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us and we got home sweet home

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not really pumped particularly

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as xsara and myself because

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xsara texted me like last week with

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a link to an apc article and was

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like guys what the fuck like

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kim pay to heat and we went back and

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forth for at least half an hour on the excitement

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on every one that we knew in australia who might

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see came and picked because they either far

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north right now like

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but i put these in the general all team

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flak because i was like this can only guard

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to xsara myself and not about

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it has to go to everyone and ever with fucking living

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for it yeah it was an amazing sinusoid

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basically read and this is the headline

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was , kimi k mind

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as make the orders as the left coupled he's

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cans cafe so we thought

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oh my god chance of all places

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human made it as we knew that paint

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had something to film up in far north

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queensland it made sense we'd seen

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photos of them in as very

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sort of the t area and thought

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so you have beautiful blue clearwater

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like that could be ours and so

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basically this pay said yeah they

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here and went to a local cafe now

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what originally had happened here is the

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owner this cafe a guy named matte

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black who owns i will give

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them a shoutout show said probably does evidence

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that lets us the botanic had cafe

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originally posted facebook thanks hi

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everyone we had team and pete visit a

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cafe today yes be

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gone for the tonic other only recently

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disciples so very exciting and

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if i may say most delicate way possible not

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quite big thought you'd expect cumin peyton only did

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it would it have it have not to

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say i would be shocked to elect she

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was shocked to know that cumin pay would go

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a cafe like the topic like a limited as bad

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as sir yes sir matt black

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to be so far he was all over social media

9:43

saying kim kardashian pete davidson love

9:45

my cafe he then decided to do

9:47

media interviews about it apparently

9:49

he was getting what the media requests so he spoke

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to a b c radio and said yes

9:54

kim and paid visited britannica and

9:56

loved this story told was pretty good

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to hate all the ib we have

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to put our phones out on the counter he

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said there was his name i barrister and to

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be honest he didn't know who they were he's really

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out of the loop with that sort of stuff

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he said they'll very polite they basically

10:11

took over the entire cast day and

10:13

that they loved the food say

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that said i can't reveal what dishes

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they loved because they asked me not to

10:20

that that sounded something that they would do

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both the liberty and justice

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, out what they would do that

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of course site would would

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out that with didn't

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they didn't i wouldn't ever

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at the cafe economy started

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come on down because everybody started sharing this

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far and wide and then the daily mail

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of all places data to fact

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check you know you're in deep thrive when

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that happens and they said that

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she kim kardashian she had

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they popped in l a

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around the similar time that we thought she was in australia

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and then people got in touch with her reps

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who said she hasn't been the minister who we are in

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years yeah so by friday

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the a racy how to scrap

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the story from their website and replace

11:05

it with like a formal apology for getting the report

11:07

wrong meanwhile while botanical

11:10

cafe kind went to ground not

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black was all over facebook said what a wild

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ride it had been and he was taking photos

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of the media

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side botanical up and like who everyone

11:20

wants the hot scoop yeah eventually

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he admitted and i quote this

11:25

little local joke has candid an

11:27

unbelievable man like

11:30

a know is it he went on

11:32

and said and said it would get some lights and if you comment

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from a small town but never to make

11:36

anyone lose their minds of to people's

11:38

breakfast as simple joke tended

11:40

to news outlets running what they wanted for their own

11:43

likes and comments i think all bit crazy

11:45

if i may he knew it

11:47

was gonna make people crazy as i cracked the joke

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that kylie check out why is that

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ruin pulling my kid wolf about everyone

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leaving the why did i do like i think

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we'll surround the day

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i just wanted to say his name's now people

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believe

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then you going on a b c radio

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and gave like awfully details voices

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i don't know if he says yeah

12:14

he gave this courses topic now people

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who know me know i syrup stuff

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on social media social thought people going

12:21

to call me out mixing the can

12:23

post is trying to get stories the whole

12:25

day the for did not supreme the l

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times journalist from new york everyone

12:29

try to get this group about them being in my

12:31

little cafe and edgehill it got

12:33

to the point where i thought i'd have to answer the

12:35

phone and give someone something the

12:37

next call with apc radio and with

12:39

said i'd give them the school

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sure enough it just exploded

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thought offices

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an american i just threw the thing

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why

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also sure enough it is exploited

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more as he's giving an interview

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to a really legitimate media publication

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is not going to do that also

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why not ideal haircut on

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, said to any of us that

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we allow ricans like no female it's

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of us had bit uptight select

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i want to think one fairly

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screw it would qualify as larrikin out order

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a larrikin a humble rifle of us to

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try and own and a cleric in satire

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i don't think any of us are you're not even

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a little bit i love that he doubled down

13:41

even more the courts just kept coming because

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then met block said do i need

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take it seriously because we're new cafe

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we have the most talented chef that we've worked really

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hard up cherished staff members

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who i need to make sure is still okay still

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treat everyone who comes into that cafe is

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royalty i just now hope

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that people see what it is it

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was a little not black

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i'm

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maybe this is brand of he thought maybe it's just

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a little not black joke i will definitely

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foreign off our that's a pretty stark reminder

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of were that industry sitting right now yeah

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bit of a shoutout to tiny armstrong feel like we

17:56

haven't mentioned him enough on this show given

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what an icon

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he is i'm obsessed with him also

18:02

obsessed with the fact that my mom loves him much

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i do but every time she brings him up

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she confuses him at thirty yards and said

