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Hi. Chris Belt and welcome to my

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today's episode. hey today we're talking about

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fatherhood. How father's protect, promote and provide

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for their families. so we're going to

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jump right in here. We got several

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questions that people have asked us and

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obviously fatherhood is a very big subject

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in which I've been saying over. Over.

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You. Know we live in the most of

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father's generation in history. I actually wrote

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this book you I'm sure you probably

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know what if your followers Raul uprising

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the epic battle for the most father's

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generation history So let's jump right in.

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What do you mean when you safe

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was protect. Promote. And provide

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And I I think this is the. Maybe.

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Dot The lost Art of Father had begins

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right here in that. You. Know are

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many times our fathers have not protected us

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what I'm me by protect. I. Obviously

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mean physically protect. Like if someone breaks

1:06

into my home I should be. You.

1:08

Know of I should be the first one

1:11

to that that that window that front

1:13

door wherever that for perpetrator comes in. You.

1:15

Know Jesus talked about the strongman.

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Wouldn't. Allow his house to be broken into if you

1:20

knew in a thief is coming so I think it's.

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Important. That we realize that. We.

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As men as fathers. And. We

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are the protect of our home like we

1:30

are the first line of defense. And.

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Of even. In. The word

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cultivate and keep the word. Keep

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in the garden. Where. Adam was

1:38

put in the garden to cultivate and to keep

1:40

it. The word keep their. Is. Rooted

1:42

in the word protect, he's actually the protector

1:45

of the garden, will protectors the garden. And

1:47

doesn't mean mom, others aren't. By the way,

1:49

because Mom's can be. You know we got

1:51

the whole what mother bear syndrome Like you

1:53

know, on a mess with the mother bear.

1:56

you don't want to poke the mother bear.

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For. Sure, but for. There should be

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the first line of defense for their families

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but also want to open another door and

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say this is that. Fathers. Are

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not just the first line of defense

2:09

in the protection of their families physically.

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But. They are also the first bite of sense.

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For. Their for their to protect their

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family spiritually. And there are things

2:19

that we do that open the door. To.

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Our children fighting a battle that they were

2:23

never designed to fight. For example, when we

2:26

opened the door to for in our life

2:28

his father's we Don't Just open it to

2:30

ourselves. We're. Actually, if you think

2:32

about us as a wall run our

2:34

family. We just opened. We just unlocked

2:37

a door that should have never been

2:39

on lot and that. And. That

2:41

demonic of activity doesn't just

2:43

access us, It has access

2:45

to our entire family. A

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third thing I'll say with reference to

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to protecting our family is. We.

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Have we are Ah, we

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help. Vet. Who. Has

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access to our children and who has access

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to our teenagers. And I know that this

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is maybe not going to be a popular

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subject, but I think that when it comes

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to dating. Or when it

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comes to our our children in

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involved in any kind of relationship

3:13

that concern romantic. That. As

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father's we should be involved in

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those. really should. We should be

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the interviewer of the a potential

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of the potential boyfriend who could

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be the potential. Perpetrator

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I remember this story. I'll tell you

3:29

quickly. My. Youngest daughter

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Shannon She. She. Wanted to

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date this guy who was just. Out.

3:36

A juvenile hall and was living in

3:38

a group home down the street from

3:40

a set about a mile from is

3:42

actually. And are all this.

3:44

Call him Henry and she's like Dad on

3:46

a date. Henry: He's a Christian. And.

3:48

I might. Henry I'd I've heard

3:51

that Henry like Henry is. The

3:54

ice out a juvenile hall which is fine.

3:56

But. If Henry's a Christian, he's a very

3:58

nutrition and I hope that. Not. The.

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Kind of Christian who becomes a christian

4:03

so he could date the goodness the

4:05

beautiful Christian girls that around. So anyway

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after of around and around with my

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daughter I said fine. He.

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It he has to come meet me first and he

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did he chance to meet me. Add

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T Ah ha I'll never forget it. My

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daughter was quite nervous and she said I'll

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bring him to hungry because we had a

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Home Depot Morales to comes the whole group

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ian. He's. A mister valves and goes

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to shake my hand. I grabbed his hand and

4:29

give a little squeeze. And. I

4:31

hang onto his hand and I say understand you

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want to date my daughter. He's.

