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I sit with you? Yes, you can sit
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with us. It's Dom. And Ella. You
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may know us from Finding Love on reality TV and
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by that we mean with each other. Two
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best friends figuring out life. Chatting all
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things reality TV, because I mean how
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could we not? And all things in
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between. Sex, relationships, dating
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and navigating being a female
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in the world. Unfiltered
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and fabulous advice from your two besties. Like,
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chin hairs? Because that's some of the thoughts that I
1:18
get of aging. One day I might not
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feel like two. Wow,
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brain's cooked. It always seems as
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though by the time it's
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like we get to this part of the week
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and our weeks start and end according to
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the podcast. Don't you feel that? Like, the start of the
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week isn't really the start. It feels like the end because
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when we're recording it feels like the end of the week.
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I actually thought it was Monday then. Welcome
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back to another episode of Sit With Us, guys. We didn't
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intro you, but yes, hello, you are there. You are listening.
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We do love you. We
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because that's where we'd like to talk shit. We
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love having you on the Insta. along. Fellas
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30th birthday, the big three
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zero. Yeah, shit. Like big
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time. You know what's so
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weird and I can't remember
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if we have said this before but
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it's like you really
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do have weird thoughts when you're
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turning 30. What are some of those weird
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thoughts, Dal? Like
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chin hairs? Because that's some of the
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thoughts that I get as of aging.
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No, because my mum gets chin hairs.
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My mum does too. If that is
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what's coming for me, I want out
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of it. Yeah. Like laser me or
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something. Yeah, look chin hairs is not
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my concern. It happens. Death is my
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concern. Like I... Oh
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that old thing. That old thing. You
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know, like I got stuck in this
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fucking like dark rabbit
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hole. The more I was thinking about turning 30
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and then I'm like oh my god I've been here for 30 years on
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earth of my life. I've got more than
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that to go, Dal. I know but I'm
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just like wow it's gone so quickly and
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then like the next the next milestone is
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your 40s. Like that's your next big celebration
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and then it's like wow like
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by the time I'm 40 you know I'll
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probably have kids by then and like you
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know. Which is 10 years and 10 years
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doesn't feel like that long in the grand
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scheme of things but so much in our
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lives is gonna happen. I feel like the
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30s are great. 30s are
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great. Look, your 20s are for
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making mistakes. 20s are for having fun. Oh
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and also heartbreak, mistakes, hangovers, experimenting,
3:30
trying everything in your 20s so
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that you can go into your
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30s knowing what you
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want, who you are and maybe what direction you're
3:38
going. My 30s are great. Like I'm not living
3:41
at home with my parents. I actually have money
3:43
in my bank account and
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I'm you know I look great and
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I feel great. I don't miss my
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20s but it's that
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scary feeling of oh my god
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time is passing and
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you're just getting older and you know
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it's out of your control. And I
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used to get really bad anxiety when I
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was young about death. Like I used to
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lie in bed all night thinking about dying.
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Sorry that this is quite morbid you guys.
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And then I like wouldn't breathe properly. I'd
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be like like
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I would give myself anxiety attacks because I'd
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be thinking about death so much. And
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then I bought out my mum, I think I was maybe like
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17 or something and I was like mum,
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I keep thinking about dying. And she's like you get
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over it because you got to accept the fact that
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it happened. And that is the cycle of life and
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you've just got to accept it and stop stressing
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about it. Do you think for you maybe it's
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a thought because of your dad passing and at
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a young age and there being some you
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know sadness and trauma from that you know
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what I mean? Like even though you know
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unfortunately you didn't know your dad but you
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know the story and you know it affected your mum
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and your brother and your boy family. So
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potentially. Potentially it's just a weird
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thought. I think like knowing
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that the only place
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you go now is older and
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you don't get to go back
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there and the
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only place you're going is like saggier
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skin and like less athletic and
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and that it's a bit of a wig
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out. There's a saying and this always wigs
5:17
me out. Yeah. Today is the oldest you've
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ever been and the youngest you'll ever be.
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Weird. Yeah.
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Today
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is the youngest you'll ever be and it's
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the oldest you've ever been. Isn't
5:30
that a wig out? Yeah. Like whoa!
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It is like it's a weird feeling
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obviously I'm blessed and grateful to even
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have made it to 30 because people
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in life try and get to hashtag
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blessed. Yeah like that's amazing but yeah
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it's it's a weird feeling
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I think. I feel it
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in my fingers. I feel
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it in my toe. I
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feel it in my toe
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and one day I might not. And
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that's when you're gonna be in the
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ground. Anyway, like
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yeah. So it's been a couple of
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few big weeks. I haven't baked my hot cross buns
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yet. That's right. At least you got your ingredients now.
