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My fiance broke up with me

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because of my parents open marriage.

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Can I get him back? The

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parents Maybe

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they want to include your fiance And

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this goes into the idea of should you

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tell your kids about the details of your

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relationship? Is it a good idea is a

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bad idea? We're gonna be answering these questions

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with these next story. So this comes from

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a throwaway account and They

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say we've been together for six

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years. We've known each other for

0:31

another three years before that So

0:33

nine years total coming up on

0:35

a decade of a relationship right

0:37

now. That's a long relationship We're

0:40

getting married in February or

0:43

we were Well,

0:47

I don't know anymore We've been visiting my

0:49

parents to meet some more of my extended

0:51

family So they get to know him before

0:53

the wedding my parents offered to host us

0:55

and we've been staying in my old room

0:57

I'm female 29 and he's male 32 We

1:04

are staying with my parents my fiance wanted

1:06

to stay in a hotel, but I thought

1:08

it would be fun to sleep in my

1:10

old room Yeah,

1:15

you're trying to christen your

1:17

bed with your fiance I Mean

1:22

it says People

1:25

say that John's mic is on you listen. Did you

1:27

listen to the I did and you were working before Speak

1:33

Hello I can't So

1:39

he is getting used to producing

1:41

because Riley is

1:43

not here right now He

1:46

yeah, yeah Riley

1:48

rest in peace It

1:54

is very funny We

1:56

can hear John John's not working

1:58

can't hear John we can hear John? We

2:00

can't hear John. Sophia's

2:03

John's mics. Sophia's

2:06

crawling on the floor. If you can hear

2:08

me right now. She is checking if it's...

2:15

She's doing such a good

2:18

job. Hello, hello.

2:20

Can you guys hear me? If you can hear me right now,

2:22

then it is. I hear

2:24

him now. I can hear... It's a

2:27

very intimate... Yeah, can you hear him? No

2:31

John right now. Don't stress. You got this

2:33

Sophia. No sound John. He's cutting in and

2:35

out. Yeah

2:42

Sophia. It is

2:44

John's fault. Can you hear me now? Can

2:52

you hear him?

2:55

Guys can you hear me? You can hear him.

2:58

Please, multiple people confirm in the chat with

3:00

me. Very quiet. Jaclyn says

3:02

very quiet. How about

3:04

now? I can hear him. ASMR John,

3:06

we can hear you when you're up

3:09

close or yelling. It's very low. Okay.

3:11

So it might be a issue with...

3:13

Low now. With a too

3:15

low now. Very soft. Can you hear him?

3:18

You hear him? Sophia can you hear him

3:20

in the headphones

3:23

that you are wearing? Just

3:26

low. So let's fix that. Volume.

3:30

Alright. Can you

3:32

guys hear me at a good volume now? We're

3:35

gonna wait. We're gonna see. It was a little bit of

3:37

a delay. Quiet.

3:41

Turn it up. Yeah,

3:44

you can hear it. Sophia, you can hear

3:46

him. You can hear him fine. You can hear

3:48

me fine. Yes. Okay. Everyone can hear

3:50

everyone fine. You can hear

3:52

him now. Should we restart

3:54

the hour? Let's take it

3:56

from the top. Oh yeah, yeah.

3:59

Yes, yes. It's getting

4:01

better. We are there. Yes.

4:03

Yes. All right. There we

4:05

got it. We got it. Hello W's

4:09

of the chat It

4:13

was working before we started

4:15

I Came in and I

4:18

sabotaged the mic. I didn't tell Sophia or

4:20

anyone else that is I think it just got

4:22

loose when you guys were removing Yeah,

4:26

I Think I think

4:29

there's one thing we can know as we

4:31

can blame John. Yes, that is what we

4:33

are everything Yeah, I actually was gonna blame

4:35

Sam You could do

4:37

that too. Yeah, I guess both of these things

4:39

are options Also, see

4:42

what I mean that box from behind you too. There's a box

4:57

Big dog Clinton in the house In

5:00

the house again, yeah, that's right. He's back. These

5:02

are summer intern. That's right Okay,

5:05

it's going so well now.

5:08

Oh, yeah It was Clinton only on the members only

5:10

or was he on the full public life? You guys

5:12

know about Clinton Thursday public life

5:14

public life Yeah, they know about her buddies. Everybody's

5:16

seen. All right, I'm gonna start over. Let's do

5:18

it I'm gonna start over cuz it feels like

5:21

we need to yes. Okay, so My

5:25

fiance broke up with me because of my parents open

5:27

marriage. Can I get them back? What? Yeah

5:30

Maybe they want them as a third

5:32

in their marriage and this all goes

5:34

to the question Should you tell your

5:36

kids about the details the dirty details

5:38

of your relationship? This first

5:40

story comes from a throwaway account and

5:42

they say we've been together for six

5:44

years We've known each other for another

5:46

three years before that. So nine years

5:48

total. We're getting married in February or

5:50

we were I Don't know anymore We're

5:53

visiting my parents to meet some more of

5:55

my extended family so they get to know

5:57

him before the wedding my parents offered to

5:59

host We've been staying in my old room.

6:01

I'm female 29 and he's male 32 We

6:05

are staying with my parents my fiance wanted to stay

6:07

at a hotel But I thought it

6:09

would be fun to sleep in my old room

6:12

Is that like a thing like a

6:14

like a like an old room fetish? Childhood

6:19

room oh yeah, yeah, I

6:21

mean I could totally see that being a

6:23

thing. That's a thing I don't know I could see it being

6:25

I could not see that sick

6:31

I Did

6:34

nothing I ruined the mic and this apparently

6:36

I ruined mics and child's bedrooms Back

6:45

to the story Go

6:48

for John so early Early

6:51

stream attacks. Oh wait let me know in the chat

6:54

if that's like a thing Yeah,

6:56

so someone says not a fetish just nostalgia

7:00

I got a friend a day so

7:04

And to be here with my mom

7:06

and dad one last time under their

7:08

roof before I become a married woman

7:11

My parents have been in a non-conventional Marriage

7:14

for a long time it

7:16

was a shock to me to learn

7:18

about it, and I learned to cope

7:20

with it I am NOT necessarily comfortable

7:22

with their lifestyle, but I can't do

7:25

anything about it They basically go on

7:27

dates with other people spend time with

7:29

other people and do

7:32

the spicy sleep with other

7:34

people Had to

7:36

learn about it when I came home a few

7:38

days earlier from a trip with a friend's family

7:40

and my father Was sleeping next

7:43

to another woman when I was 16. Oh,

7:46

I freaked out then and my parents had to

7:48

explain to me It was all

7:50

fine Which

7:53

question to the chat Do

7:56

you tell your kids you're

7:58

having an open marriage? before

8:01

they find out or

8:03

do you just wait for them to find

8:05

out and then say so? I think you have to

8:07

because if they find out, they'll be like, honestly.

8:10

They could tell other people and then like

8:12

ruin your reputation in your town. Exactly and

8:14

also OP clearly does not

8:16

like this as an adult now. I

8:19

wonder if this negative childhood experience is

8:21

kind of like locked in. Painted it,

8:23

yeah. From childhood, whereas if they explained

8:25

it in a child appropriate way, like

8:27

every level of childhood. Six years old.

8:30

Mommy and daddy love each

8:32

other very much. But we also love

8:34

something else, little Bobby. Yeah. Oh yeah.

8:37

Bowen and other people. Big daddy's gotta

8:39

get his fixed little Bobby. Sorry

8:43

little Bobby. That's the age appropriate way, right?

8:45

Exactly, yeah. That's exactly what we just said.

8:47

Yeah, yeah, so any people trying to open

8:50

up their marriage, you're welcome. Just show them

8:52

this video. Yeah, that'll fix it.

8:54

You're good. Anyway,

8:58

so we're going back

9:00

into this story. So

9:03

my fiance could not sleep last night

9:05

and went outside for some fresh air

9:07

because he's not used to sleeping away

9:09

from our bed back home. And

9:12

he found my mom kissing

9:14

another guy and my parents.

9:18

How do you say that word? Foyer? Foyer. Foyer.

9:21

What's a foyer? It's like the entryway in

9:23

like a house. Oh. Foyer,

9:26

do you know about foyer? So if you... Yes.

9:30

What? Everyone knows about foyer? Everyone

9:32

knows about foyer. Everyone

9:34

knows about foyer. That is where you

9:36

make out at late at night. Also,

9:39

the parents couldn't keep it in the pants for one day.

9:42

That's crazy. Little Bobby, daddy's gotta get

9:45

his fixed. Sorry

9:47

little Bobby. Well,

9:49

he freaked out, started yelling at her,

9:51

came and woke me up, demanded I

9:53

call my father and tell him he

9:56

found my mom cheating on him.

9:59

So. My mom had to explain

10:01

to my fiance about my parents non-conventional marriage, but

10:04

it didn't go well with him. And

10:06

once it seemed like he was calming down and starts

10:08

to accept what my mom was telling him, he

10:11

figured out I knew about their

10:13

marriage and he started freaking out on

10:15

me. He

10:18

started freaking out on me. I

10:20

don't know, I just imagine someone dance battling. Step,

10:24

step, step, game up. Like why didn't

10:26

you tell me your parents were

10:29

in an open marriage? Yeah, uh-uh.

10:32

Little Bobby, daddy's got uh-uh, something to

10:34

tell you. Uh-uh. Why does

10:37

he need to know that they're in

10:39

an open marriage? Because he saw them.

10:41

Otherwise he'll freak out. Yeah.

10:43

Uh-uh. No, but why is he

10:46

like, why didn't you tell me, babe, that

10:48

your parents are in? Why

10:51

did he, why was it like a big thing that

10:53

it was a secret from him? Well, he

10:56

told me that he can't trust me

10:58

anymore. That he was set up.

11:01

That I insisted we stay with our

11:03

parents so that I

11:05

can ease him in to

11:08

the idea. Because

11:10

you know that the best way

11:12

to convince your partner of anything

11:14

is to have him forced to

11:16

be watched, your parents making

11:19

out with other people. He's

11:21

gotta force that watching. I feel like

11:23

he thinks that he's gonna be involved. He's like,

11:25

babe, I wasn't ready for it, but now that

11:28

I know your parents are in an open marriage,

11:30

I'm ready to join. He

11:33

actually wants to join. And he's like, whoa,

11:35

whoa, I'm not ready to be in a

11:37

three way with your parents today,

11:40

but tomorrow. Tomorrow, maybe. It's a whole

11:42

different day. Yeah, it's a whole different

11:44

day. New opportunities, new things. We can,

11:47

you know, maybe test the waters then.

11:50

But no, he told me that I couldn't, that we

11:52

couldn't trust me anymore, that he was set up and

11:54

I insisted we stay with our parents so that I

11:56

could ease him in to the idea. So I can

11:58

enforce my parents principles. on our own

12:01

marriage and I simply can't get

12:03

through to him. My

12:05

fiance has been cheated on before.

12:08

His parents have divorced because his

12:10

mom cheated on his dad and

12:13

he doesn't have a good relationship with

12:15

her. He could barely stomach the idea

12:17

of having her come to our wedding.

12:21

The man has some trauma, man

12:23

needs therapy. Get

12:25

over it. I'm sorry, I'm

12:28

sorry. Yes, someone cheated on

12:30

you but just because you go

12:32

to your partner's parents' house and they

12:34

happen to be in an open relationship,

12:36

your partner literally said nothing

12:38

about it. Nothing. A

12:41

picture's worth a thousand words. Also,

12:44

what would the conversation have been? Like,

12:46

babe, I need to tell you something. Babe, you

12:48

know what you just saw in the foyer? Yeah,

12:51

we're about to do it right now. Greg,

12:54

come in here. So,

12:57

he went to a hotel for

12:59

tonight and said he will be

13:01

leaving back home tomorrow. He's not

13:03

really answering his phone or texting

13:05

back. He said he needs to

13:07

reevaluate our engagement, that he doesn't

13:09

think he can marry me knowing

13:11

I approve of my parents' marriage

13:13

style, that I wanted to manipulate

13:15

him and introduce this lifestyle in

13:18

our relationship. The truth

13:20

is, I'm ashamed of my parents and

13:22

their relationship. And I had

13:24

no, oh, ashamed of my parents and

13:26

their relationship, so both. And

13:29

I had no idea that they would behave

13:31

like this while my fiance is around, let

13:33

alone sleeping in their house. That

13:36

is like, all right. It's pretty crazy. Yes,

13:39

it's their house and everything, but

13:41

can you not go on a date for

13:43

one day while you have company over? It's

13:46

the same thing as like, let's say for

13:48

instance, you brought

13:50

a friend over and then

13:52

you're just like, there's

13:54

a chick just like, I don't know, half

13:57

naked downstairs or something. And they're like, hey.

14:00

Bro, do you want me to go home? Or

14:02

like, it's like, it's like with

14:05

anyone in any relationship, if they invite you over

14:07

to stay at their house and then there's like,

14:09

You assume they're not going to be banging in

14:11

the foyer. Exactly. It's like,

14:13

you know, either, either have them,

14:15

you know, not stay over and

14:18

do whatever you want. Or

14:20

at least at a minimum be more

14:22

discreet. So it's not like in their

14:24

face. Yeah. Do it in a room,

14:26

not in a open hallway at the

14:28

beginning of the house. Wait,

14:31

oh, I forgot that the they did it in

14:33

the foyer. They did it in the foyer.

14:35

Like, did they? That's open. Were they

14:37

spicy sleeping in the foyer? They weren't

14:39

spicy sleeping, but they were, they were,

14:41

they were making like, like tongues were

14:43

penetrating. Well, well, do we know that? Or maybe

14:45

they were just sharing a little smooch. They

14:48

said, make it out. They said, I, I,

14:50

I, I remember making out. I don't know

14:52

what was said, but in my head, I

14:55

never make it out. In your head. And that

14:58

is worth a thousand words. Let me tell you.

