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When you build a
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business, you have to face your
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perspective of your self worth. It is hand in hand.
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You cannot. Start charging for your services and
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value without facing that, right.
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Hey friends, welcome to Voice and
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Impact, an honest podcast about
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the journey of entrepreneurship. We're not here to tell
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you how to live your life.
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We're here to have real
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conversations about real things.
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My name is Adam, and I'm so grateful
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you're
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here with us. Today we're gonna talk a little bit about,
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you know, the courage to be known and.
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You know, we related on that , Adam,
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and I'm sure Jade, maybe you have,
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uh, some, some thoughts around
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that in your, your journey and,
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and around the courage to be known. And I think going from the fear.
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Of being known to, like, the courage
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to being known and activated in the
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world is largely about, you know,
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overcoming a lot of those barriers that
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keep us stuck and small in between.
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Right. So I think we can talk a little bit about
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what some of those barriers are, including
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things like imposter syndrome and.
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Self sabotage and just all
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the different things about
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being a creative in the world. And I'm sure there are probably some
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common experiences that we have,
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but also very personal experiences
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that we can dive deep into as deep
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as you guys are willing to go. So one of the first
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things that I wanted to.
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, I guess talk about, and like I said in in
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regards to a common experience that maybe
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a lot of people can relate to is this
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idea of imposter syndrome is of being an
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imposter in your own life and your own
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dreams, even though they're only yours.
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So I would love to know Adam, like
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how do you define imposter syndrome?
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What kind of experiences of imposter
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syndrome have kept you sort of in the.
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Of being known, and I know you have
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a really interesting perspective
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around this whole concept
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anyway, so would love to hear.
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Uh, yeah. Well that's, I think that's a great
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place to start and I'll, I'll start
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by just simply acknowledging that I'm
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at a point in my career where imposter
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syndrome is a day to day reality. It's a day to day experience and there
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are some days where I feel totally
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aligned and grateful for my sense of
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contribution and grateful for the,
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the value that I'm inspired to share.
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And there are other days where it's
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like, holy fuck, who do I think I am?
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Like I'm just another guy on the internet.
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I really don't want to be seen.
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Right? Cuz there are like, I think there are two
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types of content creators in the world.
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There's the content creator that is really
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all about, hear me, I wanna be heard.
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Listen to me. And then there's the content
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creator that is all about, I
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wanna help, I wanna be of service.
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Here are the things that I've learned. Maybe they can apply to you too.
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And I think there's a part of me.
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Is afraid of even accidentally
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being associated with the content
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creator that just wants to be heard.
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And I think there's, I think
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the need to, to to be heard is
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an important need to be met. , we all need to feel heard, like
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that is a basic human need.
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That's a little bit of a different
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response to your question directly.
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So let me directly address your question
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and then I have a lot of musings, a lot
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of sort of deep thinking about imposter
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syndrome that I think is, is different
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than the sort of status quo, because
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right now imposter syndrome is trend.
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There's a lot of people in the
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world right now because the
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entrepreneurial push is growing. People are facing imposter syndrome
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in a new way because when you build
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a business, you have to face your
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perspective of your self worth.
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It is hand in hand. You cannot.
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Start charging for your services
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and value without facing that.
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Right? And so because of the rise of
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entrepreneurialism, I see that imposter
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syndrome surfacing, maybe not the
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imposter syndrome itself being new, but
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the awareness of it being new because
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of the need to face that self-worth.
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So the kind of like under arch question
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here that you asked is, well, what
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is imposter syndrome essentially?
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Imposter syndrome. The sort of vague belief that you hold in
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yourself, that like you're phony, you're
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an imposter, something you're, you know,
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like, like the key word, the theme of when
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I was a kid, the word, the language you
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would use is like, you're a poer, right?
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Like, like you're pretending
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to be something you're not.
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And sometimes that's rooted in feelings
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of like, what I have isn't valuable.
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I have this aha moment this week, which
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is like, I'm just afraid of being known.
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I'm afraid of, of people knowing who I am.
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And you know, part of that is
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because I know I've made mistakes.
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I know I've done wrong things. But now that we know what imposter
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syndrome is, the sort of question
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is is like how do we deal with it? And I think a lot of people go
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to the perspective of how do I.
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How do I abolish it? And I would challenge that
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and I would, I would encourage
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you to realize you never can. You never will.
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It's an impossible feat to measure.