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She's got yeast. I got yeast. So that's the main
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thing, okay guys? I don't know how I feel about
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it. I went home and literally
6:18
ordered her Uber Eats, all the ingredients, and
6:20
the yeast. And I said, look, even if
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you're not gonna make the hot cross buns,
6:25
at least just experiment with the yeast. Put
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a tuck in table spoon, either the yeast.
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Put a cup of warm water and watch
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it grow. I did bake
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another banana bread though. Great. And you're loving
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it? Because Guy likes it. Aw, cute! And
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he likes banana bread. But who doesn't love
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banana bread? I know. The first
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one I made, I just followed
6:44
the instructions, the ingredients. Yeah. And
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it was a lot of sugar. How
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much sugar in there was it? I think like
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170 grams. Babe, that's
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not a lot. Oh. Is
6:56
that? 170 grams. I don't even
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think that's like a cup. No? It's
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like 175 grams. If I
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was to do a recipe of banana bread, I
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would do about one and a half cups of
7:08
self-raising flour. I would do that. I'd do half
7:10
a cup of sugar, caster sugar. And
7:13
I would do probably two eggs, and I would
7:15
do half a cup of oil. This
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is a recipe I've just made up in my head,
7:20
because that's what I do. I just got consistency-wise. I
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don't ever follow a recipe. Well... Because I'm
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fucking a bit chaotic like that. Yeah, but
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you know how to cook this. Me, a
7:29
girl, I wouldn't know where
7:31
to start, okay? Like I got home
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with no flour. Yeah, that, I
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love that. So that actually killed me.
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Made another fucking banana bread. Tried to wing it, you
7:40
know, cool me. Oh, yep, done it once, can do
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it again. So what happened to the banana bread? So
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I didn't put any sugar in it. Oh.
7:47
Because Guy likes it with no sugar. Oh,
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these health and fitness people, I can't deal with
7:52
it. Go and do another ice bath. I know.
7:55
And just go and eat your sugar. So
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I put no fucking sugar in it, okay? way
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too much flour in it. What
8:03
the fuck? It was in the oven and I'm
8:05
like seeing it raise and I'm like babe
8:08
can you check the binar breads okay because I
8:10
feel like I might have done something wrong. I
8:12
think I put too much baking soda in it
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as well and if you put too much of
8:17
that you know it tastes shit. It tasted like
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medicine. It tasted like not salty. It's a
8:22
weed. It did not taste like banana bread.
8:24
So it was inedible, went straight in the
8:26
bin. Well look I think he ate it.
8:31
And I threw in some like mixed nuts. I
8:33
threw in some chucky nib things. I just
8:35
kept throwing shit in. You want to give
8:37
a protein powder in there? Carrot cake. Yeah
8:39
I do want to get better. Carrot cake
8:41
with walnuts. You'll love it. You can even
8:43
do a protein cream cheese frosting
8:46
on there. I could send you through a
8:48
recipe for that. Double. Yeah look I'm not
8:50
very uh creative
8:52
and intuitive in the kitchen. Like I'm just
8:55
not. I don't know. I put a bit
8:57
of vanilla essence in it. That's great. Wow.
8:59
I put vanilla essence in it and I just
9:01
like poured it in
9:03
and just didn't measure it. I
9:05
just like poured it in. I was
9:08
like yeah this is it. You're overdoing it
9:10
with the baking soda back to me. I'm
9:13
mid baking and I'm like babe do you know how
9:15
to test that the banana breads cooked? Like you just
9:17
got to, this is what I read online. You can
9:19
stick a knife in it and if it's so sticky
9:21
then it's not ready. And he's looking at me like
9:23
are you joking me babe? Of course I know how
9:25
to do that. And I'm like oh
9:27
well you know on Google just said to do
9:30
it. Like I don't bake. Or you know another
9:32
way you can do is tap the center and
9:34
if it springs back to you it's ready. And
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if it doesn't come back up it's not ready.
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Yeah there's another little tip for you. Okay.
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Another little baking tip from Dom.
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Baking tip. Dom's double D tips.
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Well look I do want to get better
9:49
at it. You will babe. I actually thoroughly
9:52
have enjoyed it. I also put some of
9:54
the sultanas in it. See and it's great.
