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Do you ever feel like you just don't measure up?

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You know a lot of it is

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in your head, but you can't help

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comparing yourself to others and find yourself

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always coming up short. You

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just feel like other people are

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ahead or prettier

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than you, smarter than you, more successful

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than you, more naturally popular or funny

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or likable than you, and you end

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up feeling well less

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than. In this

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episode of the Confidence Podcast, we're going

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to give some practical tools on

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exactly how to stop allowing

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yourself to indulge in that

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feeling of less than, that

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feeling of inadequacy, that feeling

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of not enoughness, that feeling

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that even the most confident,

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highest of achievers I truly

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believe feel and experience. The

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differences, the people who aren't held back by it,

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are the ones who know how to talk back

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to it. And that's what you're going to learn

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today. Let's dive in. You're

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listening to the Confidence Podcast, the

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go-to coaching podcast, oozing

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with motivation and easy to

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implement steps that help you to

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be bold and confident in life.

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I'm your host, Trish Blackwell,

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internationally recognized confidence coach, bestselling

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author, and founder of

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the College of Confidence. I teach

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go-getters in life how to master

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their self-talk, turn down the volume

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of self-doubt, and get more results

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in life so that you

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can be the difference maker and world

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changer God created you to be. You

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were made for more, and today's episode

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before we dive in, our review of the

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custody and in school and working. Go girl.

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Trish keeps me motivated through the season

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of grinding for a better life for

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my son. I'm a Christian and also

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appreciate that she approaches self-improvement from the

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same lenses that I do. Hey

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friend, I'm proud of you. You

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are grinding. Let's acknowledge the seasons

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of grind. Let's acknowledge that life

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has. challenge. Let's acknowledge that everything we

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want is on the other side of what

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we don't want to do. You know, it's

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so interesting. We want things to be easy.

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Stop wanting to be easy. Nothing that

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God leads us to is

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too hard for us to do. So it's going

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to be hard, but we don't

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need to minimize ourselves. We have to

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maximize ourselves. We have to step in

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and take action. The only way not

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to have regret tomorrow is to do

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what is right today. And sometimes

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what is right today is a lot of

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work. Sometimes it's not what we quote unquote

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feel like doing. It's easy to look around

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and look at people who are in a

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different season and then think, why do they

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have it easy? Let's put

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our cards on the table. No one has it

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easy. Every version of

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life has its own heart. Now we

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always think the grass is always greener

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on the other side. Their heart seems

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easier than our heart. Guys, heart is

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hard, but

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heart is less hard when you have an

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attitude or gratitude, when you choose to find the

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lessons, when you choose to say, I will purpose

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attach, I will attach purpose to everything that I

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do. We just spent a whole month in

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the college of confidence on attaching purpose. Actually,

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it's still happening. So you, you can come

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in and join us in the college of

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competence and get access to how we are

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coaching on purpose and purpose attachment so that

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you walk through every life, every day of

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your life with meaning. But

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it's, it's a simple step of

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saying like, this is hard and

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I want to acknowledge that I'm going to

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pat myself in the back for that. I'm

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going to self validate and I'm going to

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acknowledge that I am not only capable of

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doing hard things, but I'm good at doing

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hard things. And when you lean into being

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good at doing hard things, yourself concept, that

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is how you consider yourself, it elevates, it

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maximizes. And when you maximize your impact in

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the world does too. And all

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of a sudden you feel more capable. When you

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feel more capable, you step out and you do

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more. You take the

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risk, you speak up, you

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advocate, you give yourself permission. mission to

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be yourself. Now, I have

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a couple and one of my favorite quotes. Well,

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she's one of my favorite humans in history is

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Elmo Roosevelt. I

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know I know you've heard this before, but I want

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to lovingly remind you of this today. No

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one makes you feel inferior without

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your consent. I

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spent a lot of my life feeling inferior. And

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it doesn't. It both makes sense

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and it doesn't. I

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felt inferior to my brother. And you

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might've heard this story. I was

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a very athletic kid, but definitely tomboy. And

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my older brother was like the hot one.

