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cults, extreme belief, and manipulation from
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it. I'm Lola Blanc. And I'm
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Megan Elizabeth, resident bad girl. That's
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right. Today our guests are Zoe
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and Lillian, survivors of Midwest Academy
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as well as, in Zoe's case,
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Academy at Ivy Ridge, two behavior
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modification facilities for teens from the
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same organization that's the subject of the
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new Netflix series called The Program.
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Cons, cults, and kidnapping. We have
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changed Zoe's name at her request, but
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that's what we're going to call her today.
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We're going to talk to these ladies about
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how these programs are marketed to parents as
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lovely summer camp-style schools that will improve their
1:43
children's behavior problems, and how very wrong that
1:45
turned out to be. The traumatic ways that
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Lillian and Zoe were brought to the first
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programs they went to, and how Zoe was
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immediately thrown into solitary confinement. Oh, it's so
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heartbreaking. They'll tell us about the levels within
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the program that were impossible to climb, the
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level of control, The experience that force
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them to communicate with only their eyes
2:03
and how they were kept from their
2:05
families who themselves were groomed and taught
2:07
to disbelieve anything their children have been.
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What the As women went through his
2:11
harrowing. There is a lot to get
2:13
into this episode and next week we
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will also have part to stay tuned
2:17
for that the for we get into
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with them Meghan can you tell me
2:22
are called the Is thing at this
2:24
week? Absolutely none of the things I
2:26
was. Interested in this week. It's
2:28
really sad. What was the name of
2:30
the guess that we had on to
2:32
as talking to us up a cult
2:34
of meditation? We loved him so much.
2:37
Knit Joseph ah obsessed with him. Anyway,
2:39
I always think about that because meditation
2:41
as something that I enjoy doing a
2:43
now for whatever couple minutes a day
2:45
what have you may be fifteen or
2:48
something but there's these retreats called that
2:50
pass on our. That. I've always
2:52
wanted to go on and there's a new
2:54
podcast I'm not sure how know it as
2:56
but it's called their a tree and it
2:58
just follows a lot of. Suffering.
3:00
That comes after this your tits And of
3:03
course as always a lot of people have
3:05
great experiences. That. It can cause
3:07
a certain sort of psychosis. and
3:10
most beautiful girl twenty two years
3:12
old ended up taking her own
3:14
life after an eleven hour quiet
3:17
meditation session which can break your
3:19
brain. Oh my gosh. As it's
3:21
heartbreaking and it's such a good
3:24
reminder about not everything. Is for everyone.
3:26
and the most extreme version of a thing
3:28
doesn't necessarily mean added value. That can mean
3:30
it's too much. It's too much. I mean
3:32
I don't know what happened in that situation.
3:35
Obviously I would have to look into it.
3:37
Meditation is amazing for so many people. various
3:39
forms of a i like doing mindfulness, but
3:41
you know, like twelve hours or however many
3:44
hours to someone who's already know talking. and
3:46
I've tried to go to these things so
3:48
many that would. Getting a ticket is like
3:50
the hardest thing to do getting a spy
3:53
at ten years ago. I remember it. Being
3:55
a little bit easier. but now it's
3:57
like the hottest ticket in town as
3:59
to get thought these things and wilde
4:01
yeah sometimes I will be spiraling and
4:03
I think I've talked about this a
4:05
little there were like I just will
4:07
be stuck on something and going deeper
4:09
and deeper into the hall and then
4:11
I like to talk to someone about
4:13
anything else like it doesn't even matter
4:15
if it's related to are talking about
4:17
just like have a human interaction and
4:19
I'll be like oh I think I
4:21
was just like to in my own
4:23
brain like I was too deep in
4:25
the recesses of my own brain does.
4:27
So. I mean like and
4:29
that's obviously different thing because meditate
4:32
in other a lack of stimulation
4:34
can actually produce hallucinations and psychosis.
4:36
yet in certain circumstances and I'm
4:38
sure the hope is that he
4:40
would sit there long enough that
4:42
you would transcend that bought yourself
4:45
and. Be. Free from it forever
4:47
and said i three other I get
4:49
it and but I'm I did go
4:51
on a meditation or to once for
4:54
like seven days but we process there
4:56
at the and you know that the
4:58
meditations lessons right Two hours each. Five.
5:01
Times a day we process that and
5:03
between and had conversations and you know,
5:05
fox when we ate and all of
5:08
these things and still when I got
5:10
back. I remember like Haiti
5:12
and map and hearing the
5:14
sound of like five million
5:16
soldier and screaming and side
5:19
of my boss. Is
5:22
it scared me so badly? I think
5:25
it was just like a like you
5:27
heard an actual auditory hallucination. Oh yeah
5:29
yeah. Oh wow. Completely completely. I mean
5:31
that, but that kind of more common
5:33
than people realize and I and I
5:35
think you know a lack of understanding
5:38
about that can lead people to one
5:40
think they're. Crazy or to think that
5:42
their private a disaster essential fake sop.
5:44
Yeah I went straight for trade they
5:47
got but it's not. A brother says
5:49
hi guys I'm the problem of screaming
5:51
children and I like to. Yeah and
5:54
I was like oh I just lost
5:56
my mind but then it at stopped.
5:58
But like that. I guess. Thank
6:01
god I never got into one of these
6:03
things because. I'll add another. get a
6:05
handle it Anyway, I certainly couldn't. What about
6:07
you? What's the closest thing of your week
6:09
you know? I saw a tweet about my
6:12
friend sent me. Do you know who receive
6:14
Burns's from Blues Clues? This is a guess
6:16
that see I'm fantasies and we became friends.