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Like just sir. nice to have his hands

4:37

and I'm squeezing little tighter. And. I

4:39

say I just want you to know

4:41

that if you touch my daughter outbreak

4:43

both your arms these like laughing I

4:46

said. No no I mean I'll

4:48

break put your arms. Well he only had

4:50

one day with my daughter and did it

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another girl within six months that grows pregnant.

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So I know that may seem a little

4:57

extreme to some of you but I'm like

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a my mind if I made it really

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clear. That. Job. This father

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is actually going to be knowing

5:06

what you're doing. At by the

5:08

way I said don't I will know what you're

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doing my daughter I do not. You want you

5:12

to hold her hand you understand me is like

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your serves as one to make sure that he

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knew that I was watching. So. We

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protect. We promote promoting mean that when you

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know proper says if you know is he

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tramp a child in the way they should

5:25

go in there all they want depart from

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it. Promoting in my mind is been really

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close enough to your kids to have a

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deep sense of their divine destiny and opening

5:35

up avenues for that to binder see to

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happen. For example, if my daughter wants to

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be you know either note that says you

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she was be a concert pianists or she

5:44

wants to be an artist or she wants

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to be a teacher. What? One

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of things I do is a beyond the

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fact that I'm looking towards education for

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that role. Is. I'm introducing her

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people that I trust. That.

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Love God that are in that role

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So. I'm. Introducing heard of

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potential mentors, people, That.

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She can look to you know you can't

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become what you haven't seen or heard. So

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it's important that our kids are exposed to.

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People. Who love God? Who are passion

6:13

about God? Who. Are doing the thing

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that they think they wanna do and that maybe

6:17

can even open the door to. Some.

6:19

Kind of exposure to that kind of.

6:21

Position. To see if that's something they really do

6:24

want to do. But. I think that

6:26

we opened the door a favor to. To

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to those people to help promote the

6:31

minute course we we encourage them by

6:33

we help educate them may be my

6:35

daughter wants my touch. My daughter was

6:37

be a concert pianist, probably paying for

6:39

lessons are probably thinking about how to

6:41

get a piano. Those are the kind

6:43

of things out I'm thinking. And by

6:45

the way so much of who are

6:47

children. Are become have

6:49

to do with our Dna? Think about

6:51

it. When you

6:53

get married you take on of most

6:56

the time that the husband's last name.

6:58

Of your actual gender is determined

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by the sperm of the man.

7:03

Not too a got woman so

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you're in there says there is

7:07

just right in creation that fathers

7:09

are actually involved in it. And.

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In purpose of destiny and the

7:14

last one is they promote they

7:16

provide add I think that this

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is. There. Is a lost art of

7:21

provision. I think that it's important for us

7:23

to realize and set it at and and

7:25

in and be a model to the fact

7:27

that. Father's. Have the responsibility

7:30

from God to be the provider.

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That does not mean that women

7:34

are what that mom's can't work

7:36

or that they should work a

7:38

caffeine. I've always or worked together.

7:41

Kathy's work since my kids were little. Shared

7:43

office at home. And. Later on

7:45

as the as the kids went

7:47

to to. To. preschool

7:49

and then and then off to school

7:52

of she came on of full time

7:54

a does i die have a lot

7:56

of stuff that they're that are they

7:58

are moms who work Full

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time for us. I just want to be clear. I think

8:03

that there are traditional roles that

8:05

say that can't happen. I see it happening

8:07

very healthily in our culture saying it's great.

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But I don't think that you

8:12

can advocate your

8:15

role. I think that your wife may

8:17

make more money, but you're still the

8:20

provider. Your ownership

8:22

per provision still lies with you. And

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I don't think that changes. Someone

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can argue with me, but I'm not

8:29

changing my opinion. Okay, here we go. The

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second question is, what's your experience as a

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new dad when your first kid was

8:36

born? Was it easy to know what to do?

