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K M O R E Hello?
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Hello? Hello. And welcome to another episode
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of seeds and sunshine. I
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am your host sprit EMA. While we talk
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about. All things, adulting,
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parenthood, and any other 60
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details of life that we'd like to discuss.
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If you're not following me on social media.
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With the podcast and stuff, then
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you would not know that I am no longer
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doing weekly. Every Wednesdays
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it's, um, every other Wednesday. So
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now I did not miss last Wednesday.
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I've decided to do that because life
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be lifeing and let's be for real.
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Um, I'm just not
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in a position to do that right now. But
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if I ever feel like, you know, I want
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to just. Upload
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a video. Uh, or
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upload a more content
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for. You all are just
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because I want to, um, I absolutely will
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do that. But for now,
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it is a dedicated every other
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week. Um, every other
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Wednesday schedule. So,
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um, yeah. And
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this episode is also just an audio
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because. Like
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I said, life has been lifeing and right
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now, I'm just trying
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to make, um, I'm
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trying to continue, of course,
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but I am trying to do it in a way where
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I am not stressed out and
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this is a nice outlet for me, you
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know? Um, but I
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will still be doing videos and things like that,
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but it won't probably
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be as prevalent just because
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I am. Quite the busy
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gal, especially nowadays, honey.
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Um, I don't really want to get into
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everything because, um,
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There's just so many great things
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coming to me. And, um, I'd
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rather speak on it when I have
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it. But now you
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cross out here working. Um, I'm
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not sitting on my ass shout and I'm not
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just taking care of my baby. Anyways,
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Today's episode is going to probably be as
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raw and uncut a possible.
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Because the girl really don't feel like editing today. Because
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today is actually Wednesday. Usually
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I don't do this, but here we are. I
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actually did have a video or you recorded.
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Um, But not edited.
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And. I don't
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know. I'm just not feeling like talking
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about that. Right now. so
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I decided that since
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it is. my birthday
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coming up soon. June 16th,
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me and my baby. Daddy's birthday. Tupac. Thank
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you. Pepe. and
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it's also a father's day. So
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happy. Early birthday. And father's
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day to us. Cause all these bitches are my sons.
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Uh, Yeah.
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So I really honestly
3:08
have not cared too much about
3:11
my birthday this year. Um,
3:14
I'm just focused on so many other things, but
3:17
elevate my life and
3:19
get me, you know, to the big picture.
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So. I can care less.
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I'm glad that I'm here. I'm happy that
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I'm here. Of course, for my son. Um,
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And just to do what I want to do
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and do what I love. So I'm happy to be here.
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But, um, as far as like celebrating
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and doing something big, like, or planning
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to do something big, like, I. Uh,
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usually do not really effort
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don't really care. Um, Um,
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I am happy that my cousin is coming to
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see me though. And then my. My
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mom and my sister will be following right after.
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So that's, um, that's
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a birthday present and itself. I love being
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around my family. Um,
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so. That'll be nice. Otherwise.
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Don't be hounding me about me.
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Not doing nothing for my birthday. Okay.
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It's never that deep. Anyways.
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But anyways, um, my birthday
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got me thinking. About.
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What have I learned
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in this time, on this earth?
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Um, I had seen
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videos before about, you know,
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Things that I've learned, um,
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or 25 things I've learned by 25.
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And I remember last year I
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had started. Doing
4:43
that. Um,
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However, I never finished the last.
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I never finished the list and, um,
4:53
I never did anything with it. So
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I'm going to see if I can actually try to find the notes.
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Um, But
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so today I want to just give. 26.
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26. Oh, that sound grown.
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That's sound cute. That's how sexy is crazy.
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I'm 26. I am somebody's mother.
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Okay. And. The
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world's not ready. The road is really narrow. But.
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Who I am at girl. I feel great.
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I really do. I love that for me.
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I did not find the list. I was hoping
5:35
and find the list. You know,
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and gave me a little bit. You know, And I don't
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know, sometime the buffer. But,
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um, no, I guess we're going to go straight off the down.
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I guess there's nothing more brown. In
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that, huh? So, um,
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26 things that I've learned.
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Um, by 26,
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honey. I want to say one of the first
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things that I have learned.
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Is that. Life.
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Is to be lived
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with intention. Um,
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I feel as though. Well,
6:14
no, I feel as though I know. Um,
6:17
There's just so many distractions in
6:19
the world. And there's so
6:21
much going on that, It
6:23
seems like, you know, needs our attention. Clearly
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this world is. Insanity. This
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Life is really short. Time
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goes by fast. You
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know, Um, time waste for nobody.
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And you hear. B's
6:39
sayings. And.
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I think. When
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you're younger and
6:48
you're just so full of life.
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And you have all these hopes
6:52
and dreams and aspirations.
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You know, Necessarily.
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Really. Um, focus on being
7:04
intentional. Um,
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And that doesn't mean like, oh,
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I have to be. Working
7:14
all the time or I have to be PR. Quote unquote, productive
7:16
and doing something and yada yada, yada. Because
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I also feel like, especially in the black
7:21
community, um, we feel
7:23
as though. If we're not
7:25
like. Quote, unquote, productive
7:28
doing something, working on something. Um,
7:31
like we can't just lie in bed. For
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a day. We can't regroup. We ha
7:37
we have to be doing something. Um,
7:39
too few, like we're valuable
7:42
in this world. And,
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um, I
7:47
don't think. That
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is. Necessarily,
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um, the, take them going
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when I say be intentional. Um,
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Because if you're not intentional about the life
8:02
that you're living. You're
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not living life. Your life will live. You. Time.