15:00

Little Bobby. My friend, Sam's got to think about

15:02

things in his head sometimes. You

15:05

got to get his fix. You got to get

15:07

his fix. The truth is, I'm

15:09

ashamed of my parents in the relationship. I had

15:11

no idea that they would behave like this while

15:13

my fiance is around, let alone sleeping in their

15:16

house. He simply doesn't believe me because I haven't

15:18

talked about it since I've met him. It's not

15:20

something I find easy to talk about. And the

15:22

less I think about it, the better. How

15:25

can I talk with him? I have no

15:27

interest in my parents' style of relationship. I

15:29

am fully dedicated to my fiance and I

15:31

have never been interested in another person since

15:34

I've met him. I don't want

15:36

to lose him over this stupid thing. And I feel

15:38

ashamed yet to find out about my parents like this.

15:41

I'd have preferred. He never knew.

15:43

Please. If anyone has any suggestions,

15:45

I am interested in those

15:47

suggestions. Thank you. And there are some

15:49

relevant comments with answers from OP and

15:53

a big thick, juicy updates,

15:56

but John, uh, how do

15:58

you think OP should navigate this? I

16:00

think you literally put them down and you're

16:02

like, let me be explicitly

16:04

clear here. I do not want

16:07

to have this relationship. This is literally just

16:09

what my parents do. Just because we go

16:12

to a hotel and

16:17

we have a room next to

16:19

cattle ranchers doesn't mean I want

16:22

us to become cattle ranchers. I

16:25

think that's a great analogy.

16:27

That's right. I love that analogy.

16:29

Can I piggyback on your analogy

16:31

too? Yes and me. Sophia

16:35

giggles because she's an improv now.

16:38

Improv. Yeah, we know all the

16:40

improv terms. Just because your

16:43

parents cheated on each other

16:45

or your mom cheated on your dad or

16:48

whichever one it was, doesn't mean you're gonna

16:50

cheat on your partner. That's a brilliant

16:52

thing because- It's the same thing. Yeah, what if

16:54

he had been like, oh my God,

16:56

your parents cheated on, I can't be with

16:58

you because your parents cheated on- Yeah, and

17:00

I don't want to be in that relationship style. Honestly,

17:04

just turn it on his head. Your parents cheated. I

17:06

don't want to be in that relationship style. Brilliant. Then

17:08

just break up, bam, you showed him. Yeah,

17:11

honestly, literally just say that. It's

17:14

the same as me not wanting to be with

17:16

you just because your parents had a relationship cheating.

17:18

Of course, that is

17:20

irrelevant. It's irrelevant. I don't want to

17:23

be a cattle rancher. Yeah. I

17:25

hate cows. So

17:28

getting into some relevant comments. Tired

17:31

of dancing says, yeah, you let him

17:33

learn about that in the worst possible

17:35

way. Oh man, are we gonna get

17:37

some Reddit comments that are like, you

17:40

suck and you should feel bad. I

17:42

mean, yeah. She should have given him a

17:44

heads up in fairness, but anyways. Well, maybe

17:46

she didn't think that her parents were gonna

17:49

fake out in the foyer. Yeah, I

17:51

feel like that's something that comes up. Your

17:53

parents are- Does it? My

17:56

parents are together. I don't think they're gonna

17:58

be making out in the foyer. But

18:00

didn't OPE know they were in an open

18:02

relationship way in advance? Yes.

18:05

But just- But is that something you bring up?

18:07

Yeah. in

18:09

nine years. Oh. Nine

18:12

years. That's- You

18:14

don't mention that once. Oh, I was traumatized

18:16

when I was 16. You definitely tell that

18:18

when you're- That actually is a good point.

18:20

Nine years? You know what? I just

18:22

watched Planet of the Apes. So did I. There's

18:25

no way this is relevant. Is it? There's

18:27

absolutely no way. I don't believe you. But go.

18:30

Wow. Go ahead. But I have

18:32

to get it out. It's for it to be

18:34

relevant. Okay. Okay. So

18:36

I just

18:39

watched Planet of the Apes and there's the main character

18:41

Will who he like makes the

18:43

ape smart and he gets

18:45

in a relationship with this girl. I don't remember

18:47

her name. And they're

18:49

together for five years. Five

18:52

years. And then she

18:54

doesn't find out that he made this

18:56

monkey smart or that he stole

18:59

medicine from where he was working until

19:01

five years later. And he doesn't even tell her. He

19:03

just like brings it up when he's talking to the

19:05

monkey. So he

19:07

sometimes thinks, oh, come on.

19:11

That is true. That

19:13

is so true. That Sophia is extremely

19:16

relevant. You get it. Super completed thought.

19:19

I know that. Hey, that was a

19:21

completed thought. It was from a fictional

19:23

movie about smart monkeys.

19:26

But could be reality. It could

19:28

be less relevant. It could be less.

19:32

That's true. There

19:34

was no less relevant than cattle ranchers.

19:37

Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. I

19:40

was over here defending you. I literally watched it last night

19:42

to get ready to watch it again as a group.

19:44

I agree that it's relevant. I agree. You

19:46

come for me and my analogies. No, she said. I'm

19:49

saying that it's as relevant as mine. And

19:51

I think mine is relevant. Tone is important.

19:53

I wasn't sure. It seems like you're insulting my comment. No, not at all.

19:56

I was defending it. I

20:00

think both of your comments are

20:02

extremely relevant. Wait, Sophia has a

20:04

point. Sophia has a point. You

20:06

can't just shoot her. Get

20:09

her! Do it! We're

20:12

gonna get shut down. Anyway, let's get back.

20:16

Also, the whole house

20:18

has Nerf guns and we've been having Nerf

20:20

wars. And Sophia, don't do it.

20:25

You got him. That was pretty good. Also,

20:28

let's grab Clint and the mic if we have the extra one.

20:32

It would be on that side. Okay, let's get

20:34

back to the story. We're gonna get back to

20:36

the story. So, I am

20:39

not excusing his behavior, but I get

20:41

his reaction. You insisted on staying in

20:43

their house and you knew his past

20:45

trauma. I would totally expect you to

20:47

have told him by now. You are

20:49

engaged and your parents, very alternate to

20:51

him, lifestyle is a big issue. It's

20:53

not your parents' responsibility to cater to

20:55

his needs when it's their home and

20:58

their actions are not a secret. But you're, one

21:01

day, come on, one day of not hooking up with

21:03

a bunch of random people. Literally, that's all you had

21:05

to do. That's all we asked. All you had to

21:07

do. You seem to not be

21:09

understanding at all that you should have not hit

21:11

it and wanting him to never know is the

21:13

wrong idea to begin with and what got you

21:15

into this mess. Stop hiding shit like this and

21:18

share it in a way that makes it clear

21:20

you don't approve. I do

21:22

agree that it

21:24

is crazy. It was intentionally hidden. If

21:28

it hasn't come up in nine years. And

21:30

I think that is where OP messed up. Good point. Yeah,

21:33

that's fair. It's like OP's lying by omission.

21:37

Yeah. Pretty much. OP, OP. I

21:39

think I agree with that. OP is lying by omission. Yeah.

21:43

But we do, also, Sofia, I don't know

21:45

if we can see donations. Why

21:47

not? Because

21:50

the thing is, in our view, it is

21:52

not in our view. We

21:54

see a notion in OBS. But no nose. Okay.

21:57

Ah. Very

22:00

nice. Yeah, that looks good.

22:03

Okay. Thank you.

22:05

Perfect. Perfect. There

22:07

we go. Oh yeah. There we

22:09

go. Sofia the producer. We

22:12

still miss you Riley for watching but so you're doing a

22:14

great job. Okay.

22:16

Over P responds. I would have at least

22:19

expected my parents to be able to control

22:21

themselves at least for the few

22:23

days we were supposed to be there.

22:25

But I guess that was too much

22:27

to wish for. I didn't necessarily hide

22:29

this from him, but it never came

22:31

up and I am so uncomfortable talking

22:33

about it. It was never something I

22:35

even thought about mentioning. He doesn't

22:37

talk about his mom that much. I learned

22:39

what I did about her and how his

22:41

parents marriage ended from his sister. And honestly,

22:43

I thought it would be nice to sleep

22:45

in my old room and be there

22:48

one last time before I get

22:50

married. There were no malicious intentions

22:52

here. There

22:54

are some more, but what do we think about that response? Yeah,

22:57

I mean I agree with your earlier point of I

22:59

think it is flying by omission

23:02

and also but at

23:04

the same time it was kind of a happenstance

23:07

thing of like I don't think Opie was expecting

23:09

her parents to just be freaking getting

23:11

it for the one night. Yeah.

23:15

For her wedding too. Right. Like

23:18

I don't know. It's the day before but it was

23:20

like like soon before the

23:22

wedding. Yeah. Someone

23:24

said, yeah, but I don't. Can you scroll

23:26

up Sophia? Maybe

23:29

we won't be able to find it because it's pretty.

23:32

Yes, the intern is here. He

23:35

has a name. Does this name is Clay

23:38

Quirk? Yeah. Can you hear him?

23:41

Wait, keep going. Keep going. Someone,

23:43

I'll just rephrase it, but someone was

23:45

like, it's not normal to talk about

23:47

your parents sexual proclivities with a partner.

23:52

I don't go like, hey, you know, like,

23:54

hey, I never knew that your mom did

23:56

like, like anal like, but

23:59

one you don't. know that

24:01

probably the average person too. It's the moment is

24:03

a 16 year old. That's

24:06

the big thing. That

24:09

is probably what would have come up in the nine

24:11

years I feel like. Sure, but like, yeah,

24:14

but if

24:16

you, let's say you

24:18

know your parents are really into BDSM

24:21

and they got all the whips and stuff. Does

24:23

that come up in a conversation? Like,

24:28

do you know any, John, do you know anything about your

24:30

parents' sex life? Zero. I

24:33

don't think I do either. And I'm not, I'm

24:35

not angry at that. Yeah, yeah. So it's like

24:37

someone accidentally found out about their parents' sex life

24:39

at 16 and

24:41

like, is it on them to share that with

24:44

their partner? I don't know. It's

24:47

hard to, I think it's hard to say if it's on them.

24:49

I think it's like, I

24:52

don't know if like, I'm kind of, Yeah, I'm

24:54

thinking, I'm thinking. I'm like, what, like, I don't,

24:56

I feel like it doesn't, it's

24:58

not really on you. Because it doesn't

25:00

have any relevant, any necessarily, necessarily any

25:03

relevant. The shocking thing is that that

25:05

moment when she was 16, walking

25:08

on OP, OP is a woman. Walking

25:10

in on her dad didn't come up

25:12

in conversation in the nine years. That's

25:14

the surprising thing to me. Yeah, but

25:16

maybe that, I think that's true. And

25:19

also TLDR, OP's fiance is upset

25:21

by OP's parents' unconventional marriage. They

25:23

have an open relationship. Yes. Yeah,

25:27

I am unsure.

25:30

I mean, it could just be so traumatic. They just

25:32

never brought it up. It's like, I'm not saying this

25:35

is the same thing, but the guy that

25:37

comes back from Afghanistan talk about

25:39

like the war. Maybe

25:43

this is her Afghanistan. She just doesn't like to

25:45

talk about it. Yeah, yeah. That

25:48

was terrible. I'll

25:50

take it, I'll take it. All

25:52

right, Pixelated Nuts says, honestly,

25:54

yeah. Hell

25:57

yeah. Pixelate them. Honestly,

26:00

you and your family couldn't have handled

26:02

this worse. This is something you bring up

26:04

before he meets them, especially with his

26:06

issues. I mean, he is your fiance.

26:08

When were you planning on telling him?

26:10

He is thinking the apple didn't fall

26:12

far from the tree here and it

26:14

is hard to fault him, given your insistence

26:16

on staying there, your mom's behavior, and

26:19

not giving a heads up beforehand. You got

26:21

to let them know with no effing hedging

26:24

or emissions that you would a hundred percent

26:26

do not want a lifestyle like this, be

26:28

direct, be honest, and be prepared for him

26:30

to resent the crap out of you, out

26:33

of your parents for a while. I

26:36

know he responds. Thanks to be honest.

26:38

He doesn't talk about his family either.

26:40

Either. I learned about his parents divorced

26:42

from his sister who is more comfortable

26:45

talking about it. It also never came

26:47

into discussion. There was never a proper

26:49

time to tell him and my parents

26:51

eff around. I guess before we came to

26:53

visit here, sure. But I was thinking my

26:56

parents would be on their better behavior while

26:58

being here. I guess my mom had other

27:00

ideas. Did

27:04

that change your mind at all? I

27:08

think, I think everyone is roasting

27:10

OP on barely

27:13

in the sense that like, yes,

27:16

I think it should have come up not

27:18

because of she should have told him, but

27:20

because of just like the way that conversation

27:22

snap naturally happened over nine years of a

27:24

relationship, but that it's not like OPs, like.

27:28

Bolts or like that, that,

27:30

that the parents, the parents open

27:32

relationship or relationship in general should

27:34

have no impact on

27:37

their relationship. Yeah. How they structure

27:39

it. Yeah. So I think, why

27:41

is he being so judgmental? Yeah.

27:43

I like, that's what I'm not getting.

27:45

Cause it's, it's the same situation on

27:48

his side where he hasn't really talked

27:50

about that his parents divorce at all.

