0:01

Lady Charmaine, are

0:01

you sure this Shadow Work is

0:03

light work? It looks

0:03

questionable to me.

0:06

It's fine Mx Zephy.

0:08

But what about toxic

0:08

light work?

0:11

Uggh, just grab

0:11

a warm beverage and settle in.

0:14

End scene! Just

0:14

misfits

0:17

Hello beautiful

0:17

misfits! Are you fed up with the

0:20

good vibes only crowd?

0:22

People telling you

0:22

where to go and how to be

0:24

present?

0:25

Afraid to make

0:25

your own choices and free to be

0:28

you?

0:29

Feeling just trapped?

0:32

Us too! Join us

0:32

as we turn the light out on

0:35

spirituality and get comfortable

0:35

with the shadows right now, with

0:39

Misfit Mondays.

0:48

Hello beautiful

0:48

people. It's Mx Zephy here

0:51

pronouns are xe | xem and with

0:51

me is Lady Charmaine, as always

0:55

pronouns are she | hers. So

0:55

today, we're kind of doing a

0:59

little bit of a special episode.

0:59

We were planning on, you know,

1:03

filming a series of episodes

1:03

starting today and I took a step

1:07

back and realized that I don't

1:07

know what the fuck I'm talking

1:10

about. And it felt like I would

1:10

be remiss to have a discussion

1:15

on the conversation we wanted to

1:15

have without bringing in

1:17

somebody to kind of balance what

1:17

we wanted to discuss. And I'm

1:21

glad I did, because in the

1:21

process of like us coming out

1:25

Charmaine and I coming together

1:25

this morning, I pulled a card

1:28

from my Iris Aura deck, it's on

1:28

color, like the color Oracle

1:32

deck and the words on that

1:32

"release the ego." So I was

1:36

like, Alright, so how can we

1:36

release the ego? What how, what

1:39

is the best way that Misfit

1:39

Mondays can show up for the

1:41

people who show up for us day in

1:41

and day out? And I was like, You

1:45

know what, let's take a beat.

1:45

Let's pause, let's breathe.

1:49

Let's reflect back on everything

1:49

that's happened in the last

1:52

couple months. Let's take a look

1:52

at where Misfit Mondays comes

1:55

from, how we've grown, the

1:55

lessons we've learned along the

1:58

ways, and kind of what looks

1:58

what we're looking forward to in

2:01

the coming months. So Charmaine,

2:01

what are your thoughts on this?

2:05

My thoughts are

2:05

that I can't believe that we've

2:08

only been doing this since

2:08

October of 2020.

2:13

Right? Because it feels like so much longer

2:15

it does it feels

2:15

like we've had so many amazing

2:19

conversations that it's had to

2:19

have been longer right. And it

2:23

hasn't and we really have

2:23

learned so much from each one of

2:29

our guests and you just to kind

2:29

of break into it. We You know,

2:38

it all started on a on a whim.

2:38

It all literally started on a

2:42

Hey, we sound okay together on

2:42

on somebody else's podcast, why

2:46

don't we give this shit a try?

2:46

And so you know, it just kind of

2:52

started and then it started to

2:52

snowball as we say here in South

2:56

Dakota. And it and it just

2:56

started rolling. So with our

3:02

first episode "Yes, and" we

3:02

really invited in that curiosity

3:11

and started opening up others

3:11

that might not be into woowoo

3:18

aesthetics as we are into Shadow

3:18

Work and into this their own

3:23

possible spiritual practice. And

3:23

and then we got real and discuss

3:28

some of our own shadow work with

3:28

late with Madame Save a Hoe and

3:34

Femme Fatale. So that just seems

3:34

like forever ago. I feel like

3:40

I'm not even that person

3:40

anymore. Honestly. What about

3:43

you?

3:44

Yeah, I'm right there with you. And you know, in the end, you know, for people who

3:45

don't know how the fuck like

3:48

Misfit Mondays happened,

3:48

literally, Charmaine, I got done

3:50

with a podcast. I was driving to

3:50

a hike. I can't remember it was

3:54

I think it's somewhere other

3:54

than on Jersey Pennsylvania.