6:18
So luckily I know I have the biggest
6:21
press on hand. It became friends on my
6:23
face like fifteen years ago when I messaged
6:25
him being like oh my gosh, you're not
6:27
dead and now we You know we we've
6:30
been friends for a long time. I don't
6:32
see him very often, but. Because he
6:34
was a New York that been wonderful
6:36
posting these like very wholesome videos. they've
6:38
gone viral on to talk and such
6:41
where he basically doing the blues clues
6:43
stick where he will allow you room
6:45
to talk. I killed a few question
6:47
and then let you answer but it's
6:49
like for depressed millennials basically like he'll
6:52
have been sitting there on the cup
6:54
of coffee in be like how are
6:56
you doing how you feel and then
6:58
has a theater. It's super wholesome, It's
7:00
super sweet people love it but of
7:03
course the internet. Can not ever
7:05
let us have nice things. So
7:07
now there's a person on Twitter
7:09
close by citing it as says
7:11
it's This Strikes you as anything
7:13
apart from deeply unsettling. You are
7:15
highly vulnerable to the influence of
7:18
sociopaths and mail manipulators. Indeed, you
7:20
may be under the auspices of
7:22
one right now. What hobbies About
7:24
Whole he said why are you
7:26
talking about this is just a
7:28
man doing a video that is
7:31
like a commentary on how lonely
7:33
we all. Feel and how we all
7:35
need someone to talk to as really
7:37
not that serious. it's really not that
7:40
deep. This man just like loves his
7:42
dog and lives in the woods like
7:44
leave have a left alone my guys
7:46
the Zebra Very enthusiastic about these videos
7:48
because it's nostalgic and we are all
7:51
lonely. A Speak for yourself. I have
7:53
five million. Screaming children. and if I
7:55
have an affair. section
7:58
of memories of these these shows that made
8:00
us feel seen when we
8:02
were kids. And so it's tapping
8:04
into that, but it just makes
8:06
me think about, it's so important
8:08
to have awareness about manipulation and
8:10
about high control behaviors and groups
8:12
and people. But it's that same
8:14
thing where once language gets out
8:16
there, then people start to use
8:18
and abuse it and not understand
8:20
what they actually mean. A
8:23
video on the internet of a guy looking
8:25
into camera does not mean that person is
8:28
a sociopath or male manipulator, nor that you
8:30
are automatically ready to
8:32
believe in any sociopath or male manipulator.
8:34
This is not science, this is just
8:36
bullshit nonsense from someone who didn't like
8:39
a video, like calm down. Yeah, I
8:41
would join a Blue's Clues cult, but
8:43
this doesn't sound like he's starting one.
8:45
I don't think he's starting one. He's
8:47
not that into people. I
8:50
think he's gonna say that. But
8:53
yeah, anyway, guys, just come on. Kim,
8:55
let's not throw these words around because they start to
8:57
lose meaning and for sure, in general,
8:59
I feel like once we start to overuse words,
9:01
then the actual reason why we need them
9:03
in the first place becomes degraded. And I
9:06
see that happening a lot with cultic language.
9:08
And I just think it's important to be
9:10
careful about that because there are so many
9:12
people who really need that language and really
9:14
need those terms to help them get through
9:16
an actual traumatic experience. You know what I
9:18
mean? Yeah, that's a really good point. I
9:20
haven't really thought of it like that before.
9:23
I mean, when I was coming out of
9:25
an emotionally abusive relationship, I needed that framework
9:27
so badly. But if I were now seeing
9:29
that framework being used to describe every
9:31
random thing that I didn't like, then
9:34
it wouldn't be useful to me at that point. You
9:36
know what I mean? Great, I like that. Speaking
9:38
of emotionally abusive, the things that these girls went
9:40
through is absolutely terrible. So we're just gonna throw
9:43
a trigger warning up at the top, maybe
9:45
come back and listen to the episode on
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another day if it's too much for you,
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but here they are. Let's get into it.
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Trust Me. Ch-ch-ch-ch-ch. Welcome
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Zoe and Lilly to Trust Me. Thank
11:17
you for joining us, ladies. Thank you for
11:19
having us. Thank you. This is such a timely
11:22
episode to be doing right now. There is a
11:24
new Netflix series that's out that is called the
11:26
program cons cults and kidnapping and both of you
11:28
have experience with not only one of the programs
11:31
named in the series but also additional programs. There's
11:33
so much to get into. I just want to
11:35
start at the beginning. Zoe, why don't we start
11:37
with you? Can you tell
11:39
us about life before Ivy Ridge? Why
11:42
did your family think you needed to
11:44
go there? Like what was the situation?
11:47
I guess I wasn't a troubled teen.
11:49
I didn't have a criminal background. I
11:52
didn't have anything like that.
11:54
I was just not going to school,
11:56
skipping school a little bit, sneaking out.
11:58
My parents are pretty strict. I had like
12:00
an eight o'clock curfew. So all my
12:03
friends were out past eight o'clock and I
12:05
was a freshman in high school and I wanted
12:07
to go and party with my friends. So
12:10
there were some nights I just didn't come home.
12:12
Like I just. Like
12:14
a regular rebellious teenager might do sometimes.
12:17
Sure, okay. And I wasn't out doing
12:19
anything crazy. I mean, I was drinking
12:21
a little bit, maybe smoking a little
12:23
bit of weed, but I wasn't doing
12:26
any hardcore drugs, no, nothing. Just being
12:28
a kid. And apparently my
12:30
parents thought that that was just, I
12:33
was out of control and that I
12:35
needed to be back on track. Initially
12:38
they were like, we really just want you to
12:40
catch up on your schoolwork so you can graduate
12:42
on time. So we found
12:44
these places and they really
12:47
didn't tell me anything about it. I was like,
12:49
okay, cool. That sounds nice. You guys do your
12:51
research. And I just kept doing me. One
12:54
night they were like, all right, well, we have
12:56
a family vacation, pack a stop. So my
12:58
brother and I packed our stuff. We got into the car. We
13:01
drive, I fell asleep. And when
13:03
I woke up, my dad was like, he
13:06
knew I smoked cigarettes at the time. And he's like,
13:08
here's a pack of cigarettes. You can smoke as many
13:10
as you can in the next 20 minutes. And
13:14
then you're walking in that door. And I
13:16
looked over and I was like, okay. So
13:19
that's where that started. Wow.