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And people actually said like, you

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sure you have the same parents. He's so good looking.

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We don't know what happened to you. Like kids are

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mean, right? So I felt

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inferior. I felt less

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than I also came

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from a very blue collar single

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income family. I

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felt inferior to my

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friends whose dads were

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business suits. It doesn't

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make sense, but in my little girl brain, I

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had said, my dad goes to work on construction

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sites and their dad wears

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a suit and tie. I felt less

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than. And if we could just pause

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here and acknowledge that some

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of the reasons we feel less than

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are simply from a story that we

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told ourselves. And if we're really honest,

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that eight year old version that Trish had

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in her mind of a successful man

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or a better man was not an

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insult to my father, but it was a

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glorification of movies that I saw of

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like what a quote unquote happy, perfect

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family did. The husband went and he

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worked at a bank and he came home

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and he wasn't dirty and you know,

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covered in grease. And

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so I connected that people who came

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from families like that, that those kids

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had more than me, that they were better

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than me, that they, so I created my

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own inferiority with my consent because the consent

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was in my brain of the story I

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was telling. There's another great quote. I

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love the work of William James. He

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says, the greatest weapon against stress is

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our ability to choose one thought over

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another. And the reason I'm sharing that

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today with you is no matter what

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your story and your narrative is

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about why you're less than, why

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you're behind, why you're inadequate, why

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you're not enough, why you are

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inferior, it's just a story.

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And what is a story? It's a string of thoughts.

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So it is

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in your inferiority and feeling not

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enough is creating unnecessary

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stress. You are choosing stress in your

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life. And the greatest weapon against stress

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is our ability to choose one thought

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over another. And that if you don't

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yet know, that is 100% the work

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we do in the College of Confidence.

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If I were to summarize what my coaching program,

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the College of Confidence is, it is

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a place where you learn to choose

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one thought over another. And we string that

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together and create the life of our dream.

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Bradley said this, the only thing that

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can stop you from fulfilling your dreams

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is you. And the thing that

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stops us the most is the

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fear that we are not enough. The

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fear that will embarrass ourselves, the

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fear that we're going to put ourselves out there. And if

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we're disappointed, we'll feel less than that

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we'll believe the failure that we won't

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measure up, we won't compare. That

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we aren't enough. So you're the only

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one in your way. And

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again, it's simply a choice of what thought

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are you going to think? But

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let's get into what are your

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less than triggers? What are those things

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that are, where are you giving consent

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to feel inferior? And when we feel inferior,

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we shrink. The

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enemy of our soul wants to minimize us. I

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really believe God wants you to maximize every gift

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he has given you. He wants you to be

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the fullest version of yourself, not the, not the,

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the watered down version. But when we feel not

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enough, when we believe the lie that

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we're not as, pretty not

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as skinny not as smart not

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as cool not as talented not

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as clever we then play small

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we tiptoe and

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if you tiptoe through life you will get tiptoe

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results so what are

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your lesson triggers is it someone super

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super super skinny is it someone

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super popular someone who

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dresses really smart someone

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who's super super intellectual someone's

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super funny someone's

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super stylish someone's super fit

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someone's super witty someone's

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super outgoing someone's super trendy

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someone super rich someone

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super skilled and

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I left these out because they are

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obvious but I want you to take

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an audit of your

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mind of your insecurities of

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those moments when you you feel a

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little bit not yourself how do you

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know you're going into that inferiority when

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you're how are you consenting to inferiority

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it's when you don't feel fully yourself

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I know that it comes up for me and I

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start doubting myself I sort of shrink my

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shoulders I I go and become reserved

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and for an outgoing person I am

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naturally extroverted and outgoing and joyful and

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when I find myself being reserved not

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because I'm exhausted or distracted or thinking