9:56
Like you can be creative
9:58
and it's It's yummy as
10:00
well. It just tasted like fucking paint on
10:02
medicine or something because there was no sugar.
10:05
It's no good especially when you don't balance
10:07
out the like if you're doing plain
10:09
flour and you're putting your baking powder and you're baking
10:11
soda and there's no sugar it's it's not going to
10:13
be good for you and especially if you overdo it
10:15
with the baking soda and baking powder. And it was
10:17
very dry. It has a very hard taste. When I
10:19
was like mixing it all up together. Did you get
10:21
any oil or any fats in there? No. I
10:24
didn't. Oh well that's why though. I'm
10:26
like mixing it and it's all so dry so I just cracked
10:28
another egg. I just added egg to it.
10:30
Okay well you got your fat from the egg. And then it softened up
10:32
a bit but then it looked a bit too watery so that's why I
10:34
added more flour and. You'd rather it
10:37
be more watery. How watery was
10:39
it? Well I don't know it just
10:41
it was too. Gluggy. Yeah and then that's
10:43
why I put more flour in it and
10:45
then I'm like fuck this I'm out of
10:47
here just chuck it in the oven. I
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hope you guys are really enjoying our baking
10:51
updates and look I hope you guys are
10:53
baking too and if anything I really hope
10:55
that we've encouraged you or inspired you actually
10:58
to get in the kitchen start baking get
11:00
your fucking pots and pans out mash some
11:02
bananas crack a few eggs. It's actually very
11:04
therapeutic. Yeah it is. I
11:06
think I need to get more into it. And
11:08
you baked? Yeah I baked. I baked a
11:10
lot of Croatian and Italian cakes which my
11:12
family loved and unfortunately we
11:15
lost my great auntie and my
11:17
auntie was the one that always baked
11:19
the Croatian cake because she's from the
11:21
Croatian side of my family and she'd
11:24
always inspired me with her baking
11:26
and just the things that she would do
11:28
in the kitchen and I set
11:30
aside one day on the Thursday I was like
11:32
this is my baking day and I made an
11:35
odenyasha which I don't know hopefully we've got some
11:37
Croatian listeners here and I
11:39
made an onyasha and I made some of
11:42
the plum jam biscuits that she was famous for
11:45
and when I got to the Good Friday lunch
11:48
my uncle couldn't believe it like all my cousins were like
11:50
oh my god this is taking me back to my childhood
11:52
and it was just so nice and even my Nonna was
11:54
just so impressed and it was really nice and it's like
11:56
I just have that inner thing where I like feeding people
11:58
but it was just so nice. But more
12:01
than that, I think it's just like, food
12:03
brings memories as well. But also
12:05
food brings people together. It does.
12:08
And that's why I love about it. Yeah,
12:10
like who doesn't love to just sit around
12:12
eating yummy food and expressing how delicious it
12:14
is? We caught up with Jack Courtney and
12:17
Baby Penelope. Aww. Ella severely over-ordered. She ordered
12:19
about fuck of four pizzas to the table
12:21
when we'd had entrees. It was ridiculous. So
12:23
I got two pizzas in my fridge back
12:25
home. I just don't want anyone to not
12:27
be hungry, you know? Which is great. She's
12:31
a wog at heart. Yes. So we love
12:33
that. But we caught up with Jack and Courtney, which was
12:35
so lovely. They're just killing it
12:37
being parents. They honestly
12:39
are just really taking it
12:41
with their stride. Yeah.
12:43
Like going with the flow, not going against
12:45
it. Not like, you know,
12:47
and I just, I think it's so
12:50
refreshing to see two people so in
12:52
love. And they're young. Oh my
12:54
God, they're so. They're young. Like
12:56
they're young parents to do, and they're just doing
12:58
it. They're just doing it. And when I posted
13:00
that we were catching up on Instagram, people were
13:03
just so happy, like saying like, oh my God,
13:05
you guys are all still friends. And like you
13:07
and Jack are cool. And I'm like, yeah. I
13:09
mean, of course. Of course we are. I mean,
13:12
yeah, we didn't work out, but we have so much
13:15
love and respect for each other. And I just love
13:17
him and Courtney together so much. And
13:19
I love little Penelope. Like we're aunties now.
13:21
We love her. We're going to protect her.
13:23
And that's it. Yeah, I know.
13:27
And it makes me so happy. It's so
13:29
nice that we can still be friends with Jack. I
13:31
mean, I know. Yeah. Because they
13:33
really do take us back to those days.
