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Trent Shelton is

0:44

a man who lives his life

0:46

with great intention. He's

0:50

a man who is unbelievable in his

0:52

home and he's unbelievable

0:54

with every single country. We're talking

0:57

about country upon country upon country

0:59

in which he's welcome to speak

1:01

to move people with his

1:03

words. Trent

1:06

Shelton and I say this humbly, it was a

1:08

blessing for both of us, but it's funny how

1:10

things work out. On

1:13

April 1st of this month, Real Leaders

1:15

Magazine named their 50 top

1:17

speakers in the world. Trent

1:20

was three spots higher than me. But

1:24

when you open up the magazine, he and

1:28

I were one page apart. Here

1:31

was Trent, here was me, wild. And

1:34

then I start reading Trent's next book, or

1:37

the latest, The Protect Your Peace. And

1:40

as I'm reading this book, I've already been moved by

1:42

this man. We keep having these conversations. It was like

1:44

we keep having all these conversations because it was like

1:46

we had known each other for 10 or 15 years,

1:48

so we're making up for lost time to just keep

1:51

getting to know each other. And

1:55

then all of a sudden I'm reading the book and he's

1:57

got a chapter called The Baton. And

2:02

in the chapter about the baton he talks

2:04

about in life these lessons that he learned

2:06

from his mom who passed away while

2:09

he was writing that book. His

2:11

mom talks to him about the importance

2:13

of passing the baton in your life

2:15

and leaving the world better than you

2:18

found it. That is legacy. This

2:21

is a man just like I have the opportunity

2:23

to carry on my mother's legacy. He

2:26

has the opportunity to carry on his mother's

2:28

legacy. This

2:30

is one of the most sought

2:33

after speakers in the world today.

2:36

He will move you with his words like

2:38

you are not going to believe. It

2:43

is a blessing that his mom lives so intentionally

2:45

and his father has lived so intentionally his father

2:47

is still with us. To

2:49

teach him the importance of living life the

2:51

right way so when you pass the baton

2:53

in life you leave the world better than

2:55

you found it. Trent

3:00

Shelton it

3:02

is an honor for me a man

3:04

that I look to so that I can

3:07

get better. It's an

3:09

honor for me to be able to pass this

3:11

baton to you today. Ladies and

3:13

gentlemen get off your feet for

3:16

Trent Shelton. I

3:20

can't run a relay right

3:23

now I'll

3:25

probably burn

3:27

out but

3:30

I want to just

3:32

send some special thank

3:46

yous to Ben. I mean man

3:50

it's rare to encounter

3:53

such a soul in this industry that cares

3:55

the way he does and

3:57

I hope y'all I'm sure you know that but I hope

3:59

you really appreciate that. You know who he

4:02

is on stage, who he is off stage. I mean, Ben,

4:04

I'll probably stand in one place today because I did your

4:06

workout today. So I can't feel my

4:08

legs. Who was in there with us today, right?

4:10

Yeah, right. My legs are just like trembling. But

4:13

he's a guy who says to stand. He's a guy who motivates me.

4:15

He's a guy who inspires me. So you guys are lucky to have

4:17

him as your coach. You guys feel blessed by Ben? Also

4:21

Sal, man. Gosh. Yeah, you're right. When we, after you

4:23

finished speaking, I went in there and got my mind

4:26

right. Cause that guy right there brought it. Did he not bring it? Yes.

4:29

And so

4:32

many are great people. I mean, I want to just

4:34

jump right into this really quick

4:36

and always do this for every speaking engagement.

4:38

And I just asked for some participation from you guys. This

4:41

is about you. It's not about me speaking. It's the conversation

4:43

and I want to have a real conversation on this conversation. Can I

4:45

be real with y'all today? I don't have

4:48

any power points. It's not a keynote speech. It's a conversation

4:50

and I want to help better your life by being transparent.

