0:43

And welcome to another episode. I am your

0:47

host, w I z e, and I have a very

0:50

exciting guest today. I'll let him tell you

0:54

what he's up to, but he's a renowned traveler.

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I just I'm ex I'm just excited today. Today's a great day. I'm just excited

1:02

for a great conversation. Let's welcome to the show,

1:06

Colin Kingsmill. Hello? Hey,

1:10

you? Hi. Hey. I'm here. I'm

1:14

good. How are you? Happy Monday. Well, I'm happy Monday.

1:17

So it's, it's it's it's

1:21

I just I was reading your your bio early, and and it just

1:25

amazed me. So your journey has taken you to

1:28

numerous places and and and experiences.

1:32

Can you share a pivotal moment or experience that significant

1:36

significant, significantly shaped your path?

1:41

Oh, gosh. I I, yeah, I've probably got a few of them. I

1:45

think I think if if, if I look at my

1:48

life so far, I kind of see 3 chapters. You know? In the first chapter,

1:52

I was, well, actually my coach called it seeking fabulous.

1:56

Right? So I was in university in my

2:00

twenties and early thirties and and I,

2:04

I remember just ticking off all the boxes for success. Right?

2:08

Like, I need to do this and this and this and and all of the

2:11

sort of standard operating procedure that you, you are told to

2:15

have and achieve and be and do to be to be successful. And I really

2:18

had a pivotal moment one day when, I just hit a wall. And,

2:22

it was, depression and anxiety and every other

2:26

sort of negative emotion under the sun kind of stopped me in my tracks.

2:30

And, I I don't know if you

2:34

can call it a spiritual awakening or not, but whatever it was, it stopped me

2:37

in my tracks. And, I realized that

2:41

everything that I was looking for, everything that I was

2:45

seeking, all those fabulous things, meant nothing

2:49

and, were were meaningless and worked, weren't

2:53

filling the void that I thought they would fill. Actually, I didn't even know there

2:56

was a void. So so that was the first

3:00

one that I had. That was the kind of the big the big wake up

3:02

call, when your body basically says no. Right?

3:06

And, I'm sure a few of your

3:10

audience members have had that too. I'm sure I'm, yeah, I'm sure people who've had

3:18

I know me personally, it's it's come to a point where,

3:23

like you said, your body tells you, like, enough is enough. Like Yeah. Really

3:27

Yep. Switch whatever you're doing. Whatever whatever you're doing to yourself right

3:31

now is not really healthy for you. And and I

3:34

think a lot of people have reached that point, and it's Yeah.

3:38

Sometimes some people who who don't come

3:42

back from that point and and may continue on

3:46

that path. And Yep. It it really leads to very

3:50

dire consequences. So Oh, absolutely. So what

3:53

what inspired actually, what inspired I wonder what inspired you transition from

3:57

a a a successful Swiss banking career to a life

4:01

of purpose and and fearless living.

4:05

Yeah. Do you know, I I I it it really was

4:09

that awakening, that moment where I cut where I hit a wall. I said I

4:12

can't do this anymore. If I continue doing this, like you say, I'm gonna be

4:16

sick. I'm gonna have a heart attack, or I'm gonna have a stroke, but my

4:19

life is not going to last if I continue to

4:23

pursue those, markers of success. Right?

4:27

And luckily, thankfully for me, my body didn't shut down, and I didn't

4:31

reach that point. But I was pretty close. It was

4:35

really an awakening where I said, I've got to do something more

4:39

impactful, more interesting, more connected to the things I

4:43

liked. And, so I moved away from Switzerland and banking

4:46

and moved back to anyway, at the time, it

4:55

it it was a great place to press the reset button. Anyway, at the time,

4:58

it it was a great place to press the reset button.

5:01

And I and I was in international real estate development for 20 years, and I

5:05

enjoyed it. I had a I had a great time, but I I was still

5:08

feeling as though I I needed something something more. And then in the

5:12

last few years, I really pivoted much more towards coaching and executive

5:16

training and leadership training and things like that using all of that experience

5:20

and, really in the pursuit of serving

5:24

as opposed to in the pursuit of wanting and having and getting more.

5:29

That was my sort of 180 that I did

5:34

involuntarily in the first step when I was in my 30s, and then much more

5:37

voluntarily now that I'm in my 50s. I had kind of another awakening

5:42

moment where I recognized some early childhood trauma and

5:45

dug in and fixed it and and sorted it out. And

5:49

now I'm on this mission, really, to help people rediscover their

5:53

humanity and live in integrity and become fearless.

