in life that you haven't had it all
59:38
going on and the things in life that you
59:40
struggled through and the things in life that you
59:42
continue to and so thank you for your vulnerability
59:44
and I love you know as we read this
59:47
book and we take the advice
59:49
we know that it's coming from someone
59:51
who really gets it and really understands
59:53
the struggle and so I just want
59:55
to honor you for living a life
59:57
as vulnerable as you live because it's
1:00:00
people, including myself. Thank
1:00:02
you Sadie, I really appreciate that. I think
1:00:05
that is always my goal is
1:00:07
that people never think like, oh she has a
1:00:09
platform so she must think she's on a pedestal
1:00:11
or better than us and I'm like I'm here
1:00:13
to tell you I
1:00:15
am only you know the way I am
1:00:17
by the grace of God this is nothing
1:00:19
that I did. You'll read the
1:00:21
book as you're saying and you'll be like oh
1:00:24
this girl was sloppy. Like she had some
1:00:26
things she had to work and work through
1:00:29
and still to this day but truly my
1:00:31
goal was to help people not go
1:00:33
back to that to not be you know
1:00:36
lukewarm and lackluster in their faith to help
1:00:38
you overcome these challenges because I get it.
1:00:40
And so I still face so many things
1:00:42
today. I always try to share because I
1:00:44
never want someone to think oh just because
1:00:47
I am this happy and healthy message that
1:00:49
I am forever happy and healthy. I have
1:00:52
so many hard days. I have struggles. I
1:00:54
feel insecure. I want all these different things
1:00:56
but truly the difference with how I was
1:00:58
then versus how I am now is
1:01:01
I back then went to the world
1:01:03
and went to myself and now I go
1:01:05
to God and so those things back then
1:01:07
they would just oh my gosh they would
1:01:09
linger they would bring me down and
1:01:12
I would just feel like the worst human being and nowadays
1:01:14
I'm like no God I know who you say I am
1:01:16
this does not matter that much I'm not gonna give this
1:01:18
more weight and so that's truly the
1:01:20
goal of the book and my platform and just
1:01:22
helping people know like there's no
1:01:24
perfect people out there just safe people
1:01:27
people transformed by the grace of God
1:01:29
and people that you know God has
1:01:31
chosen and so thank you God for
1:01:33
choosing us because oh man
1:01:36
I could not do this life without him
1:01:38
there's just no way. So good. Well I
1:01:40
love it. Janine thank you so much for
1:01:42
being on the Well That's Good podcast. You
1:01:44
have a million Well That's Good moments as
1:01:46
you continue to share just so much good
1:01:48
advice and so looking forward to
1:01:51
the more things that you put out and looking
1:01:53
forward to hearing more podcasts from you hopefully more
1:01:55
books in the future and all the things that
1:01:57
you and your husband continue to do together so
1:01:59
thanks again. again for taking the time to be on. Thank
1:02:02
you, Sadie, for having me. This was such a
1:02:04
blessing, and you're an incredible podcast. So I love
1:02:07
championing you, and thank you for what you're doing
1:02:09
for this generation as well. Thank you.
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