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Up next Out Wow what you don't know
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called part of the Gang, which switch actually football.
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I don't know about you, but I need a break
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from politics, so we're gonna do something
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fun and a little different this week. Trust
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me, you will want to stick around. This is
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Out Loud with Gianna Callblow. Welcome
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Back to Allow with Gianno Caldwell. I got
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a very special show for you guys this week. For
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the first time, I'm having on two guests. They're
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good friends of mine. I've been to their
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homes, spend time with them, and
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they are great, great people. I'm talking about
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Mike Hill and Cynthia Bailey Hill, a
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power couple have been mary since October of
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last year. Mike is a veteran broadcaster
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and television personality who currently works
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at Fox Sports and the Black News Channel.
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He's also the author of Open Mic ran
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On, his memoir about his life that came
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out last year. His wife, Cynthia,
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is a model, actress and reality star from
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the Real Housewives of Atlanta Today.
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I want to talk to them about all things relationships.
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Plus I want to get into the entertainment industry
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and maybe get some inside scoops about
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their life in the limelight. But before we go
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there, we're about to address the
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national debate about racing police shootings
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that is raging across the country. Let's
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go. I am so honored to
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welcome Mike Hill and Cynthia
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Hill Bailey. Yeah,
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I know, we in here. We here.
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If I can tell you how many times we say
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that to each other, like
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any time your name comes up for the rest of
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the day, no matter what, we always say,
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we're in here. I'm
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so excited that I made such a great impact on
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your lives, so so
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thankful for that. So this
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episode is extremely special to me.
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It's about relationships, It's about love,
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and it's something that you all know so much
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about, having had relationships
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and years of experience and so much
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knowledge that you're gonna drop on us today, so
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much that I'm expecting to learn. But before we get
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started there, I wanted to just
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talk about what's going on in the moment in
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our country, whereas we have a
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number of police involved shootings that have occurred,
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We're still in the Derek Chauvin trial
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from his murdering of George
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Floyd, and we're
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the temperature is really high right
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now, and rightfully so I
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would argue because there needs to
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be something done. We need police reform. There
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has to be solutions, and I wanted to get each
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of your takes on what's going
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on in this moment and what could we potentially
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do to end it till folks
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can feel safe and we
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can just live together as a united community.
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Well that's the tough question because I think
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if we actually had the solutions, we
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probably started working towards them. But I think
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from our side, I think from
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UH, as a black man who's been
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pulled over and been harassed, who's
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been profiled before, I think
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the first step is, you know, I think
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the police. And I'm not saying white police,
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I'm not saying black police. I think it's the blue I don't
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think it's a black white issue. Most of the time when it comes
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to police relations with African
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American people, I think it's more
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of a blue issue because a lot of
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times, and I don't know if it's training, I don't know if
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it's just the mindset, but we're
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viewed as a threat automatically.
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We've even heard policemen say that
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before. When they go into certain neighborhoods, they
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fear automatically
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and and that needs to start there.
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They need to see us as
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humans and not as somebody
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they can pick up and and and get
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points for, you know, doing their
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job or whatever or whatever you call that, or
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you know, or just feel like we're automatically
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out there to get them, We're doing something
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wrong. There's an issue in this country
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when uh,
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three times as many black men
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and women are killed by police
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officers than white people, uh
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and a lot of times many
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times they're unarmed. We've seen that,
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as you mentioned with George Floyd. We've
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seen that with Dante
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right just moments, you know, not too long ago.
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We've seen it with Eric Garnand we've seen it so
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many times and so many names. We can say
4:23
their names over and over again. But
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for the smallest infractions
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as well. It could be a
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tail light, it can be lucy cigarettes,
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it can be allegations
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of a counterfeit twenty dollar bill. So
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until I think the police black
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white indifference Latino start seeing
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us as humans and not just a threat,
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I think we're gonna have this problem. So we're gonna
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have police perform whatever we need to do, train and
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get rid of some of the bad cops.
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And when you bring in the new cops.
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They have to have the right
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mentality, in the right attitude
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towards Black people to see
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us the way we need to be seen, and
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that's as human beings and not as a threat.
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Right. And um, I would agree with
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my husband on this one. You know, for the
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most part, I think one of the most important
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things we can do is do what we're doing
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with you just keep the conversation going, you
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know what I'm saying. Um, you know, keep
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posting about to keep talking about it. Um,
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I've been around for a long time. I will say
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this is the first, you know, since the movement,
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Like all these things have been happening for
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years, okay, just on different
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levels and just you know, just not
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you know, just worst video footage. The video footage
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has gotten better, but it's still the same videos
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of people just and justice happening
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over and over again to black
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folks. So I would
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say, we got to just keep talking about it, and we gotta
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keep protesting, and we have to keep bringing it
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up, and we have to keep putting electing
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people, putting you know, different people in place
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that can reper s black
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people to try to make effective change,
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and just you know, keep
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the conversation going as parents
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of young adults who drive.
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Um, you know, going back to what Mike was saying about
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like it could be the most I mean,
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basically, no one could run a stop
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sign, get pulled over, and literally be
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in fear of just something
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a simple arrest or
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you know, a warning
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or anything going to the left if she
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didn't comply in a certain way or they
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didn't feel like she complied in a certain way.
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And Mike, you know, used the word you know,
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they see us. He used the word threat. He
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said that they see us a threat. Sometimes I don't feel
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like some of these situations are even seen
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as a threat. Like if I'm a grown,
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fifty four year old black woman, if
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I'm driving my car and I see blue
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lights behind me, I'm I
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will immediately go into panic mode. I don't
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have any warrants, I've broken any
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laws, but I just feel like I
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live in Atlanta, Georgia. Uh
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if I get the wrong police officer
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to pull me over for whatever reason,
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as someone who has no criminal history,
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who has no reason to be afraid, I
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am honestly afraid.
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I'm praying that I get a good cop
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that is going to treat me with respect,
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asked me for my credentials, run
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my tax whatever, tell me what I
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did wrong, and send me on my way as to
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it ending up going left or
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being tased or shot for
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no reason. And then that's and
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that piggyback and off of that is
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that's the problem, is that we
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shouldn't be in fear of somebody that we pay
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with our tax dollarge us to protect
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and serve us. We shouldn't have that fear,
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but we do. And it's not something new, and
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people think, you know, it's something new,
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and we're screaming and yelling. We're screaming and yelling because
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it's been happening our entire lives.
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It's just now being exposed because
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of social media. Everybody has a camera
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phone of course obvious slee uh. Police
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officers have their body cams now, so
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it's being exposed and put out there
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in the open. But you know, other things get
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rid of qualified immunity. Maybe I don't know
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if it's completely defunding the
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police, but it definitely needs to be reformed.
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There needs to The George Floyd Act
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needs to be passed in Congress because
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if there's a bad cop that's doing bad things, and he
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gets fired from a position
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in one city, shouldn't just be able
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to go to another city and get another job. So there
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needs to be that database. So there are a lot
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of different issues that
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need to be rectified. I
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don't know if I have the correct
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answer to answer your question, but there's
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a lot and uh, we we we.
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There has to be a change because it can't go on
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for long, and accountability first
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and foremost. So when you talk about accountability,
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the reason why a lot of black people are
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upset is not only because we're being killed
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in the streets. Unarmed black people are
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being killed in the streets. And I'm not saying that everybody
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they gets pulled over doesn't deserve to go to jail,
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because they do. There's people if if you're committing
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to crime, you're doing something wrong and you
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threaten the police in any kind of way, or if you got
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a weapon or whatever. I get that, But
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we want the same treatment that we
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see our white counterparts getting.
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We want that equality and we want accountability.
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So if somebody does do something
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wrong and they get charged, we want an indictment
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first and foremost. Didn't have that with
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the Brianna Taylor, we didn't get the we didn't
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get the charges. But
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we also have seen numerous times
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where somebody that could kill a
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black person who was unarmed,
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get off and not even be charged. Eric Garner's
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situation, his copies, his the
9:42
copass is, you know, back on the
9:44
force. I mean, so you see those
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types of things happening and you wonder
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why. So that's why it's important
9:51
for this Derek Chauvin trial. Um,
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I'm praying, I'm praying that
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there's accountability in that case. I'm
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praying there's some sense of accountability
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when it comes to the Dante
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Rights situation in some ways, because
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once I think the police
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officers start seeing that they're having
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to pay for their
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transgressions, then
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that will deter others, hopefully
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from committing the same crimes, because if they
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feel like they can do it and get away with
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it, they're going to continue to be bold, continue
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to be aggressive, continue to brutalize black
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people in these streets. And uh,
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it's just not a good thing at all. Yeah,
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and and and just in closing, if
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these police officers feel
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so bold
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and so comfortable doing
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the things that we have seen them
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do when they know
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they're being video, what in God's
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name doing that we don't
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see you have been doing for years?
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You know what I'm saying, What if no one's there
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take what if we don't have the video footage?
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What if they feel that comfortable
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doing the things that they
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have done and they know
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it's being filmed. I can't imagine
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what happens when it's not being filmed
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and they actually make it to the police
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station, Like what
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what are the boundaries? Like? What?
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Like I I just I mean, thank
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god we actually have video footage, because
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if we didn't, you know, then
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what and what happens when it's not being video
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That's what I'm saying that so so in Bolden, you see
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Derek Chauvin, no one's being taped, he
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still put his hand in his pocket and
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still do it. I mean that's like we're
11:44
just he's just smirking right in your face. That hurts
11:47
that that is you know, that's throwing salt
11:49
in the wound. Were like, I know what
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I'm doing and I'm getting away with and there's
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nothing you can do about it. It was
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literally almost smiling anyway, Hey,
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I know this is doing I know this is wrong.
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You know that this is despicable but
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I don't care. What are you guys gonna do about
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it? Nothing that change.
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They do not fear us, they do not respect
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us, and they do not value us, and
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that has to change. Well,
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thank you all for sharing your thoughts
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on that, and certainly that I agree
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with a number of your points there.