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Time. Oh, I
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don't think I truly understood time.
8:17
Which is a manmade concept anyways, but. I'll
8:23
put it in perspective. When I
8:25
was in high school, I felt like. And
8:28
younger. I felt like. Time
8:31
was moving exponentially. Slept.
8:34
Okay. Um,
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I was. Intentional.
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To an extent. But to me,
8:45
time was moving exponentially. Slow.
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And I felt like I had
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all peace time in the world.
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And I think a lot of us young feel like
8:56
we have all the time in the
8:58
world. Or, um,
9:01
actually now a lot of us feel like we
9:03
don't have the time. Well
9:06
to do what we want to do and accomplish, but.
9:09
Like I said during the time that I felt like I
9:11
had all the time. So
9:17
now I feel like my perspective of
9:19
time and being intentional has
9:21
changed. Um, my
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perception of time has definitely drastically changed.
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I feel quite frankly, I feel
9:29
like I don't have enough, even though as humans
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we are offered. a great
9:33
deal of time, especially if you, um,
9:36
take care of yourself properly and
9:38
are fortunate enough to not, you know, have any
9:40
significant illnesses that take you out.
9:43
Um, but
9:45
yeah, um,
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now I feel like time, whoo,
9:52
time precedes me. Time, time
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moves at an exponential rate
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to me. Um, And
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I think my perception
10:02
with that has changed with having a child
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because how can you deny time
10:10
when you see a little
10:13
human growing and developing
10:16
at an exponential rate,
10:19
right in front of your eyes? It's
10:22
hard to ignore. It's hard to ignore. I do. It's
10:24
impossible. I don't know. Are you
10:26
Delulu? It's just such a,
10:29
it's such a funny, interesting
10:32
concept that we have. Um,
10:36
so I think me
10:39
now being more intentional it's more
10:41
about. being intentional
10:44
about the big picture
10:46
for myself and for my family. always
10:49
keeping that in mind and
10:51
always moving towards that and
10:54
going towards things that serve
10:56
me in that direction of where I want
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to be. So I
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guess that's what I mean when I say being intentional,
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be intentional and living the life that
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you want to live. Um,
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Whatever that means and
11:11
you know, you can take little steps towards it
11:13
every single day every
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single day so Yeah,
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that's what I mean the intentional Another
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thing That
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I would say i'm writing this down So
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I don't really say it and um Hey,
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so I remember Um,
11:38
just to give yourself gratitude You,
11:40
well, if you have an inner
11:43
dialogue, um, which
11:46
I've found out over the years that,
11:48
you know, not everybody has an inner dialogue, which
11:50
is mind blowing to me, but if you
11:52
do have an inner dialogue, you
11:56
probably talk to yourself, but you talk
11:58
to yourself more than you talk to anybody else,
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okay? Even if it's just little things
12:03
in your head, you know what I mean? A
12:08
lot of the times, you know, you've heard
12:10
the saying, we're our, you're your
12:12
own worst critic. And it's
12:14
true, you have nothing but time
12:17
to live in your head and say whatever and feel
12:19
whatever. Um, but
12:24
a lot of the times we aren't as
12:26
kind and understanding
12:28
as we would be as if we
12:30
were talking to a friend who's,
12:33
um, going through the same thing, or
12:35
feeling the same thing, or made
12:37
the same mistakes, etc, etc.
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also in saying giving yourself gratitude,
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and saying that, also like, thank yourself.
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Constantly, you pat yourself
12:49
on the back, say it out loud,
12:51
say it in your head, think your brain, like,
12:56
All these little pieces of
12:58
you coming together. it
13:00
seems so, I
13:02
feel like we make life seem
13:05
so ordinary. Just
13:08
like I feel like we, um, think
13:10
of getting birth just so ordinary.
13:13
Like, yeah, that's just the thing that women do.
13:16
Um, I think that it's
13:19
extraordinary. I think we're extraordinary.
13:22
I think we're
13:24
like extraterrestrial creatures.
13:27
We're the aliens.
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Okay. Like, I think
13:33
it's not just something That should
13:35
be so, just so
13:37
overlooked, I guess, is
13:40
what I want to say. but yeah, we really owe
13:42
ourselves a lot of
13:46
the gratitude and the thanks. Pat
13:49
yourself on the back, thank
13:52
yourself, thank your brain, for
13:54
all the hard work that it does, for
13:57
everything. Allowing you to get up
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and do all these things. Thank
14:01
you brain for allowing all those
14:04
processes to keep on processing
14:06
correctly. Okay. I
14:10
mean, some of y'all like to thank God and
14:13
you can do that too, but you can thank
14:15
yourself as well. Thank yourself.
14:19
Thank yourself. Show
14:22
gratitude and be kind. Not
14:24
to just everybody else, but yourself.
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Honestly. You first.
14:30
How about that? Another
14:34
thing that I would say
14:36
is learn
14:39
patience. Okay.
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Patience is the thing that we have
14:44
to learn and we have
14:46
to exercise it like a muscle.
