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Welcome back to the momgilt

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podcast . It's been a minute . We're so happy

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that you guys are here to join

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us here today on

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this beautiful day . It

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actually got really gross . Last week

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was like really warm and then it like

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rained and now it's freezing . So

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it is freezing . It got really super warm last week

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, like hot I know , I was literally wearing shorts

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, and now it's cold

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again . I know

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it's cold , but yeah

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, so how are you ? It's

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been a minute . I'm good

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. I'm

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getting married in a month . I know it's so crazy Like

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even less than a month now couple days and

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I'm really tired of planning things , so

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I'm ready for it to be here . Also , I'm

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tired of paying people . So

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it's like the last month I wouldn't know

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, because I planned a wedding in like three

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months , because I waited and then I planned everything , which

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also was not smart . Don't do that . But

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I have to like pay all these people and I'm

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like I'm gonna be broke

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once this wedding is done . It's

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freaking expensive actually . I kind of wish

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we would have eloped , but I

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think it's gonna be worth it . It'll be super fun

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. Yeah , it's gonna be a blast and you're gonna love

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every moment of it . It'll be fun . Yeah

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, the money will be worth it . You're gonna be thinking about it that

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day or that weekend . The weekend's

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gonna be fun , yeah , so we're just finishing

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that stuff and then , yeah

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, that's about it . I've just been working and planning

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wedding things so

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I didn't wanna talk about this . I saw I read

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this super cool thing or it's like , I

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don't know . It made my mom guilt feel

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a little bit better because

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I got always so tired and feel

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so defeated . And so I read there's like a new

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poll that came out and

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it's us

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versus our kids arguments and

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like the average parent . The poll came out and

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it looked at like the average parents

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win , lose record versus their

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, then versus their kids , and

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so what percentage

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do you think we win ? I

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don't know . I think we're losers . What

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percentage do we win ? Yeah , like with any argument

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, like when we're telling our child what to do , what they

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can't do , what they can have , what they can't have

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, what they can't have 37%

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, okay , never , okay

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. So it says according to this new average

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parent , according

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to this , the new average parent Not the good , not the good

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parent , the average parent , so

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not us the new average

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parent gets 190 wins

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a year . What percentage is it ? The

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average parent also caves and

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gives their kid what they want 218

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times a year , so the kid wins about

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53% of the time . Thanks

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, I really thought we were losing . Yeah , so

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it's better . I think 37 , just good , so it's

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better . Yeah , yeah . So what they're talking

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about like this is talking the

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top parenting losses , so

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eating whatever they want . So

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, like , you just need your child to eat

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, period . Yeah , just eat food

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. We're just surviving on chicken

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, nuggets and fries right now , basically

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from any restaurant or frozen lunch

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, and I actually made a video on social media and

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I got a lot of hate . There was some people that were like , feed

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your child real food . And I'm like , but

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what you don't know is my son would be starving

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if he didn't eat these chicken . You're so piggy , actually

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. Yeah , yeah , yeah , no , we'll

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like literally make a good meal and I'm

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like , oh , he's gonna love this . Nope , trash

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does not eat , it , does not . And then we have

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to cook the nuggets anyways . Yeah , so I'm like I'd rather just

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not even cook . At least he's eating food . You

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know he's not starving , so people can Whatever

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. No , yeah , they were in their fields at like that frozen

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monstrous meal . I'm like , okay

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, whatever . You don't eat . Frozen meals ? Okay

4:33

, no , seriously I do . I

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do too . Frozen chicken nuggets , frozen pizza

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? No , he definitely eats what he

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wants . Eastern , you know , the baby's

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can't eat anything else , but I don't know

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. I feel like there's like bigger battles to

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be won . Oh

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for sure , then making your kids eat . No , I

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mean , I get the nutrition side of it , but it's like

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I think , pick your battles , jameson

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and I's biggest fight right now

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in it . Oh my gosh , I'm

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like dude , this is ridiculous . You were a boy . You

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should not care about what you wear this much every

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single morning . Mommy , I don't like these

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pants . These are not my favorite

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. Yeah , these are not my favorite . Eastern

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does that sometimes , but it's usually only when he

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wants to wear Spider-Man . Nope , it's like Marvel

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, anything . If I put anything else on him , I buy him like

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these cute outfits from my cousin's

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store and they're like , they're like neutrals

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and they're so cute . And he literally is

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like what is this shit

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? He's like Spider-Man , spider-man

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. I'm like , oh my God , so

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literally . I went to Costco and there was like a $5 . I'm like

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I'm just buying you $5 Spider-Man shirts , since

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this is all you're wearing , Like literally . That's another battle

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too . Yeah , that . And then I got

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him these . This is me

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, this is probably on me Cause Michael was like I

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wouldn't wear those either , but I got

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them . They're not Uggs . I

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bought Jameson and Pera Uggs last year and he

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wore them for like three weeks . We'll never do that again , but

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they're like the knockoff Uggs , like slipper

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looking things . I got him a target

5:58

. They look so cute with certain little outfits

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that he wears , hates them , literally

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had a screaming , crying meltdown

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because I wanted him to wear them . Yeah

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, you know , it's like my child doesn't wear a jacket

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when it's cold and when we go to daycare

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they just look at me cause I'm like bundled up

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with like four layers and I'm freezing , and he's

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like no , and we walk up and

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I swear everyone's looking at me like you don't

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put your child in a jacket . I can't buy her child a jacket

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and I'm like I just like hold it and I'm like I

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have a jacket , you just won't put it on . I'm like , yeah

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, to like literally show them , but it's so embarrassing , like

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, oh my God , I swear I tried , just wasn't gonna

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fight with them this morning . It's so bad , cause I literally will be

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wearing like the biggest jacket and like boot