3:57

border, and I was driving on a

3:57

hike and literally universe was

4:00

like, surprise, bitch, I guess

4:00

it's time for you to do a

4:03

podcast and I was like, wait,

4:03

what I have never done a

4:05

podcast. I hate the sound of my

4:05

own voice. Who the fuck am I to

4:09

start something like this. And I

4:09

just immediately like FaceTimed

4:13

Charmaine and I'm like, so I

4:13

have a really random fucking

4:17

idea. What do you think about

4:17

this? And kind of what were you

4:22

thinking? Like, I want to walk

4:22

people through this process

4:24

because the way that Misfit

4:24

Mondays came together is a

4:26

little bit insanity.

4:28

It is insanity,

4:28

but that's so I also should say

4:32

that Zeph and I knew each other

4:32

at the time but I wouldn't say

4:39

we knew knew each other. Yeah,

4:41

we weren't we were

4:41

friends but we were like friends

4:43

friends, we were kind of like I

4:43

talk to you on the I talk to you

4:46

on a random like Tuesday if I

4:46

fucking feel like it.

4:48

Right. So you

4:48

know, and this all comes back to

4:51

a year we met January of 2019

4:51

something and Met, had some

5:03

drinks did some dancing out with

5:03

mutual friends at the time. I

5:09

knew Zeph more or less as a

5:09

friend of a friend. And then as

5:15

individuals spiritual practices

5:15

began to grow and evolve, we

5:21

then kind of had a small

5:21

Facebook chat that we were going

5:26

on. So the lot of us could

5:26

comment, say, what kind of tarot

5:31

readings we were doing, what was

5:31

coming through to us. And it

5:35

just sort of evolved. And then

5:35

we ended up going through the

5:40

same yoga program, which we'll

5:40

talk a little bit more about

5:44

that later. But so we started to

5:44

get to know each other a little

5:49

better and a little better. We

5:49

were invited to be on this

5:53

affirmations and innovations,

5:53

Old Soul lightworker podcast

5:59

together discussing trauma

5:59

informed yoga and some of the

6:03

things that we were doing. And

6:03

after listening to us on that

6:08

podcast, it was like, Oh, you

6:08

were pretty fucking intelligent.

6:12

We know a thing or two, we sound

6:12

pretty decent. And that was that

6:18

so when, like, we should do a

6:18

podcast. To be perfectly honest,

6:25

the first thing that came to my

6:25

mind was hell, yes, we should do

6:28

a podcast. Why haven't we

6:28

started this already. Of course,

6:34

there was some drama around

6:34

that. There were people that

6:38

were removed from our lives.

6:38

universe just kind of yeeted

6:41

them to the side. And and it was

6:41

a place of growth and Misfit

6:48

Mondays, to me has truly been a

6:48

place of growth from day one,

6:54

from the moment of inception.

6:56

And I will say that

6:56

the way that the actual like the

6:58

format of this podcast came out

6:58

was, I think I was talking to

7:02

Charmaine just briefly about

7:02

possibly thinking about settling

7:04

on a date for us to talk about

7:04

topics we might want to talk

7:07

about things like this,

7:07

literally get out on the run,

7:09

and I maybe five minutes into

7:09

this run, and all of a sudden,

7:12

it is like massive fucking

7:12

downloads from the universe. And

7:14

I'm sitting there trying to do

7:14

this run, texting Charmaine

7:18

notes, like, Oh, I have this.

7:18

Here's an idea. Here's an idea.

7:20

And literally, all the titles

7:20

came out at once all the ideas

7:23

for everything that happened,

7:23

like, we got a year's worth of

7:26

content and like a space of a 20

7:26

minute run. And it was literally

7:29

just, I'm sitting there trying

7:29

to type it all out and trying to

7:32

like run at the same time. Eventually, I just said, You know what, fuck this, I can't

7:34

run and type at the same time

7:36

because I like ran into where

7:36

did I run into I ran into

7:38

something. It's either a person,

7:38

or a bike or a bench. It was

7:42

something I ran into. I was like, You know what, let me pause because the universe is

7:43

not going to universe is

7:46

relentless right now is like,

7:46

you need to do this, whatever

7:49

this is. And whatever comes with

7:49

this, this is a stepping stone.

7:52

So just take that jump and do

7:52

it. And literally, that's what

7:57

we did. After that after I got

7:57

that done. I think you and I

7:59

scheduled a meeting. And we

7:59

literally just came up with a

8:02

spreadsheet of all the dream

8:02

people we had that we wanted to

8:05

talk to all the topics we wanted

8:05

to have. And most and actually

8:09

most of these episodes have been

8:09

in the same order that of which

8:12

I received the download. I think

8:12

maybe we've moved one or two

8:14

around because you know, life

8:14

happens and shit gets in the

8:17

way. But I think pretty much all

8:17

of them have happened the way

8:20

they needed to happen. And it's

8:20

been wonderful because as I've

8:23

looked back at like moon phases,

8:23

and I've looked at the energy

8:26

that's been present at the world

8:26

at the time, these episodes have

8:30

kind of fallen in line in line

8:30

with that, like collective

8:33

energy that has been happening

8:33

and I'm just like, Alright,

8:36

universe. This is interesting.

