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not. Suppose
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20% oxygen to 80% oxygen. It's
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like, oh, wouldn't that be great? Like you'd get so
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much oxygen so easily we'd all feel good. Like, no,
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everything would burn. Any little spark,
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every electrical thing would explode. You know,
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80% oxygen, everything is combustible. And similarly,
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what if we give everyone an outrage
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button where they can... The
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slightest thing. Oh, something bothers you about what
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you saw on the street? Tweet it. Somebody
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up. Let people dox them. This
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is what social media has done to
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us. It's an open question whether liberal
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democracy in the American form, it's an
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open question whether we can survive, whether
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our current institutions and structure is compatible
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with an 80% oxygen world. I'm
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Jon Favreau. Welcome to offline. Hey,
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everyone. You just heard from today's
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guest, social psychologist and NYU professor
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Jonathan Haidt. So this is
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a conversation I've wanted to have for a long time. Hite
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is the author of numerous bestsellers like
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The Happiness Hypothesis, The Coddling of the
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American Mind, and the number one New
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York Times bestseller that will join, seemingly
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everyone else in talking about today, The
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Anxious Generation. Hite's basic argument
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is one we've made many times on this
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show. The kids are not alright,
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and the culprit is their phones. But
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Hite takes it a step further. He
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offers extensive research to support his contention
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that smartphones, and especially social media, are
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fueling a teen and adolescent mental health
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epidemic here and in other countries. Hite
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also offers a four-step plan to help us
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build what he calls a healthier childhood in
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the digital age. It's a
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compelling book, and his recommendations make a lot of sense. But
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The Anxious Generation has also touched off a
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debate about whether Hite has overstated the case
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against phones, and it raises
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questions about whether his proposed reforms,
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like banning phones in schools, have
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the support necessary to become reality.
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So I asked him. We talked about
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the evidence he cites, the criticisms he's
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received, how phones and social media have
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changed our relationships and our attention spans,
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and how they're making politics and democracy
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much harder. As a quick note,
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we had a lot to get through, so today's interview will
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take up the full hour of the show. Here's
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Jonathan Hite. Jonathan
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Hite, welcome to Offline. Thank
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you, Jon. Pleasure to be here. So
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I've wanted to have you on for a
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long time because even before The Anxious Generation,
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a lot of your writing has focused on
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the central thesis of this podcast, which is
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that smartphones and social media are breaking our
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brains, making us miserable, and making democracy much
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more difficult. So you are talking
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to a host, and I think most listeners,
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who probably agree with your argument that smartphones
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and especially social media are bad for kids.
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But since I see people still debating
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whether it's the phones that are causing the
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increase in mental health challenges among kids, could
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you start by talking about the most persuasive
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evidence you found? So, there's a
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lot of scientists. There's a lot of
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correlational studies. There are a
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lot of experiments. There are a lot of
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time lag, longitudinal studies. One
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thing I've learned by engaging in this debate
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is that the scientific evidence is not nearly
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as cut and dry or persuasive as you
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would think. My critics will put out
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a study and say, see, this proves that the height is
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wrong. Then I look and say, wait a sec. No, actually,
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this proves that I'm right. The scientific
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evidence is really debatable. That's a whole
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process that has to come out. To
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my mind, the most powerful evidence
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that I have seen on this is
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the fact that I cannot find
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anyone in Gen Z who
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says or has written that
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smartphones and social media were good for their generation.
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There are thousands of essays and videos
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by, especially Gen Z in their 20s,
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saying, wow, this messed us up.
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Wow, talking with naked men when I was
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11 years old, this was terrible. If
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there's been a crime and the crime victim keeps
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saying, he did it, he did it, he's the
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one. They all say that. I
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actually think that's pretty persuasive. The
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idea, the main criticism against me
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is that I'm mistaken correlation for causation. That
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sure, mental health plummeted all around the world.
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Basically at the moment that kids moved their social lives onto
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Instagram and a few other platforms around 2012. That
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could just be coincidence. It might
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have just been a big coincidence. It happened everywhere
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at the same time, but just a coincidence. The
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fact that the kids themselves see it, the fact
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that the teachers see it, the principals see it,
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the parents see it. I
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actually take that as the most
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persuasive. Of course,
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I sometimes wonder, I'm going out on a
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limb here, we don't have scientific consensus that
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smartphones and social media are what's causing the
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mental health crisis. Am
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I fomenting a moral panic by saying, look,
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we need to start acting now. We can't
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wait five years for the scientists to reach
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agreement. The
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fact that I don't really find
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anyone who disagrees with me other
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than ... within the scientific other than a
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few scientists who we argue over
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the size of the correlations um i
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was just talking yesterday with the commissioner of
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uh the commissioner of schools of of
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new york city and he said
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he was asking a bunch of principles
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what should we do with the phones and they all
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said take them away take them away it's making our
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jobs miserable so i think that's
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pretty compelling yeah well i'll give you
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a few of the like alternative
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theories i've heard or some of the criticism
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sure i love these alternatives yeah i figure
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so and i see these floating around online
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on social media uh but
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you know one of them is what if more
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young people are self-reporting anxiety
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and depression because this is
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less stigmatized than it used to be right
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so that's perfectly plausible and if that
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was the case then what we would
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see is gradually rising rates from the
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1980s through the present because
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there used to be a stigma um
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when i was a kid my mother sent me to
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a psychiatrist when i was uh 10 or 11 years
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old i had some nervous ticks that were kind of
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strange and she sent me just that was very shameful
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like i didn't want anybody to know but now
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here you know it's 2024 and i'm perfectly happy to say
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you know i i i see
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a therapist every other week i have for a couple of
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years so the stigma has been vanishing since the
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80s um so if it was
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the stigma that it was just you know it's
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an illusion it's just like yeah it looks like
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there's high rates but that's just because then what
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we would see is a gradual rise from the
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80s to the present but that's not what we
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see what we see is
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actually a slight fall from the
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90s through 2010 2011 the millennials
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their mental health was a little bit
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better actually than gen x so we
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see the numbers the actual rates uh
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self-report rates of anxiety and depression going
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slightly down during the 2000s
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while stigma is dropping and dropping and
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then all of a sudden 2020 2012
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it goes way up way up in america
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and it goes up all around certainly around
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the english speaking world so you You want to
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tell me that the stigma didn't
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change at all from the 90s through 2011 and
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then suddenly in 2012, 2013, suddenly
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the whole world decided, hey, mental
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illness is cool. I
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don't mind saying that I'm anxious. It just,
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it doesn't make any sense. The
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other one I hear a lot, especially
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on the left and from
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some young people is, you know, what
8:23
if it's the impending climate disaster
8:25
and you know, massive inequality brought
8:27
about by late stage capitalism. Yeah.
