When something feels off, we can consider which roles are present in the moment. Am I being a mover, and my guest a follower? Or are they perhaps being an opposer?During a conversation we sometimes sense that it could be better. We might be awa

Having an open posture

Jul 13th, 2023 2m 45s

I don't simply day-dreaming about my intentions when it's convenient. I consider different intentions, choose explicitly, and then work to carry that intention into a conversation.Our urge to hide influences us in subtle ways. If we feel we can

The resources of others

Jun 20th, 2023 1m 49s

Focusing on these small things frees me from trying to imagine what is the big picture we're creating.There are so many things we could pursue in any conversation: Learning, discovery, helping our partner, even fame. So it's wise to pick someth

Being genuine

Jun 15th, 2023 1m 46s

We have little chance of being creative if we know, or think we know, where things are headed.In conversation we find tension within ourselves from our competing desires to lead and to follow. For genuine connection to develop, we must release

The power of vistas

Jun 6th, 2023 2m 27s

"What do we want to create together?" presents a vista. We figuratively stand here and now with our partner, and we look forward to the future.We can change ourselves and our partners in conversation by presenting a vista.Physically encounterin

Generous silence

May 31st, 2023 1m 48s

When we choose silence, we're giving the other person our own time to process their thoughts, feelings, and experiences without feeling rushed or judged.Silence is not simply waiting to speak; it can be an active process of giving. There is so

Normal conversations too

May 24th, 2023 2m 20s

My goal is simply to make every conversation I have better than yesteryear-me would have done with it.To improve, we have to decide first how we'd like our conversations to be different. Improving our (and those we converse with's) sense of con

Profound silence

May 18th, 2023 2m 9s

We should sit with the silence for a few beats when we find ourselves admiring something profound. Profound silence is too rare.It's important to understand what's appearing in our conversation as it happens. We can have a flow of thought betwe

What is Open + Curious

May 12th, 2023 56s

Hello, I’m Craig Constantine 👋Welcome to Open + Curious.I believe that great conversation requires true listening and genuine curiosity.We talk with others every day, but how often do we intentionally practice the art of conversation?I want to