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. I'll be like cozied up and literally

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my child's like in a T-shirt and he's

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like I don't wanna wear anything else . I'm like , oh

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my God , yeah , literally

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so embarrassing . Okay , the next

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one is screen time at the table

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. We

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don't really do it , we

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only give . Well , he has like three tablets

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is what he calls them but he has a

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lot of them . Literally has

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two , but I

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don't know . He watches them at his

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little table when we're not eating

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as a family . When we're eating as a family

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, he does pretty good like hanging out with us , but he

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does use his tablet a lot , a

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lot , a lot more that the babies are

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here , because like a lot of times we'll be with the babies

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. That's like mom guilt to him , like just

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go watch your tablet while I feed

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your brothers , but it's like , well , that's not even gonna do , I'm

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not even gonna front . A

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lot of times I'm not even gonna front . It's so

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bad . But like if we go to dinner at a restaurant

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and say we're with friends , after

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a while Jameson eats super fast after

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he's done eating and we're hanging

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out and we're chilling , he's done Like

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he wants to leave and we're still not . So , yep , you're

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gonna have my phone and I'm gonna turn on Bluey and you can sit

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there and watch Bluey . No , in a public place I don't

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care . If we're like eating at home , he doesn't

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do it . But in a public place I'm like I'm doing anything

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to make sure that you just are chill . Yes

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, control , don't make a sound , yep , please

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. Okay , the next one is buying

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them something they want and don't need Literally

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every single day . It's bad

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. It's bad . Which one did Target

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yesterday and I was trying to get

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I was getting a phone case , actually for my new phone , because

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I will break a phone before and I just had

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it for like a couple hours . I was like I need to put something on

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this . So I was like I'm gonna target and

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I got Easton a soccer ball

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and a football and a Nerf

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gun and wait , there

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was something else . What else did I get him ? Oh , and then

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he loves the dollar section , because

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now they have like all these like Christmas things

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and there was like little Spider-Man ball . So like

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I bought him a shit type of things and

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I'm like , okay , christmas is coming soon , so sometimes I

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can like talk him out of some things , but honestly like

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I don't care , I

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should care more . But yeah , I'm

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that way too . Every time we go he

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gets something , every single time , every

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time I don't know , I also , but

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I'm like I do the same thing . So I kind of feel bad

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, like if I go into Target , I did not only buy a phone

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case , I bought a blanket , I was

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like random things and I was like dang . I

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kind of feel bad because I'm like buying myself all these

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things and I'm like telling him , no , yeah

9:08

, could have be me , could have be me . Yeah

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, no , yeah , he gets pretty much

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whatever he wants . Yeah , so does

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Jameson . And

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then letting them stay up past their bedtime . I

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don't have this problem because Easton loves bedtime

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. Like , actually , he really

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does , he actually does love bedtime . No

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, yeah , like actually is like I'm ready for bed

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bottle and he gets milk

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. So I'm like , okay , here's your milk , bye

9:36

, and he will literally lay in his bed . Jameson

9:39

is getting more self aware . Like when he needs

9:41

a nap , he'll come up to me and he'll be like mommy

9:43

, I need to nap him and go lay down . Yeah , and he'll

9:45

go lay down in bed time we're

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working on it . He likes to fall asleep in the living

9:50

room while we're watching something he's really into Tom and Jerry

9:52

right now and I love that , because I love Tom and

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Jerry as a kid . But he likes

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to do that . So he falls

9:59

asleep and we lay him in his bed . But

10:02

staying up past his

10:04

bedtime not really not . I'm going to bed during

10:07

like weeknights Out , yeah

10:10

, out . He's simple . Put himself

10:12

down for a nap . But to force him to nap , but he will

10:14

. But as soon as you lay him down , he will fall asleep for a nap , but

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he does . That's

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good . We never had . He's always

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slept like 12 hours . So we haven't really to

10:23

deal with that with him . The twins

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aren't great sleepers yet , so we'll see . Yeah

10:28

, I feel like we're going to be cursed with them , like not

10:30

wanting to sleep , yeah , but

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we'll see . Yeah

10:35

, they like to sleep with us too . So I'm like they're

10:37

so big . I haven't , I feel I haven't seen

10:39

him in like a month and

10:41

I came in and Coco is so big . Oh

10:43

, my goodness , I mean the best talk . It

10:45

was so sweet Big babies . Like literally

10:48

every time the doctors are like , are

10:50

they actually this big ? I'm like you're the one weighing

10:53

on , like I don't know what I'm supposed to do , but

10:55

they do eat a lot . But we're

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trying to like start food

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because , like they're , they're seven

11:02

months , almost eight months . I'm like , ok , so like we've

11:04

tried baby purées , they hate them

11:06

. We've tried like mashed potatoes , they hate

11:08

them , like everything that Easton like

11:10

they hate . So they're just addicted to formula

11:12

, literally , and I feel like the formula

11:15

and I forgot that , like with Easton , I breastfed

11:17

a lot longer , I pumped

11:19

and he had breast milk a lot longer than

11:21

twins . So I was like , how did Easton , how is Easton so

11:23

little compared to them ? Brett

11:26

, it's formula ? Well , they've been

11:28

formula since like the first , like

11:30

two weeks , I pumped until I got mastitis

11:32

and that was horrible . But , like before that , I pumped

11:34

, but it was only like two weeks , yeah , and so

11:37

Easton was at least

11:39

like four or five months . So , like the difference

11:41

in just like them having formula since

11:43

that time frame , like with Easton

11:46

, I'm like they do

11:48

, they are big , they're

11:50

big , they are , but they're the best , they're

11:53

so cute babies . Well

11:55

, chanka babies , I love them . So

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I have some news oh

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gosh , I'm

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having a baby girl

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. No , I'm just kidding , we don't know , but I