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my second story bachelor jimmy

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18:25

statement that is from pedestrians

18:27

he they anyone who listen to last

18:29

week's episode will not back story on this

18:31

in case you missed it let

18:32

us keep your reef brief rundown yeah

18:35

exactly so essentially a holy and jimmy said

18:37

that they had been constantly

18:40

asked by their own followers when they

18:42

were joining only fans and they

18:44

said they had no plans to join the platform to sell

18:46

nudes and jimmy sort of added that

18:48

if reality stars want to empower people

18:51

they should stop charities or you've got platforms

18:53

to set an example for younger generations

18:56

yeah now reactions to this instagram

18:58

story was pretty split or if

19:00

you looked on either of jimmy or holies

19:02

pages they were getting a lot of positive

19:04

feedback about this lot of people saying they

19:06

agreed with that sentiment or only fans but

19:09

if you looked into all the corners of the internet it

19:11

was like the diametrically opposite

19:13

of the like some people

19:15

found their sentiments snarky and unnecessary

19:17

that was certainly off last week's are on

19:19

this sure other people were downright

19:22

urias about this and really

19:24

wanted to go for holly and jimmy i've

19:26

read sorry there with a lot of a

19:28

lot going on yes or in response

19:31

they actually issued statement on their instagram

19:33

and instagram statement read like this you

19:35

may seen post we share this like talking

19:38

about only fans like almost everything

19:40

on line and twenty twenty two it was met with

19:42

strong reactions we want to share

19:44

in subsequent thoughts over

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last year we have received literally hundreds

19:48

of messages that assumed that because we

19:50

met on reality show way would be setting

19:52

up an only fans accounts we will not be

19:55

we have no issue with someone who freely and legally

19:57

works the sex industry whether it is

19:59

on

20:00

the for and or elsewhere however

20:02

like most of the people who like that last

20:04

week i believe it's a desolate moat

20:06

female or male empowerment young people

20:08

that is just our opinion yeah

20:10

it went on and we do we know it's long but we want to

20:12

read this out give the the right of reply

20:14

we understand social media can be a very

20:16

powerful and an equally unpleasant

20:18

place we enjoyed opening up our lives

20:21

and social media and connecting with lovely

20:23

people from all over world we get

20:25

that not everyone will agree with us or like

20:27

us but it is such a sad reflection

20:29

on public conversation in australia today

20:31

that disagreement can morph into hatred

20:33

so readily we believe that being progress

20:35

even open minded doesn't mean you have

20:37

the same narrow world view as other

20:40

people who call themselves progressive than open

20:42

minded it means you are willing to tolerate

20:44

views that different your own it is not

20:46

acceptable to bully harass or threaten anyone

20:49

online or the real world where do you disagree

20:51

with them or not furthermore if you a

20:53

public profile we believe it is especially

20:55

important to encourage constructive non

20:58

biased discussion rather than

21:00

and attack

21:01

what do we think about that statement i agree

21:03

with pots of what they've said in a statement because conversation

21:06

that you and i were having in the office last week me

21:08

was that we went loving watching

21:10

how the conversation was unfolding think for me

21:12

in a scenario is the perfect

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way for them to play out i know that's very poorly

