We are looking at the parable of the tax collector and the Pharisee. Jesus tells this parable because "some trusted in their own goodness." The 'good' man thanks God he is not like all those 'bad' people, while the 'bad' man simply begs God to have mercy on him. In a society full of "us-them" narratives (in which we so often assure ourselves "they" are the problem, not "us"), Jesus' words could not be more relevant. The current vitriol and animus in our society have a very tangible solution... that almost no one wants to embrace. Let's talk about Jesus restoring our joy through “Restoring Humility” (Luke 18:9-14).

Discussion Questions

Should we judge or not judge? Give examples of good judging and bad judging. The Apostle Paul judged people and that was good. The Pharisee in our parable judged people and that was bad. What’s the difference?

Heroes in movies and literature have flaws and weaknesses. Which hero is one of your favorites, and do you identify with them in some way? Is that why you’re drawn to them?

Pharisees were considered ‘the good guys’ in their day. What were some of the reasons for this, listed in the sermon? What are the features of today’s so-called ‘good people’? Would Jesus call-out these people if he were here today, like He did of the Pharisees in Matthew 23? Who exactly would He affirm as ‘good people’ today? Recall the Beatitudes in Matthew 5:1-12.

How have you used your apparent goodness as a weapon to smash other people?

How does the Pharisee in the parable show a self-centered relationship with God? What does a YOU-centered relationship with God look like versus a GOD-centered relationship, in your own life?

We tend to point out particular forms of ugliness in people, like selfishness, deception, arrogance, indulgence, insecurity, incompetence, etc. What forms set you off the most? Can you confess an ugliness about you that you’re embarrassed or ashamed about?

Rather than weaponize your goodness to rise up over others, what does the opposite look like? What does God want you to do in the presence of those you don’t want to be like?

Gospel: Jesus wept over our ugliness. There was no spec on Him, but He took on the weight and freight of the log in our own eye. He loved us rather than smash us.