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Hi everybody. Hello. Welcome

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to a brand new

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brand spankian. Spankling. Spankling.

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Spankling. Sparkling. Spankling.

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Full fat episode. Episode.

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Of the Receipts podcast.

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Bum bum bum bum.

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Getting ever closer to the epic 200 episode. Don't build

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it up. I mean we're not going to do anything

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because you know we don't have a single plan. So

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you can't you can't sync it up like this. We're

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not doing anything but I will say 200

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is a big big episode. Yeah. Because

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it's the numbers big and for

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that reason only. Ain't

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my goal to look up forward to a

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shit happening. Do you know what you're saying?

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No announcements. Annoy me. Oh you said no

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announcements. Do you know when

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they'll do an advert and it'll be like new and

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improved. How is it improved if it's new? It

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never happened before. How is it improved? It's

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a new it's a whole new thing. It's a whole new thing. Something

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to think about new and improved. It used

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to really irk me the same way like when

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I used to watch like rom-coms and

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like I don't know someone's going to an argument and

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they and they go to the airport and so I

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was just calling them to be like hey can we

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talk they run after them at the airport. Yeah yeah

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yeah. That pisses me. Yeah why are you going to

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the airport? Call them to be like hey like where

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about are you can I meet you can we talk

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why you run into the airport to go chat to

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them. I know it's a huge amount of pressure but

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that really annoys me because it makes no sense to

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me. Yeah it's not real. There was a whole trend

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going around on TikTok about things that

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happened in movies that didn't make any sense and

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then someone made a really good point because she was just like

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oh she never understood it in films where the person was like

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um they'll be on the phone and they'll be like okay

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cool okay cool I'll be there and then on the other end the

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person's like can you come and put me up from the airport you

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need to be here at 8 p.m but it's just like

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how have you like how did the

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other person on the phone relay all that information to

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you in the like five point five seconds. Like

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how does that happen? I was like, Oh, yeah,

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film tricks. Another one that really

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annoy me was when like, let's say I walked in on

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you kissing my boyfriend. Instead of talking

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about it, they used to run out. That year. In

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what world do I

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walk in, catching my partner cheating and I run

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out? That's what happens in that show,

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that Netflix show. What was it called? Not the affair.

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It was called the one with the dad

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was sleeping with the son's girlfriend.

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And then he was like, violently

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fucking the son's

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girlfriend. Not violently fucking the son. Like

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they were having sex all the time.

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I don't remember this though. Silently fucking.

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Yeah. Like as in like, so basically

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the storyline was that son, the

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family, well-to-do family, the son brings

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home this girl. He's

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like in love with her, madly in love with her.

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She starts flirting with the dad at some event. Then

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the, the, the, the girlfriend and the dad

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engage in this like mad affair and this

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I mean, the mad sex all the time.

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Anyway, the dad, the boyfriend follows

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them one day because he's suspicious

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that she's cheating. Then he finds out it's

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with the dad. So he walks in

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on them fucking and then he

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steps back and this is a matter of spoiler.

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I can't remember what it's called. He takes a

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step back. He ends up flipping over the balcony

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of the like five story flat

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and then dying. And do you

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know what happened after that didn't

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stop the dad. But then basic,

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obviously this is a massive tragedy.

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What was it called? It's on Netflix.

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It's a British drama. It's like a

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four part something. Oh my

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God. It's, I can't remember. I will find the name. I will find

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the name of it. I watched it. It's not even that old. It's

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definitely still on Netflix as well. British. And

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so the guy dies and then the

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girlfriend goes missing because naturally, obviously she

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feels really guilty. So she, she runs

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away. Please tell me why the dad goes on a

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quest to find her. Yeah. Cause he loves her. Like he

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does not give a ex about the point where like, what I

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was tweeting about it, I was like, was there something like

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part two where that's not his biological son or something because the

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way he didn't give a fuck because how can you not care

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so much? Because how can you not care like your son

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died? If I walk in and my partner cheated

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I'll do a run up into the bed I'll run back and

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I'm gonna fly into it like this. This

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is now a season. I

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am not walking away. You're not

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gonna get me on blissfully fucking

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if everybody if everybody has anyone's

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ever caught someone like

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caught them with red-handed what was your instant reaction? I want

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to know what your instant reaction is when you've caught them.

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I'm doing a run up because I'm flying onto the bed.

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I feel like that would be my reaction as well. I

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feel like I would just walk out. No no not yeah

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no do what you do like I would run in and

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just be like that's like I would make

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my presence higher but you know sometimes in

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film they're like the person backs away and

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they start being calculated about you

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know like I don't have like any

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to be like calm and you know

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I'm calculated and plot like no

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I'm very reactionary so if I see something mad I'm gonna be

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like oh do you know what I mean like same way if

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I see someone doing coke I'm just gonna be like oh my

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god that's coke! Do you know what I mean?

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I'm not gonna be like oh my god it's called obsession. Obsession

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that's the exact show. Did

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you just type that in? No one told you.

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I didn't know someone told

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you. Yeah that show is called obsession. Oh is it?

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You know why you always get like after information that

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comes from my Apple watch. I never I thought I'd

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see it. So I'm like I know your phone's there

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so I know she's not getting on her phone and

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it's such a good acting. Oh another thing that they

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do in film is that pisses me off that I

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don't believe anyone doesn't rely. Have you ever been

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so angry or distressed about something that you start

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trashing out? Never. I said no I said

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no okay one time I

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punched I punched you. Okay. Because

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before if I was angry I'd punch pillow. I didn't

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want to get hurt. I'm like oh I've butted my

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soft pillow. One time I

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did punch a door in

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my mum's house actually and there was a hole

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in it. Oh shit. Yeah. So I've

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done that once but they

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say now I'm trashing my house that one is not. Because I

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would just be tearing down. I'm pictures, heaven

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and trushing up their house. I

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never want to feel that level of anger. Me either. That

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kind of anger I don't want to do. But my anger doesn't go

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to that place. My anger goes to tears. I'm

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that person. Do you know what I mean? If I'm

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really angry and frustrated, I remember

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one time I was having an argument with Nick here and

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I was so frustrated, I was crying. And

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then he was like, you can cry all you want. Oh,

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God. I was

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like, but hang on, tears are

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supposed to be the super-dion of- That you can

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cry all you want or what you're crying for.

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And you know, you're like, Dad, I ain't got nothing left in

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the car. Because I

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would want to tears. Yeah. I

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would want to tears. And my wife would now break. I

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just, that you can cry all you

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want or what you're crying for. Why? Because of you. Exactly.

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Because you're making me cry. My feelings are

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hurt. Are you insane? Oh, my God. No.

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I can't use my tears and I don't know what I have.

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How many tears is it until someone starts saying, is it enough

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tears? Like I think, I don't care about your tears. I think

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it's when the snots start coming. No,

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I think like how many times have you used crying? Like

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to a point that they were like, Bob Sharp. Mm.

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Because that's how you always fucking crying anyway. Yeah.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I think I've had,

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I've definitely had that as well. Because, but

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for me, that's just my go-to. It's not

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even like I'm being manipulative. Like genuinely when

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you might like, and sometimes, and I feel

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like sometimes it's worse when, for me anyway,

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when I try to fight it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It just,

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I sound worse. I can't get my words out. It's

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just a mess. I'd rather just let it

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out and just, you know, the words come out amongst

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the tears. But when I'm trying to sound it,

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I just think I look, I just look like I'm not ridiculous. And I've

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kind of been a strict people. I remember being in a friend's room and

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crying. And I was like, I'm going

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to cry back. They were like, no, you're not. They're like, talk.

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Like, what are you crying for? I thought you

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were crying. No, man. I

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remember when I was in the stick of like

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watching reality TV shows. I remember

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like those things actually impact you. Oh, yeah. When

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I saw Evelyn, Evelyn, I just want to fight. I used to be that bluff. I

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used to want to get into situations so

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I could almost re-enact certain things I would do. see and

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I used to like proper like idolize

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American women especially because all those shows we watch

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were American and I remember I used to watch

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Bad Girls Club, I used to watch Basketball Wives,

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I used to watch All Real House on everything

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and I'd be watching them back to back to

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back to back and you've internalized that stuff so

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much and I'd be like no I really want to get into

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one of these situations that they proper make you eggy but

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it's not. Bad Girls Club made me eggy, I stopped watching

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Bad Girls Club early because it made me eggy.

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It's too much. And Evelyn from Basketball Wives, I used

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to want to do all the what

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fight was she? Did she have? She was like the

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one where she flew across the table. Yeah I

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remember that fight in my head and I'd be like no. There

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was a couple she had, there was one where she threw

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a bottle in someone like literally a wine bottle.

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She was an angry little woman. And then another

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one where she ran across the table and like

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basically tried to like snatch the woman up.

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Yeah yeah yeah then fight but the thing

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is all those shows yeah were definitely very

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violent but there was one show that I

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don't really think it gets the flack that

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it should do but it was so violent

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and I'm convinced because it was white women.

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Mob Wives. I never watched it. So

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Mob Wives was like one of my favorite and if

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anyone's got the links and send it to my hand.

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But Mob Wives was one of like the

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maddest reality TV shows I've ever watched. So

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it's set in New Jersey with like Mob

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Wives, women affiliated or associated with the Mob.

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What's Mob Wives? Men of burglary.

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I've got no idea actually. I

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don't know if it's Mob

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Short for something now or if it's

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just like a slang on

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mafia. It

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must be mafia organized.