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And I've had experiences myself, and
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of course I have no criminal background or anything
12:26
like that. But even when I go get my driver's license,
12:29
I make sure that I have a fresh
12:31
haircut. I wear a suit and
12:33
a tie, and I smile. So
12:36
if someone pulls me over and they see my ID,
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they think a little deeper
12:40
about who I might be or
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because it's not typical to have a
12:45
suit on and smiling in your in your
12:48
I d especially with
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some some of the mean to cut
12:52
y'all Giano, they don't even wait to see your
12:54
identification. They pull you over and they're
12:56
automatically look Lieutenant
12:58
Nazario, the person of Virginia.
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You know, he didn't have a tax on
13:03
his on the back, but he had him in the window.
13:05
And he pulls over and he feels like his
13:08
life is in danger. He feels scared. He pulls
13:10
over in a lit area and
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the police officers already uh
13:15
in aggressive mode because he sees
13:18
that face. George Floyd is sleeping
13:20
in the clock car at the time, and
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the cop already has his gun out,
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so before he can even present any
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kind of identification, all
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they see is the black face you know so,
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and and and and then that's another thing after
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And I don't mean to cut you off, John, I know who You're not gonna
13:35
try and take over your podcast, bro, But
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it's it's it's it's it's that
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that that's the problem is once again, it's
13:42
like they it's jumping to the conclusions
13:44
before we can even identify
13:47
ourselves to find out who we are. And then even
13:49
after you get arrested, you
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get brutalized, you get killed. Then automatically
13:54
there is another assassination
13:56
that happens, the character assassination
13:58
that happens afterwards. We because they bring up everything
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in your past that had nothing to do with
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this particular situation that you
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were in at that moment. So all
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of that is a big reason why and I
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understand why you're doing it, but you shouldn't
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have to. You shouldn't have to. And
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that's the problem, Giano, is that you shouldn't
14:17
have to go and get a haircut. You shouldn't
14:20
have to go that's true. That's true, and I don't
14:22
disagree with you on that point. I know that
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for folks that are listening right now, there's gonna
14:27
be folks who agree with what you're saying, and they're
14:29
gonna disagree. I think I agree,
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and I've said to conservatives I said on Fox
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News where individuals
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it has nothing to do with the background. I shouldn't
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be hearing about what George Floyd did in this criminal
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past. I don't care about that. I don't care
14:43
about their being drugs in this system. What I
14:45
do care about it there was an officer who did something
14:48
that was against this code of conduct. So I
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hear that completely. So what I'm hearing
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to summarize the US point of view is we need
14:54
to have the conversation, continue to talk about
14:56
it, continue to lift our voices and
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use our platforms. And although I may
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not agree with everything that you two have said,
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I do agree that there's a necessity
15:05
to have the conversation started. I think the police
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departments need to be reformed. I don't think the police
15:10
departments need to be defunded, especially coming from
15:12
where I come from on the South side of Chicago, not
15:15
having police could be a death sentence
15:17
because we got our own people killing each other
15:20
um as well, So that's a that's another consideration.
15:23
So you know, this is one of those times where
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I think we all do need to united as a country
15:27
and speak out against um
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police misconduct and
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and and violence. We gotta really be legitimately
15:34
have legitimate conversations around it and look
15:36
to make changes and leave politics out of
15:39
it. So that's what I personally
15:41
believe, and I think you offer your your thoughts
15:43
on that now as we go
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into something that's a little bit more of a lighter
15:54
part of it. And my wife
15:56
said she wasn't gonna say that much about it, but she got
15:58
a lot to say.
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I don't I personally, you
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know, don't
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you know it's upsetting every time, you
16:09
know, just even talk about it, because then it makes
16:11
me think about the news news
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clips and the videos, and I'm like,
16:16
and then it just makes me upset. So no, I don't
16:18
want to consume myself with seven
16:21
because it's it's depressing.
16:23
It's very depressing, very depressing.
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So anyway, moving on to relationship
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talk, we're
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talking to Mike Hill and Cynthia Bailey here on the
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Outloue with gianno Conwell we've got much
16:36
more with them, ACTI quick, right, thank
16:43
you all for coming on to educate
16:45
us on and you know what your experiences
16:47
at Madam and relationships. And you all
16:50
are obviously a power couple.
16:52
You're on television every day. Um,
16:55
you're you're very viral. You're on
16:57
the Real Housewives of Atlanta and I
16:59
think is the number one out of the entire franchise
17:02
for Bravo. So this is this
17:04
is a really good time to understand your story
17:07
and what you all have
17:09
gone through and experiences, your challenges outside
17:12
of each other and with each other. And of course, Mike,
17:14
you wrote a book called Open Mic where
17:16
you talk deeply given your perspective
17:19
on relationships. But let's start from the very
17:21
beginning. So a logical
17:23
place would be to start with how you
17:25
all met, And let's
17:27
let's kick that off. Mike, go ahead, Well,
17:30
we we met in the most unconventional way. We
17:32
actually met on the Steve Harvey
17:35
Show when he had a talk show on NBC.
17:37
He was doing a dating segment, UH
17:39
and A, and he had Cynthia
17:42
on the show before. He's a good friend of Cynthia's
17:44
and he wanted to help Cynthia out with her dating
17:46
life. I was on a dating
17:48
app and he's old school. Steve is
17:51
old school. He was like, what the hell are you doing on dating
17:53
app? You don't need to be on dating ap. You
17:55
know, I got I know plenty of brothers that would
17:57
blood to go out with you, So, you know, joking
18:00
around, I was like, well, if you think you can do a better job
18:02
than find me somebody and I can then go
18:04
for it. Joking, you know, I didn't
18:06
know fast Forward I would actually
18:09
actually be doing his dating pool. Yeah.
18:11
So, so there was a producer that reached out and I
18:13
was doing fast Sports radio and
18:15
reached out to a friend of mine or my co host
18:17
at the time, and said, hey, you know
18:20
what, might be interested in doing a dating show,
18:22
um and meet one of the real housewives of Atlanta. My
18:24
first question was which one, because
18:28
obviously, because not all of them
18:30
would have gotten my attention. But when he
18:32
said Cynthia, I'm like, okay, cool, Yeah, go on there.
18:36
Well that
18:38
goes without saying that goes without saying
18:40
I just you know, you know, everybody knows Cynthia Bailey's
18:43
to find is the most classy one of all the Housewives
18:45
franchises, but now not true. It really is
18:47
you, my baby, I can say that, but you
18:49
know, so I went on there and I
18:51
didn't expect much. I didn't think Cynthia Bailey was
18:54
going on there looking for real love. I thought it was
18:56
just some kind of publicity things. So I was going to go
18:58
along with it and uh, the whole
19:00
Obviously, I won the dating pool
19:03
and went there, and yeah, but
19:05
it was a slow burn, right, baby, wasn't well. The
19:07
crazy thing is my PR
19:09
team didn't want me to actually
19:11
do the segment. I was on
19:14
Steve Show promoting Housewives at
19:16
the time, and we were just playing around and
19:18
then when they went his when
19:21
people circled back, and I was like, hey, we really would
19:23
like for Cynthia to come undo stays dating
19:25
pool. He really wants to up hook her up. And
19:27
my PR team at the time was like, you
19:30
know, we don't really think,
19:32
you know, it's a good look. Really, we
19:34
just don't feel really feel like you need to do
19:36
it. You know, they don't really you know,
19:39
it's kind of it's not really it's not really
19:41
like a celebrity version of it, Like
19:43
basically they're like, it's usually for regular
19:45
people and not for folks on TV. So
19:49
from a PR Steff Wonder like it's
19:51
beneath you basically to do it. You shouldn't
19:53
do it, but you know what, I'm
19:56
going hear me some loser like Mike our
20:01
team and trying they were trying to look
20:03
at for my best interests. But here's
20:06
the thing, you know, I always
20:08
just kind of go with
20:10
my spirit and my heart and just kind
20:12
of do whatever I want to do. Like I have a great
20:14
team of people that you know, give
20:16
me great advice, but at the end of the day,
20:18
I'm going to do what I want to do. And it just kind of
20:20
came up at a time where I was like, you know what, as
20:23
long as I have to get stuck with nobody that I don't
20:25
like, as long as I if I don't have to pick anybody, if
20:28
I don't like any of these dudes, let's
20:30
go, let's have fun. And it was a free trip
20:32
to l A and I love being out in l A. So
20:34
I was like, let's let's go. Let's make it happen. So
20:38
she made it happen once again. She picked
20:40
me, and I didn't think anything of it. I
20:43
like, like I said, I thought i'd see her around,
20:45
you know, maybe a couple of years later and invent
20:47
celebrity event of whatever and say hey, let
20:49
me stop Mike. Okay, first of all, Mike was the cutest
20:52
one. He was
20:57
was lined up. Okay, hold on, why why
21:00
did you hear the shade? She said, like
21:03
it was Mike and a bunch of I'm
21:06
like, I'm not an Elba's clan. It's
21:09
like it wasn't like you
21:14
know what I'm saying is Mike was definitely the
21:16
standout. Okay. When I was
21:18
walking out to the stage, Mike and
21:20
these two other really nice guys were already
21:22
out there. Okay, they had three other
21:24
dudes. They were like backup dudes
21:27
because I could switch a guy out if I didn't like what I
21:29
saw when I made it out there. And when
21:31
I walked past the backup guys, I was
21:34
like, I hope to hell
21:36
does some better looking men
21:38
on this page. The backup
21:41
plans are not gonna be backing anything up over
21:43
here. So um,
21:46
anyway, long story short, and I know we're
21:48
not making it short. That's
21:50
okay out in every
21:52
way, he just came off just super confident.
21:56
Um fun uh. He came
21:58
off way more spirit and religious
22:01
than he actually is the
22:04
man at he has not taken me to church
22:06
once we have, we
22:09
haven't been able to church. This
22:12
is I've known you almost four years now. If
22:17
I stepped inside a church with Mike kill at this point,
22:19
it will probably fall down on us. But I
22:22
remember what stood out was every question
22:24
that I asked him, you know, had something about
22:26
God. So I was like, Okay, now I'm trying
22:29
to be as lady. I don't know if I want to be the first lady.