4:52

And I want to just say this off top. We weren't

4:54

born to be perfect. We were born to be real. We

4:57

need more real leaders out here, not perfect leaders. I

4:59

know we want to protect our brands. I know we

5:01

want to look like it online, but we need more

5:03

real because we connect with real heart to heart. People

5:06

need to see the real you hear your real story

5:08

and it's okay. You go through us. The analysis bill was talking.

5:10

I went through the hardest two years of my life and

5:13

I wasn't going to talk about this and I'll try to fast

5:15

forward this, but losing my mother, I mean, that's

5:17

one of my best friends, my best friend

5:20

and losing her to cancer. It was tough

5:22

for me. And as I was writing this

5:24

book, protect your peace, everybody talks about where did you get

5:26

these principles from? Yeah, it was a lot of wisdom since

5:28

2009, but in 2021, seeing my mother in

5:31

hospice for six

5:34

months, seeing her gas for air. I

5:37

realized in that moment that man, I don't know where my

5:39

PC is and I had to write down

5:41

those principles and live by those principles to get

5:43

myself that experience. Two days

5:45

after my mother died, some of you know the story is familiar

5:48

with my story. My daughter goes to the ICU. She almost passed

5:50

away at four years old. Well, I mean,

5:52

I see you, my mother passed. I mean, my grandmother

5:54

passed away. And So this

5:56

take me back to back to back. I'm like 2022

5:58

is going to be my year. Anybody. Right

6:00

right? Here's what we're doing is my years

6:02

we twenty four and my year enough. our

6:05

swinging swinging so is mine. So.

6:07

Yeah.because, it's when it's way into one of my

6:09

prayers. We've got I want be my year, But

6:11

I do want to slow down Alumnus. And

6:14

I'm also play my nephew dollars a year and don't

6:16

tell you when you get a certain age. Got a

6:18

humble yourself. So my

6:21

nephew called me out a Memorial Day's it

6:23

is I would say you do to be

6:25

Massimo So yeah just saw my shoes sweaty

6:27

because up omaha I'll follow our way of

6:30

religious when all else a tsunami I would

6:32

like the dead allied Omar does What is

6:34

the North. Adams.

6:36

It was my. An outsider.

6:38

Supreme. Sides puts

6:41

me. In

6:43

A Ransom are Julie's. Completely some

6:45

spots. Been

6:48

more smarts cells and said allow it

6:50

to hear any by recent arrest the

6:52

answer is your be was a speedy

6:54

recovery. Noting that of my

6:56

preferred some respects sort of a

6:58

Bally's. The. My daughter gave me. Some

7:00

of us are to blame for myself. More

7:04

towards the my wounds. A

7:06

sort of smell odor. Is

7:08

coming from. Him. I will

7:10

has infected. In and

7:12

what a Hyperbaric! So out of your my you

7:14

been in a hyperbaric chamber but his oh my

7:17

gosh two hours a day five days a week

7:19

because I had a risk them are forging cut

7:21

off. A.

7:23

Doing all this armaments have been is person to

7:26

the world and habits of Reed said my piece

7:28

and all these things that I see someone to

7:30

sell ya right now. So life is good accessories

7:32

and I know you know that were life of

7:34

them. It's as soon as the Brady Bunch of

7:36

Beauty. And I want everybody

7:38

to develop a perspective that everything is or

7:40

power. Say power. Your

7:42

perspective to be one or two days, your

7:44

prison or your power. A

7:47

present respect themselves like this is Sandra

7:49

Systems Lord Jesus Everybody talks about it

7:51

in so me I might be thinking

7:53

this. That's easier said than done. Been.

7:57

That's. Easier said than done. And

7:59

I still be there. The Farm every day is

8:01

easier said than earth's. Draven. He

8:03

was easy and number two minutes residency. Hopefully I'll

8:06

get that is more. This is easier said than

8:08

done. What you did it was because you want

8:10

a better. I do. It.