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What does Mob mean? He's a gang

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of criminals. Okay sure I thought it was

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short or something. Yeah yeah yeah. I guess

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that makes sense on Mob. Naturally no it

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doesn't. So yeah so these women

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were like the fight on

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that show were mad and some

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of their husbands were in jail for

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like armed robbery and you know

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organized crime and mafia. quiet,

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oh that show was mental. But they kind of got away

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with it because it was like... I just felt like it

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never got the slack because there was always all these think

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pieces and all these like, you know, shows

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and stuff about the black women doing it,

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about the basketball wives about them. Yeah, yeah,

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yeah. But mob wives was never included in that

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conversation and this is women that were like

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glorifying violence on another level. They were

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glorifying dating criminals. Like you can say

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a lot about basketball wives but they never glorified dating

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criminals, you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah. But

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mob wives actually did that and it just never got

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any slack and I can only put it down to racism. Did it

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get cut off after well? Yeah, they stopped it. I

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think it naturally came to an end but the women

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there were mad. Like they used to like bite each

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other, like it was proper, proper, proper

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violent dating. That cat fighting. Like proper cat fighting. When

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you were talking about that show obsession earlier, right? It

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made you think of this podcast that I've been

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listening to, it's called Mortal of Sin or

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something. And like this particular story was

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about this pastor, he was

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married and whatever and his

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wife died in a house fire. But

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also ends up being quite like suspicious of her to be

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like, oh, how did she die when he planned to kill

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her? Blah, blah, blah. Anyway, so he dies now and

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then they do the funeral and apparently he's quite like,

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he doesn't look that sad. He looks a bit like, like

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it's not even like it's the worst thing that's ever happened

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to him. Anyway, it's the part his wife died in, right? He

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starts like, he starts speaking to

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women in the church, telling them that like,

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it's what God wanted, you know? Like God

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said that they should be together. This is God's

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doing, it's the Lord's doing. He was what he

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was saying to these women and they were not

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buying it and they were meeting with him. And

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in them, where in their minds, they said they thought they were doing

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something because, you know, he was the man of the

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Lord. His wife had died and, you know, they were

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just being good people by offering up their pussy. Anyway,

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so they say this story and I'm

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screaming my face and at one point I thought,

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I'm my bad person. So apparently this like getting

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women to speak with him, that his mother-in-law,

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he's now talking to her, like she's like,

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What is me versus my mother-in-law? She starts

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an affair with him. They start fucking. And

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she's actually like, yeah, I

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said to him that I wanted to be his day-end.

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And he said he doesn't want me to be his day and he

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wants me to be me. So

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we started an intimate affair. Your

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daughter's husband. Your dead

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daughter. Wudowa. Your daughter's Wudowa.

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And everyone that's talking about her is like, they feel

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sorry for her. They were like, yeah, she was manipulated.

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Yeah, poor woman. You

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would have to put judge, actual witchcraft in

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your mouth to talk to my mum and

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tell her that you should now sleep with

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my husband. And

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she's admitting it. She was like, yeah.

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She's like, no, I don't think you understand the

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way she was talking. She said, yeah, we started an

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intimate relationship and everybody was feeling sorry. Where are

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these people from? America. Yeah.

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Your dead daughter's husband.

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That is disgusting. She's had a whole relationship with

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him. And she had to go

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tell her dad. Yeah,

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this is why new people

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that said, A

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Fully Ambient

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You know, they were manipulated and I'm not saying

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that doesn't happen. Of course it does, but come

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on Like you have some autonomy,

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like this is your daughter's widower. Like if her

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hair down was like this, her niece would let

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her have it. If you could be like, nah,

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I like you moved like this. Like that one,

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you moved mad. She was able bodied, she had no

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mental illness problem. Like she was an able bodied fine.

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Do you know what? We need to accept that sometimes people do

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fuck shit just because they want to do it.

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It's not that it isn't always this deeper underlying

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thing. Like, you know, we can't always absolve people

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of blame and responsibility. Sometimes they have responsibility. She

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did that because she wanted to. She did that shit. She

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clearly said she did that shit. She didn't give an ex. And

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yeah, she should be disgusted

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and ashamed of herself. Yeah, I was thinking like, why is everyone

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acting like this is like a normal thing and poor

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her? And I was like, that is mad. But there

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is that whole thing that apparently when someone dies, people

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are like mourned together. So they get together

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like, was that that thing when that woman

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died and had a sister fight? Oh, what's the

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name? Rivera. Rivera, yeah. Something Rivera. What was her

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name again? Oh, God. Is Rivera something? Yeah, yeah. The

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one from Glee, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

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And then apparently her sister was dating the

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ex-husband. Yeah. And I guess

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people were saying that they got really, really close

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because the sister was helping him raise their kids.

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What does that mean? It needs to be an intimate relationship. Yeah. And you

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can still just be brother and sister. Yeah, you can just that

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can still be there. That can still

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be there. And you can absolutely step in and to

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be there for, you know, as a replacement almost for

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your nieces and nephews. But that doesn't mean that you

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have to be dicking down your brother-in-law. If

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that's just I just I just can't

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imagine it. I don't know. I don't know. I

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don't know how people find themselves in these situations.

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What? I was like, what did he what

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was the line that got you? There's nothing

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that can get me because I feel like

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I never say never obviously

15:35

that I would come here and tell you guys. It would be

15:37

George. It would be George. Yeah, because the

15:39

way I box people off and categorize them

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so quickly, like it would be so hard

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for me to see past that categorization. Do you

15:45

know what I mean? So my sister's boyfriend, that's

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bro. Do you know what I mean? That's my

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brother. The bro-west of bro. And I was like, as

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good as my own brother. Yeah, that's what I mean. That

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can never happen. So I just don't

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understand. I wouldn't put myself in that position to.

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even allow it to be a thing. So

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yeah, exactly. What is that point? Like, are

16:05

you both doing the dishes and then you drop the tea towel

16:07

and you both collect it and then that's when you lock eyes?

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Because that's why I don't believe in accidents or cheating. If

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anyone cheats and says I don't mean to, yeah, you

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did. Yeah, you did. It takes too much steps to

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not mean to. Like, you can't tell me you don't

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mean, what do you mean you don't mean to? Yeah.

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I think you don't mean to. You,

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I suppose when I suppose I wasn't in

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your home, you left the house to go. They

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could have been any point during that transaction of

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leaving. You're like, ah,

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I think when it comes to cheating, people need to

16:34

just take it for what it is and not make it

16:36

as easy as you did it because you want to.

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And I feel like that needs to be part of the

16:40

ownership because it's an insult, I think, for other persons

16:42

to insult their intelligence

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to just be like, oh, you know, it was

16:47

an accident or, you know, I was really, really

16:49

wasted or whatever. At some point there was a

16:51

conscious decision. You knew what you were doing and

16:53

you did it and you did it because you

16:55

wanted to. And

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also I guess we did so you can leave them.

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There was this, um, there was a nod, I was

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just there on Twitter and

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it was, it was, I

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mean, it's so cool. And

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they're so proud of their coolness. This guy must

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have tweeted that stage when your baby's call starts

17:12

to irritate you. And the

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men decided to be applying all these things. One

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said when she starts showing men, showing you men that

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are hitting on her instead of just cheating, like

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please cheat so I can leave.

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Or you could just leave. Or you could

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just leave. You could just leave. I think

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people don't understand that all

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of that stuff that you're even going online to say all

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of the stuff you're just shaming your girl because someone's going

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to know that someone's man. You know what I

17:37

mean? I think all of the things that

17:39

you need your phone unlocked, you just read it. All

17:43

this mental gymnastics that you can do just when actually, yeah,

17:45

like leaving

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someone is going to hurt them, but this

17:53

build up of stuff that you're doing is going to hurt

17:55

them more. Do you know what I mean? Like I

17:57

don't understand that logic at all. Like I promise you

17:59

if it were me. I would rather you

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left than do all of this. Like all of this thing

18:03

you don't have to do. All of this filled up. Like

18:05

you're trying to make me leave, you're hurting me, you're

18:08

being distant, like you want me to

18:10

catch you. Like, come on. Like,

18:13

get real, man. Just be quick. When

18:15

Shifani says it's over, I said I'm the happiest man

18:17

alive in the world right now. I'm like, what is

18:19

wrong with you people? Why do you people date people

18:21

you don't like? This is the problem. So many people are

18:23

really blessed. Or do they marry people they don't like? They

18:25

have kids of people who don't like. It's

18:28

such a weird thing. I've got to date your

18:30

type, and marry your type. Do all of

18:32

this, start doing things for the fun of it. And

18:34

it's okay just to be that someone, I don't want to be here

18:36

anymore. You don't have to buy trips and trips. No,

18:39

you really, really don't. You really,

18:41

really don't. I get why some situations might be a

18:43

little bit more complicated than others, but I promise you,

18:46

anything is better than being unhappy in a household. Now,

18:48

leaving your friend in locks just for her to go

18:50

through it. Is that true? And the thing is, you

18:52

must know your girlfriend, you must know you have, she's

18:55

that way kind. Do you know what I

18:57

mean? Yep. That's why I was always sure that Tristan Tristan

19:00

cheating was too in your face for

19:02

a man that didn't want to be given

19:04

freedom. He wanted freedom so desperately. Do you

19:07

know what I hated about the whole Tristan

19:09

thing? Is that later on in the series,

19:12

he's doing all this begging and pleading. He's

19:14

going around, speaking to the family individually about

19:17

what he could have done better, and all

19:19

the rest of it. And it's something that

19:21

Clay on Love is Blind did as well.

19:24

When people kind of like weaponize their parents'

19:26

relationships, and use that as an excuse. And

19:28

I'm not saying that it can't be a

19:30

contributing factor, but I think it's such bullshit

19:33

when people do that. And that's what Tristan

19:35

did. And I was like, and he knows,

19:37

especially Courtney, she's very much into like therapy,

19:39

and doing the work, and blah, blah, blah.