5:57

And, ultimately that that if you can kind

6:00

of tick off those three boxes, you can become

6:04

free, and I mean free from psychological suffering. And like you said, I think a

6:08

lot of people out there today are really suffering

6:11

because we are living in this sort of crisis of meaning,

6:15

I think, across both in the United States and in

6:19

Canada, certainly in the West, where it's very tough

6:23

out there. Yeah. So could could you give us a

6:26

glimpse into your upcoming book, which is, Fearless

6:30

Crossing the Bridge from Fear to Bliss, and and 8 steps

6:34

of of to fearless living that you that you talk about.

6:38

Yeah. So so I've kind of consolidated

6:42

20 years of getting it right, getting it wrong, doing it, not doing

6:45

it, falling off the deep end, bankruptcy, divorce, you know, everything in

6:49

between, superyachts and private jets. So I've kind of seen it

6:53

all over the last 20 years. And what it's taught me

6:56

is to be fearless. Right? And to say yes and to just

7:00

do it without actually knowing what what the consequences

7:04

might be. So I've I've come up with really 8

7:07

steps, I think. There's probably more. Maybe I I might have

7:11

to expand that. But there for me, there's 8 steps to

7:15

to becoming fearless or to at least point in the direction of

7:18

being fearless. And the first one is to turn off the news,

7:22

right, and to get informed. So that might

7:26

seem like a bit of a, I don't know, a dichotomy that you

7:30

turn off the news and you get informed. But what I mean by that

7:33

is if you can stop absorbing the negativity,

7:38

which is constantly fed to us on social media and mainstream

7:42

news and things like that, You you want to create a

7:45

personal protection barrier around yourself. So turn off the news and get informed. And

7:49

I mean, get informed by getting informed into those things that are

7:53

really, meaningful to yourself. Right? What

7:57

are the things that matter to you, to your family, to the local

8:00

community, to the people around you? So that's really step 1,

8:04

is this personal protection barrier. Be

8:07

informed, understand what it is to know what's going on in the

8:11

world, sense making, understanding geo politics, and things like that, as

8:15

opposed to absorbing just the news, which to me is a little bit like eating

8:18

junk food, right? It never satisfies you.

8:22

You want more, it's not particularly good for you, and you know

8:26

it's wrong, but you keep going back to it. So that's really step 1. The

8:30

second step is listen to yourself. They're they're

8:35

listen to yourself and the way you feel, because our bodies

8:39

are often telling us a story, and we tend not to listen. We

8:43

we are living in this society where,

8:46

you know, you you everything's gotta be in your head and you forget

8:50

about the rest, right, just to kind of to to kinda get through the day.

8:54

So listen to yourself. And there's great, I mean,

8:58

now especially, there's great there's great research out there

9:02

about how important it is to listen to your body. And,

9:06

people like Gabor Mate are making huge inroads in this field

9:09

of really

9:13

discovering what trauma and small t trauma can do over,

9:17

a very long period of time. The 3rd step, I would argue,

9:21

is design the life that you want to have. And by that

9:25

I truly mean going and creating a

9:28

blueprint for your life. And that could come in

9:31

many different forms. It could be journaling, it could be a vision board, it could

9:35

be really any tool or instrument that you

9:38

can use to design the life that

9:42

you want. So often we live in fear

9:46

even a subtle, sort of constant undertone of fear

9:50

because we don't know what's coming next, right? And we fear the

9:54

unknown. So I'm saying, turn off the news,

9:57

listen to what's going on inside of yourself, and

10:01

design the next chapter. Design the destination that you're getting

10:05

to. And I use the blueprint analogy, but you can use all sorts of

10:08

analogies like the analogy

10:12

of sailing or boating

10:17

or circumnavigating. You've got to put in the coordinates to where you're

10:20

going. Often people today, because of everything that's

10:24

going on in the world, feel very full of anxiety and

10:28

angst and fear and pain and suffering. And that's

10:31

because they partially because they don't know what's happening

10:35

next. So after you've turned off the news, created your

10:39

personal protection system, you're listening to

10:42

what's going on in your body, Design the future that you want.

10:46

And then there's so

10:49

often people might say, Oh, well it's easier said than done.'

10:53

But what a lot of people don't do is they may have the vision,

10:58

you might have that motivational poster up on the fridge, but they don't

11:02

understand that you've got to create small baby steps

11:06

along the way. So you can't just have a dream and look at it on

11:09

the wall and not get there or not accomplish it

11:12

or not go towards it. So there's great resources out there, like Mel

11:16

Robbins has done a great podcast on goal setting and the

11:20

science behind goal setting and the best ways, the

11:24

best practices to do that today. So that's really

11:28

step 4 of designing the place that you want to get to and breaking it down

11:36

into small bite sized chunks that you can

11:39

consume and also feel like you're you're,

11:43

sort of heading towards that, that,

11:47

that endgame if you want, that that that destination. Yeah.