21:17

on or of me because in what well did they things ever play

21:19

out perfectly is for someone

21:21

to say something for other people to come back say

21:23

hey here's why that is offensive

21:25

to lot of people or hey he's pot

21:27

of these he might have thought about and then everybody

21:30

just kind of suit with that if they decide

21:32

to double down i'm not entirely

21:34

sure how helpful is for the rest us to just

21:36

go whack whack whack

21:38

i will not stop until you believe

21:40

what i believe yeah i personally

21:42

will never love

21:44

walking someone into submission on

21:46

social media like of course

21:49

if someone puts on an opinion that you think

21:51

is little and educated a little snarky

21:53

little ignorance how that not

21:55

and explain why you completely disagree

21:58

but to try to dominate

22:00

they're more to try and shut them

22:02

down into believing or pirating

22:04

exact same thing you do isn't

22:06

valuable to mail isn't the way that

22:08

kind of conversation should unfilled

22:11

australia or anywhere for that matter

22:13

like i often think when that does

22:15

happen that someone said something that's a

22:17

whole group of people find to be ignorant and that

22:19

group of people really badger them into

22:21

appointed submission the original

22:23

person might say online okay

22:25

i'm sorry i disagree with what said but often

22:28

i don't actually think they do disagree with what they

22:30

said they just think they need to say they

22:32

now the amri they say they need to learn

22:34

the older conversation guards abundant dies

22:36

down they

22:38

we actually the

22:40

be like saying it is a great if

22:42

i got okay i've heard you but i still don't find

22:44

only hit fans empowering us to want reality

22:46

starts open charities or don't chinese

22:48

or whatever

22:49

would we be in place where we to sit back and go okay

22:52

we're never going the grave i'm happy to describe

22:54

you on that yeah and like com and sat a whenever

22:56

you want learn more about at yeah yeah i do

22:58

agree with that completely

23:01

i think one thing that also confused me in

23:03

this entire conversation is like why

23:05

were suddenly talking about whether only fans

23:07

is empowering or not and i know maybe his

23:09

taking it back to set the last wake paint

23:11

when whole ingeniously came out and said

23:14

we're not going on only sad because we don't believe it's

23:16

empowering like everybody says it is i

23:18

started getting can use editing miss like

23:20

how often do i see someone joining only fan

23:22

sang and only doing this because it's impairing

23:25

i don't see that that often i feel i'm people saying

23:27

i'm joining only fans because i wanted

23:29

because i want to make money because i

23:31

wanted to this my job like is it's just

23:33

like distracted combo something actually doesn't

23:35

happen that often see maybe people

23:37

saying i find it personally empowering

23:39

to join early fans because i embrace my sexuality

23:41

embrace my body and i making money

23:44

off of sorry things i don't understand

23:46

where the conversation has gone were were

23:48

acting like people who joined only fans

23:51

are pretending they're doing some big community

23:53

service for empowerment how many people

23:55

could sit here and say their job day

23:57

to day job impale was the

23:59

commute the my are wholly

24:01

it's you can't say that about their own job

24:04

as influences i probably

24:06

can't say that you've got probably can't say that i don't

24:08

know many people who actually can how

24:10

did we get to the point where we're not talking about

24:12

does only fit in power children

24:14

or empower people in power to person is

24:16

doing it the valid form of work

24:22

very nice like that though it's like i don't know what

24:24

we're talking about anymore because they don't know how much of this

24:26

is they can reality that's when i

24:28

find most interesting about it space you have

24:30

said this is lacing they'll say on it so

24:32

i imagine this is the last summer here this story

24:34

and the last time we say anything on it as well

24:36

yeah like third story a highly

24:39

babe as long awaited skincare brand

24:41

road is finally here that is

24:43

from so any family

24:45

the eighteen

24:48

and friends while i was very excited

24:50

i do love highly they that see someone

24:53

from my past basket and don't know why

24:55

but this but this you should ever have to explain

24:58

to people why some of new passed off your it's a

25:00

role of shameless and we simply word explain it

25:02

to the also mine annabel c news not

25:05

really okay

25:07

if he didn't he say he say babies long

25:10

awaited skincare brand is finally here

25:12

and she's really putting that kind of glazed

25:14

doughnut like skin on the map

25:17

sorta like static threat from though as

25:19

i got that somehow road

25:21

launched with only three products

25:23

or three of them were under thirty bucks

25:25

at us thirty dollars

25:28

now it really interesting is when i heard

25:30

that she was launching a skincare brand i

25:32

just wonder if there was really room for

25:34

another like i really

25:37

wondered if this if this an incredibly crowded

25:39

space but then i think a little like and know this

25:41

is funny comparison to make this context

25:43

selena gomez and rare beauty

25:45

she has found gap the market salinas

25:47

somehow found a gap bluegrass and do

25:50

think highly has somehow found gap with

25:52

road eats and accessible price point

25:55

they are really simple products but

25:57

i do want to be on his do we have any room

25:59

for more it is a really good

26:01

point make his i felt the exact same

26:03

here with like hailed is gonna whack weed

26:05

soft also had kim kardashian damage

26:07

skin and what i love

26:09

that highly babies done that kim didn't kim's

26:11

launch with nine products that

26:13

all essentially products that we know a very buggy

26:16

and hockey right now skincare space hegel

26:18

he's gone super tight with with three and

26:20

they skincare products that yes a simple xsara by

26:22

a completely different to what i'm saying out there like

26:25

she's got peptide blazing fluid and

26:27

i don't know what the fuck what do i want it's absolutely

26:29

the i did we signed up like a mouth for the wait list

26:33

that's , i want right now it is very interesting

26:35

and i wonder if this is just my algorithm and

26:37

will be self aware about that but i haven't