14:50
because having a lack of patience can
14:52
really get you outside of your body. for
14:56
little, small, insignificant
14:58
things. Um, and
15:01
also I think the lack of patience
15:05
says, it usually says
15:07
a lot more about you
15:10
than, um, than
15:13
anybody else involved or anything else that's
15:15
going on. It's, it's really more
15:17
about you. Um, and I'm not gonna
15:19
say like in some instances it's not, um,
15:22
the cause for it for you to. Lack
15:25
a little bit patience or speak up or whatever
15:28
Um, especially dealing with other people because don't
15:30
let people play with your time. Okay We
15:34
can't get that back we're intentional about time
15:36
right so don't let people play with you but
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But um definitely
15:44
learn patience learn
15:46
patience patience patience It
15:48
is instant essential in every
15:50
um I feel like in every
15:52
aspect, in every, um,
15:56
every day, every day you wake up honey, whether
15:59
it's patience with others, patience with yourself,
16:02
you need to
16:04
learn patience. And
16:07
especially, most definitely,
16:09
if you want kids, do
16:12
not, do
16:14
not, do not. If you
16:16
know that you have a real issue, a
16:18
real issue with being patient.
16:22
Do not go and have them kids. I swear
16:24
to god It
16:26
won't help you it won't help you
16:29
okay, don't do it You
16:31
need to get some patience first You
16:34
need to practice This is
16:36
something you have to practice all the time every
16:38
day all day. You will be tested. You
16:40
will be tested and You
16:43
know, sometimes you won't you won't ace
16:45
it. Okay, but at
16:48
least Since you
16:50
grasped patience, you can probably
16:52
recognize that, hey,
16:55
damn, maybe I was stripping off more than
16:57
normal patience, so I can work on that the next
16:59
time, or I know the next time that, da
17:01
da da da. You know? Because, definitely, sometimes
17:03
I get an out of body too, and
17:05
I lose my motherfucking patience,
17:08
and then, you know, you reflect. A
17:10
little bit later and you're like, uh, Me
17:13
personally, it'd be like a second later and I'd be like, Okay,
17:15
well you didn't really have to act like
17:18
that. You didn't really have to react like that. You could've
17:20
been more patient. Or you could've been more calm. Do
17:22
you know what I mean? So yeah.
17:25
Learn patience.
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Okay, what number are we on? Number four.
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Okay. Number
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four, I would say
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Don't get caught up in the friend's
17:39
hype and learn how to be
17:41
a good friend. I'm gonna put that home and
17:44
when I say get caught up in the friends hype is
17:50
Cuz even I have and
17:52
not necessarily just because of people
17:55
But you know when you when
17:57
you're on social media, and you see
17:59
A group of friends, you know, who are
18:01
having a good time and it
18:04
seemed like they have a really good support system,
18:06
yada, yada, yada. You know, everybody's
18:09
besties, everybody shows up for one
18:11
another, everybody's doing their thing, and it
18:13
just looks like it's beautiful, you know what I mean?
18:16
So it looks like something
18:18
you'd wish you'd have like in a friend group.
18:21
You wish you had more of a community, and
18:25
maybe your friends and
18:27
community don't look like
18:30
how you want them to show
18:32
up, I guess, in your world, so you
18:34
see somebody else and
18:38
it seems like, you
18:40
know, wow.
18:44
Having more friends would be great.
18:48
And I'm not saying that it's not. Um,
18:50
especially because, you know, it is harder as
18:54
you get older for whatever reason, or
18:56
I don't know if it's just in the 20s
18:58
type thing, that, um, it's
19:00
just difficult to make friends.
19:03
I'm not sure what that's about, but it's
19:05
just seemingly so difficult. And
19:07
honestly, I think I want to blame social
19:09
media a bit. I'm not going to haunt you.
19:12
I'm going to blame social media. I'm
19:15
going to blame the, um,
19:17
work. Of course, honey, because
19:20
child, we be at work. Or we got stuff to do.
19:23
Um, so who has time
19:25
to go out and make friends? Not everybody wants
19:27
to be friends with their damn coworkers. The hell?
19:29
But everybody's
19:32
like, Oh, like they want their own
19:34
little amazing little friend group, And
19:36
yadda yadda yadda. And I think
19:38
that's, of course, that's nice, that's lovely,
19:40
And honestly, it might be ideal. I
19:43
think it's ideal for me. Honestly, I would love,
19:45
I think a community like that. I really
19:47
do. Um, and I think it
19:49
might be ideal for a lot of people.
19:52
However, however, however, um,
19:56
The second half of this number four was
19:58
learn how to be a good friend. Um,
20:01
I don't think that a lot of you
20:03
all know how to be a good friend.
20:06
Decent friend. And I don't
20:08
think you all understand
20:10
Decent friend. Or a lot of people understand
20:12
how to really maintain
20:15
certain relationships. And
20:18
to have a good friend, I think you have
20:20
to be a good friend. You
20:22
don't just, you don't just get a friend.
20:25
Well, hopefully you don't just get a friend and you're
20:28
not being a good friend to them as well. Um,
20:30
it's a trade off and it takes
20:33
time. It takes energy.
20:35
It takes, it takes a lot of stuff. Um,
20:39
And I can say for myself right now,
20:42
in this, space that I'm in, I
20:45
don't think I really have the capacity
20:47
to develop and upkeep new relationships,
20:50
at least not the way that I would want
20:52
to. I
20:54
don't think I could show up as the great
20:56
friend that I know I am and
20:59
can be at this moment to new people,
21:01
you know what I mean? And I wish
21:03
that a lot of other people would
21:07
take accountability and kind of stay the same.