13:35
Exactly. But we are so happy for
13:38
Jack and Courtney. Yeah, it's going to be a massive
13:40
week. But we've come to that time of the episode
13:42
where we talk about what's trending. Gee,
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you're trending like crazy. That
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is so attached. Hmm,
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what's trending? Ooh. Emma,
13:53
what is trending for you this week? Dun,
13:55
dun, dun. I don't even know if this
13:57
is like a trending thing. I mean, I
13:59
guess. Yeah, it's a big part of your life. Yeah,
14:01
so The past
14:04
sort of like four days. I
14:06
guess I've been really deep in
14:08
researching coming off the
14:10
pill coming off the
14:12
hormonal Contraception that I
14:14
have been on for 15 years Like
14:18
wow, this is huge like this
14:20
is huge shit. I've never had a break. I've been
14:22
on the pill since I was 15 It's
14:26
so hectic. Yeah, like I'm actually
14:29
scared I'm actually
14:31
quite nervous. I'm a bit of a control freak
14:34
I love being in control of and knowing where
14:36
my period is coming and my fake
14:38
period and just like being a big period
14:40
I love it. So I am
14:43
really nervous and it's gonna be
14:45
happening I mean as soon as the party
14:48
as soon as the birthday's over as soon as I've turned basically
14:50
30 I'm going to be I
14:52
guess I just stopped taking it one day Which
14:55
is just gonna be so weird Cuz
14:57
like if it's just it's gonna be very freeing for
14:59
you And I know like Courtney was saying that last
15:01
night. Yeah, like, you know, you're gonna just feel Free
15:05
you're gonna feel clear and all
15:07
of these things and I really truly believe that
15:09
because I know even for myself Not
15:12
even being on the pill but on
15:14
you know antidepressants. Yeah lower it going
15:16
off the antidepressants even that 50 milligrams
15:19
I feel a shift in myself and I do
15:21
feel like I've got more control back And
15:24
you know, even though these medications that we take on the
15:26
daily basis that we need and you know for our lives
15:28
and whatever You know at the
15:30
end of the day, I know it's still a
15:33
different chemical in your body Yeah,
15:35
and I've never used like a period
15:38
app before I've never tracked my period
15:40
Obviously, I've never had to last gonna
15:42
change So I've downloaded the app below
15:44
because that was like the first one
15:47
that kept coming up and I've got
15:49
flow Right, so I've been like
15:51
logging my stuff there, but at the same
15:54
time I'm like wait, this is all fake
15:57
So why am I logging in but it's so
15:59
good though to eat even know what you were
16:01
like. Yeah. Right? So then you've got something to
16:03
compare it to. Because when
16:05
you take, say, for instance, a
16:07
journal or something to the doctor and be like, OK, these
16:09
are the symptoms I've had. This is all of that. It's
16:12
really important to be able to compare
16:14
to something else. And
16:17
on the flow app, because I've had it now for
16:19
maybe about four or five cycles since my
16:22
IUD has been removed,
16:24
each period you get, it gets
16:27
smarter and smarter with your
16:29
cycle, which is amazing.
16:31
Because what I do, especially leading
16:33
up to my period and after my period,
16:36
the more symptoms I have, the more I
16:38
log. And I feel like each period I'm
16:40
learning better about what my symptoms are and
16:42
when I'm going to ovulate, what I'm going
16:44
to feel when I ovulate, and all of
16:46
these things. It's really,
16:48
really interesting. And I feel like,
16:50
keep logging, keep logging until
16:52
you go off the pill. And then when you
16:54
are actually off it, log the fuck out of
16:56
every day of what you're feeling, what your symptoms
16:59
are. How are your bowel movements? What
17:01
are your emotions today? How is your skin? How is
17:03
your stamina? All
17:06
of these things, because it all makes sense in the
17:08
grand scheme of things. So yeah. Well,
17:10
I'm into the app. It's
17:12
actually quite fun. I actually
17:14
quite enjoy logging the daily chickens
17:17
and stuff like that. So we'll
17:19
see. You guys will know about it when I
17:21
have come off it. But I think I'm going to have to wait until,
17:24
because I think I read somewhere that
17:27
you shouldn't come off the pill until
17:29
you're actually due for a period.
17:32
Interesting. Yeah. So stop taking it when
17:35
you've got the
17:37
sugar pill. Yeah. At that point. Because I've
17:39
just had my fake period about a week
17:41
ago. So I think I need
17:43
to wait a few more weeks, and
17:45
then I will stop taking it. Yeah.