26:39

seen nearly as much about kim kardashian skyn

26:41

as i have that healthy babies right skincare

26:44

you agree with that i've seen probably equally

26:46

waited coverage bomb

26:48

or positive coverage highly bay but then i had

26:50

their kim kardashian skyn yeah i think

26:52

that's really good point i think it's it's a may as

26:54

well watching the coverage of the last week or

26:56

so it seems the market really

26:58

interesting jin said she is

27:01

in how they consider highly baby like

27:03

i don't think any of listeners will be surprised

27:05

to know and learn that of course highly has

27:08

been the subject of intense levels

27:10

of derision since uber newly married

27:12

justin bieber justin bieber

27:14

when bieber when with selena gomez should allegiance

27:16

and laden some fans invested in

27:19

not really young relationship

27:21

and when highly ended up with justin somehow

27:23

she became focus

27:25

all they're unhappy to it's basically she

27:27

was one of most hated paypal on the internet

27:29

for a time for sure and this is going

27:31

up to very recently this wasn't something that just

27:33

happened years ago that she's now recovered from

27:35

it was only a couple of months ago in april

27:38

that she begged on tik tok for the trolling

27:40

to stop she said in the video leave

27:42

me alone at this point i'm minding my business

27:44

i don't do anything i don't say anything leave

27:47

me alone please enough time

27:49

has gone by were valid to leave me alone

27:51

i think the subtext there is enough time since i married

27:53

justin has come by to leave me alone i

27:55

beg of you truly that's my only request

27:58

leave me alone be miserable somewhere

28:00

else plays the caption on that

28:02

video read this is for you guys

28:04

in my comments every single time i

28:06

post to the shift with sane

28:08

from that level of crawling towards highly

28:10

bay boss to where we are

28:13

i twelve weeks later is actually

28:15

insane because i have not seen such positive

28:18

coverage of highly bega eva

28:20

yeah i totally agree with you and i think

28:22

finance really , interesting

28:24

to consider what's changed in minds

28:26

of paypal think it has to come to a couple

28:28

of things i think especially paypal

28:30

probably saying her as little more human

28:32

officer she spoke very publicly

28:35

of experiencing a mini stroke

28:37

earlier this year in last few weeks as well

28:40

justin bieber himself had to postpone

28:42

he's too because he's was experiencing facial

28:44

paralysis from something called around the hunt

28:47

syndrome and i think that

28:49

sense of humanity paypal bang like fuck that's pretty

28:51

shit time for boyhood them and

28:53

people considering well that can only really

28:56

work to strengthen your union

28:58

has actually meant something and it's horrendous

29:00

that these kinds things of how to happen for people

29:02

to see them as more human and it shouldn't

29:04

work like that but think has on

29:06

the other end as well i think launching

29:08

a business has helped as wow i think

29:11

unfortunately people

29:13

have more respect for people who are clearly

29:16

running something or not even just like

29:18

owning a business but link

29:20

putting their name to job that they

29:22

respect if that he he i am asking

29:25

this is a question because need rangel with in

29:27

myself i agree with you on the illness

29:29

stuff i think that's certainly humanized haley

29:31

she's always been human but thankfully

29:33

on some level people are finally starting to see

29:35

her as one as well on the comment you

29:37

just said about unfortunately people

29:40

now giving him more credibility because she

29:42

runs a business i'm one the people he's

29:44

not unfortunate or is that just human

29:46

nature that when we see someone build something impressive

29:49

that way think it's creative different what

29:51

at f it takes lot of auditor

29:54

hard work blood sweat and tears i

29:56

do have great respect for people and highly babies

29:58

position who build businesses the maybe

30:00

people who don't launch businesses

30:02

or don't have something their name that is their

30:04

baby and kind of the front facing

30:06

thing that they do publicly yeah i think it is

30:08

unfair and i think it's very humid

30:11

day to but i do think

30:13

when

30:13

i say the what unfortunately no one should

30:15

ever just suddenly not be troll the

30:17

because they've got a name something i also

30:19

think what triggers the fuck you wanna live your life if

30:21

you want flirt and if you want to kind of like not

30:23

like work your entire identity and you want to

30:25

make your marriage really important and your social

30:27

media presence really important whatever it is like

30:30

that i really do believe that should be

30:32

the subject of our respective whether

30:34

not it's the natural innate

30:36

response from a lot of of yet my boys will uma

30:38

to slightly different things maybe my wording

30:40

wasn't right it's not that like i

30:42

have a disliked haley or would ever troll

30:44

her but think she now appeals to group

30:47

of people who career minded business

30:49

oriented who have become fans

30:51

of her i think she now has dedicated

30:53

fans were highly sands not necessarily

30:55

justin fans or fans about things around

30:57

her and on know can have grudge people's that

30:59

some people like music some people like business

31:01

if you're giving people something to door

31:03

and go i really respect that i love that the

31:05

you she's gonna have people how to more positive

31:08

by other more disagree that like the legions

31:10

of fans that he's getting right now business savvy

31:12

then that is i think it's like gens

31:14

that has led justin bieber citizens

31:16

who are suddenly looking at haley thank all you

31:18

have your own identity true i will finally

31:20

respect now that's where i think the bulk of love

31:23

is coming from i am just really happy

31:25

for her ever seen that i didn't leave that

31:27

these has turned around because they're i say i've

31:29

been i've been highly davis and for a

31:31

long time and i've been waiting the tied to

31:33

my a lot of us in the office has been watching

31:35

the commentary run hey babe of the last twelve months

31:38

they went what the fuck is going on we all really likely

31:40

be yeah so i agree i'm relieved

31:42

i love her i've watched the skincare

31:45

net positive all round my foot

31:47

