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Hey , y'all , we are in episode

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number four of Tay Talks

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and I am super excited . I

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took last month off just to

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readjust to some things that was going on in my

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life , which were good things , nothing negative . But

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, yes , it was needed . But your girl is

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back with episode number four . Yes

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, this podcast today is solo dolo

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, but it's all good because you

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know what God told me to do . So you know I'm trying

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to make sure I be in his

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will with what he tells me . So , y'all

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, today I want to just jump straight into today's

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topic . So today

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is more so of an affirmation and

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reason being . It's

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because of the fact , by the time

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this podcast is over , I pray

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that it touches whomever

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may need this and

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allow this to be a daily

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conversation that you have with yourself

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. So today's topic is

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you have a higher standard . I'm

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going to repeat that one more time you have

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a higher standard . Now

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I'm going to speak for myself . I have

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been in certain situations , let's

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be honest . I have been in certain

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relationships , friendships , being

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in certain job positions and things like

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that , where I feel like

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I compromised

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and I just accepted it and

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I knew that for a fact

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that I should be in something different . I shouldn't

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tolerate the things that

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I was going through , and

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a lot of times this is what happened with us . We

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get in certain situations . I'm not going to

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say for us , I'm going to speak for me . I

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have been in certain situations

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where I knew my time

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has expired but I kind of

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forced it just to stay . Um

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, I'm just gonna say , for even example

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, like okay , yes , thank god , this is my second

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marriage , right , my first marriage . I

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knew my time has expired , but I was forcing

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it to work and

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so they had to make

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me readjust my life , you

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know , so being

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on certain jobs I can't have , I definitely

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can't admit . I have been in some

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positions and I'm like , and it's not that

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, you know , I think I was better than

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anybody , or nothing like that . It was just

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that it was the fact that I knew God told

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me you can do better , and

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when God said that thing to you and you

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still in a certain situation , or something

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like that , then that's

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when your feelings get hurt . Um

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, things happen , make you questioning yourself

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and stuff like that , and that's

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that's what today . I want you

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just to keep in mind . You

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have a higher standard . So

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I'm only gonna give about three points about

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, um , what's the benefits

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, what is the benefit of you having

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a higher standard in this ? And it's not that

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you , you being um , you're boasting

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about yourself or you bragging upon

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yourself or anything like that . Sometimes you just

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have to know , like yo , this

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ain't my level , and there's nothing

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wrong with saying that , especially

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when you know , whatever

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situation you may be in , you're still being humble

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and you're not thinking that you're better

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than anyone , because that's the thing where people

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mess up at . They feel like they're getting in

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certain situations any better the person

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or they better than the situation

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than it is . And then , next thing

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, you know God didn't knock you off

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that doggone high horse that you was on and

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had to force you to be in a position where you had to humble

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yourself . But this

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time I'm speaking to those

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who need that encouragement to know yo , it's better out here for me . So , um , I just

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speaking to those who need that encouragement to know yo , it's better

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out here for me . So

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I just want to say that title one

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more time you have a higher standard

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, dang

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, that one is sitting with me right now , so let's

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jump on into it . So the first thing is the first

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benefit of when you get to a point

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you have your mindset , because everything

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is a mindset . If your mind

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is made up , okay , I'm going to stay

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in this situation , I know I'm not happy

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, or you know certain things like that Then

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that's where your mindset is at . But when

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you get to a point where you know what , like yo

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, your girl deserve better , your

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boy deserve better , like this can't be

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it , this just can't be it , and

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you telling yourself , like yo , my standards , I

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got higher standards . You know

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what I mean . And it's , it's and that's

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. Just take , for

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example , you know after a while , like as a kid I loved McDonald's

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. You couldn't tell me nothing about a good 10-piece sweet and sour sauce . Give

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me some sweet tea on the side with that thing

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and some hot fries , I am content

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. Now I'm to a point don't

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bring me to the mcdonald's , that's , that's just

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not going . I'd rather have a home-cooked meal

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over some , over some mcdonald's . But

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that's because of my mindset , my , my

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taste . But everything has changed over time

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and it's just because of the fact . It's not that you

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know , my money's too good for mcdon , I just have outgrown

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it . You know that's something that now

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I get my kids , you know

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if they want something like that or whatever

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, but you know , that's just that . So

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the first benefit of having

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a high standard is number one you

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create better relationships , and

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this could go with personal relationships , this

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could go with professional relationships