19:41

So people can almost like, they

19:44

can find your language and adapt and like become a

19:46

comedian. They can shape shift into what you want to

19:48

hear. So I thought that's what he was doing. When

19:50

he was talking to Courtney, he was like, you know,

19:52

my parents, I never saw a good version of

19:54

Love for my dad. You know, I just never

19:57

saw that. I never saw my parents happy. It

19:59

was like, who the fuck? did. Wow,

20:01

who's parents are happy? How many

20:03

people, honestly I feel like more people

20:05

saw their parents unhappy than happy. Do you

20:07

know what I mean? So like get out of here, you're not the

20:09

only person that doesn't excuse what you did. Like I'm sorry but

20:11

what has your dad being a cheat got to do with the

20:13

fact that you were in the club and you lip someone? And

20:16

your cheating was so...

20:18

So... You might as well have posted you

20:20

lip through someone. That's how your cheating was

20:22

so out. You might as well have posted it

20:24

on your own Instagram. I'm sorry, when you were moving

20:26

to someone you weren't thinking, oh but my dad

20:29

did this. You

20:31

were not thinking that. Oh my God.

20:33

Exactly, you saw someone paying that you

20:35

wanted to have and you went

20:37

through it. It's as simple as that. Like...

20:39

Yeah. It's just bullshit. Like I just wish that people would

20:42

just be more honest about it. Yeah, you saw someone you

20:44

attracted to and you thought yeah fuck it. And you thought

20:46

fuck it. In this moment I want to have something like

20:48

that. Exactly. And it's not even like, I thought that you

20:50

say, and also hey I've thought about you the whole time,

20:52

you piece of raggedy shit. Yeah, that's even worse. Don't think

20:55

about me. Yeah. Because if you thought about me. And you

20:57

still went through. You should have just stopped that for a

20:59

brief. So be like, oh no this is C4, let me

21:01

stop right here. Don't think about me. I'd rather you be

21:03

like, I can't lie to you. You

21:05

were the last one from the moment. No, that's mad

21:08

because that means you really don't give a fuck about

21:10

me. If you were thinking about me and you still

21:12

went through, you really don't give two shit about me

21:14

honey. There's too many stages. There's so many stages.

21:16

Maybe the

21:19

most I can forgive is accidental kiss. Maybe

21:22

you know you caught yourself and you were at

21:24

work dude and then you had one too

21:26

many wines and it's just like, whoa. What

21:28

have I done here? And then you left. But

21:31

to accidentally do that and accidentally do all

21:33

of the rest. And especially if you do

21:35

that, I don't know if this is going to sound mad, but

21:37

if you do that I don't even want to hear you use

21:39

the condom. Because that can't be

21:42

up to the point. Because you have the

21:44

conscience. You have to be there. You have to

21:46

be conscious. You had, when you took out your

21:48

pockets and then you took the

21:50

corner a bit, I could have thought,

21:54

oh shit. At no point did you think I'd put that

21:56

out. And then you build it onto your penis. Exactly,

22:00

exactly. You carried on. But

22:03

also, you literally had the

22:05

common sense to be like, I don't want to get confused.

22:08

So you had some level of consciousness. You had

22:10

consciousness. I don't want to get a breath now. Exactly, but you didn't

22:12

think about my feelings, you didn't give a shit. No. Please,

22:15

I'm a country to say sorry. Sorry. Exactly,

22:17

I don't want to hear this. Sorry. I

22:19

only got caught. You better have just

22:21

banged in an alley up a brick

22:23

wall. What is the situation where you can

22:25

cheat by accident? No,

22:28

I don't know. By

22:30

accident. No,

22:33

I was just thinking about a film I watched recently on Netflix

22:35

called Femme. How did they cheat? They didn't

22:38

cheat. So basically,

22:40

they were in like a

22:44

sauna, but like a sauna for men.

22:46

Yeah. Like for gay men and everyone

22:48

in there was naked and watching porn. Is that

22:50

cheating? No, no, so I'm saying you could have

22:52

gone there to watch some porn. Yeah. Someone

22:56

could have just happened to be naked. Yeah.

22:59

The floor might have been slippery from the

23:01

condensation. Oh, from the condensation. From the condensation.

23:03

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then you accidentally land

23:05

on a penis. Right, okay.

23:07

That's the only way. Exactly. That's

23:10

the only thing I can think of. Other

23:12

than that, I don't know. It actually is not possible

23:14

to accidentally cheat. No, it's not. It's impossible.

23:17

It's a cop-out and it's self-invariant. Maybe I think it's up in a

23:19

situation that's a bit like, ah, I

23:21

should have got myself in that situation. I

23:23

should have left. Yeah, I can see that. Yeah, yeah,

23:25

yeah. And we could all get

23:27

all adults. You can read tension. You can read sexual

23:29

tension. You can see when it's going a certain way.

23:31

When it starts seeing that and you know you don't

23:33

want to cheat, that's when you carry your bag and

23:35

you go. Especially when there's alcohol involved because,

23:37

you know. You can all, if

23:40

not, then like, you see the tension rising

23:42

and you know what? Let me tap out.

23:44

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Definitely. It's never

23:46

accidental. No, never. You wanted

23:48

it. You wanted it bad. Oh, well, this year,

23:50

this is 2024. Let's all be quite frankly about

23:53

everything. Let's all be quite frankly about

23:55

everything. I do think

23:57

we're becoming very desensitized to infidelity. Oh

24:00

yeah, it's really bad. It's really,

24:02

really bad. I think as a society, we

24:04

need to regroup and have a reset on

24:06

what we are really saying because it's really

24:08

all over the place. People are conflicting it

24:11

with open relationships and polygamy and,

24:13

you know, having an arrangement. Like

24:15

it's really, really, it's really bad.

24:17

And I can hold my

24:19

hands up and say that I might have contributed to that narrative

24:22

by some of my takes. Is

24:24

there any take that you take back? I

24:27

think I've, I said it's not a hill,

24:29

but the thing is sometimes on this here

24:31

podcast year, I feel like sometimes I forget

24:34

that I'm talking to a lot of people

24:36

and I feel like I'm just like chatting

24:38

to you because even though I've said that

24:40

in the past year, I don't think it's

24:42

something that it should be known to the

24:45

person. It shouldn't be known to the person. I

24:47

think too many women mistake that thing. Like you would

24:49

be talking and they're like, yeah, it's not really

24:51

my hill. Yeah. But I

24:53

think it's a defence mechanism as well. I feel like, yeah,

24:55

I think it's a defence mechanism. Because they know it's happening.

24:57

It should have had to say it's not my hill. Exactly.

25:00

Because what can't we say? Because if you almost convince

25:02

yourself that you don't care about something, then it inadvertently

25:04

can't affect you. Do you know what I mean? But

25:07

when I say it, it's

25:09

different. Why is it different? Because

25:13

it's not a defence, like it's not a defence mechanism.

25:15

Like I've proper like unpacked it. It's not. What

25:18

do you think it is? Because I don't think that like,

25:21

because for it to be a defence mechanism, that would

25:23

have to mean that if I were to find out I'd be

25:25

unfazed and I can't sit and say that I'd be

25:28

unfazed. Like I'd be absolutely fucking gutted and

25:30

I would still feel all those emotions. But

25:33

for me, it's just when I

25:35

feel like when you've been through like so

25:37

many trials and tribulations, it's more just like,

25:42

what's the word? But

25:44

choosing my battles. Do

25:47

you know what I mean? It's more just

25:49

like choosing my battles is. Hey,

25:52

you did that little thing, that piss

25:54

me off. I'm not going to say anything about that. But I'm not going

25:57

to react to it because it's actually ultimately it's not that deep. Yeah.

26:00

Like, do you know what I mean? Hey, you say

26:03

every week would go out and this week you haven't made

26:05

it. Not please my battle. That one I can let go

26:07

of. Maybe hierarchical. What's

26:09

hiding, cheating? What's worth leaving for? Outside

26:11

of like domestic violence and things of that seriousness

26:13

of... What is

26:15

hiding there? Yeah,

26:18

financial abuse, financial

26:21

infidelity. Disease.

26:26

But I guess that comes from cheating. That

26:29

comes from cheating. It's like under the same umbrella.

26:31

No, it's definitely up there. It's definitely, definitely up

26:33

there. I've been just trivialising of it as well and

26:35

people like our parents have trivialised it. Like for years

26:38

I'm all like, oh, men will be men. But we've

26:40

done it. We've created our own version of it. Don't

26:42

be like, men will be men. What do you mean

26:44

men will be men? Is this to say it's

26:46

some innate animal instinct? Like, oh my God, they

26:48

can't help it. I think the hill thing is

26:51

the 2024 version of what our mums used to

26:53

say. Which

26:56

is men will be men. Which is men will be men. We've just modernised

26:58

it. We've gen Z'd it kind

27:00

of thing. But it's essentially excusing

27:03

that behaviour. We're millennials. But millennials,

27:05

yeah. Oh God. Yeah,

27:08

millennials. Yeah, we in that. Oh, not gen Z,

27:10

honey. Far from. But yeah, I think it's our

27:12

version. I think it's a modern day version of

27:14

men will be men, unfortunately. It's

27:17

funny because a couple of weeks ago, there was when you said

27:19

the gen Z made me think of this. There's loads of conversation

27:21

about gen Z's and millennials and

27:23

gen Z's, I guess, using age

27:25

to insult millennials. And you want to say that

27:27

I always found the whole using age to insult

27:29

hilarious because I'm like, don't you want long life?