21:10
Cause a lot of you guys aren't
21:12
good friends, aren't good people to be
21:15
in any type of relationship with, whether
21:17
it be platonic, or romantic
21:19
or whatever, so,
21:23
that's my thing. So it's like, don't get caught
21:25
up in the whole, Friends
21:28
thing because it's not just,
21:30
you know, going out and having fun
21:33
and having a good time. You're
21:36
supposed to be there for your friends, child.
21:38
And a lot of y'all need to learn how to
21:40
be a good friend. Number
21:46
five. Don't
21:51
take it personal. Don't
21:54
take it personal, honey.
21:57
You know when I say, I mean about any
21:59
and everything. Um,
22:04
but specifically when dealing with people. Child,
22:07
don't take it personal. People
22:10
are people. People are human just like
22:12
you. We have feelings,
22:15
triggers, all these neurons,
22:17
processes. It's a whole lot of stuff
22:20
going on. People got their own
22:22
lives. You are the main character
22:24
in your life and
22:26
other people are the main character in their own lives. So
22:29
if you got a whole lot of stuff going on, you
22:34
can assume they also got
22:36
a whole bunch of stuff going on. So
22:39
it's not always about you.
22:42
It's, it's, it's not. Okay?
22:46
It's not. I say this like that because
22:48
um, it,
22:52
it is very annoying to try to tell people
22:55
like, baby,
22:58
kind of get over yourself because I'm
23:01
not tripping about you. I got other
23:03
shit that I'm worried about. It's not about
23:05
you, so don't, don't
23:07
take it personal. You, you, you.
23:13
Don't take it personal.
23:16
cause I feel like if you start to
23:18
take shit personally
23:21
that people didn't direct to you.
23:24
Babes, you're gonna go crazy. You're
23:29
gonna start assigning
23:31
things to you that wasn't even
23:33
for you. Now we got if
23:35
the shoe, if the shoe fits, then
23:38
hey, don't wear it. And, and that's what
23:40
you wanna do. And even when the shoe don't fit, you'll
23:43
not break them mos in. So
23:47
like I said, don't take it personal,
23:50
like, don't take it personal. I
23:53
remember, a recent,
23:56
thing of me not taking it personal.
23:59
Um, my friend,
24:02
I had texted her, I
24:04
think, just saying I missed her
24:07
or something, and I don't
24:09
think she had responded, and she
24:11
hadn't responded for days, and
24:13
it really wasn't like her. It's not like
24:15
her at all. Um, so
24:18
I was just talking to my other friend about it, and I was like, hmm,
24:21
it's really not like her. So,
24:23
Um, I don't feel no type of way.
24:25
I just like, you know, I hope things are
24:27
fine. I hope she's doing okay. Um,
24:30
and we'll just see. But it's not
24:32
like her. That's a little weird. I don't
24:34
wanna feel No, I was like, you know, I don't wanna feel no type
24:36
of way, but, um, it's just, it's
24:39
not like her, but whatever. Um,
24:41
dare two goes by, which
24:44
is fine. 'cause girl, y'all,
24:47
me and my Texan skills, they
24:53
have gone down the train. I
24:55
used to be an amazing texter. Amazing.
25:00
Now, so so. It depends on the
25:02
day. It depends on the time.
25:04
It depends on a lot. But anyways,
25:06
yeah, she didn't, um, text back.
25:08
And I was just like, you know, I don't want to take it
25:10
personally, but that's, you know, that's not like her. I hope
25:12
she's fine. A few
25:15
days go by, like I said, and
25:17
she hits me back. And I'm just like, okay,
25:22
because now what if I took it personally?
25:25
I know some people would have taken that shit personally
25:28
and by the first or second day, if they didn't respond,
25:31
their notifications would have been muted. If they would
25:33
have blocked them or they would have done some extra shit. And
25:38
that's just a little example. But
25:40
I do feel like in every day,
25:43
like there's just a lot of different examples
25:45
or where people be
25:47
projected and just take stuff on.
25:50
And you shouldn't, don't take it personally.
25:54
Relax. Relax.
25:58
And that's where I say
26:01
y'all need to learn how to communicate. Okay.
26:09
Learn to articulate
26:11
your feelings, your emotions,
26:15
not passive aggressively. Okay.
26:19
When I say communicate, I mean, when
26:22
you communicate, this is
26:24
how I say it. You need to be
26:26
direct. Okay.
26:29
You need to be empathetic. Okay,
26:34
you also when we're talking about communicating
26:37
to that doesn't mean you're doing all the talking so that
26:39
means you need to actively listen You need
26:41
to know how to actively listen. You
26:43
need to know how to comprehend
26:47
What is being said to you and
26:55
I don't know but the those those
26:58
are the tips For y'all learn
27:01
how to communicate. It is essential.
27:03
It is a essential Okay,
27:07
I don't mean communicate over the goddamn telephone, communicate,
27:09
well, okay, telephone is different. But,
27:13
I mean, I don't mean communicating over text, email,
27:15
none of that, social media. Communicating.
27:20
Verbally communicating and
27:22
articulating what
27:25
it is that you're feeling, which you want to
27:27
convey to the other person, being
27:29
able to actively listen, comprehend,
27:32
respond appropriately. Okay? Okay?
27:36
That's what y'all need to work on. But
27:41
yes, I think, um,
27:45
Number six, learn how to communicate.
27:48
Um, very
27:51
valuable information. Number,
27:54
what number was that? Oh, okay, so number
27:56
seven, honey. Number
27:59
seven. Hmm.
28:02
I, I would say, Hmm. Don't,
28:07
don't limit yourself based on
28:10
others opinions or beliefs.