8:12

Ourselves even when it gets real for

8:14

you when you get serious revenue for

8:16

fifteen years. Reason

8:19

I'm done this because they also and out

8:21

of business before I didn't have some see

8:23

to be them up with centerpiece my best

8:25

friend committed suicide so you see me for

8:27

like this are my age of our money

8:29

to the passengers comes out because it's a

8:31

to mimic an amazing amount of promise some

8:33

of us our promises what words aneurysm for

8:35

him is what access to members over doctor

8:37

been. A

8:40

human being. A time when my mother is so

8:42

out a choice of oh that is I had

8:44

a choice and everybody wonders that had a choice

8:46

to quit. Man

8:48

a solid team individuals in this community. I'm around

8:50

a senseless you take a break I have one

8:52

person from and or same name is not a

8:54

photo by such short notice It embrace Our pay

8:57

your bills were as the years. I've

8:59

pretty much. But even

9:02

or no signs are to figure out who I

9:04

was on a sounds and a game So permissions

9:06

arrest but I didn't your muscle for me some

9:08

stuff. Because

9:11

I know my mother's and more than four deaths

9:13

to be the depth of my purpose in the

9:15

depth of murdering someone just sit. And because I

9:17

know a lot of of Bill Greece degree from

9:19

I'm awesome Afraid of awesome. What? I'm also business

9:22

Understand this. Please

9:25

Concerned greatness. In

9:27

our lives No moderator decision, Race.

9:31

A Raise or see surveys are raised more

9:33

see a some ups and downs of a

9:35

subzero. As you said here, Here's

9:38

a bizarre trim. Are

9:40

you going to ruin your rice mess? Northwest Region

9:42

Everyone you are You can earn your race. If

9:45

is is about zoom, zoom and say right now for

9:47

just about uses a lot of money Doors. That

9:50

is so Salchow. because

9:53

there's no amount of money in the

9:55

world able to provides a piece of

9:57

sorts of billion earn money towards the

9:59

know And he told me this and I wanted

10:01

to tell you, I said, Trent, financial freedom, everybody wants to

10:03

reach it, but financial freedom instead of the mean you're free.

10:08

He said, what you want is time freedom. What

10:11

you want is purpose. So

10:15

what I want you to think about when you leave here

10:17

tonight is how I'm gonna run my race. And I'm gonna

10:19

get into some details about

10:21

how you can do that more efficiently and effectively. 2016,

10:25

can I say our quick story? 2016,

10:31

at that time I'm at the height of my career. My

10:34

Facebook videos are blowing up, everybody knows my name, people

10:36

are bringing me to speak. I do a 32 city

10:38

tour, my own tour. I

10:41

didn't have a live nature or nothing like that, it was

10:43

us. Like I was the person, I was everybody. I was

10:45

my assistant, right? I was, at some

10:47

point I was my assistant, Marsha. You emailed me

10:49

and you heard Marsha, that was me. Like Trent

10:51

is, yeah. You gotta be

10:53

everybody at some point, right? That was me, but I was

10:56

helping everything. I'm always hands on even to this day. 32

10:59

city tour sold out 1,000 people in

11:01

each city and I'll never

11:03

forget I didn't have peace in my life. You

11:06

see, peace is something you will never experience. Please

11:08

write this down. Peace is

11:11

something you will never experience if you keep

11:13

allowing the things you can't control to control

11:15

you. Peace

11:18

is something you will never experience if you

11:20

keep allowing the things that you can't control

11:22

to control you. A lot of

11:24

external things. There's a constant battle between

11:28

the external and internal. It's a constant battle for

11:30

your worth, a constant battle for your peace, a

11:32

constant battle for your confidence.