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So there's a thing called the pundit, um,
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that was called the pundit illusion where whatever
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happens, so it used to be like, you
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know, right wing pundits, whatever happens, this shows
8:39
the need to lower taxes or whatever. And
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so people were focused on climate change or
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the, or who hate capitalism. Sure. Everything's
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going to be evidence of that. But let's look at
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the timing and let's look historically. So
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what we see the sharpest increases are
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for the preteen girls in 2012,
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their rates double and
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triple for self harmony triple. So did
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something happen in 2012 that the young
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girls were really clued into? Is
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that when they got active about climate change?
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Now Greta Thunberg, I think was about 2018
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when she addressed the UN. Now
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Greta was, you know, that would make sense. Greta
9:15
was incredibly inspiring, especially to young, to
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girls and young women. So
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if this whole thing, it was like, no
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change, no change, no change. And then suddenly
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Greta Thunberg, and then, you know, then
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I would say, yeah, actually, maybe it was Greta. But
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that's not what happened. What happened
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was things, mental health was fine
9:34
during the Bush administration in the United States, George
9:37
W. Bush. And then it was fine during
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Obama's first term, which means it was
9:41
fine during the global financial crisis,
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because financial crises don't affect teenagers very much.
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You don't see a national drop among
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12 year old girls
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and boys just because the economy is bad.
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And then all of a sudden, in Obama's second
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term, when, you know,
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our first African American president is reelected, gay
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marriages declared law of
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the land a year or two later. This
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was a progressive utopia, really, the early
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2010s, and that's when girls, and
10:13
especially progressive girls, suddenly get so upset
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about the state of the world. Because
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I should point out that there are
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three big demographic differences. The biggest one
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is gender. So girls go up much
10:23
... well, not always. Girls
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go up more than boys in absolute
10:28
terms, always, except for
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suicide. Boys go up more. Boys
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have high rates of suicide. But on
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anxiety, depression, self-harm, girls start higher, and
10:36
then they go way, way up. So gender
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is the biggest one. After
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that comes politics and religion. So
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it's girls on the left, especially, and
10:45
it's also kids in secular households. These
10:48
are the kids who had a lot of freedom.
10:50
They were not firmly anchored in binding communities. If
10:52
you're a religious conservative, your life is full of restrictions.
10:54
You have to go to church. You have to see
10:57
your grandmother. You have to say your prayers. You have
10:59
to do the dishes. I mean, religious
11:01
conservatives, they really hem their kids
11:04
in with obligations. Now,
11:06
according to many sociologists, or my favorite one,
11:08
Emile Durkheim, this is actually a good thing.
11:10
Like, many of us wouldn't choose it, but
11:12
it ends up actually being conducive to happiness.
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And so what I think happened is
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it's the kids who were least bound
11:19
in, which is especially secular
11:21
liberals, they're the ones who suddenly got
11:23
washed away in 2012, whereas the religious conservative
11:27
kids, their feet were firmly planted in real
11:29
communities. They didn't get washed away. They're worth
11:31
off, but it's only a little. So
11:33
again, the activism, the world is terrible,
11:35
and we didn't know it until 2013, but suddenly we
11:39
discovered that the world is terrible. Like, no,
11:41
that just doesn't fit. In all these
11:43
countries. Yeah. One thing I've wondered
11:45
is social media could be responsible in
11:47
a different way here, which is
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social media is sort of like a
11:52
fire hose of bad news aimed directly
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at our brains. And so that the
11:56
horrors of the world Become
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more visible to kids. Through social
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media probably an outsized ways that are not
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you know they they might not actually match
12:05
the reality of the horrors but it like
12:07
already a like all news you're only going
12:09
to get the bad news in the worse
12:12
headlines. I was wondering if that had an
12:14
effect but yes but I would I would
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for push the bit differently. So as a
12:18
social psychologists my job is to take whatever
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you say and make it more social. Year
12:24
because he not. There's a
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saying. And Social Psychology Cognitive
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Psychology is Social Psychology. With
12:30
all of the interesting variables set to
12:33
zero so you propose a cognitive psychology
12:35
explanation may be a said social media
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is bringing bad news and people are
12:39
thinking wow, the world is in bad
12:41
shape as very plausible but you know
12:43
it's much more influential especially on teenagers.
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It's not. That there's a
12:48
war in Ukraine or somewhere
12:50
else is that. Sasser
12:53
the people in my seat or freaking out. Kids
12:56
are very subject to see emotional contagion especially
12:58
girls. girls are more open to social influences,
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they feel other's emotions more or and so
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this is one explanation for why said the
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curves like everybody sort of flat and then
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everybody goes up in their early twenties. His
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girls is super sharp girls it really is
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like a hockey sticks. The boys curves are
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more gradual. It's not like you know is
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they begin going up and two thousand nine
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two thousand ten the the he put up.
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but I'm so I think I think suddenly
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especially when you look at middle school kids.
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Middle school kids are not supposed. To be
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worrying about the war in Ukraine or
13:28
inflation or anything else. They're supposed to
13:30
be playing that by the time your
13:32
senior in high school. Okay, you're reading
13:34
the newspaper. Maybe you're getting politically active,
13:37
but it's completely inappropriate for ten eleven,
13:39
twelve year old to have like thought
13:41
you know enough flog rise made in
13:43
Iraq or know exactly been reported to
13:45
Down a Goose's are you know about
13:47
throw it in stomach former Florida as
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not pretty so that's what we're doomed.
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Or middle school kids, they're suddenly immersed
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and then there's posted. Go to these
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protests. You know my my daughter's middle school they cancelled
13:57
school to go to a gun control. You know, gunfire?
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I mean really middle school, please
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just lay off the middle school kids.
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Let them start puberty in a
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normal healthy way Yeah, do
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you got any more please? I love
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well for people who haven't read the
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book Could you explain a little bit
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about why you think it rose so
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sharply for girls and explain
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the gender difference actually? Sure. Okay. So so
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the basic story of the book is a
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tragedy in in two acts Although there's a
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third we can talk about which is community
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In act one we take away the play based
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childhood kids always used to
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be out playing and Even
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during the crime wave when I was growing up So
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we take away begin in the 90s. We stopped letting kids
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out. We're very afraid. They'll be kidnapped or hit by
14:42
a car So so
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we block them from the kinds of
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experiences that they need to be to
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overcome their anxieties To
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become more confident and capable. So that's that's act
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one from like 1990 to 2010 But
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in 2010 kids are still using their phones.