28:13
Don't do that. Don't do that. One,
28:16
because first of all, as
28:19
far as we know, we only have one life to live
28:21
and you have to live it. Nobody
28:23
else. So why would you, why
28:26
would you, why would you
28:28
ever change or
28:30
limit or alter anything? because
28:32
of somebody else's opinions or beliefs. Trash
28:35
that immediately. Um,
28:38
two, everybody has
28:41
opinions and beliefs or people.
28:44
It is what it is. Whether
28:47
their opinion or beliefs align with
28:49
yours, it
28:52
doesn't really matter. It
28:55
doesn't really matter, especially if you're not
28:57
it doesn't really matter. Also.
29:01
Guess that's not the reason is because
29:03
we live in a world where there's just infinite
29:06
amount of opportunities
29:09
and things to do, and things to accomplish and think
29:11
experiences and things like that. So why would
29:13
you ever, because
29:16
they don't know it all either. So
29:19
why would you ever listen to somebody who don't even know everything?
29:22
And if somebody tell you that they know everything they do they
29:25
some motherfucking lie and you should get away
29:27
quickly. The hell? And also I just think it
29:29
holds yourself back. It holds
29:32
yourself back from amazing opportunities
29:37
from what, what aligns
29:39
with you and your values and what you want
29:41
out of life. So
29:44
don't ever. Don't ever
29:46
limit yourself. If people, if everybody
29:49
limit themselves based on other
29:52
opinions or beliefs, we would never
29:54
progress in any type of way. It
29:58
would be absolutely horrific. I
30:01
think also, I think people also limit
30:03
themselves because of what they
30:06
think people are going to say.
30:08
Like people are, people are going to think, um,
30:11
before they've even said or thought anything,
30:13
you know, we
30:15
perceive. What a reaction
30:17
is going to be and you know, sometimes we
30:20
limit ourselves based off of that and
30:22
it's just such a disservice to not only ourselves,
30:25
but potentially the world.
30:28
You don't know what kind of difference you can make.
30:31
And we can all make a difference. The
30:33
hell? Gee. You
30:37
see what we've done already? Now
30:39
I know it looks crazy and it looks a mess.
30:43
But really think about all that we've done already.
30:46
All that you've done yourself already.
30:50
Big yourself up. Stop. Stop
30:53
it. Stop it. Y'all
30:55
will never get anywhere in life if you limit yourself.
30:59
This is the limitless
31:01
life. And
31:04
if you limit yourself, you are
31:06
gonna limit your, You just
31:08
limit everything. You limit yourself, then
31:10
that limits, I feel like, things that, potential
31:13
opportunities and things and experiences
31:16
that align with you, um,
31:18
you'll be limited to
31:21
how they come to you, um,
31:23
if they come to you. Because
31:27
if you really
31:30
want this one thing,
31:32
then you need to be focused
31:35
and about and have the big picture
31:37
of, hey, I'm gonna get
31:39
there. Instead
31:41
of being scary and saying
31:44
no, no, no, I'm gonna stay over here because There's
31:47
this and that Stuff
31:49
outside of your control Hang
31:53
it up. Hang it up
31:56
Number eight. Number
31:59
eight is, I'm
32:01
kind of throwing shots with this one but
32:05
number eight is you do not
32:07
have to know everything and
32:12
heavy on the, you'll
32:14
never. And
32:19
if you think you know everything, you're stupid.
32:22
And I said what I said, I think you're
32:24
dumb as rocks. If you think, if you really
32:26
think that you know everything, I think you're stupid as fuck.
32:31
Because that's a limited mindset to me.
32:34
For you to believe that you know everything, you
32:37
don't, you don't. I've always said
32:39
it. I hate people who walk around
32:41
with the arrogance about them
32:43
that they know it all. Because it
32:46
just shows to me that you don't and it just, to
32:48
me, it just points out in every
32:50
area that you lack when
32:53
you think you know it all. I
32:56
know nothing, as far as I'm concerned,
32:58
and I'm okay with that. I'm
33:01
okay with that. And
33:03
then also, I don't know what it is with
33:05
a lot of you that feel like you have to like
33:08
figure out the world and you
33:10
need answers. Calm
33:13
down. How
33:17
about y'all figure out something else,
33:19
like, figure out how
33:21
to make them cancel our student debt instead
33:24
of y'all arguing
33:26
about, No, the earth is really
33:28
flat. Or
33:31
y'all worried about, Why
33:34
this is this and is this the only
33:37
life we live? Well if you spend the
33:39
whole time worrying about is this the only life we
33:41
live, this life gon pass yo
33:43
ass and I guess you gon see it end. I'm like, I
33:45
don't, I don't know. What
33:48
more do you want? What more do you want?
33:51
I feel like when you're, when you're in your head feeling
33:53
like you have to, feeling
33:56
crazy because you don't know anything or you
33:58
have to figure out everything or you have to, you
34:00
just have to know this. Are
34:03
you living? Like what do you do?
34:05
What are you actually doing? What
34:09
are you doing? Why is it keeping you
34:12
up at night? Why?
34:15
I think the beauty in life
34:17
is that we don't know everything. Literally,
34:20
how boring of a journey
34:23
would this be if we all
34:26
knew everything? How
34:29
boring? How boring? How
34:33
How many of us would sit there
34:36
and play a video game over
34:38
and over and over again
34:42
if we had
34:44
to do the exact same
34:47
thing over Thing to
34:49
the T. Because
34:53
we knew everything. What,
34:55
where's the fun in that video game? Where's
34:58
the fun? The
35:00
fun is in the constant
35:02
change. The only thing in
35:05
life that is constant is change.