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Now you can feel grateful
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and confident and allow the
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radiance of your value to exist.
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But to say that, Voice in the back
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of your head will become nothing,
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I think is an impossible standard.
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And so my question becomes,
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how do I live with it?
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How do I allow imposter syndrome
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to be maybe not a part of my core
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identity, but how do I allow it to
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exist simultaneously to the part
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of me that believes in my inherent.
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To the part of me that believes
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that I make a difference.
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I'm working on a blog post right now
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called You Make a Fucking Difference.
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And I think the more we realize that
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we make a fucking difference, and it's
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hard for us to always see our value
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from our own vantage point, the more
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we do to allow these two perspectives
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to merge, to hug, to embrace, to allow.
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The more capable we're going to be to
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give permission to the current moment.
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And sometimes the current moment is
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just like, fuck, am I doing enough?
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Am I giving enough? Am I helping enough? Is what I'm saying actually
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making a difference?
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And other times it's, ah, look at all
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the amazing good things I'm doing.
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And there is no right and wrong. There is no right and wrong.
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So the more that we allow both sides
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of that coin to exist, the less
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shame we're going to experience
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within our human experience.
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And I think more suffering comes
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from the resistance of the imposter
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syndrome than it does from the
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actual imposter syndrome itself.
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And this is so real time for me. , you know, I'm at, I'm at a point
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in my career where I am just
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vulnerably sharing my journey.
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I'm getting rid of any sort of
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idea that I need to make content.
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I'm getting rid of any sort of idea
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that I need to be expressing things in
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a certain way, and I'm just allowing,
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and it's vulnerable and it's scary.
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But if you learn to be able to take the
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steps regardless of how you're feeling
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and set boundaries when you need. . You know, I think, I think you're going
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to serve yourself in magical ways,
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you know, in regards to what
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it makes me think, two things, but
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in regards to what you're saying
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of not abolishing it, like the, the
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polarity is always gonna exist, right? That's like true about our world, but
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it's like new level, new devil, right?
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Like you're always gonna
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get to a new level and.
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You're gonna feel that imposter
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syndrome again, because you've never
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been there before and you're gonna have
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toal with the whole thing basically.
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And having that in the back of your
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mind of like, all right, like this is
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just something that comes along with
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me on this ride throughout life, is
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this feeling of being an imposter. Um, in a sense, right, of like,
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but it's like you learn how to
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cope with it a little bit better. And I, I'd love to know as well,
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and then from you Jade as well, like
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personally, I have had experiences
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in my life where I have this imposter
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syndrome, both in, um, like work,
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like professional, but also personal.
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And I feel like imposter syndrome is
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something that has talked about so
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much in terms of like your business
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and the things that you're wanting
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to achieve in doing your life. But sometimes the imposter
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syndrome can also come into.
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Personal life, and I don't feel
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like that's talked about very much.
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So I'd love to know what your,
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um, both your perspectives are.
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I'll start with you, Adam, on having it
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in both and what it, what, if you have
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specific examples each have looked like. Yeah. I
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think there's a bigger
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thing here to discuss.
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Um, so I'll set aside the imposter
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syndrome for a second and I'll,
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I'll address that head on after
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I, I make a couple of points.
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Mm-hmm. and, and, and so the first
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thing that I want to talk about,
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How we categorize our life. You know, there's our personal life,
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there's our business life, there's
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our family life, there's our, all
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of these different categories.
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And although I think a lot of times the
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intention is pure to understand all of
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these different categories, one thing that
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I need to make clear is you are always.
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Adam is always Adam. Whether I'm in an in business
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environment, whether I'm in a family
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environment, whether I'm in a friend
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environment, whether I'm in any of
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those things, Adam is always Adam.
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And so if I'm experiencing imposter
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syndrome, it's likely that that imposter
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syndrome affects my lens and how I view
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the world in all of those categories.
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So the first thing that I would
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encourage is to, to dissolve.
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The boundaries of what categories are
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dissolve them, allow yourself to be
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you no matter where you are, but in,
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in context of like, how do I navigate
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the feelings of doubt, the feelings of.
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Um, challenging my own self worth in
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sort of a personal life setting, right?
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Like that can look in a variety of ways
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that could look like I don't go to the gym
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because I'm never going to be that fitness
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all star that we see on television, right?
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And so a part of all of those
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experiences is letting go.
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The romanticized extremes of
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anything you're working on, right?
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Like we live in a world
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of perceived perfection.