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Or did you have to learn how to

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be a good father? Oh my gosh, this is a huge

8:43

question because I grew up in a completely

8:45

dysfunctional home. My mother

8:47

was pretty functional. My mother was loving and

8:49

kind and a great mom. But

8:52

my dad died when I was three,

8:54

so I had two dysfunctional fathers. I

8:57

did not have a role model

8:59

to look to. Like, how do I? What

9:02

does it mean to have this little monster around

9:04

here? What do I do? What's my role? So

9:07

I would say, no, my process was really

9:09

a process of learning. I

9:12

have to be honest, and this may help some of

9:14

the new fathers. When that first

9:17

baby came into our life, I

9:19

struggled with resentment and I didn't know why.

9:21

I finally went and asked,

9:24

actually, it was my doctor who

9:26

was actually a

9:28

family friend. And I talked to

9:30

him and said, you know, I feel,

9:32

I don't know what's going on with me, but

9:34

I feel so much resentment towards my daughter

9:37

I love so dearly. My brand

9:39

new infant daughter. And he's like, well, I

9:42

bet your wife spends all of her time. I

9:46

bet all the attention that was that was

9:49

given to you when you were a

9:51

couple has been diverted to that child. I'm

9:54

like, true. I bet

9:56

when your friends come over, they don't even come over and

9:58

talk to you anymore. they

10:00

go over and like, oh, look at the new

10:02

baby. Yep. I

10:05

bet all of the self-esteem that you

10:07

got from your wife loving you and

10:09

your friends honoring you is

10:11

now being directed towards the

10:14

person you were excited to be in the world. And

10:17

I'm like, oh, that's so

10:19

true. And I realized like the

10:21

first several, probably

10:23

year of my child's life was me

10:25

adjusting to not being the center of

10:27

attention. And realizing

10:30

that my sex life was going to change because

10:32

baby's up all night, Kathy

10:35

is not going to want to be intimate

10:37

very often. And sometimes

10:39

it can be easy to shift the blame

10:41

towards that child. It's not like consciously,

10:45

it just happens. And

10:48

that child interrupts a lot of really

10:51

important times that you have with your wife and

10:53

with your friends and with your family. And

10:56

you have to make adjustments. So I think that was

10:58

my first year. And then learning

11:01

how to find a new place to

11:03

get what I need as

11:05

far as attention, as far as

11:08

favor from other places. I'm

11:10

not talking about other women or anything like that. I'm

11:12

talking about the fact that I have to have a

11:15

social group around me

11:17

that gives

11:20

me some of the feedback and

11:22

connection and sense of belonging

11:24

that I was getting from one person. And now that

11:27

one person has got a

11:29

baby on her hand. So I think that was my

11:31

first year. And then slowly learning how to be a

11:33

dad was a big, big deal.

11:36

What if I don't feel bonded to

11:38

my kid? Is it too late to

11:40

build an emotional connection? Never

11:44

too late to do anything, actually. And

11:47

I'll tell you, bonding

11:53

is sometimes spontaneous. But it's

11:56

often more. structured.

12:00

For example, there are certain

12:02

things that bond us or

12:04

break us. Adversity bonds us

12:06

or breaks us. When my

12:08

son or daughter is going through

12:11

adversity and I stand with them, there's

12:13

a natural bond. Like I don't have to say I'm

12:15

trying to bond. I say, if I stand with you

12:17

in adversity, like I bond in

12:19

battle. We bond in battle. So if my

12:21

son or daughter is going through battle and

12:23

I'm there, if they're going through a sickness

12:26

and I stay connected, those things will naturally

12:28

bond us. There are also

12:30

experiences that we go through together. For

12:32

example, I

12:34

think the Boy Scouts used to be a great place

12:36

for boys to bond

12:39

with men when they go out on events and

12:41

they're out there in the

12:43

wilderness learning and talking and

12:45

doing life together. Those things all help us to

12:47

bond. So I'd say stay

12:49

close in adversity, be connected

12:53

from the heart, and be

12:58

present in conversations. Those would be the

13:00

beginnings of bonding and take an interest

13:02

in what your kids are doing, even

13:04

though you may not be interested, even

13:07

though it may not be your interest. Then

13:10

for how to be present father with

13:13

so many responsibilities. I guess I just answered that.