11:51

And and and it's it's something like where

11:54

I find, like, when people first started

11:58

learning about The Secret, and they were like, oh, and all that.

12:02

Yep. But what they weren't what they weren't doing were they

12:05

weren't they weren't doing anything. They would just put up whatever it is they

12:09

wanted, but they weren't putting effort into it. They weren't putting

12:12

the energy to it. They just thought that if you had it up on the

12:15

board, it was gonna come true. But if you don't start applying whatever

12:18

whatever you're learning and start That's right.

12:22

Implementing it into into making it happen, it's

12:25

not gonna happen. If you just That's right. Just thinking and

12:29

just stare at it and, oh, yeah, it's gonna no. You have to start

12:33

putting like you said, taking the little steps towards it. You have to take the

12:36

small steps towards Yeah. Getting to where you wanna get to. That's

12:40

right. And the thing with the thing was things like The Secret or

12:43

the Law of Attraction. So

12:47

often you will have that

12:51

goal or that destination or that thing, that place you want to

12:54

to to get to. Right? And that may

12:58

seem all very positive and and, doable and things like

13:02

that. But unfortunately, a lot of us will

13:06

tell ourselves self limiting belief stories all day long.

13:09

Right? So you've got the vision board. Right? You've got this, you

13:13

know, the the whatever you want to to to manifest.

13:18

And you're looking at it. Right? And not only do you not break

13:21

it down into bite sized pieces that you can actually attain and achieve and

13:25

do, but so often we're saying, we're subliminally telling

13:29

ourselves, Oh, you can't do that. You might not be able to do that. You'll

13:32

never make that. You're not good enough. You know, these

13:36

unheard stories of self limiting beliefs get in the way,

13:40

right? So, that's why my next step is

13:43

really start doing daily rituals

13:47

that will keep you on on track. So not only do

13:51

you have to have the vision, Right? You have to

13:55

break it down into those smaller pieces, but then you've got to

13:59

remind yourself every day about achieving those

14:02

objectives, about achieving those goals. Right? So,

14:07

manifestation or or becoming fearless is

14:11

not a, it's not a

14:15

sport that you look at from the sidelines. Right? You've got

14:18

to get in there. And and,

14:23

you know, you've got to do things like meditation or mindfulness

14:27

or yoga or daily practices or journaling. There's

14:31

a 100 techniques. Right? But if you

14:35

if you just have the goal up on the wall and the breakdown

14:39

of the goals and you don't practice

14:43

every day putting into into place this idea of the

14:46

law of attraction, then other things are going to get

14:50

in the way. And when other things and other

14:54

people get in the way, then your manifestation, your destiny,

14:58

your objectives, and your goals become, become diluted.

15:02

Right? And and, the power of manifestation and the power

15:06

of visualization become eroded by those stories,

15:10

right, and by not having those daily rituals to

15:13

to to keep on track. We're we're

15:17

and that's why that personal protection system is so important because we're

15:21

bombarded every day, right, with

15:25

options to not stay on track. Right? Social media

15:29

will get in the way. Friends will get in the way. Family will get in

15:31

the way. Junk food will get in the way. Addiction will get in the way.

15:34

Any other coping mechanism that you want will get in the way. So

15:38

you've you've really got to to have those daily

15:41

rituals. Then the next step is forgetting about what people think

15:47

and forgetting about what others think. And and this may be

15:51

may sound harsh, but this is your

15:55

life. Right? And you have to live it in integrity and authenticity.

15:59

And if you don't, you're simply dampening or

16:02

or suppressing who you really are. And that suppression

16:06

of who you really are takes an enormous amount of energy. It's a has a

16:10

very high cost to it. So forget about what others

16:14

think. I mean, obviously, within the

16:18

boundaries of the law and human decency and respect and things like that, but,

16:22

you've got to chart your own course. And the

16:26

last point, if you want,

16:30

in this process of becoming fearless is to forget what you've learned.

16:35

And by that I don't mean forget about everything you learned in school,

16:39

but but forget about those things, those

16:42

habits, those self limiting beliefs, those those,

16:46

coping mechanisms, or or everything that

16:50

is not serving you. So you

16:53

we grow up and over time, we have a

16:57

whole roster of beliefs that guide

17:01

us in our day to day and our decisions, down

17:05

to the minute, right? You've got

17:08

to do an inventory of those beliefs and

17:12

those narratives and those stories that you've got in your head. What which ones

17:16

are serving you? Which ones are not? Where are they coming from?