8:36

Quite interesting.

8:42

It is we really,

8:42

we lucked out. I mean, our first

8:47

guest was Yogi Bryan, out of

8:47

Arizona, who has an amazing

8:52

following is funny. And then in

8:52

that second set of recordings

8:58

that we did, we really gave

8:58

ourselves permission, ourselves

9:02

permission to show up

9:02

authentically, unapologetically.

9:06

And

9:06

certain we actually

9:06

just call him Yogi Daddy, like

9:09

he gives off Daddy vibes.

9:11

Don't get me heated already. Don't get me heated. Yeah, he's a thirst trap

9:13

in the making. I don't even

9:17

care. But we also show up

9:17

completely unperfectly, and we

9:24

do this while dismantling these

9:24

limiting beliefs that we have,

9:29

whether it's around life or

9:29

around spirituality, your

9:32

wellness, we kind of cover it

9:32

all around here. And so that was

9:38

really fun. To bring that sense

9:38

of a different sense of joy and

9:45

playfulness to the mat that Yogi

9:45

Bryan brings, and just starting

9:50

to say fuck on the podcast was

9:50

so empowered. Right and then our

9:59

Next, our second guest was

9:59

Kristin Smith from affirmations

10:05

and innovations or Modiyoga, a

10:05

virtual studio or a light

10:11

worker, she is a Jill of all

10:11

trades when it comes to

10:15

wellness. And we really started

10:15

to talk about how we show up for

10:22

others and treat them the way

10:22

they want to be treated. And so

10:28

that was really great, because

10:28

part of our yoga journey, and

10:33

I'll speak for myself, I don't

10:33

want to speak for us. But in

10:36

going through Modiyoga,

10:36

training, rather than maybe a

10:41

more traditional training,

10:41

though, I feel I got way more

10:45

out of the training I've gone

10:45

through than traditional

10:49

training, because it's tradition

10:49

plus everything we're dealing

10:53

with. Now, in the society, we're

10:53

in learning how to really modify

10:59

poses for everybody every

10:59

ability, and then doing the

11:04

extra work to focus on trauma

11:04

informed yoga. It's all about

11:13

making sure we are treating

11:13

people the way they want to be

11:16

treated, and showing up for

11:16

them, and holding that space for

11:20

them as they learn to move and

11:20

understand within their own

11:27

bodies and minds. And so, that

11:27

was enlightening. And then we

11:33

took a leap into the cosmic

11:33

world of Whoo, with Alexander

11:39

Kriech, and we talked about

11:39

chakras and channeling and

11:42

energy work ethics. And I'm just

11:42

like, how did we do all that

11:48

already? How did we do all that?

11:48

And the thing is, is we're not

11:52

stopping there, folks, we're

11:52

not. However, it did come to

11:56

mind that a couple things are

11:56

missing. And we want to make

12:01

sure that you know, we know, we

12:01

know. Zeph you want to talk more

12:05

about that.

12:06

Well, before we get to

12:06

that, I also want us to pause

12:09

because I think sometimes we

12:09

don't pause to celebrate, like

12:11

the fuck out of ourselves and

12:11

what we've learned because I

12:13

think, you know, I'm not gonna

12:13

speak for you. But I know that

12:16

in the last like four fuck, like

12:16

what, four months that we've

12:19

been doing this podcast Now, I

12:19

know in the last four months for

12:22

me, it has been nothing but this

12:22

tremendous growth ride. And I

12:25

and before we like step into,

12:25

like, unpacking our privilege

12:28

and unpacking what this looks

12:28

like, I want us to like, pause

12:32

and celebrate ourselves. I want

12:32

us to, I'm not that I want. I

12:37

want to invite us. There we go.