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So any time that we ourselves
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are not accomplishing that sense
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of per perfection, we feel a
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lack of motivation to pursue.
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, right? So again, we can use the
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fitness as an example.
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The media is very, it's very common
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for the media to show these images
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of very robust built, you know,
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healthy individuals that penetrates
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what we perceive as health, right?
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So we began viewing health in
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that sort of bulky manner, which.
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solidify or be used as a mechanism to
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validate our feelings of not good enough.
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Mm. And because it validates our
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feelings of not good enough, we're
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less motivated to move forward.
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And the the sort of like,
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Flipping that script on its ass
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a little bit, we've gotta change
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the inner NA narrative, right?
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Like working out for the sake of being
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ripped is a very material experience.
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I want to feel comfortable and
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confident and strong in my body.
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If that is the motive, it doesn't
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matter what the media presents
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itself as because it's impossible
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to affect that motive, right?
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Like nobody works out saying, I
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want to go feel like shit , right?
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And in fact, if you're somebody who
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does have that inner dialogue of
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working out feels like shit, chances
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are your whole experience of going
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to work is full of resistance. Yeah.
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Or you're
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not gonna
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do it, or you're not gonna do
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it because you'll think about it.
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You'll say, uh, I don't
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want to go feel like shit.
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Why should I punish myself? I'm done.
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Yeah. And so, you know, not to the Simon
13:32
cynic level, uh, but, but understand
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why you're doing stuff, but, and
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you don't need to understand why
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you're doing stuff in order to act. , right?
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Like that's one of those really big
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questions of why am I doing this?
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And so the thing I see most common in
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the entrepreneurial space particularly
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is people thinking about, right,
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trying to solve that problem.
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I can't do anything cuz I don't know why yet. So like, think about, think
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about, think about, think about.
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So again, my, my perspective is,
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is all of it needs to coexist.
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We need to simultaneously understand
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our why while we're moving forward.
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These two forces need to coexist.
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We need to accept our imposter syndrome
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while we experience our confidence.
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These two forces need to coexist, and this
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idea, this basic principle of coexist.
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Can trickle into every area, can trickle
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into every philosophical conversation,
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can trickle into every entrepreneurial
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pursuit, can trickle into every area
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of self perspective and self value.
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Um, and I think it's particularly
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applicable to, to the, to the implications
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of imposter syndrome and, and having
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a harder time seeing your own value.
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And the last thing I'll see about
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that is like, it's impossible
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to see your own value from the
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lens of the eyes other than.
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. That's something I'm
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really realizing right now.
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I can't see my contribution to the world
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the same way the people I'm serving can.
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So there's a, there's like a, there's
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like a permission that I'm experiencing
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like a, giving a permission to the
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other people to acknowledge what
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they see about my pursuits because
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I can't see it the way they can.
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Um, and, and that's, that's
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an emerging thing for me.
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That's new. That's very. I have no idea how well I answered your
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question or if I answered it at all, but
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those are all the things that come to me.
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Yeah, absolutely. And I think it's all divine and I think
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the, the non-com compartmentalization of
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our life, like you showing up as you in
15:43
every single scenario or place or whatever
15:49
you're gonna be in, is exactly it, right?
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Cause we think about, oh, I'm
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imposter here, I'm imposter here.
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But really it's an overall experience
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that segues perfectly into.
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where I feel inspired to express because
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I have had a massive confrontation and
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experience with imposter syndrome lately
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in like the fruition of this podcast.
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Like the day before we did episode
16:12
one, I was freaked out because
16:18
just the thought of having my voice
16:18
broadcasted and I don't know what
16:23
to say and do I really have value?
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What am I doing? Why am I doing it? Just all of those thoughts were
16:26
spiraling and I was spinning out and
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just, I fully gave myself permission
16:31
to go through that and to just like
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cry and hide under a blanket, . Cause
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that was genuinely how I was feeling.
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And even now, During this present
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podcast, I've had thoughts of like,
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but what am I really gonna say? I don't what?
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I don't know what I'm gonna say. It's like, well just say what's
16:50
true for you in the moment
16:52
You're experiencing it right now. Imposter syndrome, you
16:54
know, and it's been cool.
16:58
This week to navigate something that
16:58
Adam touched on, which is giving
17:07
yourself permission to go there and
17:07
have your freak out and do the thing
17:12
anyways, but also set boundaries.