11:36

And for myself at that time, I knew I had to make some

11:38

hard decisions. Anybody ever been to a place where you gotta make some

11:40

decisions you don't wanna make? Like firing some people that are close to

11:42

you? Right, maybe I'm just the

11:44

only one, anybody, right? People

11:47

that I loved and cared about that really didn't deserve the position,

11:49

but I was like, I'ma hire you because you're my friend. I

11:54

get to San Francisco, To

11:56

this theater, and I'm empty. I

12:01

would not put a camera would armada seems like

12:03

so many people do these days. Salem

12:06

do what are far from a

12:08

said i'm okay when I'm not

12:10

okay, sit on.it will Adults. Number

12:12

for vessel. So. I

12:14

get their do my being in I'm

12:16

putting everybody smiles at last nearby leave

12:19

him motivated and softener dame and aspires.

12:22

For yet, I'm happy. I

12:26

am way to is really I'm sorry

12:28

list judas a job as face next

12:30

Oh Mercy Mariano Rivera the for an

12:32

hour be back up your in a

12:34

minute. Or

12:39

noted is alleyways in about. It is

12:41

dear. Know my

12:43

very nobody around. With

12:46

the real me? are I know? So

12:49

fears or started from now my face because

12:51

I don't have any by were felt like

12:53

this we're just becomes your burdens. Weasel

12:57

Burden Mother thing you been blessed with. Because

13:00

it's so much pressure. So

13:03

much external expectations, so many precepts

13:05

to that we're trying to meet

13:07

him. Serious resources, war within yourself

13:09

and are going to sell some.

13:11

My this is Omar. light of

13:14

some sort to spin another day

13:16

awards or so. But.

13:19

That was me. the solemn battles him. Or

13:22

backstage pride in this figure? Was

13:26

us. Many see my he was

13:28

a homeless man. Enforcing

13:30

Iowa. First thing I do like the lab.

13:32

It's time to get ready on my eyes

13:34

on here. Ah about your eyes. But

13:38

he's approaches energy was different. He

13:41

said I used. To.

13:43

Say your body is here to save. As

13:46

again through So Yeah. Know your name. I

13:48

see your name on a Marquee, I see

13:50

your face and isa mess. It must suck

13:52

to be you. And

13:57

he saw me on. Darling was. No

14:01

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14:03

in seabirds. everybody else is hop he's in.

14:05

From our perspective seems like you up everything

14:07

that means less. I'm. Sorry

14:12

some apart it's a good him away from me or

14:14

grub ordered. Obvious that he has already done. So

14:17

don't feel sorry for me again. I feel sorry for you.

14:19

In are to the first time. And

14:23

he said he i may seem

14:25

like nothing from offered I have

14:27

every day. Because

14:31

I have this. Isn't

14:34

that moment on? Are

14:37

made a similar. Not. A

14:39

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14:41

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14:43

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14:46

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17:54

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17:58

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18:00

lives your life in the way that matters most to you.

18:02

That's number one. Y'all

18:05

know Mel Robbins? So

18:08

Mel is a great friend of mine. She had a pod,

18:10

some of y'all know her pod cast, right? The Mel Robbins

18:13

show. And it's a perfect example of this because I want

18:15

to make this real for you guys. Not just some words

18:17

that I'm talking about because it sounds good for y'all to

18:19

clap and say, oh my gosh, she's so inspirational. Like I

18:21

care about being transformational with you guys. And this was in

18:23

November and Mel invited me on her show. Her show is

18:25

one of the top shows in the world for real, for

18:27

real. And she invited

18:30

me in November and I was gonna be our

18:32

first guest in student said, Trent, this would be

18:34

perfect. You'll be my first guest. We could talk

18:36

about your book. And I said, okay, Mel, cool.

18:38

Put me down. And then I got

18:40

a text message from my wife on my son's

18:42

schedule, Tristan. And

18:44

Tristan is an eighth grade. He had his first

18:46

basketball game of eighth grade on that day. Without

18:50

any hesitation because I live by some

18:52

non-negotiables that might seem crazy to other

18:54

people. But I

18:57

refuse to negotiate on certain things because if you

18:59

can negotiate on some things, you will negotiate on

19:01

a lot of things. See,

19:03

some of us, we don't have boundaries in our life. We don't

19:06

talk about that in the moment. Some of you need to set

19:08

some better boundaries. And so for

19:10

me, I call Mel back. I say, Mel, man, I'm sorry

19:12

to tell you like this, but I can't make it. And

19:14

she's like, why? I said, well, Tristan has his first game.