13:22
Family vacation. But no one kidnapped
13:24
you. At least your parents brought you there, but
13:27
still what a surprise. They
13:29
knew that if they were to
13:31
have tried somebody to kidnap me, I either wasn't
13:33
gonna be home when they showed up or I was
13:35
gonna run away before they even got there. I
13:38
had plenty of exit plans of the house. There
13:40
was like, no way I was gonna let that
13:42
happen. They would have to break down my door.
13:44
I had locks on my door. I was ready.
13:46
Really? It's the right time to get me. Wow. And
13:49
so I just thought it was a huge threat
13:51
that my parents were saying just to get
13:53
me to go back to school and get
13:56
my crap together. And was there, were
13:58
your parents religious at all? No,
14:00
this is just like general parents thinking, our
14:02
kid's out of control, we gotta get her
14:04
back on track. Do you have any sense now
14:07
of how these programs are sort of marketed
14:09
to them at the time? Oh yeah, oh
14:11
yeah. It is basically
14:13
just send your kids here, we will
14:16
show them what's, you know, show
14:18
them the way basically, how to
14:20
respect authority and how to be
14:22
better kids and better
14:24
everything. So
14:27
on the surface, it's like this will help
14:29
your teen. Yeah. Does your teen need
14:31
help? Yeah. Completely marketed wrong,
14:33
like they showed, you know, fun outdoor activities
14:36
and us going places and doing
14:38
things and projects and all these
14:41
things and none of that ever.
14:43
Yeah, but the brochure looks tight.
14:46
I'm like, I want to go there before
14:49
I watch the documentary, very misleading. Like
14:52
does it look like camp basically? Yeah. To
14:55
me it's good, yeah. So that was
14:57
Academy at Ivy Ridge? That was actually
14:59
going to Midwest. That was Midwest, okay.
15:02
Yeah. So taking me to Ivy Ridge, my parents
15:04
told me we were just going for a tour and I
15:06
ended up staying
15:09
and not leaving and my parents were like,
15:12
we'll be back in about a week or
15:14
so to get you. I'm like, okay. Immediately
15:16
I freaked out. They threw me an intervention
15:18
right away. I think I only saw maybe
15:21
two staff members the entire time I was there.
15:23
I don't think I saw any girls while I
15:25
was there. And after about
15:27
a week and a half or so, my parents
15:29
came and got me and they're like, okay, well,
15:31
did you learn your lesson? I was like, oh
15:33
yeah, let's go home. Let's do
15:35
this. And they're like, okay, well, you know, we're
15:37
actually going to visit family first and then we'll
15:40
do that. And we never
15:42
went to family. We went straight to Midwest. Wow.
15:45
They tricked you again with another fake trip.
15:48
Wow. Oh my God. That must have
15:50
felt like such a betrayal. Yeah. Apparently
15:53
they had been doing all this research about
15:56
all these schools the whole time. The
15:58
only one that they had ever told me about. It was
16:00
average. Until. We showed up at Mid West
16:02
and they're like, well, I. Think year old
16:05
be better because it was closer to home.
16:07
Okay, I'm gonna ask you more about that
16:09
in a minute, but Lily at me funny,
16:11
Give us your background in history and how
16:13
you ended up in. So I was the
16:15
typical rebellious. Team I ran with
16:18
google. I. The relationship with my
16:20
father the time was not a good relationship. We
16:22
have such the past that wonderful now.
16:25
And I was on us. I was runway
16:27
for about six weeks straight. And
16:29
he end up finding me. On
16:31
the please fix me up. And
16:33
he took me home. And I
16:36
knew something was wrong right away
16:38
because he did rounds me. He
16:40
was yelling at me. And
16:43
so of course you know, as normal teenagers, they're gonna try
16:45
to see what I can get away with. Honors
16:47
like sitting on the phone tag on the computer
16:49
is like yes or stay at odds with yeah,
16:51
something's up. To
16:54
the next day about it's not have caught in
16:56
the morning. I'm civically Transport
16:58
Services com in the middle of
17:01
the night. While. You're sleeping. On
17:03
that is what? Ten o'clock in the morning
17:05
and. I heard someone knock on our front
17:07
door. I was upstairs my Gp room, all
17:10
male down to what was the recently to
17:12
worry about it. And I was on the
17:14
phone with one of my friends and on the computer of on
17:16
my friends and I told my late. To the
17:18
yeah they find kneel down for me to come
17:20
downstairs and eyes were both them that. If
17:22
I want them back and fifteen minutes that something
17:24
was wrong, I would not back. and fifteen minutes.
17:27
I was than can cost and
17:29
placed into a back of a
17:32
car and transported to and sit
17:34
on a Mexico whoa. Whoa.
17:36
And which which one was this one? Just
17:38
as a passer by the sea and pay,
17:41
did you have any sense of where you
17:43
are going or what is less at all?
17:45
I had no idea. Ah man. They.
17:48
Started telling me. When we
17:50
were in the car. That. We
17:52
were going to school. And I was able.
17:54
This is ridiculous. Who needs to be handcuffed to
17:56
go to school now? And.
17:58
then the like oh yeah It's in Mexico.
18:01
It's great." And I was like, no.
18:04
They did not tighten the handcuffs around me
18:06
enough, so I started to slip the
18:08
handcuffs off of my hand
18:11
to them. The male transport person
18:13
reached back behind the seat to where
18:15
I was, shoved the handcuffs back
18:17
down on my wrist, and squeezed them so tight
18:20
I had bruises for two weeks. Obviously,
18:23
the experiences within these programs are traumatizing,
18:25
and we'll get into why that is
18:28
and the things that happened there. It
18:31
seems like every story, just
18:33
the entrance itself is so
18:35
traumatizing because there's this total,
18:37
people don't know what's going
18:39
on. There's confusion. There's strangers
18:41
suddenly having complete control over
18:44
you and no understanding of
18:46
why or... Zoe,
18:48
you did know that you were
18:50
going to a program, or that
18:52
the program existed, but you'd
18:55
been lied to basically about what it was. I did,
18:57
yeah, as a school. My mom just said it was
18:59
a school for girls, and they had
19:01
some of the best schools. They marketed
19:03
it with a really strong
19:06
school background. You can graduate school
19:08
in two years. You can
19:10
get all your high school done in two
19:12
years. My mom's like, that sounds great. She
19:14
could do that, and then move on with
19:17
her life. We can get into the great
19:19
irony of that in a bed because... Yeah.