17:14
So like having the living question
17:14
of, okay, I'm going to do this.
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Like, I knew I was gonna do the
17:19
podcast and I was excited about it.
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That was present too, like the, the,
17:23
the inner knowing that like this.
17:29
A new seed that's being planted. And I don't know what it's gonna
17:31
lead to, but I feel good about it.
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The fear and the freakout is there too.
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So like I had already made the
17:37
decision like, I'm going to do this.
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This is something that's,
17:40
that's a yes for me.
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Sometimes when I feel imposter
17:43
syndrome, there's that question of
17:46
like, Is this something that I'm
17:46
afraid of that I need to pursue anyway?
17:52
Or am I having like mixed feelings
17:52
about this because it's really
17:56
not for me and I do need to change
17:56
something or set boundaries around it.
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And so having that question present
18:01
was really important and actually
18:06
bled into my personal life where
18:06
like I had that freak out day.
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We did episode one, which was. I felt very, very calm and just kind
18:12
of showed up and whatever unfolded.
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And I noticed there were a few moments
18:16
in my relationships a couple days after
18:22
where I said things that I was really
18:22
scared to say and I just trusted fully,
18:26
like this is my truth right now. So here it is, and
18:31
if it's a mistake that I said
18:31
that, like that'll, I'll deal with that.
18:34
But ultimately, like the.
18:39
Momentum that accepting imposter
18:39
syndrome and not resisting it and
18:43
instead connecting to what your truth
18:43
is the best that you can, and just
18:48
trusting that is like so fruitful.
18:52
So that's, that's my
18:52
little piece about this.
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I think it's a part of human nature. Mm-hmm.
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to question our role in the world.
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And I think that's ultimately
19:05
what imposter syndrome.
19:09
Am I doing enough? Am I caring hard enough?
19:13
Am I providing enough value? Am I being of service?
19:17
Am I loving to the best of my capability?
19:21
And I think we're arriving at a
19:21
really important realization in that.
19:27
And that realization is human beings
19:27
at their core want to do good in the.
19:37
They want to be helpful, right?
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And imposter syndrome is the
19:41
byproduct of that desire.
19:48
And again, in our current world, the, the
19:48
sort of narrative is like humans are bad.
19:56
Don't trust your strangers like
19:56
humans cause a lot of harm.
20:01
And I think that narrative is fucked
20:01
up because what that does is it because
20:07
humans are bad and we just accept
20:07
that it has a sweeping under the rug.
20:13
All the systematic contributor
20:13
contributors that are creating
20:18
human experiences that cause harm.
20:22
We don't, we're not just born. That way.
20:25
It's the byproduct of our experiences.
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So then how do we create a system
20:28
that creates experiences that empowers
20:32
the already existing human potential?
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That is the question.
20:37
Yeah. Like you said, it, it comes down
20:37
to the fact that we are just a
20:41
collection of our experiences and
20:41
past conditioning and all of that.
20:45
Right. And it's like, That deservingness
20:46
of being known of being successful.
20:52
Sometimes we can lose touch with the fact
20:52
that like, that those are like people
20:56
that are successful and really well known. Those are just other humans that
20:57
are also just living based on and,
21:03
and trying to heal and all of that. Um, one of the biggest things that came
21:05
up for me, I guess in reflecting on this
21:09
is of like, why do I fear being known
21:09
and it's, it's around that same sort
21:14
of theme of I'll never be washed clean
21:14
enough of all the mistakes in the past
21:20
through all this self-development work
21:20
and exploration and self-awareness, I'll
21:23
never be washed clean enough to be a good
21:23
leader, to be a good role model like that.
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Sort of like undeserving this of like,
21:29
I'm not all the way up there like them
21:33
yet, but they are exactly like us.
21:36
Some of them even. Further behind in their
21:38
journey of self-awareness
21:41
and healing and all of that. So that's something that really came
21:43
up for me as I was thinking about
21:47
what you were saying and I'd love
21:47
to know from you, Jade, as well.
21:51
Like what do you think and around sort
21:51
of like the, the why that comes up
21:56
for you. It's so broad.
21:59
It's such a broad, yeah.
22:08
I think I'll just say what is on
22:08
my mind, which is when it comes to.