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have a girl . Oh , my god , do you , do

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you like ? This is a weird question

12:14

. I was about to be asked , if you never

12:17

mind , no , I was

12:19

like I don't know . Sometimes , like

12:21

when I , when we got pregnant with the twins , I was like I

12:23

wonder , when we were having sex

12:25

, like what was

12:27

? When was the timing ? Oh I know . But we also like weren't

12:30

trying . So it's like very hard to not . But y'all like

12:32

kind of were trying . But right

12:34

, it's funny how God has

12:36

a sense of humor . So we were

12:38

trying , yeah , and we

12:40

were trying for probably like five months

12:42

, I would say , and like keeping

12:45

up with everything , and then

12:47

it just wasn't happening . It wasn't God's

12:49

timing and I was kind of like other

12:51

stuff , so I guess maybe right now is not

12:54

the time . And then when we literally

12:56

were like OK , you know , we're not going to track everything

12:58

anymore , he was like guess what

13:00

? Here it is . So

13:03

it's a blessing . It was a sweet , sweet surprise

13:05

. I was not expecting it whatsoever , but

13:07

it was sweet . I

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know I want a little girl so bad . I'm

13:14

like I don't know Jameson does too . It's so sweet

13:16

, he is so sweet . When we told him , he

13:19

was like we said

13:21

Jameson , what is something that you've been asking

13:23

for for so long ? And he was like a toy . We're

13:25

like , no , what else ? He goes

13:28

a baby sister . And we're like

13:30

, well , guess what ? Mommy has a baby in her

13:32

belly . And he goes a baby sister

13:34

. We're like , well , we don't know yet . And he was like

13:36

, but it's a baby sister . And we're like , well

13:38

, we don't know , and maybe a baby brother . He goes no , it's

13:41

a boy . I know Tristan called

13:43

me and was like , yeah

13:45

, michael wants a boy and Hannah

13:47

wants a girl . And so she was sitting . I

13:49

was like , dang , he would be such a

13:51

good girl dad . I think Tristan would be too . But I'm

13:54

like I'm sorry , I'm done , my

13:56

god , I just don't want to deal with a little girl . That's what it

13:58

is . He just knows that , he

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knows that he would be wrapped around her finger and