19:23
What I always found really funny was the advertisement
19:25
for Casa by the Sea. My parents
19:27
actually went down and visited the facility
19:29
before they sent me, and they were
19:31
told also with the advertisements that
19:33
we could go horseback riding on the beach, and
19:35
we were right on the side of the ocean.
19:37
We could look out the windows. We were not
19:40
allowed to look out windows. I never seen a horse while I was
19:42
there. Wow. Yeah.
19:44
They were obsessed with you guys not
19:46
looking out windows to a point that...
19:49
I mean, I get it. They
19:51
weren't allowed to know the time. No. It's
19:55
such psychological torture. Oh,
19:57
yeah. Wow. Zoe,
19:59
can you... talk a little bit more
20:01
about the Ivy Ridge experience. So you
20:03
said that you never saw any other
20:05
girls, like what happened in that two
20:07
weeks? Yeah, it was like about a week and
20:09
a half, almost two weeks. I walked
20:12
into like the main room where
20:14
you walk in like the parent meeting room. My
20:16
parents did not walk in with me. They kind
20:18
of just like dropped me off. There were people
20:21
waiting out front. They locked
20:23
arms, locked me in. They're like, okay, well you're
20:25
gonna... I was like, what the hell? Like, no,
20:28
no. I was like, nope. Tried to turn around
20:30
and they were like, no, your
20:32
parents want you here, you're gonna be here and if you
20:34
can't follow the rules, you're gonna be in there. And I
20:37
was like, alright, just put me in there then. Put me
20:39
in there. So that was an isolation
20:42
room? Yep. Okay, go on. And I don't know
20:44
if it was on the girl side or the
20:46
boy side. I wasn't sure what sides
20:48
were what at that point. I
20:51
just... that's where I was. Immediately.
20:53
Wow. Immediately. Wow.
20:55
And I was freaking out. There was no way they were gonna let
20:57
me out. Like, I was screaming. I
21:00
was scratching. I was pounding. I was yelling.
21:03
There's no windows. It's just a tiny,
21:05
tiny room at the door and you
21:08
got, you know, a little crack under the
21:10
door where you can try to like, like
21:12
Lily said earlier, get fresh air because there's
21:14
no fresh air that circulates through there. Whoa.
21:16
Window where they, you know, peeking on you
21:18
every once in a while. You
21:20
get... First and Ivy Ridge have cameras too. I
21:23
don't believe they had any when I was there. So
21:26
you're in solitary confinement. You've
21:28
been told you're going to school and then
21:30
just suddenly you find yourself in solitary confinement.
21:32
Like you're in prison, which even
21:34
in prison, I think that's wildly unethical and
21:37
should not happen. But especially
21:39
for like a teenager who just
21:41
like stayed out late some nights.
21:43
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23:08
just want to know what that was like psychologically. Like you're
23:10
like multiple days in, like what's going through your
23:13
head? Everything. I, everything.
23:15
I'm first I'm claustrophobic. So
23:17
that in itself was just
23:20
terrible. I was having panic attack after panic attack,
23:22
not even knowing that I was having panic attacks
23:24
or what those really were because I had never
23:26
had one like those before. It was a lot
23:28
like just, you know, why, why did my parents
23:31
put me here? I really wasn't, you know, I
23:33
was thinking to myself, okay, was it that was
23:35
I that bad? Like, you know, I was screaming,
23:37
you know, I'll do better. Like, you know, anything
23:39
I could to get out, but they just were
23:42
like, you know, your parents said that they'll be
23:44
back. So you're just going to be here. We're
23:46
not letting you into, you know, into the
23:48
general population, basically, until they come and
23:50
get you. And so
23:52
during that time, like I said, my parents were researching other
23:54
schools. They were actually visiting
23:57
family that was in the New York area.
24:00
And so during their visit with the family,
24:02
then they came in, like I said, picked
24:04
me back up and took me to MWA
24:06
where again, I was thrown into the school
24:09
and like I was there for
24:11
18 months at MWA. 18
24:14
months. Wow. How long, how long
24:16
were you in the solitary confinement for?
24:19
At MWA or at your first experience. Yeah.
24:23
Yeah. That was that Ivy then for like I said,
24:26
a week and a half. And then like
24:28
I said, parents changed. Oh
24:30
my God. I did not realize that. Yeah. So
24:33
like I said, I didn't, I didn't even meet
24:35
any, any, anybody there. I think it was two
24:37
male staff members that checked in on me who
24:39
came and fed me my food three
24:41
times a day and walked me to the bathroom at night
24:44
to pee. Wow. At
24:46
night? Wow. Yeah. If I had
24:48
to pee during the day, it was just in the
24:51
corner. Oh my God. Oh
24:53
my God. I forgot about that literally until
24:56
just now. Oh,
24:58
so horrible. Did
25:01
you tell your parents when you got out that
25:03
that was what was happening? I did. And
25:05
they did not believe me. Um, right
25:08
off the bat, um, the marketing strategy
25:10
or the, you know, the program directors
25:12
tell our parents, your kids are liars.
25:14
They are nothing but liars, nothing but
25:17
manipulators. You cannot believe a word
25:19
that they say. And literally up
25:21
until last Tuesday, when the documentary came
25:24
out, that was when my parents believed
25:26
me. Wow. Are you serious? Oh
25:29
my God. This must be such a
25:31
crazy time for you and your family
25:33
emotionally. I like, you must
25:35
be going through it. All of us. Yeah. It's
25:37
like, we tried so hard
25:39
to tell people when we all got out
25:42
what had happened to us and we got
25:44
brushed off. Nobody believed us.