22:31
Is he? Is
22:33
he getting better go into I mean
22:36
there's clearly a ministry inside this me.
22:38
No, But every question that that was a
22:40
genuine answer. You know, I still have
22:42
I have a strong belief in God, strong, very
22:44
spiritual. You know, every night. This is the first
22:47
man I've ever been with that we get on
22:49
our knees every name. And so just because we're not in the house
22:51
of the Lord, doesn't mean that the Lord isn't inside us,
22:53
you know what I mean? So yeah, absolutely,
22:55
man, that's what That's
22:58
what relationship is built on. But once in so
23:00
she picked me slow burned. I
23:02
didn't think I was going to actually see her. We went on a
23:04
date because the producers actually tricked
23:07
us because it went a couple of weeks
23:09
right back, it was like a week well,
23:12
and then so I get I get an email from the
23:14
producer, and the emails from the produce
23:16
like Cynthy Bailey really likes you, she
23:19
really wants to go out with you. Is it okay
23:21
for you to have her number and give her a call? Like
23:24
oh really? And lo and behold.
23:27
It was telling her the same thing, you get
23:32
in touch with you directly, okay.
23:34
Well, when I was like all
23:37
right, sweating me so hard. Gone.
23:44
But you know what's funny because one of the
23:46
things I've really walked away when I
23:48
first initially met when I first initially
23:50
met Mike, before we even went out on a date, was
23:52
just thinking, you know, it just seems like a good
23:54
dude, Like I didn't know, like, you know,
23:56
I wasn't like, oh my god, like I can't wait to go
23:58
out with him, and this is death with someone I could see
24:00
myself spending the rest of my life with. My takeaway
24:03
was he just felt like a
24:05
good guy, Like he just
24:07
felt like he had good intentions and
24:10
he was funny, and he was cute, and
24:12
you know, he was likable,
24:15
and he just felt, you
24:17
know, like someone that even if we didn't, you
24:20
know, if it didn't happen for us, I wouldn't
24:22
mind having him as a friend, which
24:25
is one of the most important things
24:27
you can have in any kind of relationship that gets
24:29
serious, is the friendship first.
24:31
And I felt like I could be friends with the man. Yeah,
24:34
and piggyback off of that, I
24:36
felt the same way even if it wasn't somebody
24:39
I was going to spend the rest of my life with. With Cynthia,
24:41
when I first got to know
24:43
her, I felt like, I'm going to
24:45
know this woman. She's going to be a part of my life
24:47
in some capacity. I don't know what, but
24:50
I felt a connection with her and
24:52
she was just so sweet, so genuine, which she still
24:54
lives in this very day. Uh. And
24:57
I was like, maybe I could introduce her to her
24:59
next husband, or she introduced me to, you
25:01
know, my next wife. Who knows. But I knew
25:04
after a short amount of time that she was
25:06
going to be in my life for a long period of time.
25:08
And uh, you know, I'm lucky enough that she's
25:10
my wife and now she's Mrs Hill, not
25:12
Cynthia. You said it was like at first sight
25:15
rather than love at first sight. How did things change
25:18
to love? Things
25:21
changed well to love. She
25:23
might not want to get too graphic, but things
25:27
changed over time. You know what, We just took
25:29
our time. You
25:32
know what, what's important to me
25:34
when someone expresses
25:37
an interest in getting to know me is consistency.
25:43
You know what I'm saying, Like, and
25:45
I'm not saying you gotta blow me
25:47
up the whole time, but if you start off calling
25:50
me five times a week and then
25:52
you drop down to once every two
25:54
weeks, that's not gonna
25:56
work from miss bailing. Now, if you start
25:58
off calling me once every two weeks and
26:01
that's just what we're doing, then that's fine, but you can't,
26:04
like, you gotta be consistent with what, what,
26:06
whatever it is like, you got to be consistent
26:08
with it. And one of the things about Mike was
26:12
he was consistent. You know, he would
26:14
call and check in. He wasn't like overly
26:18
checking in, but he made it pretty clear
26:20
that he wanted to be
26:22
in touch. You know, he had some distractions
26:25
going on at the time when I met him, have
26:28
some things he was in the l a street. You
26:30
have some thoughts out there too. I had some
26:32
distractions going on at the time as well, so neither
26:34
one of us was like it in a rush to really,
26:37
you know, do anything. But
26:39
it just got to a point where the more I
26:41
really started talking to him more consistently,
26:44
and then when we kind of graduated from just talking
26:46
and text into face timing. Um.
26:49
I just remember specifically he he had
26:51
started writing his book and he was like reading me
26:53
some stuff from his book, and I just was I
26:56
just remember thinking, wow, like, okay, guy
26:58
and his brother been through something, you know,
27:00
Like it just kind of made me want to know more about
27:03
him. And I love um,
27:07
you know, I don't. I don't want to say I love people struggles,
27:10
but I love to see
27:13
someone want to
27:16
be better. I love people
27:18
that are trying to be happy.
27:20
And I loved when people are on a quest
27:23
for peace, and I love when people
27:25
are just trying to live
27:27
in their purpose. And I felt like
27:29
he was trying to figure it out,
27:32
and I felt like some of the things
27:34
that he was telling me about his past, it
27:37
just didn't seem like he was happy
27:39
or happy. And for me,
27:42
that is devastating
27:45
because I'm always on
27:47
a quest for peace. I have peace, and I
27:49
even want more peace Like that is I used
27:51
to say I just want to be happy. I don't say
27:53
that anymore. I say that I want peace because
27:56
I feel like I believe that if I have
27:58
peace, I have happiness happiness.
28:00
But I could have happiness and I have peace.
28:03
So I wanted to see
28:05
him when even if I wasn't included
28:08
at the end of his journey, but I
28:10
wanted to be supportive of
28:13
what he would. It felt like he was trying to do
28:15
for himself, like I felt like there was some self
28:17
love missing or something, and
28:20
I wanted to Um,
28:23
I don't know, I just roote it for him, and then I ain't
28:25
marrying a man. What do you want me to say? Yeah,
28:28
it's interesting because I've had
28:31
the honor and privilege of knowing Mike before
28:33
he met you, Cynthia. And one thing I
28:36
realized when Mike and I we would go
28:38
out. We may go to a
28:41
restaurant, bar, or whatever the situation
28:43
was, and I just remember, whatever
28:55
you need to say correctly.
29:05
That was the old man the new man here.
29:10
But no I saw I saw a
29:12
sincere change in Mike.
29:14
When y'all begin dating in I'll
29:17
never forget you said that again, Like
29:19
what kind of change when you say a sincere change?
29:21
Like what meaning? He was all
29:23
about you? And I think everyone realized
29:26
that from seeing social media, Instagram
29:28
and all of that good stuff. But I'll never forget talking
29:30
to you, Mike. We were a town. It was a Friday
29:33
night in Los Angeles hangout.
29:37
We were there all the time that
29:47
I'm sorry to take that part out. That's
29:49
gonna be a beat. John put a beat Cassi
29:53
producing, he'll beat that word. But
29:57
sincerely, though, I remember talking to
29:59
you on a Friday night, Mike. I don't remember if you
30:01
you remember this. I don't know if you remember this, but
30:04
I was like, man, bro, like are you in
30:06
love? Like you? And he
30:08
was like, Bro, it's real,
30:12
um and love. I'm like, man,
30:14
because you were going so hard. I'm
30:16
like, I never seen this before.
30:19
So it was just so interesting to see that
30:22
transition just take place and it
30:24
hit hard. It was almost
30:26
like you know when you you data
30:28
celebrity, like y'all both celebrities. You have both been
30:30
on television. That's all good and fun, but
30:33
sometimes you kind of you go in slow
30:35
just to see how a person responds
30:37
to you and you don't you know, you don't take
30:40
it up a notch too quickly. But Bro was hit nor
30:43
I couldn't believe it. So it was almost like a certainty,
30:46
like you knew, Mike, did you know that
30:48
this was gonna be your wife? Like? When did you
30:50
know? You know? I didn't know, like
30:52
I said, in the beginning of our relationship, and a lot of
30:54
people didn't know about our relationship for a while,
30:57
obviously, because when you're dating
30:59
a select really you need to keep that quiet
31:02
for a while because you know, people come for you
31:04
and and it's a different animal once
31:06
you're out in the open. Even if I've
31:08
been on television, Cynthia is the celebrity.
31:11
I'm just a dude that's on television. I've been on
31:13
television for a while. But she's a celebrity
31:15
and I understand that, and it's a different animal that's out
31:17
there. So we didn't uh tell
31:20
people publicly for a long period of time,
31:22
maybe about four months into a us
31:25
dating uh And then during
31:27
my birthday, she did something really
31:29
special and it kind of made me say,
31:31
like, oh, okay, well she's she's
31:33
a little different. She did something that nobody had
31:35
ever done from me, but nobody else. Still my birthday party,
31:37
so pretty much threw the man a birthday
31:40
party and he was in Well it wasn't
31:42
but it wasn't just a birthday party, but it was like an
31:44
intimate affair. She had
31:46
set up her wind seller before it actually
31:48
had gotten built out, you know, candle
31:51
lights, whatever, cater and
31:54
I'm like, this is this is for me. I've
31:56
always been I've always been a giver in relationships.
31:58
I've always been the one that has been
32:01
asked to give, and you
32:03
know, you know, you receive a little bit, but I
32:05
never really expected it. And if
32:07
I received something, that was always in
32:09
return or something I've given. Nobody's
32:11
ever given me something without me actually
32:13
giving them something. So when Cynthia
32:15
did that for me and always tried to look out for him,
32:18
like she's a little different and it had nothing
32:20
to do with her celebrity or her family whatnot.
32:22
I wanted to date the individual. I wanted
32:24
to date the person Cynthia Deniece Bailey,
32:27
and that's why I found out. So over a period of
32:29
time, I just started to open
32:31
up a little bit more because you'll tell you I in
32:34
the beginning, I was very guarded, guarded.
