As entrepreneurs and creatives, we know the feeling of pouring our whole heart into our work. Of devoting all our attention to the project at hand in pursuit of something greater than ourselves. How do we balance that quest for our best work with the desire to nurture our long-term, loving relationships? How do we make room for the people we love—and love us back?
What if the qualities necessary to sustain our long-term, loving relationships are the very same qualities we use to sustain our commitment to the creative path?
On this episode of Tracking Wonder, Jeffrey is joined by Susan Piver, renowned Shambhala Buddhist teacher, New York Times bestselling author, and founder of the world’s largest virtual mindfulness community, the Open Heart Project. Susan shares the significance of bringing a constant curiosity to our loving relationships, explaining how the practice of love demands an attention not on the extraordinary, but on the familiar and ordinary. She offers insight around the four noble truths of love, the challenges of standing in love versus falling in love, and the idea of meeting instability together. Listen in to understand why long-term love doesn’t have to be in battle with one or both partners’ devotion to creative work and learn and learn how mindfulness is the practice of love.
[3:19] Susan’s young genius
[7:04] Susan’s experience being hit by a drunk driver
[15:36] How Susan came to practice Buddhism
[21:59] Why Susan is fascinated with love
[26:28] The four noble truths of love
[34:04] The tension between familiarity and mystery
[45:29] The practice of conversation in long-term relationships
[51:22] The challenge of long-term relationships and creative work
[1:02:20] Susan’s insight on negotiating attention
[1:03:58] The noble truths of love through music
[1:09:21] What Susan is pursuing moving forward
Credit: “To You Again” is from Incarnadine by MarySzybist, . Copyright © 2012 byMarySzybist. Used with the permission of the publisher, Graywolf Press, Minneapolis, Minnesota, www.graywolfpress.org.
The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships by Susan Piver
The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say ‘I Do’ by Susan Piver
The Wisdom of a Broken Heart: An Uncommon Guide to Healing, Insight, and Love by Susan Piver
The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm
All About Love: New Visions by Bell Hooks
Incarnadine: Poems by Mary Szybist
Start Here Now: An Open-Hearted Guide to the Path and Practice of Meditation by Susan Piver
“Big Red Sun Blues” by Lucinda Williams
“I Felt the Chill” by Elvis Costello and Loretta Lynn
“I’d Rather Go Blind” by Etta James
“Blue Gardenia” by Dinah Washington
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