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They have flip phones They're still using their
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phones to communicate with other kids. They text
15:05
them. They call them they meet up to
15:07
you know, they meet up after school and
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then everything changes act two of the tragedy
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is this the in rushing of the phone
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based childhood and That
15:16
means that kids go from having a flip phone
15:18
that they use to like painfully text each other
15:21
We know it's very hard to text on a
15:23
flip phone to suddenly having everyone's got an
15:26
iPhone with a front-facing camera They've got
15:28
Instagram. They've got high-speed internet at that
15:30
point. Everybody's on their phone now the
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girls Choose so everyone's on
15:34
their phones, but they choose different things the girls
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Actually think about it this way if you want
15:39
to trap an animal What you have to do
15:42
is find bait that the animal likes and
15:44
then the animals attract it And then you have to
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find a way that once the animal takes the bait
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they can't escape So if you
15:51
want to trap girls what you do is you say?
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Hey, do you want to find out what everyone's
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saying about everyone and
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for girls? That's really? Appealing
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especially do you want to find out what everyone's saying
16:02
about you? Now
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that's more interesting to girls than it is to boys for
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boys If you want to trap a boy you say hey
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Do you want to look at pictures of naked women
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or men whatever you're attracted to do you want to
16:14
look at high quality image? You know images of people
16:16
having sex. That's a lot more interesting to
16:18
boys than to girls or you say to boys
16:21
Hey, do you want to join teams and
16:23
fight war? You won't get physically hurt, but
16:25
really graphic amazing graphics It's very exciting. Yeah,
16:28
that sounds pretty good. Sign me up for
16:30
that three or four hours a day So
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girls and boys go into they get very very deeply
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immersed in different kinds of
16:37
activities all of which have quick dopamine
16:39
loops all of which are Very
16:42
rewarding on a variable ratio schedule, so
16:44
they're very addictive both ways But
16:47
the boys are actually having fun now over
16:49
time I think they're really harming themselves if
16:51
you if you keep giving yourself quick dopamine
16:53
for five or ten years every day You're
16:56
gonna change the reinforcement systems in your brain and
16:58
possibly permanently so the boys actually are getting quite
17:00
damaged I believe but if you look at kids
17:02
who are 14 the boys are actually having some
17:04
fun now. They're lonely as hell But
17:07
they are having fun when they're playing video games now
17:10
the girls on the other hand They're not
17:12
having fun when yours just swiping
17:14
on social media. You're looking at other photos
17:16
of beautiful girls, and they're perfect lives That's
17:19
not fun You're commenting on
17:21
what people said that's not fun. This is more
17:23
work So so this is
17:25
why I think we see there are both boys
17:27
and girls are addicted They
17:30
spend massive amounts of time about
17:32
five hours a day just on social media This
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pushes out everything else, so they're not reading books. They're
17:38
not having hobbies. They're not seeing their friends This is
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happening to both sexes But the
17:42
the video games and porn aren't they don't seem
17:44
as destructive to the boys at the age of
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14 now if we look at These kids when
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they're 30 and 40 I
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think what we're going to find is that
17:52
the girls are somewhat functional They'll be more
17:54
anxious than average, but they'll have jobs, and
17:56
they finish college There's a lot of the
17:59
boys are going to still be dependent. They're
18:01
not gonna have developed skills to hold a job
18:03
or court a woman for the
18:05
heterosexual boys. So that's what I think is
18:07
the nature of the sex difference. The girls
18:09
went especially for Instagram, Pinterest, and Tumblr. Those
18:11
were three of the biggest platforms early on,
18:13
which the boys went much more for video
18:15
games than YouTube and that's why I think
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one of the reasons they have very different
18:20
outcomes. Yeah, I mean it seems
18:22
for girls that there are
18:24
just like larger societal pressures that
18:26
have existed for decades, right, where
18:29
they're going to naturally feel the
18:32
pressure to compare
18:35
and look at other, and you know
18:37
there's sort of these unfair beauty standards
18:39
that girls feel pressure to
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conform to that boys maybe do not
18:44
as much. That's right, absolutely. It's
18:46
always been clear to me that middle school is
18:48
harder for girls. I mean I hated middle school,
18:50
but it's harder for growth than it is for
18:52
boys, on average, harder for growth than boys. And
18:54
then social media says let's take the 10 worst parts
18:56
about middle school for a girl and let's crank them
18:59
up to 10. Let's just make it all a lot
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onions. Or maybe peppers, but no onions. But
20:14
what kind of peppers? And then the mustard. What are
20:16
we doing brown? Spicy or are you going to go amateur hour? And
20:19
then catch up to its own situation. Which, by the
20:21
way, is absolute heresy. And here
20:23
is the beautiful truth. Johnsonville don't care.
20:25
If people are debating relish, bun, or no bun,
20:27
at least we're all talking and sharing again. And
20:29
yeah, the catch up is a personal choice. Keep
20:32
it juicy. The
20:39
thing that really drove home the problems for
20:41
me is sort of, you write about the
20:43
differences between relationships in the real world and
20:46
relationships in the virtual world. Can you talk
20:48
about the difference? Yeah, so
20:50
there's a huge difference between connecting and
20:52
performing. So Richard Reeves has this
20:54
great book called Of Boys and Men. He
20:56
points out, girls tend to interact face to face.
20:59
Boys tend to interact shoulder to shoulder. They like to
21:01
do things together. And that's even true for men. You
21:03
know, when I get together with my buddies, we're more
21:05
likely, we do talk. But we're more like, we want
21:08
to do something together. So when
21:10
technology helps us to
21:13
connect in the way that we want, the gender-specific
21:16
ways, when it helps boys to do things together,
21:18
when it helps girls to talk,
21:20
so of course girls would use the telephone
21:22
to talk for hours and hours. And
21:25
so is that bad? No, I
21:27
would say talking on the telephone with one person
21:29
is good. So that's connecting.