17:47
Interesting. Yeah. Just so that doesn't get
17:50
a bit confuzzled. Because if I just had my period, then I
17:52
stop taking it next week, and then my period comes again. It
17:54
might just be like, ah. Yeah. Yeah. That's
17:56
so true. Yeah. So I will wait a few more
17:58
weeks, but you guys will know. about it and
18:00
babe what's trending for you? Oh look what's
18:02
trending for me? I feel
18:04
as though I've been kind of
18:07
like a bit mia
18:09
in the like grand life
18:12
scheme of things. Okay. Things I've got
18:14
like a lot going on. Yeah. But
18:16
I'm really enjoying my baking and I'm
18:18
really loving that and you've inspired me
18:20
so that's great. Oh that makes me
18:23
happy. I'm really enjoying being
18:25
creative in the kitchen and I know
18:27
I'm not freaking Gordon Ramsay. I'm
18:29
not the world's best chef. Well you are to me. For
18:32
me it is this like thing that brings
18:34
me together like on the weekend when I
18:36
was at my parents' Easter. I cooked
18:39
the whole family and I made like an amazing meal
18:41
and just like seeing like
18:43
how happy it made like my mom and
18:45
my dad and my brother like all sitting
18:47
there and having a meal together. It made
18:49
me like really emotional. Yeah. I don't know
18:51
why that makes me quite like it's just really
18:53
nice. Yeah it is nice though. You know?
18:55
Yeah like I remember when my mom is
18:58
the queen in the kitchen and she used to always put
19:00
together every meal of the night and I
19:02
mean I can't even I can't do that if I
19:04
try it. I know how to make a salad that's
19:06
about it. I know it's very special. I just think
19:09
in the grand scheme of things and life right? Those
19:11
are the moments that I'm actually going to remember. It's
19:13
not like the big you know
19:15
crazy like events and shit. Yeah. It's the moments
19:17
where you know everyone's together and yeah
19:19
you know we've had a busy day doing fencing on
19:21
the farm and we're all coming together and we're having
19:24
a glass of wine and we're just sitting there and
19:26
they're the moments that I'm going to carry. It's the
19:28
simple things in life. And it really is. It's the
19:30
simple things in life man. That's the shit that counts.
19:32
That's the stuff that we pass down to our kids
19:35
and we say to them. Exactly what we used to
19:37
do. Like the things that actually
19:39
mean the most. And the older I'm getting the
19:41
more I realize that too. You know like my
19:43
parents are getting older. My nonna's getting older. Like
19:45
my nonna's 80 this year and she's
19:47
going back to Italy for the first time since
19:50
she was 12 years old. Wow. Like this is
19:52
wild to me guys. Like and I'm so excited
19:54
for her. Like I just can't wait for her
19:56
to see that you know where
19:59
she was born in Italy. and to go back and see
20:01
all her family and friends that are still there.
20:03
And it's going to be so emotional. Yeah, it
20:05
will be. You know, that's what
20:07
life's about. That's what like, really, it's,
20:10
yeah. So I guess for me,
20:12
it's like the little things. That's
20:14
what's trending for me. It's the little things that's not the
20:17
big grand gestures of
20:19
whatever in life. It always comes down
20:21
to the little things. And I guess
20:23
I'm really appreciative of that now more
20:26
than ever. I think as my life gets
20:28
more fast paced and busier and crazier and
20:30
hectic and there's more people in my life,
20:33
the more I crave for like the
20:35
really simple, calm shit. The
20:37
real shit. You know? The real, real
20:39
stuff. So that's a really nice what's
20:41
trending actually. Yeah, that got me in
20:43
the feels. That got me in the
20:45
feels. In the feels. The thing.
20:48
Oh. Oh. Oh.
20:50
Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh.
20:54
Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh.
20:57
Oh. Oh. We're onto our
21:00
main topic now. Yeah. And
21:02
I've really. It's a really interesting
21:04
topic guys. We are talking about
21:07
the pick me girl. Who is
21:09
she? Where did
21:11
this come from? How did it start?