19:17

She got quiet. She said, that's why I

19:19

respect you so much. She said, most people would

19:21

die to be on this podcast and would give up anything to be

19:23

there to miss out on the opportunity. I said, man, I'm going to

19:25

tell you this. I

19:27

said, you know, I do

19:30

believe there's another opportunity to be on your podcast, but

19:33

I know for sure there's not another

19:35

opportunity to see Tristan play eighth grade again. And

19:41

eventually I did her podcast and it was amazing.

19:45

But I had those boundaries set. How

19:47

many of us in here struggle with setting boundaries?

19:51

Let's be real, right? Okay. I

19:55

want to propose this to you with this idea of

19:57

setting boundaries to protect your peace because a lot of

19:59

us, we think. boundaries are this bad thing. Boundaries

20:02

have gotten a bad rap. Boundaries

20:04

are not barriers. Boundaries are not walls.

20:06

Boundaries are bridges to let the right

20:08

things in. Boundaries are

20:10

not walls to keep the wrong things out. They

20:12

can be. If somebody disrespects your boundaries over and

20:14

over and over again, then they build the wall.

20:16

But some of us, we haven't set boundaries. And

20:20

when you don't set boundaries, you know what you're

20:22

doing? You're teaching people how to treat you by

20:24

what you accept. Some

20:26

of us, we're afraid of the word no. Say

20:29

no. Not that bad.

20:33

A no can be an exclamation mark, a period. Don't

20:35

have to come with a comma. Last

20:37

time I checked, no can be a fool, since of course

20:39

you want to respect certain people and give an explanation. But

20:42

some of us need to set some better boundaries. We

20:44

have no boundaries. We are open to everybody. We're saying

20:46

yes to everybody. You're saying yes when you want to

20:48

say no. You're saying sure when you know you're not

20:50

sure. You know what it's equal to. You being drained,

20:52

you being burnt out, you being stressed. And I'm gonna

20:54

tell you right now, stress is a silent serial killer

20:57

that will murder your peace every single day. What

21:03

boundaries internally do you need to set? A

21:08

boundary with your phone. I got this wild

21:10

boundary. Y'all reading the book and people trip

21:12

out about this. It's my 12 p.m.

21:15

theory. Before

21:17

12 p.m. you cannot reach me. For

21:19

the most part. I live

21:22

my life or do not deserve in real life.

21:25

And some people say Trent, that's crazy. And it might be

21:27

crazy to you. I get it. That's what

21:29

I need for my peace and my soul. And when I show back

21:31

into the world at after 12 p.m., I'm

21:33

more efficient, I'm more productive, I have better

21:35

energy. But some of us

21:37

were giving our energy away so freely and things I

21:39

don't deserve. We're giving our time away so freely. The

21:41

email can wait, bruh. It

21:43

can. And I

21:46

trust myself enough, my gift, enough that

21:48

if the opportunity presents itself, and

21:51

the opportunity can't wait and is that much pressure, then

21:53

the opportunity must not have been meant for my life.