17:20

And do I and do I need them anymore? So, that's what I

17:24

mean by forget about forget about what others what forget about what you've

17:27

learned that's not serving you. Forget about all that

17:30

conditioning that is not serving you. Otherwise, you're looking at

17:34

life through these opaque lenses. Right? And

17:38

and you don't see clearly. So I think if you

17:41

can if you can follow those 8 steps,

17:45

and add or subtract as many as you want, that

17:48

is a recipe for fearless living and a fearless life.

17:52

And that's what I'm doing in in in my book. And,

17:57

ultimately, if if, if you can restore

18:01

your your your sense of humanity and your and your

18:05

the way of integrity and living in integrity, becoming

18:08

fearless through those 8 steps, then, to me, that's where you

18:12

can really thrive. Right? That's where you become unlimited and,

18:17

and free from psychological suffering because that nobody deserves to

18:21

be in a place of psychological suffering. We

18:24

we, we're in a moment in time, I think, of

18:28

healing, and everybody deserves that.

18:32

Yeah. I'm I'm rambling on wise. No. No. No. I'm listening.

18:36

So okay. So in your diverse career, right, you've ming you've mingled

18:39

with industry titans. Yep. But you've also faced

18:43

personal challenges. Yep. How do you how do you balance the

18:47

highs and the lows of of Switch to Life?

18:51

I think the the recipe there is is to not have too

18:54

much attachment to that moment in time. Right?

18:58

So so, yeah. Not a lot of attachment and not a lot of judgment. And that comes

19:05

with mindfulness and meditation. And you

19:09

know, what I mean by that

19:13

is you may meet an incredibly

19:16

successful person. If you don't judge that moment and you

19:20

don't add a lot of reactivity to it and

19:24

recognize that it's a moment in time in a in

19:27

a vast lifetime, of

19:31

lessons and learning and experiences. That's all it

19:35

is, I think, is is not adding or not

19:39

not allowing it to be more or less than than

19:43

just an experience and a lesson in life. So and

19:47

I think I think it it also helps by not labeling things. Right?

19:50

Like, you may consider meeting somebody or doing something as

19:54

the most the best thing that's ever happened to you, but you don't know that.

19:57

None of us do. Right? And it's only with

20:01

a much wider, longer time frame that

20:05

you can be more wise and have greater judgment about

20:09

that particular moment. Right? So

20:12

so I really kind of contextualize it in a longer term

20:16

perspective of I'm not gonna add judgment. I'm not gonna be

20:20

overreactive. It's kind of just this more

20:24

peaceful balance, if you like, because both of those moments,

20:28

whether they're great or whether you label them as terrible, they

20:32

will pass. Right? And something new will come along and something else will

20:35

come along to challenge you or or reward you or to

20:39

to to bring you down or bring you up. So it's it's about creating that,

20:42

I think, that resilience of, mindfulness

20:46

and non attachment to, to judgment.

20:50

So so many many people struggle with with

20:53

change and uncertainty. And

20:57

what what like, because we we've talked about it before, and you

21:01

saw it before. People

21:05

are programmed, and some of them are just stuck with

21:08

in that mindset. They're just stuck there. They they don't

21:14

I guess they they for me, when I, like, I had this fear

21:17

when I first wanted to start my pod when I first started wanted to start

21:20

a podcast, it was in 2019. Mhmm. And

21:24

something you mentioned, it was a lot of self talk. It was a

21:28

lot of me telling myself, who's gonna wanna listen to you? Yeah. What are you

21:32

gonna talk about? You don't know. It was just me

21:36

putting fear and doubt into myself until

21:39

until I finally said, you know what?

21:44

One day I'm sitting here with my nephew, and I just decided to

21:48

record. And 7 minutes,

21:51

I it was just a introduction, but I took it.

21:55

And he was like, no. We can't release that. We can't release that. I said,

21:58

no. We have to release it. Like because he was somehow, we had to wait

22:02

till it was perfect. I'm like, we don't then we're gonna wait forever.

22:07

Right. Right. That that that wait till perfect, get out of jail

22:11

free card. Right? Oh, what a way. That

22:15

it's it's it's just such a waste of time, isn't it? That waiting for perfection?

22:19

Yeah. I I, you know, I think

22:23

there's so many examples of people that that entrepreneurs

22:27

and scientists and and explorers that never

22:31

waited for perfect. And yet they changed our world. Right?

22:34

And, you said it perfectly. You said people are in this mindset.

22:39

Right? And that's why I'm what I'm saying is get out of your

22:42

mind, right, and into your heart.

22:47

And and just like you said, the the

22:51

all all the only thing that was holding you back were stories in your head.

22:55

Right? So my question

22:58

is, do you want to listen to them or not? Right?

23:02

Because that's all they are are stories and thoughts, and they will dissipate as

23:05

quickly as they came in. And your mind is the

23:09

only thing that's giving them value or time or energy

23:13

or anything. Right? Yeah. Get out of there.