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about something but because I'm intimidated or

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I feel less than see we

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don't always call it less than we

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don't always acknowledge we feel inferior we just

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say oh I just

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feel like a little intimidated

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by that person or we

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make assumptions and we tell ourselves story about why

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that person is not going to like us and

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so we don't need we don't even engage or

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we assume we're being judged by that person because we

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are putting them on such a pedestal

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that we assume that we don't measure up and then we're

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a little bit embarrassed so

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it's a really really convoluted web of emotions

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that we can experience and what I want

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you to do in your audit is the

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last time that you shrunk back, the

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last time you felt this less

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than come across, that wave of

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less than, the wave of inferiority.

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What does it feel like to you? What

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emotions create

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that wave for you? For

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me, there's shame, there's embarrassment.

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But once you know what you're feeling, the

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feeling has less power over you. And

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once you know what your triggers are and you can get

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curious about why is it, when I'm around that person, I

12:32

start pulling back. I start

12:35

being massively intimidated. I'm worried

12:37

about what they're thinking about me. I'm

12:39

thinking they think I'm a fill in the blank.

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An idiot, I'm awkward, I'm this, I'm not

12:44

smart enough, I don't belong, whatever it might

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be. What is the origin of the story?

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And once you realize, wait, there's something that's

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happening here that I'm telling myself that this

12:53

person is thinking, that it's causing me to

12:55

shrink back and shrink down. I am giving

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consent in this made up story of my

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mind. I am inserting myself into

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their thoughts. And by the way, 99% of the

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time, that person is not even

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thinking about you. And yet

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our whole behavior changes based

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on this made up conversation

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that you have in your brain about

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what they're thinking in theirs, what they're

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thinking about you. Here's the great news,

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nobody's thinking about you. They

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just don't care that much. I

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hope that frees you. I don't mean it

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in a negative way. This

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is such good news. Once

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you identify the origin story, then

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you can ask yourself, do you still believe the

13:36

same thing? Because

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I had a 15 year struggle

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with body image and eating disorder,

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it makes sense that I really,

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I really, I really epitomized and

13:51

like glorified

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this concept of extreme, extreme

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ectomorphy. which is just a

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very, very, very natural skinny person. And

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I noticed that when I would find

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myself pulling back because someone was just

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very naturally thin, honestly, I

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was triggered by, I was embarrassed,

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I felt judged, I felt self-criticism

14:15

come on, I felt jealousy, and

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I felt less that. But

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once I realized that that was a trigger,

14:24

that that type of body type, when

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I saw it, my brain launched into

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old stories. I was believing and telling

14:30

myself when I was 20, when

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I was 15. And I

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can now look as a 41-year-old woman and

14:38

say those stories just were not true.

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I did not have the full story that

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I had told myself a story that if

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I was, insert the number, I

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don't remember, 10 pounds, 20 pounds, whatever, if my

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body was different, then my life would be better.

14:53

I had to believe the lie. I

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told myself the fantasy that when my

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body looks perfect, looks like that, then

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I won't be happy, then I won't have

15:02

problems, then everyone in my life will love

15:04

me, and then nothing bad will ever happen.

15:07

And if you were honest with yourself, I'm

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laughing at my old self, I love that version

15:13

of her. She truly believed that. So

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we often have this, well, when this one

15:19

problem is finally fixed, then

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I'll be happy with my life. And

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it could be your body, it could be money,

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it could be your relationship, it could be your

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personality. You guys, the origin story is the problem.