35:08
The unknowing. That's,
35:11
that's what makes this so fun and
35:13
special. If everything
35:16
went your way, sure,
35:18
maybe you would love it. Maybe you would, maybe
35:21
you would say that you love it. How
35:25
boring. You
35:29
know, just like they say, you
35:32
know, with the rain and the sun. What,
35:36
what they say with the rain and the sun, you know,
35:38
to um, or the
35:40
rainbow, you know, to see the rainbow,
35:43
you gotta rain, something like that. I don't fucking
35:45
know. But the point is,
35:48
you gotta have both. Okay.
35:53
And it's fine not to know everything and to
35:55
live in the unknown. I
35:57
honestly figured that out a long time
35:59
ago. I, I wish a lot
36:01
of people would join. Like, do you know
36:03
how many, how many people in
36:06
the brain cells that were used and abused
36:10
to try to figure out something that I feel
36:12
really, you ain't even got no business
36:14
trying to figure it out. Keep it pushing
36:17
and live the life that you want to live before
36:20
it lives you. Number
36:24
nine, I'd
36:28
say do
36:31
it all, do everything.
36:34
Do everything. Everything
36:37
that your heart desires.
36:40
And whether it looks quote
36:43
unquote correct. And
36:45
I don't mean correct in like, I
36:48
guess I mean correct in like the path.
36:50
Cause you know, everybody
36:53
has their own path. Um,
36:55
and your path, your
36:57
journey of course may not look correct
37:00
to everybody. And the things
37:03
you do and um, participate
37:05
in might not look like
37:08
that for everybody. But I still say
37:10
do it all. Whether
37:12
it be You
37:14
know, activities that you want to
37:16
do, whether it be
37:19
different careers that you want to go into,
37:21
whether you want to move
37:25
50 million times, whether
37:28
you want to, whatever.
37:31
Do it all. Do
37:34
it all when you can. I
37:36
mean, I still got a long
37:38
ways to go. But
37:41
I think I can say, I
37:43
really don't have any regrets
37:46
in my life so far. I really
37:49
don't think I can say, be like, sit here and
37:51
say like, Ooh, I
37:53
truly regret that. Because
37:56
I feel like for the most part, I've
37:58
done it all. What
38:01
I've really wanted to do. Whether
38:04
it look right in the moment to anybody,
38:07
whatever, I just do it. Do
38:11
it and go full speed ahead. And
38:14
hey, if it doesn't work out, if you don't enjoy
38:16
it, whatever, whatever it is, then
38:19
hey, well at least you can say that
38:21
you did it. cause I feel like in my
38:23
life so far, with
38:26
even all that is yet to come
38:28
and to be accomplished, Shit,
38:33
I think I lived a pretty damn
38:35
good life, and
38:37
I'm proud of myself. Yeah,
38:43
do it all people. You know, I've moved
38:45
to states where I have never even
38:48
stepped foot in before I moved there
38:50
just because I said yeah. I'm
38:53
gonna go, and I'm gonna do it.
38:56
Um, it's
38:58
made me meet some amazing people
39:00
that I still keep in touch with
39:02
today. It's made
39:05
me, um, just
39:08
see different parts of the world, child, and
39:10
just see how they live. And, um,
39:13
it's always been, for the most
39:16
part, an amazing experience. Just
39:18
doing what I feel
39:21
I should do. Which is doing what
39:23
whatever my heart desires.
39:27
So just do it, like Nike.
39:30
Okay, they said, they knew,
39:32
they knew, just do it. Number
39:36
10, health and
39:38
wellness. Okay,
39:44
this is something that I've learned,
39:47
but I am still working on. when
39:49
it comes to the health and wellness thing.
39:52
Um, I
39:55
don't feel like it was drilled
39:57
into a lot of kids or
40:00
to a lot of people in general. Um,
40:03
how much,
40:07
okay. I feel like we were taught this scientific
40:09
way of, you know, what's
40:11
inside our body and how it works
40:14
per se, per se. But
40:16
there is never really
40:20
This deep connection,
40:24
per se, I guess, between
40:27
like, the person, at
40:30
least I'll speak for myself, especially as a
40:32
child, um, I
40:35
don't know, to like really get in tune with
40:38
your body. I
40:41
don't feel like I've ever, um,
40:43
actively tried to get in tune
40:45
with my body until
40:47
I was around 23,
40:50
24. And
40:52
that's when I started to feel like, Oh,
40:56
okay. Okay.
40:59
I don't know, where I just understood and I just
41:01
felt, I felt the best that I
41:03
had. Probably
41:07
all my life. Yeah,
41:11
that is extremely,
41:13
extremely, extremely important.
41:17
And for me personally, I mean, when you, when
41:19
I think, and
41:21
it speaks to how your
41:23
body responds to
41:26
how important it is. It really does.
41:29
I can tell a major difference, of course, when
41:32
I'm, Um, consistently
41:34
exercising and eating well,
41:38
and I can tell the difference when I'm
41:40
not as mobile
41:42
and not eating well, or
41:44
at all, or enough, um,
41:49
and, yikes, is
41:51
what I can say is, yikes, I
41:54
really wish that we were, taught
41:57
how food and plants
41:59
really are medicine and
42:01
how, they interact with our
42:04
bodies and things like that.
