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Hi everybody , welcome to another episode
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of Still Roses podcast . This podcast was created for
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women , by women . I'm coming
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to you live today from week two of
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summer break . You know , week
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one was like a novelty and
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I've been actually
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like trying to organize these episodes around thought starters
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, like things that I see that I think might be helpful
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or you know good , good things for us all
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to be thinking about . But
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this episode is not that . This
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episode is one
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that I just want to share because I
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again suspect we were all in
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this boat . So this
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is like my mental health mom check in with
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you guys and apparently
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my mental health is affecting my physical health . And
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I woke up week
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one as I started to say summer break was
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perfectly fine and
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again , like it's like the novelty of , it seemed like
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it was all good For some reason
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. Week two , now that the kids are in day camp
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for four hours from eight to 12
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, they're in day camp Now , initially
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this felt like oh my gosh , eight to 12
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. Like that's four hours of time
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that you know they'll be out of the house . This will be good
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. Yes , it's good
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. I'm not complaining , but I am
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complaining because
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dragging them out of the
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house in the morning is painful
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and annoying , it's like torture
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and
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I literally this is the third day of day
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camp and I'm already like maybe they should just
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let it go , kind of thing I'm
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not going to because they're doing educational
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things with them . So I'm going to gut it out , regardless
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of how insane it makes me . But Monday
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was tough for me personally because
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, again , like the kids are home , like it's disrupting
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my schedule . I no longer have seven
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hours of concentrated focus time during
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the day . That's been whittled down
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to maybe three . And now
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I'm doing that painful juggle in the afternoon
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of like yes , they're here and yes , I'm working
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, but I can't really get
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that focus time that I very critically
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need . So it's starting to bleed into
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my evening and
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me personally , I'm like I don't want to work in
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the evenings , like this sucks , like I got to
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hop back on my computer . But on
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the same note , I'm like I know I kind of have to . I don't really have
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a choice . Like if they're taking up my afternoon and
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my daytime hours , I'm going to have to suck it up and work
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at night to make up that time . So there
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is a balance and
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I know that . I'm fortunate that I can
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even make that call . I know very
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deeply what it is that
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when you know you don't have that flexibility
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, and I do know that this
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is an incredibly amazing
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privilege to have . So I don't want anyone
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to ever think that you know , I'm not grateful
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. I am incredibly grateful for
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being able to work at home and be able to make that
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call to say , like , all right , well , I'll work at night
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if I can't work during the day , but
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that doesn't mean it's not
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hard . I have family members that only have
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one child or two children . I think
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I have the most . Now that I think about
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it , I think I'm the only one with three on my side of the
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family . I
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know people that don't have to work
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. They're stay-at-home moms . I know the gamut of different
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kinds of women out there that are also
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dealing with having kids and
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there is no
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easy scenario , and
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I want to make sure that everybody kind of understands
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that , because I've had people say to me oh well , you have three
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, I'm not going to complain to you . No , you
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can complain to me . Ish is hard . I'm just trying to watch my mouth . Because I've had people
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say to me oh well , you have three , like I'm not going to complain to you . No , you can complain to me . Like ish is hard . I'm just trying to watch
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my mouth because I know kids are probably around , but
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it's just hard . It's
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hard Like it doesn't matter if you have only
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one , it doesn't matter if you only have an infant
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. It's hard making that adjustment
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and and kind of changing
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everything about yourself because now you have a child
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and you're trying to make that juggle work . It's
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hard . It's hard for everybody . I don't care
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who you are , even if you have nannies
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, like you still went through a
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physical trauma in your body by having kids
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. There is no like , oh well , she
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shouldn't be complaining , she should keep her mouth shut , absolutely
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freaking . Not . We can all complain here
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. Everyone can complain . You have
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a right to complain . You have a right to your feelings
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. I don't care how people
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try to gaslight you . I don't care about
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people trying to tell you like you know , not acknowledging
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your feelings and telling you like , oh well , you have
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it easy because you don't have to do this BS
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. I call BS on all of it because it's a struggle
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for everybody . So I just want to put that out there . Like
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having kids is tough . It
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doesn't matter if you have one kid , six
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kids , it's hard , all
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around it's hard . So there
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is not a moment where you're going to hear
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me be like , well , I have the toughest , absolutely
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not . I know that I
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have some things easier
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than other women . I know that
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I have something harder than other women
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. I know that , like some of my struggles
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are self inflicted because I volunteer
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and I'm podcasting and , you
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know , trying to run my own company on the side while also
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working full time , like I know some of that's
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me . But again , like
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it's hard , it is hard . So
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me personally , second
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week of summer , kids are home . I love
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them so much , I want them around all the time , but
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at the same time I don't want them around
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at all and I want them to be quiet all the
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time . So there's this constant , constant inner
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conflict . I think some of you might be chuckling
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right now because , literally
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, that is it right . Like that is
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the constant mom struggle . I love you so much