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And so we wanna ask ourselves, if once we

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identify what that original story is, do you want

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to still believe the same thing? So

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what is that story? And do you

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want to believe that story, or do you want to

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learn and narrate

15:47

and create a new story? So what we

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do to do that is we change the,

15:52

we challenge that perspective. Then we tell the

15:54

whole story. And then you

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parent your brain about the

15:58

bigger picture of humans. Humanity meaning

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you remind yourself that everyone has problems

16:05

You remind yourself that your

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weight means nothing You

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remind yourself that money does not buy

16:11

happiness You remind yourself

16:13

that the smartest people are not better

16:15

the smarter people are not better than

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you That somebody

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who's five years ahead in their business journey

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doesn't have a better business than you. They're

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just started earlier than you

16:27

Right. I think we compare we get so stuck

16:30

into the comparison and we think they

16:32

are better and Anytime

16:34

you think that there's a competition with

16:36

life of one person's life against another

16:38

you are telling yourself a losing story. I

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want to invite you into a fuller story of That

16:45

the belief that you were placed Where

16:48

you are created to be who you are for

16:50

such a time as this to play your part

16:52

in humanity Your piece of the

16:54

puzzle there is no competition against what you're supposed to

16:56

do in the world. You are supposed to be you

17:00

But we are so distracted Comparing

17:03

ourselves to everyone else and When

17:06

we do that and we think it's not

17:08

fair that they're prettier than me It's not

17:10

fair that they their life appears easier than

17:12

me It's not fair that their parents paid

17:14

for college and they have a trust fund

17:17

It's not fair that she's naturally can't can't

17:19

gain weight like she's just so skinny She

17:21

can't gain weight and she still has her

17:23

curves. How is that? It's not fair fill

17:25

in the blank. Whatever your your story is

17:29

if we If I thought that

17:31

would be a helpful I would say keep saying that

17:33

but let's just remove fairness from your factoring One

17:37

it's it's not fair sir. We all have

17:40

different strengths. We all have different edges. We

17:42

all have different gifts there

17:44

or not Life is

17:47

not fair There are things that that I that

17:49

I have in my life that are

17:51

true true blessings and favor and

17:53

in the same way as you Consider yours there

17:56

are things that you have that I don't and

17:59

so we say fair or not fair true, but there's

18:01

so much that it's not fair. But what is,

18:03

well, I go back to, it's not fair that

18:06

I get to, I get that breath

18:08

and life and grace and

18:10

forgiveness. And I have, I can walk

18:12

in the presence of God's goodness. That's

18:14

what is grace. Right. And

18:17

so we can play the game of not fair,

18:20

but it really just, it muddles

18:23

your story. It keeps you in a

18:25

negative thought cycle. It keeps you stuck

18:27

and minimizing your life. And if you,

18:29

if you continually live in a way

18:31

that minimizes your life and you're, then

18:33

you're looking for the easy way out

18:35

and then you will, what ends up

18:37

creating as a result is

18:39

self-pity. And as Joyce Meyer

18:42

says, you can be pitiful or you can be

18:44

powerful, but you cannot be both. And I am

18:46

here to equip you to live a powerful life.

18:48

And so just know this, it is

18:51

okay that your brain offers you this

18:53

feeling of I just kind

18:55

of feel not enough. I feel less than

18:57

the key is though. It doesn't mean

18:59

anything unless you attach meaning to it. So

19:01

call yourself out on it. Notice it when

19:04

it's happening, then get curious and go, what

19:06

is it that I'm telling myself? You guys

19:08

have heard me really digging on,

19:10

doubling down on this concept of narrative intelligence

19:12

and Q and it's something that I've coined

19:14

and we've done a full course on it.

19:17

It was a course that we've done in

19:19

the college of confidence, but I actually have

19:21

it available for you to purchase

19:24

just a one-off course. It is a must,

19:26

I think it's

19:28

a must have course where you, I will

19:31

walk you through what is called the arm

19:33

method to really elevate your

19:35

narrative intelligence. And your narrative intelligence

19:37

is your ability to talk back to yourself, your

19:40

ability to change the narrative of your mind, the

19:42

way you're telling yourself a story about your

19:44

experiences, your circumstances, your emotions,

19:46

your thoughts, yourself, your life and

19:49

others. And so the more your

19:51

NQ improves, the more power you

19:53

have to create a

19:55

confidence and really, really

19:57

fulfilling life. And

20:01

Sarah, with that, I

20:03

want you to know that there's, if you

20:05

indulge in this, I just feel

20:07

less than. It

20:09

immediately creates waves of self-pity.

