Building a positive self-image does not happen overnight. It requires conscious effort, commitment, and inner strength. For some people, it takes years to outgrow the childhood experiences that damaged their self-esteem and made them question their self-worth. Yes, for most of us, it has been and is still a constant struggle.
What’s worse than dealing with your own childhood trauma is when somebody tries to manipulate you by making you question your worthiness, your beauty, and your essence as a person. Especially with narcissistic partners, our minds may be tricked into believing that our self-image is dependent on how they see and love us.
When they start being over-critical, when all you get are mixed signals and inconsistencies in words and actions, and when they try to put you down in whatever way they can – that’s when the devalue phase begins.
Remember, though, that before you can be devalued, you first have to be valued. That’s why it is so important to understand the love bombing stage before you try to figure out the devalue phase.
It may seem like a tall order to always be attentive to the red flags in your relationships, but you will thank yourself later on if you’re able to unmask your abuser even before the worse forms of abuse begin – and the love bombing and devalue phase may be the right timing for that.
Learn more in this episode as I share some personal experiences and things to look out for to know if you’ve reached the devalue phase!
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