Tanya Geisler brings her A-game to the seemingly confounding issue of an intolerable colleague, offering an invitation to solve a much deeper problem. TG is to me, a walking hug! She emanates deep compassion and grounded wisdom with a real mischievousness that I just adore. Tanya is a leadership coach with expertise in navigating the choppy waters of imposter complex.  I couldn’t imagine a more perfect Aunty to help our letter writer today!

Today we are talking about the necessity of breaking old stories to step into your own power.

Dear Aunties,

I love the first two episodes and felt compelled to write in hope that I can get some perspective on an issue that is making me crazy.

Six months after I joined the agency, my boss and the guy who employed and mentored me, left for another company.

Our team then had six months where a manager from another team sort of managed us, while they found a replacement. In that time I really stepped up and tried to fill in my old bosses shoes – I worked late, volunteered for projects and was asked by our GM to report on team progress at the executive meetings.

It was terrifying and also exciting and I learnt a lot. But when they (finally) interviewed for the manager role, I just didn’t feel like I had the experience or the confidence to go for it and no one really said anything to encourage me to apply, so I didn’t.

I’ve spent the last couple of years slowly hating my job more and more. Our new manager is a bloody sociopath who doesn’t share information, bitches to me about other team members and takes credit for my ideas. She relies on me so much and sways from treating me like her best pal, to putting me down in meeting in front of others. I find her both infuriating and intimidating.

And I don’t know if this matters but physically, she is absolutely beautiful – our GM and the other (all male) members of the management team seems completely in love with her.
Our company is quite sociable (we are a marketing agency) and she is known as real party animal. The clients love her and so on the outside she looks like she is very successful so no one seems to question how she manages our team.

I resent her SO much and I hate who she is turning me into – cynical and bitchy and completely uninspired to change my current circumstance. I know I need to leave but I worry that she will give me a horrible reference and I am doomed to stay here forever.

Help!

Rebecca,
London

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Over to you wise and gentle listener. Have you dealt with a difficult colleague? What advice would you give Rebecca? 

Please note today’s episode contains a few swears. All comments will be moderated.

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