21:14
And also the more I've researched into what
21:16
the pick me girl is, I feel
21:18
as though. And I can't wait to
21:20
hear your guys' opinions. Is
21:22
this just another way of tearing
21:25
women down? Okay. First
21:28
and foremost, let's read what the
21:30
definition. Urban dictionary, of course. Of
21:32
what a pick me girl is. Because I mean, if
21:34
I'm gonna ask my mum what a pick me girl
21:36
is, do you think she's gonna know? If I'm gonna
21:38
ask my mum, no, no, pick me girl. I mean,
21:40
look at first I was like, what's a pick me
21:43
girl? I didn't even really know. I've heard this term
21:45
thrown around all the time. I've never heard
21:47
it before. I feel like now that
21:49
you're aware of it, you'll hear it. Probably. So
21:53
a pick me girl is
21:55
a girl who seeks male
21:57
validation by indirectly or directly
21:59
insinuating. that she is not like the other
22:01
girls. See
22:03
what I mean here by saying like, is this just
22:05
another way of putting women down? Someone
22:08
who sets themselves apart
22:10
from and trivialises classically
22:12
female hobbies or behaviours
22:14
as frivolous or vapid.
22:16
Like, yeah, I don't need to
22:19
go to the nail salon every week or like, I
22:21
don't need, like, it doesn't take
22:23
me an hour to get ready. Like, is
22:25
that a pick me girl? I'm
22:27
assuming that's the vibe I'm getting.
22:30
For instance, they might say to guys
22:32
that other girls are too
22:34
much drama. So I'm getting
22:37
that vibe, right? So it's like, oh
22:39
God, yeah, she's a lot. Like high
22:41
maintenance. Yeah, you know, she's high maintenance,
22:43
but I'm not. Okay. So it's pretty
22:45
much comparing, it's pitting women against women.
22:47
And I fucking hate that. And I
22:49
don't know why, right? Why is this
22:51
even a thing? Typically, a pick
22:53
me girl talks about how
22:55
she's not like other women, especially
22:58
in ways considered typically feminine.
23:02
Which is, you know, it's very, for
23:06
example, a pick me girl may
23:08
point out how she doesn't wear
23:10
makeup or prefers sports to fashion.
23:12
So there we have it. Okay. So it
23:15
is, so it's like, oh my God, like
23:17
a girl that takes an hour to get
23:19
ready, oh please, like, you know, it's that
23:21
kind of thing. So that's a
23:23
pick me girl. See, when I, when
23:25
we spoke about this pick me girl
23:27
whole thing, I thought it
23:29
was along the lines of a girl that
23:31
just always needs to be chosen by
23:33
a man. Well,
23:36
that's what I assumed it was too, but
23:38
I feel, well, now that we're reading into
23:40
these, it feels as though there are so
23:42
much more attached. Well, yeah, it's like, it's
23:44
not just that a female needs attention from
23:47
a male or anything. It's like, yeah,
23:49
cause like she's comparing herself
23:52
to other female things. She's
23:54
better. And I just,
23:56
that rubs me the wrong way.
23:59
Where did the term pick me girl come from?
24:01
He bloody knows. Well, I'll tell you, babe. Yeah.
24:04
It appears on Twitter, which, you know, Twitter was
24:06
Twitter back then. Not X. Why
24:08
is it on Twitter in my fucking eye? Yeah.
24:11
In eyes. Anyway, in
24:13
2016 with the hashtag hashtag
24:15
tweet, like a pick me
24:18
with people mocking girls who
24:20
called themselves wifey
24:22
material, drawing
24:24
attention to their traditionally feminine
24:27
virtues and habits. Right.
24:31
Once again, making women feel
24:33
all over the world, like
24:35
they're just not good enough. And no matter what
24:37
they do, they're never going to be good enough.
24:40
It's like if a woman wants to be
24:42
ultra feminine and you
24:44
know, just completely
24:47
ooze, you know, femininity and
24:49
be that housewife, like
24:52
that's a bad thing. But is it
24:54
like doing the hashtag and saying, you
24:56
know, calling themselves wifey
24:58
material, like we
25:01
can all be wifey material in our
25:03
own right. Like, is there a right
25:05
in quotation marks, right? What wifey material?
25:08
Well, that's a whole other conversation, babe,
25:10
but what it's turned into, right? The
25:13
term has actually evolved to mean
25:15
the complete opposite now. So
25:18
common traits of what a pick me girl is,
25:20
is someone that constantly seeks
25:23
validation from others, especially men, putting
25:25
down other women, desperation
25:27
for a relationship or just male
25:29
attention in general and
25:32
dismissing other women's experiences
25:34
and opinions. See,
25:37
to me, that's the complete opposite of what I
25:39
thought a pick me girl was and what a
25:41
complete opposite of what it was in 2016. So
25:44
in my eyes, it's really changed. It's
25:46
so changed. Like a pick
25:48
me girl now is, is someone
25:50
is what you're called if you put down
25:52
other women or you Dismiss,
25:54
dismiss other women's experiences and opinions.