12:37

Let me let me let me come in

12:40

with a sense of curiosity, not

12:40

certainty, as my IG daddy Colin

12:43

Bedell likes to say, I'm

12:43

inviting in curiosity and not

12:46

certainty that we have this shit

12:46

all figured out. Because we

12:49

don't. Um, but because I'm just

12:49

thinking, like, back to all

12:55

these guests we've had, like,

12:55

I'm still a little

12:58

flabbergasted, just the amount

12:58

of one knowledge that we've

13:01

covered, two, the people that

13:01

we've brought on just though

13:04

just all of this wonderful

13:04

goodness that has just shown up

13:09

because I think for me, like

13:09

even just packing from going

13:12

back to that very first episode

13:12

of Yes And and we see yes And

13:14

showing up in almost all our

13:14

episodes. That Yes, and has been

13:18

allowing me to really like,

13:18

pause and lean into, like, I

13:22

don't have all the answers. Let

13:22

me open up the door to like

13:26

opportunity. And let me open up

13:26

that door to curiosity and say,

13:29

you know, what, what am I

13:29

missing here? I don't I'm not

13:31

the expert here. Like even

13:31

today, just taking that step

13:33

back today of not doing the

13:33

episode we originally planned

13:36

and not doing that series of

13:36

episodes. and inviting in that,

13:39

oh, maybe we need to pause here

13:39

was a step for me because I was

13:43

thinking I was like, You know

13:43

what? We're trying to

13:45

recalibrate and redo things, and

13:45

just re look at the ways that we

13:50

do business and the ways that we

13:50

show up ourselves. Why don't we

13:52

just take a pause? And you know,

13:52

set the example. Why don't we

13:55

just say you don't want we don't

13:55

have all the answers. So let's

13:57

take a pause and reflect where

13:57

where are the answers that we

14:00

need. So even though that I

14:00

think even with you know,

14:03

Charmaine, your episode, Madame

14:03

Saveaho, I learned so much about

14:06

you. And I think that that was

14:06

the door to that was the door

14:09

that kind of opened and deepened

14:09

our relationship, because I

14:12

began to understand the way that

14:12

you show up not only for

14:14

yourself, but the way you show

14:14

up for others, which allowed me

14:16

to say, you know, what, how can

14:16

I match my energy with yours?

14:19

How can I make concessions, not

14:19

even concessions and not even

14:22

compromises? How can I make

14:22

space? How can I make space in

14:26

the way that you How can I make

14:26

space in a way that I show up

14:28

that invites in your best self

14:28

that invites in, you know, all

14:31

that you could possibly be? And

14:31

I think even with that, I think,

14:35

you know, reflecting back on,

14:35

you know, on my episode with

14:38

Mademoiselle Femme Fatale how I

14:38

was just like, you know what,

14:42

that person is so far removed,

14:42

and even the person that I was

14:44

for a month ago feels so far

14:44

removed, just like, just y'all

14:47

know, like, in the last, ooh,

14:47

does that echo showing up on

14:52

your end? I have an echo in my

14:52

ear again. This is mercury

14:55

retrograde starting. So I think

14:55

this is the bullshit the

14:57

universe wants to put on me

14:57

like, I'm Welcoming it in with

15:01

that sense of playfulness right

15:01

now because it's hilarious. So

15:04

if there's an echo, I apologize.

15:04

I don't know what to do to stop

15:07

it. But going back to, and it

15:07

started when I was talking about

15:11

myself, so maybe this is just

15:11

time for me not to talk too much

15:14

about myself. So I'm gonna go

15:14

with that. But for me, like, the

15:20

last four months have been this

15:20

huge growth journey of me

15:22

unpacking my shit and really

15:22

going, you know what? I'm really

15:26

not that person anymore. Who am

15:26

I now? And how do I want to show

15:30

up for myself. And in that past

15:30

four months I, even the work I'm

15:35

doing is shifting dramatically.

15:35

I even started my own damn

15:37

business and decided to step in

15:37

and step into my own power, my

15:40

own strength. Oh, me and you

15:40

haven't talked about the grief

15:44

episode we had this feels

15:44

chaotic random people. And I'm

15:46

apologizing for that too,

15:46

because we did not plan this.

15:49

This

15:50

Don't apologize.

15:50

This is authentically us. Like

15:54

it or tell a different friend to

15:54

listen. We love you, but we love

16:00

you. Yeah, we've done a lot, we

16:00

have done a lot. And I will say

16:05

I do firmly, firmly. And I know

16:05

I tell you this quite a bit. But

16:08

I appreciate you for giving me

16:08

that space safe space to show

16:12

up. Because I am terrible at

16:12

asking for help. And you are so

16:18

good at seeing how things align.