32:36
Michael's very guarded when I met him.
32:39
Uh, he was always kind of looking like
32:41
literally was trying to get in the door, but had
32:43
an exit, exit strategy the whole time.
32:46
Yeah. Um, he was
32:48
afraid to fall, afraid
32:50
to commit, afraid to be honest,
32:53
he was just afraid of everything. Yeah, And
32:55
it was obvious. And I'm
32:58
you know, he met me at a point in my
33:00
life where not only
33:02
do I know what I want, I know what I don't
33:04
want. You know what I mean. And I'm like, look, we're
33:06
doing this, we're not doing this. Like I'm
33:09
not like I
33:11
don't go for me relationships.
33:14
You know, I don't have like a fear, like I just
33:16
love my pisces. I jumped
33:18
all in with both feet. If it works
33:20
out, it works out. If it doesn't, it doesn't. It ain't
33:22
that deep, so I'm not really trying to be halfway
33:25
in and trying to be halfway out. And I was
33:27
like, dude, like, either
33:29
we're gonna do this or we're not gonna do
33:31
this, Like this is not a host situation we
33:33
want if you're scared,
33:36
if you're that concerned and you just
33:38
don't know if you if this is
33:40
making you this uncomfortable. We don't
33:42
have to be together. But but but but it
33:44
wasn't an uncomfortable with just me still
33:47
figuring it out. I was still going through my process,
33:49
and like you said, I was writing my book at the time, and
33:51
I was working through my issues. As
33:53
I told you before, Giano, my book was my first
33:55
form of therapy. We talked about this
33:57
as black men growing up in certain environ
34:00
ments or just in general. You know, it's
34:02
just not something that we have in
34:04
our community is therapy.
34:07
And my book became my therapy.
34:09
And as I was writing my book and
34:11
I was sharing some of my stories in my
34:13
past and my truths with Cynthia,
34:16
she was the first woman that really
34:18
accepted and didn't judge me for him as
34:20
a matter of fact, that brought us closer. And
34:23
as I started, as I started talking
34:25
about a little bit more, I felt like I
34:27
can trust her because I can tell
34:29
her some of my most intimate details that
34:31
I probably hadn't even told people before. And
34:34
the reaction that she gave me made me feel
34:36
like I could trust her a little bit more. So
34:39
I well, I will say
34:41
this and then we can move on to the
34:43
next question. I'm a very secure woman.
34:46
I'm extremely secure, and I think
34:48
it's very rare to find someone that
34:50
says it and it's actually true. Like I'm
34:52
not going to question
34:55
stuff. I'm not trying to check your messages.
34:58
I don't care about any that.
35:00
I don't give a damn who you following. I
35:02
don't care. But as long as you if you're with me,
35:04
as long as you're being appropriate, I don't care about
35:06
you. Like it that part,
35:15
And she's a classy one on the house
35:20
because people don't
35:22
anyway. But like there's like
35:24
I think, like, you know, I don't
35:27
know what Mike was used
35:29
to, but I feel like I know, I know l a dating.
35:31
I know that's like and I feel like
35:33
it's a lot of game playing and like, oh,
35:36
you know you gotta be like, oh, let
35:38
me try to you know, if you text me, let me
35:40
wait two or three days the texting
35:42
back, like playing all these stupid games
35:44
that I do not play. If I like you, I'm
35:47
going to act like I like you. And
35:49
if you're looking for a challenge, if you think me
35:51
calling you a couple of times a day that I'm
35:53
not being a challenge anymore, that's a turn
35:56
off. And you can miss me with all of that, Like, I'm
35:58
not playing any of those games at this point
36:00
in my life. I've never played those games. I'm certainly
36:02
not going to do it now. And I felt
36:04
like, you know, Michael's used to
36:06
at L a dating style, and it was like I
36:08
think he had been, you know, in some situations
36:11
before me that maybe didn't work out for him,
36:13
that he would have liked for them to work out, and I
36:15
think those people may have been playing games.
36:17
So it was just kind of like a weird like
36:20
like, you know, we just had to
36:22
kind of just have a come to Jesus on it
36:25
because I'm not I'm
36:27
secure. I don't care what you did.
36:29
It is what it is. If you want to be with me,
36:33
then be with me. And if you don't gonna
36:35
be with somebody else, Like it's just not that
36:37
complicated. And if you want to call me,
36:40
if I want to call you fifty five times a day, I'm
36:42
going to call you fifty six times a day. That's
36:45
how something of Bailey rolls. And if I
36:47
don't feel like talking, I'm gonna say, hey,
36:50
I love you, babe. I don't feel like talking today.
36:52
Like I just think honesty and transparency
36:55
and realness is what really
36:58
matters at the end of the day. And then somebody's checking for you.
37:00
They hear you because they like
37:03
you, but if they ain't really checking for you that hard,
37:05
they're gonna find a reason to not go with
37:07
whatever you're what,
37:10
whatever you're trying to be honest about. You
37:12
know what I'm saying, because at the end of the day, if I'm telling
37:14
you the truth and telling you how I feel and I'm being vulnerable
37:16
and putting it out there and
37:18
you use it against me in some way, that's
37:20
childish, that's stupid. That's playing games like
37:23
I don't. I don't like stuff like that, and I'm
37:25
not that girl. And again I
37:27
feel like i'm I don't. I can say I don't know who
37:29
else. I do know a lot of people who's been he's been
37:31
with, but I'm secure, I
37:33
don't know if that was always his experience. So
37:36
the rules change when you're dealing with someone that actually
37:38
is curious. So then you gotta be like, Okay, well
37:41
this is different. She's not harassing me. She
37:43
let me hang out. Mike has like more girlfriends
37:45
that he has guy friends. I don't care. Yeah,
37:48
and I know him all like
37:50
being around a lot of women, also
37:53
a flir. He's a lot of those
37:55
things. But as long as he's not disrespectful
37:58
to me or being inappropriate, if
38:00
he's with me, I don't care. Do
38:02
whatever you gotta do to feel good. Brother, whatever
38:05
you got going on, ain't got nothing to do with
38:07
me. What you need, what you need to feel
38:09
good, and got nothing to do with me. So
38:12
if um, you
38:14
know, however you move, as long as
38:16
it's not disrespecting me, if you're with me,
38:19
we're good. Mm hmm. Now
38:21
you know what's interesting social
38:24
media these days? And Cynthy,
38:26
I know you have three point three million followers on
38:28
Instagram and it's it's a popular
38:30
culture thing. And to be very
38:33
honest with you all, I feel
38:35
a little hopeless with where the culture
38:37
is when it comes to dating and social
38:39
media and the girls being half naked. And
38:41
I'm recently out of a relationship
38:44
that I thought was gonna go the distance
38:46
but it didn't, and it it kind
38:49
of made me feel a bit bad
38:51
about what dating may look
38:53
like, uh kind of moving forward and
38:55
almost, like, to be honest with you, I seemingly
38:58
don't really want to date and that's really
39:00
the feeling that I get because it
39:02
just seems like it's a lot of trash out there
39:04
and women these days,
39:06
at least from what I've seen in a number
39:08
of instances. I know that's not all women, but
39:11
it just seems like it's just a fast paced
39:13
kinda l a vibe
39:15
and you know, how much money do you have? What can
39:17
you do for me? And it's
39:20
just it seems like a very toxic culture
39:23
um these days. What advice would with you
39:25
both either you know? Please both of you responded,
39:28
is what advice would you have for those
39:30
who are interested in getting married and feel
39:32
hopeless? Because I'm almost feeling like, man, I don't
39:34
know if I'm gonna ever get married, and I'm thirty four,
39:36
and I feel like, you know, Mike, I know you've been married a
39:39
couple of a couple of times. I'm like, my man
39:41
has been married a couple of times. I can't even get one,
39:43
like what's going on all
39:46
my alimony payments. I appreciate that and
39:48
all the money I've lost over the years in a heartache,
39:50
and thank you for ripping off the band ai G.
39:52
I know I appreciate that, but go ahead, I'm sorry
39:56
you got a lot of advice to get we're being real, I
39:59
would you were here
40:01
here well, first of all, first and
40:04
foremost, I was sad to hear that your last
40:06
relationship didn't work out. You know. Michael
40:09
was kind of you know, I was kind of hearing
40:11
things from him, how it happy you were,
40:13
and it just seemed like it was it was
40:15
the one. And then when he
40:17
said that, you guys, it didn't work out, and I
40:20
don't don't even remember the reason, maybe didn't
40:22
even tell him, I can't remember, but whatever he
40:24
told me didn't work out. So, um,
40:27
I was sad to hear that because it seemed like you
40:29
were happy, um with In
40:32
regards to the question that you're asking
40:34
me, I would say to you, first
40:36
of all, don't let you
40:39
know the fact when things don't work out, sometimes
40:42
it's a good thing because that
40:45
person could be in the way of the person that you're
40:47
supposed to be with when it happens, you
40:50
know what I'm saying. So that's
40:52
just part of your journey, that's part of whatever
40:54
you whatever. Take the good of, whatever the
40:56
good was, let you know, let it
40:58
be a teachable moment, whatever, and
41:00
go into this next thing
41:03
whenever it HAPs definitely a teachable moment,
41:05
that's for sure. You
41:09
write about that one. I got notes
41:13
learn you're gonna learnt trust
41:15
me notes well,
41:18
but but don't but don't let you know. We
41:20
all have been through relationships that didn't
41:22
maybe end the way that we would have liked
41:24
for them to end. But please don't like put
41:27
bring that into the new situation when that's
41:29
become a situation, because that's not fair
41:31
to the new person, you know what I'm saying.
41:34
But I would say, in terms of social media,
41:37
you gotta figure out what you what you
41:39
what you want? You know what I mean. There's a lot of temptation
41:42
out there on social media. There's a lot of
41:44
beautiful women out there on social
41:46
media there, some of them good, some
41:49
come in peace, and some come with
41:51
bad intentions. So I would say,
41:54
you gotta figure out. You gotta figure out what
41:56
you want and what you're looking for.