story he's everything we know about

31:49

beyond say new iraq that is

31:51

from buzz feed it had been a

31:53

big week in the life of beyond

31:55

say her first solo album in

31:57

six years is launching next month

31:59

on the

32:00

y twenty nine it's called were nice on

32:02

m will include sixteen track the

32:04

single that's really on

32:06

tuesday it's called break my soul i

32:08

listen to it heavily absolutely at

32:11

all

32:12

good and i say this and i reckon said

32:14

isn't podcast and for i'm not very

32:16

good listening to new music like i'm

32:19

so that and i can't work out what i like

32:21

what don't like sometimes need to like listen

32:23

to music through osmosis and then understand

32:25

what like i listen to cynicism thought

32:27

i saw this is good song i agree

32:29

it's good so it's not like my usual taste

32:31

but i can understand and respected

32:34

within eighty disco yeah and it's

32:36

also telling people quit their jobs and don't quit your

32:41

it is eyesore as tongue in cheek

32:43

pace on the thought this morning about how she's

32:45

really leaning into the great resignation and how

32:48

everyone in america is quitting their jobs at the moment

32:50

but

32:51

kind of true like it's very much the new

32:53

post pandemic for people to be leaving

32:55

their jobs or they the line and a song that flag

32:57

with me till five but i won't work said the not as

32:59

puts it line as i

33:02

do think that is the mood that we've been

33:04

talking to talking little the than the last few months

33:06

later messages good day and it's

33:08

classic fiance to hit mood so well

33:10

last week in promoting this new album

33:12

and he single she actually did shoot with british

33:14

vote and was see it was

33:16

an interesting though is that she gave

33:19

the photo shoot and collaborate on the photo shoot

33:21

with added are edward an awful but

33:23

didn't actually give him an interview

33:25

she didn't like not even access

33:27

so it would enter fulfill

33:30

wrote an accompanying pace to this

33:32

photo shoot an he went over to

33:34

dinner at the on sites have listened to the album

33:36

but she did not give single point that pay

33:38

so he basically had to write about the on say

33:40

without any of her input i

33:43

am pretty obsessed with that fact i don't know

33:45

many other celebrities who coupons that album or

33:47

want something huge as the six years and say

33:50

i'll still managed to get the same level of publicity

33:52

without giving an interview then another one heard

33:54

reagan it would give and in to be yeah i'm

33:56

trying to think what celebrities in

33:58

the world garda bring

34:00

can say give me the cabal but i'm not giving you

34:02

single word even quite fiance

34:05

not even dell i don't know until you

34:07

got [unk] profiles yeah she did a double

34:10

maybe meghan markle could do

34:12

it and not giving the out your that's true

34:14

that's a good point i don't think there's a single

34:17

author [unk] come to us if you have

34:19

one but i think meghan markle and fiance might be

34:21

only two women in world do know what i had the other

34:23

day i'm sorry sorry this is just going to keep coming

34:25

out as i hate listening to the palace papers

34:27

the coin has never give an

34:29

n g o really

34:32

i love how many her that at me like oh yeah that's

34:34

true kate middleton never given one since you've been

34:37

the

34:37

public either queenie to flying under the radar

34:40

like know quotes the record i

34:42

find that amazing amount of mystique

34:44

clear behavior and i think that why the

34:46

at they they really late into that level of mistake

34:48

this such a level of mistake particularly around

34:50

kate middleton because when we don't hear

34:52

anything from her you see them all the time but you

34:54

realize you actually never hear from them right

34:57

it's such different form of publicity because

34:59

like say beyond size of the well give

35:01

us nothing and we want more the kim kardashians

35:03

of the will give us everything and we will thought i'd have

35:05

to go one have to weigh a hundred percent i

35:07

swear i get more intrigued by the on say as time

35:10

goes on like i was trolling

35:12

for this pace from edward and fool just trying

35:14

get like any

35:15

anything about who the on say it's and

35:17

like what is she laughlin she's sitting at dinner

35:20

is he really chilled out is she kind of

35:22

while easy super road these

35:25

are the only things he got right it

35:27

would animal said she's a writer of excellent

35:29

and lengthy texts aims

35:31

to check out and he's another hop from the

35:33

things things liked i find myself truly

35:35

on the meal sitting at the on says dinner table

35:38

on table sunday nights and and sound about

35:40

how are lox italy's saw the house

35:42

is impressively minimalist with acres of

35:44

white walls gleam in glass and beautiful art

35:46

as scrumptious dinner of ribs cream

35:49

cone peas and mashed potatoes he said

35:51

i'm not sure mood could be any cozier

35:53

he went on i'm sorry struck by how tranquil

35:56

alzheimer's disease at this point her

35:58

iron clad devotion to professional

36:00

the gun and privacy is legendary and

36:02

yet he's years at home with her handlers

36:04

not stitch of make up on wearing hoodie

36:06

just paying herself her alma is

36:08

so lowered her laughed at so infectious

36:11

her skin so glory she honestly

36:13

looks like a teenager he said

36:15

that he thinks puts that wall up between

36:18

herself and the rest the world because

36:20

of this

36:21

can't help thinking how all those walls a to

36:23

say fiance putting up don't exist to facilitate

36:26

egos quite the contrary they

36:28

exist so she can lead it'll go and

36:30

nor should they just like the most laid back person

36:32

behind the same kind of you know

36:35

see would say iraq and but as we said

36:37

the level of mistake of so

36:40

impressive and just makes me well more more

36:42

yeah my fifth story scott ham

36:44

slams influences el ferguson and

36:46

joel patel for quitting the block

36:49

that is from these socom you guys

36:51

might know about these two have mentioned them couple

36:53

have times but just refresher el ferguson

36:55

is and influence i businesswoman with

36:57

six hundred and eighty thousand followers on

36:59

instagram shes also the brains behind the

37:01

elephant i ham brand her

37:03

fiance joel couple is former

37:06

as l player so that her patel

37:08

yeah and i think its definitely