22:15
Assuming that people who are perceived
22:15
as successful and they have the
22:21
limelight that they've always wanted
22:21
and they have the picture perfect
22:25
Instagram and all of that, like I've
22:25
super struggled in my path with thinking
22:31
that like that's it, that when you
22:31
achieve the perfect body finances,
22:37
um, the
22:40
creations, whatever thing
22:40
externally, Just presently where you are
22:46
in the moment, just being you, but like
22:46
that's the thing that's, you've arrived.
22:51
Right? And I think why people, and myself
22:52
included, I've experienced this, why we
22:58
can be triggered into wanting to pick
22:58
people apart and find flaws is because
23:06
we really want to know that like. You're human though, right?
23:11
Like you have all of this perfect thing,
23:11
but you're, you're like me though, right?
23:14
Like, you, you have flaws too. Like, we want to feel that connection and
23:16
that's why authenticity and just being
23:21
in the moment and expressing ourselves
23:21
as we are and learning to accept, uh,
23:28
the, the, uh, the baggage of it all, for
23:28
lack of a better word, is so important.
23:33
Cuz I think when we
23:33
realize, oh wait, we're all.
23:37
Like scared little kids inside.
23:40
We all have that part of us and
23:40
we all have the part of us that's
23:43
like, I'm a bad motherfucker. I came here to do really cool shit.
23:46
Like marrying those two and realizing
23:46
that we're all trying to navigate that
23:50
balance is so empowering cuz then it feels
23:50
like there's space in the world for you.
23:55
And um, that's, that's been a game
23:55
changer for me is, is realizing
24:02
that everybody is human and.
24:06
I, that's, that's just
24:06
where I felt inspired to go.
24:09
The interesting thing about
24:09
vulnerability, I mean, real vulnerability,
24:13
not the catchphrase vulnerability, but the
24:13
raw vulnerability is the only way to learn
24:21
to be vulnerable is to experience it.
24:25
So if you have leaders that lead
24:25
by example, not theoretically, not
24:30
like talking about, Hey, let's be
24:30
vulnerable, but are demonstrating
24:34
what vulnerability looks like. I don't know about you guys, but when I'm
24:36
around somebody who is vulnerable, I feel
24:40
so much more permission to be vulnerable. Mm-hmm.
24:44
. And so vulnerable leaders
24:44
create environments where
24:49
we learn to see ourselves. That's what vulnerability.
24:54
Seeing yourself truly and
24:54
authentically and genuinely.
24:58
And that's why I think it's so called for. It's so called for it.
25:01
Cause we got so many masks in our world. We're told to be so many things
25:04
and we view life as this external.
25:08
I need to arrive at this thing or
25:08
I need to arrive at this thing,
25:10
just like Jade was talking about. And it gets in our way.
25:15
It gets in our. Amen.
25:21
. Alysha: Yeah. Amen. Um, totally.
25:24
And I think. You know, in building off of last
25:27
week's conversation around that success
25:31
not being linear or being non-linear,
25:31
um, and you never really arrive.
25:36
You're just sort of, you know, going
25:36
and going through the rollercoaster.
25:41
Like as you overcome these obstacles
25:41
and break down the barriers, like
25:45
as you ride with imposter syndrome
25:45
your whole life, as you learn to be
25:49
vulnerable and accept other people. Vulnerability.
25:52
You start to see yourself as
25:52
more inherently deserving.
25:55
You know, humans, just being
25:55
other humans, like we're all in
25:59
this kind of together, right? As you're on the rise, and then
26:00
suddenly you can get to instances
26:04
I feel, when you come down that are
26:04
perpetuated by nobody else but you.
26:09
Right? The self sabotage like you are on
26:10
the rise, sort of, all right, I'm
26:14
riding with this imposter syndrome. I'm just being human,
26:15
I'm being vulnerable. This is great.
26:18
And then suddenly it's like, Self-sabotage
26:18
and it comes outta nowhere sometimes.
26:23
But bringing awareness to it on like, why
26:23
am I actually sabotaging this feeling of
26:29
success or this potential for success? Um, I'd love to know how that
26:31
shows up for you and like how have
26:35
you learned to move through it?
26:38
I have a bit of a story about that. Absolutely.
26:40
Um, in 2020, I moved back to Florida and
26:40
I started painting seashells just for fun.
26:48
Like I was just dillydallying in my
26:48
little art studio and I posted them
26:52
on Instagram and I had around 15
26:52
people message me saying exactly this.
26:58
I would pay money for this. And I was like,
27:01
oh. Okay, .
27:03
Jade: Wow. This is something that really resonates
27:04
with me because I love doing this.