13:16

I had a conversation with the Lord some

13:18

years ago now and he said,

13:20

you're never present. And he

13:22

said, when you're with someone, you want to be with someone else. In

13:27

your inner place, you want to be in another place. And

13:30

then he said this to me, he said,

13:32

you miss so many moments of your life

13:34

that I have planned for you to have

13:36

amazing encounters, but you're actually not married. And

13:39

it really changed my life. I'll say this, like,

13:41

I've probably had 10 things in my life that

13:43

actually changed my life. I

13:46

have had things that have influenced my life, but I

13:48

mean things that actually changed my life. And

13:51

I think that prophetic word from

13:53

the Lord really, really

13:55

helped me In that I

13:57

have worked hard and I'm, let's say,

14:00

I would like. For. Sir Thomas and

14:02

The Moment Simpson a time I was

14:04

actually. You. Know presence.

14:07

And a probably that's like seventy percent of

14:09

time now so there's still a job. they're

14:11

still, you know their i walk away sometimes

14:13

for meetings to say to myself are you

14:16

really weren't listening where you weren't even there.

14:18

You. Are emotionally connected. So.

14:20

There's still room to grow in my life,

14:22

but I can see some really great growth.

14:25

And it's resulted in some really great

14:27

things. My marriage. And. Some great

14:29

things of my children, my grandchildren and

14:32

great things. I own team where I'm

14:34

telling myself hey, you just came from

14:36

home and you're really excited about this

14:38

project or are you worried about this

14:40

thing. This. Financial thing for for

14:42

the for whatever them to death or for

14:45

whatever are you Got this? Our preach that

14:47

you're gonna. You're gonna preach today at five

14:49

o'clock and it's it's It's eleven o'clock in

14:51

the morning, you don't know what you're gonna

14:54

preach and I'm in a meeting with my

14:56

team and I configured oh my gosh, one

14:58

on a preacher day but I can't solve

15:01

that right than anyway. So. Being

15:03

in the moment. Is. So very

15:05

important because I'm sometimes miss seeing

15:08

what's going on with me right

15:10

now because I'm concerned about what's

15:12

gonna happen to me later. And

15:15

so I want to discharge you like I do

15:17

believe that this isn't. This. Is a

15:19

discipline. This. Is a discipline.

15:21

and for the first, probably seven

15:23

eight months after I had that

15:25

dream, you're never present. I.

15:28

Ah I would say to myself, what are you going

15:30

to go on stream. And you're gonna

15:32

look in the eyes of the people were talking you

15:34

can I can actually going to ask questions you going

15:36

to seal the or motion. And

15:38

voters my wife for my kids are my

15:41

team or even my enemy actually. As

15:44

it's really really helped I think my

15:46

team would say. That. I must be

15:48

present out Say my my wife did say this to

15:51

me She said about eight months after that. Incident:

15:53

She said. Oh. You know what you

15:55

are. You feel like you're with me. So much

15:58

more. So. I feel like that. It's

16:00

a discipline. I'd like to have a magic pill

16:02

that says take this pill and do these in

16:04

are. You. Know, spin around three

16:06

times and do a somersault neil be

16:08

present. But that's not true. From.

16:12

How can father's build strong

16:14

relationships with their teenage children?

16:16

Does it look different when

16:18

they're younger? If absolutely like,

16:21

Children go from dependent to

16:23

independent. And. Maturities

16:25

interdependent, So. I

16:27

remember my son who probably I had

16:29

to close to sponsor Jason. We.

16:32

Played basketball. From. The time

16:34

he's probably ten years old, to the time he was

16:36

like. Sixteen. Or

16:39

down at the park like every Saturday.

16:42

Ad or a whole bunch of boys were out there.

16:44

you know, young teenage boys and I would play with

16:46

them. And one Sunday we got

16:48

a car guy my boss foreclose on an. Adult.

16:51

I was getting ready to take us to the

16:53

basketball court. He looked over at me goes dead do

16:55

a half the com. I might.

16:59

Ah of I didn't know what he meant at first and

17:01

might work when he needs. He goes well, As

17:04

tools. Really awkward like you're the only

17:06

dad on the court. And.

17:08

It feels like my dad's Bay City

17:10

me. I'm like oh no I'll

17:12

drop you off and I drop them off and came back

17:15

in. Atlanta, The been

17:17

tried and I realized that. My.

17:20

Boy. Was. Becoming a man.