37:10

been formula the block has lent into

37:12

in the last who years i mean you

37:15

remember have course influence last thousand

37:17

her partner well on block and did incredibly

37:19

well we also have love island twins

37:21

lucan joel pretty

37:23

well as well so these yeah i think allan joel

37:26

we're going be there famous faces

37:28

i think sharon johal is also on the

37:30

show so days were their other famous faces

37:32

on show but you might remember back in

37:34

april we spoke about days two

37:36

really abruptly pulling the sharon

37:39

just three days into filming this you

37:42

wait encourage published by tape the

37:44

tonight cam the blocked host

37:47

suggested the reason that l

37:49

and job walked away is because they couldn't

37:51

handle the workload and bailed after

37:53

the very first challenge now wish

37:55

dart there remarks

37:58

about this story we know

38:00

given at a post loki

38:02

that branch we can look

38:04

at it came

38:06

it's noticing off to a group of paypal

38:08

and a t v to not journal was kind of scribbling

38:10

down notes of recording it or whatever and

38:12

quoting him or if he actually

38:14

did an interview with a t v to not june

38:16

or at this brunch well i think courts

38:19

have to be on the record because it was

38:21

a media branch as well so everything would be

38:23

on the record and i think for those don't understand

38:26

the hops how the journalism industry works

38:28

it's very rarely if ever

38:31

for a generalist publish quite when someone hasn't

38:33

consented to giving those quite like you can give

38:35

an interview and hop throw be like half of this is off

38:37

record and they basically kind published

38:39

that the problem is the artist is on a probably

38:42

very hung over scott game the day after

38:44

the loki's to interrupt inside the seas

38:46

off the record if he forgets to say that

38:48

if he's a little locksmith whose words

38:50

if he's a little tired from not before

38:52

he might say all this shit and not realize it's

38:54

about to be printed well then let's talk about what

38:56

he actually know because hey explained

38:59

in quotes published by tv tonight we

39:01

had controversy on day two the series

39:04

we had forty eight hour challenged she's the house

39:06

that you get and they scoff it after

39:08

forty eight hours it's something that's never

39:10

happened before forty five

39:12

thousand people applied to be on block and

39:14

when life changing money these guys

39:16

got on and they just couldn't handle the pace

39:18

after forty eight hours which to me is

39:20

be an australian have go it's

39:22

piece pool it's his whole

39:25

now lover of mind to the the reason

39:27

we originally heard that l and joe had

39:29

pulled out when it's all went down a

39:31

few months ago was that jo

39:34

[unk] mom had taken ill the

39:36

daily telegraph reported this at time it

39:38

is understood the couple of made the decision to

39:40

quit after puzzles mother teresa fractured

39:42

her neck in nasty fall at home

39:44

in adelaide she is believed to have

39:46

possible bleeding of the brain a broken

39:48

clock sick and fractured wrist

39:51

we then also had l

39:53

take to her instagram stories and right wherever

39:55

you are in world whatever you're doing family

39:58

always comes first that

40:00

written over an image of like a

40:02

baggage trolley baggage carousel

40:04

at the airport clearly giving the impression

40:06

that they were flying to guard base

40:08

with joe puzzles mother sir having

40:10

story about what fractured

40:12

neck bleeding on the brain a broken

40:14

clock sick and fractured wrist

40:17

in tandem with scotty

40:19

can say it's evil peace

40:21

corps have a go it's been under strongly it's

40:23

i have story

40:26

and why he would say that i'm so

40:28

confused

40:29

like a deeply confused and

40:31

that's kind of my only comment when i

40:33

was i am i guess it'll be quite interesting

40:36

when that they're block actually does

40:38

at what they says couple of episodes will clack

40:40

as i think that oh give us far more answers

40:43

mine would like to lead to

40:45

the treatment of time now that i read

40:47

that who's telling line said over

40:49

the weekend we were surprised to have one of our new

40:51

contestant aims to pop the block a few days

40:53

into filming we wish them all the best

40:56

said the future like where

40:59

he believes the hell and joel like

41:01

apparently trees are kind now which is great

41:03

but like the toward can run

41:05

scott came something is so not adding

41:07

up he of yeah i totally agree that all

41:09

you got foaming at the will of god the

41:12

you got mail why

41:16

the very powerful words

41:18

all righty came it is mailbag time

41:20

and billie i realize okay

41:23

i will slaughter ,

41:26

famous my best friend

41:28

emma and i are considering having an intervention

41:30

with our other best friend lucy regarding her

41:32

boyfriend basically were worried

41:35

that she worried she relationship and we feel as

41:37

though she slowly losing herself amateur

41:39

use that lazy her boyfriend have been together

41:41

i've met him three times he's never

41:44

made an effort to get know me or emma and

41:46

because we're only here than negative sides of their relationship

41:48

have stopped making effort to spend time with

41:50

him either every time we

41:52

asked we see how she's going conversation

41:55

eventually becomes about him and whatever she

41:57

wants to update us on is always negative

42:00

what we understand they argue a lot and have

42:02

serious communication issues they

42:04

have been several times where lucy is told me

42:06

that she thinks it's over but every time

42:08

she ends up staying the want to be

42:10

really mindful that this is loses first

42:12

relationship but i worry because she

42:14

doesn't have enough previous experience and that

42:16

judgment clouded by being in love for the

42:18

first time last summer told

42:20

lucy how i felt about her relationship just

42:23

me stop giving my opinion on it because

42:25

it's her mistake to make and ever since

42:27

they're now dynamic is changed we don't

42:29

talk on the same level that we used to and she's

42:31

essentially stopped coming to emma and me

42:33

to talk about her relationship issues i

42:35

am mad him for not being the man my best

42:37

friend deserve so my question

42:40

is question is intervention good

42:42

idea we push her away

42:44

even more or is this to wake up hoshino