27:31

It's so weird. Do you want to dance?

27:33

Yeah. Young? You're going to get here. Like, as

27:35

in like, this is the first call of life.

27:38

It's actually privileged with this old fuck. Also,

27:41

I've been younger, been like, oh my God,

27:43

they're mad old. Like, I definitely used to

27:45

see 30 of them be like, oh my

27:47

God. Even when I was like, I remember

27:50

being 10 or 11 and there

27:52

was older girl when I say older, she was literally

27:54

16. And I remember she's like, walk

27:56

me to school sometimes because we lived in the same state.

27:58

And she would walk me to school. And I

28:00

remember she opened her purse and she had

28:02

notes in there. And I just remember being

28:04

so in awe. And now I look back, it was

28:07

probably 15 pounds. Yeah, that's right. And I was just

28:09

like, Oh my God, how did you get that? Yeah.

28:11

I was just hoping about it. So apparently, someone made

28:13

a really good analysis. I thought it was brilliant. They

28:15

were like, the reason why we're so offended by Gen

28:18

Z's insults on us by our age is because unlike

28:20

then with this woman having something you didn't have, this

28:22

girl had money. They

28:24

said that his analogy was that like

28:26

many millennials, we don't have the things

28:29

that differentiate us by age. So

28:31

like we look at older people, when we look at

28:33

older people, they had a house, they were married, they had

28:35

a good job, they had money. But a lot of us millennials

28:37

now are probably in the same place as a lot of Gen

28:39

Z's. Yeah. So like

28:41

a 24 year old would have. So

28:44

what you've done is it doesn't feel like, do you

28:46

know what I mean? So or they'd marry at 24.

28:49

So yeah, a lot of people are in very similar situations

28:51

to what Gen Z's are. So when they use age

28:53

to insult you, that's like preppage you more. Yeah, yeah,

28:55

yeah. You feel like an egg man. You feel like, yeah,

28:57

I'm in the same place as a kid. I'm

29:00

on the same foot of your own. I'm on the same

29:02

foot of your own. I'm on the same insta you're on.

29:04

Of course you can insult me. And there's nothing really that

29:06

can differentiate you from me. The way you do the age

29:09

thing, it's like shit, because I've got nothing to really feel

29:12

gassed about being this age, I feel older

29:14

by it. I'm not offended by age jokes.

29:17

I'm not, we've been reasoned. Do you know what I mean? I

29:19

feel like I hear that as well.

29:21

I also think that there's a thing about authority

29:23

because younger people now are

29:25

very much pushing this narrative of like respect

29:28

is going to be earned. We didn't go

29:30

out that way. Yeah, yeah. I very much grew up

29:32

with the belief that if someone is older than you,

29:34

by default, they get respect. Absolutely. And now I look back

29:36

on it and I think that probably is quite problematic

29:38

because people weaponize that a lot. And

29:40

people would use age to take advantage

29:43

of people and stuff like that. So I do definitely

29:45

think there is something in like, no, you're not going

29:47

to disrespect me just because you're older. So I think

29:49

that that plays a part in it as well, that

29:51

they can insult you because it's like, I don't give

29:53

a shit that you're older. That you being older is

29:55

not enough to just warrant respect off the bat. And

29:59

I think that's. I do think, for

30:01

the most part, I think it's better.

30:05

Do you know what I mean? When I think about what advantages

30:07

are there of respect to someone just because they're older. Nothing

30:10

really comes from it. When someone offends me

30:12

because of my age, I often look

30:15

inwards. I often think I was

30:17

their fault. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. If someone sweet-sweet-insulting

30:19

me, I'm your fault. Because why are you here

30:21

with them? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Why are you amongst them? Yeah,

30:23

yeah, like if I go to the right, but someone's like, oh, why

30:25

are you here? My fault, it's my fault. Yeah, because I shouldn't be

30:27

in the space where I'm 21 year old. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let

30:30

me look inwards, look in the mirror, be like, oh,

30:32

it's your fault. Because if I put

30:35

myself in different categories, you can't see me

30:37

to something. Yeah, because we don't share space.

30:40

Yeah, I don't get offended. I don't really get offended

30:43

because I don't take those. I don't

30:46

internalize those straight. I just don't think they're easy. I

30:48

know what I'm saying. I'm like, oh, wait there, you'll

30:50

see. Yeah, yeah. I'm 22 year old, it's

30:52

like, oh, how could you be 30 and not married and not

30:54

have this in my arms? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think not

30:56

often. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But to be honest, that comes

30:59

from a place of, I was that. Yeah, yeah, I

31:01

was that. I was also that person. Do you know

31:03

what I mean? I was 100% in women. It

31:05

would never be me. I was gonna be married, I thought I

31:07

was gonna be married on my third child by 25.

31:11

I was 24. You don't realize how

31:13

young those ages are until you approach them, until

31:15

you get closer and closer. So now, a 22

31:17

year old, that's talking shit about someone that's 32,

31:20

it's because it seems so distant. But once you get 32,

31:22

you're like, that's not even old. Do

31:24

you know what I mean? Those years creep up. I

31:28

wish you were asked in my 20s. May, I

31:31

can tell you what I did, what I

31:33

ate, what I wore at my 21st birthday party. Vividly.

31:36

Like, I can, and not just off pictures, because

31:38

there wasn't really socials like that in that. But.

31:41

I had a house with CB dress on, I

31:43

was at a party in Farringdon. Like, I knew

31:45

exactly where I was at. Even the shoe I

31:47

wore, I still have it. It goes

31:49

so quick. Yeah. It really does. Like,

31:52

that's no doubt. The first time the shoe I'd ever bought in

31:54

my life. The YSL helmet was the

31:56

first side of things I'd ever bought for myself.

31:59

And I remember it. They really, really do.

32:01

I know we sound incredibly old now by

32:03

saying that. No,

32:05

but it's actually so true. It's scary.

32:08

Like some of my friends, now we're about to be 40. Yeah.

32:11

And I've known people that I did not go to school because usually

32:13

I have, that would be my metrics. I'd be like, oh, we went

32:15

to school together. I have got friends that

32:17

I met later on in life. I've known for 20 years

32:19

now. I'm just like,

32:21

but we didn't go to school. I met you

32:23

as an adult. Yeah,

32:26

I met you as an adult. Why

32:28

am I doing this when it is? And

32:30

I'm just like, this is mad. Like I

32:32

remember we celebrated our 21st birthday together,

32:34

25th, our 30th, and now we're entering

32:37

our 40th decade. It's

32:39

really funny because anytime I'm with your

32:41

friends, which are my friends as well, and now we're able to

32:43

come in and I'm like, I'm going to be like, it's probably a

32:45

bit sheer. And Rob is like, shut up. Everyone's

32:49

like, shut up. Everyone's like, keep

32:52

his mouth. Because you're the baby. I'm

32:54

the baby of the group. So it's

32:56

just like, shut up. I'm just like,

32:59

shut up. I've

33:02

got five years on you. I'm not going to be

33:04

35. And 35 to 40 is a massive

33:06

difference. Like

33:08

so much happened in that five year window.

33:11

Yeah, that's a proper companion. Yeah, that's a proper companion.

33:13

But you don't have their struggles. At all. At all.

33:16

It's really weird because I hadn't aged thing recently and I

33:18

thought, especially quite sad, I

33:20

was like, if I was 30 right now, I'd be

33:22

so happy with where I am in

33:24

my life. And I'd

33:26

be like, oh, I am, I am. Yeah. Yeah.

33:30

Yeah. But weirdly, I feel massively

33:32

behind in 34. Yeah. Yeah. I

33:35

think if I was 30 right now, I'd be like,

33:37

go you. Yeah. And it's mad because it's it means

33:39

absolutely nothing. Yeah. It means

33:42

literally nothing. Like some people

33:44

don't come into their best years until they're in their

33:46

40s and 50. Yeah. You know

33:48

what I mean? And to them, you're just like a baby. Like to me,

33:50

you're like, It is when you say that I'll do it. Yeah. Yeah.

33:54

Baby. Like, why are you letting these things be

33:56

so much you out of baby? You've got all the time in the world. And also

33:58

there's that really thing of being. guilty

34:00

of like being so worried now that you

34:02

look back to me like I could have enjoyed that. Exactly. Well

34:05

wouldn't just mean that I'm so...

34:07

Yeah. Yeah. That's why I always just,

34:10

I always say to people like I feel like that's

34:12

what I'm here to do. It's just like that age

34:14

thing. It's not real. Like it really is a

34:16

social conflict man. None of it means anything. Like these

34:18

milestones that you're supposed to hear at a certain

34:20

time. It means nothing. What matters is like how you're

34:23

living now, how you feel now and like

34:25

your personal goals and I don't feel like that

34:27

can be attributed to age. You know what I

34:29

mean? Whatever personal goals you've got for yourself, I

34:32

don't think you should measure it by your

34:34

age. Do you know what I mean? If you want to put a

34:36

timeline on it to say that I want to do this in two

34:38

years, I feel like it's very different to I want to do it

34:40

by 37. Do you know what I mean? And it's

34:43

always really funny when you realise that you're not old.

34:45

It's like for now I'd be like oh my god

34:47

I'm getting so old and if I hear someone die

34:49

that sixth year I'd be like oh my god they're

34:51

so young. Yeah exactly. How can you say someone that's

34:53

so young? Yeah. Yeah yeah when someone dies I feel

34:55

like oh my god they're still so young. So that

34:57

was a proper thought that always comes to me. It

35:00

matters how much life you've got. Yeah yeah yeah exactly.

35:02

It's more like left to live. So oh whatever. And

35:04

also I have a big thing where when someone dies people are

35:06

like they live the full life. Live some people that die young.

