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Sitting with us at the table.

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We have Cam Newton, content

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creator and former NFL

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player.

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Enjoy our conversation.

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Take a seat, get comfortable because

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it's time to stay a while. I'm your host,

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Tommy Vincent, and today we

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have Cam.

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At the table.

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Thank you so much for having me.

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So we have our son Tanner,

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who's here right here. That's

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Tanner, he's at

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VCU. And then

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Hadassa, she's at Spellman. And

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then all I have five kiss hold on

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beautiful seventh grandchildren.

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Y'all.

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Look, I got

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seven children, children

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going on the way, so God willing

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is eight. So I've

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always seen my seventy year old self

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for Thanksgiving and the holidays,

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a house.

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Full of people. That's the only

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thing that makes me happen. And yeah

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like that as a whole.

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That thought gets me to

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why I can walk away from not

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only the game, but walk away from you

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know, my kids, knowing that I'm doing something

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to best suit than

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the laws.

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Let's talk about what you just said about Thanksgiving

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and clearly you have a vision for what that looks

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like for your family.

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Where did that vision come from?

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I come from family, And

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if we didn't have anything else, we had each other

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going up in Atlanta, where

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I would not say

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we were poor, but

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I knew we didn't have what most people

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had.

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And my father, my mother and my

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grandmother was able to.

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Provide a foundation

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of truth, a foundation of honesty,

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a foundation of religion and

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Christ that it's stuck

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with everybody.

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My mom had three boys. I'm the middle,

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and my

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cousin's relationship with me was

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almost brother sibling

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life. And the

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best times were not

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just the.

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Holidays, but our ability

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to

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get our.

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Aunties to let us spend the night or

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get them to spend a night over our house or whatever.

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And that's all we knew. Like that that was something

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that didn't cost anything. It was like

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those experiences up there, you remember when

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not who go go down there and get the

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covers for the palette or you know, hey

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I do that?

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What if I go get it?

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You gotta fold up the you know those

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things is something that as

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you grow old and

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you say, what has dominion.

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Over my life outside

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of my religion, it's family.

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Well, family is everything to me.

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We have our family, lifestyle brand

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Vincent Country, and our three pillars are our faith,

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our family, and food. So

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when you talked about Thanksgiving, that really

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resonated with me because.

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The table means everything to me. Who

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saved my life?

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And I recognized

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early on that my grandmother's

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table, it did so much

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for everybody, and she had a community table.

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So regardless of all the things that

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were taking place, all the craziness

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and life happening all around

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us, no matter what, when

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people came into my grandmother's kitchen,

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there was just this.

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Thease and healing that I

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felt happening.

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So for me, when I had my family

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one, I had some things I knew I didn't want

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to bring forward into my family's

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life. But

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one of the things that I knew was a musk was

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our ability to gather at

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the tape. So when you

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think about your seven children and

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that vision you have for Thanksgiving, it

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what is the emotion

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you want your children to experience that

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they will carry forward even when you're

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not here?

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Unity

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And I speak open about my situation.

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My life really

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turned when I had a child

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outside of my relationship raw

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But truth, what

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America or what society would

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have wanted me to do is have a hush child

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or not give him the same attention that.

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Other children that I already had. And

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that's not how it was raised. I

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would have thought in my religion.

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I have the white kids,

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white piggot fence, you know, hardworking,

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you know, huxtable lifestyle.

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But that really wasn't what it was. When

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Caesar Lorenzo Newton came into

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this world. His

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purpose was more

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for me to understand it's

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okay to be authentic, but

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you have to owe a service to

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being aware to how to deliver your

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message, knowing the difference. As

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we're talking about analogies for the table,

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knowing one to serve it

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with vinegar or to

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serve it with honey, treat

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different seasonings. But

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unity is everything to move and

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I would say I would have a blended family, but

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when the kids are united, that

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never leaves. And

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it was that's the pass

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down, like we always say in our culture, is passed

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down trauma. But

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that will be a pass down tradition that

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I hope that was set forth way

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before me, the.

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Tradition of unity.

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Correct.

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So you had your son and

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it wasn't a hush child in

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the process, there was

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other people heard in the process.

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Correct of that?

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So how did you manage

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loving someone that means

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a great deal to you in which you

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know there may have been some

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repentance, if you will, because

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of how you made them feel and love

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this beautiful sign that came

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into the world as well. How did you

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do that so that you were

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caring for both of those individuals.