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, I want you around all the time . I just
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want to hang out with you and have fun , but also
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, could you please just
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be quiet and just sit next to me
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quietly , nicely ? You know , like it's
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like a constant battle , it's
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like the battle of wills in there with me . So I don't think I
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realized how stressed out I was about
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work , juggling work and the kids
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. And I woke up yesterday morning , today's
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Wednesday . I woke up Tuesday morning
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unable to
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turn my head . My
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neck is all locked up down into
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my back , which is interesting and
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the doctor said you have to lay flat on your back on the floor for 15 minute intervals
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throughout the day with an ice pack on your neck and a rolled
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towel under your neck . And
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I said okay , doc , I'll do my best here
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. And so yesterday I tried
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that out , but then I also still had to work , so I had to
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stop after 15 minutes and work . And
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it's just comical to me because my
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husband he's
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trying to just remind me but he's like , oh , don't
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forget , make sure you put ice your neck and you take
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a minute to lay down today I don't know when
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you think that that's good's
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. Like my biggest struggle , like when am I supposed to be doing
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these things ? Unfortunately for
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me , like I don't have a choice , I am going to have to take little breaks
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today to ease the tension
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in my neck , because it is actually quite painful . My
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little guy last night . Well , my big little guy
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last night said to me he was like , mommy
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, you've been complaining , like you said your neck is hurting
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, but like you're not like crying
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or screaming or anything like that
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, like any , like basically saying you're not obvious
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in obvious pain . And
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it was
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an interesting moment for me because
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I basically said to him I was like I'm not in obvious
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pain because I have to take care of all
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of you . I was like , however
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, I can cry right now on the spot if you want
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me to , because I am in a lot of pain
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. And you
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know , he kind of noodled on it he's my thinker , he's
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my little attorney and he just said
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he was like , okay , mommy , he was like just
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just go lay down . And I
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mean he still continued to bother me for hugs and kisses
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and everything like that after I laid down , which got a
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little , a little bit much after a while . But
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yeah , it was one of
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those teachable moments for my kids to say , like
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just because you can't see it doesn't mean it's
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not there . So
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it's Wednesday , I'm
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still in quite a bit of pain , but I'm still going to
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have to do what I need to do today because you know , that
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is mom life , right
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. So there's that I
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actually had again
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thought starters and things that I wanted
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to reflect on with all of you . But I just wanted to share
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this because I think
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that , like again , we're all going
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through this struggle here together
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and there's going to be lots of moments
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where , like it feels really overwhelming , like I
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, my anxiety was through the roof yesterday
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. I was wildly overwhelmed
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with just everything , feeling
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like it was all crashing down on me , which
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it usually is . I have a right to
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be overwhelmed , um , and
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it was just . I was just . I was
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trying really hard to keep it under control
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, but it was like you could almost see
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the cracks like coming to the surface all
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day yesterday , and I was , I was trying so hard , but
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it was just all day yesterday that it was just
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cracks surfacing where I
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was just getting overwhelmed and frustrated
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and stressed out . And then the
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depression creeps in , which is
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always interesting , and
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then I have the whole
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back and forth in my head of Jenny
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, this isn't you , this is hormones , or
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this is anxiety , this
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isn't you . Make sure that you try to balance
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yourself out , that sort of thing . So
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it's just a constant , constant thing there
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, and I think we all are
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on this journey and I think that we all have
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this battle in ourselves where , no
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, you're not going to be happy all the time , like , how can you
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? Like you know there's going to be some sense
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of peace for most of the time , but you're not gonna
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be happy like 100% of the time . There's gonna be moments
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of frustration or anything , and you got to just
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make your peace with that . So
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, in any case , I am surviving , two weeks
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in , I
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am trying to give myself some grace , to
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just continue
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on this path and
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, you know , making the most
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out of the summer , even though I
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am getting stressed out , having the kids home . But
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yeah , you know , you just you work through
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it to the best of your ability and you
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just hope and pray and keep
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plugging along , because what else are you going to do ? If
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any of you are also going
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through this , I mean you can . There is a
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great feature now on the podcast where you are
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able to message me directly , so
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feel free to message away and let
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me know your thoughts , and
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I hope all of you are doing well
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and having some fun . Don't
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forget to prioritize fun during the summertime
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, because for a long time I didn't , and it's time
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. I
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appreciate all of you listening . If you
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have a couple minutes , if
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you could leave me a review , I greatly appreciate
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it every for every review that the podcast
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gets . It actually
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helps to introduce the podcast to other folks
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. So the more reviews I have , the more it gets
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to be on other
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people's feeds it'll it'll kind of push them along
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to say like , hey , there's a , there's some great content
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here . So I appreciate all
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you doing that . Feel free to message me directly
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and you know we'll just keep hanging in there together
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. Thank you so much , all of you , and
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I hope you all have a great rest of your week . Take
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care , we'll see you on the next one .
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