42:47

help me because i miss my best friend love

42:50

money

42:51

pretty relatable dilemma for lot of paypal i

42:53

imagine i think surely everyone

42:55

has been through this with a friend

42:57

at some point or another put on the record

43:00

that not going through right now my friend heartening

43:02

yeah it'll also to the

43:04

record i love all of my friends have

43:06

to say my own in previous

43:09

time shops that have been occasions

43:11

where occasions haven't loved my friends partners

43:13

or i've had issues with the way that my friends being

43:15

traded or like many to this

43:17

list now we have changed her name to protect her

43:19

privacy but many click

43:21

relatable absolutely get your frustration

43:24

absolutely get the you and your all the best

43:26

friend emma ah

43:29

upset about this

43:31

however let's let's wade through it shelley

43:33

let's lay try and it's are we really wanted

43:35

pull this one out him fox news because we're getting

43:37

so many as a bible and and

43:39

keep them printing because we spend a great deal

43:41

time going through them the fun felt particularly

43:43

relevant for us because we had sat in the office

43:46

is like after the last episode the

43:48

kardashians and and he showed me

43:50

snippet as kim kardashian talking to chloe

43:52

tadashi and on a bed about

43:55

how to navigate when to

43:57

tell your sibling in this case

44:00

that their relationship isn't good and yeah

44:02

it's eerily similar to what this list

44:04

has said in her mailbox will play with snippet

44:06

that conversation right now

44:09

when

44:09

in that time when we like step into

44:11

our siblings lives and be like okay

44:15

this is okay we

44:17

always kept oh around each other situations

44:20

because we just don't want metal and

44:22

i respect that no one came to me

44:24

during my marriage and was like a you

44:26

could everyone let me have my own

44:28

journey and see that on my own and i appreciate

44:30

that and sometimes i like look

44:32

back and i'm like when do we jump

44:35

in like i just that's what i'm so

44:37

unclear about get the people knew what

44:39

what my relationship really

44:41

was like i think they would be like

44:43

how did this last few

44:48

he's obviously such universal dilemma

44:51

and is interesting to hear to women in cumin

44:53

chloe who's relationships with their partners

44:55

ended

44:56

you're not knowing when the right time to go

44:59

is like kim was saying i'm glad no one

45:01

came to me and let me work it out on my

45:03

own but it's him or anything also said

45:05

i would appreciated someone saying something

45:07

the same time i think that represents dichotomy

45:10

in all of us it's like i want know but i also

45:12

really don't want artist such a duality that

45:14

this stuff iraq and i think everybody feels

45:16

like that because we've all done

45:18

hypotheticals that each other like you and i

45:20

have eight and sat there to the like have a what if it with your partner

45:22

the people didn't like like how would you respond

45:24

to this and i would be equal parts fuckin

45:27

leave me alone and also

45:30

hamid it elliot yeah and if

45:32

i broke out my partner that of on came to means

45:34

had i had all these issues with way he treated

45:36

you that would annoy me is that when it

45:38

comes to money let's talk about the flan

45:40

i think one line that really stood out to

45:42

may miss i wonder if you agree with this is

45:44

i'm mad at him for not paying the man that my best

45:46

friend does that not

45:49

i do want put on record the us this guy

45:51

doesn't sound hadley from the info

45:53

that with got emotionally abusive would you agree with that

45:55

know he doesn't sound of beauty of it sounds to me

45:57

like this like this and i'm so many

45:59

could have

46:00

yeah if if he thought this was an abuse of dynamic

46:02

she would have told us that it sounds to

46:04

me like she just thinks it's a pretty shitty relationship

46:06

and her friend could much better yes and i think

46:09

safle is gotten that's that's the advice that i'm going

46:11

to give i think sometimes we

46:13

can get incredibly caught up in fighting

46:15

for

46:16

attack and we want our loved ones

46:18

to pay with robbed and stupid stupid

46:20

or back and say to ourselves low that

46:23

i think kind of happy with them even know

46:25

it's not the kind of happiness are one or the kind

46:27

relationship that i want

46:29

is their last and set off the them

46:32

being in and that's like a question people have

46:34

to grapple with because that kind of happiness

46:36

or that sort of business might not look

46:38

the same for everybody i

46:40

do think asking yourself about whether your friend

46:42

is at least it pace is a really important question

46:44

here even if it's not the case you want yeah i

46:46

feel like it's all sorry

46:48

really important for men need to

46:51

assess like easy actually up an expert

46:53

in this relationship between her best friend

46:55

lucy and lucy boyfriend like does

46:57

she know enough to make have a

46:59

good decision or to give good advice because

47:02

lucy yes has been coming to her and crying

47:04

has been coming to her with negative stuff about

47:06

her boyfriend and clearly has been struggling with some

47:08

elements of relationship that

47:10

money and emma i'm not saying all

47:12

the loving moments between lucy and her boyfriend

47:15

they're not behind closed doors saying why

47:17

lucy wants to stay to stay she wants

47:19

to work it out and i think it's tricky

47:21

for fans that i've been in his position so

47:24

many times where i've seen a friend cry over

47:26

a boy or girl and i've sat there

47:28

and god oh god like they're crying heaps of

47:30

it is percent and that's true

47:33

but i'm not saying why this person

47:35

is someone they really want hold on to i'm not seeing

47:38

the city so attached and all the beautiful

47:40

things that this person sit down with our friends

47:42

a guard guys look these loving text

47:44

message my boyfriend a semi or guys look at these

47:47

amazing just some my girlfriend

47:49

made for me at home we very rarely actually

47:51

do that we got my friends often to

47:53

vent and because they are out

47:55

outlet for venting they get far

47:57

more negative information and positive

48:00

the dominican to am i would say

48:02

you need back lucy that lucy

48:04

north more about her relationship than you ever

48:06

will and all sorry if lucy

48:08

making mistake it's her mistakes