27:53

She found out about it from his sister. And so

27:55

he hasn't talked about this traumatic thing that came up

27:57

where he found out one of his parents were cheating

27:59

on them. And it's like she can

28:01

literally say the exact same thing to

28:04

him. And so what this I feel

28:06

like reveals is they're kind of coming

28:08

at the relationship from the

28:10

same perspective, where it's like

28:12

they're they're both navigating in the same way where they're

28:14

not really talking about their childhood trauma, which kind of

28:16

whack after nine years. You got to I feel like

28:19

you got to talk about a little bit of childhood

28:21

trauma when you're nine years. Yeah, it's

28:23

good to it's I just I

28:25

generally think it's a good thing to talk about like

28:27

first, I think was like a therapist. And

28:30

I imagine it will come up

28:32

in conversation both casually

28:34

if it's not that traumatic

28:37

in different areas and then more

28:40

broadly after like, you know, working

28:42

through it and thinking about it and that nature. Yeah,

28:44

again, I think like in a nine year relationship, I

28:46

feel like a lot of stuff will come

28:49

up. And it's and I think this shows that

28:52

maybe they're just not as open with each other as

28:54

they should be. Maybe not. But

28:57

conclusion on just the

28:59

like, or like circling back, the fiance's

29:01

reaction is terrible. And I think

29:03

he's the a-holder. He is so dumb. He is so

29:05

dumb. He is so dumb. Yeah,

29:08

J.C. says he's being judgmental because

29:11

his parents ended via cheating. Tracy,

29:14

I said, they aren't cheating when they have an open

29:16

relationship. And in nine years, she never gave him a

29:18

reason to think she wanted an open relationship. Literally,

29:21

he like, how are you

29:23

this stupid? Yeah, like you

29:25

are. She is explicitly telling

29:27

you, I do not want

29:29

this relationship. There's zero indicators

29:32

outside of the fact that her parents

29:34

happen to have an open relationship. Yeah.

29:36

And you are wholly convinced

29:38

and won't listen to any of her. Once

29:41

again, communication like there was there was no

29:43

communication leading up. Now she's actually communicating

29:45

and you won't accept it for for why.

29:47

And maybe this is the thing that makes

29:50

it come up, you know, like, yeah, I

29:54

think he's overreacting. So if there's a global

29:56

variables thing on our OBS. Can you move

29:59

that? We'd probably need

30:01

to bend. We need to get the other monitor. Wait, wait,

30:03

wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Down,

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down, down, to the

30:08

side, other side. There you go. Keep

30:10

going, keep going. You're doing great. Keep going, keep going.

30:12

Keep going. Keep going.

30:14

Okay, go up. All

30:17

right, keep going, up. All right, click. And

30:19

then drag over to you. You got it. There

30:22

we go. We need to get

30:24

the other monitor for you, so that's easier. We

30:26

have the other monitor. I know, that's what I'm

30:28

saying. We can't connect it. We should just put

30:30

it on the ground. We can't, no, but we

30:33

can't connect it. We don't

30:35

have any ports left. Oh, we

30:37

don't? Yeah. Also, I'm just looking

30:39

at something. Sophia's

30:41

moving her feet and

30:43

kicking a hanging surge

30:46

outlet, outlet, extended outlet that is

30:48

dangling by all of the cords

30:51

plugged in. It's funny that you're

30:53

just noticing it because it's been

30:55

like that for just. Okay,

31:00

anyway, our equipment aside. We just

31:02

fixed that. Yeah. As

31:04

you can see. Kevin last time pointed out

31:06

our ice packs, and now

31:08

we're like, wow, it's pretty janky. It

31:12

is pretty janky. We are remodeling

31:14

the studio. We're remodeling. As you

31:16

can see, background. Yeah,

31:19

yeah, yeah, we got wood in here. John's

31:21

on a couch. You only gotta look

31:23

on the couch. Show him the couch, Sophia. Wow. Yeah,

31:26

John, get the fuck out of the way. There

31:32

you go. My hair is caught.

31:34

No, a tiny cactus doesn't need some duct

31:36

tape. You don't understand. There's a large.

31:40

There's so much duct tape. You know what? You know what?

31:42

I'll take a picture of it and put it in the

31:44

discord. Put it in the discord. I'll join the discord. Go

31:46

on. Yeah, go

31:48

in the description. It should be there. Yeah.

31:51

Anyway, all right, let's go back into

31:53

some relevant comments. So OP explains her

31:56

childhood and thoughts and parents. This is

31:58

coming from a downvoted. common term.

32:00

They say anyone who would shame

32:02

you for A, something you're not responsible

32:04

for, and B, isn't anything wrong, needs to

32:07

grow up and accept there are differences

32:09

in how people live their lives. What

32:11

if you had to, what if you too

32:13

had a child who ended up being

32:15

in an LGBT or in

32:17

a poly relationship, would he freak out

32:19

and kick them out too? You're better

32:21

off without a judgmental a-hole like this

32:23

in your life. Which I think

32:26

there's some truth to that. Where it's like if

32:28

he's freaking out about a

32:30

irrelevant relationship in his

32:32

own life, what will he do when it's with

32:35

your kids? He's an idiot and

32:37

an annoyingly infuriating idiot. I

32:39

feel like he's not, like I feel

32:41

like these comments are not giving him

32:43

enough like attention, a

32:45

negative attention. Yes, they're just dunking

32:47

on OP when it's like what about

32:49

the idiot fiance? Yeah, the idiot fiance.

32:51

He's so dumb. Yeah, they always weasel

32:54

out. They always weasel out. Yeah, yeah.

32:56

Holly says, I like this downvoted commenter.

32:58

Me too. Really? It's so mean. I

33:00

don't get it. Anyway, OP responds,

33:03

with the risk of having the

33:05

mods punish me, I have to

33:07

say it. Your comment is incredibly

33:09

condescending and dumb and full of

33:11

assumptions. Dude, come

33:14

on. Come on. They're

33:16

trying to help you. Jesus,

33:19

man. All right. My parents have

33:21

spent more weekends with their children

33:23

than they, my parents have spent

33:25

more weekends with their partners than

33:27

they did with their children. We

33:30

have always offloaded to, we were

33:32

always offloaded to an aunt or

33:34

to our grandparents Friday night. No

33:36

exceptions except birthdays and special occasions

33:38

like that. Only when I got

33:40

older and learned about their lifestyle

33:42

have I understood what they were

33:44

doing. Wait, so

33:46

you're saying you just had

33:48

a babysitter on Friday nights and that's a

33:50

bad thing. Well, OP

33:53

saying every weekend, instead of spending time with

33:55

their parents, their parents were like out there

33:57

getting it and would just like pass

33:59

them. Oh, spent more weekends. So Friday

34:01

night offloaded. Okay, so like the whole

34:04

weekend. Instead of like movie night with

34:06

the fam and we're watching Pixar. Mom

34:10

is frickin' gettin' stuffed and dad

34:12

is just playing at that. Stuffin'. Yep,

34:15

exactly. My shame is not how they

34:17

live their lives. My shame is how

34:19

they treated me. How they prioritize their

34:21

own pleasure. And they had a

34:23

lot of it over the sake of

34:25

mine and my brothers and my sisters.

34:28

I don't have to accept their lifestyle

34:30

because in doing so I validate their

34:33

behavior. I validate every minute we were

34:35

robbed of happy family life. Every

34:38

hour, every sweaty minute turned

34:40

to hour. Don't

34:43

come and try to shame

34:46

me. Try pointing

34:48

fingers at me and play

34:50

the homophobic card with me.

34:55

Oh wait, where'd I go? I heard my parents fighting. I

35:00

heard my parents fighting one time and

35:02

my mother yelling they shouldn't have had

35:05

three effing children. You see, having three

35:07

children was a complication to how much

35:09

time they had for themselves. How long

35:11

they could send and spend with other

35:13

people. Don't come and try to

35:15

shame me. Try pointing fingers at me and

35:18

play the homophobic card with me. I

35:22

feel like they weren't. I feel

35:24

like they weren't. Maybe

35:26

I'm dumb and I'm here to be

35:28

educated and corrected. Where was the

35:31

homophobic part? I get that they were anti-Polly

35:33

relationship. So I mean, I

35:35

saw this a little bit too. They were kind of

35:37

like... The

35:41

fiance is against Polly relationships

35:43

and... They were maybe equating

35:45

an LGBT relationship with a

35:47

Polly relationship. It was like,

35:49

what if you had kids who were

35:52

queer or if you had kids who were

35:54

in a Polly relationship, how would he

35:56

react? And so OP is like, don't

35:58

come and play the whole... I Parents

36:07

Walked in on my parents

36:09

at 16. I'm the most

36:11

support I watch for Sweating

36:22

gosh, I didn't mean they were

36:24

involved That's what you said

36:26

yeah, and you deserve it, but I'm not gonna do it no

36:28

do it shooter Somehow

36:33

shot myself nice Anyway

36:39

The keeps it keeps skipping around so all

36:41

right where was I I

36:43

was I was that how is that

36:45

reflective? Don't

36:51

Me Fingers

36:53

that me and play the home

36:55

of foricard at me How

36:58

is this reflective of my parenting skills?

37:00

I don't know and I think you're

37:02

projecting your own Insecurities

37:04

over my experiences if that makes

37:06

you feel better power to you

37:09

But I'm not falling victim to

37:11

this game and from my

37:13

parents prioritize their own pleasure For

37:16

the sake of the children to

37:18

your homophobic is such a long

37:20

jump You must have superpowers to

37:22

be able to perfectly execute it

37:24

So yeah, I'm ashamed of

37:27

my parents, and I do not approve

37:29

their lifestyle Had they been better parents

37:31

had they cared more about their children

37:34

than their pleasures sure Maybe

37:36

we'd have a different conversation as

37:38

we stand no we cannot Everyone

37:42

needs to take a breath and

37:45

calm down in this story Yeah,

37:47

like my god low-key that last

37:50

comment felt like the most like

37:52

opia I got your back comment

37:55

of any of the comments and opia's like

38:01

I'm coming at me! This

38:04

really relates to a part in of... Talk

38:07

to me some more. Where's T-Circle? It's

38:09

like... No! No!

38:14

No! Great

38:20

movie, great movie. Ah!

38:24

Wait, raise it. Anyway...

38:30

So we do have some relevant comments. But

38:33

Pinky the Sailor says, Yeah, Opie has

38:35

lost her mind. Tay99 says

38:37

they need group therapy. Dumpsterfire says,

38:41

Like the stream, let's get that wheel. Yeah, let's get that

38:44

wheel. We're doing really well so far.

38:47

We're super close. Kimberly fine. Opie's

38:50

response is just a variation of the

38:52

fiancé's reaction. Their reality is being

38:55

challenged and it triggered a fight or flight. Got

38:58

a double and tripled down when your

39:00

reality is argued against. Yeah, Anya says

39:03

Opie sounds triggered. I

39:05

feel like... Really quick, to

39:07

read that comment again. We

39:10

just read Opie's response. Read

39:12

the comment that inspired that. Anyone

39:15

who would shame you for something A, you're not

39:17

responsible for and B, isn't anything wrong, needs

39:19

to grow up and accept there are differences in

39:21

how people live their lives. Like

39:26

that is how the comment started. That Opie responded to. It's

39:29

basically like, Hey, I'm on your side. I'm

39:31

on your side. And

39:33

I think what Opie is getting triggered on is

39:37

grow up and accept there are differences in how people live their

39:39

lives. Opie is like, how dare you say that. Yeah,

39:43

but yeah, everyone just needs

39:45

to cause grow up and respect how

39:48

people live their lives. It

39:52

is to me pretty blatantly obvious and

39:54

reasonable to assume that Opie is just

39:56

like, I just like don't

39:58

like how my childhood... turned out,

40:01

it's more of the effect than the cause.

40:03

It's the effect of them leaving

40:05

and not spending time with her than

40:07

it was the actual open relationship itself.

40:10

Exactly, exactly. If they went

40:12

to golf, you know, every Friday.

40:14

Opie would hate golf. Opie would hate golf. It

40:17

just so happens that

40:19

it's just different holes that

40:22

they're sinking into. Oh, that's

40:24

a hole in one, maybe. So

40:26

we got an update in

40:28

the comments. Let's do it. So

40:33

I've already talked to him and I'm staying

40:35

in the hotel room with him tonight since

40:37

it's already paid for and it

40:39

will be fun. Tomorrow we

40:41

will move to my grandma's house until the

40:44

end of the week. But

40:46

Grandma and Grandpa have a special friend that

40:48

comes over. Oh,

40:51

it runs in the family. No, no, I'm kidding.

40:54

We came to meet the extended family and

40:56

that's what we'll do. My parents have finally

40:58

found it within themselves to apologize, but it

41:00

no longer matters. For what it's

41:02

worth, I didn't blame the situation on my parents

41:05

when we met earlier. Aside from

41:07

what my parents do in their spare time,

41:09

I never had a secret from him. He

41:12

knows, I know about his mom and I told him

41:14

that if he ever wants to talk about her, I

41:17

am here to listen. And I

41:19

understand why he avoids talking about

41:21

her. He also apologized for his

41:23

outburst and reaction, but he was honest and told

41:25

me he doesn't think he will be that close

41:27

to my parents in general and I am fine

41:30

with that, which I guess is pretty good. It

41:32

seems like we're settling down. Yes,

41:35

yes, we're calming down. We're taking the deep breath. Since

41:38

I don't have that close of relationship with

41:40

him anyway, I have told him how much

41:42

he hurt me by saying he needs to

41:44

reevaluate our engagement and he acknowledges he wasn't

41:46

thinking when he spoke those words. And also

41:48

he said he regrets them so much. He

41:51

was afraid he damaged our relationship. He didn't

41:53

damage it, but I told him if

41:55

he could predict the future, flowers is what I'd see.