16:18

And it's like, it's like you can

16:25

see cells and molecules and

16:25

you're just like, and this one

16:28

connects to this atom. And this

16:28

one connects to this atom. And

16:32

this one over here goes plays

16:32

over here. And you show me how

16:34

everything works out and I'm

16:34

like, oh, wow, shit. Yeah, okay.

16:41

I'm not gonna cry. I

16:41

promise. I will keep the tears

16:44

to a minimum.

16:45

Oh, that's why I

16:45

put on mascara today. So I you

16:47

know, I probably build

16:47

waterproof is exactly what will

16:50

happen. Um, yeah, we talked

16:50

about grief, because it's a real

16:55

issue. And the holidays are

16:55

hard, without pandemics, for a

17:03

lot of people. That was that was

17:03

big. And then you know what some

17:09

of you might know, some of you

17:09

might not know, depending on if

17:12

you follow our social media. We

17:12

then took a wild sagittarian

17:18

adventure to Sedona, Arizona

17:18

here a couple weeks ago, truly,

17:27

purely on a whim. I live in

17:27

South Dakota, it's cold, I've

17:31

been locked up around here. I

17:31

really needed to get some time

17:36

away. And I don't mean this in a

17:36

negative way. But I needed to

17:39

get some time away from my

17:39

office and my family and not

17:43

answer emails and not have to be

17:43

in charge of where the kids need

17:46

to run and really focus

17:46

inwardly. And do some

17:52

meditation. And I was called to

17:52

Sedona and I had wanted to go

17:55

for months and months and months

17:55

and months and months. It came

17:59

to me in like June or July last

17:59

year that Oh, I should go to

18:03

Sedona. And just again, when

18:03

they said that, hey, I think I'm

18:09

gonna go to sit down. And so

18:09

I've said, Yeah, well, why don't

18:18

we go? So we did, we went to

18:18

Sedona we hiked, we vortex

18:27

meditated, we ate the most

18:27

amazing vegetarian, vegan food

18:34

I've ever had. And I feel like I

18:34

wasn't planned

18:41

either. By the way, none of these hikes some of these food. It was like that

18:43

morning. What do you want to do

18:46

today? Where do you want to do a

18:46

sunset hike?

18:48

Yeah, it was

18:48

completely unplanned, completely

18:52

unplanned. But in that, I think

18:52

it for me, it built such. I

19:01

don't know. For me it like fused

19:01

me to you in a way now that it

19:07

can never be changed. Because

19:07

mostly, mostly day one. We go on

19:13

a sunset hike that's unplanned.

19:13

And I'm like, this is what I

19:17

want to do. This is where I want

19:17

to go. This is what I have. I've

19:22

done my research as I normally

19:22

do. I but I was really good

19:26

about not planning things out

19:26

because like, if you know me

19:29

from my past, I am like a type

19:29

one grade a planner. When it

19:34

comes to trips. I know where the

19:34

gas stations are. I know where

19:37

I'm stopping. I know what I'm

19:37

doing. I know where I'm eating.

19:40

I've done all this research

19:40

before I go. And I've really

19:43

been trying to let go of that

19:43

the last couple of years so I

19:46

didn't have a plan. We had a

19:46

place to stay. We had rental

19:50

cars. That was it. I had done a

19:50

little bit of research on trails

19:57

and knowing some of my own

19:57

limitations which I learned were

20:02

limitations I put on myself is

20:02

what I learned that day. Because

20:07

about a quarter of the way in up

20:07

the side of a fucking mountain.

20:12

I had to sit down on a rock and

20:12

cry and Zeph, let me sit on that

20:16

rock and cry. I was so

20:16

frustrated with myself with life

20:20

with the expectations I had on

20:20

myself. I also learned that Zeph

20:25

though can read a map chooses to

20:25

go off trail whenever, wherever.

20:34

And we ended up not on the right

20:34

trail, but at the very, most

20:39

perfect, wonderful spot for

20:39

sunrise. That we could have been

20:43

gifted with no one around

20:43

beautiful views.

20:47

And 90 degrees straight up the side of a mountain.

20:49

Yeah, straight

20:49

up. And the whole time. My best

20:53

cheerleaders Zeph was just 600

20:53

more feet. Just 600 more feet

21:00

roundabout end of the story.

21:00

After six and a half, I

21:03

don't know what like

21:03

inches or feet is I think it's

21:06

always bigger than I actually think it No, it is.