21:32
But what if it wasn't a one-way call? What if it was a
21:34
30-way call? What if
21:36
there's 30 people on the phone? Now, there's a
21:39
lot of performance. And
21:42
if you say something that other people
21:44
dislike or criticize, they might laugh at you and then they
21:46
build on that, and then they talk
21:48
about how stupid you are. Like, so it's high
21:51
stakes. And you get
21:53
30 people on a phone call, which you never did. But
21:56
if you had 30 people on a phone call, it would
21:58
be a high stakes. It's not really connecting. But
22:00
a lot of kids have these giant
22:02
group chats, and they're always chiming in,
22:04
and they're getting hundreds of notifications a
22:06
day. That's not connecting them. That
22:10
is performance. This
22:12
I think is one of the big reasons why as soon
22:15
as the boys move on to video games
22:17
and porn, even though they're
22:19
connecting on the video games, their level of
22:21
loneliness goes up. When the
22:24
girls move on to Instagram, even
22:26
though they're interacting, their level of
22:28
loneliness goes up. The more you
22:30
have virtual world interactions,
22:32
virtual interactions, many
22:35
of them are not intrinsically bad, some are. But
22:38
when you're having five or 10 hours a
22:40
day of virtual interactions, and you have to
22:42
sleep, and you have to go to school,
22:44
there really isn't any time to see your friends. And
22:47
that's what we see. It's so sad. I have grabs
22:49
in the book about time with friends. Before
22:51
2012, kids used to spend a lot
22:53
of time with their friends. Now they don't. They don't see them
22:55
very much. There's just no time in the day. Yeah,
22:58
and you talked about it in terms of
23:01
communities and how, I think you
23:03
said that virtual communities have sort
23:05
of a low bar for entry, and
23:08
that offline communities have a higher bar for entry.
23:10
Can you talk a little bit about the difference
23:12
there? Because I think that's pretty cool. Yeah,
23:15
childhood needs to be full of hard things. I
23:18
mean, I'd ask any parent here, if
23:20
you could remove all the obstacles from your child's
23:22
life, would you do so? Of course
23:24
not. You know, your kid needs to learn to
23:26
struggle. They need to learn to climb high walls.
23:29
They need to learn to overcome failure. And
23:31
so same thing in social life. If
23:34
you could set it, that whenever your kid made a
23:36
mistake or people were laughing at him, your kid could
23:39
just press a button and a jack. Like, that's it,
23:41
I'm done with them. Maybe go on to another community.
23:44
That would be a terrible way to raise a kid. What
23:48
has always happened for millions of years, certainly since
23:50
we've had language in the last million years, we've
23:53
always lived in relatively small
23:55
groups, a few dozen typically. And
23:57
fitting in with that community is
23:59
life. for death. You have to learn how to
24:01
fit in. And it can be painful. And
24:04
some kids are excluded. But
24:08
this is the gym,
24:10
the social, the gym where you work out how
24:12
to do this. You learn these skills. Whereas,
24:16
when everything moves into virtual communities, you know, a
24:18
huge number of apps and new apps every year,
24:20
you know, you can try out different communities. And
24:22
if you make a mistake, if you don't like
24:24
it, you don't have to fix yourself. You don't
24:27
have to make up with the people. You just
24:29
quit. And so when
24:31
everything becomes cheap, disposable and easy,
24:34
children don't have a chance to grow up. Kids
24:36
need to do hard things when they
24:38
have a phone. So let's just take awkward
24:41
silences. You know, as
24:43
soon as you get in an elevator, all the
24:45
phones come out, it's awkward to stand there for 30
24:47
seconds. My students at NYU
24:49
tell me that sometimes when they're at the lunch table,
24:51
they're sitting at lunch and
24:54
talking. But there's a moment of, you
24:56
know, there's a lull. Someone pulls out their phone because
24:59
most of them are addicted. They have to see what's
25:01
been coming in. And once one person pulls out their
25:03
phone, the others pull out their phones. So
25:05
I think what we're seeing is
25:08
our kids are so lonely. And what
25:10
they really need is each other. But as
25:12
long as they all have phones, they don't
25:14
get each other. Yeah, when you say
25:17
that, I think two things. One, which is we're
25:20
all like that now, right? Not just kids. And
25:24
two, have you seen any
25:26
evidence that sort of the
25:28
transients of these virtual world
25:30
relationships are actually affecting real
25:33
world relationships? The behaviors
25:35
that are encouraged and rewarded in these virtual
25:37
world relationships start spilling over now and this
25:39
is how people are with each other. Yes.
25:43
Now here, I don't know of any scientific
25:45
studies. This is a subtle question about behavior.
25:49
But so I teach in a business school, I speak with a
25:51
lot of people in the corporate world. And
25:53
they, you know, they almost uniformly see
25:56
real difficulties in incorporating their Gen Z
25:58
employees. It's just much harder. harder. And
26:00
again, there's no blame here. This generation,
26:03
we stuck them on social media
26:05
and smartphones at the beginning of puberty.
26:09
They went through COVID. My kids lost their first
26:13
year of middle school and high school to COVID. A
26:16
lot of kids lost their first years on
26:18
the job market. So there's
26:20
no blame here. But
26:23
what employers are noticing is
26:26
that members of
26:28
Gen Z are much more passive. If
26:31
something goes wrong, they don't take the initiative
26:33
to solve it. They might ask, what should
26:36
I do? But they just seem to
26:38
have less of a sort of internal locus of
26:40
control, a less of a sense of like, I can make
26:42
things happen. They
26:44
expect more accommodation. So in the work
26:47
world, if there's a deadline, if we
26:49
have a client who's expecting this report
26:51
on Monday morning, a lot of us are
26:53
going to be working over the weekend. I mean, that's just the way it's going
26:55
to be. But a lot
26:57
of Gen Z is like, I'm sorry, you know,
26:59
I have anxiety. And so I'm not going to
27:01
like they just expect accommodation because that's what we've
27:03
given them from the time they were little. And
27:07
another is the ghosting. It's
27:09
awkward to say you won't do something. It's awkward
27:12
to break up with someone. It's,
27:14
you know, it's so the idea that you
27:16
shouldn't have to experience anything uncomfortable. So if
27:18
someone's expecting something from you, and you don't
27:20
want to do it, just don't show up.