41:58

Ha ha, for that it's pretty. There

42:00

is another final update and some relevant comments. So

42:03

OP on why she never shared the info of her parents lifestyle

42:07

to her fiance. He's met my parents several times. We

42:11

are here to meet my extended family, aunts, uncles, cousins, stuff

42:13

like that. We live in a different state. He's met some

42:15

of them, but not all. And

42:17

we wanted them to have an idea who my

42:19

fiance is, not to see him for the first

42:21

time at the wedding. That's crazy to

42:23

like see your fiance for the

42:25

first time. But

42:28

I guess it happens if you're like living far away. Yeah. But oh,

42:30

cause they weren't way, way, way. Were they

42:32

in a, a remote relationship this whole

42:34

time? No, they were together in a

42:37

different state away from the parents. So

42:39

they haven't really met the fiance. They're like

42:41

the extended family. Right. Yes.

42:43

Yeah. He's met some

42:45

of them, but not all. We know we've

42:47

known each other for nine years. The first three

42:49

were more like acquaintances, friends of friends

42:51

type thing. And we would meet when everyone had a

42:53

group meeting. We would meet with them. We would meet

42:55

with them. And we would meet when everyone had a

42:57

group meeting or a party or a birthday, then

43:00

six years ago, we had a fight at

43:02

a friend's. We are, uh, we are getting

43:05

married announcement party and we were really passionate

43:08

and stubborn and neither of us would

43:10

give an inch and a friend told

43:12

us to kiss and make up already.

43:14

And we did. And here we are.

43:17

Oh, so their relationship is built off conflict.

43:24

This is just their, this, this

43:27

is their, their open relationship. It's

43:30

dishing out public fighting to

43:32

all of Reddit. That

43:36

like, that is their, like, that's their toxic

43:38

trait or. So like, I think

43:40

what I'm hearing, they met because

43:42

they had a fight together

43:45

and then the friend

43:47

said, you should kiss and make up. And

43:49

then they kissed and now they're like in

43:52

a relationship. So basically it seems

43:54

like their relationship is built off

43:56

very stubborn fighting and then hot

43:59

passion. at sex right after. Interesting.

44:02

And so I think potentially

44:04

this is, this is their thing.

44:08

This is back to your golf analogy par for the

44:10

course. This is how it

44:12

goes. This is how it goes. Yeah. I

44:14

think, I think putting

44:16

it all on Reddit and showing this fight on

44:19

Reddit is actually their kink. Yeah. Crow

44:22

Queen says that's their kink. I

44:26

think that's, I think that's true. I think that's their

44:28

kink. I

44:30

think we solved the case. A relationship

44:32

built on arguing sounds like hell.

44:36

Hey, you know what? It works for some people. I guess

44:38

maybe it works for them. Um,

44:41

so, and we were really passionate, stubborn,

44:43

neither is dead. Here we are. But

44:45

the entire time we lived in our own state

44:47

where his family is, while my parents and the

44:49

rest of my family are in the state, we

44:51

are currently visiting. I'm being vague on purpose. I

44:54

never planned to let him know about my parents

44:56

unless it became a conversation item. It has never

44:59

become something I had to share or felt the

45:01

need to do so. I don't feel like thinking

45:03

about it. And there is a

45:05

final comment from OP. Thank

45:08

you. I'm still reading through

45:10

the comments because this thread has become

45:12

way bigger than I expected. My parents

45:14

did quote unquote apologize, but they justified

45:16

themselves by saying it was a planned

45:18

night, which I find ridiculous as they

45:20

have invited us to stay with them

45:22

over a month ago. How far

45:24

along into the future do you plan your

45:26

fun nights? I refuse to think they plan

45:29

they're a little indiscretion since more than a

45:31

month ago. Bottom line is

45:33

bottom line is they knew we would be there.

45:35

They invited us and they didn't care. The

45:38

idea of not inviting them to the wedding

45:40

started floating through my mind yesterday while reading

45:42

the thread. But I am not sure what

45:44

I will end up doing. They are my

45:46

parents. They are my responsibility. My fiance got

45:48

to see them for who they are and

45:51

how they are for himself. He now knows

45:53

why I don't really talk about them. Aside

45:55

from our little bump in the relationship the

45:57

other night, we should be fine. We actually

45:59

ordered. Two books from Amazon as a

46:01

recommendation of other editors with all kid

46:03

relationship tests and lessons. We'll maybe even

46:05

go to therapy as a couple. This

46:07

is not set in stone. We'll see,

46:09

thank you for the kind words. So

46:11

this returns us to our question. Should

46:13

you tell your kids about the details

46:16

of your relationship? I

46:18

think yes and passed

46:20

down. So it's like the parents should have

46:22

told OP in

46:25

age appropriate ways at the

46:27

different stages of childhood. And

46:29

then I guess

46:32

it's not OP's duty, but then

46:34

maybe OP would have been less

46:37

traumatized about it and it would have been a

46:39

little bit more, and also the parents should have been

46:41

way more regulated and

46:44

careful, I guess, for lack of a better

46:46

word. And then maybe OP would have been

46:49

comfortable sharing it probably in

46:51

a casual conversation over the nine

46:53

years, not in a way

46:55

of like, I have to share this, where

46:57

it's like, oh, this is a thing that

46:59

happened. Yeah, and I think the parents didn't

47:01

do a good job of not traumatizing their

47:04

child. So the parents are

47:06

bad for traumatizing their child.

47:09

OP is kind of, or

47:11

parents are a-hole for traumatizing their child. And being

47:13

negligent. And being negligent. OP is

47:16

the a-hole to themselves for not

47:18

going to therapy for that. The

47:22

fiance is the a-hole for having

47:24

such a ridiculous negative reaction to

47:27

a relationship that's outside of himself.

47:29

Like, if

47:31

I was over and staying at your house and

47:35

I discovered your parents had an open relationship,

47:37

I would be like, damn, John, I didn't know

47:40

your parents had an open relationship. You never talk about it. And

47:42

then you would say, I don't really talk about my parents' sex

47:44

life that much. That would

47:46

be like a total normal thing. Even if we

47:49

were dating, I would still have that reaction. Then

47:52

in like the situation- We

47:55

are kind of work husbands. We are work husbands.

47:58

We're talking about like getting- Together

48:00

basically married with kids. We are

48:02

very little kids. Yeah, so Clinton.

48:04

Where's Clinton? I'm like the adopted

48:06

job Oh, yeah, we just added

48:09

you into the yeah, you're a

48:11

recent adoption kid Yeah,

48:15

so fiance fiance is

48:17

for a whole opie a

48:19

hole to themselves Parents

48:21

a whole any other a holes I

48:24

think that's it. Those are all the main everybody. Yeah,

48:27

everybody. Yeah Um,

48:29

everyone sucks. The person who

48:31

sucks least is opie. I think

48:33

I agree Yeah, I feel

48:35

like I was somewhat like on or

48:37

you know, I was somewhat more lenient

48:39

to opie until she commented Yeah,

48:42

that comment was kind of whack There's

48:45

so much Unprocessed trauma I think and

48:47

it's just like I don't know. I think

48:50

she's more judgmental of Her

48:53

parents lifestyle and the lifestyle similar to

48:55

that Because of how much

48:57

trauma that she's brought on

48:59

from her parents being negligent I think

49:02

it's more it's more negligence than anything

49:04

else Yeah, and I did say

49:06

earlier like opie's or frustrated about like the fact

49:08

that they didn't get to experience it with their

49:11

parents But I think opie is also bringing that

49:13

negativity out on the idea of

49:15

open relationships as a whole Yes, well, which I

49:17

think is not fair. I think it's not fair. I

49:20

think I think they all suck I

49:22

think I think everyone sucks. I think everyone

49:24

sucks the same amount. Yeah Do

49:27

I think everyone sucks the same amount? I think I'll give you have to

49:29

rank it you have to rank it You have to rank it. Yeah,

49:32

who's the biggest a hotel to little stay home?

49:34

I think it's I think it's

49:36

parents because their childhood stuff Then

49:39

fiance then opie. I think so. Yeah

49:43

Like that's crazy. Just keep in the pants for one

49:45

day. Oh Anyway,

49:47

anyway, that's the end of that story Wow.

49:49

Yeah Should we read

49:52

some don't knows? Let's go it scroll down

49:54

for me Sophia. Oh dang. We got a

49:56

lot of don't know We've been miss. All

49:58

right, or take a waterman spell So, we'll

50:00

bring fourth month of membership. Do you think I'm

50:02

being petty for putting on Facebook Happy Father's Day

50:04

to the real dads and moms for all the

50:07

deadbeats? Screw you. I'm taking water,

50:09

man. Blast them. Blast them. Let's frickin' go.

50:11

Uncle Daddy Jesse, thanks for the 20 books

50:13

on the donor link. Hi, beautiful boys and

50:15

glorious worm clean. Hello, Uncle Daddy. How you

50:17

doing? Uncle Daddy Jesse, always like that uncle

50:20

that gives you the 20 every time. Literally.

50:23

The uncle that puts their arm around you,

50:25

it's gonna be okay, son,

50:27

nephew. Yeah. And then slip

50:29

some money in your pocket. Oh, yeah. Martika

50:32

Waterman with the five bucks on the donor link. Hey,

50:34

guy. Oh, same thing. Do you think

50:36

I'm petty for posting on Father's Day? Oh, I

50:38

guess just a little bit. And

50:41

tagging my ex-husband and his family on

50:43

the post just for perhaps

50:45

and gigs? Martika. Martika.

50:50

Yes. Yes. Maybe funny.

50:52

But do you want the drama?

50:54

Is it worth it? Is it worth the

50:56

drama? Is it worth it? Because what you are

50:59

doing in this act is you are inviting

51:01

drama into your life. And Martika, you're

51:03

one of the fam. You've definitely heard these stories

51:05

where untold drama unfolds. Do

51:07

you want that in your life? You are

51:10

opening up Pandemic Box. You might want

51:12

that. Maybe you're bored right now. Maybe.

51:14

Maybe you're bored and you want that drama in

51:16

your life. Maybe Martika wants a story to put

51:18

on OK Story Time. But. Maybe you

51:20

could just listen to the stories instead

51:23

of becoming one. There

51:25

you go. Maybe invest

51:27

in going through the back catalog if

51:30

you're a little bored. I'm going to

51:32

plus one that advice. And shout out

51:34

to Lord Milky Giants Milk. Lord Milky

51:36

blesses us with his

51:39

refreshments. With the five

51:41

gifted memberships from his golden teat.

51:45

And Matt Hattergale for the 20 bucks. OK,

51:47

I understand some people have a certain lifestyle. However,

51:50

if you have a guest over, you should

51:52

have these lifestyles when you do not have

51:54

a guest. Not only is it rude, but

51:57

also selfish. Again, it goes back to would

51:59

you hook. up with someone in front of a

52:01

house guest in any type

52:03

of relationship. Yeah. Any type. To

52:06

be fair, it wasn't the foyer. It

52:09

wasn't the foyer. It wasn't the foyer. But no,

52:11

that's worse. That's like right when you

52:13

walk in. Sam doesn't know what a foyer is.

52:15

So, no, no, it's right. But it was that

52:17

night, you know, they were. Yeah, but I do

52:19

agree. Like at least like at

52:21

least go in the bedroom and have

52:24

a certain degree of yeah, discretion, a

52:26

reasonable degree, a reasonable exactly. The

52:28

foyer is a sacred space. The foyer is

52:30

a sacred space. Dang straight. Yeah.

52:33

Pull up some foyer pics. Those are some nice foye's.

52:35

That's okay. Can we can we show them? Yeah, we

52:37

kind of don't have a foyer. It's just the living

52:39

room. Yeah. Just immediately. It's like a

52:41

little room that goes that goes right in.

52:44

I guess we kind of have a foyer

52:46

into this room. Do we?

52:48

Is that a foyer? That's not a foyer.

52:50

That's just a hallway is. Yeah, the foyer

52:52

is it's a it's a front door hallway.

52:54

Tiny Cactus says they're using their foyer as

52:56

a second bedroom. You

52:58

know, I'm trying to be economical. They're being

53:00

like those realtors that are like five bedroom

53:02

six. Me and Sam are just looking at

53:05

houses and they're like this like cracker is

53:07

a bedroom. This Ritz cracker

53:09

anyways. They

53:12

called it a bedroom and it was

53:14

literally one chair. Me and Sam

53:16

like laying down on the floor. We couldn't

53:18

fit like good. We couldn't fit our bodies

53:20

if we want to. Anyways, dumpster five things.

53:22

Got a five bucks on a dolink. Hot

53:24

take. Not knowing something this big about my

53:26

fiance and their family is kind of a

53:28

red flag. She was just never going

53:30

to tell him. Question mark. He definitely ever reacted,

53:32

but you should know in laws prior to marriage.

53:37

Again, do you talk like like do

53:40

you know about your parents' sex life and you talk about

53:42

it with your partner? That's the

53:44

question. I do agree that it

53:46

should have come up. It's yeah, just naturally. Yeah. But

53:48

anyways, smalls noodles. Thanks for the five bucks tip on

53:50

the dolink. Today is my birthday. And

53:54

I'm so happy to watch the live with some cool people.

53:56

We are happy you exist and happy birthday. And

53:58

then Campbell family. Thanks for the. Opie

54:01

had to know this would have happened. They were not careful

54:03

when she was a child. Why

54:05

would they suddenly change? They

54:07

were awful about spicy time

54:09

before they weren't changing. Go

54:14

back down again actually. I didn't fully absorb that. Yeah.

54:20

Yeah, I guess. I

54:22

mean, I guess if Opie knows

54:24

their parents would, I

54:26

don't know, I mean, I guess.

54:28

I mean, that is a good point. I

54:32

think Opie should have, the

54:35

best thing to do would have been to tell

54:38

her partner. Just in case anything went

54:40

down similar to how it happened in the past.

54:42

It does seem like repeated behavior that Opie has

54:44

seen. So yeah. And

54:46

how do I get all things out of 10 bucks? What

54:48

to say to the partner? Hey, before you

54:51

meet my parents, I wanna let you know that they

54:53

have an open marriage. No, I am not happy about

54:55

their lifestyle, but I do not want you to feel

54:57

uneasy around them. I

54:59

think it's more of a, it would be the same warning as like,

55:01

my parents just like love to make out in front of people. Like,

55:04

right? Right? Like,

55:06

I feel like it's on that same

55:09

level of like, it's just what

55:11

they do. Have you

55:13

ever had that disclaimer given to you before? No.