41:58
You know what I'm saying. If you just want, you
42:01
know, some eye candy,
42:03
just something to look good at, somebody with a bunch
42:05
of following, somebody with a bunch of likes and all that
42:07
stuff, you gotta figure out what you really are looking
42:09
for. And I feel like once you kind
42:12
of figured that out. Like take
42:14
your time and like be selective because
42:16
you gotta remember you are a prize
42:19
as well, you know what I'm saying, So
42:22
who not only look for what you want, but who
42:24
deserves you?
42:27
You know? Who told me that on social
42:29
media you might be able to find on social media because
42:31
I'm not gonna I'm not going to rule that out.
42:34
But it's so funny
42:36
because you just said that you are a prize
42:38
as well, and someone told me that just two
42:40
weeks ago, my my sister And now
42:42
who's a part of your franchise, Anie Kate Williams.
42:44
She was saying, listen, Giano, you a
42:47
prize as well. You gotta keep that in mind.
42:49
And I think that's important for guys to know, as
42:52
the folks who are listening when you pursue
42:55
women know your value as well. Yeah,
42:57
yeah, when you know who you are and you know what
42:59
and I'm saying you don't. I think sometimes
43:01
when it comes like you can have your stuff just
43:04
like a woman kid, you could have everything together and
43:06
then when it comes to the affairs of the heart, just
43:08
end up being a fool basically, you
43:10
know what I mean? Just love? Can you know
43:13
fools? Water, fools fall in love. You know what I'm
43:15
saying. You have to
43:17
just be just as focused and strategic
43:21
and your personal life as you are in your
43:23
professional life when it comes to what
43:25
you want and what you don't want, and when you
43:27
sit when you see those signs come up when you meet
43:29
somebody, Because there are signs,
43:31
brother, now you can acknowledge
43:35
them, you know. Science. That's where
43:37
you need to fall back a little bit and be like, wait,
43:40
okay, now what is that? What
43:42
is that that feeling you get? We're like, oh, that
43:44
didn't really feel right? Non't here? Right up? Pay
43:47
attention to that, you know what I'm saying, because
43:49
it means something. If you feel something,
43:51
it means something. And and
43:55
just be honest with yourself. If you want a nice girl,
43:58
look for a nice girl. If
44:00
you want a boss, look for a boss. If
44:03
you want an Instagram thought, go live
44:05
your happy life with the Instagram thought
44:08
looking for don't want the temptations
44:10
and the distractions of Instagram thought, and then
44:13
really want to be overre with somebody classy. No,
44:15
it doesn't work like that. Do do
44:17
you figure out what you really want?
44:20
Because the two are not the same.
44:23
The two are not the same, be
44:25
honest with yourself absolutely,
44:28
And for those who may not know, a
44:30
thought is a loose woman in
44:32
kind terms
44:36
over there, but
44:39
this is you know, your audience, babies,
44:44
it's just like just still,
44:50
you know, okay,
44:54
thought? Then he has to give the definition of a thought
44:57
a lose lose lady. Eat.
45:01
Okay,
45:03
that's question. No, I'll just let you
45:05
talk. You realize
45:08
perspective. Well, I'm not gonna be able to finish my thought
45:11
anyway. So it's saying,
45:15
go ahead, Mike, go ahead, Mike, and Cynthia, I'm
45:17
enjoying your your commentary. Thank you so much. Mike.
45:19
What are your thoughts? This popular culture is so important
45:21
now and it it seems as though a lot of
45:24
people lead with Instagram these
45:26
days. They don't lead with how
45:29
can we get to know each other? Can I take you on a
45:31
date? Can I be a gentleman? And it's
45:33
like, oh, how many followers do you have on Instagram?
45:36
As though that that determines you're prominent
45:38
on how you're going to treat a person, and it's it's become a
45:40
very toxic, toxic culture.
45:42
In my opinion, you can meet on candy
45:45
on Instagram. I don't know if you're gonna meet your wife,
45:47
I don't know if you're gonna meet you your your queen necessarily
45:50
on Instagram. There are different ways
45:52
obviously that you can meet people through dating apps,
45:54
through Instagram. Social media is huge these
45:56
days, obviously, But
45:58
you know what about old school ways of
46:01
doing things? I mean, and it's not just about
46:03
the pictures. It's not about the looks. It's not about
46:05
how many lights that they have or how
46:07
many times that they can throw
46:09
out these pictures out there on their stories, on their
46:11
on their posts and and throw
46:14
face tune on to it,
46:16
and and they know their angles. But
46:18
how about getting to know somebody, being
46:21
able to talk to somebody, getting to feel
46:23
somebody. Uh As as Cynthia
46:25
was talking about, You're not gonna find somebody who's
46:27
perfect. You're never gonna find a perfect woman. You just need
46:29
to find somebody's perfect for you. And
46:32
like everybody told you, like I tell my daughters
46:34
all the time, you know you're worth You
46:36
know you are a king. If you feel
46:39
like you're a king, you need to be
46:41
with somebody who is a
46:43
queen and vice versa. And if you find
46:45
yourself a queen, you need to be worthy
46:47
of the crown that you said that you're gonna put on your
46:49
on your head yourself, so you gotta act
46:52
that way. Bottom line is, man,
46:54
look you know, um,
46:56
you just have to go out there and
46:58
and be encouraged, be discouraged.
47:00
Everything happens for a reason. What
47:03
you went through with that young lady happen for a
47:05
reason. It allows you to grow,
47:08
uh, and it's gonna prepare you for life
47:10
to come in one way or another with the next
47:12
person that you're with. But when you go into
47:15
your next relationship, make sure you go into
47:17
your next relationship as a whole person. So
47:19
you can go intore looking for somebody that is
47:22
perfect or somebody that's great and this whole
47:25
and has everything to offer, but make
47:27
sure that you are prepared first
47:30
before that happens. And I always say that
47:33
your best relationships
47:35
are between two people who are a whole. And
47:37
on my analogy is you can
47:39
take a two layer cake. You
47:41
can have that first layer, it's got to be perfectly
47:44
rounded, right. That means that cake is whole,
47:46
and the other layer has to be perfectly rounded.
47:49
That cake is whole, and then you stack them on
47:51
top. Everything that you create on top of that is
47:53
like the icing on the cake, literally pretty
47:55
much and figuratively right. But if you've got
47:57
somebody who isn't whole or they're missing
48:00
something, a slice that's not gonna look
48:02
the same. So then you find yourself supplementing,
48:05
uh, something that you're looking
48:07
for in a relationship because you're missing
48:09
something, so you're taking that from that person,
48:11
and that then that person takes that away from you.
48:14
Then you're longing for that person, and
48:16
that person might not be necessarily right for you.
48:18
So once again, y'ano, don't be discouraged
48:21
by don't say you know, social media
48:23
is out there and I can't find a woman because I'm sliding
48:25
somebody's d ms. They're sliding in my dms. You
48:28
know. I know it's Corona and COVID
48:30
and you're not able to get out and socialize. But get
48:32
out socialized and meet somebody, and then then
48:34
they might necessarily not necessarily look
48:37
like Holly Berry. They might not be
48:39
the perfect tin, But there ain't nothing wrong
48:41
with a good eight and a great personality
48:44
and a spiritual person and somebody
48:46
who loves and respects and honors
48:48
you. And then all of a sudden, that eight
48:50
that you saw before turns out
48:53
to be the tin that you need. I want to pick up from
48:55
there at the moment, but first let's go to break.
49:00
Now, let's be clear saying
49:03
like options I got low list,
49:09
you may not get a T, but
49:11
you can get a three and a half and uh.
49:15
People. But see, the thing is like everybody's
49:17
everybody's looking for that woman that is
49:19
out there, that it's that Instagram model
49:21
and everybody wants him whatever,
49:24
you know, but sometimes those women
49:26
aren't prepared for you, that they're not the right woman
49:28
for you. Just because if I agree with that, I
49:30
don't think everybody's looking for an Instagram model.
49:33
I think there's a lot of man out here that are looking
49:35
for a successful woman that
49:37
has her own stuff going on, that's looking
49:39
for a boss. You know. That's that's
49:42
that would be me. That's what you ain't got,
49:44
Like no Instagram model, Um,
49:46
just somebody that has it going on, somebody that
49:48
you have some kind of connection with. Uh.
49:51
But I would say I would say this, I
49:53
think I agree with a lot of things that Mike said.
49:56
But if you're going to go to the Gram and
49:58
a lot of times a lot of people don't have lot of other options.
50:00
But to go to the Graham, I would definitely
50:03
played by your own rules. Shorten
50:06
a betting process. You know what I'm saying.
50:08
If you meet somebody, if you somebody seems like they're
50:10
interested in you, and you guys, get some kind of
50:12
dialogue and dams, cut the damns
50:14
out quickly. Okay, I'm
50:17
not gonna be sitting up dam and no food for three
50:19
or four weeks and months. No,
50:22
you don't want to get you're in my damns.
50:24
That means you're telling me that you're interested in
50:26
some way. So what do you want and
50:28
communicate? Stop the texting to I'm
50:30
not gonna do that. You're not gonna text me. I'm
50:33
get if I gave my phone number, call
50:35
me and then let's talk. And if
50:37
you ain't talking about none, if you don't like what I'm talking
50:40
about, then you don't have to lose
50:42
You don't have to lose it because I'm just gonna block you. And that's
50:45
what I don't understand people out here on one of DM
50:47
they want to text. They don't even ask for phone numbers
50:49
these days. It's like, what's your I G that's
50:52
that's what That's what a lot of people are doing.
50:54
These days. Secret I'm
50:57
on Instagram. I have quite a few followers.
50:59
I've had men sliding my dams.