27:22
Just don't do it. So
27:24
I hear a lot about that. So again,
27:27
this is just these are more just from anecdotes
27:29
that I hear. Yeah, stands to
27:31
reason that if you didn't have a
27:33
normal childhood full of face to face
27:35
with millions of face to face interactions,
27:37
some of which were awkward, if
27:39
you take out, let's say 70% of
27:41
those, and you swap in these weird virtual
27:43
stuff, stands to reason that if you're a
27:46
24 year old, you're not going to be
27:48
behaving in the expected way in the
27:51
office. Yeah. And I was just
27:53
thinking about like, even just in my own life since
27:55
since doing this show. And you know, I was thinking
27:57
about it again, reading your book is like you're, you're
27:59
just around and a bunch of friends and if
28:01
you're all on your phone, or
28:03
if there is this moment of silence, you don't,
28:06
sometimes you just grab the phone and look at the phone
28:08
instead of just thinking of like, oh, what's the next thing
28:11
I'm gonna say? What's the next topic of conversation I'm gonna
28:13
have? And that's sort of all
28:15
generations really. That's right. So
28:17
people do talk about them having
28:19
poor conversational skills. And
28:22
for the boys especially, difficulty making eye
28:24
contact. I'd love to
28:26
see data on this, but I hear this a lot. In
28:29
fact, I'll just share a funny story. So
28:32
when The Calling of the American Mind came out in 2018, I
28:35
was on Billmore. And the first
28:37
guest was Stormy Daniels. And
28:39
so she went out, she had a book out and
28:41
Bill interviews her and then I come out and I
28:43
talk about what's happening to kids. And
28:45
afterwards, there's like a little party for
28:47
everybody who's involved, all the production crew
28:49
and the guests. So I'm talking with
28:51
her and she says, oh,
28:53
you know, I saw your segment and
28:55
wow, yeah, I really, I really seen
28:57
that, that Gen Z is just really
28:59
different. And she said, I've
29:02
worked with men of all ages, ever
29:04
since I was 17, she's been in strip clubs and dancing.
29:09
She said she's always worked with men of all ages and she
29:11
likes to flirt with them and talk with them. And
29:14
she's noticed in the last few years, the
29:16
young men can't look her in the eye.
29:18
So again, it's just an anecdote, but I'm
29:20
hearing this a lot about eye contact. Boys
29:22
have trouble making eye contact. So
29:25
you recommend four major reforms,
29:28
no smartphones before high school, no social
29:30
media before 16, phone-free schools
29:33
and more unsupervised play. Can you
29:35
talk about some of the obstacles
29:37
to getting these done and what
29:39
seemed to be some of the
29:41
more common sources of resistance? Sure,
29:44
so let's take the easiest one, the one that we
29:46
can do this year, the one that is happening this
29:48
year, which is phone-free schools. It
29:50
is terrible to have the greatest distraction
29:52
device ever made in your pocket. And
29:55
that's what we've allowed kids to do. If you
29:57
can imagine a teacher trying to teach a
29:59
class. where every kid has on
30:01
their desk, you know, a
30:03
TV set and a guitar and
30:06
a walkie-talkie and a phonograph,
30:08
you know, from back in the old days. Like
30:11
that's absurd, like why would we do that? But
30:13
that's what we do. Having phones
30:15
in school is completely insane. And
30:17
so most schools have a rule. You can't take
30:19
out your phone during class. You have to wait
30:21
until class is over, which does two
30:23
things. One, all the kids,
30:25
especially in the back row, they're just you hide it behind
30:27
a book and you're on your phone. I mean, you have
30:30
to be on your phone because everyone else's. If people are
30:32
texting, you have to check. Otherwise, you're left out. Some
30:35
teachers have told me kids go to the bathroom
30:37
a lot more often nowadays than they used to
30:39
because they have to they have to see their
30:41
phone. They can't go 40 minutes without checking it.
30:43
So anyway, phones in schools are complete, complete insanity.
30:46
This one is easy. This one is
30:48
happening. It's happened. If you're listening to
30:50
this conversation, and you have kids and
30:52
your kids go to a school where
30:54
they allow the kids to use their
30:56
phones between classes or lunch, please
30:59
talk to the principal and beg them
31:01
say please, I want my child to
31:03
listen to the teacher during class and to
31:05
talk with other kids between classes. But
31:08
if they have phones, they're not doing either of those. So
31:11
so phone free schools is easy. It's not
31:14
controversial. It's just there's some implementation questions. But
31:16
there's really no counter argument. I've not yet
31:18
seen a counter argument to taking the phones
31:20
in the morning and giving them back in
31:22
the evening. I guess it's I guess it's
31:25
you hear some parents say, well, I need to be
31:27
able to contact my kids, right? Like I
31:29
need to be able to if it but which which
31:31
is a very like recent
31:34
thing because I remember like, you know, when I was in
31:36
school, if your parents really needed you that someone would come
31:38
into the class and say, hey, your parents, that's right. If
31:41
it's an emergency, if it's an emergency, you can
31:43
still reach your kid. But if
31:45
every parent is texting their children multiple times during
31:47
the day to check up on things and oh,
31:50
I'm scheduling your dentist appointment. Are you free then?
31:52
Then? Or, oh, can you do this on your
31:54
way home? Like, you know, this
31:56
is during class. Like this never could have
31:58
been done until you know, 20. or
32:00
something and now it's routine. So
32:02
we have to stop, we have to stop it. So
32:04
phone free schools there's really no debate. I mean that's
32:06
just a no-brainer. The
32:09
first two are the ones where
32:11
there's not a lot of opposition
32:13
but there is some debate. So the first
32:15
rule is no smartphone till high school. Just give them
32:17
a flip phone or a phone watch. And
32:20
the second rule is no social media till 16. And
32:22
a lot
32:25
of the pushback is people think
32:28
no smartphone till high school. How will I get
32:30
in touch with my child? With
32:32
a flip phone or a brick phone or a
32:34
phone watch. That works fine. Do
32:36
you need your child to have complete
32:38
access to everything on the internet 24
32:40
hours a day? How about they just
32:42
can get it on their computer at
32:44
home? Do you need
32:47
everyone in the world to be able to reach your
32:49
child to try to sextort them, flirt with them, get
32:51
them to send photos of themselves? Like no you don't
32:53
need that. No child needs that. So
32:55
I'm not saying you
32:57
can't communicate with your child. You can text them. And
33:00
I'm not saying keep them off the internet. They can
33:02
go on the internet but it should be ideally on
33:04
a desktop computer. Especially if you're like, we're talking like
33:06
eight, nine, ten year old kids. Have
33:09
a desktop computer in your kitchen, in your
33:11
living room, family room. Have a computer that
33:13
the kids can use. If it's out
33:15
in a public place they're much less likely to get
33:17
into porn, to start talking with strange men.
33:19
It's just a lot of the bad stuff
33:21
happens when they have the phone in private
33:23
at night. So put that, you know, delay
33:25
that as long as you can. So
33:28
and then social media, no social media until 16. Social
33:32
media is so completely inappropriate for children.