55:17

I'm trying to think, have I ever had a

55:19

disclaimer given to my, given by

55:21

a partner to their parent? I will definitely be the

55:24

type of dad where like, me

55:26

and my wife and the kids are just like hanging out. And

55:28

you're just full on making out. No, I'll just nudge one of

55:30

them. And they'll be

55:32

like, wow. I'm like, you see that? I'm tapping

55:35

that. I'm like, dude, that's 100% the type

55:37

of dad I'm gonna be. Anyways.

55:40

I love that. Wanna read some donuts?

55:42

Yeah, actual birch. Thanks for the five

55:44

bucks. I'm of the opinion,

55:46

not everyone has an, oh, in

55:48

my opinion, not everyone has a not

55:51

so good childhood, but you just have to live

55:53

with it. Anyway,

55:56

in my opinion, everyone- To childhood trauma? Is that

55:58

what? Yeah, I guess like, I like. Maybe

56:00

it's like saying like, oh, like everyone has a not so

56:03

good childhood. So just like deal with it and go to

56:05

therapy. There's like, everyone has

56:07

trauma. I think, I

56:09

mean, there's, there's levels. There's

56:11

definitely levels. Um, Linda, I'll

56:13

say it again. It's none of his business. Uh,

56:17

Angie Alice, thanks for the two 14, 10 hour

56:19

stream. Well, let's go.

56:21

You guys are crazy. Kristen foil, hot

56:24

four months of gifted memberships. Hey

56:26

all four months. Dang, that's crazy.

56:28

Grad to be a little silly.

56:30

That's why I don't know so

56:32

many memberships all hail the worm

56:34

queen. Kristen foil, hat your flowers

56:36

because you've, there are probably like

56:38

one or 200 people in here

56:40

that are a member as a result of yeah,

56:43

oil hat and Lord milky and all of our

56:45

gifted membership. Gifters. Yeah. Shout out. Kristen foil, hats

56:48

and then Lord McFart.

56:50

Thanks for the 20 bucks. Uh,

56:54

just the via way. Can you scroll down?

56:58

Just got paid today. Let me bless

57:00

these souls. We appreciate you Skyler rain.

57:02

I had composted my story. Am I

57:04

the jerk? Oh, cross posted for complaining

57:07

about my pain after my mom's surgery.

57:09

Put it in the subreddit, our new

57:11

subreddit, our slash okay. Story time. It

57:13

should be in the description. I believe

57:16

I changed the thing. So let

57:18

us know if it's not. Yeah. Let us know if

57:20

it's not one of you could do that. Um, and

57:22

then, uh, mix

57:24

were meetings with five bucks. Sophia, you

57:26

are so cute. I sent a message

57:28

on discord for you. If you could

57:30

check that at be amazing. Sam, I

57:32

like your shirt. Where is it from?

57:34

John. I love your vibes and your

57:36

beautiful hair. Riley miss you. You have

57:38

a good vacay. Love you pals. How

57:40

about Clinton? Yeah. Yeah. Where's

57:43

the Clinton love? What's up with that?

57:45

That's right. Clinton's here right now watching.

57:47

I'm pretty upset. Waiting, listening,

57:49

lurking in the shadows. Can

57:52

you guys hear him by the way? He does

57:54

have a mic. Let us know if that'd be

57:56

so funny. If he was just talking, no one

57:58

can hear what he's saying. And thank. Thank you for

58:00

the shirt love, I got this at a thrift shop. We're

58:02

gonna be, we'll be making some stuff like this probably

58:05

soon. Oh yeah. Get ready. Get

58:07

ready. Also, we're gonna probably

58:09

be releasing some hats soon. See that?

58:12

On the noggin. Get ready. But

58:14

you know what we should get ready

58:16

for? What? This next

58:18

story! You! Let's

58:21

frickin' go. Really quick, Arias,

58:23

I think is your username. Thanks for the

58:25

10 bucks. How do you become a member asking

58:27

for a friend? If you go, there should

58:29

be a big fat join button on YouTube or

58:33

a link in the description, but the join button on YouTube

58:35

I think is the easiest way. Yep. There

58:37

you go. Where are we at, Sophia? We

58:40

are at 570 ist 2. 570

58:43

ist 2? 570 ist. Let

58:47

me get that so I can read to the

58:49

people a good story.

58:53

Jolly good. We're

58:55

me. I haven't seen the new one.

58:57

I've only seen the 2011 one. We're

59:01

gonna, let's do a watch party

59:03

at my apartment tonight or soon

59:05

before riding. I'm down. No, Wednesday.

59:07

Wednesday, done. It's Wednesday. Wednesday, we're

59:09

watching Dawn of

59:11

the Planet of the Apes. Because you haven't

59:13

seen my new TV or my new couch yet. That's

59:15

true. I am down. Dude, you

59:17

will go back to watching movies down there and

59:19

be like, this is garbage. Well,

59:22

Sam took our TV away. I

59:24

hate TVs in the living room. I

59:26

think it's a bad idea and it

59:29

promotes distrust and it

59:31

ravishes the community. I will change your

59:33

mind. But anyways. Then you can't watch

59:35

Dawn of the Planet of the Apes. Yeah, how are we supposed to

59:37

watch Dawn of the Planet of the Apes? What do you mean?

59:39

We have a projector. Also, we already have a projector. So basically

59:41

that is a TV. If anything,

59:43

throw away the projector. No, no, no, but

59:46

the projector isn't always on. Like a TV

59:48

is like this hole that just grabs

59:50

your attention at all times. And when we don't have

59:52

it, what do we do? We talk to

59:54

each other. We play games. We shoot each other

59:56

with Nerf guns. Thank

1:00:00

you, Clinton. All right, let's get into the story. Here

1:00:04

we go. Nice

1:00:06

try, Adobe. Am I

1:00:08

the a-hole for telling my daughter that her

1:00:11

cheating mother shouldn't be her role model? Why

1:00:14

not? All cheaters are role

1:00:16

models of mine. Yeah, you know what? Cheaters

1:00:18

do prosper. I guess so.

1:00:21

And again, this is answering the question, should you tell

1:00:23

the kids about the diesels of your relationship? But this

1:00:25

comes from a main appearance who says, I, 32 male,

1:00:27

finalize my divorce with my ex-wife, 32

1:00:30

female, last year because she had

1:00:32

an affair. Ouch. It

1:00:35

took a huge mental toll on me and also our

1:00:37

daughter, 14 female. In spite

1:00:39

of the pain I was feeling, I never bad mouthed

1:00:41

my ex-wife to my daughter because she was her mother.

1:00:44

However, my daughter knows everything that happened and

1:00:46

she told me many times how conflicted she

1:00:48

was feeling given that my mom was her

1:00:51

role model. Over

1:00:54

the past few months, I have re-entered the

1:00:56

dating scene. And I- Let's

1:00:58

go. O-P. O-P.

1:01:01

And I have started going on dates. My

1:01:03

sister, 30 female, has been kind enough to

1:01:05

come over for the night. That's

1:01:08

who you're going on a date with? And be

1:01:10

with my daughter. Thank you. Yeah.

1:01:12

Oh! Because I am usually out at

1:01:14

night with my date at a hotel

1:01:17

or at her house. I don't want

1:01:19

to introduce any of my dates to my daughter

1:01:21

till we are in a serious relationship. Very smart.

1:01:23

A couple of months ago, my daughter again brought

1:01:25

up how she was feeling really conflicted. I then

1:01:27

asked her if she likes my sister and

1:01:30

my daughter said she loves her. I

1:01:32

then suggested to my daughter that she

1:01:34

could start considering my sister as a

1:01:36

role model rather than her mother because

1:01:38

she has seen first hand how

1:01:41

nice and kind my sister is to her. And,

1:01:46

hmm. First

1:01:50

of all- Yes. Role model is

1:01:52

more of like a show, don't tell kind

1:01:54

of thing. It's not like, hey, little Jimmy,

1:01:58

I should be a role model. just just

1:02:01

just I I'm it. I

1:02:03

respect me, please. I think with the 14

1:02:06

year old, you can sit them down and be like, people

1:02:09

are complicated. There are probably a lot of like

1:02:11

life lessons and things you can learn from your

1:02:13

mom. But also knowing that,

1:02:15

you know, she did cheat. That's something that

1:02:17

you shouldn't do. And oh, OK,

1:02:20

but I disagree. I don't think

1:02:22

he should be talking about the moms cheating.

1:02:25

Like the mom should be talking about that with

1:02:27

her daughter. And maybe they should be talking about

1:02:29

it together. But he I feel like saying like,

1:02:32

oh, your aunt should be your role

1:02:34

model instead of talking down about

1:02:36

talking about them. I completely agree with

1:02:38

that. I was saying instead of being like, oh,

1:02:41

here's another role model. I think he should just

1:02:43

like like, oh, it seems

1:02:45

like the daughter is coming to him with a

1:02:47

feeling of conflict about like wanting the

1:02:49

mom in her life. And I think that honestly, the

1:02:51

dad should sit down with her like a therapist does

1:02:54

and just listen and like kind

1:02:56

of guy like I feel

1:02:58

like that should be a conversation. It seems like

1:03:00

he's talking bad about the mom and he's. Yeah,

1:03:02

I agree. I am not. I'm

1:03:04

not co-signing him saying like,

1:03:07

oh, this would be the role model. I

1:03:09

think he should just sit and just listen

1:03:11

to her talk and let her just express.

1:03:13

But I don't feel like you can suggest

1:03:15

role model. I'm not I'm not suggesting they

1:03:17

should suggest. I'm not suggesting that. No, it's

1:03:20

a gesture. You're suggesting, you

1:03:22

know, I really think I should be

1:03:24

a role model. You know, let me

1:03:26

let me walk you through a hypothetical.

1:03:28

You're you're you're you're going through a

1:03:30

divorce. You're a 14 year old daughter

1:03:32

walks up to you and she's like,

1:03:34

hey, hey, dad. Hey, mom. I'm

1:03:37

honestly feeling really conflicted about

1:03:41

like I kind of one of you mom is a role

1:03:43

model, but she did this this thing. Your

1:03:48

response. Lotter

1:03:51

for the thing she does well and just don't cheat

1:03:53

on your partner. Or

1:03:55

or tell me about like tell

1:03:57

me more. Like in that context.

1:03:59

Can we do a thing that doesn't shut down the

1:04:02

conversation and just like, wow. What was the exact question

1:04:04

that she had? So she, she, um, here we go.

1:04:10

My daughter brought, okay, Mike. Also, I would like

1:04:12

to say that we got another

1:04:14

30 minutes. Thanks to Carolyn C.

1:04:17

More time please, Sophia, you're doing great with

1:04:19

the 55, 89 tip, fricking even gang. And

1:04:24

you know what? What? I just heard

1:04:26

something. Oh, is

1:04:28

that Lord McFart with a $40 super chat? Yeah.

1:04:33

Bless us with that chat. Oh, that

1:04:35

gas. Good morning. Thanks

1:04:37

for the $25 tip. Just

1:04:39

a bit longer. Hi. And Sam E. Thanks for

1:04:41

the five book tip. Love listening to you guys.

1:04:43

I will finally get a six day vacation in

1:04:46

August for a wedding in California. It'll be my

1:04:48

first time going there. I'm so excited. Need places

1:04:50

to go while I'm there. Hope to run to

1:04:52

you guys and say hello and get a picture.

1:04:55

John, I actually have a thing to tell you.

1:04:57

An okay story time. Oh, snap. Very

1:05:00

excited. After this. Ooh.

1:05:03

But to your question a second ago, my

1:05:05

daughter brought up again how she was really conflicted

1:05:08

about her mom as a role model. So

1:05:10

she went to him and she's like, I'm conflicted about my

1:05:13

mom as a role model. She said

1:05:15

that in some form or fashion. Okay.

1:05:18

I think you can sit down and like a

1:05:20

therapist, not give any advice or any direction, but

1:05:22

just let the child. Yeah, why are you conflicted?

1:05:25

Yes, why are you conflicted? That

1:05:28

would I think be and not

1:05:30

giving any suggestions or anything

1:05:32

and you know. Something I actually do believe

1:05:35

is people are buffets,

1:05:38

not dishes. Not

1:05:40

me. So like when you go to a

1:05:42

restaurant, you order a dish and like

1:05:45

you just get what's on the dish. When you

1:05:47

go to a buffet, there's all this stuff to go

1:05:49

through and you can have as much of

1:05:51

one thing as you want and nothing of

1:05:53

like, you know, you have no broccoli and

1:05:56

all the meat or whatever. And I think

1:05:58

people are similar. Like you can. look

1:06:00

at, especially when you're looking at role models, you

1:06:02

could look at people and say, I

1:06:05

love, like, I love

1:06:07

how, I

1:06:09

don't know, who's a controversial figure. I'm

1:06:13

with Elon Musk. Sure, you know

1:06:15

what, I'll say Elon Musk. That's actually a good

1:06:17

example. Like, I think, like,

1:06:19

his work ethic in the early days was like

1:06:21

really interesting. He's kind of like a

1:06:23

dipshit right now, right? So it's like, I

1:06:26

can recognize the things that he did that

1:06:28

were good in the past while also saying

1:06:30

the things that he's

1:06:32

doing now are not great

1:06:34

for like the world or society. And

1:06:38

I think you can do the same

1:06:40

with this person where it's like, there are a lot of

1:06:42

amazing qualities about your mom. Cheating is

1:06:44

not one of them. They're just like, use

1:06:47

those qualities as

1:06:50

a way to

1:06:53

navigate your life and just learn from

1:06:55

her mistakes. But one good thing I

1:06:57

think that was the spirit of what

1:07:00

you, Sam and Sofia, you both were saying was like,

1:07:02

try to give her, try to like dictate

1:07:04

as little as possible and just really just

1:07:06

letting her express and like thinking through, it's

1:07:09

almost like journaling out loud where she's just

1:07:11

kind of like working through it on her

1:07:13

own and the dad is just kind of

1:07:15

like prompting her with questions and being a

1:07:17

support system to sit and listen and just

1:07:19

be there and let her find her own conclusion,

1:07:21

I feel like. Yeah, Socrates

1:07:23

says Kanye though. Bangers.