14:03

he's just like I

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don't know . I know I

14:08

want a little girl so bad . I literally

14:10

pray all the time Lord , please , please , please

14:13

. I'll be happy with a healthy baby . Yeah , if it's

14:15

a boy , I will totally rock the boy mom

14:17

thing . But I'm really like a

14:19

little girl Me too . And

14:21

having like the boy first , like my brother's older than

14:23

me , and like then they had a little , I've always wanted

14:25

a little brother or older brother . Yeah

14:28

, it's like the perfect . I was like the perfect , um

14:30

, oh gosh , order

14:33

to have them . If you have a

14:35

girl , that would be perfect . Yeah

14:37

, I was like I just want one girl

14:39

. And then I was

14:41

like , oh well , you thought , you

14:43

thought you know , I

14:46

do have a great niece , adeline . She's

14:48

cute . You'll meet her at the wedding . She's adorable

14:51

. She's really pretty . Actually

14:53

, I mean , she's a little girl , so pretty

14:55

is kind of wherever she's , she's going to be very

14:57

pretty . Yeah , I'm like dang

15:00

, and if I had a little girl I should probably look , because I feel

15:02

like East not yeah , easton

15:04

looks a lot like my brother did , like they're like

15:06

resembling each other . So I'm like I feel like I had a girl

15:09

. Adeline could look like

15:11

I could have a girl like Adeline , yeah , and

15:13

she's so cute . So I don't know , we'll see

15:15

, but I think I'm giving up . So you're

15:18

done with babies . Three kids is so much

15:23

I can't do for like

15:25

four already outnumbered . So someone did tell me the other

15:27

day they have four kids and they were like , honestly , the easiest

15:29

transition was from three to four

15:31

because you're already outnumbered and you're

15:33

kind of just like F it , like it is what it is , which

15:36

I get , but I

15:38

think the newborn stage has really killed

15:40

us . With twins . We're exhausted

15:43

. I don't know , though , because now that

15:45

we have twins , if we had one more it would feel really easy

15:47

because we're used to having the two

15:50

. So if we had one we could probably survive

15:52

. But kids are just expensive , and

15:54

I'm like I love y'all

15:56

, but kids are very expensive . It's

15:58

draining , I can't

16:01

, and we just spend more than we should on them because

16:03

we like to spoil them , which is our fault

16:05

too . But it's like , oh my god , y'all are formula

16:08

and I

16:10

was about to say stuff from Target , because

16:13

I literally buy myself all the time Daycare

16:16

. That's really why we should

16:18

not have another kid . Yeah

16:20

, it's expensive . Having more than one

16:22

kid in daycare is literally a

16:24

mortgage payment Could be . That's

16:27

a topic for a whole . Oh

16:29

, it's actually really bad . I

16:31

think about people that I don't

16:34

even want to make that sound like we can

16:36

afford it , but it is a

16:38

struggle . I'm not trying to . It

16:41

feels like I'm paying literally a

16:43

rent and a mortgage or two more . I

16:45

feel like I could have two houses , literally , or

16:47

have a million dollar house for the price of having

16:50

all the kids in daycare with another house . So

16:52

it's pretty bad . I

16:54

don't know how people do it . And

16:57

we're technically at a cheaper daycare because the daycare

16:59

in the summer that Isam was going to was

17:02

double what we pay

17:04

at Buford double . And I'll say

17:06

how do people do this

17:08

? And that's for one kid , and a lot

17:10

of places don't even do sibling discounts anymore

17:13

, which is crazy to me . And then I was hoping

17:15

for the twins . That would be like that should

17:17

be a discount . Just saying

17:19

I like two kids in your freaking

17:21

class , just give me like $20

17:24

, please . It's a struggle but it's OK

17:26

. I don't

17:28

know . When they're off a formula , that'll be nice

17:30

too , and they're almost there

17:32

. Once they get into school you're going to

17:34

feel like you're rich . I know You're like whoa

17:36

bro , we're all loaded . I know I

17:39

went , dang . I can't wait . I could buy another house

17:41

. Yeah , let me get my

17:43

dream house now , and then maybe the rates will

17:45

be better . Yeah , maybe , perfect

17:47

, maybe We'll see how

17:51

far along do you think you are Eight

17:53

weeks ? Yeah

17:56

, I think , from

17:59

what I've timed out and everything , definitely eight

18:01

weeks . I go for an ultrasound

18:03

on Friday so we'll officially

18:05

find out , but for sure , eight

18:07

weeks . Yeah

18:10

, dang , did you just decide to be honest

18:12

, no . So my

18:15

period runs like

18:17

my cycles are pretty regular and

18:19

they're either 26 to

18:21

28 days . I don't know shit about

18:24

my period . Oh , I keep up with it . Oh

18:26

, it's like the whole thing . I saw a TikTok about it About

18:29

how to know . I heard

18:31

a TikTok about Because I didn't even know

18:33

what a cycle is . I'm

18:38

just like , oh , I'm on my period and

18:40

then it's over , and it's actually the

18:42

whole 30 something days . Yeah , my

18:46

cycle is 26 to 28 days , that's

18:48

just how it is . I was on 32

18:50

. And it doesn't

18:52

vary , like it's very , that's

18:55

just how it is . And I was like

18:57

, ok , we'll just see what

18:59

it does . And I got this . See

19:02

, they make these fancy pregnancy tests . Now I

19:04

know , literally stick it in the cup and

19:06

it blinks on the end

19:08

when it's ready for you to take it off . And

19:10

I did and it was like Really

19:13

fast . Well , I said it . Well , I wanted

19:15

to video it Because I was by myself , and

19:18

so I set it down . I literally walked out of the

19:20

bathroom and I came back . I

19:22

went to grab my phone and I came back to set the video camera

19:24

up and then I was going to look

19:26

at the video camera . It was already like there . I

19:28

pulled it up and it was there and it

19:30

said pregnant . It was so fast , brand , is that

19:33

I used

19:35

? Clear , dang

19:37

Clear , something , clear

19:39

response , yes , something like that . I think that's

19:41

what it is . It's clear , that's what it sounded

19:43

like . But it was like it was there

19:46

and I was . I was

19:48

by myself . It was like , oh

19:50

God , ok , I started crying

19:53

and I was shaking . I was so happy . But

19:55

then James well , jameson was there with me and he

19:57

was like mommy , are you OK ? I'm like yes , I'm

19:59

fine , it's OK . Mommy just needs a minute . Yeah

20:03

, I don't even remember . I was alone when I found out

20:05

I was having East End , because that was a shit

20:07

show and I didn't want anybody to know . So

20:09

I was like hiding in a bathroom . I don't

20:11

remember what the no , it was just me and Tristan

20:15

. But we took it thinking

20:17

like for sure I wasn't pregnant

20:20

. So it was like very unexpected because I

20:22

was like there's no way , like it's still really like

20:24

we just had East End , we're not pregnant , whatever . And

20:27

then we basically showed our parents and

20:29

we were like oh my God . And then we told his parents

20:31

the same day because we just couldn't hold it . Actually they guessed

20:34