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on your job and things like that

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. Because when you finally set that standard

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to a point where you know what I'm not going to accept

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the foolery that you're coming with , then

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you're going to create a better relationship , not only for

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yourself but for the people that surround you . Because

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once you start feeling appreciated and

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you start feeling like you know what , what I

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feel , like you value me as a person

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, or as your spouse , or as

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your boo , or on your job

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, anything like that Then

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once you start feeling like you're important , you start

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doing things different , you start operating different

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. Take , for example you're working

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on a job and your supervisor

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is just

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off the chain . I have had some crazy supervisors

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and it was to a point where

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I'm like you know what ? Yo , I deserve better

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than this , because I do not need to be treated like this

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, or you don't have to act like this , that and the third

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. But once I finally got to that job where

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I'm like , oh shoot , my boss appreciate

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me , it made me start coming

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to work on time . You know what I mean . Like you're supposed to be on

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time anyway . But when you start feeling like you're

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appreciated , you start operating different . And

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then , once you start building those better relationships

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, then you start getting connected with the right people who need

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to be around you . And then that's when you're able

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to identify a whole lot easier

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of the people who shouldn't be around you

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. If they come around and your , your

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spirit get off , like you like uh , and

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you can't really explain it . Evaluate

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your circle . If your circle

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ain't ten toes down for you or your

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circle ain't giving you that support

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that you need , then go ahead . Ain't nothing

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wrong with leaving them behind . It's no love loss

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or anything like that . But you know your

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standards are high and they may even start

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saying well , yo , you know what should I take ? Operating

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different ? That's fine , cool , as I

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should , because my standards got higher

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. I expect different

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stuff for me . I'm not going

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to expect the same foolery that

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I expected from you . Know a previous

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situation when I know God has elevated

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me . So that's the first thing

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. The second thing is the benefit

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of having a high standard . You

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challenge yourself to do new things . You

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got to step outside your comfort zone . If you've

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been praying for something new or

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you know you're praying that God , I

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just want to do something

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different . And if he

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starts showing you things and you're like , ooh , like

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, this is different , but I'm kind of uncomfortable

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, you're going to have to in order for you to walk

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into something that's really valuable

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to you . For you to step up to

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that standard , it's going to come with some sacrificing

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of you . So it may be you're

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going to set some different

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goals . You're going to set some

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goals that you know well . You know it

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. Before it was easy for me to obtain

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this , but now you're setting goals

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where you know what dang I got to work outside

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my comfort zone to achieve this one you

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know . So that's

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just the main thing . With that one , with challenging

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, you're gonna , when you set those different standards

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, you're gonna start challenging yourself to do

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new things . Your expectations

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of you is totally different and

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you're gonna know that is god

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that's behind , that's pushing you , because he heard your prayers

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, he heard he . He then

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been with you through your fast and things like

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that . But you're going to have to stay

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committed , and that's always the hard

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part . Y'all trying to stay committed to something that

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you know that you want . But

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when your mindset changes to that

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place where you're like , okay , well , my standards

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are different now , they're

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higher . You're going to step up to

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the plate . You're going to step up to the plate , you're

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going to step up to the mic . You're going to be able to achieve what it is that you

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want to do because of the fact your mindset

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has shifted . And y'all , I'm already

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on the third point . I told y'all I was going to hold y'all on today

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. So

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the last benefit of

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having a higher

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standard is

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you're going to be a lot happier

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about yourself and your life when

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you finally get to a point where God

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you know what . I asked

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you to remove some things that was

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weighing my spirit down . I

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asked you to open my eyes to certain

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situations where I'm

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able to see things through your eyes and

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not my eyes , because sometimes we blind ourselves

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or we want to be in denial about

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certain situations , and that

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would help us to stay committed to

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the lower standard . But now

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, since you have a higher standard , you're going

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to see things totally different . You're

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going to put yourself as a priority

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when your standards are higher , the

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acceptance of foolery is not

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going to be happening , no more . Let's

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just say , for example , you've

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been in a toxic relationship . I

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know that's a word people say they're tired of hearing , but that's

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called a spade . A spade with this one You've been in something

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that you know wasn't going to benefit

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your spirit . It wasn't going to benefit you

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personally , not for any business

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plans , personal plans , goals

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or anything like that . But you were

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in this certain situation and

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after a while you get tired

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. You get so tired of

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the same cycle . You

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get tired , you get so tired of the same cycle and you get up