1:07:30

Bros got bangers. Anyways,

1:07:33

but ladies and gentlemen, there's more to this

1:07:36

banger story. So let's see what we got.

1:07:39

So a couple of months ago, my daughter again brought up

1:07:41

how she was feeling really conflicted. I then asked her if

1:07:43

she likes my sister and

1:07:46

my daughter said she loves her. I then suggested to

1:07:48

my daughter that she could start considering her as a

1:07:50

role model rather than her mother because she has been,

1:07:53

she has seen firsthand how nice and kind my

1:07:55

sister is to her. My daughter surprised me with

1:07:57

the suggestion, but she said she would

1:07:59

try it. starting the next

1:08:01

day. Kind

1:08:03

of weird. And this is... Wait,

1:08:05

try starting to view his sister as a

1:08:07

role model the next day? What

1:08:10

does that even mean? Starting tomorrow.

1:08:13

Auntie is my role model. Adam,

1:08:16

goodbye mom, hello auntie. Why don't

1:08:18

we do like a week test trial? You

1:08:20

know, you just pay for, it's a free

1:08:23

trial. Subscribe for seven days and if you don't like

1:08:25

it, you can cancel. Yeah, but don't forget

1:08:27

to cancel, otherwise you're gonna get charged. That's

1:08:30

right. And the suggestion

1:08:32

somehow seemed to have worked. Over

1:08:34

the past couple of months, my daughter looks much

1:08:36

happier and asks a lot more about spending time

1:08:39

with my sister. My sister too

1:08:41

said that she really likes the bond that

1:08:43

she's developing with my daughter. However, I am

1:08:45

slightly concerned because my daughter seems to be

1:08:47

emotionally distanced from her mother. Her mother called

1:08:49

me a couple of days ago about her

1:08:51

daughter acting distant from her. I spoke

1:08:53

with my daughter a couple of nights ago and

1:08:55

she said that while her mom is her mom

1:08:57

biologically, she does not consider her

1:09:00

as her real mom anymore.

1:09:02

Which I think again speaks to the danger of what

1:09:04

you and Sophia were saying. If

1:09:07

you tell your impressionable 14 year

1:09:09

old daughter, hey, view your aunt as your mom

1:09:11

and not your mom as your mom, then they

1:09:14

could take that very literally. Very

1:09:16

literally, yeah. And

1:09:18

that she now considers my sister her real

1:09:20

mom. That's crazy. Yeah, wow.

1:09:23

Dumb. Idiot

1:09:25

14 year old. Idiot. I

1:09:27

was a bit shocked and reminded her that

1:09:30

her real mom will always be her biological mom

1:09:32

because she gave birth and went through all the

1:09:34

struggles to raise her. However, what

1:09:36

I said fell on deaf ears and my

1:09:38

sister said that she could never change her

1:09:40

mind. It is too late.

1:09:42

Opie has created a monster. Okay,

1:09:45

if you changed her mind with one conversation

1:09:47

saying maybe you should try your sister with

1:09:49

a role model, I feel like she's impressionable

1:09:52

enough to switch

1:09:54

back the other way. But teenagers are gonna be teenagers. She's like,

1:09:57

I decided this, so I'm gonna do this. all

1:24:00

those attributes and that

1:24:02

becomes like what you want to

1:24:04

model. It's the collection of different

1:24:06

qualities from different role models, not

1:24:09

just like one person

1:24:11

fully. Totally. Yeah. Yeah.

1:24:13

I think, I think, Opie's daughter has

1:24:15

this like, and honestly I

1:24:18

think if you swap the word role model

1:24:20

out for mom, I think

1:24:22

that's what the daughter is actually doing. But

1:24:24

even then it's like, it's

1:24:26

like you can have multiple people that

1:24:28

are mother figures in your

1:24:31

life. Honestly, that's like, I feel

1:24:33

like that's probably better to have like

1:24:35

multiple like kind of parent

1:24:37

parental figures in your life that

1:24:39

you can kind of go to for advice. And

1:24:41

it's the same way like how having like a

1:24:43

multiple friends is good. Yeah.

1:24:46

You know, like having like aunts and

1:24:48

uncles and adults in your life that help guide you. I

1:24:50

think it's great. Yeah. I think I, and I think you

1:24:52

want, you

1:24:54

want that list to be, to be somewhat wide.

1:24:57

Um, but, uh, should we do

1:24:59

a call in? Shut

1:25:03

up. Our very

1:25:06

own Clinton is currently on the

1:25:08

one that does smashing.

1:25:12

Yes. Just start pressing buttons. There

1:25:19

you go. You get the hang of it. Oh,

1:25:23

okay. That's pretty cool. We can read

1:25:25

some don't know. Real quick. We have.

1:25:28

Yeah. Um, Chad,

1:25:30

uncle, daddy, Jesse with for the 10 bucks sending Clinton.

1:25:32

Oh, you

1:25:36

guys got to start sending PO things to

1:25:38

Clinton. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. You guys, somebody,

1:25:40

somebody send Clinton something, but don't

1:25:42

put his name on a note inside of the box and not

1:25:45

on the thing. We should just get a business. Um, there he

1:25:47

goes. Thank you. Thank you.

1:25:54

Say what confidence boy. That's your uncle. Daddy.

1:25:56

You know, I got somebody called me

1:25:58

uncle Jesse. is

1:30:01

it weird to, I

1:30:03

mentioned that Sophia was being approached at

1:30:07

Renaissance Fairs and she

1:30:09

had some of the okay fam come

1:30:12

up to her in some public spaces, and

1:30:14

he's like, is it weird to be kind of

1:30:16

like a mini celebrity?

1:30:18

And I'm like, that is not

1:30:20

at all how it feels. It feels just like

1:30:22

friends coming up. And also, I think

1:30:25

it doesn't happen that often. It doesn't,

1:30:28

yeah. But literally, we leave and

1:30:31

this girl comes up, her name's Annelise,

1:30:33

shout out Annelise if you're in the

1:30:35

chat, and she's like, are you

1:30:37

Sam from OKOP? I'm like, yeah

1:30:39

I am. Yeah

1:30:41

guys, we love it when you come up, because again,

1:30:44

it doesn't happen often. It doesn't happen often. Like meeting

1:30:46

a friend on the internet. Yeah, and everyone, I feel

1:30:48

like we reveal so much of our lives on here

1:30:50

that everyone is really, like

1:30:52

it's like you kind of already know us, so if

1:30:54

you've been hanging out with us for like so long,

1:30:57

you would probably like hang without us

1:30:59

in person. Yes. But yeah, she

1:31:01

came up and they're like, yeah! And

1:31:04

then I'm like, Sophia's in the clay ballroom. I

1:31:06

come out dripping in sweat, because it's just

1:31:09

hot and I'm covered in clay. And

1:31:13

they were like, oh my God, it's a fan. I

1:31:15

was like, what? And also I couldn't see because my

1:31:17

contacts had like. I was like, what?

1:31:21

A fan? A fan? Yeah. And

1:31:23

then I, yeah. She

1:31:25

was nice though, very nice. Stoke Nation says, was Sam nude

1:31:27

when this person came to say hi? No, it was in

1:31:29

the, it was in the. I was not. Oh,

1:31:33

no, no, no, it was in the common

1:31:35

area, but I did go down into the

1:31:38

like the changing room for the women's area,

1:31:40

and I do think Annelise was right next

1:31:42

to me. This

1:31:45

is before or after you guys

1:31:47

said hi. After, after. After, yeah.

1:31:49

Tani Cactus says, no, it's okay

1:31:51

story time now, bitch. She

1:31:56

did say, okay. Yeah, it's okay. It's

1:31:58

okay. We will forgive. in person

1:32:00

if there's just this one in chat

1:32:03

in chat unacceptable in person will give

1:32:05

you a hug and take a picture and whatever yeah but I'm

1:32:08

it is what oh it's time

1:32:11

to me

1:32:31

faster that's

1:32:33

adventure mode that's not me

1:32:35

this is the wrong one

1:32:49

Oh my goodness gracious

1:32:54

yeah wingles anyone like truly if you

1:32:56

if you see us in public please

1:32:59

say hi to us please

1:33:01

we would love to like

1:33:03

take a picture chat like we

1:33:06

are here for it we are approachable we'll

1:33:08

let you know when it becomes too much though

1:33:10

yeah yeah if it but like I

1:33:12

say that because it never hasn't it never

1:33:14

has yet the most recent encounter I had

1:33:17

they were like very hesitant to

1:33:20

they actually I've been meaning to shout them out I'll

1:33:22

have to pull up their name before the end of

1:33:24

the stream but damn I had mine right there you

1:33:27

know I was

1:33:29

a naughty boy and I forgot but I

1:33:31

think it was Josh and his

1:33:33

girlfriend and about I'll pull up your name we

1:33:36

met it rolling loud and me and my girlfriend

1:33:38

like walking out and they're like kind of walking

1:33:40

behind us and they're like so

1:33:42

sorry I'm I'm so sorry

1:33:44

are are you John from I was

1:33:46

like oh yeah say hi

1:33:49

to us say hi

1:33:51

yeah cheese by

1:33:53

Japan Sakura Kuda are

1:33:55

you in Japan fly to

1:33:57

Japan I want to be you want to

1:33:59

fly We'll say, guys, okay. We

1:34:02

do want to go to Japan. If, yeah,

1:34:04

if you want to meet us and

1:34:06

you're willing to fly us out, we

1:34:08

probably will do that. We

1:34:10

probably would do that. Also,

1:34:13

is there, do we miss Heidi's chat?

1:34:16

Heidi! Where,

1:34:19

where's Heidi? We're scrolling. We're

1:34:22

scrolling. We're scrolling. Might

1:34:24

have been way back. Way, way,

1:34:26

way back. I don't see a Heidi.

1:34:28

I feel like, I feel like

1:34:30

we've been pretty good at hitting all of them. It

1:34:33

was in the beginning. Shout out to you, Heidi. It

1:34:36

may have been a glitch in the system. It may have

1:34:38

been a glitch in the system. You guys

1:34:40

missed some don't know. Scroll up more. I know because

1:34:42

you mentioned Clinton and you didn't read

1:34:44

it. There are some ones

1:34:46

from a couple. Spiffy Tiffy.

1:34:48

We have one from Spiffy. Spiffy

1:34:50

Tiffy sending love to Clinton and the rest of you

1:34:52

all too. Angry Cheese It. Baby Cheese

1:34:55

It is great. Allow almost

1:34:57

three months on the 26th. We

1:34:59

all know just John hates babies so,

1:35:01

little jk, love you John. I don't

1:35:03

hate them. They're just ugly usually when

1:35:05

they come out. Including me. I

1:35:08

was the ugliest baby. Clinton shot me for my

1:35:10

misgivings. Okay.

1:35:13

I think,

1:35:18

I figured it out as much as I can

1:35:21

in a timely manner. Alright,

1:35:23

ready? Alright, let's see. It's

1:35:26

still gonna say adventure mode. Sophia!

1:35:28

I couldn't think. It was fine. It's

1:35:31

adventure mode. If you think about

1:35:33

it, life is adventure mode. Alright. There

1:35:36

is, but there's a discord thing. There

1:35:38

is. Oh. There's

1:35:40

a discord thing. There is. Oh.

1:35:43

Oh. Oh. Oh.

1:35:46

Oh. Oh. Oh.

1:35:49

Oh. Oh. Oh.

1:35:53

Oh. Oh. This is a

1:35:56

discord thing. There's

1:35:59

a... Wait.

1:38:00

Yeah. Two

1:38:04

memes, that's all you get. Let's

1:38:06

see this one. Wait, I know, I just,

1:38:08

I was switching back and forth. What captions

1:38:10

best when you try to lie to your

1:38:12

mom but she sees right through you, does

1:38:16

something bad. Me does something mad. Mom,

1:38:18

I'm not angry, I'm disappointed. Just

1:38:21

Riley's face. Accurate. Oh

1:38:23

my, what is this one? Strangely thought of

1:38:25

them when I saw this. Next time, could

1:38:27

you not use your podcast voice? What's

1:38:34

that? Who John prays to?

1:38:37

What is that? What is that? The baby eater.

1:38:39

I don't know. What? Baby

1:38:41

eater? Yeah, blow it up. What is that? It's

1:38:45

eating babies. You're right. The

1:38:48

berries and cream. Yeah, it does look like the berries and cream

1:38:50

guy. Give

1:38:53

me more stream memes. More stream memes.

1:38:57

Rainbow Pigeon judges you for your

1:38:59

inferior fashion sense. If

1:39:02

they had Sophia's fashion sense, it

1:39:05

would be inferior. This is all

1:39:07

I could hear in the moment. Protect

1:39:09

the kids from favoritism. Oh

1:39:14

yeah, we said. What? What

1:39:18

is the legs? That's eating out the wrist.

1:39:20

Oh yes. Wow,

1:39:23

that's a double undertone. Oh

1:39:26

my God. I have to wait, wait, wait. You

1:39:28

got to get context to that one. Yeah, yeah,

1:39:30

yeah. So basically I told this. Yeah,

1:39:33

so I told the story. My mom, there's a

1:39:35

story of how I was potty trained and I

1:39:37

asked my mom to like text me the breakdown

1:39:39

and I read it live on the stream. So

1:39:42

basically what happened was when I was like two

1:39:44

or three, not five, not

1:39:46

six. Your mom said

1:39:49

four. No, I will literally

1:39:51

pull through her seats. But basically she told me.