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The thing is a

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lot of people don't soul search.

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What does that mean? Soul searching?

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You gotta heal. I

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was carrying on.

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Or masking issues that

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I didn't even know was real issues.

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Right. I felt pressure from

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my family, natural

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pressure that why

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you're not married.

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Or while

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other people struggling and you know you're not

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Like these are real issues that as

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a person of influence of having a

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following that you suffer internally.

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This is like the Civil War.

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On top of that, the

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ability to relate to somebody

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is no longer in the

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reil. Here's a person at

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the age of really nineteen

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and twenty, I was the

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man of my household with my

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father still being in the house, soul as

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the rock. Still

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to this day, my father is the most influential

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person in my life.

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Now, when you say at nineteen you were

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you were the man.

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Of the household, the source just because

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of the provision that you were providing for the family.

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Absolutely okay. And not only that, the

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name, Yes, it's

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like Cam Newton.

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My brother's name is Klan. That

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last name Newton will always

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bring him back to like, yo you related to Yeah,

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that's my brother, my older brother, Cecil.

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He's a junior, so C J. Newton,

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it would be like yo, you related

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to? Yes.

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So when I say the man of

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the family, my father even knew

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you're going to change the trajectory of this family

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because.

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Of their old field success.

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But you're going to impact the world with your off

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field success.

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And that's what's really what's happening now.

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But you know, to my point of just

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unity, it's so essential

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for that soul searching to happen

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in a way that you really heal.

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And I knew I

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hurt. I knew

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that being in their

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committed situation. I stepped

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out and there there's

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emotional stars there. Being

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mature and understanding is

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something that it comes with maturity.

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Maturity and as my dad

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would always say, with a lot of issues

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that come up, I would always say.

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Pop man bah.

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His odd thing that he would always say is

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still to this day is keep living son, keep

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living with

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with everything that's going on, you

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will understand that Solomon's

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prayer or.

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The gift that God gave Solomon

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was to be wise right.

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So for me, that comes through

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experiences, and when

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I go through experiences, I not only am

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able to lead with direction, I'm

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also able to lead with humility to say,

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you know what, I apologize that.

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I know I hurt you.

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I don't know where it will go, but

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I just want you to know I know I

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hurt you and I'm sorry,

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and that as an alpha

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male of nasculine mail in

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this world of NFL can

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sometimes be the hardest thing for people

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to do. It was hard for me to do it. But

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at the end of the day, when you're at peace with yourself,

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all the other outside noise doesn't

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necessarily murder.

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So I know that

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we're short on time, but I want to

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ask you. I know that you made

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the declaration that you're not a football

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player and you're a YouTuber,

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and clearly I know, clerk,

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that's not who you are. So

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given those two aspects of your life,

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your you know, ability to

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have this stellar NFL career

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as a professional football player

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and your success online.

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If you were to strip all that stuff away,

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who is Cam Newton.

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A hands on father that's

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mad right now that

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I'm not able to see my sir and

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my daughter's basketball game.

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Like I'm that dad.

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And even then, I think a lot of parents kind of get

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in trouble with just being overly

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excited because I'm also that father

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to say some fits your energy, let's go, come

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on, is your energy pitch your body language?

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I'm not dad, and I

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think for me, it's all about

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understanding who you are, and

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honestly, for me, no

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matter where I am and

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who I am and.

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What you think of me, I know that I'm

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not for everybody, and

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that's okay. I'm not expected

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to make everybody feel like

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yo, like.

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I can only be me. And if you feel

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that with me being me, you're

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my kind.

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It runs deeper than race, it runs

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deeper than ethnicity, it runs deeper

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than religion, it runs deeper.

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Than age or whatever.

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It's the ability to say.

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I can agree with that. And

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that's all I try to do. I stay authentically

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me and like

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my dad say.

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Listen, keep living, just

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keep living.

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So Cam, I want to thank you for your

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time today and joining

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me at the stale wild table and having conversation,

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and I wish want to wish you all the best

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and all the things that you endeavor to do, and

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I encourage you to continue to.

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Be thank you, and I'll say this

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as my last words.

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I appreciate these kind of conversations.

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And I tend to get these conversations

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more from women than men

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because it's that ability to bring

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out real emotions and perspective.

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It tends to come from you, guys

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rather than givers, right,