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Hey everyone , thank you for joining me here on

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the Blueprint podcast . I hope that

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you're having the most amazing day . Okay

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, so this week we want to talk about self-sabotaging

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practices . It's

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definitely the

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root , I feel , in

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self-actualization , because when we

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can understand how we work

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at such a deep level , then

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your ability to be seen

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in the world , to have mastery

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in who you

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are and what you choose

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to do here it makes it so much

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easier and there's just a simple

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flow that happens . So

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we're going to talk about breaking

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down these walls of sabotaging

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. Now , there's lots of different types

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of sabotage , self-sabotage

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and you can look those up on Google

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if you like but I

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want to talk about the ones that lead you to

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success , because in 2024

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, literally all

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the energies of the universe

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are really

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pushing us for success because

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of the new earth frequencies

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, the new earth mentalities

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, like getting rid of all lack and getting

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rid of those kinds of things , even though

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we have more people probably

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struggling in the world financially

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, emotionally , mentally , physically

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than we ever have before . And

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this is the way the universe of duality

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works right it's

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being seen . What

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needs to transform becomes larger

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and larger and larger , so that we can see it in

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every area of our life , and

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so I really want us to

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dive deeper into this today

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. So let's

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breaking down the walls , like how

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do you break , how do you recognize

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, how do you recognize your own

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self-sabotaging practices

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? Do you recognize

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them , right ? Like , what causes

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you , what causes your hindrance

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to success , to

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all the abundances of the world , of

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the universe ? How do you recognize

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them ? And they're very subtle

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, you know . So sabotaging

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practices are very , very subtle

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. For example , well

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, a podcast not being heard

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or seen . Like I do both of them

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. I do the video to put on YouTube

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and I do the

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voice just for

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podcasting . So

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if I didn't want to do the video , then

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it would make a real boring video

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for YouTube , right ? Or

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for Instagram , and

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so that could be a huge self-sabotaging

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practice , like not being willing

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or not feeling comfortable , not

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being able to speak my own voice

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, really monitoring the words

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that I use , to

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fit in , like that . That

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would be a self-sabotaging practice for me . So

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when we're diving into these practices

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, these self-sabotaging practices , we

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have to look at the root , like what is the origin

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of self-sabotaging behaviors

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? Most generally , throughout

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my work in the psychology world

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, it's been traumas

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, things that we have experienced

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throughout our lives and have created a

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traumatic effect in our psyche

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and the way that we think and the way that we feel

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and the way that we practice and the way

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that we behave and

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our behaviors and

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these traumas or these

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experiences that have sort

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of imprinted something

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within you , some sort of energy block

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or some sort of way to

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believe in yourself . They're

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generally rooted in fear , like fear

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of not fitting in , for example , fear of

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being seen , because

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you were told by I don't know

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caretaker when you were younger

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that you're supposed to be seen . You know

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you can be seen but not heard . Right

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. That creates a fear within you , like that's

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. These past experiences become

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limiting beliefs about who we

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are and about how we can represent

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ourselves in the world . So

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there's a whole psychological

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landscape that needs to be dove

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into when we're looking for the

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root , and generally

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the root comes , generally

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it's in childhood , but it can be

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an adult for sure . You

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know post traumatic stress disorders

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from having extreme

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experiences in

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your adult life can create , can

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create these rooting kinds of sabotaging

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behaviors . So

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one thing that you can do is look for your patterns

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or things that trigger you . I'm

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working with my team

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right now about some

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, some traders , about goals for

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2024 . And

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the word goal is a huge trigger

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for people Like it's , like we

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have failure around that and

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we have fear of setting goals and

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then disappointing ourselves , you know , because

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we don't follow through . But

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the real . So the word

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goal is the trigger , but

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what's the real root

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here ? Disappointing

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yourself , abandoning yourself

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, having thoughts

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or experiences

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where you literally not not

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fallen through or not followed through

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in your life , you

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know , and that creates a pattern . And

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these , that's what happens when , when

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we create these behaviors

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is self sabotaging behaviors as they

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become patterns . So

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how do we overcome them

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? Well

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, it requires self

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compassion , self love , decisions

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, decision making to overcome

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them . And how can you actually what

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? What can you do ? This is where

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the how comes in right . What can you do

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? That that creates a resilience , see

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in in you , that creates a confidence