1:39:53

Three going into four. Yeah,

1:39:55

that was three years old. Yeah, so I'll give you three. She

1:39:58

told the story of how I wasn't potty trained. I

1:40:01

was three and she told me that only

1:40:03

big boys who use the

1:40:05

potty can go to Chuck E. Cheese. They're

1:40:08

not allowing anyone but big boys to use

1:40:10

the potty to get inside Chuck E. Cheese

1:40:12

anymore. From that day forward,

1:40:15

I poo-pooed and peeped in the

1:40:17

potty. Not one drop

1:40:19

was outside of a toilet. So

1:40:22

the moral of the story is when

1:40:25

you give me a directive, I will

1:40:27

just make it happen no matter

1:40:29

what. That's the moral of the

1:40:31

story. That's a great meme. That's beautiful. That's

1:40:33

a great meme. That's deep lore too. Deep

1:40:36

lore. Oh, oh wait.

1:40:40

So the spicy sleep talk? No.

1:40:43

But the sex consequences. So

1:40:47

Riley said that he was given, he wasn't

1:40:49

given the sex talk or as much as

1:40:52

sex talks, he was given a pamphlet

1:40:54

called Sex and Consequences. And

1:40:57

it basically said, if you have

1:41:00

sex, you'll die. And

1:41:03

it was like life, but like you have

1:41:05

sex, oh, you have a kid and I

1:41:07

have AIDS. Yeah, it's a game. It's

1:41:10

a game, but you die every time. All

1:41:12

paths lead to death, disease and pregnancy. Sex

1:41:14

outside of marriage. Yes. Never

1:41:18

wake up. Never speak

1:41:20

to me or my son again. That's

1:41:23

good. Bro. Bro. That's

1:41:26

great. All right. Cook

1:41:28

it. Cook those. Cook those.

1:41:30

Give all of them. Give all

1:41:32

the grace. CURSED. CURSED TIDAL.

1:41:34

CURSED TIDAL MIX. That's

1:41:36

great. Sophie is like, I

1:41:39

did it. I did it. I

1:41:43

did it. That's

1:41:47

great. Sophie is like, I

1:41:49

did it. I

1:41:53

think that's it. That's it for now. That's

1:41:55

the big one. Oh yeah. Wait, wait,

1:41:57

wait. Kevin was in our, was in our members only

1:41:59

stream. Thank

1:46:01

you, Clinton. We love you. Clinton,

1:46:03

we love you. Never

1:46:05

forget. There we go. Yes, say it

1:46:07

back. Goodness, great. All

1:46:10

OK Storytime employees are forced to say, I

1:46:12

love you back. That is

1:46:14

rule number one. This is the workplace

1:46:17

we're fostering. Exactly. Low key, that is

1:46:19

kind of the workplace we're fostering. That

1:46:21

is. If someone didn't say, I love

1:46:23

you back. Fire. I don't

1:46:26

know. I don't know. I feel like that's kind

1:46:28

of our office of fame. It's

1:46:30

our it's our M.O. It's our M.O. Yeah,

1:46:32

I couldn't imagine it any other way. That's

1:46:35

true. Yeah. Without saying

1:46:37

I love you. Come on. That's whack,

1:46:39

dude. The devil wears

1:46:41

socks. Thanks for the 10 bucks. First time in

1:46:43

the stream. Been listening since 2022. That's deep. I

1:46:47

love listening to you guys at work. You make eight

1:46:49

hours pass like nothing. I'm

1:46:52

a housekeeper and can't stop laughing. My

1:46:55

residents think I'm crazy. Tell

1:46:57

me something like I

1:47:00

like that. I love that. I

1:47:02

love that. Yeah, me too. I

1:47:04

do that all the time. If I'm watching something. Yeah. Like

1:47:07

listen to us in random places that you shouldn't laugh

1:47:09

out loud in order to uncomfortably laugh out loud. And

1:47:12

it says sounds like a sexual harassment

1:47:14

lawsuit to make out all of our coworkers say

1:47:16

I love you. I don't

1:47:18

think it sounds like your place of

1:47:21

work is lame. Yeah. Yeah.

1:47:24

Yeah. If you really loved your work, you would say

1:47:26

I love you to all of

1:47:28

your coworkers. Exactly. Welcome to Costco. I love

1:47:31

you. Shout

1:47:33

out if you get that joke. We're just going to be

1:47:35

of all time. Cool. Do you

1:47:37

want to click that away? Should we go to this next

1:47:39

story? Let's do it. Let's

1:47:42

do it. Let's get to it. I'm also

1:47:44

ordering more of the sacred liquid. The

1:47:47

liquid of energy. The juices that give

1:47:49

us. Yeah, I've been going no

1:47:51

coffee for like a

1:47:54

bit. How do you feel? Like

1:47:57

crap right now. Yeah. But I felt

1:47:59

good. the other days. I

1:48:01

just went to bed a little late because it was

1:48:04

Christian's birthday yesterday. Why

1:48:07

are they not having everyone listen to you

1:48:09

guys on speaker, also have everyone like the

1:48:11

stream? Darn straight, yeah. You know what? Put

1:48:14

it on the speaker. That's a good point. Everyone

1:48:16

needs to know. Yes. Put

1:48:18

us on blast. Yeah, so

1:48:21

what are we listening to next? I

1:48:25

think so. Or

1:48:28

is this yours? Yes, three.

1:48:31

It is, no it is not. No, it's

1:48:33

John. It's John, because John finished

1:48:35

the last episode, so he's gonna start

1:48:37

this episode. You're right. Indeed.

1:48:42

They said they, I love your new background. We're gonna

1:48:44

add those panels to the whole wall. They're just kind

1:48:46

of propped up right now, but we're

1:48:49

redesigning the thing. Wait,

1:48:51

you guys are getting so famous. I was playing the pod

1:48:53

on my phone when I went to Starbucks and the window

1:48:55

was little and the barista scanned my app and she saw

1:48:57

Sam. I was like, I love them, they are so funny.

1:49:00

What? Let's freaking

1:49:03

go. That's

1:49:05

sick. Shauna, shout out, cook that thing,

1:49:07

cook that thing. I was licking it.

1:49:09

Shauna, shout out you. Yeah, where

1:49:11

was that? Where was that? Let us know,

1:49:14

that's crazy. Fire.

1:49:17

Also, what episode are we on again? And

1:49:21

starting off. 559 and

1:49:24

we're starting off. Forever dinner, forever dinner. All

1:49:26

right, boys and girls, are you ready to

1:49:28

have a story read to your face holes?

1:49:30

Directly to your face holes. That's right. Well,

1:49:34

let's. Like a fire hose pointed at

1:49:36

your mouth. Do it. Here we go.

1:49:39

My wife packed up and left with our child

1:49:41

when I was at work. Is that legal? Sounds

1:49:45

like kidnapping. Kind of sounds like

1:49:48

it was actually a kid that was napped. It

1:49:50

is technically kidnapping. See?

1:49:54

Maybe. We'll see. This is

1:49:56

all the answer. When is self-improvement needed

1:49:58

to continue a relationship? improvement

1:50:00

like stealing your own child. Maybe you're

1:50:02

gonna get better at stealing a child

1:50:05

and you won't get caught. Exactly. This

1:50:07

comes from MD Myers 18922024

1:50:11

who says, it's

1:50:15

long. Hello everyone. Having a really tough few

1:50:18

days here. On Monday I came

1:50:20

home from an eight hour shift training at

1:50:22

a new job to find that my wife

1:50:24

and mother-in-law had coordinated a moving company

1:50:27

to come to our shared home of nine

1:50:29

years, a rental, and pack up what she

1:50:31

considers her belongings, some of which can be

1:50:33

debated. She has also taken upon

1:50:36

herself to decide that our 11

1:50:38

month old baby and all of

1:50:40

his necessities for well-being are taken

1:50:42

to her mom's house about a 45

1:50:45

minute drive away. So basically,

1:50:48

his, he did it. Oh,

1:50:57

that's okay. That's okay. That's okay. When

1:51:04

is a G? Yeah. Clinton's a G. Perfect.

1:51:07

All right. Nice

1:51:10

work, boss. Frickin go. See, there's literally nothing

1:51:12

Clinton can't do. There's nothing I can do.

1:51:14

Chat, chat, I dare you to invent a

1:51:16

thing that Clinton, you think Clinton can't do

1:51:18

and he will literally do it. He will

1:51:20

do it. My God. Anyways, let's

1:51:22

get back to the story. Don't get too

1:51:25

crazy chat. Yeah. Yeah. Chat. Chat. Chat.

1:51:28

Okay. So, they

1:51:31

have already established a bedroom for the

1:51:33

kid and herself and this was obviously

1:51:35

premeditated well in advanced. I

1:51:37

feel blindsided of course, but she blames it

1:51:39

on my drinking problem and Adderall usage. Okey,

1:51:43

do you have something you need to tell us? Maybe

1:51:46

he's just drinking water and he

1:51:48

has ADHD. His,

1:51:52

his psychiatrist. You're too hydrated.

1:51:55

Yeah. You're so hydrated

1:51:57

that it frustrates me. they

1:54:00

could lash out, be violent, et

1:54:02

cetera, et cetera. So it's like, hey, let

1:54:04

me get the baby to safety without triggering

1:54:06

any potential danger while I do

1:54:08

it. Yeah. Yeah,

1:54:11

I am thinking that

1:54:13

OP is a unreliable narrator. Yes,

1:54:19

I am thinking- Based on what

1:54:21

we know so far. Unreliable narrator

1:54:23

as well. Yeah, Jesse Bell says, sounds like the

1:54:26

repercussions of his actions to me. Yeah,

1:54:28

again, it very well

1:54:30

could be that she went out of

1:54:32

nowhere and maybe she has another boo

1:54:35

thing on the side, but the more

1:54:37

likely scenario is you're drinking out of

1:54:39

all usage is actually out of control.

1:54:42

And she felt that for the safety of her and

1:54:44

the safety of the baby that she had- Take the

1:54:47

baby away. It makes a lot of sense, but hey.

1:54:50

Maybe that's not true, we'll see. We'll

1:54:52

see him. We have some relevant comments. And

1:54:57

maybe some OP responses. So, Aralino

1:55:00

Tampa says, Aralino Tampa says,

1:55:03

any advice on what I should do first? I

1:55:06

guess that's OP, actually. Wait,

1:55:09

that's not OP because OP has a different username.

1:55:12

Ah, sorry. They're responding to OP. Thank you, Sophia,

1:55:14

producer of the year. So Aralino

1:55:17

Tampa says, is quoting, any advice on

1:55:19

what I should do first? And they

1:55:21

respond to that by saying, stop drinking

1:55:23

unless cold turkey would cause withdrawals and

1:55:26

stop using that addy unless it is

1:55:28

prescribed. Unless your wife is nuts and

1:55:30

it sounds like she isn't, and

1:55:33

you know exactly why she's separating from

1:55:35

you. We

1:55:37

just heard, we were just listening to,

1:55:40

dude, this man, Clinton is

1:55:42

just beautifully strumming the guitar right

1:55:44

now. He is like an alien. He

1:55:47

is a perfect little alien man who

1:55:49

is a little perfect little alien man. Yeah.

1:55:53

This is crazy. He just strummed for a

1:55:55

little bit, and now he's coming upstairs. Now

1:55:58

he's coming back. Anyways, my God. I

1:56:01

did I sent him down with that. He just had to close

1:56:03

the fridge Speaks

1:56:06

to me Love

1:56:10

that little strum break So

1:56:13

and then the commenter goes on this

1:56:15

should be your low point and your wake-up

1:56:17

call get yourself put together Your wife did

1:56:19

nothing illegal and your reaction is a classic

1:56:22

case of an addict complaining of their actions

1:56:24

led to consequences Not of

1:56:26

somebody ready to take responsibility This

1:56:29

should be your lowest point if you don't start taking

1:56:31

responsibility for yourself, then the real low point is even

1:56:34

lower Possibly possibly six

1:56:36

feet under the ground lower. Hmm.

1:56:38

Don't let it get to that

1:56:40

point. Yo Arleiano

1:56:44

Tampa is talking some some

1:56:46

reality to OP. Yeah, you know, I

1:56:48

mean I like I feel I feel OP

1:56:52

at least could Include

1:56:54

enough information for people to attach on

1:56:56

where it's like. Oh, she's talking about

1:56:58

my good drinking and Adderall usage so

1:57:00

like at least now we

1:57:02

can get some Pointed advice towards

1:57:04

OP which it seems like oh like people

1:57:06

are done. This is true. And

1:57:09

then there's another comment from Vex

1:57:12

lafire in the absence of

1:57:14

some kind of court mandated parenting

1:57:16

agreement then no She

1:57:18

has done nothing illegal. It sounds like

1:57:20

this is the wake-up all you needed

1:57:22

Hopefully you can make the necessary changes

1:57:24

to reunite your family and

1:57:27

then OP respond to that today is day

1:57:29

one. Oh So

1:57:32

that is a maybe sign. Yeah

1:57:34

sign that he's like I actually

1:57:36

am going to start turning

1:57:39

it over newly pointing in a positive direction,

1:57:41

but We have

1:57:43

an update Oh eight

1:57:45

days later. Okay Six

1:57:48

point two million views on

1:57:51

my only post Wow,

1:57:54

OP got six point two million views

1:57:56

on his first post ever flew the

1:57:58

effort. Yep wild Not expect that,

1:58:00

ha ha ha. Anyways, thanks to all with

1:58:02

the great support, and thanks for the laughs

1:58:04

to those of you assuming I am the

1:58:07

devil and cursing me out. Cute. Anyways,

1:58:09

a small update for anyone paying attention.