33:35
We have a general consensus in
33:37
our society that we do pass
33:39
laws to restrict kids
33:42
with regard to sex, like
33:44
explicit hardcore sex, violence,
33:47
like really graphic violence, and
33:51
addiction. We think that a nine year
33:53
old can't be, you know, we don't let
33:55
nine year olds into casinos to gamble. They'll
33:57
be too easily taken advantage of. your
34:00
kid goes on social media and smartphones
34:02
in general. So you've got
34:04
huge amounts of really graphic sex, including
34:06
a lot of violent sex and choking
34:08
and things like that. And you
34:10
have a huge amount of violence. Depends
34:13
on whatever you click on on TikTok
34:15
or Instagram Reels. But
34:18
a lot of the boys end up
34:21
seeing car crashes, people getting punched in
34:23
the face, people falling to their death.
34:25
I mean, they end up seeing horrible
34:27
stuff. Drug
34:30
gangs, dismembering live people.
34:32
I mean, horrible things. And
34:36
there was addiction. Because
34:38
social media is addictive to about 10% of
34:41
kids have what's called problematic use,
34:43
which is essentially addiction. And
34:46
because especially for the boys, we then hook them
34:48
on gambling. Now that sometimes has to wait till
34:50
they're 18, but there's some gambling, there's some stuff
34:52
that they're able to get the kids on earlier.
34:55
My point is, we've worked for
34:57
100 years to make the real
34:59
world a place where we
35:01
can live with young people and young people
35:04
can walk around and we can buy liquor.
35:06
They can't. And we can buy cigarettes and
35:08
they can't. And we can go to strip
35:10
clubs and casinos and they can't. That's
35:13
the real world. And all of a sudden we develop
35:15
this virtual world. We say, how about
35:17
no restrictions? You know, it'll be too hard. Like,
35:19
are we going to ask everyone to identify themselves?
35:21
Are we going to ask everyone to show ID?
35:24
We can't do that. So how about no restrictions?
35:26
How about every child can have as much hardcore
35:28
porn as they want? That's what we've decided as
35:30
a kid. Yeah. I
35:33
mean, what, I'm sure you've seen this,
35:35
the National Academy of Sciences report that
35:37
found social media encourages a lot of
35:39
these harmful behaviors. They also found that,
35:42
you know, for some
35:44
kids in marginalized communities, especially
35:46
LGBTQ kids, you know,
35:48
the internet and social media especially can
35:50
be like a lifeline that, you
35:52
know, connects them to communities of
35:55
people like them that depending
35:57
on where they live, they may not come in
35:59
contact with. offline so one thing you
36:01
know i hear from people who are resistant to
36:03
this is like look obviously there's a lot of
36:05
trouble kids can get into but for some kids
36:08
who do feel excluded in real life this is
36:10
the way that they connect with other people this
36:12
is the way that they find these communities in
36:14
those communities are important to them. Yes
36:17
so that that makes it makes
36:19
some sense on its face
36:22
but there's a couple of problems with that. The
36:25
first is that it confuses social
36:27
media with the internet so
36:30
when the internet that came out in the
36:33
nineties was amazing and
36:35
suddenly you know lgbtq kids they
36:37
could find discussion groups that could
36:39
find other kids so the internet
36:42
largely solve that problem in the
36:44
nineties. I'm also information you
36:46
could find you couldn't find anything about
36:49
your interest you could find anything about
36:51
your group so the internet solve that
36:53
problem the nineteen nineties. Now
36:55
then in the twenty ten in the two thousands we
36:57
get facebook which originally was just
36:59
about connecting people but then once
37:01
it becomes more about the news feed curated by
37:03
algorithms so this is what really happened in the
37:05
twenty tens. So do lgbtq
37:08
people need a news
37:10
feed curated by algorithms that
37:13
are pushing them to interact with strangers all
37:15
over the world and feeding them content is
37:17
this good for them that were bad for
37:19
them. Yes the internet is
37:21
great i fully support
37:23
the benefits of the internet for
37:25
kids from especially sexual minorities
37:28
there so that's great
37:30
but they don't need instagram
37:32
or more tiktok or anything
37:34
like that. Second common sense
37:36
media they do a lot of surveys of families
37:38
and kids they found that
37:41
lgbtq adolescents were more likely
37:43
to their non lgbtq peers.
37:45
To believe that their lives will be
37:47
better without each platform that they use
37:50
and that lgbtq girls were more
37:53
than twice as likely as non
37:55
lgbtq girls to encounter harmful content
37:57
related to suicide and eating disorders.
38:00
So, you know, yes, that
38:02
argument makes sense on its face. And I know
38:04
it's one that Metta keeps pushing. Metta keeps trying
38:06
to say, oh, we can't regulate because that'll be
38:08
bad for LGBTQ kids. But it's just not true.
38:11
Metta does more harm to LGBTQ kids than to others.
38:13
And if you look at it this way, something's
38:16
really weird here. There
38:20
has never been a decade in
38:22
which LGBTQ was destigmatized
38:24
faster than the one we just went through.
38:27
You know, in 2010, you know, there
38:29
was still a big stigma and
38:31
Obama was opposed to gay marriage.
38:34
I mean, it was a different world in 2010. If
38:37
this was primarily a question about stigma,
38:39
then we would expect that this should
38:41
be the decade when LGBTQ kids got
38:43
the healthiest. We would expect them
38:46
to be happier. But they're the
38:48
least happy. So whatever this
38:50
world is, it's really, really harsh on
38:52
LGBTQ kids, more so than non-LGBT kids.
38:54
So I just I don't buy it.