20:12

It creates this internal inferiority

20:14

complex where you always

20:17

feel behind and it sparks

20:19

pointlessness. We just

20:21

did a workshop in the College of

20:23

Confidence on pointlessness, on battling pointlessness, because

20:25

if you feel like you're not as good as somebody

20:28

else or you're less than and that you're in this

20:30

competition of life that you're never going to catch up

20:32

on or be enough for, you

20:34

will feel really, really

20:37

disengaged, really, really

20:39

discouraged, really, really

20:41

overwhelmed and hopeless. And

20:44

I'm here to tell you that

20:46

you don't have to live that way. I'm here

20:48

to tell you that there's more for you. And

20:52

it starts by just simply saying, I am

20:54

not less than. I do not

20:56

give anyone consent to be inferior. I

20:59

stand in the fact that

21:03

there is more to me than I even

21:05

know. And that

21:07

I am more capable than I've given myself

21:09

credit for, that I am

21:11

more than able, that I am on

21:13

my way. And

21:16

this great quote I read

21:18

by Maxwell Maltz, and

21:20

he said this, low self-esteem is

21:23

like driving through life with your handbrake on.

21:26

Because you might be saying, Trish, this feels like a

21:29

lot of work that I'm really going to have to

21:31

be curious about my emotions, really question this origin story

21:33

of inferiority and why there

21:35

are certain people or situations that

21:37

categorically activate this inferiority or

21:40

this less thanness or inadequacy in

21:42

me. And so once we get

21:44

curious, we can start really working at healing those

21:46

areas. And that may sound like a lot of

21:48

work, but I'm here to tell you work

21:50

is always worth it. The payoff

21:52

of work is worth it. We are not

21:54

here to pave the way of

21:56

an easy life. Everything you want

21:59

is on the other side. of what you don't want to do.

22:02

You know what sounds more challenging to me than

22:04

the work that I'm presenting here to do the

22:06

narrative intelligence work to get coaching on this, to

22:09

do the journaling that's going to be required to get some

22:12

insight on what is the story that you're telling yourself

22:15

is, you know what's harder? Driving

22:17

through life with your handbrake on. That's

22:20

terrible. And

22:22

so the byproduct of inadequacy

22:25

is this low self-esteem. When

22:28

I hear how the good news that you're taking away today is

22:30

that you're not stuck. You're not stuck. You

22:33

don't have to always feel less than. And

22:36

these areas where it flares up, those are

22:38

the areas you start. That's where we start

22:40

to do the work right away. I

22:43

hope this episode has got you thinking. I hope you're

22:45

excited to go grab your journal and start exploring what

22:47

is it that I'm telling myself? What

22:50

story and what if this story is

22:52

optional? Is the

22:54

story you're telling yourself that's making you feel

22:56

less than is optional. The other thing I

22:58

wanted to mention is that when we go

23:00

into inadequacy and measuring

23:03

ourselves against others and feeling not good

23:05

enough and not where we're supposed to

23:07

be in behind and just the general,

23:10

not enough, we are

23:13

always living

23:16

in luck. And I

23:18

really believe you're here to live life and live

23:20

life to the abundant. So

23:23

if you have a choice here and we all have a choice to

23:25

live in lack or to live in abundance,

23:27

let's choose abundance. If you haven't yet watched

23:30

the replay of my how to feel

23:32

good enough workshop, it's absolutely free. We

23:35

go into the five mistakes that people make when, um,

23:38

so it's a continuation of what we're coaching

23:40

on today and then three actual

23:42

things you can do to start feeling good

23:44

enough. So if this is resonating, go to

23:46

trishblackwell.com/good enough. I'll include that in the show

23:49

notes for you so that you can click,

23:51

you'll get instant access. The replay

23:53

is right there for you. Um, so trishblackwell.com/good enough.