23:18

Absolutely. Yeah. I know. It it

23:21

was because that's what it was for me. Like, again,

23:25

it's self talk. It's this is some of us,

23:29

when we talk to ourselves, we say some of them we can

23:32

be the most cruelest people to ourselves.

23:36

We'll say some of the most horrible things to ourselves and and not

23:40

realize that we're saying it. Like and

23:44

people don't don't realize that this is really affecting you. This these these

23:48

are why you're going through the struggles that you're going because if you're

23:52

not talking good to yourself, how do you expect anyone else

23:55

to talk to you? Exactly. Exactly.

23:59

And and, you know, there isn't a school of

24:03

life that reminds you to get out of your mind,

24:07

right? Get out of your head. Certainly, more

24:10

Eastern traditions like Buddhism and and things like that

24:14

are that it those things are taught and and and learned.

24:18

But in our modern western culture, you know, you're you're

24:22

just you're just tall told to to, you know, take another antianxiety,

24:26

you know, pill or or have a glass of

24:30

wine or, you know, pick your coping

24:33

mechanism. There's so many out there. Right? But

24:37

but all those are are coping mechanisms to

24:42

to keep you from from the real story. And,

24:46

I think all of us have a pretty cool story to tell and to be

24:49

and to live, so why not live it? You know?

24:52

Yeah. So can can you tell us about your work as a

24:56

board adviser to Alameda Zamana and how it

25:00

aligns with your mission of bringing humanity back to real estate?

25:03

Yeah. No. Boy, that's a good one because, actually,

25:07

that project is one of the most interesting projects I've worked on in

25:12

in in 20 years. And the reason it's interesting is because

25:16

the origin story or the the,

25:20

the heart and the soul of that project is

25:24

on a storied land, a storied place that was given

25:28

to African American slaves that were freed 200 years

25:31

ago. So you have this place of incredible

25:35

history, right, a very storied place, a sacred place,

25:39

some might argue, that has recently been

25:43

sold to, modern African Americans

25:47

out of out of the Americans, I guess, out of out of

25:52

the the the US and what they're what they want to create. And Alma

25:55

means the soul. Right? And Semana is the is the peninsula.

25:59

So they they are creating a per

26:04

a a humanity centric, humanity driven destination,

26:07

right, where it's inclusive, not exclusive.

26:11

Right? It's not gated. It's about community. It's

26:15

about the locals. It's about farm to table

26:19

cuisine. It's about health and well-being and wellness and sports.

26:23

And the the whole promise is more of a movement

26:30

in reclaiming destiny and reclaiming humanity and

26:33

dancing with the universe. So there's not many people out

26:37

there that are doing this kind of work, and Alma de

26:40

Samana is one of them. And, you

26:44

know, it's kind it's it's sort of, you know, they're

26:47

they're working on a film festival. They're working on

26:51

creating a forum, which is the antithesis of the

26:55

World Economic Forum in Davos. And this is it's all about local

26:59

to global. How can local

27:02

work impact the global economy or the global

27:06

world? So to me, those are the kinds of

27:09

projects that I still love to do. You know, that they

27:13

they're human driven. They're human centric. They're they're all about,

27:19

creating a stage, right? A stage for

27:22

people and families and friends to reconnect. And I think in a world post

27:26

pandemic, those kinds of things are very important.

27:31

And, big or small, I mean, I'm doing a real estate project much closer to

27:34

home. It's actually a 3 minute walk away. Nothing on the magnitude of

27:38

the one in the Dominican Republic, but again, it's community based.

27:42

It's community driven. It's about all walks

27:46

of life coming together and living and working in shared spaces.

27:49

Right? Community rooms, community conference rooms, Zoom rooms,

27:54

tool library, bike rooms, car wash, dog wash,

27:58

common barbecue pits, fire pits, all of these things

28:01

that are the antithesis

28:05

to the individualization that has that

28:09

our society has become or not the

28:13

individual the individualization that has permeated our society

28:16

with with the likes of social media, right, where where we're

28:20

all sort of community focused,

28:24

but, in a in a virtual online way.

28:27

So No. Yeah. Bring it bring it back. You know, it's

28:31

it's it's something that's something me and my nephew

28:35

me and my we we call we say we are the village, and we try

28:38

to bring back communities. That's that's our goal is to build a

28:42

community where people can just thrive and be themselves

28:46

and and not have to be be in a place where they're being judged.

28:50

And and and that's and that's what that's what we're about. That's what

28:54

we're thriving for. That's our goal is to build that community. And

28:58

we and it it means so much to us because

29:01

growing up, we've we had we grew up a part of a community.