1:58:12

My first substance abuse

1:58:14

counseling session is this afternoon.

1:58:17

A good sign. It got

1:58:19

delayed twice due to insurance. I am also

1:58:22

going to an NA

1:58:24

meeting around seven with my

1:58:27

friend, I think, anonymous,

1:58:29

maybe. Yes. My

1:58:32

wife and I are talking and doing fine.

1:58:34

Yes, doing fine, which is

1:58:37

definitely the case when your

1:58:39

wife abducts your child and has to go

1:58:41

away from you. Opie does follow up with,

1:58:43

I get my son all day tomorrow, going

1:58:46

to buy some new toys for the little

1:58:48

dude, which it sounds like there's

1:58:50

an agreement. It's like, yes, you can

1:58:52

see him. Of the child, yeah. So

1:58:55

some of you may assumed I was snorting 12

1:58:57

inch lines of speed in a bottle of whiskey

1:58:59

a day. Sorry, but it

1:59:01

was too much adi daily, a

1:59:05

scary amount, to be honest, and it's pathetic of

1:59:07

me to have gotten that low. All

1:59:11

I drink is crappy beer. I

1:59:15

don't drink hard stuff other than holidays,

1:59:17

maybe not a fan, no violence, no

1:59:19

screaming fights. Again,

1:59:23

who knows? Who

1:59:25

knows? If it is just an

1:59:29

obscene amount of drinking and

1:59:31

adi, I

1:59:34

think that could be enough to be like, I don't

1:59:36

want my child

1:59:38

to be around that. Totally, totally. She

1:59:41

was done with me abusing and pushing myself.

1:59:43

I'm done with that too. I agree with

1:59:45

her and why she did what she did.

1:59:47

I am a weak clean. I cannot wait

1:59:49

to be a year clean. I'm stubborn enough

1:59:51

where I'm sure I can do it. I

1:59:54

love my family, they love me back. I

1:59:56

just need to focus on repairing myself first.

1:59:59

Okay, so. So maybe this is the wake up call. Yes. And

2:00:02

OP's gonna be on the straight and narrow. I don't

2:00:04

know if this is exactly what OP said, but it

2:00:06

sounds like he said, I agree with

2:00:08

the decision of my wife to like

2:00:10

basically have the baby, you know, in

2:00:12

a safe place with, like

2:00:15

he said, there's finances, a full

2:00:17

family. It sounds like

2:00:19

there's great support for the

2:00:21

baby with

2:00:23

his soon to be ex's

2:00:25

family. Yeah, yeah. So it's like

2:00:27

not like the child is going to be

2:00:30

like wanting. And he's in agreement. He's like,

2:00:32

yeah, that actually you having the child is

2:00:35

a good solution is what

2:00:37

it seems like OP is saying,

2:00:39

but there are some relevant comments

2:00:42

again, and it gets thick and

2:00:44

juicy. Should we read

2:00:46

some donuts? Cause I think

2:00:48

we found the missing donuts. Oh, well let's. I did

2:00:50

find the missing donuts. Nice. Let's read

2:00:53

them. Is that the first one? Heidi

2:00:55

Browning, thanks for the five bucks tip. Was that one of the missing

2:00:57

ones? Thanks for

2:00:59

being awesome. Y'all I went through

2:01:01

my watch history and I've been

2:01:03

watching out for close to three

2:01:05

years. Oh, you've been since the

2:01:07

beginning. That is deep because

2:01:09

our three year anniversary is coming up. Thanks

2:01:13

for having the best community out

2:01:16

there. We started September 19th, 2021. Correct.

2:01:23

Nice work. Do you know what

2:01:25

I drag in with the, oh,

2:01:27

celebrating a three month membership, OK, OP

2:01:29

and a world of Warcraft gonna be

2:01:31

a good night. I mean, what's OK,

2:01:33

OP. Well, yeah, what is that? I've

2:01:37

never heard of that. What you're talking about? You

2:01:39

know what I'm dragging? Angie Alice, thanks for the

2:01:42

536. Clinton

2:01:44

should play something on stream for

2:01:47

a wheel spin. Okay, I know you

2:01:49

guys don't like jazz, but. You

2:01:51

like jazz. But what if Clinton just played

2:01:53

in the background? Oh,

2:01:55

yes. Oh, we'll spend actually let's

2:01:57

totally add that 15 seconds. Oh,

2:14:00

it's got it. It's got it. Hey-o.

2:14:02

Stop feeding the kid all these burritos. It

2:14:05

was fun, but we both made clear that it was

2:14:08

not any kind of rekindling and we're still on the

2:14:10

same page of we just had to get some urges

2:14:12

out, you know? Pretty

2:14:15

adult way of looking at it. I

2:14:18

told her that she's probably the best person

2:14:20

anyone could ever be separated from the way

2:14:22

that she's being so cool about stuff. Her

2:14:24

family is inviting me over for dinner and

2:14:26

stuff as well, and we get

2:14:28

to celebrate our son's first birthday on the

2:14:30

7th of July and have a really good

2:14:33

party. That's cute. That's cute. I

2:14:35

feel like they have good things coming. That's also

2:14:37

don't think we didn't realize that the timer ran

2:14:39

out. We're just finishing this story first. That's

2:14:42

yeah, I totally knew that very

2:14:45

much so knew that that was the case. Let's

2:14:47

read the story. Uh, my counselor is awesome to

2:14:49

you and I've had some good conversations with him

2:14:51

and I like how it's going and he makes

2:14:53

me, uh, he makes me feel good getting some

2:14:55

of my feelings out to a stranger. It

2:14:58

also kind of makes me feel just good to post

2:15:00

on here. I'm not much of a poster on Reddit,

2:15:02

but apparently one that gets 6.2 million views. Shout

2:15:04

out you. I never have been. I've always been

2:15:07

a lurker on Reddit for years now. The

2:15:09

thing is, I just need to remember that

2:15:11

I'm doing all of this improvement for myself

2:15:14

and not to get her back. It's to fix

2:15:16

me first. Uh, she is

2:15:18

working through her own problems and I'm doing

2:15:20

it for me and my child. And then

2:15:23

if it all goes well, hopefully we do

2:15:25

end up not separating for good. And

2:15:27

that's what I got. And that's what I get to

2:15:30

think about every day. I really hope her and I

2:15:32

could get back together, but I always have to remind

2:15:34

myself that I need to work on me first and

2:15:36

I am the problem.

2:15:40

Okay. Okay. We have read

2:15:42

a lot of stories where people come for advice and

2:15:45

do not take it. Yes.

2:15:47

What I do like about this

2:15:49

story is OP is very much

2:15:52

taking responsibility, which is

2:15:54

great. I am getting all

2:15:56

to be, to be nuanced. There's like

2:15:58

positive indicators and then like. Like

2:20:01

you little trickster. I feel like you guys

2:20:03

were trick. They knew they were following along They knew

2:20:05

that we had a good chunk of the story left

2:20:07

and they were like, let's wait Right

2:20:09

right as they get into the the

2:20:11

post story breakdown You

2:20:15

guys honestly smart

2:20:17

respect I listen, I

2:20:20

Respect I both I am I I

2:20:23

respect and am terrified by the 10-hour

2:20:25

militia The 10-hour militia just pops

2:20:27

up in the chat and you never know

2:20:29

when they're gonna I was I've been trying

2:20:31

to kick caffeine That's my my substance abuse

2:20:34

problem and and Now

2:20:37

I have to sip this again this

2:20:39

on this this caffeinated beverage. Here we

2:20:42

are All right. Here I

2:20:44

go. Here you go a sippin Yeah,

2:20:47

so again, there's three choices. The

2:20:49

third choice is OP is the

2:20:51

angle It's just you can

2:20:53

move it up. No, I did move it up and it

2:20:55

wasn't there Just do to

2:20:57

two two choices. Okay. Well

2:21:00

effectively there are two choices Everyone

2:21:03

they Sophia

2:21:09

Yeah, I Everyone's

2:21:12

the hero. Yeah, I think one I think everyone's

2:21:14

the hero over sure I

2:21:16

like I just really like the family seemed

2:21:18

really great and supportive. They had the resources

2:21:21

I just love everything after

2:21:23

OP and his possible

2:21:26

at his his currently What

2:21:30

do you say someone you're divorcing but Separated

2:21:33

separated wife. Yes After

2:21:36

they like sat down and had a discussion everything

2:21:39

was so Positive. Yeah.

2:21:41

Yeah, which is like that's what you when

2:21:44

you when you f up That's what you

2:21:46

want to happen and OP is both making

2:21:48

progress and also not using his progress and

2:21:50

excuse to not take accountability Exactly.

2:21:52

Like I and that's what I love. I

2:21:55

love that. He is. I love

2:21:57

that. He is like in

2:26:00

Sun right there. Come on What

2:26:03

are you talking about? You think we're

2:26:05

about to sponsor someone for free? No,

2:26:08

and he added ice. Oh My

2:26:13

goodness W's in the

2:26:15

chat for don't use in the chaffa Clinton

2:26:18

this there is nothing this man cannot do.

2:26:20

I'm telling you I Clinton

2:26:24

fly fly a commercial airplane done done. Where

2:26:26

we going? Let's go with Bahamas. I think

2:26:28

when I'm Almost

2:26:31

certain Clinton can do anything if if if

2:26:33

a plane was going down and Clinton is

2:26:35

like guys I got this I'd be like

2:26:37

I'm gonna take it I'm

2:26:39

gonna take a nap if I

2:26:41

had to choose between a licensed

2:26:43

medical doctor and Clinton to do

2:26:45

open-heart surgery on me I would

2:26:47

choose Clinton can Do

2:26:50

doctors care about no free sponsors? No, they do

2:26:52

not know they don't I bet you that doctor

2:26:54

will be taking out his blade It'll be like

2:26:56

oh is this Exacto and

2:26:58

would say the name Disgusting

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Would not do that. That's true. Clinton

2:27:05

would not W's in

2:27:08

the chat for Clinton so many

2:27:10

freaking But

2:27:12

yeah, so if you have a story

2:27:14

about self-improvement of either you or your

2:27:16

partner and you actually did improve Please

2:27:20

submit your stories go go

2:27:23

DM Riley on discord.

2:27:25

Yeah me Riley

2:27:28

yes, I'm Sophia Riley And

2:27:31

with that we'll get in to this

2:27:33

next Story do

2:27:35

it. So my wife went

2:27:38

on a solo two-month European trip

2:27:40

for her mental health Instead

2:27:43

of our honeymoon. What do I do?

2:27:48

Leave Dang

2:27:50

instead of your honeymoon. That's rough.

2:27:52

This comes from interest generals and

2:27:54

they say my wife's 32 female

2:27:56

and I 33 male got

2:27:58

married a couple Well, months ago and my

2:28:01

wife went on a solo trip to Europe.

2:28:03

She always wanted to do a solo

2:28:05

trip, but she never had time to do

2:28:08

so because of work, however, she used

2:28:10

the honeymoon time for her solo trip. I

2:28:13

wanted to accompany her on

2:28:15

her trip, but she said she needed this

2:28:17

for her mental health and I ultimately agreed,

2:28:19

even though I was sad about it. She

2:28:21

thanked me many times for being understanding of

2:28:23

this, but I put it on the back

2:28:25

of my mind and tried not to think

2:28:27

about it because I was really excited about

2:28:30

our wedding. Is

2:28:33

that a red flag? Ozzy

2:28:36

girl in the art shot says divorce now. Yeah,

2:28:39

I think, I think because

2:28:41

it is a big ask of,

2:28:44

of OP, like being away for

2:28:46

so long and clearly this is

2:28:48

something that really negatively impacts OP.

2:28:50

I feel like it warrants

2:28:53

at least more of a conversation

2:28:56

to explain why

2:28:58

and get it at least give up. What is this?

2:29:04

Poll is give Clinton a raise

2:29:06

or to make him work for

2:29:08

free. What?

2:29:12

Sophia, what are you doing? I

2:29:16

actually made her do this. You

2:29:22

spoke in my mind. That's

2:29:24

another thing I can do. All

2:29:27

right. But, um,

2:29:29

yeah, I, I, I think

2:29:31

it's a little, it's like a little bit

2:29:33

of a red flag. If you,

2:29:36

I don't

2:29:38

know, like needing that much time away from

2:29:40

your partner, right upon getting married. Yeah, everything

2:29:42

is contextual, but I think this warrants like,

2:29:44

if you really want to do this, like

2:29:46

sit down with your partner, like, I know

2:29:48

I would be like that.

2:29:51

I would be bad for

2:29:54

two, for two months. And especially right

2:29:56

after you get married. It's

2:29:59

like, it's like, Yeah, that's a great

2:30:01

point. Like the honeymoon is supposed to be this

2:30:03

time where you're experiencing something

2:30:05

together. Yeah. And for

2:30:07

her to be like, yeah, like I know

2:30:09

this whole marriage thing is about being together,

2:30:11

but I really want to do this solo.

2:30:13

Like you can't give him like one week

2:30:15

with the weekends on either side. So you're

2:30:17

like, like basically five days of like paid

2:30:19

time off or whatever. You can't

2:30:21

do just that for like a nine day,

2:30:23

10 day honeymoon. Like why not do, I

2:30:26

mean, like

2:30:28

would not the honeymoon help for your mental

2:30:30

health? And is it, if your mental health

2:30:32

is affected by having a honeymoon with your

2:30:34

husband, are you,

2:30:36

is it the right? It's us spending time together.

2:30:38

That's what's so bad for my mental health. Yeah.

2:30:41

I need to get away. That's a red flag. That's a red

2:30:43

flag. We just got married. I need to run away. So

2:30:47

the wedding was great. And my wife left for

2:30:49

her trip to Europe the next day. I

2:30:52