25:46
We didn't have groups really. And
25:49
so who's going to believe a bunch of delinquent
25:51
kids, you know, who are in
25:53
a program because they were bad. Yeah. That's
25:55
interesting because one of the cultiest aspects of
25:58
this whole thing from the documentary. to
26:00
me is that it's like the parents are
26:02
in the cult, you know, the de-c of
26:14
the time. So wow. Ye
26:19
like dehumanized to the p you
26:22
say is not trusted an you
26:25
make someone bad, sud matter.
26:28
And that's just re bad
26:31
wasn't bad enough. Le our
26:34
truth in the program. like
26:38
we had to make up so ourselves
26:42
to be one up on that
26:46
we could get points could
26:48
make it to the next mean?
26:51
So there's a point and
26:54
there's a level system start
26:56
off at level one. T level
26:58
six to be able to g able to
27:01
exit the program. so
27:03
many amount of points t the
27:06
next level, but they m possible
27:09
to get to the ne all
27:13
of the consequences an that
27:15
they have in place t exactly
27:18
like a cult. Okay a
27:21
consequence is is when y
27:25
to face the consequences a of
27:28
paper saying I've lear and
27:32
then you lose so many the
27:35
category of the rule t rules
27:39
can be extremely v get
27:44
a rude act, which
27:46
is because
27:48
a staff member fe at them
27:50
rudely or you cou staff
27:53
for that, which is up
27:56
to their perception. T depending
28:00
on how you move to the person that
28:02
day. Many points per
28:04
day. Right. I also saw
28:06
in the doc that one girl got in
28:08
trouble because she made eye contact with a
28:10
boy. Oh yeah. So
28:13
you're not allowed to make eye contact with anyone
28:16
ever, for any reason, just the
28:18
rule. You're
28:20
not allowed to talk without permission.
28:22
You have to basically look down,
28:24
raise your hand, wait for a
28:27
staff to call your name, and then you can
28:29
speak. You don't get to
28:31
speak to any of the girls in your families
28:33
unless their levels are high enough to be
28:36
able to talk to you. So if I'm
28:38
a level one, I can only talk to,
28:40
I think it was like level four and
28:42
up. Level two, level three. Level
28:44
twos could talk to each other,
28:46
but only with a staff listening
28:49
or somebody listening to their conversation
28:51
so that nothing sketchy was
28:53
being said. Apologies. What
28:55
do you mean to talk to your families?
28:57
Was that like something that was referred, like
28:59
your actual family, or did you refer to
29:01
like little clusters of? Oh,
29:03
whatever group that we were placed in
29:05
in the program was
29:08
our family. For
29:10
example, when I first got to
29:12
CASA, I was put in Glory
29:15
Family. And then when I transferred to
29:17
Midwest after CASA shut down, I
29:19
was put in Essence Fam. So
29:21
then, group of Essence girls was
29:23
now your family. I see. I
29:26
see. Lily, can you tell
29:28
us about your first days and
29:30
what that experience was like? Well, once
29:32
I finally made it to CASA, I
29:36
had staff members trying to speak to me in Spanish.
29:38
I didn't understand anything they were saying. I
29:40
was then taken to a room with
29:43
three Mexican staff
29:45
women members where I
29:48
was strip searched. While
29:50
I was on my period, I was forced to
29:52
take out my tampon in front of them to prove
29:54
that I didn't have drugs on me, even though I
29:56
was not set for drugs. I did not do drugs.
30:00
And then I was placed into a hallway
30:03
full of bunk beds and sleeping girls
30:05
and mattress was placed on the floor
30:07
and I laid there and cried myself
30:09
to sleep and just trying to figure
30:11
out where I was, what was going on, why my
30:13
parents hated me enough to send me away. Why
30:15
would they do this to me? Was I really
30:17
that bad? Do they want me anymore?
30:21
And then from there, you wake up
30:24
the next day and you're
30:26
assigned that whole study, which
30:29
is typically a level four
30:31
and they tell you all the rules
30:33
and you have them for three days, the Hope
30:36
Buddy, and you're supposed to learn all
30:38
of these rules in a three-day
30:41
period while also writing all the rules
30:43
out. Nobody ever
30:45
gets it right. It's a setup for failure. Once
30:49
you're in for a while, things do tend
30:51
to like blur together. So
30:53
a lot of my time at CASA,
30:55
I was there for three months. A
30:58
lot of it did blur. There
31:00
are specific things that I do remember. We
31:03
also were not allowed to look at boys. We had
31:06
to face the wall whenever boys were coming. The
31:08
only time we could see them was in seminars and even
31:11
then, you better not even look at them.
31:13
It was, oh, in Mexico,
31:15
we were not allowed to shave until we reached
31:17
a level three. So by the time I got
31:20
out, it was a joke with my dad. When
31:23
he came and got me from San Diego after
31:25
the program shut down, I lifted up
31:27
my arm and I was like, look, dad, my armpit hair is
31:29
longer than yours. He's like, you're
31:32
disgusting. I'm like, no, you're disgusting.
31:37
You are literally placed in this environment. You
31:40
have no idea what is going on. You
31:42
cannot trust anyone around you because
31:45
all of the other girls are terrified as well and
31:47
they're constantly being told that if they're not working
31:50
their program, they can't go home and they're stuck there. So for
31:52
example, I was sent when I was 15 years old. I
31:55
would have had to sit there until I was 18 years
31:57
old if I didn't work the program. And
32:00
then they put on this, it's
32:02
like a, almost like a Stanford prison experiment. So
32:05
when the girls level up more and more and more,
32:08
they have to tattle tail on
32:10
the other girls, which brings the girls back
32:12
down. And it ends up power
32:14
tripping, but it is literally
32:16
the only way you can graduate
32:18
and get out. To tell
32:20
on people. Exactly. You're required. So
32:23
what does that look like? Is it keeping track
32:25
of how many people you're telling on? Like what was
32:27
the system? No, it wasn't
32:29
like that. If you see somebody breaking
32:31
a rule, you immediately have to
32:34
go tattle tail. Because if you don't tattle
32:36
tail and somebody sees that you saw the
32:38
person breaking the rule, then you would also
32:40
get in trouble. That's so Scientology.