21:55

And I have enough confidence in my gifts and my

21:57

talents and another opportunity will come. Some

22:00

of us were being controlled by

22:02

requests all

22:04

day long. And

22:07

as a parent, I got to say this. I

22:13

think Sal said it. You give one time to raise your kid. I

22:15

know we know that, I know you hear that, but I want you

22:18

to feel that. And

22:20

I've seen it too much in this industry where

22:22

people literally are heroes to the world, but they're

22:24

zeros to their household. Wife

22:28

can't stand them. Husband

22:30

can't stand her. Kids. I

22:34

made up my mind a long time ago. I

22:36

said damn being everything to the world, I'm about

22:39

everything to my world. When I walk into my

22:41

household, I'm my kid's hero. Not because I'm some

22:43

super dead arm special, it's because I spend time

22:45

and I'm present with them. A

22:49

gut mental cue for you when you leave here with

22:51

your kids. Anybody find it distracting when you're with your

22:53

kids, sometimes you hear your phone ring or you feel

22:55

the need to check emails, let's be real. We

22:58

business owners, I know, yeah, entrepreneurs, okay cool. I

23:02

use this cue all the time. I

23:04

had a situation with my daughter, Myla. And

23:07

Myla, she's that gymnastics class. Any

23:09

fellas been to gymnastics, right? My dad's in

23:11

here, yeah, I heard somebody, shh, right, yeah.

23:14

You get all the information from the ladies in there, I'll be

23:16

like dang, I know all y'all stuff, right? It be gossiping about

23:18

everything. I

23:21

was like man, so I'm on my phone,

23:23

because I'm like I'll kill two birds with one stone,

23:25

I'll look at my phone and I'll work and I'll

23:27

kind of look up and peek at her. And

23:31

I'll never forget, I felt the energy from down

23:33

below, because it's upstairs, it was like a death

23:35

stare. It

23:38

was my baby girl at five years old looking at me,

23:41

like dad, you better watch me. And

23:45

I made a commitment at that moment to use this

23:47

mental cue. You can use

23:49

this in conversation, you can use this in

23:51

your relationships. Just ask yourself this question, how

23:54

can I be more present in this moment? A

23:58

simple mental cue that will shift you. Back

24:00

into being present How

24:06

can I be more present in

24:08

these moments So

24:14

number one be loyal to the life

24:16

that you want to live and lead Number

24:19

two when it comes to protecting your peace and

24:22

this is a major one be

24:24

loyal to your

24:26

pace Be

24:30

loyal to your pace. You know, it's crazy Jerry

24:32

rice talking about first of all, man How dope

24:34

was that Jerry rice is my goat like straight

24:36

up, right? So like I

24:39

have a picture because my uncle coached him. He

24:42

was his receiver coach So I got to go to training camp

24:44

He don't remember but like I have a picture that I showed

24:46

him And I was like I was 10 years old and I'll

24:48

never forget y'all know the story He's talking about like he'll catch

24:50

the ball for five yards and score a touchdown So

24:53

when I got in college, we were all on our Jerry rice We

24:56

like we don't catch the ball for five yards and go score

24:58

man I did that twice and I was tap. I Was

25:01

like I ain't doing that no more And

25:03

I realized that I wasn't in shape to

25:05

run at that pace This is what

25:07

I'm seeing a lot in this world with comparison.

25:10

I would ask you right now. What's guiding your

25:12

pace Because

25:14

it's easy to come in here and want to run at

25:16

a full clip of 15 years We listen to Ben listen

25:18

to Sal listen to me and you're at year two You're

25:21

at year three to my runners in here when you run

25:23

at a pace that you're not able to keep up what

25:25

happens You

25:27

die right you what

25:30

you bunk You

25:33

get butt-locked You're tired

25:35

your lower back hurts When I'm seeing

25:37

a lot in this world and I've been guilty of

25:39

this and I'm always checking in with myself when it

25:41

comes To my piece in my pace is that so

25:43

many people's pace is being controlled by panic You're

25:47

panicking. I Gotta

25:50

do all these things. I gotta do something. I

25:52

can't sleep team. No sleep. We gotta work hard

25:54

I believe in working hard. I do trust me,

25:57

but I also believe in resting hard, too I

26:00

know in the room for entrepreneurs, that's not the spirit

26:03

to always say. I believe if you're really working hard,

26:05

then you probably need to rest. Over

26:11

paces being controlled by comparisons. Lord.

26:16

Looking out and thinking you're supposed to be there.