, of course , because we went over to their house and we were like

20:36

there's something to tell y'all . And that was the first thing they guessed

20:38

. Or a time , yeah , Like you're pregnant

20:40

. I was like yeah , and

20:42

they were pretty excited until we found out it was twins

20:44

. And then we were all dying , we're like no

20:46

, and people were cursing us for real because

20:48

all of his friends were like , oh , you're going to have twins , it's

20:51

going to be twins . Like I just have a feeling it's going to be twins

20:53

. Literally all of his friends said that

20:55

and then it was . And I was like , damn , y'all

20:58

are the problem . I'm just kidding . I didn't

21:00

even know they ran in my family until I found out

21:02

I was having twins . And then my mom decided

21:05

to tell me Later

21:07

, after you've been on your pregnant twins , yeah , I

21:09

facetime her after the ultrasound and she literally

21:11

guessed it . Because I was like , oh , I have

21:13

demilitarized sound , like guess what ? And she was grabbing twins

21:16

and I was like why would you guess

21:18

that ? And they run on my side family

21:20

. I didn't go twins and I'm like bro , you've literally

21:22

in my 27 years of life

21:24

never told me this and like couldn't have

21:26

warned me . And now I'm having twins

21:28

. Oh man , yeah

21:31

, that's crazy . I

21:33

would die if we had more twins , if we had another size

21:35

twins yeah , I would die . Now

21:38

that I'm in all these twin mom Facebook groups

21:40

, it's happened to a lot of people and I'm like , ok

21:42

, that's another reason I don't want to try for

21:44

a girl . If we

21:46

have like identical girls , that would be

21:48

a joke , cause I'd be like , yeah , a girl

21:51

, two girls , and then that would be . I would be dead , actually

21:53

dead . Five kids , that would

21:55

be crazy . No , thank

21:58

you , please

22:01

don't do it to me . Oh , my god , that

22:03

would be a lot of kids . That would be too many

22:05

kids in my opinion . I don't know there's

22:08

people that have six to eight kids . It's crazy

22:10

to me . I think more power to you . Some people

22:12

love to . I , yeah . When

22:15

, okay , when

22:18

they got older , I would love it because

22:20

I love like all of our family being

22:22

together for like Thanksgiving and Christmas . I love a full

22:24

house on the holidays , I absolutely love it . But

22:27

when they were younger , oh , my goodness

22:29

gracious , yeah , that would be a lot . It's

22:32

not my favorite the baby stage in the

22:34

well , I don't know , he's since

22:36

almost three now and I love this stage

22:38

, like how old he is right now . I'm

22:40

good with like once the twins are

22:43

like two , it'll be , it'll get really easy

22:45

because they're easins really easy right now and

22:48

he's just like really a good kid , so

22:50

hopefully they're good kids too . If they're not , then that

22:52

would be a different story . But this age is

22:54

like perfect . I don't really like the newborn

22:56

and the infant stage . I

22:58

like how cute they are and I want to like squeeze

23:01

them and like hold them there forever , there forever . But I'm also

23:03

like it's

23:07

so hard to like go out and do things and it's

23:09

like very daunting . Like it's like we don't do

23:11

anything unless we just have Easton . Like we're taking

23:13

Easton to a Paw Patrol show next week

23:15

oh fun . Yeah , we're taking him to

23:19

North Carolina actually , because that's like the closest place I

23:21

have a show and he's like just now like

23:23

loving Paw Patrol . So I was like we've been done

23:25

anything . We literally haven't taken him to do anything

23:27

really since the twins because it's so hard . So I was

23:29

like dang , let's take him and do it on our

23:31

own . So , like Tristan's parents are keeping the twins

23:33

, so I'm like ready for that stage to

23:36

be over so we can like take all three of

23:38

them and it like be easier

23:40

than having two babies and then having him

23:42

. Because like having them and having him and going

23:44

somewhere is a mess and I

23:46

don't do it by myself because it's like I can't

23:48

even like hold two car seats and then like have

23:51

Easton running around , like it's

23:53

impossible , literally it's impossible . So

23:55

I'm like over , I'm like ready for them to be able

23:58

to move and like walk

24:01

. Yeah , I also don't

24:03

know Cause it happened so fast . And then you're like

24:05

you're not a baby , they're so big already . It's

24:07

crazy to me . They're huge . Coco

24:10

started crawling literally like right

24:12

after six months , pretty much like he used to

24:14

crawl in fast . So I was like dang , he

24:17

is crawling . Oh yeah , he crawls really

24:19

good . He pulls himself up

24:21

to like stand on things , like he's

24:23

about to like try to run away . I'm like if

24:25

he walks it will look hilarious . He's so big

24:27

. If he did walk , yeah , I feel like

24:29

I know someone , somebody I

24:31

know their babies started walking

24:34

in like eight and a half , nine months . It was like

24:36

a literal baby , I know , I feel

24:38

like it would look hilarious because he's still

24:40

so like short , but he's weighs

24:42

a lot . But I don't know , I

24:44

wouldn't be surprised , because he really does like

24:46

pull himself up on toys and like pulls himself

24:49

up on couches and he's like ready to go . So

24:51

I'm it would look hilarious but I

24:53

think it would take a while and Ashra is getting his first

24:55

tooth and you can see it like

24:57

poking through the bottom and I'm like , oh yeah

25:00

, big boys . I know it's so sad

25:02

, it's so sad but

25:04

it's okay because I'm done with the stage On

25:08

to the next , over the baby stage . Yeah , I

25:10

think Jameson , where he is right now , I really

25:12

love like we have , like

25:14

we can have conversations . He's asking me questions

25:16

about things , like

25:19

he's just wondering about things and about the world and

25:21

like we just have fun and he's just at a fun stage

25:23

where he likes to help me cook dinner and

25:25

he likes to help me because I have to do . I have to

25:27

do laundry , I have to do that . I'm a

25:30

mom and a wife , that's the thing that I have to do , so he

25:32

enjoys doing those things with me . He just like spending

25:34

time with me . Yeah , and I just think it's such . I

25:36

think this age right now

25:38

is my favorite . Like four , almost

25:40

five , it's just a good age . Now I love

25:43

the newborn stage . I'm so

25:45

excited to have it again . I

25:47

love it . I think , in

25:49

my opinion , like one one is fun

25:51

too . Yeah , two and a half to three

25:53

Not my favorite . I

25:56

love Easton . Jameson

25:58

was like he

26:01

was just it figuring everything

26:03

out . And that's when , like the terrible

26:05

twos , terrible threes pitch and fit with

26:07

everything and like I just felt like that was

26:09

like more of a hard thing

26:11

. Now Jameson and I's biggest battle

26:13

is he doesn't like his shirt

26:15

or his pants or shoes . Other than

26:17

that , he listens and he's good . So

26:20

I like I like this age and newborn are

26:22

my favorite . I like

26:24

newborn for like a month and

26:27

you're like we

26:29

can skip to one year . I