35:08

People can be like yo. 100%. This

35:10

person lived exactly what they wanted

35:12

to do is how they did. I think that is

35:14

the real metrics man.

35:17

Like did you do everything you wanted to do? Did you live

35:19

a full life? Did you live a full

35:21

life? Yeah. But in the time you had was it

35:23

full? Was it fulfilling? 100%. Would you say your life

35:25

is full right now? Yeah definitely. Oh

35:28

that's really nice. Yeah I feel really really

35:30

like happy with

35:33

things right now but there's always more I can do. Like I

35:35

but but at the same time I'm like yeah I feel

35:37

happy now but then there's a whole new set of worries

35:39

now that I've got a child. Do you know what I

35:42

mean? So it's like you can I feel like I can

35:44

I feel like for the rest of my life I'll never

35:46

be able to just be content because I've

35:48

got someone else to think about now and like their

35:50

well-being and like so much of like

35:52

a child is indicative on the parent. Do you

35:54

know what I mean? So I feel content now

35:57

because she's a baby but I'm always like thinking

35:59

about the future. I'm always like thinking

36:01

about like just giving her everything and just

36:03

giving her the best life and I say

36:05

it's actually no matter how happy you can

36:07

and content you feel I feel like

36:09

it's almost like snatched away when you think about

36:11

oh my god what could happen what things

36:14

do I need to put in place and we were even talking about it

36:16

the other day when we were out just like you

36:18

know the future like even with our parents yeah

36:20

I mean things that they have

36:22

left for us and the hard conversations that

36:25

you have to have so that you

36:27

can be organised yeah that

36:29

literally yeah yeah yeah you have to

36:31

think about these things I've been asking

36:33

my friends who've got two parents or

36:35

know both their parents well do you

36:37

see yourself in both your parents like do you feel like I'm

36:39

like this because of this person and like this because of that

36:42

person yeah definitely I think I'm more like my dad

36:44

though I think I have my dad's like zest

36:47

for life like I'm very similar to

36:49

my dad he's a socialite he loves to be outside he

36:51

knows a lot of people he loves

36:53

that he loves to enjoy life I get that

36:55

from him and I

36:57

think I get like

37:00

my mum I'm

37:02

so jealous of that I get that from my

37:04

dad but my mum I'm

37:07

becoming my mum more and more I

37:09

mean I'm like can be a little bit

37:11

like like a little bit sometimes a little

37:13

bit more paranoid than what you know is

37:15

warrants or

37:24

whatever I think you get like the fearful paranoid

37:26

side yeah yeah yeah yeah definitely get that from

37:28

my mum and she's like I've inherited that from

37:30

her that one they've left in that

37:33

that worry that panic or whatever yeah I think about the

37:35

other day and I was just that there's some things in

37:37

me that make complete enough sense because I see in

37:39

my mum my mum got exactly wrong and

37:41

in some traits I don't recognise it I don't

37:43

recognise it my mum at all like who is

37:45

that from like who is this

37:48

version like are there any things that can only come

37:50

from a parent or just people that have been in our

37:52

lives in general I guess people that have been in our

37:54

lives can make a difference I don't like because I think

37:56

the parents okay so do you think the parent thing or because they're

37:58

in your life or do you think it's like innate.

38:00

Yeah, I think it's personality.

38:03

I don't think that you can inherit

38:05

that from other people that are just I think there are some

38:07

things that are kind of like in the blood in the

38:09

DNA. Yeah, yeah.

38:11

Yeah. Yeah. Because I'm trying to think about like this idea of

38:13

because I'm never content. That's my biggest problem

38:15

about myself. And I was like, Oh, what's next thing?

38:17

And I, I had this really thing of like, I

38:19

want a big life of consistently chasing it. And like

38:21

my mum, my sisters, they're very content people. They're happy

38:23

with where they are. They're worked hard for it. And

38:25

I see in the piece that they have, because of

38:28

how content they are. I'm

38:30

like, Who the hell do I get this? Like, no,

38:32

but what's next? Is it possible that it's from the

38:35

dad? I think it's because my brother's exactly like,

38:37

right? Okay. I've done some other day and I

38:39

was like, Oh, and like, we

38:42

Yeah, he's the first and the last and

38:44

we're very similar in that thing as well.

38:46

And I'm like, Oh, okay, that's who it's

38:48

from. Because everyone else is covered

38:50

in peace. Because they just get to

38:52

be like, yes, cool. I'm happy. I'm

38:55

happy. And before I think

38:58

that was a problem. And

39:00

the older I've got, I was like, it's

39:02

not a problem. In fact, it's a

39:04

beautiful thing. Yeah.

39:06

I'm like, someone just to be like, yeah,

39:08

what I have on for within. I am

39:10

not, I am not satisfied.

39:13

Yeah, you still need to eat. You still want

39:15

to eat. What else

39:17

can we have? All that forness will

39:20

end in about 10, like two hours. I'm like,

39:22

okay, cool. Yeah,

39:28

I think things have happened to me. And I've been

39:30

like, okay, what I do think that

39:32

I think it must only be from the

39:35

parents or relationship because I'm very close to

39:37

my sister, but I don't think I

39:40

have anything. Do you know what I

39:42

mean? Like, you share anything? I

39:44

don't think we really share anything. I mean,

39:47

a few more maybe. Yeah, you

39:49

guys. Yeah, because my sister is. Yeah,

39:51

yeah, you're both. But I think again,

39:53

I think that comes from lineage because

39:55

my mom is funny and my grandma's

39:57

funny. So Do we actually

39:59

believe. That if you must be the but I

40:01

think some traits the. I think some

40:03

aspects of personality vicinity they must

40:06

be. Let. Them have a mighty

40:08

they must the they musty or is

40:10

it that seen that or visit like.

40:12

On. An Hr. Matt Lauer. They are not

40:14

yet exist. Kiss You Adopted! And

40:18

second the parents with up with and b lox

40:20

didn't recognize them in them. yeah I reckon they

40:22

don't have that they booed him up with. This

40:24

is a thing us of the questions I don't

40:26

know like is the things that we inherit is

40:28

based off of how we will raise or if

40:30

it is. Free. The blood. Should.

40:32

I mean because if if it's like this is a

40:34

nice him of as an example. Maybe.

40:36

So the it's been passed down through the

40:39

a neighbor is how we grew up the

40:41

house when you so about JBS I always

40:43

remember like my. Making. Cracking jokes

40:45

about people? How never forget I want some

40:47

of that my mom's house. And was mad

40:49

early with six am or something and this back

40:51

in the they will be for the money and

40:54

pp. Thought not good at all four

40:56

mil I ordered a go a bit

40:58

a cigar and I members have labeled

41:00

segments. asked for a milks because she

41:02

would. It's mates it made seats and

41:04

an entry my numbers that you're coming

41:07

his office he m some milk have

41:09

even bush with the abbey and doesn't

41:11

sound funny english but I do not

41:13

either subsides some real yeah the other

41:15

men bugs. Up being

41:18

so young and my not been so disgusted

41:20

like have I did you come in his

41:22

time that weeks I basically said. Your. Primary

41:24

the off I'm not. Gonna.

41:29

Push as a slightly when the light was insult

41:31

I'm I'm I'm done one enters didn't get it

41:33

so i found about say that I just remember

41:35

like love lost yeah I think that's them like

41:37

you know their jokes are your moment that you

41:39

get welcome it as as a kid and him

41:42

your mom and on c o not saying much

41:44

say why I like the evil queen it was

41:46

that he enjoyed that actually and had a and

41:48

they did have a didn't laugh it the see

41:50

my mom. And her cousin's my aunts

41:52

and stuff like we would like would

41:55

classify as. a they've and so again i don't

41:57

know whether that is mates will not john and the

41:59

did walking stick in the kitchen, it'll be like,

42:01

ahh, yeah. And then it'll be like, oh, okay.

42:03

And that's when your mum or papa just be

42:05

like, acting as if she's all lenient. Like normally

42:07

on a normal Saturday, you'd be shouted.

42:09

Like you would not, you would not be, you know,

42:13

as soft as you are now kind of thing. Oh,

42:16

you're awake. Yeah. Yeah,

42:18

exactly. So those are the things. I am

42:20

so happy I had like a bunch of women around

42:22

me growing up. Like they're like, stick

42:25

man. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Like they were

42:27

just, like, cause we made, I didn't have many, many more to

42:29

have grown up at all. Like at

42:31

all, everybody was just a

42:34

woman and they were both all so

42:36

big and bold. They had different sizes,

42:38

different, they had sauce and stuff for

42:40

different things that are now a good old time, man.

42:42

Yeah, that was a good old thing. Bring back the

42:44

community. Bring back the community. Like I grew up in

42:46

an estate yet and I don't know what estates are like

42:48

now, but I know that the way I grew up was

42:51

like, I have a feeling it's not like that

42:53

anymore, but everybody was a

42:55

community. Like literally, if you

42:57

were misbehaving, someone else's mum would clip you by the ear and

42:59

take you home. I don't know, what do you think about that?

43:03

The thing is, sometimes, you know, like when you

43:05

grow up in a certain way, so

43:07

it's normalized to you. So for me,

43:09

I have no issues with that, but then

43:12

again, I don't know. Cause my mum didn't,

43:14

like you could turn it off, but you couldn't hear us. Not

43:17

legally, but like they would like bring

43:19

you, like buy the thing off your

43:21

t-shirt and they would bring you back

43:23

and say, and you

43:25

know what she was doing? Do you know what I mean?