51:02
Any any famous when you and
51:05
if I feel like I want to get to
51:07
know you, I'm going to give you my
51:09
phone upp. If
51:12
I'm not checking for you and I'm
51:14
playing games and I got ten other guys in
51:16
my d MS, I'm kind of wearing my options. I'm
51:18
not going to give you my phone up. But if
51:20
I'm interested, I'll give you. I'll
51:22
give you my number and say, hey, but why are you? Why
51:25
men sliding in d ms when they have an opportunity
51:27
to meet that person face to face, A lot of times
51:29
they could be right in that person's face state,
51:32
but no, well, I mean, if they're in a different state. I
51:34
understand that we've got a lot of suitors out there because
51:36
you know all your your thoughts. You know, we
51:38
already know what thoughts me, and we don't have to explain that anymore.
51:42
We have to explained that anymore. So it
51:44
is the thing. But you know the thing is, if
51:46
I'm in the same space with you, I'm in the same
51:48
city, and I've been in the same room
51:50
with you, and I met you that night, why am I sliding
51:53
any your d MS instead of talking to you face to
51:55
face and getting to know you and getting the vibe
51:57
with you and finding maybe finding
51:59
a connect you right away and then once
52:02
I do talk to you, if I reach
52:04
out to you because I didn't meet you
52:06
in person, I meet you through d M. You send me your
52:08
number. I'm not texting you over and over
52:10
and over again. I'm calling you. We're
52:12
having a conversation. Yeah, I don't.
52:14
I don't feel like if I meet you right away,
52:17
I'm going to meet in person because I want to get to know you
52:19
a little bit better. I'm big on talking
52:21
on the phone, not texting, but having
52:23
phone conversation and then when I get a little comfortable,
52:26
I'm big on face timing with you
52:28
so I can just kind of seeing
52:30
a house. Let
52:37
me ask you all about this. Y'all familiar
52:39
with a brother by the name of Kevin Samuels.
52:41
He has a big YouTube channel, big following.
52:43
I've been trying to get him on the podcast. He talks about
52:45
relationships quite frequently and he often
52:48
mentioned high value men. He
52:51
talks about what a high value man wants,
52:53
and he wants a woman that's gonna be submissive
52:55
to him, and he talks about
52:58
if you're if you're a high value man, and then women
53:00
shouldn't pay for anything. He says he feels
53:02
insulted if a woman chooses
53:04
to try to try to pay for anything, a meal,
53:08
rent, mortgage, anything. Y'all
53:10
familiar with Kevin Timmys, y'all agree with some
53:13
of that rhetoric about sister, you
53:15
know, like I need
53:19
yeah stands for
53:22
now. I do now. I do think a
53:24
man should be prepared to
53:26
pay for those things if he asks a
53:28
woman out. But here's my rule,
53:30
and this is you know, obviously I'm married now, so
53:32
I'm not looking. I'm not out there before anymore.
53:35
But when I was dating, if
53:37
I asked you out, I'm definitely paying
53:39
for the first meal. I'm paying for the second meal. More
53:41
likely I'm taking care of all that. But if we go
53:44
out, we continue to go out by the third
53:46
or fourth meal. If you don't even fame
53:49
or fake like you're going for the bill
53:52
or say something like, oh you always
53:54
pay, Let me buy you dessert, let
53:56
me buy you a drink, let me make you
53:58
dinner. I'm wondering. I
54:00
really am wondering now, and I'm an old school
54:02
guy and not get that or whatever. But at the same time,
54:04
I want to see that the woman is
54:06
with me for more than just a
54:09
foodie call. And that is and
54:13
l A is like that a lot women they are going
54:15
on dates with guys just for food foodiecause
54:17
that's what they call them, foodie calls. It ain't a booty
54:19
call. It's a booty call. I can't even wrap
54:22
my head around that. That's just I
54:24
just yeah, that's because for his birthday,
54:27
you running head, de private chef a
54:29
whole admit for the brothers understood,
54:32
you have value woman, So I get
54:34
that. Now, let me ask you all this because I know how
54:36
much time with y'all is. We're recording
54:38
on a Friday night. This comes out on Monday,
54:40
so y'all got things to do and it's kind
54:43
of late. But what do you think are
54:45
the most important things that make a relationship
54:47
and a marriage last? What are those? Honesty?
54:51
Trust, trust, compatibility,
54:54
commitment and
54:57
and and and and willing to work
54:59
out differences and understand
55:01
that they're going to be issues in your relationship.
55:04
Yeah, and friendship. Friendship, you gotta be
55:06
friends with your you have to
55:08
like your husband, you gotta love them
55:11
and you gotta like them two different
55:13
things. You ain't gonna like them all the time, but
55:15
like most of the time, you gotta like them most of the time, and you
55:18
gotta be well. Once again, I think working through
55:21
the issues that you have and finding somebody
55:23
that is worth working through those issues.
55:26
When you do, when you do that, that's when you I think when
55:28
you're in love. I really do. Yeah, I
55:30
agree. I agree with that. Um, everyone
55:33
you know my cast is issues. I have my
55:35
issues. You're not getting Thanks for saying that.
55:37
Well, it's the truth both of us.
55:40
I said, you had yours and I happen. I don't know if he was
55:42
going to say your other part though, that's what I'm saying.
55:44
I don't know. We both everyone has issues.
55:47
We do okay whatever those issues are. Some
55:49
may have more issues than the next person. But
55:51
everyone has issues. You have to decide,
55:54
you know. I want to know, Like when I get to
55:56
know someone, I don't want to just want
55:58
to know the good things about Tell me to asta and
56:01
so so I can know if I want to sign off sign
56:03
up for that. Tell me the
56:05
bad stuff? What are your
56:10
what are the flaws? Because
56:12
I need to know if I want to hang around for the flaws,
56:16
around for the good stuff. Tell me the
56:18
bad stuff. What's your worst thing
56:21
about you? What's your weakness? What
56:23
what you know? What
56:26
are your deal breakers? What are your
56:28
dealings? You know? For me, my deal breakers are
56:30
I'm definitely not going to be with someone
56:33
who is who
56:38
I can't trust. I just can't. I
56:40
don't have time. I can't do it. I
56:42
cannot do it. I cannot do it. So
56:45
I gotta feel comfortable. You can't
56:47
make me feel comfortable. We can't be together. I
56:50
gotta feel um
56:52
peace. You don't bring me peace. We
56:54
can't rob It's not gonna happen. So,
56:58
yeah, issues like what are
57:01
you willing to ride
57:03
with somebody on
57:06
or with through through?
57:09
What are you willing to do because some stuff
57:12
you may not want to be like you know what, I
57:14
just ain't gonna be able to do the like that's one
57:16
of your things. Like it. Mike said, this is an extreme
57:19
example, and Mike said, Um,
57:25
I like doing cocaine.
57:28
Wait a minute, is
57:30
this a confession because
57:34
I've never seen it? But tell us, Mike,
57:36
do you like cocaine. I'm just gonna
57:38
call you cocaine.
57:41
This is I've
57:44
never used cocaine in my life, right,
57:47
so even if he I know
57:49
this is a hypothetical, but to say he did
57:51
have you know, because people do you know, people
57:53
are on drugs and stuff, all right,
57:57
I would say, do
57:59
I want to do it with that? You wouldn't help me
58:01
get cleaned up? Baby? I mean I could. I
58:03
could say, Hey, you know
58:05
what, I'm gonna see you through this, help you
58:07
get off cocaine, and I'm gonna be there
58:09
with you. I'm gonna go to cocaine anonymous
58:11
with you and all that stuff. You know
58:13
what I'm saying. But I
58:16
have to ask myself do
58:18
I want to do I want to go through? You
58:21
know what I'm saying. I dated somebody that is an
58:23
alcoholic, and at
58:26
one point he wanted
58:29
to date again, and he
58:33
cannot drink because
58:35
he's an alcoholic. I
58:38
like to drink, and
58:40
I didn't feel like I
58:43
don't want to not drink around him because he's an
58:45
alcoholic. That's this problem. You know what I'm saying,
58:48
I want to go to the restaurant and order margarita.
58:50
But now I got to be feeling some kind of way. But because
58:54
you know, it may break him down, I don't
58:56
want that. I can't be in a relationship with somebody
58:58
that is an alcoholic when I'd like to
59:00
drink, So that alone wasn't
59:03
different break. I was like, look, dude, I wish you well and I hope
59:05
you meet somebody, but I'm might have my cocktails.
59:07
I'm a reality starter. I need I
59:12
can't do it. That's
59:14
an issue I didn't want to take on. So
59:16
that conversation couldn't go further than that.
59:20
So cocaine okay, but alcohol
59:22
no good, no, no no, I
59:25
just used alcohol was like real situation
59:27
that happened to me. The cocaine, you know,
59:29
the drugs and black I said, some people are willing to
59:32
put you know do uh.
59:34
You gotta be true to yourself. I don't want to deal
59:36
with that. Well for me, I want to know the rules.
59:39
Give me the rules. Let me know what we're doing in
59:41
the beginning, because if you can do it, I can
59:43
do it, bottom line, and I want
59:45
to see if you say you want to do
59:47
it, if I want to deal with it, and vice
59:49
versa. So it's not gonna be a
59:52
double standard. It's not gonna be one rule
59:54
for one person and not the other. I
59:56
want to play by the same set of rules that you're
59:58
playing by. Equality is big for me across
1:00:01
the board in any way.
1:00:03
So if you're able to do this
1:00:05
on social media, get away with it. I'm
1:00:08
able to do this on social media and get
1:00:10
away with it, bottom line, across
1:00:12
the board. So I don't like that double standards
1:00:14
are no no from me. And well, let
1:00:16
me just point out that Mike is definitely the petty one
1:00:19
in the relationship, so trust
1:00:21
and belief he can get petty
1:00:23
petty petty. Okay, if
1:00:25
if I do something and it rings in the
1:00:28
wrong way, oh brother, mad over
1:00:30
here, gonna gonna pay me back. Now, Well where
1:00:32
the other I'm gonna know that I hadn't
1:00:34
hurt this man feelings in some way. He's
1:00:36
going to go there for sure. So
1:00:39
what is it like being in a relationship where both
1:00:41
of you are in the public eye. M
1:00:44
h blessing and a curse? You
1:00:46
know, it's it's it's it's
1:00:49
difficult. You know a lot of great
1:00:51
things have come out of it. But at
1:00:54
the same time, you
1:00:56
know, when you sign on, like for me,
1:00:58
I'll just speak for myself. I signed on
1:01:01
to be a reality
1:01:03
star, so I gave up my privacy. Today,
1:01:05
I decided to be a cast member
1:01:07
of the Real Houseways of Atlanta.