26:33

don't know , but I could just cuddle them If

26:36

I didn't have to do all the other things . I could just lay

26:38

with him and be newborn forever . But that's

26:41

the only part of like honestly

26:43

. So yeah , that's

26:45

harsh . What is not

26:47

my favorite show ? So

26:51

did you see that

26:54

Taylor Swift literally said Carmen

26:58

is the guy from the chiefs running straight

27:00

home to me ? I literally don't

27:02

know the lyrics of that song anymore . I only know

27:04

it as it is now and it just happened

27:06

. I'm like wait , what was the correct words

27:08

? Because that's actually perfect . Yes

27:11

, it literally fits . I

27:14

actually I like literally woke up to my first video

27:16

on TikTok being them kissing and I'm like she

27:19

ran to him . Oh my god , that's

27:21

the cutest thing I've ever seen in my life . It was so cute

27:23

. Oh my god , I'm dying . I love them . And

27:25

he's so like giddy . I know the videos

27:27

of him are so like , so giddy and

27:29

I read that she introduced him to

27:31

her dad . I'm obsessed . They were

27:33

like vibing together . Yeah

27:36

, she really likes him . Yeah , I just

27:38

hope they don't break up Ever

27:40

. I know Now

27:42

you'll have to get married . Yeah , I

27:45

think it'd be hard for her to write songs about him because

27:47

, like , he's so good Well , he

27:49

seems so good that and then

27:51

also his every other person

27:54

she's ever dated has been like Not

27:56

a sports person . Yeah , so you

27:58

know , like all of her other stuff she's talked about

28:01

, it's kind of like , yeah , I don't

28:03

know , I just feel like he's different than every person she's

28:05

ever dated . Yes , and this is the

28:07

most I feel really public relationship

28:09

, maybe her and Harry Styles , maybe , but

28:11

this is really , but she wasn't as big as she was

28:13

now . No , I feel like

28:15

it's very out there and he's

28:18

a very like he's out there too , very

28:20

no , so it's probably hard to hide

28:22

it , but it's like I just

28:24

love it and

28:27

I've actually never really like been invested

28:29

in any of her other relationships and I love her , but I've

28:31

just kind of been like a . But this one I'm like

28:33

, yeah , I'm clinging

28:36

to this and I know it's and I'm like

28:38

living through and I'll also feel like she's

28:40

Like I'll be 28 this year

28:42

, so I like I feel like I grew up with her . So I

28:44

feel like it's just like my birthday , march 21st

28:47

, okay

28:49

, but I feel like I Feel

28:52

like I've like grown up with her and like she's like gone through

28:54

all these stages and now like she's like found

28:56

the one and I'm like your

28:59

friend , you don't know me , you'll never know me , but I'm like , yes

29:01

, girl , I'm so happy for you . Like it just feels

29:03

like very personal . Yeah , like also

29:06

like her , just her effect , like I feel like people

29:08

feel like they know her and she's so real

29:10

, I love her . So I also saw this going

29:13

to her effect . I saw this tiktok and I never

29:15

really listened to her lyrics

29:18

this way , but it was her seeing

29:20

the song mastermind Mm-hmm , and

29:22

so she was pointing to the audience and she was

29:24

like the lyrics say what if I told

29:26

you I was a mastermind , mm-hmm . And

29:28

it's talks about something

29:30

, something . I did something

29:33

and now you're all mine , mm-hmm . And

29:35

so it's like I've what the

29:37

tiktok was saying was

29:39

I just her effect ? And she

29:41

has some kind of way to pull so

29:43

many people in . It's crazy , I

29:46

know . It's crazy how well

29:48

she does it . She

29:51

is , and everybody , everybody feels

29:53

that way . Hate her . No , like

29:55

I know people do . But I'm like I

29:57

feel , like how I know I feel like people

30:00

hate her because people like her so much , like

30:02

there's always gonna be haters , no matter what . And

30:06

I like how , hey , she's so quirky

30:08

. I know I love that , she's

30:10

cute , I love her and she's

30:13

, she's a boss

30:15

like she . She literally makes

30:17

more money than him , for

30:20

sure , oh yes , so

30:22

much more . And but like 20 times . But

30:25

it's like the way that , like he knows that

30:27

and he like embraces , I like

30:29

he's like I know , like

30:31

the shit , like I know I can't believe

30:33

she likes me . But also like the story

30:35

, unfolded so nicely

30:38

, of like he's like always liked

30:40

, like he's always been attracted to her and he's

30:42

like always felt like he Was

30:44

gonna shoot a shot . Any shot a shot . Yeah

30:46

, I remember the interview where he was like I

30:50

Found out she doesn't talk about

30:52

before after shows because she has to save her voice

30:54

now , so sad it gets . Give her my

30:56

a friendship bracelet . I made her like Cute

30:59

and he's so good with his knees . Oh , I

31:02

know they would make such pretty babies . Yeah

31:04

, they're gonna get married and have kids . I Hope

31:07

I know that would make really pretty babies , but

31:10

I feel like she has kids . She's not gonna make any more music

31:12

for a very long time . She don't

31:14

need to shoot . I mean I want her to like

31:17

I know I want her to , but but

31:19

if she went away and like Came back

31:21

family , her music would be great

31:23

too , because she would have like gone through all of these

31:25

other Experiences and then like she could relate

31:28

to moms and like , yeah , that's really good like

31:30

Music , that's true

31:32

saying , but yeah , I'm obsessed with

31:34

them . Yeah , I'm Best

31:37

celebrity couple to

31:39

come . Oh , I think anything

31:42

Besides I

31:44

? I love Blake lively and

31:47

I'm Ryan Reynolds . I love

31:49

them . She was always my favorite actress

31:52

when I was little and like sisterhood of

31:54

the traveling pants , I like fell in love with her

31:56

. She was the best . And that's when I

31:58

was like , yeah , I love her and she's so pretty

32:00

, like naturally never

32:03

ages . I feel like if she gets older , she's

32:05

, she gets prettier . Yeah , it's crazy

32:07

. Yeah , I feel that way about Jennifer

32:09

Lawrence too . Yeah , jennifer

32:11

Lawrence just doesn't age . Yeah

32:14

, she's so pretty . No , I think Blake

32:16

lightly is awesome . Yeah , I Loved

32:18

her gossip girl . Yeah

32:21

, I'm a gossip girl girl . Yeah , same

32:23

, she's the best . If

32:26

, if , literally the people that went to her

32:29

show are so lucky dude , oh

32:31

god . So one of a guy

32:33

I work with , he got scammed off Facebook

32:35

tickets for football tickets and I already

32:37

told him the story . And

32:40

he got scammed off Facebook tickets but he

32:42

paid , he sent the money oh my god

32:44

, how much money . Six hundred bucks , stupid

32:46

. But they ended up putting a hold on like their

32:48

card and canceled it . So

32:50

they got their money back . Oh , but like

32:53

this lady , like straight up , I'm

32:55

not crazy . It was for football tickets . It was like a cleansing

32:57

game . Yeah , clinton's in Notre

33:00

Dame oh my god , it

33:02

was almost me . I'm so glad

33:04

I didn't send anybody to that lady . Yeah

33:07

, how could you try to scam Swifties

33:09

? People will scam anybody

33:11