17:23

And he wanted some

17:25

independence. He wanted other boys

17:28

to view him as a man. And

17:31

and then as time went

17:33

on a seas younger so

17:35

I realize. I.

17:38

Would happen with my daughter's is that you know

17:40

they don't want thought they want to live in

17:42

their bedroom or some other place. And.

17:45

Then about every a month and a half or

17:47

so they want i'm from session. And.

17:49

Susie Like about eleven o'clock at night

17:52

when a my completely exhausted. And.

17:54

you know and the early days of my cable

17:56

talk tomorrow and then i realized tomorrow there in

17:58

a different mode And

18:01

so I can't even tell you how

18:03

many times I've had conversations that go till 2

18:05

o'clock in the morning And

18:07

then I think the next day like we Have

18:10

a whole new relationship and then the next day

18:12

that when they wake up in the morning and

18:14

like the doors shut they're

18:17

living in another room and as

18:19

they get into their 20s and

18:21

30s they cite those as my dad and

18:24

I bonded and I'm like I

18:26

felt bonded When I was with

18:28

you, but I didn't feel bonded the next morning, but

18:31

so Relationships

18:33

are so spontaneous with teenagers

18:36

when they want to have relationship. That's when you need

18:38

to have it and that sometimes means I Come

18:42

in late for work. Sometimes it means I stay up late

18:44

at night sometimes it

18:46

means I changed my plan for Saturday

18:48

or Sunday and We

18:50

do whatever it is. They want to do

18:53

when that relational doors open and I find

18:55

it opens It's like a

18:57

flower like it opens. It's like dad. I need you

18:59

mom I want you and

19:01

then it closes. It's like I got what I need

19:04

it from you and Now I'm

19:06

back to I want to be my own man. I want

19:08

to be my own I want to be my I'm a daughter.

19:10

I want to be my own woman and

19:12

they need that space They need space and

19:14

I I could tell you from

19:17

what when our oldest started that it freaked

19:19

me out Like why

19:21

is Jamie living in her bedroom? Like what's

19:23

going on and and I

19:25

would go talk to older men and say

19:27

my daughter You know like six

19:29

months ago started living in her bedroom. He's like,

19:31

yeah Like she

19:33

only comes out for meals. Mm-hmm. So

19:35

what's the problem? I don't know.

19:37

What's the problem and explain

19:40

to me that that when You

19:43

know kids are becoming adults They

19:46

go through this time of independence

19:48

where they want space and and

19:51

our goal isn't to try to smother them Our goal

19:53

isn't to like you need to come you know We

19:55

did have rules like you had to be at dinner

19:58

On Tuesdays and Thursdays. Because

20:00

he got to a place where we wouldn't

20:02

be a family or so. you know they

20:04

had the honor, the fact that we need

20:06

space with them and time with them. But

20:08

after a while or realize like. We.

20:11

Have a close relationship. You're just trying to

20:13

become an adult and you need that space

20:15

I've You have time for one more. Yeah,

20:22

here's a really here's a hot topic. Numbers

20:25

are big. The six or seven question:

20:27

do you have any input for how

20:29

father's navigate co parenting after divorce or

20:31

separation So I wish I could say

20:34

have no experience with this but I

20:36

have. Lots. Of experience with this my

20:38

I have two kids that have gone through divorce.

20:41

Which. Is. Very traumatizing.

20:43

Ah psychologists say.

20:46

That. Besides the death of a

20:48

child, divorce is the most trauma,

20:51

highest anxiety event that can happen

20:53

in your life. And so

20:55

it's really tough. Of I'll say of

20:57

let me say a few things First of all. Your

21:00

children should not be your pond to

21:02

yeah, it's your spouse. A

21:05

day if your children. Feel

21:08

like they have to protect mom? Dad.

21:10

Left for another woman. Let's say your Mama for

21:13

another man. And. You

21:15

want your children. To

21:17

to be not attached Dad because

21:19

Dad ran off with another woman.

21:23

You're. Going to kill your kids? Do that. He

21:26

will kill your kids making them your attorney.

21:28

You. Will kill your kids making them. Your.

21:32

Best friend. That is sticking

21:34

up for you. And.