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. You know , when we have success

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, we become more confident . So

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what kinds of triggers ? Like

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looking at those triggers and saying , okay , well

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, what can I do ? That's maybe opposite of

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that . That will actually

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help me build resistance

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and and confidence

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to overcome that . And then you know

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, maybe the maybe , the follow through changes , maybe

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it's maybe the goals that you set

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in the past weren't really your goals

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. Maybe there were someone else's goals . We do that

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a lot as humans . We take

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someone else's goals . They , oh , I want that goal

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. Like at the beginning of every year , we

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take a big push for becoming healthy . Right

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, big giant push for

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becoming healthy , create exercise

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goals and food goals and

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all the things . That's

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that goal . It's that

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really really your goal ? When

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we take on someone else's goal

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or we take on the programming

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and pretend like it's useful for

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us , we're going to sabotage

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ourselves . I

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mean because we're going to look for ways to get

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out of it . That's

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just how we work . The

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thing is to rewrite the narrative , like honestly

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, rewrite your story . You

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know , if , if wellness , health

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and wellness is not your goal at the beginning

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of every single year , then stop taking that on

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. And then you have to ask yourself really

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, what is it that you really do desire ? What

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is it that you really really really

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desire ? Maybe it's to just

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stop eating sugar and that becomes

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your health goal . Or

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maybe it's , you know , to go out

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and explore the world more . Maybe

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it's to have adventure more

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. We deny ourselves of adventure

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all the time , and adventures do

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not have to cost a fortune , going

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out and walking in the woods or taking

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a I don't know , and

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then taking a , borrowing

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someone's kayak and going for a kayak

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. It can be anything . It

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can be just , you know , creating a new

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relationship with someone , meeting someone new

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, saying hello to someone at the coffee

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shop and you're like , hey

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, how's it going today , you know , and you really

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start a meaningful

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conversation . That can be an adventure

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for some of us , especially for introverts

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. Another

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thing to take a to really pay

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attention to is self-sabotage . Is

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how do you love yourself ? You

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know , cultivating that self-love , that

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confidence , that knowing

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yourself , working into self-mastery

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We've done so many videos

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on you know , mastery , self-actualization

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how

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do we really break

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the chain of self-sabotage ? Well

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, the first thing is to know and understand who

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you are , how you work , how you show

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up , how you don't show up , and being

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okay with that , oh , like

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not being so secretive with your life

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that you

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hide from the world , right

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, because you're afraid that somebody's going to say

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something to you or you're going to be criticized , or

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you know there's always going to be somebody out

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there who doesn't agree

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with who you are . Who cares ? Who

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cares ? Pay them no

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attention , give them not , do not create

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an energy leak with them . Okay

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, so I hope that this helps you

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in self-sabotaging

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practices . It's really we're

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really being led energy-wise

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, consciously

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, to overcome

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these sort of practices , these

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behaviors that we've created

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patterns around . So

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self-sabotage is in 20

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for 24 . It's either going to get really

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, really vivid

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for you , which

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gives you the opportunity right the opportunity

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to overcome it so

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that you can move into abundances

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, so that you can move into self-care

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, self-love , overcoming

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the resilience or the resistances

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of your success . Like

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you , being successful should be your number

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one goal in 2024 . Success

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maybe that's a trigger . Maybe

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that word is a trigger because you haven't

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felt like you've achieved that before , or you've

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achieved it and then you lost it . You

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know like it's all about you holding the

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energy of what you really desire , and

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it's okay to change what you desire

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, but then be ready to hold

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the energy of what your new desire is . Not

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comparing yourself like that's the

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number one thing to overcoming

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any kind of sabotaging practice

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. Do not compare yourself to

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anyone else in the world . Let

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your focus , your mission , your purpose

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be the only goal . Let

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that be your goal . So tell us what

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your goals are . What is it that you

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want to achieve in 2024 ? It's

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going to be an amazing year , so

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I don't know , like

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, what are you going to do

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to move

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deeper into the abundances

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of the universe ? That's what we live

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in . We live in all the

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abundances . We don't live in lack

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. We

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don't live in lack any longer . That's

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the old days . That was 2023

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. 2024 is about

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success , honestly . So

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I hope that you've enjoyed this . Please

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leave us a message . We'd

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love to hear from you . Thank

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you for joining and have

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the most amazing day .