38:56
That's my point. I don't buy this
38:58
idea that, oh, Instagram is so good
39:00
for LGBTQ kids. No, I mean, point
39:02
taken that if you're looking for
39:04
communities of like minded people, you can find them
39:06
without social media and you could in the 90s,
39:08
in the early 2000s as well. And
39:11
you can if you need mental health help, if you
39:13
need to research that you can do that as well
39:16
on the Internet. You said something else that was interesting,
39:18
though, that when that
39:20
in that survey from Common
39:22
Sense Media that LGBTQ kids said
39:25
they could do without these platforms, right? They'd be happy without
39:28
this. And I also saw these studies. I think you said
39:30
it in the past as well that like, even
39:32
if kids resist phone
39:35
free schools at first or resist getting off
39:37
social media, the kids where there are the
39:40
schools that have banned the phones, the kids
39:42
are happier afterwards. Within two or three
39:44
weeks. And we've seen these studies where kids
39:46
like, would you give up social media if
39:48
everyone else was still on it? No. Everyone
39:52
could give up social media and everyone could give up the
39:54
platforms. Would you do it? And then people want to do
39:56
it. So it really is the sort of fear of missing
39:58
out that's driving a lot of this as well. That's
40:00
right. That's the key to the whole
40:02
thing is to recognize that this is
40:04
a collective action problem and social media
40:07
is socially addictive So cigarettes
40:09
are biologically addictive and when I was
40:11
in high school You
40:13
know, there were some kids who smoked and you could buy
40:15
cigarettes from a vending machine back then in
40:18
the peak year of smoking was 1997 and
40:23
37% of American high school students smoked which
40:25
means that two-thirds didn't but social
40:27
media is much much more addictive Because
40:29
you can't have a school where only 37% of the kids are
40:31
on social media It's
40:34
it's gonna be either zero or 95 so or
40:36
you know, whatever but So
40:39
social media puts a lot of pressure on
40:41
other kids to join where smoking cigarettes didn't
40:43
do that So once you
40:45
understand that this is a trap Then
40:48
what we see is something very interesting the
40:50
young kids like 10 year olds They're
40:52
desperate to get a phone An
40:54
Instagram account tick-tock because that's what the older kids are
40:57
doing. They're desperate for it But I was
40:59
talking with a German a German interviewer
41:01
for a German newspaper and she said
41:03
she said some German TV Program
41:05
had done they did interviews with the kid, you know,
41:07
the 10 year olds and they were all I want
41:10
tick-tock I want Instagram. I wanna smart and I want
41:12
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41:14
either 18 year olds or 20 year olds and
41:17
they were all like wow, this really
41:19
messed us up I wish
41:21
we didn't have this so again what
41:23
we see is that is that Gen
41:26
Z themselves? Do not defend this
41:28
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41:30
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first time I wanted to have you on was in April of 2022,
43:22
after you wrote a piece in the
43:24
Atlantic called, Why the Past 10 Years of American
43:27
Life Have Been Uniquely Stupid. And
43:29
you basically lay a lot of
43:31
the blame for political polarization and institutional
43:33
distrust on the rise of social media,
43:35
which really is the initial reason I
43:37
became interested in doing this podcast. I've
43:40
learned a lot about what being too online
43:43
is doing to our mental health. I've also
43:45
been worried though for a long time that
43:47
the behavior social media encourages and the way
43:49
it shapes our thinking about the world is
43:52
antithetical to what liberal democracy requires of us.
43:55
What have you discovered on that topic? research
44:00
has always been on moral psychology. I used
44:02
to look at how morality varies by culture. And
44:05
then in the late 90s early 2000s as
44:07
the culture was heating up I began looking
44:09
at liberal conservative as though they were different
44:12
cultures with different moralities. So I've been studying
44:14
this since the 90s and I
44:17
began to get very alarmed about political
44:19
polarization. And this is before social media.
44:21
This is just there so and
44:24
I was writing essays there's like 10 reasons
44:26
we're getting more polarized. You know the loss
44:28
of the greatest generation, the Cold War ending,
44:30
more education because more
44:32
educated people do more culture war stuff. Working
44:35
class people don't care as much about culture
44:37
war stuff. They want bread and butter
44:39
issues. So I don't want to
44:41
say that our polarization is just because of
44:43
social media. I can't even say that that's
44:45
the primary cause. But I think it is
44:47
a huge amplifier because what happens
44:50
is, so I have two Atlantic articles. The
44:52
one that you read is the one really
44:54
trying to lay out the whole story. But
44:56
my first one was my first pass at
44:58
this was in
45:00
2019 I was trying to say why
45:03
why did everything go crazy around 2014-2015.
45:05
It really felt like there was a
45:07
change in the fabric of the universe.
45:10
And we saw this on campus. You
45:12
know in 2013 things were normal and college students were
45:14
what you think of college students. And by 2015 they
45:17
were protesting against microaggressions and
45:19
asking for safe spaces. Again this
45:21
wasn't the majority of them but it was happening all over the
45:23
country especially especially at elite schools.
45:26
So something weird happened on college campuses and
45:28
then it turned out it wasn't just college
45:31
campuses. It was
45:33
spread much more widely in our society and
45:35
it just seemed like everything is now explosive.
45:37
If anyone says anything it can get blown
45:40
up into a whole big thing and they
45:42
can be fired within 24 hours. Like really?
45:44
This is the world we live in. We all have to walk on
45:46
eggshells. So I
45:48
think social media really changed the basic
45:51
fabric of everything. Now if
45:53
you go back to Federalist 10 and I think
45:55
I quote Madison
45:57
in Federalist 10 he talked
45:59
It talks about
46:02
how we are so prone to vex
46:04
and oppress each other that if no
46:06
substantive cause for disagreement can be found,
46:08
the most trivial little thing can become
46:10
a reason for outreach, something like that.
46:12
So the founding fathers were very aware
46:14
that people are argumentative and they easily
46:16
get in fights and they usually get
46:18
upset. And so the idea was, how
46:20
do we create a system that kind
46:22
of slows things down? How do we
46:24
have legislators, because remember, we
46:27
do not have a democracy. They
46:29
did not want direct democracy because
46:31
the people are passionate, the people are
46:33
prone to demagogues. They
46:35
wanted a system where the legislators
46:37
have sufficient independence to do what
46:39
they think is best, but
46:41
it's crucial that the people can kick them out
46:43
if they're not happy. That's the key. What
46:46
happens now? Most of
46:48
our congresspeople are on Twitter. There
46:52
was a famous scene where Ted
46:54
Cruz gave this big speech in
46:56
the Senate and then he sits
46:58
down and he pulls out his
47:00
phone and one of the journalists behind him takes a
47:02
photograph. He's checking what people are
47:05
saying on Twitter. This is
47:07
exactly the opposite of what the founding fathers
47:09
wanted. And this is one reason why Congress
47:11
is breaking down, our Congress is dysfunctional. Now,
47:13
there are many reasons for that, but if
47:15
it was an ailing institution in the 90s
47:17
and early 2000s, this is just like a
47:20
metaphor that I use is, suppose we suddenly
47:22
change the
47:27
Earth's atmosphere from 20% oxygen to 80%
47:30
oxygen. It's like,
47:32
oh, wouldn't that be great? Like you'd get so
47:34
much oxygen so easily we'd all feel good. No,
47:36
everything would burn. Any little spark,
47:39
every electrical thing would explode. 80%
47:42
oxygen, everything is combustible. And similarly, what
47:44
if we give everyone an outrage button
47:46
where they could, the slightest thing, oh,
47:48
something bothers you about what you saw
47:50
on the street, tweet it. Somebody
47:53
did something obnoxious, take a photo, put it up, let
47:55
people dox them. This
47:57
is what social media has done to us.