43:27

And everybody could do that for each other. So

43:31

yeah, I don't know. I know that time's changing so far. I

43:33

have to be up there today. And my mum needs to show

43:35

off and like punish me more in front of people. Yeah, yeah,

43:37

yeah. I can't relax. It's like, you're not, I'm not the, I'm

43:39

not the springy. Oh, I forgot about yourself. I'm not the mud

43:41

parrot. Being up in park, my mum slapped me for

43:43

the fancy and I was so angry because I knew,

43:45

on a normal day, I would have been a slap

43:48

for that. The slapping would have been that hard. Yeah, yeah, that

43:50

slap would not have happened. What did I do? The show was like, I

43:52

gave her a dirty look. She

43:54

didn't even ask because she just slapped me. I was like,

43:56

because of her. Yeah, She didn't want that

43:58

other auntie to think that she's a mug. I

44:00

love that magazine. Me: How popular?

44:02

Have a minimum what are you

44:04

talking about? Often embarrassing. Was someone

44:06

minded than anything? Man yeah. the

44:08

openness. Of: I'm very strict Ice, I'm not

44:11

dismissing. To be pleasurable but you're known

44:13

as know what's your know about this

44:15

or not I realize size or in

44:17

a whole about passive. You know that

44:19

person that's not the need to shut

44:21

up with a disability I'm I'm not

44:23

cool use own about used to be

44:25

media whole language pathology harry maybe you

44:27

shouldn't have done that. may. Yes added

44:29

sick of of especially pronounced said look I ah.

44:32

I. Missed this of with the blood I wouldn't mind

44:35

if it was real well I wouldn't mind once

44:37

I met with this year if he ever actually

44:39

i'm not you have is. Crap.

44:41

Say it on the other party today

44:43

so I would have you been an

44:45

easy because I'm a job as I

44:47

have any that Obama he was everyday

44:49

and it's a good. Job.

44:52

Of how they have let us. Remember

44:55

my friends. Her.

44:57

Mom. That's the. Shit. Out

44:59

for fact, dog piss out of hardware

45:01

as I just ah, who am was

45:04

that and six of the. Adams

45:10

as is just be than the web. The

45:12

lights are with your friends that be about

45:14

five mom and in the Mumbai it's a

45:17

little fuck you for his business. At.

45:24

Don't say I. Have.

45:29

Another father's father. Oh.

45:33

Look the. Other local by

45:35

is something in my. Heart.

45:40

So we gonna want to put a lot

45:42

of had to see always wanted a good

45:44

spoofing is you wouldn't acknowledge it because you

45:46

knew that that could also be used to

45:48

be. We had an understanding that it would

45:50

just as he has a cigarette because subdivision

45:52

got. caught

45:55

up in ah the has No,

46:00

I'm like, that's your first time. I

46:02

was like, oh, you have to go home. You do that, okay, cool. I

46:04

don't know what time it is. Yeah, you just be like, okay, yeah, I'll

46:06

see you tomorrow. I'll see you tomorrow. Cool, cool, cool, cool. No, when you're

46:08

a fan, you used to come in a bit with some like, can you

46:10

use your own fan? I was gonna be

46:12

like, do you know what? They're grounded now.

46:15

You gotta go home. You gotta go home. And I'm

46:17

just like, yeah, I'm just speaking my fingers and just

46:19

believing, oh my God. I'll see you later, guys. No,

46:21

I remember those days. Oh, God, yeah, no, watching your

46:23

friends get punished and actually, it was just the media

46:25

balance. It was embarrassing. It was just embarrassing. Just all

46:28

these little drink hits about growing up. And like, I

46:30

remember it was like a trend or something on Twitter

46:32

and they were sort of saying about when you get

46:34

out all day, then you go home to get a

46:36

warning. I'm like, you're not gonna get out. I'm

46:42

like, I just came for more. And

46:44

it was always when the game was getting lit. No,

46:46

no, no. What

46:49

kind of shipping drive am I gonna have? No.

46:52

It was always when the game was peaked. My mum

46:54

would be offended that I was supposed to take that.

46:56

Is it? It's not even. No,

46:58

it's just, I'm like, no, go get it. No, no,

47:00

what's the question? What? What is it for? No, that

47:02

was somehow. Why would I get a cut? No, that

47:04

was slow out. I thought it was a cut. Because

47:06

you wouldn't have cared if I didn't put it in

47:08

the house. And now you've captured me. No,

47:10

I'm stuck. No, that was so

47:13

creepy. My mum used to hear me and my

47:15

cousin laughing. Yeah, I'm stuck. What are you laughing

47:17

about? I was like, why can't we enjoy life?

47:19

What is this? Why is

47:21

the town of children laughing? Oh, they're

47:23

good. I think they think we're up to now,

47:26

did you know? But I guess, older you get

47:28

noise. Yeah, noise is also very,

47:30

very annoying. You children actually stop talking. Like, I

47:32

don't wanna hear you talk. Yeah, you're tired. You've

47:35

worked a long ass shift and now you just hear

47:37

these kids just cackling. Like, oh. Like, what's funny? What's

47:39

funny? Like, what's actually funny? Yeah, I was like, yeah,

47:41

I was in some of my situation. No, man. Because we're

47:43

doing this by ourselves. What do you think you were in and

47:45

out? Yeah. Like, that one I

47:47

understand because the last time once I captured you, it's

47:50

over, if you're in or out. Cool. But

47:53

the one you've been out all day, you come back from one

47:55

place or another to try. Just force us. That's out of all

47:57

the words. No. Oh, you just would not be

47:59

able to play out. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

48:01

I get my friends. I used to

48:03

laugh those days. I say, you're not. And you say,

48:05

Mrs. Shona. Yeah. Mrs.

48:08

Shona. Good afternoon, man. Mrs.

48:11

Shona. Wait, you're the youngest. Your siblings used to

48:13

ask me to ask for McDonald's. Oh, yes. I'll

48:17

let them tell you one more. At the time, my

48:19

mum was with her partner. And

48:22

they would say, they'd be like, when you come, ask him. Yeah,

48:25

they'd be like, don't ask for my mother. No,

48:28

I don't look at trickery muffins. They were like, when you

48:30

come, ask this to him. Because they knew that. He would

48:32

say, yeah, he's the one who'd ask. They'd be like, when

48:34

he comes, ask him for Chinese. He was always shining. My

48:37

family loves Chinese for one day.

48:40

But every time he came, he's like, how's

48:42

my five-year-nad? Chinese is a luxury. Go

48:44

ask him for Chinese. Go ask him for Chinese. Oh,

48:47

my God. I'm cool. I'm cool. And

48:50

as the older one, you're watching through the fannister. You're like,

48:53

don't fuck up the shit from. I

48:55

told you exactly what to say. I used to do it

48:57

to my brother and just stop all the time. I'd be like, go

48:59

and ask for money. Yeah. Go

49:02

and especially when my brother came along. And

49:04

also sometimes I'm going to keep texting him off.

49:06

I'll go to him and be like, Mummy, let

49:09

me send you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'll send him

49:11

to me. Why am I always getting sent? Because

49:13

I don't think I'm having the last one. So

49:15

many things that are the worst one was like,

49:17

that the savage uncle, they used to come and see us. And

49:20

every time he came, he left us money.

49:22

He always gave us money. Always

49:24

gave us money. Great. But he used to

49:26

give it like according to our age.

49:30

That is a new. My oldest will

49:32

get hundreds. Then we'll get 50 and I'll get 25.

49:35

Isn't it just easy to

49:37

give everyone equal? Yeah. Why

49:40

is my age? No,

49:42

Asian African culture is such a thing. I used

49:45

to always say the least. It used to make

49:47

me so angry. Like, why can't I get 100?

49:49

Like everybody, like, what the hell? Well, and the

49:51

second you'll never get it because you're never the

49:53

oldest. Go down. and

50:00

gave me a hundred, but I was like, what? No,

50:02

but still, when am I gonna get one, 200, then?

50:04

Why do I always get less? Why always me? Yeah,

50:06

no, the age thing is mad. Like

50:08

there's so many things that as the youngest, as the eldest, oh my

50:10

God, it really paid out. And I've been in a mob, I'll be

50:12

like, yeah, let me hold it for you. Yeah, exactly. I don't want

50:14

you to hold it for me. The amount of money I've never seen

50:18

that was handed to me, money that

50:20

I earned, my hard earned cash from

50:22

the dancing competition, from them

50:24

backflips I would do, the running man, I'd

50:26

sweat my ass off doing the running

50:28

man, and I'd never seen my pants. And the

50:30

thing is, the longest time I always believed my

50:32

mum was holding it. Same, I thought, on my

50:34

18th birthday, she was gonna run that. I was

50:36

like, yeah, she's holding it. Do

50:38

you remember turning 18 in an African household,

50:41

a clock? Absolutely nothing. I thought I was

50:43

gonna wake up on my 18th birthday to

50:45

a car and freedom. Yeah,

50:47

when I was 18, nothing happened. Literally

50:50

nothing. In fact, as long as I didn't mind that, you're not

50:52

a big girl. Yeah, yeah. My mum was adamant that because I

50:54

think I'm now 18, which

50:58

I was, I didn't think it, I was now a

51:00

problem. No, nothing happened to

51:02

my 18th. Even my 21st. I

51:05

didn't happen to my 18th, I was like, oh

51:08

my God, to freedom, nothing happened. I

51:10

waited four years, three years, however long it is. 21st,

51:14

nothing happened. I was given a bit more freedom, my 21st.

51:17

21st, my boyfriend is allowed to come to the house when

51:19

I was 21. Is he? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Right,

51:23

okay, yeah. Yeah, yeah,

51:25

my boyfriend, he'd met

51:27

my parents. When you were 21? No,

51:30

probably older actually, maybe like 23, but

51:32

I was definitely with him. But, um.