32:44
It's so Jim Jones. I mean, it's
32:46
so every cult. I mean, that's literally,
32:49
keep people completely isolated from each other
32:51
and make sure they're all afraid of
32:53
each other so that they don't communicate
32:55
and like take a stand, you know,
32:58
or pause and think, hmm, maybe there's
33:00
something I could do here. You know,
33:02
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wherever you get your podcasts. What
34:52
was an average day look like? What was
34:54
everyone doing all day? So we would get
34:56
up, they would flip the lights on and
34:58
say we had I think it was like
35:00
30 30 seconds or a
35:02
minute to jump out of bed, get our beds made
35:04
and then get in line and
35:07
wait in line and then
35:09
we would go to breakfast and
35:13
then oh yeah the
35:16
head counts every day
35:18
you'd have to count off
35:20
one, two, every room
35:22
you left and we walked in line structure
35:25
and so that's our hands at our side we're
35:27
pivoting at every corner and no
35:30
talking nothing. Were there classes? We
35:32
were at the back of the
35:34
head of the person in front of you. Yep
35:36
and if you looked at a line that was
35:38
a consequence. If you looked down that was a
35:40
consequence like it was. Even if your eyes moved.
35:43
Wow I mean it sounds more
35:46
restrictive than a lot of prisons.
35:48
I mean like it was it's
35:50
insane. So were you
35:53
both at Midwest at the same time?
35:55
We were. Okay is that how y'all
35:57
met then? Okay,
36:00
so did you ever tattle on each
36:03
other? No. Sorry, I had
36:05
to know. I
36:07
had a very strict role that
36:09
I would secretly tell people, like,
36:11
don't do anything blatant in front of me
36:13
because I'm not going to stitch on you, but if I have to
36:16
or I'll be in trouble, I'll do it. Please
36:18
don't make me use the baby the bad way. Please
36:20
don't do that. When would you tell them that?
36:22
When would you have the time alone to kind
36:24
of make a point like that? So
36:27
at night, you were either a
36:29
bunk leader or a bunk buddy.
36:31
And if you were a bunk buddy, you were on the top bunk,
36:33
and if you were a bunk leader, you were on the bottom. And
36:36
when I was a bunk leader, I would wake up the girl, the
36:38
new girl that I would get, and
36:40
because you have to go everywhere with your buddy. So
36:42
I'd wake her up and I'd be like, hey,
36:44
I have to pee. So we go to the bathroom,
36:46
and on the way to the bathroom, I'm like, hey,
36:48
don't do nothing stupid so I have to snitch on
36:50
you. Don't make me do that. Like,
36:52
I'll just leave you be, you leave me be. And
36:57
because of that, a lot of my bunk buddies love me. So
37:02
the only way to have a conversation with somebody is
37:04
to walk to the bathroom in the middle
37:06
of the night, essentially. Yeah, because the night
37:08
staff typically had no idea about any of
37:11
the rules or what we had to do.
37:13
So it was literally the only time we
37:16
could sneak a conversation. Basically,
37:18
the program is doing everything within its
37:20
power to prevent people from becoming friends.
37:23
But were you making friends slowly,
37:25
sneakily anyway? Like how did that work? These were
37:27
the only girls that we saw on a
37:30
daily basis for months,
37:32
years at a time. And
37:34
if we, you know, we weren't allowed to speak,
37:36
but we made lots of eyes. Like
37:39
we spoke with our eyes. Right. Like
37:41
you could tell what somebody needed
37:43
or wanted just by looking
37:45
at them and you had to just make sure that nobody
37:47
was looking at you while you were looking at them
37:49
so that you didn't get in trouble. But
37:52
they were, they became family. Like
37:54
I didn't speak to my parents after I
37:57
got to Midwest for about six months or
37:59
see the. like speak to them at all,
38:01
like no phone calls, no nothing. So
38:04
when you have just these faces, these girls,
38:06
all day, every day, and they're the only ones
38:08
that are going through what you're going through, you
38:10
kind of all bond together.
38:12
Yeah, yeah. You know,
38:14
it's amazing. Like, I feel
38:16
like already just in real, regular life, like girls
38:19
can kind of like look at each other and
38:21
like communicate a lot. I mean, everyone can, but
38:23
I feel like it's, girls be
38:25
doing that. That must be like
38:27
on steroids. When you're in that situation,
38:30
like you're communicating paragraphs and paragraphs with
38:32
your eyes because there's no other way
38:34
to do it, right? Yes. That's
38:37
amazing. And like little superpower. Yeah. Yeah,
38:40
what strikes me is how bizarre it
38:42
must be to live in the normal
38:44
world now where somebody is just like
38:46
looking at you and you're like, what do you
38:48
need? What are you thinking? Blah, blah, blah, blah.
38:50
And they're like, they're just like, nothing. I'm just
38:53
like looking at you. I can't
38:55
imagine like trying to
38:57
reframe all of that trauma now.
39:00
Yeah. You don't really, you spend
39:03
your time anticipating everyone's needs around
39:05
you. It's
39:07
literally like you were in an abusive relationship
39:09
and you were waiting for just
39:12
the change of the tone, the
39:15
change of the facial expression. You do
39:18
that with literally everyone in your life.
39:20
Right, right. Oh, that is
39:22
an unwanted like extra perception
39:26
that nobody needs to have. Nobody should have ever
39:28
had. Yeah, it's like hyper hypervigilance.
39:30
Yeah, totally. So I
39:33
wanna know more about just like, now
39:35
you're both at this school or school in
39:38
quotation marks program
39:40
together. And like
39:42
how much did you advance? Did
39:44
you, were you punished frequently? Like
39:46
what just like kind of paint the picture for us.