48:11

he said that she has their and at her

48:13

mistake to make and i think

48:16

if perhaps many hadn't said

48:18

her pace already said something subtly maybe

48:20

i'd say there are ways to do it

48:22

really gently but once you say at

48:24

once that is all you can do

48:27

that she's asked you to back off is your aunt's

48:29

a yeah i think for me it's like you actually

48:31

were already given the answer from your really

48:33

good friend i , it's quite

48:35

telling to me that lucy has said

48:37

to you minnick minnick is my mistake

48:40

to make because i think if the if she

48:42

was my friend i would see it with that i would think okay

48:44

i think something deep down and her

48:47

nose it's not right because

48:49

if you're in really happy relationship you're not running

48:51

around to your friends saying this is my fucking mistake

48:54

fucking , word comes out your

48:56

mouth ago the said is that

48:58

but what you see with time and time again

49:00

with people particularly in their twenties is it's like you need

49:02

to come to that yourself it's an incredibly

49:05

hard thing to end the relationship incredibly

49:08

hot and it takes a lot of time

49:10

you want to be at like eighty nine percent

49:12

ready be done when you make that

49:14

decision i also think for me

49:17

whether or not this is the case specifically

49:19

he i i think friends can

49:21

kind of get caught out in

49:24

the gossip of hiding their friends partner oh

49:26

yeah i kind of thing making

49:28

it way to bond with a tell us making

49:30

it way to be financing

49:32

or exclusives yeah to have

49:35

those conversations about their friend as friend said this

49:37

absolutely might not be the case here that someone's listening

49:39

to that and things yeah iraq

49:41

and al frente that it's certainly something to keep

49:43

in mind are you feeling this

49:45

and constantly talking about this really

49:47

because he think it's making the world's bad off world's

49:49

is this just like face the adding something inside

49:51

of you that more about you yeah i thousand

49:54

said agree with that said think while this is a guy you've met

49:56

three times and you've acknowledged she met him three

49:58

times is there a world where your

50:01

perception of how awful he's

50:03

he's not fully aligned with the reality

50:06

of who he is i also think

50:08

no matter what i'd like i love how

50:10

carrying money and emma off their friends

50:12

i've really want third listeners out there

50:14

whoever they are to nord like you clearly

50:16

very caring equally care a lot about lucy

50:19

and like i really respect that however

50:21

i also think the line you've included

50:23

monday about i want to be really mindful

50:26

this is lucy first relationship i worry

50:28

she doesn't have enough previous experience

50:30

and her judgment is been clouded by being in

50:32

love for the first time the fact of

50:34

included that makes me think no matter what you

50:36

to say on her relationship will

50:38

come across as condescending and patronizing

50:41

like you're probably coming to her with far

50:43

more experience in relationships that's valid

50:45

and that's fair but she's never

50:47

going to be ah to see it be on that don't think she's

50:49

gonna see you guys as coming

50:51

to heard like the experts on love

50:53

and how she's gonna wrong or house you

50:55

guys have this experience you couldn't possibly

50:57

compared sir and i'm not

50:59

sure that's ever going to be received very

51:01

well it's not necessarily your fault but

51:03

it's not least really mindful of that even a slight

51:06

patronizing torn will be magnified

51:08

because you've reference her lack of experience

51:10

and clouded judgment and it's also like

51:12

a lack of experience is not sure

51:15

fire sign that someone doesn't know what they're

51:17

doing all are just as having

51:19

wealth of experience doesn't mean that people make ill

51:21

thought out to seasons later on and left her interactions

51:23

they married three times think she would tell

51:25

still got plenty of experience but still makes mistakes

51:28

the only thing i in a kind of sny

51:30

is that i think you can ever do is when that

51:32

are crying to you and i are upset and you

51:34

don't believe there at that happy self is

51:36

to just point that out but in no way

51:39

reference the part that to just be like you don't seem

51:41

like you vessels at the moment or you don't seem

51:44

like the happiest session you do you

51:46

feel like that and put the question in their mind

51:48

and if they say yeah i'm fine and

51:50

that kind all can do but you can only put questions

51:52

to them to say he's my observation

51:54

about how you seem to be doing do you agree with

51:56

that and leave it there yeah

51:58

i agree think the one thing hey that hurts

52:01

me to see christ i might get hit

52:02

me too for you hurting like this so often

52:05

but if you want to be a really good

52:07

best friend to lucy i truly

52:09

believe the way to be a good best friend is

52:11

to let your best friends make mistakes let them

52:13

live their life the way they will and let

52:15

them know you will be there in nyc

52:17

one on no matter how taxing it is at the time for

52:19

you you will be there for them when

52:21

things go to shit that's your role as a best

52:23

friend you to not say anything that will make

52:25

this woman leave her relationship whole hardly

52:28

believe that you can say something that will let

52:30

her know if she does leave your

52:32

and her corner yeah and i think the most

52:34

damaging thing for was that nice to have

52:36

that wedge between you all my heart

52:38

has an intervention in fact i think most

52:40

important thing is the to work out how

52:42

to get over that awkwardness that year old

52:44

and right now don't make the wedge bigger

52:47

make small i'm sorry for the shit metaphor cbs

52:51

, a good metaphor there and not yet

52:53

adorned please do not hold an intervention

52:55

i really this is one those mailbags

52:58

where i hope we got to it in time for

53:00

for hammer and many cows

53:02

intervention because can tell you right now that

53:04

will not repair repair

53:07

lead make it so i'm happy

53:09

to deputy head and if we have home

53:11

of the intervention go out to coffee

53:13

and to catch up with the best friend and let know

53:16

your mother yeah guys i think that is

53:18

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53:20

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