29:06

Right. And to no longer have that, is just

29:09

it's it's It's kind of essential that we go

29:13

back to that. Don't you think? I mean Yeah. We we're living in a world

29:17

of of, you know, an epidemic of loneliness. Mhmm.

29:20

Right? And, all of the mental health

29:24

and health data out of the United States and Canada for that matter, in the

29:27

UK, other Western nations is alarming.

29:31

Right? And I think it's alarming because we've lost tech

29:35

we've lost that human connection. And that's

29:38

why my mission is all about the first step is

29:42

rediscover your humanity. If we all lived

29:46

and and remembered that we're all humans, 1

29:50

species, 1 lineage, 1 origin story on

29:54

this little rock, right, that's spinning around the galaxy, I

29:58

think things would be different. Right? I think our food would be different. The

30:01

education would be different. Politics might be different.

30:05

The wars might be diff like, I think everything would be different if we

30:09

remembered that there's a human being on the other side over there.

30:13

And, the last 20 years has

30:17

has allowed us to be less human than I think we

30:21

could be or should be. No. Yeah. You're absolutely right.

30:24

Like, we me and my nephew speak on this all the

30:28

time. And for us, it's like,

30:32

growing up, we would go during the summer

30:35

every Sunday from April

30:39

through September. Every Sunday,

30:43

we went we the community had a softball

30:47

team, and we used to go to the park and watch them play and run

30:50

around in the park, barbecue. Yeah.

30:54

4th July, we we would there would be, like,

30:57

2 buses full of people going to a

31:01

lake that was a cup like, maybe an hour and a half away

31:05

Yeah. And barbecuing. And and and it it was it was a different

31:09

time where Yeah. You actually had

31:13

people interacting and and and building and growing,

31:16

and and we've been driven so far away

31:20

from that. Yes. Exactly. And that's why I'm saying let's get it back.

31:24

Bring it back. Bring back humanity. Bring back community. Bring back connection.

31:29

You know, I live in a very small town up here in Canada

31:33

and, there's a magic to this place

31:36

about community and people taking care of each other. And

31:40

if somebody's in need, everybody, you know, goes and helps.

31:44

And it's like nothing I've ever seen before.

31:47

So I'm pretty confident that we are at a

31:51

point in our lives or in

31:55

society in general, it feels like there's an awakening. And

31:58

it feels like people are going, hold on. I want that

32:02

connection again. I need that connection again because and I

32:06

think the statistics on health and mental health and and disease

32:10

are all pointing in that direction of there's something wrong. This

32:14

ain't right. You know? Yeah. We need to we

32:17

need to we need to fix something, and that's why I'm on this

32:21

mission. Awesome. Awesome.

32:25

And it it it really is something

32:28

that that is really important to me and my nephew.

32:34

We we just talk about it all the time, how

32:39

we when, like, families are like, even within

32:43

families that that that for us, we grew up. He's my

32:46

nephew, but he grew up more as my brother because we're close in we're so

32:49

close in age. Mhmm. And

32:54

just the connections that we no longer have.

32:57

Like, his grand his son can't he lives in

33:01

New York, and and families are now so spread apart.

33:05

And Mhmm. It's like we

33:08

won't wait. Our ultimate goal is to

33:12

just build a community where we can Hallelujah. Yeah. Yeah. It's it's

33:20

it's sad. It really is sad to see that

33:23

honestly, I probably know one of my neighbors, and

33:27

that's because we say hi to each other when we see each other. But

33:31

other than that, there's no no no sense of community.

33:36

Well, I mean, look. We we've we've spent the last 20 years

33:40

going online, right, and and and purporting to find community

33:44

there. But, and to some degree it is. I mean, there's there's

33:47

incredible benefits of being able to be connected to people around the world and across

33:51

the world. And, you know, I think I think

33:56

the the the art of podcasting and the art of independent media

34:00

is allowing for that connection. So I'm really positive. I'm very

34:04

optimistic about where things are going, notwithstanding the year that we're going

34:08

to have. I think it it it it might be

34:11

a little bit crazy, for obvious reasons, but,

34:16

I'm optimistic. No. No. It it

34:20

no. Listen. It it's it's funny

34:23

times are coming, but I'm for

34:27

me, it it's I'm I'm more

34:31

focused. I I feel like I'm more focused this year going through

34:38

whatever going through what I went through in 2023

34:44

personally and and and with the podcast. Like,

34:48

it it it was a year where

34:52

I had the ultimate

34:55

high with the success of the podcast and the

34:59

ultimate low with with personal things,

35:02

with my mom being sick and and my aunt passing away

35:06

and and not being and and so

35:11

I I I've come into the to the conclusion now that for 2024,

35:15

yes, the I I I we it

35:19

was it's some

35:23

bad stuff going on with my mom and their and just

35:27

but I gotta look at it as I'm doing something that's helping and impacting people.