39:49
I mean, but whoever wants to take that. Oh,
39:52
yeah. Yes.
39:57
I didn't wanna work the program. I
39:59
wasn't. I just I couldn't
40:01
fathom what they were trying to force
40:04
upon me like I just I
40:06
didn't in my mind It was like this is so
40:08
messed up like like I just I'm not
40:10
gonna do it I just tried to focus
40:12
on school or on doing the school work
40:15
but just focusing on school
40:17
work isn't good enough because you have
40:19
to move up in your program and
40:22
If you don't do that, then you're
40:24
resisting and if you're resisting you get
40:27
put in intervention So was there why go ahead?
40:30
Was there any way like I know
40:32
you said that you kind of would
40:34
need to be Reporting people to move
40:36
up like was there anything else that
40:38
you could do to move up like
40:40
no That was it and just
40:42
like stay keeping your head down and doing your work kissing
40:45
ass That
40:48
everyone in your your family liked
40:50
you Including all
40:53
of the staff around you if you
40:55
didn't have everybody like you while also
40:57
telling on them you were not advancing
40:59
Wow, that's a pondering. Yeah, that's
41:01
pretty impossible situation Again,
41:04
um Zoe you're also you were starting to say something
41:07
else Yeah, so I did not
41:09
advance really I made it to level three
41:11
That's the highest level that I made it
41:13
to but I constantly was dropping levels because
41:15
I was constantly breaking
41:17
rules or getting consequences and Just
41:21
resisting the program in general. And
41:23
so yeah, I ended up in intervention quite a
41:25
few times You
41:28
know for weeks at a time
41:30
sometimes Lily I
41:32
know is in for months at a time So
41:35
it's it's crazy and like when you get
41:37
out of intervention If you know
41:39
they decide you're okay to get out of intervention
41:41
they don't put you back into your families right
41:44
away it you go to worksheets
41:46
afterwards and Worksheets is
41:48
a whole nother fun story where they put
41:50
you in another room and you're at a
41:52
table and you get
41:54
self-help Tapes, so nothing but
41:57
Zig Ziglar and Tony Robinson.
41:59
Oh my God over and
42:01
over and over and you would
42:03
listen to a portion of it
42:05
and then you would have to write down what you learned
42:07
and then you would turn that paper in and have to
42:09
be a full front page and then you turn it in
42:12
and then they play it again and you would do this
42:14
all day long all day long. You were
42:16
getting tortured with self-help programs that is
42:18
absolutely insane. You've never heard of
42:21
anything like that. Yep they're
42:23
even playing those tapes while we were in an intervention sometimes
42:25
like put the boombox
42:27
right outside the door. They
42:29
also played them while we were eating our food. Do
42:33
you get triggered the second you hear
42:35
a self-help person speaking now? I can
42:38
only imagine. They're nodding. They're nodding yeah.
42:43
I'm sorry. An intervention was that also the
42:45
same thing like isolation or what did
42:53
that mean? Yeah it was intervention
42:56
was isolation room OSS. It
42:58
was that we when we were
43:00
there we called it intervention because that's when they were
43:02
playing the tapes because you were supposed to be
43:04
getting an intervention. You were supposed to be reprogramming
43:08
yourself. What a way to
43:10
reprogram people. Just torture them with
43:13
information that they don't want. I'm sure that's going
43:15
to work really well. Yeah
43:17
somebody who's paid a lot of money
43:20
to go see a Tony Robbins lecture.
43:22
I feel really good right now. I
43:28
feel bad because our parents
43:30
paid a lot of money.
43:32
Yeah that's a really good
43:35
point. These programs are not
43:37
cheap. These are money making
43:39
machines because you guys are
43:42
basically doing all the labor
43:44
and they're paying people practically
43:46
nothing to work there which we can get into
43:48
later. But at the end of the
43:51
day this was just a way to make
43:53
a shit ton of money Right.?
43:55
Yeah Yeah. Okay So there'd
43:58
be intervention as punishment. Mint
44:00
and then after intervention worksheets. He
44:02
said. And then you could get back
44:04
into your family if you like. Did all of
44:06
that. The right. What? Impact
44:09
does that have on your
44:11
behavior? Did you guys like.
44:13
To. Start falling in line Mark as you are
44:16
living in fear all the time. Like what
44:18
have powers that. For. Me: yeah.
44:21
I did. I after like my third time
44:23
in Interventions I think I would my third
44:25
stint in there. I was in there for
44:27
about three weeks, four weeks and I broke.
44:29
I was like okay. I will submit. I
44:32
will do what you want me to do. I
44:34
will work this program. I will do it. But.
44:37
In my like it's deep down I was
44:39
like right to speak it, speak it. Take.
44:42
It submit, do advantage during which
44:44
exactly and that it it won't
44:46
be that bad. And. So
44:48
I never went back to intervention. After that am
44:51
I said. I, I I tried. I. I
44:53
did try to work the program but you
44:56
may get to level three and then you
44:58
get to finally go to a seminar called
45:00
parents. You know, parent child
45:02
where you get to see your parents. And I
45:04
was the first time I'd seen my parents. And
45:06
eight months, Six months and you can't seal your
45:08
parents until you make it to that level. Yet
45:11
and. It's some to never make it to that
45:13
level so they never get to see their parents other
45:15
an air. Ah, And
45:18
I just wanted to be able to get. In
45:20
front of them. So if I was able
45:22
to tell them to their faith what was
45:24
happening, they wouldn't make me stay any longer
45:26
apply that period of time. They were so
45:29
brainwashed by the program because they had to
45:31
do their own seminars. That.
45:34
If. I were to try to tell them hey, take
45:36
me out here they would have been. Dropped.
45:38
That that second? he because basically
45:40
they've already been primed like. Prepared.
45:43
For what would happen if you how to respond
45:45
if you say that to them? Is
45:47
immediately they tell them brawl remember You know your kids
45:49
are going to tell you right away. Take Me home.
45:52
And they prepare them for that before they
45:54
even go into seminar. On. Guys.