26:18

I see it all the time with speakers. Try not to want to be a

26:21

speaker. I said, okay, cool. Well,

26:23

get on the internet, go live. Oh, I can't go live. Well,

26:25

you can't be a speaker. I

26:27

don't want to do that. You can't be a speaker. I

26:30

want to be able to do this. Okay. Put

26:32

in 15 years of work. of us were expecting

26:34

to have what decades worth the results from day's work. So

26:50

what's controlling your pace? Is

26:55

it perceptions? How

26:58

people see you. If you want

27:00

to go bankrupt, stay in the business of impressive people.

27:05

Straight up. Having

27:09

people think that you're there when you're not there, I get it. Perception.

27:12

I understand all of that stuff, but at some point you

27:14

got to be real with yourself. Like

27:18

I've seen people talk like financial stuff online. I

27:20

get around like, Hey, what happened to all that?

27:24

I'm sure I don't have $5,000 even pay you to come

27:27

speak. I'm like, you are a gazillionaire one. What's

27:35

controlling your pace? And if I can

27:37

present this idea and suggestion, how would

27:39

your life change if peace controlled

27:42

your pace? What would that look like? What

27:46

would it look like if trust controlled

27:48

your pace? Some of us were not trusting the

27:50

process. We're not

27:52

having the gardener's mindset. Any gardeners in here? Nobody.

27:57

Let me see. Nobody here, right? A little bit

27:59

right here, right? My man, so you were related to this.

28:01

So I was born in Little Rock, Arkansas. Anybody from

28:03

Little Rock, Arkansas? McGee? Where

28:06

is that at? Right

28:09

by it? Okay, cool. So

28:11

I lived in Arkansas for like six months, right?

28:14

My family's from there. So I

28:16

don't know all the cities around it. But

28:18

I remember born in Little Rock, Arkansas with my

28:20

grandfather. I gotta tell this story because it's so

28:22

simple and common sense. I promise you I'm not

28:24

gonna talk about anything crazy that you cannot relate

28:26

to. This is so common sense. Call me the

28:29

common sense speaker. I

28:31

remember born in Little Rock, Arkansas and my grandfather,

28:34

he had this garden. It's

28:37

like a boulet garden, but it was a garden. And

28:41

I'm about six, seven, eight years old

28:43

at the time. And I'll

28:45

never forget on the phone, like

28:47

we have the phone, you know, this phone, that you gotta, yeah,

28:50

that one. Shh, right? So I remember

28:52

telling me on the phone, like, hey, when you come up here, we're

28:54

gonna plant some things. So we get there and I'm

28:57

excited. I never planted anything in my

28:59

life. I was a city boy, so we didn't plant stuff. So

29:03

we get there and we plant some seeds.

29:07

And we do the process. And

29:10

he said, okay, now wait and be patient. And

29:12

over time, the harvest will come.

29:14

Well, I'm six, seven, eight years old. Some of

29:17

you got kids at that age. So patience meant

29:19

to me an hour. So

29:21

I go back to my grandfather and I say, grandpa, like

29:25

you did something wrong. Nothing's

29:28

happening. He

29:31

said, Trent, just be

29:33

patient and trust the process.