25:57
I Mean, that's happening on the
25:59
daily. everywhere all around. The world.
26:01
I just. I don't see that as
26:03
he should be putting a label on
26:05
that. I just see that is. A
26:08
someone's gonna be. A piece. Of
26:10
shit and. Like.
26:13
Talk shit about another woman. Then. I'm
26:15
Sir Ivan the to talk as well. That was got here. I
26:17
want to watch the tick tock. Hi a
26:20
sunny, sunny kill Us filler
26:22
right? Right? Okay, I
26:24
ate, I bought So Greedy
26:26
The San Yeah, there's this
26:28
feeling so C and it's
26:30
a Caterpillar almost here. and
26:32
Us Obama right? You're
26:34
not only guy had wow that must
26:36
be a lot of upkeep. Yes, that
26:38
would just take way too long. I
26:41
read of i was you. I'd be
26:43
rock in the brunette at this point.
26:45
I'm so low maintenance. I need you
26:47
to teach me how to do such
26:49
have a mega. Never
26:51
done it before. I wish were
26:53
clear mascara. Yeah,
26:55
I really don't wear and law.
26:57
Okay so it's like com to
27:00
the backhanded compliment die later I'm
27:02
and know that's the natural it's
27:04
oil on my skin. Yeah.
27:06
Oh my gosh, I there I
27:08
served. Funny isn't it? Because now
27:10
it's like. I. Feel
27:12
like I can remember Utter nerve.
27:15
Certain paypal the I remember. Maybe.
27:17
Having these experiences, With.
27:19
Women I met who will give you a
27:21
compliment but it's followed by. Something.
27:24
That makes you kind of all. Near.
27:27
Okay, it's It's not really a
27:29
compliment at all. Yeah, it's someone
27:32
trying to be judgmental. Bought a
27:34
new much of a coward to
27:36
just yeah your face so they.
27:40
Give you a little. Rock
27:43
ark in in my inside. The in the
27:45
face that's the kind of like all you've got rid. As
27:47
I feel like people have said oh ya leads to so
27:49
nice and not true. But. then i'm like
27:52
all but it's villa and they're like
27:54
ah i see a good amount of
27:56
it's exactly what they want you to
27:58
say not really okay Yeah,
28:00
so then they have that win. Oh,
28:02
yeah. See yeah, got fake fucking feeling
28:04
in her lips. Yeah, obviously Dump
28:07
it like can't you see that? Yeah, like I'm
28:09
sorry And it's like if a female is going
28:12
to say such a bitchy comment. You're a bitch
28:14
Yeah, like that's not we're not gonna be
28:17
friends. And if anything females themselves can take
28:19
back that yeah, and use it because I'm
28:21
sorry The thing is and I've said
28:23
it before on the podcast as well. I Feel
28:26
like women are so mean to
28:28
women these days. Oh man not we've
28:30
and I know you know some people might say
28:32
but yeah, like, you know, you've made a
28:34
career out of like Commenting
28:37
and commentating. Yeah on
28:40
on things that are pop culture on things
28:42
that are on TV on things that are
28:44
mainstream media I'm not going
28:46
around talking about Joe Blow and his girlfriend that I
28:49
know from ten years ago and talking shit about
28:51
them Yeah, you know what? I mean? Yeah, very different
28:53
and this is where the problem with the pick me
28:55
trend has gone The meaning
28:57
of pick me behavior is becoming skewed on
28:59
social media. Yeah, okay Yeah, so it started
29:02
off as an innocent and funny trend It
29:04
primarily was used as another
29:06
sick to beat women with okay Yeah, which
29:09
it's not funny like that It's just another way of
29:11
tearing women down which is what we've said The
29:14
term thrown at anyone who shows an
29:16
interest in male-dominated hobbies or dares to
29:18
call themselves weird While
29:20
some of you the pick me girl term
29:23
Trend to legitimately call out sexist behavior displayed
29:25
by other women others have simply used it
29:27
to escalate said sexism and harass women on
29:30
the app It's
29:32
become the insult of all insults and
29:34
I know for one and I've seen
29:36
it happen other
29:38
women in the media calling
29:40
other women Pick me
29:42
girls and I never really understood it because I never I
29:45
can say to like Google what a
29:47
big big girl was close just like okay Well, if she's
29:49
just if she's caught if she's calling her
29:52
a term then I mean, it's not gonna
29:54
be that friendly is it? Yeah So
29:57
Have you seen the movie? She's a Man. Yeah, the Man Designs.