51:35

That was a big mistake, I'm sorry I sent you an Evans

51:37

voice. Mum told me to call the garden,

51:39

and I was like, oh my God, no.

51:41

You do want your son or son in law, you were pretending

51:43

to be cutting garden, but nothing happened to my

51:45

18th, right? Yeah, nothing. There was no special, anything,

51:47

which was a normal, happy birthday. Yeah, same. Not

51:50

a car, not a mini, nothing. In fact, I've

51:52

opened up my first car. Yeah. Did

51:54

you check with me your first car? I did, but

51:56

it was a fucking hoot tea. Not

51:58

that. It was a KA. Yeah, I

52:01

love the KA. That was

52:03

such a nice car. They look like little bubbles.

52:05

It was at 500 Gans. They

52:08

still exist. Not a

52:10

new one. I

52:12

don't know if they're still making new. No, because they've

52:14

got new shapes. Oh

52:16

yeah. At a pair show too.

52:20

Jeez, I wanted that car so badly. That was

52:22

a green one, wasn't it? No, my

52:24

one was a good one. I love the

52:26

Peugeot too. Those

52:28

cars used to slap the B-all, the

52:30

Clio, the Polo, the Mini, the KA.

52:34

Those were the five cars that everybody had. I remember

52:37

when I eventually got my Mini Cooper. What?

52:40

Bro, I bought a Mini Cooper. That was a Hootie as well. No

52:42

one could tell me nothing about him. Until

52:44

today I still love Mini Cooper. Yeah, Mini

52:46

Cooper's a side keeper. It's been two years.

52:48

I had to look sick. I wanted the

52:50

cream one so bad. I thought the cream Mini

52:53

Cooper was my dream car. 21

52:55

year old. What was your car history? I

52:58

had a KA. It was

53:00

green, like emerald green. Then

53:04

I had a KA. No,

53:06

sorry, I said that already. I had a KA which

53:08

was emerald green. Then I had a silver Mini

53:10

Cooper, but that was a Hootie. Then

53:12

I got my Mercedes.

53:15

Oh, you leaked. I was

53:17

a soldier for many moons. My

53:20

ex-boyfriend, he used to have a one series and he used

53:22

to let me drive that often. But

53:25

it was definitely not my car. Then I got my Mercedes

53:27

and I've got another Mercedes. What about

53:29

you? I had a Peugeot 206. Peugeot

53:32

206 was their car. Emerald green. She loved

53:34

that car. I even wanted to go buy it. I

53:37

drove past the

53:42

car. The man looked at me like

53:44

I was a s***. I was so excited to

53:46

see him. But yeah, Peugeot 206.

53:49

Then I got a... What did

53:51

I get after? I think I got my Mini after.

53:54

My Mini. Then

53:56

I went to go Clio. Okay,

53:58

Clio. Yeah, and then I got my BMW. Yeah,

54:00

I remember that's when I knew. That's when you first met me. Yeah,

54:02

you had the white one. You married my white one, then I got

54:04

my range. Yes. And I got the car you

54:06

had. Oh yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Because we're

54:09

car friends, baby. We are car friends, guys. I

54:11

love my BMW. I love that car. Yeah, I

54:13

love that car. The one series... Oh my

54:15

God. Me and Brent got in a car accident in that car. That's when

54:17

I got bitten off. Oh shit. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

54:19

yeah. Yeah, me and Brent. Like, why is the

54:21

car accident here? No, literally. You know what? I

54:24

saw the other day, so Brent now. Brent now. Brent.

54:26

Brent has been through some things with us, man. And also that

54:28

day, Brent said, I am a man. Okay,

54:31

let me even tell you this. What is Brent's name? Yo.

54:34

So, we are in the

54:36

off-bridge, of course. Because that's where the

54:38

majority of the cars happen. IG 10. The IG

54:40

10, I can never hear it. Car accident

54:42

central. So we get to the red light,

54:44

right? I know why as well. That's mad.

54:49

We get to the red light. And for

54:51

some reason, the idiot behind me said he thought I wasn't

54:53

going to stop the red light. So

54:55

he smashes into... I saw him coming. I was

54:57

like, this guy's not slowing down. Smashes

55:00

into the back of the car. What is wrong with

55:02

him? Me and Brent just go

55:04

forward. And I thought, oh, if

55:06

the traffic light, this guy's going to try and... Car. Brent

55:09

got out of the car. He said, turn the

55:11

corner. He said, yeah, Brent, let's go. Yeah,

55:14

yeah, yeah, that's what I mean.

55:17

And Brent is a big top black man. He's got six

55:19

fours. How full are you? He's got six

55:21

fours. He's got a six form. He's got wham,

55:24

Caribbean accent, riot. Strict. Strict.

55:28

He's all of that. But then the boy goes

55:30

on the corner. You can tell he was trying him. He was

55:32

like, no, no, it was just sort of privately. Then he's

55:34

going to say shut up. I forgot a video on my

55:36

face with this thing. Brent

55:38

made him record. When

55:43

I took the photo, he said, I'm stilting him. So

55:45

sorry. Oh my God. How

55:47

come I did that? I'm sorry.

55:50

So sorry. I said you caused

55:52

the accident. Brent,

55:54

I've filmed the one thing. Wow. I

55:58

didn't realise that yet with good effort. Yeah,

56:00

I'm sorry, I called the accident. Wow. The

56:02

one said, I went and said, ring your driver license.

56:05

I took a driver license, took a picture, they went

56:08

and ran a note, take the phone on driver's license

56:10

again and take the

56:12

social ability for the accident. They only

56:15

spent about 20 minutes into the picture of all

56:17

angles of the voice card. Oh my God. I

56:20

think we had this driver's license on my phone from that

56:22

day when Brent was like, you're going to. You're going to

56:24

pay? You're going to pay for this. What are you doing?

56:26

What do you mean you're not stopping at traffic? Like, life

56:28

sucks. You fucking idiot. I mean, yeah,

56:30

I did get my pay off right this way. Good.

56:33

Yeah, look at the driver license. I

56:37

see his whole face. It's still

56:40

there. His whole face. Yeah, he's

56:42

like, everything is still on the

56:44

phone. Wow. You are not

56:46

hitting us. Not to say. I'm getting

56:48

away with it. But yeah, that day I was like,

56:50

because I was shucking up. Yeah, that's a lot.

56:52

I didn't have to bend in me. I think if I find myself, I

56:55

would have just been like, I don't know what to do, this is long

56:57

or whatever. Put it all out. I

57:00

felt like that's a say, Brent's a man. A man.

57:02

A man. Brent is like an old school

57:04

archetype of a man though. Do you know what

57:06

I mean? Yeah, this video is still here. I

57:08

love that. What was

57:10

it, Brent? The 30th best of all

57:12

good. I don't want to show you his face, I want to hear it. Like,

57:15

everything. And the car got written off. That

57:17

was the man writing the note that Brent made him write.

57:19

He's proper writing it like a fucking mug. What the fuck?

57:22

Look at me filming the note. Oh, what's that? It's

57:25

beautiful handwriting. So,

57:27

yeah. Wow. And

57:30

then... I can have a car

57:32

for a very long time. No, I knew that happened, but I

57:34

didn't know the story. No, no. Brent took

57:36

charge. No, Brent really took charge. I just stood in a standing in

57:38

the corner. Wow. And I said to

57:40

Ben Alsons, I was like, do you want to claim anything? Yeah. And

57:43

Brent said, no. Brent said, no. What an honest

57:45

time. Brent's a man of honor though. He's so honest. He's

57:47

a man of honor. I thought I sure you didn't get

57:49

that. He said, no, I'm cool. He's a

57:51

man of honor. I'm Mia O'Turture. Brent,

57:53

implicitly. Would you? Yeah,

57:55

yeah, yeah. To pay nice too much. Exactly.

57:58

I trust him. Your photos

58:00

leaking or your message is leaking? Oh

58:04

my photos. My photos are not actually leaking. I don't

58:06

even really have any new photos. Yeah. Nothing. Yeah,

58:10

yeah, no. Like absolutely my photos,

58:12

my messages. Sometimes I don't even

58:14

like saying that to you hard because I don't want it to be

58:17

like... Yeah, I want to try. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah,

58:19

I think that's it. They'll be like, what's happening? Yeah, yeah,

58:21

yeah. Oh, what you got in there? I'll go and sit

58:23

in a bit. I'll call my group practice. Let

58:25

me just shut up. Let me just shut your

58:27

mouth. Shut up. It says... That's incredibly boring. Exactly.

58:30

There's nothing there. We know they're hymns and prayers.

58:32

Yep, yep. And positive messages of motivation. Oh, we

58:34

try to outplay each other by everybody. And that

58:36

is about it. And that's all that's in our group

58:38

chat? That is all that's in our group chat and

58:41

in this chat apparently. So I'm done. Me too.

58:43

You got more to add? I haven't got nothing else

58:45

to add, you know? I feel like I've got everything I wanted to

58:47

get off my chest. Okay. When

58:49

this comes out, we

58:52

won't be in this country. No, I won't be. No,

58:54

will I be back? I can't remember. Yeah,

58:57

now that we're too weak, I've got no idea. I don't know what's

58:59

going on. But I hope you enjoyed

59:01

this episode of the Mesquite Podcast. Last

59:04

in words? Last in

59:06

words, I

59:09

want everyone to stay safe and

59:13

to look out for each other and to just be kinder

59:15

to one another. You never know what people are

59:17

going through. And

59:19

even if you don't know what people are going through,

59:22

that doesn't warrant unkindness. Even if they're not going through

59:24

shit. Even if they're having a time often. Especially

59:26

even. I feel like I'm going to be

59:28

more unkindness. Sorry, that's taking me

59:30

to the thing I did when I talk about. The internet

59:33

is redid. I don't know if it's Gen

59:35

Z meant like too many taps. You are

59:37

my... And taps, I'm sorry. Because

59:40

the thing is, I want to separate mental health from

59:42

people that are tapped. There are people that are just

59:44

tapped, sorry. Oh my god. There are people that

59:46

are tapped. So many people are tapped.