42:06
I truly wish we were taught that and
42:09
it was instilled in us as
42:12
children. I
42:15
really hope to instill
42:18
that in my children. That,
42:20
you know, food and plants or medicine
42:22
and being in tune with your body and knowing
42:24
and listening to your body is extremely
42:27
important. I feel like we listen to our body
42:30
in different ways, but we don't always
42:33
listen to it when it comes to the health
42:35
and aspects, health, health
42:38
and wellness aspect of it. Um,
42:40
I think we listen when, you know, We
42:43
listen when we're in pain
42:45
sometimes, or we listen
42:48
when we have like a gut feeling.
42:51
Um, but again, I don't
42:53
necessarily feel like a lot of people are really
42:55
in tune with
42:58
their bodies and are listening
43:03
to their bodies to then do
43:05
better for their bodies.
43:07
You know what I mean? And you only
43:09
got one. So,
43:14
y'all better make that shit work. Make that shit shake.
43:16
Y'all better get up and move, work.
43:19
Okay, if you don't want nobody wiping your ass,
43:21
then get up. Get up.
43:26
Be consistent and get up, literally.
43:28
Um, working in a nursing
43:30
rehabilitation home was
43:33
an absolutely amazing, amazing,
43:35
amazing, amazing experience. and
43:37
it was very, inspirational
43:40
to see an 103
43:43
year old up every morning,
43:46
up walking, making laps around
43:49
the nursing home and
43:52
just reading and dancing.
43:57
We would dance sometimes and things like that.
43:59
And you know, I, she's getting
44:01
up, she's moving, she's eating
44:04
well. You know what I mean?
44:06
And it, it seems
44:10
really these, when
44:12
I'm saying it, it seems like such a minute
44:15
change, but I understand like, especially
44:18
living in America, how
44:21
intricate and difficult
44:23
it can be to do
44:25
better and eat better and the access
44:27
to these things, um, and
44:30
to exercise and things like that. Um,
44:34
I do know it's so difficult,
44:37
but if you can't do it, It'll
44:41
only be, it'll only
44:43
be great for you and your health. Health
44:47
really is wealth. Because
44:50
if you don't have your health, yeah, I
44:52
mean essentially you have nothing. Number
44:55
eleven, I would say,
45:00
Lean on your
45:03
support system and maintain
45:05
those important relationships.
45:08
I'm putting that all in one. For
45:11
me, it's
45:13
always been very difficult to
45:17
lean on people and ask for help. Um,
45:21
Since the birth of my son and,
45:23
when I was pregnant with him, it had gotten a lot
45:25
better and it's progressively getting
45:28
better. As well
45:30
as me leaning on them and me being more
45:32
open, I guess, and upfront about
45:36
certain things. Like
45:38
in my life or I guess things that I think
45:41
are important to me Just I
45:43
don't know cuz I feel like sometimes I've been closed
45:45
off I'm like
45:48
people don't really know what's going on with me. And it's like
45:50
I don't Well,
45:52
sometimes I do it purposefully
45:55
but um Not
45:57
all the time Not
46:00
all the time. So I've gotten
46:02
better with that, and I've definitely gotten
46:04
better with, like I said, um,
46:07
just reaching out to people when I
46:10
need, when I need help. I
46:13
don't like to, and I
46:15
kind of refuse now to sit for in silence.
46:17
Like, that's not really a thing of mine. If
46:20
I feel something, I'm gonna
46:22
say it. And also, like I said,
46:24
like maintaining those important relationships.
46:28
I definitely need to work on that because
46:31
I feel like, you know, I'd be lifing, but
46:33
I also feel like that's not an excuse. Um,
46:38
but I do try, you know,
46:40
when I think of people, I try
46:42
to just text them in the moment
46:44
or call them in the moment, right when I'm
46:46
thinking of them, because a
46:48
lot of times if I don't like a lot
46:50
of time will go by and,
46:52
um, Yeah,
46:55
unfortunately, like, I just won't talk to
46:58
them and, um,
47:01
I'm already really bad at texting. So,
47:04
it's just, it's just a whole thing. It's,
47:06
it's something that I'm struggling
47:09
with a bit and I'm just trying to juggle,
47:12
I'm just trying to juggle a lot of things
47:14
at once. There's a lot of moving
47:16
pieces, a lot of new things happening,
47:19
so it's. It's
47:21
hard, but family and friends,
47:24
I really am trying my best. I'm
47:26
trying my best. I really am, but I
47:28
will, I know I will get to a place
47:30
where it
47:33
won't be like that. And
47:35
not only will I be able to stay in
47:37
touch more, but I'll be able
47:39
to see everybody more consistently,
47:42
so I'm
47:44
excited about that. It's all
47:46
gonna come together in due time, it's
47:49
just, I kind
47:51
of hate that it's like this now,
47:53
but not for long guys,
47:55
not for long. Number
47:58
twelve. I
48:01
would say don't take yourself too seriously. Again,
48:05
I'm working on that. But
48:07
like, don't. Like, Why?
48:10
Why do you need to be so uptight and so
48:13
serious for? Loosen up a bit.