21:36

You need people like that? Your life

21:38

for sure. But cats? The

21:40

second thing I'll say is that. Your

21:44

kids. Let's. Say

21:46

your husband. You at

21:48

your savior Woman and husband loved you. I.

21:50

Could be the way so would say male and female.

21:53

And now he has a girlfriend! Your

21:57

kids need your permission as

21:59

more. The. To. Have a

22:01

relationship with her, Like. They

22:03

actually need you to say. Hey.

22:06

You that has a girlfriend. You

22:09

know it's It's fine to be kind

22:11

to her ad. And

22:13

vice versa because. Otherwise

22:15

your kids feel like. They

22:18

need to be the punisher. Of

22:20

who ever is taking their mothers

22:22

for their flaws place all these

22:24

things sound really noble for you

22:26

if you the spouse that was

22:29

cheated on or he went through

22:31

divorce because the some in whatever

22:33

yummy divorces are just painful as

22:35

ten thousand things we could just

22:37

say but your kids to not

22:39

be your protector. They. Could

22:41

not be your defender. They

22:43

cannot be your attorney and

22:46

they cannot be the person

22:48

who has to defend your

22:50

your your nobility to their

22:52

boyfriend or their girlfriend. And

22:55

if they don't have permission from

22:57

you. To. Have relationship with whoever

22:59

your spouse's have a relationship with and

23:01

I'm not talk about well I mean

23:03

to say this that that that's going

23:05

to put so much stress the know

23:07

This is why kids are on. You.

23:09

Know all kinds of anti depressants

23:11

is why kids are your transgender

23:13

is going through all kinds of

23:15

depression. And sexually. I'll

23:18

say this. If. You're a good

23:20

mom. No one's gonna take your place. No

23:23

woman know girlfriend is gonna take your

23:25

place and if you're a good. Dad.

23:29

No man is going take your place.

23:32

As you. Putting. Pressure

23:34

on your kids because you fear that

23:36

someone's going to take your place. Book

23:39

Create. More.

23:43

Chance. That someone will take you Puts.

23:46

Add add a and you're going to

23:49

put your kids in a terrible swat.

23:51

So yes, love your kids. Stay bonded.

23:54

You know, i

23:56

know this is doc any popular at thought but

24:00

Sometimes during divorce, husband

24:03

or dad or mom move away. So

24:06

like, yeah, I see my kids every three

24:08

months. I'm sorry. You need

24:10

to sacrifice your job for your children. Like

24:13

it's not your children's fault that you

24:15

got divorced. They still need you on

24:17

a regular basis. They need you

24:19

close. They need you in

24:21

the same geographic

24:24

area. They need to know they

24:26

can get to you quickly. They need

24:29

you to answer the phone. I

24:31

mean, these things sound, you know,

24:33

in our day, they sound like so, wow, that's

24:35

a lot of pressure. It's like,

24:38

yeah, you were part of the divorce. You may

24:40

have not wanted it, but you are. And

24:42

the greatest victims of any divorce are your

24:44

children. And they need to

24:47

know that they are loved, they are cared for, you're

24:49

there for them, you're there for their games. And

24:52

in work is not nearly

24:54

as important. It's not

24:57

a career, like nothing takes the place of

24:59

your children and they need to know

25:01

that. Well, hey, thanks so

25:03

much. Lots of people loving

25:06

what we're doing. I want to

25:09

pray right now. Holy Spirit, this is

25:11

a huge transition for a

25:13

lot of people what they're hearing today. This

25:15

is not the culture

25:18

we live in in modern day,

25:21

I was gonna

25:23

say America, but in and around the globe. And so we pray God that

25:26

you would give us strength, wisdom,

25:29

perseverance, and give us mentors who

25:33

can walk us through these kinds of transitions so

25:36

that we can be good dads and good moms, we

25:39

can be good parents, and we can be good sons and daughters

25:41

to good mothers and fathers.

25:44

And I just pray God your

25:46

grace and your protection over us in

25:48

Jesus name. Amen,

25:51

look forward to seeing you next week where

25:53

we're gonna change subjects. And

25:56

hey, please write your questions in,

25:58

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26:01

these questions. I wanna tell you that a lot of

26:03

what I said today, most of, almost all of what

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I said, and a ton more is

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