45:57
And what is like, how often are they doing some.
46:00
the parents. About every six weeks. Yeah.
46:03
And were people able
46:05
to talk on the phone with anyone prior
46:07
to that? Not at all. No. Unless you
46:09
were a level 3 you got a phone
46:12
call once a month. Other than
46:14
that, by the way, phone calls
46:16
were completely monitored. The staff would sit there
46:18
and listen to you. But if you said
46:20
anything that they didn't agree with, they would
46:22
immediately hang up the phone call. You
46:24
would get put in isolation and they
46:26
would call your parents back and be like, they're
46:29
trying to manipulate you. And
46:31
then you get back to level 1.
46:34
Yeah, right back to level 1. So you start right from
46:36
the beginning. If you're a level 3, 4, 5,
46:39
if you go to intervention, you start right back at
46:41
level 1. And what's the youngest, what's
46:44
the age range for kids
46:46
who were there? Oh god, the
46:48
youngest girl there I think was
46:51
11, maybe 12. I
46:53
knew a girl that was there when she, I met her when
46:55
she was 13 and she was already in for like
46:57
two years. Oh my
46:59
god. What if you
47:02
never advanced, I mean, and you're just there for
47:04
that many years? I mean, that is crazy.
47:07
Crazy crazy. I mean,
47:09
any amount of time is crazy. A week
47:11
is crazy. But for like, you
47:14
know, seven years, that's unbelievable. Yeah,
47:18
I'm wondering, you know, you said, I
47:21
decided to just kind of fake it. But I'm
47:24
wondering at what point your
47:26
actual thinking starts to change
47:28
for real. And you're not
47:31
faking it anymore. Yeah. I
47:34
don't really know. Like I said,
47:36
when I decided like the last time in
47:38
intervention, I was going out and I was just going to do
47:40
the thing. I think I just blocked
47:43
it out. I really have
47:45
a hard time or have had hard
47:47
time remembering a lot
47:49
of specifics, a lot of faces, a lot
47:51
of names, slowly but
47:53
surely they unfortunately keep popping up.
47:56
But it's just been
47:58
a process. That's
48:00
where we'll leave part one for now.
48:02
Come back next week for part two.
48:05
There's a lot more to get into
48:07
with these girls. Megan,
48:09
it's come the time of the episode where
48:11
I ask you questions. So I'm going to
48:14
ask you, do you think that
48:16
there was a world in which you could have
48:18
been sent to one of these programs? Oh, that's
48:20
a good question. Actually I
48:22
do remember a time in high school where
48:24
my mom and I were getting along so poorly,
48:27
but she did recommend some sort of
48:29
boarding school. Maybe
48:31
I recommended it and she agreed and we got
48:34
like a brochure, but I think it was more
48:36
of just like a Hogwarts.
48:40
It wasn't the study magic. Bro, you almost went to
48:42
Hogwarts. Tell us. I'm
48:44
just saying, I do
48:46
not think the two could be compared. It
48:49
was like a pretty building and I think
48:51
it was just like private school. So
48:54
very different. Who
48:56
knows? We didn't look that far
48:58
into it and it did say that it was
49:00
like behavior modifying. So it could
49:03
have been terrible. It could have been terrible. I don't know. Were
49:05
you rebellious? Were you doing things that... Well, that's
49:08
the hard thing to know when you're raised in
49:10
a super strict environment. It's like,
49:13
was I rebellious or
49:15
was I just like wanting to paint my nails? I
49:17
don't know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it
49:19
sounds like no. I mean, I think I
49:22
was to a degree, but
49:24
I snuck out to a guy's house
49:26
and spent the night once. What
49:29
do you want me to say? I'm crazy. Yeah,
49:33
I was not. I mean, I
49:36
wanted to hang out with boys for sure and
49:38
stay out late, but I never drank ever. I
49:40
still never drink. That's right. And I
49:43
never smoked. I never did dry. I
49:46
was really not a rebel
49:48
kid. I would do those things. I once, like
49:50
the first time I smoked weed was with this guy
49:52
I was dating and then he dropped me off at
49:54
home and my parents were like, we need to have
49:57
a serious conversation with you guys. We're like so high.
50:00
And they're like, what is going
50:02
on? And I couldn't stop laughing
50:04
even though I was so
50:06
scared. And to this day, it
50:08
was the worst moment of my
50:10
life. That's terrible. Yeah,
50:12
I was rebellious, but a lot
50:15
of kids are in jubicin. To
50:17
this kind of torture that's worse
50:19
than some... I mean, that's the
50:21
thing. It's not about their behavior
50:23
at all. It's about the
50:25
perception of their behavior. And in some cases,
50:27
it just seems like a nice thing that
50:29
could be helpful. And it's not even related. So
50:33
it has nothing to do with the
50:36
actual kid's behavior. But it is interesting
50:38
how when we perceive kids as
50:40
being bad kids or as being in need
50:43
of something like that. Well, some kids... I
50:45
mean, I wish I would have asked them
50:47
this. If your kid is beyond the scope
50:49
of normal rebellious... I'm using quotation marks.
50:52
You guys can't see me. It's just
50:54
full. I can see me. For
50:56
some reason. Keeps doing it. What
50:58
would they suggest you do? Because
51:02
I mean, I do know I had a friend
51:04
and... Well, actually, it was the very same boyfriend
51:06
I was smoking weed with who did have to
51:08
go to military school because he was going to
51:10
go to jail or was going to get into
51:12
actual big trouble if something didn't happen. And I
51:14
was just wondering what they would say they would
51:16
do with a kid that was struggling out. Like
51:19
an actual troubled teen. What's the healthy way to
51:22
kind of... Yeah, I wish I would have done
51:24
that. But I didn't news flash them. Well, maybe
51:26
we can look into it and
51:28
discuss it in the next episode.
51:30
Yeah. Yeah. Next
51:33
week's episode is great.
51:35
We can't wait to see you then. Watch
51:38
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51:40
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51:42
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51:45
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51:54
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51:56
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51:59
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