59:49

There was someone that said something about their thing, of that women

59:51

in school, people were always in sex. So you

59:53

didn't have to in that chapter there. In the world

59:55

there's no set. Yeah. There's no set one, set two,

59:57

set three, set eight. So everyone's just... I

1:00:00

had a conversation with someone that was in set 8. And

1:00:02

you said something like, I'm not going to be in a conversation

1:00:04

with someone that's smart. When you're not going in set 8. And

1:00:06

here you are, trying to argue them on the internet. This person

1:00:08

was in set 8. In

1:00:10

school, they would have been in set 8. And you're hearing someone

1:00:12

like, I want to actually be on the internet. You just have to

1:00:14

ignore. Like, so was that to say, like, I'm

1:00:17

really, I'm fascinated by like, picking someone at the height

1:00:19

of their success and deciding that, yeah, fuck it. We

1:00:21

don't care, we're going to bring them down. That is

1:00:23

scary to me. There's a whole thing. This

1:00:26

is a different conversation, but with like, Jackie, I know, he's

1:00:28

been a guest here. Yeah, I'm a very different guest here.

1:00:30

She's just teaching me, Hey, we

1:00:32

love him. People

1:00:34

said, I don't want you guys to call me answers. But Soxni, this

1:00:37

is the same internet, that's always

1:00:39

harping on about boundaries. I don't like it. Okay.

1:00:43

I used to be okay there, but I decided I don't

1:00:45

like it. And it's not something I'm really into anymore. I don't

1:00:47

want Ant sniper myself. I'm only 36. I

1:00:50

don't want this title that you that given me. I

1:00:53

don't want it. And then you now saying, yes, but I don't

1:00:55

get why. You didn't actually get why. She

1:00:57

doesn't want it to happen. End of. I

1:01:01

just wanted it so. She's not relating to you.

1:01:04

Your mom and her sister, your mom and your and her

1:01:06

mom are not related. She's something you have

1:01:08

a calling out. Just because you can't fathom.

1:01:10

People that are older. Like at her age, because

1:01:12

she's just a couple of years, you're senior. She's

1:01:15

like, if she says she doesn't want it,

1:01:17

it doesn't have to make sense to you. I'm sorry. It's loaded

1:01:19

as well. You cannot convince me. I saw the stitches

1:01:21

of some girl. I think she thought that she was

1:01:23

galvanizing, but she was just getting

1:01:25

flogged in the comments. And I was so glad that there

1:01:27

was a wave of people that saw sense and that understood

1:01:30

exactly where Jackie was coming from. And I wrote in the

1:01:32

comments. I was like, good. I'm glad you got blocked because

1:01:34

it's rude. Do you know

1:01:36

what I mean? Like there doesn't even have to be

1:01:38

no big, deep reason. Someone doesn't like something. That's a

1:01:40

good enough reason not to do it. She hasn't been

1:01:42

rude about it. She's just politely asked if you don't

1:01:44

refer to her as that. And then if you

1:01:46

do, she blocks you and rightfully so. I

1:01:49

don't understand it. And then like, oh, she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to

1:01:51

be our friend. She just wants us to buy her products. When she ever says

1:01:53

she wants to be your friend. Exactly. She's

1:01:55

here to promote products. Like this,

1:01:57

like, yeah, exactly. It's like people. have

1:02:00

to have a deep relationship with you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a

1:02:02

critique Beyonce gets out, she doesn't talk so much, she wants us

1:02:04

to buy her stuff. Take the

1:02:06

art I've given you, why do I have to talk to you? Yeah,

1:02:10

there's no, there's no news around your necktie to do

1:02:12

anything at the end of the day, but that whole

1:02:14

auntie thing is very loaded. Like it's very loaded, you

1:02:16

can't sit here and tell me that it's supposed to

1:02:19

be a compliment, it's rooted in shade as far as

1:02:21

I'm concerned. The only people that I don't listen

1:02:23

to when they say, so for example, I call uncles

1:02:25

uncle, I want to say I'm not your uncle because

1:02:27

I know they're predators. Yeah, exactly. So I say

1:02:29

uncle, so they're aware that, no, no, no, I

1:02:31

know you are very much older than me. You're

1:02:34

a big daddy man. And you shouldn't be chatting

1:02:36

to me. Apart

1:02:39

from that, if someone says, even if a 50 or 60

1:02:41

I say to me, hey, don't call me, I'll get it

1:02:43

like that. Yeah, exactly, because even in some people's cultures they

1:02:45

don't, like not everybody is like that. I'm not saying that

1:02:47

every day, by the way, you call it uncles. They don't

1:02:49

do that to the white influences, they don't. There's not a

1:02:51

chart in hell that you would say that's a money man.

1:02:54

Yeah, you would never ever do that. And I know people were trying

1:02:56

to be like, oh, it's not an insult.

1:03:01

It comes from rich auntie, but she's never

1:03:03

said she's never, I've never heard Jackie Aina

1:03:05

refer to herself as a rich auntie. And

1:03:07

if she, maybe she used to, but even

1:03:09

if she did, that was then people have

1:03:12

the right to change their mind about how they

1:03:14

want to be addressed. And you just have no choice

1:03:16

but to respect it. And if you can't fuck with

1:03:18

her because you buy a force one

1:03:20

to call auntie, then that means you never really

1:03:22

fucked her in the first place, to be

1:03:24

honest with you, because that's not a good enough reason to warrant

1:03:28

just going against someone's wishes, like respect what people say.

1:03:30

I love that you've not attacked. You think someone can

1:03:32

block me and make a whole video and start to

1:03:34

be like, oh, this person loves me. Because they think

1:03:36

that other people are going to jump on the bandwagon.

1:03:39

Like if you've been blocked, I guarantee you, no one has

1:03:41

ever not blocked for no reason. I can block you

1:03:43

because I don't like her using it. Exactly. We

1:03:45

could have never interacted. And it happens often, it

1:03:47

happens often. And you'll be surprised at things

1:03:49

that come across people's timelines. You could have tweeted

1:03:52

something mad, not even at anybody, but that person's

1:03:54

seen it and they've been like, no, I don't

1:03:56

like that. Because

1:03:58

a lot of the time if you don't, if you've never had a I have an

1:04:00

interaction with the person they brought to us because they don't want

1:04:02

to have a future interaction with me. They

1:04:04

never want to see anything you've got to

1:04:06

say. You've said something that they don't fuck with

1:04:08

and they've brought you and people have the right to

1:04:10

preserve their peace. Anyone who's blocked me say...

1:04:14

Yeah, same. I might have done something. People who don't like

1:04:16

me, they don't want to talk the text your piece. Yeah, I'm

1:04:18

glad because I'm not going to not call me. You're doing the

1:04:20

right thing to fix your piece and block me and make sure

1:04:22

you don't count for me again. That's it. And then we don't

1:04:24

have to have interactions. Yeah, perfect. I

1:04:27

don't understand why people get really offended by that.

1:04:29

You've done something, especially ones that will be in

1:04:31

someone's comments abusing them and then wonder why you've

1:04:33

done blocks. I remember someone done that to Baloney

1:04:36

and then it was just like you were talking shit and she's

1:04:38

blocking and you came on there to be like, I can't believe Baloney blocked. Why

1:04:41

was she? That level of that is weird.

1:04:43

I'm actually all they say. They take their little mics

1:04:45

and be like... Exactly. Let me tell you a story

1:04:47

about the time the sermon tape blocked me. The

1:04:50

need to get notoriety off someone else's name is

1:04:52

embarrassing. Yeah, it's cringe, man. So there's that. Well, good

1:04:54

luck to everybody involved. And

1:04:57

that was my last and worst. Not being tapped, man. In

1:04:59

the world where you can pick to not be tapped, pick

1:05:02

to not be tapped, it's fine.

1:05:04

These parasocial relationships are exactly that. You

1:05:06

don't know these people. Like,

1:05:09

support people of course. And you say you love them

1:05:11

and they say they don't like something. But then don't

1:05:13

do it. But

1:05:15

we do need to have a deeper dive

1:05:17

as to why people become disinterested once people

1:05:19

have gotten to certain heights. I find it

1:05:21

so scary. It's definitely because we

1:05:23

sort of talk about it in this podcast that that will happen. Yeah,

1:05:26

yeah, exactly. I'm glad you saw the full cut. Yeah,

1:05:28

exactly. Exactly. So it

1:05:30

wasn't shocking but it was a web of prediction

1:05:32

that we saw it come in from the spot.

1:05:34

Every dog has its day and here's our day.

1:05:36

Everyone has their day in court, man. Yeah, really.

1:05:38

Unfortunately. Yeah, that is it. That

1:05:40

is it for this episode of The They're

1:05:49

going to be high regardless. If it's

1:05:51

their destiny, you can hate for

1:05:54

mouth or kingdom. It makes you

1:05:56

sick. It makes you negative. You

1:06:00

are not in charge of someone's favour. And also, there's only

1:06:02

someone who can sit and summon us a favour, it's not

1:06:04

yours. Eventually, you'll be shown

1:06:06

the point you do. And

1:06:09

that's now that. You and your girl, see? And

1:06:11

just call me Audrey. Bye! This

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