27:08
It's relatively easy for me.
27:10
I love being at the beach and collecting
27:10
these shells and the experience that I
27:13
have on the beach fuels the artwork, so
27:13
it's very regenerative and sustainable.
27:18
I love dealing with people in this
27:18
personalized, custom, creative way,
27:23
and I started a poll asking people what
27:23
they would pay and which ones would they
27:28
want, and would they want variety packs. Took steps towards acting
27:31
on that opportunity and then
27:36
completely shut it down.
27:39
Cuz the second I realized that
27:39
what I had to offer was desired.
27:43
I was overwhelmed with the
27:43
feeling of expectation.
27:45
And when I went to create, my shoulders
27:45
were so tense, I was sweating.
27:50
I wasn't enjoying it at all. Cause I was just like,
27:51
now it has to be good.
27:54
Like I just freaked. And completely didn't do anything
27:55
for a year with the seashells.
28:00
I just put 'em in the closet and
28:00
was like, Nope, I just can't do that
28:04
Then, and I had a moment in 2021.
28:07
I don't know what the catalyst to it
28:07
was, but I think it was probably a
28:12
phase like this talking and realizing,
28:12
like having realizations about imposter
28:17
syndrome, where I was like, oh man.
28:20
I totally had a success,
28:20
fear and just shut it down.
28:25
And, you know, maybe, let's see if that
28:25
opportunity is still open for me because I
28:30
really want to test the belief that like,
28:30
Hey, what's yours isn't gonna go away.
28:35
You know, you can still open that door again. It's there.
28:38
And uh, I started painting
28:38
the shells again and posted
28:41
them and I wound up selling.
28:44
Bunch of them and created a
28:44
little business and made them
28:48
into ornaments for the holidays. And, uh, it was really cool to experiment
28:50
with, um, the grace of having gone through
28:58
the process of shutting down something.
29:00
That was a wonderful opportunity for
29:00
me, realizing that I did that and then
29:04
opening it up again to be like, well,
29:04
let's see if that is going to work.
29:08
And, um, this year, I feel really inspired
29:08
to implement the stuff that we talk
29:14
about here in regards to entrepreneurship
29:14
to like this year's batch of shells.
29:20
Cause I still feel like a total fetus
29:20
in the world of entrepreneurship
29:24
and selling my art and dealing
29:24
with people, and I just did it.
29:27
Pretty loosey goosey. Last year, I just posted stuff on
29:29
Instagram or I, uh, I work at a little
29:33
retail shop that I had my shells in and
29:33
just kind of word of mouth made it happen.
29:38
But I would love to develop more
29:38
structured way of doing it, and
29:43
that really, really scares me. So that's a, that's where I'm
29:45
at with the seashells right now.
29:49
But, uh, it started with self-sabotage.
29:52
self-compassion is so important. When you look back on like, oh, there's
29:55
this big opportunity that I missed.
30:00
It's such a pressurized way of looking
30:00
at things and I remember there's been
30:03
so many instances where I felt in
30:03
that moment, well, I'm not really in
30:10
the moment cuz I'm thinking about. Uh, life, like something bigger that,
30:12
that something bigger that we've
30:16
talked about is looking down on me. Like, if you don't challenge yourself
30:17
and take this opportunity, then you
30:22
are not worthy, not lovable, not
30:22
gonna be successful, not gonna, that's
30:25
like, and I feel like at times that
30:25
lens, like the way that I respond to
30:32
opportunity is, , it creates overwhelm.
30:37
That makes me want to go, Ooh, ooh. Like, I'm just not ready for this.
30:41
And sometimes that's true. Sometimes the, maybe with the
30:42
seashells the first time it really
30:46
was like, man, this is a lot.
30:48
I don't know if I'm ready for this. Ah, I'm just gonna, I'm just
30:49
gonna go back here for a year,
30:54
until I finally feel like. Okay.
30:58
That was a little scary, but like,
30:58
let's, let's dip our toe in the water
31:01
again and see if we can get this going. Um,
31:04
so, you know, it's interesting,
31:04
like, just in my own experience
31:08
and perspective, uh, I feel like
31:08
my entire entrepreneurial journey
31:13
so far has been, um, navigating
31:13
sabotage, , , um, Beau, whether it.
31:21
Like physical or like
31:21
tangible or intangible.