48:15
You know what I mean? In all settings. Just
48:17
be. Just
48:20
be. Yeah,
48:24
you don't have to take yourself too seriously. You don't
48:26
have to be a certain
48:29
way all the time. You know what I mean? Loosen
48:31
up. It's okay. Show
48:34
yourself. Let yourself shine. You
48:36
really don't know the
48:38
type of people and opportunities,
48:41
experiences, and things and stuff like that,
48:44
that will come
48:46
to you just being you, just
48:48
showing yourself to
48:50
whomever, you know what I mean? So
48:55
loosen up and let those wings
48:57
fly, honey. Stop having,
49:00
like, imposter syndrome
49:02
or Second guessing yourself,
49:04
just, what I say, just
49:07
do it. Like Nike. Don't take
49:09
yourself too seriously. Life's
49:11
too short for that. And,
49:14
number thirteen. We're
49:17
gonna end this, um, in
49:21
this episode here on number 13,
49:24
half of 26, honey. And
49:28
I guess I'll see you, next week
49:30
with part two, but half
49:34
of 26, 13.
49:36
Hmm. I
49:39
would say, look what I've learned.
49:42
I learned that this is a video
49:45
game. This
49:47
is a video game. And
49:52
You know, instantly I started thinking about sims.
49:55
This is, I am a sim character. This
49:59
is a video game. I am,
50:01
you know, always creating
50:05
and altering my character.
50:09
I am always evolving.
50:12
I
50:14
have created a family. But,
50:18
um, thinking about life
50:21
as a video game and
50:23
yourself as like a character, and
50:25
you know, I think really simplifies
50:28
and makes it,
50:32
makes life a little, a little
50:34
less serious, a
50:36
little more forgiving, and you
50:38
just, you know, You instantly understand
50:41
it on a different level, like,
50:43
this is literally a video
50:46
game. It's a video game.
50:49
The world is the console. Now
50:52
if we don't get this, Global
50:56
warming and pollution and all this stuff
50:58
together, the console
51:00
gone. Shut off,
51:03
but We're never talking about
51:05
that. Um But
51:08
for real, this is a video game and
51:11
that also makes me feel so much better
51:13
about life, too when you think about
51:15
it in the video game, like Because
51:19
what do you do in the video game? Yeah, you
51:21
explore, you do all the stuff, but uh, but
51:24
um You can fail
51:27
And that's okay Cuz
51:29
you know why? You just
51:31
restart the game again. That's
51:34
all you do. You just restart. And
51:38
then, it's brand new. So
51:41
if you just restart, everything's
51:44
fine. It's
51:46
literally like it never happened. But,
51:50
it did happen, now you have the knowledge.
51:53
Now you have the knowledge, right? So
51:56
play it again. Play the game again. Play
52:00
it however many times. You're
52:02
gonna win. Winner
52:04
of the odds Come on. The
52:07
odds are for you. You're gonna win. This
52:10
is a video game. None of this stuff matters.
52:14
Okay, it does. It does matter, guys. Don't,
52:16
don't take it to heart. It does
52:18
matter. But, Not the little
52:21
stuff. Don't sweat the little
52:23
stuff. This is just a video
52:25
game. You're just creating
52:27
your character. Just going through life. Bye. That's
52:31
it. It's
52:33
pretty simple here guys, you
52:35
know. Now there's a lot of other
52:37
variables that are outside of
52:40
our control, but we focus on what we can control.
52:42
All right,
52:46
this is a video game. Oh
52:48
my goodness. Anyways,
52:52
like I said, we're going to end on number 13
52:54
because if we continue we're going to be here all day. And
52:57
that's not what I want. And I don't
52:59
think that's what you want either. And even if you
53:02
did want it, honey, you're not getting it from me, not today.
53:04
But I hope that
53:06
you guys enjoyed
53:09
this a little bit. And it made you
53:11
think. Think about what you've learned.
53:14
And, or what you need to continue learning.
53:18
Um, y'all got stuff to work on. We're
53:20
all works in progress. Nobody's
53:23
perfect. I don't aim to be. I
53:25
just aim to be me. My little character
53:27
in this game. And I can
53:29
say that I'm very proud of myself
53:32
and my character. I love I love
53:34
this game. I love this game This
53:36
game this game has been you
53:39
know, all that's come with it.
53:41
I have some talents this game has been Pretty
53:45
damn good. I'm, sorry Pretty
53:48
damn good So
53:54
I hope you guys Continue
53:58
to love the
54:00
video game that you're in. And
54:03
if not, baby, put
54:06
another disc in, okay? Put
54:08
another disc in, that's it. Play
54:11
with different rules. But
54:15
I think that wraps
54:17
this episode up. You
54:20
know, the sun has officially set
54:22
on this episode of Stage and Sunshine.
54:25
I thank you all for rocking with me through
54:27
this, you know, transition kind of crazy
54:30
time. Uh,
54:32
I'm trying to keep it going strong,
54:34
y'all. I feel
54:37
like from the beginning, it's just been
54:39
kind of a lot of stuff getting in the
54:41
way of this, but I
54:43
am not over it. Finished.
54:46
Okay. So, we're gonna
54:48
keep going. I'm
54:50
gonna keep, um, playing this part of the video
54:52
game as much as I can. And,
54:56
I hope that you guys have an amazing,
54:59
amazing weekend. thank
55:01
you to all the amazing fathers out
55:03
there, we need you, we love you, we support you,
55:06
and happy father's day to you,
55:09
and a happy birthday to me, all you bitches
55:11
is my sons, let
55:14
me get off this microphone and stop playing y'all. Like
55:16
I said, I hope y'all have a fabulous weekend.
55:18
Happy Juneteenth. Happy birthday to me. Happy
55:21
Father's Day and Woop
55:23
woop, let's turn up Signing
55:27
off Oh,
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