1:01:10
Um. With that said, you know, my
1:01:12
life is out there. I put my life
1:01:14
out there. I am not surprised to
1:01:16
shock when people have opinions about my life,
1:01:19
good or bad. It just is what
1:01:21
it is. Um.
1:01:25
You know, for the most part, I
1:01:27
try to conduct myself in a way, carrying
1:01:30
myself in a way where I don't get a
1:01:32
lot of hate and scrutiny.
1:01:35
But at the same time, I'm
1:01:37
always expecting it because you
1:01:40
know, hat's gonna hate. You know, it just is what
1:01:42
it is. So the privacy.
1:01:45
But you know, I've been I've been in the game for a long
1:01:47
time now, I'm kind of you know, I have
1:01:49
a tough skin. I pretty much I
1:01:53
don't enjoy it. But I can deal with this point and
1:01:55
I'm not gonna lose sleep over. Um.
1:01:58
You know, people saying nasty things about me
1:02:00
or just not liking me or whatever it is.
1:02:02
You know, they, you know, the trolls may say,
1:02:05
or the blogs and may say, Like I just can't
1:02:07
really consume myself with that because
1:02:10
at the end of the day, I don't know these people. Um,
1:02:13
you know, if Michelle Obama
1:02:15
and Oprah was somewhere wearing me out, then maybe
1:02:18
my feelings will be hurt. But you know, usually
1:02:22
you know, I don't really you know, if
1:02:24
someone I respected, you know, if
1:02:26
I disappointed in some way, then
1:02:29
that would be hard for me. But as far
1:02:31
as just trolls on social media, bloggers
1:02:33
that I don't know, you know, their opinion
1:02:37
does not matter to me, and
1:02:39
they're entitled to have it. But I don't
1:02:41
I get I get to still not care, but
1:02:43
they're entitled to happen. I think of us something form
1:02:45
of relationship aspect. It's tough,
1:02:47
and I'm just gonna speak for me because you
1:02:50
know, I've been on
1:02:52
national news for the last sixteen seventeen
1:02:54
years. ESPN had a following
1:02:56
there, but this is a different animal for me, and
1:02:59
it took me a long time. Is actually adjust
1:03:02
to the scrutiny, the criticism
1:03:04
that comes with it, because your every
1:03:07
move is scrutinized. I could be
1:03:09
having lunch with a female
1:03:12
companion that's a friend that I could just have
1:03:14
face time with with Cynthia,
1:03:17
and somebody can take my picture and try and put it
1:03:19
in the blog and make it seem like it's worse than
1:03:21
what it is. And once it happens,
1:03:23
then automatically people just want to believe
1:03:25
it. I can take a picture and put it on
1:03:27
social media and they're gonna find something
1:03:29
wrong with They always have an issue and
1:03:32
they always want to say something about our relationship.
1:03:34
In the beginning, it was fake. It's for storyline.
1:03:37
Uh. It's like, oh, he's a cheater, he's
1:03:39
doing all this, he's gonna do number, cheat on
1:03:41
or whatnot. Uh oh, and they're the h
1:03:43
they're engaged. I was for the storyline, and then
1:03:45
all of a sudden, you get married or it's the only gonna last
1:03:48
for three months, I'll give it a year. You
1:03:50
see all that type of stuff, and you understand where it's
1:03:52
coming from. And like Cynthia said, you
1:03:54
know, a hater has never done anything that's
1:03:56
better than you, So you gotta understand where it's
1:03:58
coming from and and the type of person
1:04:00
that's coming from. But it's still tough
1:04:03
to get used to because it is
1:04:05
our relationship. It is our love and
1:04:07
we know how genuine it is and
1:04:09
we don't want anybody questioning. But the people
1:04:12
who are questioning it, we have to just pray
1:04:14
for them, and uh, you know,
1:04:16
I hope that they can find something as good
1:04:18
as we have them. Well,
1:04:22
but you know, at the same time, you you pray for him, and
1:04:24
you pray that they find somebody as
1:04:27
as wonderful, uh and
1:04:29
and as loving and have a relationship
1:04:31
as beautiful as we have, so
1:04:33
they don't really care what they do. Well, then
1:04:36
that's your that's your soul, My soul. My
1:04:38
spirit basically says, you know, I block them to but I'm
1:04:40
still gonna pray for him as I block them. Bottom
1:04:42
line. Yeah, you
1:04:44
gotta you know, see, I still got the spirit
1:04:46
in my baby, see the bottom But you know, but
1:04:48
no, bottom line is, man, It's it's
1:04:50
tough. It really is tough sometimes
1:04:53
being in this celebrity relationship
1:04:56
and having you know, people
1:04:59
having their opinions and seeing
1:05:01
anything that they want to about you at any
1:05:03
particular time. You know, sometimes I
1:05:05
just wish I could be uh dating
1:05:08
just a regular person or just a regular person
1:05:10
and not have to worry about, you know, how
1:05:12
I'm dressed, or if I put something on
1:05:14
social media, how you know, if it's gonna
1:05:16
be scrutinized. But I just want to just have fun
1:05:18
and be myself sometimes. Yeah, I can understand
1:05:21
why some celebrities, you know, when
1:05:23
they get to a certain level. And
1:05:25
I use the word celebrity loosely when it comes
1:05:27
to me, I just consider myself a reality
1:05:29
star. Um.
1:05:32
But anyway, UM, I can
1:05:34
see how some of the bigger celebrities, and I think
1:05:36
celebrity, I think, like Eddie Murphy is somebody, you know what I'm
1:05:38
saying. I could see why they kind
1:05:40
of become introverts and kind of isolate
1:05:42
themselves. I can understand that
1:05:45
the more fame I get, the
1:05:47
more um
1:05:50
piece I crave. Um. The more
1:05:52
I don't like being in the spotlight, the more
1:05:54
I don't like to be that social media around a
1:05:56
lot of different people because
1:05:59
you know, you don't know what people want
1:06:01
from you. And also, I'm very
1:06:03
protective of my energy, and I
1:06:05
don't like certain energy around me, So I'm
1:06:07
very protective of that. Um
1:06:11
Yeah, I mean it's
1:06:14
stuff. It's tough, but it's it's
1:06:17
part. It's you know. I
1:06:20
mean, I think about my little bit of little
1:06:22
little bit of celebrity I have, and I
1:06:24
think about somebody life beyond it. I'm like, with ch'awd,
1:06:27
what is she doing?
1:06:30
I can't imagine her? Hater is goodness gracious,
1:06:32
but you know what, I look
1:06:34
at what I see and in her
1:06:37
life and her relationship, it seems like,
1:06:40
you know, they protect each other. They protect
1:06:43
each other. You know, they do what they
1:06:45
need to do too. They
1:06:47
have figured out a way to have peace that
1:06:50
celebrity, and I think that's the trick. There's
1:06:53
a reason. You know, I live on
1:06:55
a lake. I need peace. I
1:06:57
need that balance in my life. I need to be
1:06:59
able to come home to peace. I
1:07:02
think that's very, very important.
1:07:04
So when the noise is going on, in the
1:07:07
chaos and the trolling and whatever,
1:07:10
it doesn't take me out because
1:07:13
I have peace. No matter what you
1:07:15
don't like me, I still get to come on the peace.
1:07:18
I had a bad episode, I still get to come on
1:07:20
to peace. Um.
1:07:23
You know, the the things that I care
1:07:25
about, I'm
1:07:27
clear about the things I care about my family.
1:07:31
You know. That's it. That's what
1:07:33
I happened at the end of the day, you
1:07:35
know, And that's it. In
1:07:37
your in your relationships, isn't your
1:07:39
Your relationship isn't scripted for the show.
1:07:42
It's it's real life. And people may
1:07:44
assume that it's scripted, but it's real life. Oh
1:07:46
trust me. So I wish it was scripted, it would be
1:07:48
easier. I wish
1:07:50
we could just come up and make it up. This is
1:07:52
our real life, and um,
1:07:56
I wouldn't have it any other ways. To be
1:07:58
honest, I've been on reality
1:08:00
TV for over a decade now, and all
1:08:02
I've ever done was be me and be
1:08:04
transparent. Show my ups, downs,
1:08:07
peaks, valleys, highs, lows, strong
1:08:10
points, weak points, be vulnerable,
1:08:12
be a mess, be a boss, be strong.
1:08:14
I've shown it all and with
1:08:17
that, I'm
1:08:20
inspiring somebody. I'm motivating
1:08:22
somebody to do something. And I always
1:08:25
just choose to focus on the positive.
1:08:27
You know, my real life is my real
1:08:29
life, and I show if I'm gonna
1:08:31
be a reality show, a reality start, I have to
1:08:33
show my real life. Social
1:08:35
Media is a choice. I have to participated
1:08:38
that phone too, know
1:08:40
what I mean. My job, my
1:08:42
life, the job that I've chose to have,
1:08:45
you know, that's all a choice.
1:08:47
Everything else, you know, you
1:08:51
know, well, those
1:08:53
are the things that I want to do. Um
1:08:55
participating on social media, that's that's
1:08:57
my choice, you know. Engaging
1:09:00
you know, that's
1:09:02
my choice. Well, as we
1:09:04
as we bring this to a close,
1:09:07
I wanted to ask you, Mike a question
1:09:10
because when you're on TV. You're such a positive
1:09:12
and upbeat person in life,
1:09:15
and for my experience with your very positive
1:09:17
and upbeat but as we know from your
1:09:19
amazing memoir Open Mic, which came
1:09:21
out last year, you've battled your share of enter
1:09:23
demons. Why did
1:09:25
you write the book and if you would tell us some of
1:09:27
your personal struggles from from childhood.