35:34

Yeah. And my podcast is is

35:38

is is helping people guide them through whatever struggles

35:42

they're going through, and and I know she's proud of what I'm

35:45

doing. Yeah. And and so to to know that

35:49

I'm continues continuing

35:53

with what I'm doing with my purpose driven life, with wanting

35:56

to help people, and and that's that's why we're

36:00

talking today. Is because we wanna make that

36:04

impact. We want to have That's right. If it's one person

36:07

viewing us or ten people viewing whatever it is,

36:11

we're doing what we're supposed to do. I I'm completely

36:15

there with you. I I I I believe that I

36:19

believe in the ripple effect, Brian, that that, you

36:22

know, you don't have to go around the world and work work for the

36:26

Red Cross. You can make significant

36:30

impact to your family, to your

36:33

community, to the world by starting with yourself and doing, like you said,

36:37

those small things, you know, doing a podcast, 1 person at a time.

36:41

I'm the same as you. I'm like, if we can convert 1

36:44

person at a time to reclaim their humanity and reclaim their destiny

36:48

and live in integrity and be free and be happy

36:52

and fearless, then my job is done. You know?

36:55

Yeah. And, I don't need any recognition. I

36:59

don't need to get an Nobel Peace Prize. But one one person at a

37:03

time, I think, is, that's it. That's how we change the

37:06

world. It it's it's those the one

37:10

comment. There's there's one comment where

37:14

and and and when I get those comments, it's like, okay.

37:18

Alright. So I'm I gotta continue because

37:21

if someone is benefiting from what we're doing and and

37:25

from me doing my podcast and and from my my guests coming

37:29

on and telling their stories and and people hear

37:32

because I've had even friends reach out to me and tell me, thank you.

37:36

Needed to hear that episode, and that was Yeah. Why. And and

37:40

so I think we don't realize how much suffering there is out

37:44

there. We live in

37:47

very, very complex times. It's

37:51

incredibly difficult out there for most people,

37:55

I know there's a lot that's broken, so we we we

38:00

I think we have an an opportunity and obligation to

38:03

to to make it right.

38:07

Yeah. So congratulations. Well done. Thank you.

38:11

Thank you. Let's change the world, my friend.

38:14

Oh, that that is my goal. That is definitely what it is. And and and

38:18

and it's, like you said, the

38:22

Internet and everything has its pros and cons.

38:25

Like, if had we not had we not had this this conversation

38:29

wouldn't been happening. Some of the other some of the other connections that I've

38:33

made worldwide, I've connected with people all over the world.

38:36

I've had conversations with people all over the world. And

38:40

I've yes. We're all different. And

38:44

but after having conversation with so many people,

38:48

you start to realize that we're all the same in a way. We all want

38:51

the same things. And and and to

38:55

be able to speak to someone in in in Hong Kong

38:59

or speak to someone in India, and then after

39:03

having the conversation, you're realizing they're just like

39:06

me. They want to engage. Isn't that wonderful?

39:10

Yeah. I mean, isn't that that's beautiful. Right?

39:14

Mhmm. And and we live in a society and a

39:17

time where there's so much division. Right?

39:21

Mhmm. There even, even with, things like gender

39:25

or like, it's gotten so divisive.

39:29

Yeah. And I I just, I find that so

39:32

destructive. And it's time to it's time to

39:36

unite. I I completely agree because there's more that connects us and bonds us

39:40

than than separates us. Other, you know, and and if anybody wants

39:43

to tell me otherwise, well, I just disagree. Well, that

39:47

that's But that's how they that's how they control the masses is by

39:51

having them that the divided. And Yeah. Yeah.

39:55

In order Together. Yeah. In yeah. When when the

39:59

people find the side to stick together, you you see that shift. But

40:03

Yeah. Until then, people like us gotta continue to put the

40:06

message out there. Absolutely. Well, we're on a mission. Right? So

40:10

next where's your nephew? We need to we should do a podcast with him next

40:13

time. He sounds like an amazing pastor in your life. Listen. My

40:17

nephew, he's he has an amazing story himself.

40:21

He did serve, like, almost 10 years in prison, came

40:25

out, turned his life around, started a business, has has a

40:28

property maintenance company. He's the one who got me into doing my

40:32

podcast. There you go. We we published his we

40:36

he he he's had 2 books published, but the second

40:40

one, we really invested in in in getting someone to

40:44

really go over the book and and really help us.

40:47

And we self published this book, so it it was Yeah.

40:51

Amazing thing with that. And it felt good for me to be

40:55

able to help him Right. Make that happen.