31:25
Um, A big struggle for me has been
31:25
substances like as I am nearing or
31:32
as I have a good day or something
31:32
like that, I immediately think like,
31:36
oh, what would make this better? Let's get wasted.
31:39
Let's get super baked. Like, and like let's have a cigarette.
31:43
Something that I've never, I quit smoking
31:43
like three years ago, but it's almost
31:47
like my mind goes back to that of like,
31:47
how can we sabotage this like new level
31:52
that you're entering And that's what's
31:54
something that's so wick. About what, how, how we're raised
31:55
to engage in rewarding ourselves.
32:04
We've anonymized, is that a word?
32:07
We've anonymized, rewarding
32:07
ourselves with self-sabotage.
32:13
We are like, yes, I'm
32:13
doing the right things.
32:16
I deserve this. . Right.
32:19
Uh, and that's fucking crazy. I mean, Julia Cameron talks about it all
32:21
the time in her, in, in all of her work.
32:26
That's one. Two, I really want to challenge the
32:27
perspective on the idea of self-sabotage.
32:35
Those thoughts aren't coming from you.
32:38
Those aren't your original thoughts.
32:42
They are amplification and echoing.
32:46
Of the thoughts we've heard
32:46
throughout our cultural experience.
32:52
So the, the sooner we accept
32:52
that, the sooner we realize
32:57
this isn't me doing it now.
32:59
It is a part of my experience. That I am fully responsible for.
33:05
I am responsible for this experience,
33:05
but it is not me inherently
33:10
that is causing this to myself. It is not my fault to allow that
33:12
thinking to exist, but to not claim
33:18
it as my own because it's not.
33:22
It's an echo. It's not your own thinking.
33:24
You didn't come out of the
33:24
womb going, wow, I'm terrible.
33:29
Look how bad I'm, that Didn't happen.
33:33
That didn't happen. You came out of the womb desiring
33:35
love, and where there isn't
33:41
love, other things replaced it.
33:46
And then when we desire love, and
33:46
we're unfamiliar how to receive it.
33:55
Substances play a great role in
33:55
that motherfucker because they're
34:00
as close as we can get to it.
34:07
Yep. Ugh. 100%.
34:10
And that's been the the biggest
34:10
journey in self-awareness process
34:14
the whole time too, right? Of like, I'm not an addict, I.
34:19
Tendencies. I have experiences. I grew up in an environment where
34:21
that was very normalized, right?
34:24
So it's, uh, yeah, it's, it's really
34:24
interesting to sort of zoom out
34:29
in that way or disassociate, um,
34:29
based on, based on those things.
34:34
So, yeah, and I mean, In regards to all
34:34
of this, all the topics that we talked
34:42
about throughout this, I'd love to know
34:42
what are some of, you know, your final
34:47
thoughts around navigating your fear,
34:47
navigating your Sabo self sabotage.
34:53
You know, even though it's impossible to
34:53
do so, even, you know, imposter syndrome.
34:59
Um, That you know is like leading
34:59
you slowly but surely to courage
35:04
and motivation to be known.
35:06
I think the first thing
35:06
I'll say to this is accept.
35:13
Accept your current experience. Don't resist it.
35:18
Accept that right now you're shy to
35:18
take credit, except that right now
35:26
you're struggling to see your value. Once.
35:31
Once you've accepted it, pay attention.
35:36
Because if life is a duet, if
35:36
life is a holistic experience, is
35:42
your attention on all of the good?
35:49
That's one sided. Cuz it's not all good in the world,
35:50
it's not all good In your experience,
35:55
or is your attention on all of the c.
36:00
Well, that's not true because
36:00
it's not all challenge and
36:04
bring balance, bring harmony. If you're observing in yourself
36:06
that right now, my attention is
36:11
really on this feeling of doubt,
36:11
make a list of all of the things
36:16
you've accomplished in your life. You're more badass probably than you
36:19
give yourself credit for, and you'll
36:22
get to a point where you realize
36:22
your emotions are valid and they.
36:28
but they are not all that you are. The challenging thoughts that
36:32
you're having right now, they are
36:36
valid and they matter, but your
36:36
thinking is not all that you are.
36:43
The things that you're doing in the world
36:43
and efforting to accomplish, they matter.
36:49
But they are not all that you are.
36:52
Well, that's a wrap. Again, this is Voice and Impact podcast.
36:56
My name is Adam. Thanks for being here.
36:59
Thanks for being you. Thanks for doing all the good things
37:00
you do, and we'll see you next week.
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