47:59
It's hypervirus. social media. Original Facebook wasn't like
48:02
this in 2004, but once
48:04
you get the newsfeed and algorithms
48:06
and outrage cycles, you
48:08
know, it's an open question whether liberal
48:10
democracy in the American form, it's an
48:12
open question whether we
48:14
can survive, whether our current institutions
48:17
and structures compatible with an 80%
48:20
oxygen world. Yeah, and not just here, but
48:22
you're seeing the stress on liberal democracies all
48:24
over the world. I also think to your
48:26
earlier point when we're talking about virtual relationships
48:29
versus sort of offline relationships,
48:32
there is something about virtual
48:34
relationships and if the more time we spend
48:36
online, the more difficult it is to disagree
48:39
in a way where
48:41
you need to disagree with in democracies, right?
48:43
And debate in that way because everything is
48:46
black and white, good or evil. And
48:48
I look at these polls of Gen
48:51
Z potentially shifting to the right or
48:53
at least disengaging from politics altogether and
48:55
I do wonder if it's driven by
48:57
some of the same social media dynamics
48:59
that are fueling some of these broader
49:01
mental health challenges. That's right. One of
49:03
the main things that my fellow professors
49:05
say about their students, so let's be
49:07
clear, most students are not radicals, most
49:09
students are not asking for trigger warnings,
49:11
most students want to learn, but
49:13
what my fellow professors say,
49:15
the most common thing I hear is
49:18
that I can't get them to disagree with
49:20
each other, I can't get a debate going.
49:22
They're so afraid of disagreeing with each other.
49:25
Now if you grew up your entire life
49:27
in a minefield and
49:29
any little thing you do can blow off
49:31
a finger or a toe, you'd be really
49:33
careful about where you walked. Now
49:35
when you grow up with small groups of friends,
49:37
you say something stupid, you make a joke that's
49:39
not funny, someone says that wasn't funny, that was
49:41
stupid, you say oh yeah sorry and then you
49:43
move on. But if you grow up in a world where
49:46
if you say something, it can get screenshotted
49:48
and passed around, it might even become a
49:50
national sensation. Sometimes things that kids say in
49:52
middle school or at high school become a
49:54
national, you know, Fox News will
49:56
pick it up or Left-wing Media will pick it up. If
50:00
we raise our kids in minefields, we shouldn't be
50:02
surprised that they're not really in
50:04
an exploratory frame of mind. Yeah,
50:06
no, that makes sense. Last question,
50:09
you gave an interview in 2020 about some
50:11
of these divisions where you said
50:13
that it was your understanding that the religious
50:16
wars ended in Europe, not because Europeans reached
50:18
some profoundly enlightened view. They just got exhausted
50:20
and realized we've got to stop this. Four
50:23
years after that interview, it's clear we have not
50:25
come to that realization yet. Have
50:28
you seen anything that gives you hope that might change?
50:32
Let me think hard about this because I don't want to give
50:34
my first answer, which is no. Let
50:36
me think about this. I
50:41
do think there's a greater recognition
50:43
of the problem, and that has
50:45
to come first. I
50:48
do think that we're
50:51
going to make huge progress on the
50:54
children's front. So far, there's
50:56
been zero regulation of social media, absolute
50:58
zero since 1998. Congress
51:00
had done nothing, nothing. I think we might
51:02
get ... There's a bill called COSA, the
51:05
Kids Online Safety Act. That actually could conceivably
51:07
pass this year. What
51:09
I'm saying is we went a long time where things got worse
51:11
and worse and worse, and there
51:13
was really no immune system. The
51:16
tech companies, these are some of the richest companies in the
51:18
world, they faced no
51:21
real opposition. They had their
51:23
way with our kids. They took over our kids' childhoods.
51:27
They took over our democratic discussion. They
51:29
took over the public square, and they
51:31
had no liability. We can't sue them
51:33
because of Section 230, the Communications Decency
51:35
Act. The
51:38
situation is untenable, and if left
51:40
unchecked, I think will lead to
51:42
the political collapse of the United
51:44
States. I think it will at least become
51:46
ungovernable. If we keep going the way we're
51:49
going, we will become ungovernable
51:51
within five or ten years. However,
51:55
things don't just keep going the way they're going.
51:58
I think we are beginning to see ... a
52:00
recognition that these companies are
52:03
messing us up and It's
52:05
going to start with the children It's going to
52:07
start with the recognition that our kids are in
52:09
horrible shape And if
52:11
we can get some legislation passed and
52:13
if we can get norms changed to
52:15
protect Gen Alpha the generation
52:18
after Gen Z That
52:20
would be an extremely hopeful sign
52:22
now What regulations
52:24
what laws would improve? Democratic
52:27
debate that's much harder I
52:30
don't want to get into content moderation because
52:32
content moderation always is going to be one
52:34
side Saying the other side speech
52:36
is harmful as we saw with the Twitter files But
52:40
there are many architectural features like things
52:42
that just enhance the the virality This
52:44
is this was one of Francis Huygens
52:46
main points the Facebook whistleblower Facebook
52:48
could have done all kinds of things
52:50
that were content neutral not about content
52:52
moderation This is changing parameters within the system.
52:55
It would make it much less explosive Let's
52:57
take the atmosphere from 80% oxygen down to 50% oxygen. That
52:59
would be a lot better So
53:03
I think we're going to face tremendous Challenges
53:05
in American democracy and as you say others
53:07
to other not not all I can't I
53:09
don't know about all but you know We're
53:11
not the only ones going through this but
53:13
but not all democracies are but the American
53:15
form which we don't have shared blood We
53:17
don't have shared enemies. We don't have shared
53:19
gods We
53:21
don't have a lot holding us together. I think
53:24
we are a large and diverse country
53:26
without a lot holding it together, so we are
53:29
at higher risk of Splitting
53:31
in some way then say Iceland or New Zealand I'm
53:34
very concerned about what's coming But
53:37
I do see hope in that people are
53:39
waking up to the dangers of social media
53:41
for society All right. Well, we will leave
53:44
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