for anything . Mm-hmm , I

33:13

saw a guy that made a tick talk about how like he's

33:15

becoming a Swiftie and he's like Swifties are

33:17

the nicest fan fan base have ever

33:20

ever experienced in my life . He's like I made

33:22

a tick talk about how now I love her music

33:24

and everybody's in my DMs like , welcome

33:27

, welcome to being a Swiftie

33:29

, it's the best . And listen to this song and listen

33:31

to this song and I was like , oh my god , it's so real

33:33

. And he made a point . He's like , if you go

33:35

and say that you like like Beyonce

33:37

or Rihanna or like any of these other big people , he's

33:40

like none of their fans are gonna be

33:42

like as supportive . He's like , but all these Swifties

33:44

were like , oh my god , look at this

33:46

, look at this , look at that . I was like , yeah , mm-hmm

33:49

, we really love her . Mm-hmm

33:51

, yeah , yep

33:54

, is that love are gonna be your

33:56

first dance song ? Yeah , it is . Yeah

34:00

, I , we have a song

34:02

that we really we're gonna have

34:04

to , not to first dances . But like we

34:06

were , it was a tie between two songs

34:08

that we love and the

34:10

other song we love . But like the

34:13

lover the Taylor Swift lover first

34:15

dance version is so dreamy and

34:17

like it has an intro that

34:19

I just feel like is so cool . And

34:22

the other song you just like jumps

34:24

right into the , the singing , and I was like

34:26

, if I envision like how our first dance is gonna

34:28

be , I want to like have a

34:30

little moment , like come together

34:32

and like you know , I don't know like it'd

34:34

be more dramatic than like Get on

34:36

the dance floor and start dancing . I don't know

34:38

. That's how I felt about that one . So our DJ

34:41

was like okay , well , we can have the

34:43

other one in your like another slow dance

34:45

song , and we can tell people that like that

34:47

was your other choice and like come

34:49

to the like , they can come dance with you , whatever . And I was like

34:51

that's fine , because we do like , really like the lyrics

34:53

of the other song , but and

34:55

we love the guys voice , like we love the sound . But I

34:58

was like then we were sitting at the table

35:00

with the DJ and Tristan was like Okay

35:02

, well , if it's your dream to have Taylor Swift

35:04

, then you should just do it , because you're gonna regret

35:06

not doing it . And I was like I know you're

35:09

right , I love her . And then we're like we've

35:11

had , we , our DJ , has an app . We're like building

35:13

all the songs that we want and

35:15

she like wrote on her paper . She's like Swift

35:18

D . I was like , yeah , if you could just play Taylor Swift

35:20

Every 10 minutes , that'd be great

35:22

. Like people are gonna hate me , I don't care , it's

35:24

your wedding . I'm walking down the aisle

35:27

to a Taylor Swift song too . Oh

35:29

, which one is gonna be everywhere ? Um

35:31

, oh my god , how do I not know the the

35:34

name ? Oh , my god , I don't know the

35:36

name of it . That's so bad . Um , bro

35:39

, this is so embarrassing . What is

35:41

this song called ? Having a brain

35:43

fart ? Wait , I don't have so much

35:45

time here . This looks good to you . There

35:48

it goes . Oh , my god , I'm just

35:50

kidding . What is it called ? Oh

35:53

, you were in love . I'm doing that song Because

35:56

I also . I was thinking about doing Daylight

35:58

, because I saw a girl do

36:00

it on a TikTok and I really liked it . But

36:03

then what

36:05

is Tristan doing for his walk ? I

36:07

forget . He picked a song and I

36:10

was like I feel like you're

36:12

doing that one and I'm thinking about doing

36:14

the bridal party to another

36:17

Taylor Swift . This is

36:19

going to be literally just Swift nation

36:22

over here , but the way that this girl

36:24

had it on TikTok , it was

36:26

like the intro was awesome and then like

36:28

the entrance for the bride was like perfect

36:30

timing and so I'm going to send it to my DJ and be like do this

36:32

, yeah , so we'll see . But it's

36:34

just going to be lots of Taylor Swift . But

36:37

I don't know . I kept thinking . I was like I don't , I don't want

36:39

like the traditional , like I don't

36:41

know , like boring sounds . I

36:43

was like we'll just do this . So

36:45

I don't know . I'm excited . I love her

36:48

. She's going to

36:50

be all over our wedding , literally . I

36:52

love that , though I know I'm so excited to

36:54

have that as our first dance song because we

36:56

really were like going back and forth , but it'll

36:59

be good . Yeah , we'll see . I'm excited . I

37:02

think that if we get that , we get to

37:04

be here literally . And then are y'all doing a

37:06

honeymoon ? Not right after

37:08

, because we want it . It's just so close to Christmas

37:10

, yeah , and it's the twins first Christmas

37:13

and Easton loves . We want to be here for Easton

37:15

, all of his things , because they do a lot of things like at

37:18

school , yeah , in December . So

37:20

I was like I don't want to miss , like all of his stuff

37:22

. So we're going to wait . We're

37:24

going to do something next year . I don't even know what we're

37:26

going to do yet . We really want to go on a cruise , which I'd

37:29

be so lame . But I only have been on one

37:31

in my life and I loved it . Oh , I love cruises

37:33

too . I've been on two . They are . I want to go

37:35

. They're so much fun . And we did like the

37:37

all inclusive thing in the DR , which was cool

37:39

, but like I , now that I've done both

37:42

, like I would prefer a cruise . Yeah , I really

37:44

like cruises too . They're a lot of fun , probably

37:46

as long as you don't jump off . Stupid idiots

37:48

do . No , heck , no , no . Tristan's

37:50

like I'm nervous , like I'm going to get

37:52

sick or something's going to happen and we're going to be stuck on it and

37:54

I'm like put some drama , drama mean the patches behind your

37:56

ear , like can you not be so lame ? Like it's

37:59

going to be fun , so we'll see . And then

38:01

his parents were like you should not go alone , you should have somebody

38:03

else go with y'all . So , like I

38:05

know Michael , I would go for like we

38:07

volunteer distribute , because she was

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making a good point . She's like if you do like five days

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or seven days or however long , she's like you'll have

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fun together , but eventually you'll be like okay

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, like love you , but especially

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because , like we've been I don't know like it's nothing

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new for us , which I'm

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not trying to like downplay the fact we're getting married but it's just like

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we live together , like we've had kids . You

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are married . It's a very different feeling

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, like the DJ literally was like , are you already

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married ? And you're just like celebrating and I'm like , nah , we're