1:09:31
Well, I wrote the book because I needed to write the book.
1:09:33
It was time. I
1:09:35
I started writing it
1:09:38
because a friend of mine told me I needed to
1:09:40
write a memoir because I was telling her about
1:09:43
my about my past
1:09:45
and some of the things that dealt with over
1:09:47
my career and my personal life. But
1:09:49
I didn't feel like it was time to write because I didn't
1:09:52
think anybody was going to read it. I'm like, who am I'm not a
1:09:54
celebrity, I'm not anybody big, nobody cares
1:09:56
about my life. But then I picked
1:09:58
it back up and started writing again about three or
1:10:00
four years later, because I felt like I needed to write
1:10:02
it because if I didn't write it at that particular
1:10:05
time, which was about three or four years
1:10:07
ago, I wouldn't be here right now.
1:10:09
And I really truly believe that Giano,
1:10:11
I really feel like I
1:10:13
would have had a stroke, I would have died of a heart
1:10:15
attack because I had so much internal
1:10:18
pain and trauma and sadness
1:10:20
that was embedded in me that I had just suppressed
1:10:23
for so many years that needed to be released.
1:10:26
And as I told you earlier in the podcast,
1:10:29
open Mic was my therapy that I didn't
1:10:32
even realize I needed to have. So
1:10:34
once I started writing a book, uh,
1:10:37
everything started flowing out
1:10:39
and I started feeling a sense of relief,
1:10:42
and I had to even write more and
1:10:44
more. And once I started writing, I
1:10:46
couldn't stop writing. And uh
1:10:49
So some of those pains, some of those traumas,
1:10:51
you know, we deal with as uh we talked
1:10:53
about it, as as being growing up in certain
1:10:55
environments as a black man, you know, seeing
1:10:59
domestic violence. You know, at an early
1:11:01
age. One of the first memories I had in my life
1:11:03
was seeing my mom, you know, brutally beaten
1:11:06
by my dad. Uh finding
1:11:08
out my dad, my stepfather who who
1:11:11
raised me, because my biological father wasn't
1:11:13
in my life. My stepfather was a
1:11:15
hit man who spent the last nine years
1:11:17
of his life in prison for murder for higher
1:11:20
you know, a lot of the things that I saw and didn't see
1:11:22
a lot of love and didn't see a lot of positive
1:11:24
male role models in my life growing up.
1:11:26
So I didn't know how to love. I didn't know
1:11:28
how to commit to anybody. The first person I ever
1:11:30
told I love this woman looked
1:11:33
at me like I was crazy, and it affected me
1:11:35
for so many years. So it was so many different
1:11:37
things that happened to me at
1:11:39
an early age that we
1:11:42
as black men a lot of times just deal with
1:11:44
because we feel like that's life and we're never
1:11:46
gonna get the the help that
1:11:48
we need. And so the reason
1:11:51
you asked me why I wrote the book, it
1:11:53
is because at the time, I needed to write that book, uh,
1:11:56
and that became my first sense of therapy, and
1:11:58
once I got that out, I was able to
1:12:01
follow up with a counselor and
1:12:03
I've been doing that ever since. Bro and
1:12:06
Gianno just really quickly. If Mike had
1:12:08
written that book, I don't think we would
1:12:10
be together. M Honestly,
1:12:14
I really don't. I don't think
1:12:17
he would um.
1:12:21
I don't think he would have been able to
1:12:24
be with someone like me, and I don't think
1:12:27
I would have wanted to be with him.
1:12:29
You know, I wouldn't have been ready. I wasn't
1:12:31
because you know, there was a lot of things,
1:12:33
and it cost me a lot of relationships. And I wrote that in open
1:12:35
mic. It cost me because I wasn't
1:12:38
whole, because I didn't realize
1:12:40
that I was hurting myself one way,
1:12:43
but I was hurting the people around me because of the
1:12:45
things that was affected me in my life that
1:12:47
I didn't even really know about. And
1:12:50
I was reaching out, like I was telling, you know, since you
1:12:52
I didn't trust a lot of people in the beginning because
1:12:54
I didn't trust myself because I wasn't in love
1:12:56
with myself. I couldn't fall in love with somebody
1:12:58
else, and that you to my ex wise, you
1:13:01
know, I could love somebody, but I could not fall
1:13:03
in love with somebody, and that was a big
1:13:06
difference. And I was hurting myself
1:13:08
and I was hurting other people around me. So yeah,
1:13:10
until I was able to become whole, I wasn't able
1:13:12
to accept somebody, uh like
1:13:15
Cynthia, because you know, I
1:13:17
was playing games. I was being
1:13:19
a boy and acting
1:13:21
like a man and thinking I was a man, you
1:13:24
know. So once I wrote the book, I was able
1:13:26
to start stepping into my manhood.
1:13:28
And I'm still doing that to this very day.
1:13:31
Wow. Yeah. And I have a copy of your
1:13:33
book. It's a great memoir and I encourage
1:13:35
people to buy it. And I also want to thank
1:13:37
you for supporting my book. Taking for granted
1:13:39
you and Cynthia went out and bought
1:13:41
it on your own. I didn't have to give a free copy and
1:13:44
you didn't have to do that for me because I supporting each
1:13:46
other. So I appreciate that. And I
1:13:48
want to thank you all for spending you'all Friday night
1:13:50
with me. It's currently a
1:13:52
p m on the Friday, and I know y'all probably
1:13:54
got the drink stirring in the background
1:13:56
and ready for that for the for the Bailey
1:13:59
Bailey drink. What's what's the name of your drink, Cynthia
1:14:02
Um Peach Bellini, Sigrums
1:14:04
Escapes, Peach Bellini, Peach Bellini,
1:14:06
So I know those that's that's getting ready for
1:14:09
your Friday night. Now before we go,
1:14:11
what's next for you guys? Do you have any big projects
1:14:14
coming up for the folks at home that they
1:14:16
should know about? What can people find you on social media?
1:14:18
And that's where elsewhere? And what's next
1:14:20
for the Real Housewives of Atlanta and and certainly.
1:14:22
UM, plug your your morning show,
1:14:25
Mike on Black News Channel. Okay,
1:14:28
what's next in terms of Real Housewives
1:14:30
of Atlanta. Um, we just finished
1:14:32
film of the reunion, three part reunion
1:14:34
that's coming up. That's always fun
1:14:37
to watch. Not as much fun to do, but definitely
1:14:40
fun for y'all to watch. It's
1:14:42
a long day, a lot going on, but I actually
1:14:44
enjoyed the region because it's our time to
1:14:46
have the face to face and just get closure
1:14:49
with whatever issues. Um, Mike and I
1:14:52
have a couple of other TV projects
1:14:54
that we're working on together. We can't really say
1:14:57
right now, but as soon as we are able
1:15:00
to officially announce them, we
1:15:02
will come back on your show and we'll let you thank
1:15:05
you. But yeah, we got a lot of things going on. You
1:15:07
guys know, if you're in Atlanta, Uh,
1:15:10
come have a glass of wine. But that's at
1:15:12
the Bailey Wine Seller. Um.
1:15:15
Absolutely, But we're good
1:15:17
right now. You know, we're like six months into our marriage.
1:15:20
Our biggest project right now,
1:15:23
our biggest job right now is now
1:15:25
that we have tied the knot. You know, getting
1:15:28
married is one thing. Stand married, you know,
1:15:30
just working on our relationship, just keeping
1:15:32
it going, you know, getting
1:15:34
here is one part like just stand, like
1:15:36
just being keep standing in this place of love
1:15:39
and happiness and peace. You know that takes work.
1:15:41
You just don't get married and then it just magically
1:15:43
everything is perfect. You gotta work on it. You gotta
1:15:46
keep you know, you gotta keep your marriage
1:15:48
going and keep it happy and healthy. Which
1:15:50
is why my man is about taking me to dinner on a
1:15:52
date. Yeah.
1:15:55
But now I got you know, I got the Black News Channel. Man,
1:15:57
it's just started and we just launched in marsh
1:16:00
re launched. You'll start your day with
1:16:03
sharing the mike, so getting up super
1:16:05
early in the morning, having a good time. It's part of talk
1:16:07
show, a part news shannel. We keep it real great
1:16:09
platform. But also
1:16:12
you know, at Cynthia said, we got a couple of projects
1:16:14
that we're working out that's coming out pretty soon. Open
1:16:17
Mic still in bookstores, Bonds
1:16:19
and Nobles, Target, Walmart,
1:16:23
and um one more place
1:16:25
Amazon, Amazon, there you go, Amazon
1:16:27
dot Com. Semo. Man is always looking out for
1:16:29
me there and uh, I got my open
1:16:32
mic sessions that I'm doing and just you
1:16:34
know, enjoying life, man, that's what it's all
1:16:36
about. And hanging out my man. Gia L.
1:16:40
A but he's hanging in Miami so much. Now
1:16:42
you come see me anymore? Brother,
1:16:44
Yeah, now I'm gonna be with you. And I
1:16:47
saw that I rather I didn't see a
1:16:49
lot of people told me that I made the Real Housewives
1:16:51
of Atlanta when I was at your wedding. So yeah,
1:16:53
you was dancing, bro, Yeah,
1:16:56
that's one of my biggest skill sets. I hit
1:16:58
the dance floor. You have a the time,
1:17:00
man, you absolutely you already know
1:17:03
indeed, Well, thank you all for joining out
1:17:05
lout with Gianno calledwell and it's
1:17:07
been an honor to hear your story again
1:17:10
and expose my audience to uh
1:17:14
your lives and it's it's really an honor
1:17:16
to see where you all are and where you're
1:17:18
going. And I'm so thankful to be a
1:17:20
friend to you both and and just see
1:17:22
it up close and personal. And thank you
1:17:24
for sharing that light with with with my listeners.
1:17:27
Giano, Thank you man for having us on May We
1:17:29
really appreciate your brother absolutely,
1:17:31
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1:17:33
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1:17:35
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