29:59
Love That movie. Yeah, forgot Sydney want
30:01
you Amanda Bynes played in Sees
30:03
The man displayed an aversion to
30:05
lip gloss and sundresses and got
30:08
they are get along better with
30:10
guys Energy services. Pick me goals
30:12
in the media for these are
30:14
just examples guys yet so it's
30:16
like you know, Her character
30:18
in Sees A Man loves to soccer. She
30:20
wanted to be one of the guys. Okay,
30:23
fair enough. Mercer from the I see saying
30:25
yeah, Well I'm not like the other go.
30:28
And. Campaign came Kendall Jenner
30:31
famously tweeted girls are
30:33
really really desperate and
30:35
sad sometimes. I
30:40
mean, and so I'm in. Mark. We're
30:42
just said like people. Ah,
30:45
Cause people are fucking really desperate and
30:47
sad. Some to yeah. Okay,
30:50
Ah, there was an article in
30:52
Elle Magazine and The Rider. As
30:54
casino claimed, it's possible that the
30:57
pygmy goat haven't thought about how
30:59
they behave yes and attitude contribute
31:02
to sexism, misogyny, and ultimately the
31:04
continuous subjugation of women. Whether it's
31:06
due to the blink is padded
31:09
by years of on broader misogyny
31:11
or the need to feed into
31:13
societies notions of what is acceptable
31:16
these goals often don't see it
31:18
as problematic on. I think there
31:20
in lies he shoots people are
31:23
so fucking blonde to their own
31:25
season, am whatever they are projecting,
31:27
whatever they are saying, people aren't
31:30
seeing their own shit in their
31:32
own issues for what they are
31:34
and I think they're in in
31:37
itself lies the issue. You know
31:39
once I am I do ah
31:41
it's actually really we When you.
31:45
Paint. The be Pixar and you know
31:47
there's like celebrities and. Just.
31:50
A. really like makes me think about all
31:52
these scenarios that i've seen on salaries and
31:54
movie yes and get our like day to
31:56
day life and you'll and now ah right
31:59
you'll see it so much
32:01
more. Yeah. And like, if
32:03
you ask most men, you know, they
32:05
prefer a female with not a full
32:07
fucking beat face. Yeah. They prefer to
32:09
kiss a female that didn't have, you
32:12
know, whatever stuff. But it's
32:14
women taking that notion and then
32:16
saying, yeah, I'm all natural. Yeah.
32:18
Guys like me better because I'm
32:20
like all natural. Yeah. It's like,
32:23
but if you like wearing makeup
32:25
because it makes you feel good. Yeah.
32:28
Then why the hell
32:31
are we pitting women against women because like
32:33
who cares? That's the thing. Yeah. At the
32:35
end of the day, a guy
32:37
is lucky if he's getting in bed with
32:39
you, darling. Yeah. That guy is lucky if
32:41
he make up or no makeup. Exactly. Yeah.
32:44
You know, it doesn't need to be made about that.
32:46
That's just something that is wild to me. And I
32:48
know you guys are going to have a lot to
32:50
say about this topic. And I cannot wait to discuss
32:52
this on the Facebook
32:55
group, which is sit with us, the podcast. You've got
32:57
to come and join. Join
32:59
in where all the fun is. Even if
33:01
you've got like friends, because I feel like,
33:03
oh, we know I'm even thinking of friends,
33:06
people that I know who I'm friends with
33:08
who are like this. Yeah.
33:11
So share some stories in a
33:13
Facebook group or on the Instagram,
33:16
share some stories. If you have
33:19
very interesting ones. We'd
33:21
love, we'd actually love to hear from
33:23
you guys. Send us a voice message,
33:25
an email, a DM, whatever
33:27
it may be, because I even feel like
33:29
in next week's episode, if we get some
33:32
really fucked up good stories, we have to
33:34
read them out. Anonymous clip. Well,
33:36
exactly. Like your friends can be
33:38
shit. Your friends can be mean.
33:40
Amen, sis. Yeah. So yeah, definitely share it
33:43
with us. Share it with us
33:45
guys. Hit us up on the Instagram. It's at
33:47
sit with us pod and keep
33:49
an eye on our insta stories actually for
33:51
next week's topic because we'll probably be needing
33:53
your help next week. But
33:55
for now, we're going to love you and leave you.
33:58
Have an amazing day. Thank you so much. much
34:00
for listening guys and we will see
34:02
you next week. Love yous!
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