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not married , but you would think that we're like . It

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just feels like we are , so we're like we

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can like do a cruise and then

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just like have fun . So I don't know , we'll let you

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know we haven't booked anything yet , but let's

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do it after I have a baby though . Oh yeah

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, so like next July . Oh God , that's

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so long . Yeah Well , I mean I'll

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go big and pregnant . Well

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, my dream . I've never was

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pregnant enough . When

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it got warm and I wanted , I wanted

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to be the big pregnant girl to bikini , not

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lying . I love pregnant . I loved

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I didn't love being pregnant . I loved the

39:09

way I looked pregnant , like I love pregnant bellies

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. So I was always pregnant , like I

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had my babies in March . So it never got warm

39:15

enough . I wanted , I want

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, to be pregnant in the summer and wear a bikini and

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I would literally be the way

39:22

on the beach Like rubbing , rubbing

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lotion on my belly and laying out

39:28

and taking pictures , I don't even care , I

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would buy all the cute bathing suits . I never got that

39:32

chance because I always I had I got pregnant

39:34

the exact same time with both pregnancies . So

39:37

literally it trisms . Families always like , all

39:39

right , you're real fertile around this time , so don't be having

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sex . And I'm like , okay

39:44

, I'll just not do that . But oh my God , thank you for

39:46

the advice . Yeah , they're like you just tend

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to always get pregnant . I'm like , okay

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, so I want

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to be pregnant and it be warm . Cause

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also like being pregnant in the winter , I get like people get really

39:57

hot when they're pregnant and when it gets hot

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, but I never really experienced

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that . The worst symptom of pregnancy

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I've ever had is like back pain with the twins , cause

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like it was a lot in my back hurt really bad , but I never

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was sick and I'm always

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just cold . In general it's like being pregnant , nothing that

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didn't really change . I never felt like

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really hot . I was like I

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could rock some cute ass outfits

40:19

when I'm pregnant and it's hot , but

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in the winter I felt like I was just wearing like maternity jeans and maternity

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leggings and a sweater and

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it was very lame . So I wish I could be

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pregnant and wear a bikini

40:30

, because I would . I would be the girl to

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crop top with my belly out . I don't even care

40:34

. That's literally what would be me . I

40:37

reminds me of like people on selling sun , suns Cause

40:40

. I feel like there's girls on there and like when they're pregnant , like Heather

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was pregnant and she would just be like

40:44

I don't care , like one time , one point

40:46

, she's wearing an outfit that I was like I

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would wear that , and Tristan was like that's embarrassing

40:51

. It probably is , I don't care , I

40:53

wouldn't erase it . So

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, yeah , it would be very pregnant and but

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it would be so cute On

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the cruise you could wear all the cute bathing suits

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. Yeah , nobody'd know me , I'd do it . I'd be a , but

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it is . It would suck to like not be able to drink and like I don't

41:08

know Cause I don't know how . I don't

41:10

like to be the sober one , because

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people will piss me off when they're drunk and

41:15

I'm sober . Oh , I , I'm . I

41:17

think this time it's different . When I

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was younger and I got pregnant , yeah , I didn't like it . I'm

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like next weekend we have a . Two

41:24

of our close family or two of our close friends are getting

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married and I literally just found out I was

41:28

pregnant and two of our friends from Wisconsin are flying

41:30

in . And then Megan and Stu were all . We

41:32

had this whole Megan's birthday Friday . So

41:35

we're all going out Friday and I'm like pregnant . So instead

41:37

of Ubering , now I'm the DD , but

41:39

like I I don't know I think

41:41

I'm still going to have fun . I'm just going

41:43

to drink my water and I'll still rally , but I

41:47

don't like it . I don't like it because

41:49

when Tristan drinks , he drinks a lot

41:51

and I feel like I'm babysitting . At that point , I'm

41:54

like I'm literally not trying to like drag

41:56

you into places and out of places and like

41:58

have you throw up and then I have to clean it up

42:00

cause you're like you're too drunk to clean it . Like

42:03

that's not if . You're like if we're just having a chill time , but

42:05

when Tristan drinks , he drinks and I'm like , no

42:08

, not not trying to do all that

42:10

, but that's also why I postponed my

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wedding so I could be not pregnant and

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drink at my wedding . Yeah , so

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that's understandable . Yeah , also

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wanted to fit into my dress . Yeah , it's understandable too . Yeah

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,