23:55

Now the other thing I want to mention before

23:57

we close out for the day is I. just

24:00

teed up a fresh

24:02

release of how to teach girls confidence.

24:05

If you have a daughter or you

24:07

mentor a young girl, this is the perfect

24:09

bundle to get ahold of before

24:12

summer. Because this is a

24:14

great course to work through as you work

24:16

through it yourself as the adult so you

24:19

know how to instill confidence into

24:21

the young woman in your

24:23

life. Because the realities are our daughters

24:25

are growing up in a world that

24:28

is completely different than we did. It's

24:30

a world filled with competition and comparison

24:32

and curated filtered lives that look perfect

24:34

and now more than ever girls feel

24:36

not good enough. So I

24:38

had to mention this program since we're talking

24:40

today about not feeling good enough feeling less

24:42

than our daughters are experiencing

24:44

this and they don't have the language the

24:47

vocabulary to converse about it

24:49

and to have conversations and to tell

24:51

you what's on their heart. Here's some data. 98%

24:54

of girls feel like an immense pressure from

24:56

external resources to look a certain way and

24:58

that's a national report on self-esteem. 74% of

25:01

girls say they are under pressure

25:04

to please everyone. That is from the

25:06

super girl dilemma. 92% of teen girls

25:10

would like to change something about the

25:12

way they look with body weight ranking

25:14

the highest that's from Dove campaign research.

25:16

78% of

25:19

17 year old girls are unhappy with

25:21

their bodies. That's the National

25:23

Institute on Media and the Family. And

25:26

one in four girls today fall into a

25:28

clinical diagnosis of depression eating disorders cutting and

25:30

other mental or emotional orders disorders.

25:32

And so look let's be honest growing up

25:34

has always been hard but it's harder now

25:37

than ever before. There is a crisis of

25:39

confidence and its impact is deep. But when

25:41

you give a girl confidence you give her

25:43

access to an unstoppable future. Girls who have

25:46

confidence and self-confidence make good decisions. They have

25:48

an easier time saying no to peer pressure.

25:50

They stay more involved in school activities. They

25:52

raise their hands and ask questions. They lead.

25:55

They have better relationships with their bodies.

25:58

And confidence is a skill. skill.

26:01

It can be learned by anyone and

26:03

taught to anyone. It's a muscle that

26:05

can be strengthened and fortified no matter

26:07

the age. And so we can

26:09

teach the young women in our lives how

26:11

to have more confidence. We can give them

26:13

the gift of confidence

26:15

that will last them for a lifetime. And

26:18

I teach exactly how to do all of that

26:20

in my newest course, teach

26:22

girls confidence. You can

26:25

go to trishblackwell.com/girls to

26:28

check it out. Right now we have

26:30

over almost a thousand dollars of bonus

26:32

workshops and resources on self-esteem all lumped

26:34

in and included. So check that out.

26:36

I'll put that in the show notes

26:38

as well. Final two things to let

26:40

you know. If you're jamming out on

26:42

this, go get that good enough replay

26:44

trishblackwell.com/good enough. And there's

26:46

also two episodes, two podcast episodes. It's

26:48

episode 539. Stop trying to prove yourself

26:51

you're good enough already. And episode 598,

26:54

you are a somebody how to believe it. So

26:56

you've not yet listened to those two episodes. Those

26:59

are great to go even deeper and just

27:01

hear a different angle and perspective on this

27:03

topic. Guys, it is my

27:05

just absolute privilege

27:08

to be a voice of encouragement in your life.

27:10

Thank you for listening. Thank you for being part

27:12

of this pod fam. Thank you for sharing the

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show with your friends, for writing reviews and just

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spreading the good word. Go out

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there today and go be more of who God created you to be.

27:22

Be you. Be free.

27:24

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