29:40

Okay, well, patience, okay,

29:42

hour. Five

29:44

hours later, I go

29:47

to grandpa. Grandpa,

29:50

grandpa, like I'm telling you, you did

29:52

something wrong. Nothing's happening. Trent, just be

29:54

patient and... So

30:00

now I tell him, I go to grandma. Hey,

30:03

granny. Grandpa,

30:05

I don't know what he's doing. Like, you need to

30:08

come help him. He said, baby, fill your voice. Just

30:10

be patient and trust the process. So obviously that conversation

30:12

went on for a while and nothing happened while we

30:14

were there. And I'll never forget being in Louisiana and

30:16

getting a call from my grandfather. He said, put Trent

30:18

on the phone. And I talked to say, Trent, guess

30:20

what? That seed that

30:23

we planted is

30:25

now here to harvest. And

30:28

he said, I want you to remember this in life. Even

30:34

when you can't

30:36

see growth taking place, you

30:42

have to know that growth is taking

30:44

place beneath the surface. Even

30:47

when there's no external validation,

30:49

no external evidence of growth taking place. See, this

30:51

is faith. Some of us think that faith is

30:53

seeing and believing. Like, I know we say that

30:55

things are unseen, but some of us, we need

30:58

to see it to believe it. I want to

31:00

just present this idea of definition of faith. This

31:02

is mine. Faith is believing the door is

31:04

gonna open and don't even exist yet. And

31:06

for some of you, your next level is not upward, it's

31:08

inward. I'm gonna be real with you. You think that you're

31:10

missing something outside? You think it's the next thing, the next

31:12

podcast you listen to? For some of us,

31:15

it's the next inward discovery that we are made for

31:17

more. That you actually have things inside you haven't given

31:19

to the world. So your faith can be that door

31:21

that don't exist. That's faith. And

31:23

so Grandpa told me, hey, you gotta know that

31:25

something is going, as long as you're wearing that

31:28

seat, as long as you're staying to your routines,

31:30

your disciplines, wearing that seat. I

31:32

see so many people in this world, command. And

31:36

I've been here too, and I say so many people put me into

31:38

so many. That

31:41

are disloyal gardeners. One

31:46

month is this. You

31:48

plant the seed, you do everything. You

31:51

work for a month, nothing happens, and you go

31:53

on to the next thing. We have a garden

31:55

full of unfinished business. If we're going

31:57

to do something this year, let's finish. Can

32:02

we do that? Can we finish? When we

32:04

start, can we finish? Can we

32:07

follow through? Because sometimes it's not that

32:09

it's not working, it's just that you haven't

32:11

actually worked it. That

32:14

you don't have the patience to see it through. Just

32:18

be patient and trust

32:23

the process. That's

32:26

where I have peace in my life. Where

32:29

is he at? I don't see him in here right now, but we

32:32

had a conversation last night. My

32:34

dog asked me my next

32:36

10 years. And

32:39

I told him, I just want to be alive in

32:42

my next 10 years. Because I'm not saying don't plan,

32:44

don't take that from this, but I think sometimes we

32:46

plan so much, and I'm going to just speak on

32:48

my faith a little bit, we plan God out of

32:50

the plan. Because

32:53

if you asked me 10 years ago would I be here, and the

32:55

answer would be hell to the no. I

32:58

wouldn't be here. So I'm not saying you'd

33:00

be undisciplined, I'm not saying you'd be unstructured. Of course

33:02

have a plan, work your plan, but also know because

33:04

some of y'all got some beautiful vision boards. How many

33:06

of y'all do the vision boards? Man,

33:08

I see the artwork, it's creative, but I want to

33:11

tell you right now, I believe that God has a

33:13

vision for your life that no vision board can hold.

33:16

If you would have asked me would I be the trench shown y'all see

33:18

here today? Absolutely not. I wanted to survive, when

33:20

I left the interface I wanted to just make it. I never wanted

33:22

to be a speaker. I didn't find this call and this call

33:24

found me. So

33:27

there are some things in your life that are bigger than what

33:29

you can even imagine. Just

33:36

be patient and trust the process. So

33:39

number two, stay loyal to

33:41

your pace. Stay

33:43

loyal to it. And run a,

33:46

I'm almost saying something else, run

33:48

a great race man. And sometimes that

33:50

race gonna look like tears. Like I'm out of period

33:52

being macho man, it's in every day. Y'all

33:55

I told y'all I went through the press in two years of my

33:57

life recently. And

33:59

some of my dad. success which is making it through today.

34:07

And for some of you it's gonna be like that but

34:09

I want to say the valley might be ugly but the

34:11

peak is beautiful you are overcoming your spirit don't you ever

34:13

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