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and you find , like you know what , god , I'm tired , so you start shifting

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. Like for me , I'm gonna

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be honest with y'all . For me , when I was in my marriage

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, my first marriage , um

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, I knew I was tired

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, I knew it was time for me to go

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. Uh , man

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, mainly because I know it was time for me to go

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, because of the fact I wanted

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to . I wanted to end everything for

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me , for Shantay , I did not want to be on earth

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, no more . Um , the depression

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had got so heavy of what

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I was feeling within that marriage

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and once

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I got out of it , I was like , well , god , you know

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what . I had to shift

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it when it came down to me wanting

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to have a potential husband

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. And when I got out of that marriage , I promise

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you I did not want to get married again . No

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, I was good on it , didn't like

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it at all . But you

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know , he was like you deserve

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a husband , you deserve to be loved , you

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deserve for your girls to have a father figure

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. That's , um , you know , consistent and

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and things like that . So once

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I finally got to a point where

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I received it because that's the thing

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everybody around you can tell you you deserve this

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, you deserve that . But if you don't believe

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it , your mindset ain't going to change , it's

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going to stay the same . So when I finally

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got to a point where I was like you know what I deserve

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love . I deserve to

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go out on dates , I deserve

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to be treated like

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the queen that I am , like all

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these affirmations that I had to start telling myself

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, I had to start speaking to myself . And

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then , once I finally got to that point , once

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I got into another

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relationship or , you know , got into this marriage

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that I'm in now , I knew what I wasn't

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going to accept . And

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once I got to a place where I found out you

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know what , I'm not going to get complacent

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in any situation where

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it's messing with your mindset , your

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standards , your goals , your

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purpose and things like that . So

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y'all , that's all I have on today . You

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have to set the standard and

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you better set it to a point where you know it's higher

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than what it was previously , when you was

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not happy with yourself or

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you wasn't happy with your placement

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in your career or

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in a relationship or anything

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like that . You have a higher standard

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and you have to set that standard because

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if you're expecting somebody else

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to do it for you , it's not going to happen , because if

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you're expecting somebody else to

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do it for you , it's not going to happen . Nobody's

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going to take the pride that you have in yourself like you should take the

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pride into yourself . You have to know you're your number one player . Like yo , I'm my number

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one fan . I'm my number one kickback . You know it's good

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to have people around you who push

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you and motivate you , but

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you have to be in tune with yourself before everything else . So once you get to a place

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where you know what , I'm going to leave everything behind

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that was weighing me down . I'm going to set

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this standard higher . I'm

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going up a notch . Then

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you ready and I just want you to tell

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yourself every single day you

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have a higher standard . Tell yourself

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I have a higher standard and

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think about it Like if something getting heavy on you . Just tell

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yourself that I have a higher standard and then you

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start making moves to

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make sure that you are on that standard

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. Are you elevating to the place

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that you would like to be ? And

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if you're struggling with it , I pray that

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right now that God takes

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his arms and wrap them around you and

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whisper in your ear and just let you know

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that he is with you so

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you're not going through anything alone

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. You know he's going

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to place the people around you that you're going

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to need and the

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encouragement that you're going to need while

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you go through this process , because that's what it is Life

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is an ongoing process . You are not

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the same person that you were

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yesterday . Two weeks ago

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, like I know , I made a motivation

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. It wasn't a motivation

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Monday , but it was a motivation video

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that I had made telling you you have

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to get adjusted to the new me and

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that is just you when you go through things in

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life , you become a different person

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, but you become the person that you want

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to become like , the person you

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want to be molded into . You become

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that person , like for me , I always want

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to be a

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woman that my

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girls look up to , because

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I have four kids , but when it comes

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down to my girls , I need to always be the role

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model and that's something that I am very

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, uh , particular about , the way

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that I operate and stuff like that . I need

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them to know that . You

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know what my mama's , that my mama good

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, she , like she , she really she

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be holding it down , like she is

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our role model . So

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, y'all , but that's all I have

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on today for episode

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four of Tay Talks Podcast

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. I will see you all . We only

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do this once a month until

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God tells me something different . So

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the next podcast will be released next

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month , the last week of the month . So

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y'all have an amazing

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, amazing week . Stay

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safe . I know Easter is coming up , so

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be careful if you're traveling back and

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forth or whatever you may be doing . But

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that's all I have for y'all . Love y'all

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. Talk to y'all later . Bye .