40:58

Yeah. And and so yeah. Now he's,

41:03

he's definitely, has had a major impact

41:07

on on what I'm doing, and and I'm

41:11

I'm just blessed to be able to to have him

41:15

take this journey with me. No. That's amazing. Well, I'd I'd love to meet

41:19

him. We should we should organize another another chat one day, and we can

41:22

see where that goes. Might just have you come on and and and

41:26

and and chop it up on our show. Let's do it

41:30

anytime you want. I'm I'm I'm up for that. I love I love, a lot

41:34

of people. Guest on our show. We've never had a guest on our show. But,

41:37

I can see we could definitely make it happen. Anyway, it's just an idea. Oh, no. We can. We can.

41:45

We can definitely we we wanted we've actually wanted to shift

41:48

the focus of the show more towards

41:54

authenticity and more towards because the show,

41:58

we've been more featured more talking about current

42:01

events and and sports and entertainment and what's going

42:05

on. Right. But, he he really, really wants to get

42:09

more into talking about life and

42:12

talking more about developing

42:16

yourself and and and Right. And that stuff. So

42:20

we can definitely have you going on on may maybe yeah. So yeah. I'm

42:24

gonna talk to him, and, I'll definitely get back to you

42:27

soon. We we planted the seeds, so there you go. No. It's a pretty good

42:31

one. We're definitely gonna make it happen. But but now, Kyle, you

42:35

it's the time of the show where you get the the solo screen,

42:39

plug away, let everybody know where they can find you, everything.

42:42

Oh, yeah. So, I mean, you can find me at colin kingsbill.comoratholehumancoaching.com,

42:49

and I'm also on Instagram and LinkedIn. So, yeah,

42:52

I think if you just type in my name, you can't you really can't miss

42:56

me. So I don't I don't need to promote anything other than my

42:59

mission. The book? Humanity, Integrity, Fearless, and Freedom.

43:03

Say the title of the book once again. Oh, From Fear to Bliss.

43:06

8 Steps. That's it. Alright.

43:10

See? Yeah. Crossing the bridge from sorry. Crossing the bridge from fear to bliss.

43:15

Fearless. I'll put it. It'll it'll it's in the it's in the description, so

43:18

everybody definitely go Thank you. To Amazon or wherever it's

43:22

at and get the book. And, thank you, man. I greatly appreciate

43:26

you being on the show. I appreciate it. Thank you so much.

43:30

Oh, thank you. I I Have I love Whereabouts are whereabouts are

43:33

you in the world? I I do I'm in Pennsylvania. Oh, okay. So, gosh, we're

43:37

close by. Right? I'm in the I'm in the mountains in in, Pennsylvania.

43:41

Oh, beautiful. I'm I'm just up the coast then in Nova Scotia. We're not far

43:45

from each other. Yeah. No. I moved from Brooklyn, New

43:48

York. Lived in I now live in the mountains.

43:53

It's just cool. Beautiful. But I need to get away from the

43:57

the the rest of the the Yeah. The I

44:01

hear you. Just the the craziness

44:04

of the city. So Yeah. It was I hear you. I live in a

44:08

town with a 1000 people, so I'm right there with you. I, I appreciate

44:12

it. So really do. Oh, yeah. It's it's so

44:16

much more quiet. And and I I I

44:20

love the fact that it I don't have

44:23

to hear sirens all day. Yeah. And and don't have to

44:27

hear people all day, and it's Yeah. It's a good thing. Yes. Nice and

44:31

peaceful. But, thank you. Friend. I really appreciate it.

44:35

Let thank you for having me on, and, and we'll speak soon and stay

44:39

in touch. Yes. Yes. Don't don't leave this shit. Nope.

44:42

Sorry. Just don't leave this shit. Let me close out the show and, I'm

44:46

not going to. We'll we'll exchange a couple of words after

44:50

the show, and then then I'll let you know. But

44:53

thank you once again, man. I really appreciate it getting the show. Good to chat

44:56

with you. Alright.

45:01

Awesome show, everybody. Everybody who's tuned in

45:05

live, greatly appreciate it. If you catch the replay,

45:09

thank you for tuning in. It's been a a a

45:12

great episode. As always, big shout out to my real

45:16

wise fam, Papi j, Brandi j. Love you guys. Big

45:20

shout out to the boss lady. Appreciate and love you, baby.

45:24

And as always, a oh, far I forget. Shout out to

45:28

big shout out to Colin for coming through and sharing his story and

45:32

and, oh, man, wonderful conversation. And

45:35

as always, a big, big shout out to all the essential workers out there. God

45:39

bless you. Be safe. You You know how your boy, Wise, does it. Peace