21:09

Yeah, yep.

21:09

Something like that. roundabout,

21:16

we hike six and a half, seven

21:16

hours that day, we did make it

21:21

up the mountain down the

21:21

mountain around the corner, up

21:25

another mountain and to soldiers

21:25

pass where I laid down and

21:30

watched a beautiful view. And we

21:30

made it back down the mountain

21:36

safely. There's lots more

21:36

stories about that. But we had

21:40

time to spend together to spend

21:40

in our own reflection to also

21:46

meet for the first time in

21:46

person in the flesh, Kristen

21:50

Smith of A&I yoga and Modiyoga

21:50

as well as our yoga sister Jess.

21:57

So we did have a fantastic time.

21:57

And I have grown I feel like I

22:03

literally came back from Sedona

22:03

a changed version again, it was

22:07

transformational.

22:10

I'm right there with you. Because I think Yeah, you know, and I love that and I love

22:12

that you gave me the opportunity

22:16

to kind of explore because

22:16

sometimes it's true when I go

22:19

hiking sometimes I'm like, Ooh,

22:19

this does not feel like it's the

22:22

right hike. But you know, Let's

22:22

fuck it. Let's go anyway, like,

22:24

I'm that person who loves to

22:24

seek and to explore and to

22:27

figure out like, Where is this

22:27

new this this new horizon that I

22:30

have not yet like, sought out?

22:30

Like, how can I? What can I do

22:34

to go explore that? And how do I

22:34

bring you along for the journey.

22:37

I always want to invite you on

22:37

with wherever I go. Because I

22:40

know wherever I'm going, it's

22:40

gonna be exciting as fuck,

22:42

whether it's because you're with

22:42

me or whether it's because that

22:45

adventure is just going to be

22:45

exciting regardless because of

22:47

the inherent nature of it. And I

22:47

am so deeply appreciative that

22:50

you just allowed me that space

22:50

to invite you on. And that you

22:55

also had the patience with yourself to get there because I knew that there were times when

22:57

you're like, fuck you asshole

23:00

having me climb up this

23:00

mountain. What the hell are you

23:04

doing to me? But you fucking did

23:04

it like you made it like, and

23:07

honestly, it was challenging

23:07

that mountain, I didn't actually

23:10

know what the hell we were getting into. Because I didn't research it. This entire trip I

23:12

This was the first trip I have

23:15

not planned from point A to

23:15

point B. Like usually I at least

23:19

have an idea of like the

23:19

mountains I want to go hike or

23:21

the places I want to go eat but this time I was like, You know what, let's just go and see what

23:23

happens. And just having you

23:26

there and also like, we got some

23:26

time to really like talk to each

23:31

other very deeply and very

23:31

personal and really connect in a

23:34

way that I am not going to start

23:34

crying I'm not gonna stop

23:36

crying. Okay, I'm gonna start

23:36

crying because like, I think

23:41

during COVID I have I live alone

23:41

so like during COVID it has been

23:45

very hard for me to connect with

23:45

people and I you know, before

23:48

COVID I was that was like a

23:48

fucking hate people people

23:50

fucking sucked out of out of out

23:50

of that. But I learned that was

23:53

really my defense mechanism

23:53

because people hurt and I've

23:56

been hurt so much that I was

23:56

like, I just don't want to do it

23:59

anymore. And then I just kind of

23:59

realized you know, fuck all that

24:02

that's Shadow Work right there. That's just me trying to protect myself and I'm limiting myself

24:04

in ways that I shouldn't be and

24:08

Yes, I know shouldn't is one of

24:08

those like, what a qualifying

24:12

words whatever, I don't care.

24:12

But the point of the lesson was

24:16

I learned that I'm actually a

24:16

people person and then I shine

24:18

my brightest when I'm able to

24:18

balance people's needs against

24:20

my own and able to lead by

24:20

example and just show that the

24:25

way that I fully express myself

24:25

invites you into a space where

24:28

you feel safe to do it and I and

24:28

you know you you feeling that

24:32

that comfort feeling that safety

24:32

to explore. You know what your

24:36

limitations were gave me the

24:36

greatest joy because it'll let

24:40

me know that you felt safe with

24:40

me and feeling safe with me is

24:42

the is the only thing I can ask

24:42

people is you know, to trust me

24:46

and trust yourself and trust that we're going to get there together. And now I'm just

24:48

fought flat out fucking bawling

24:52

right now. But like, it's just,

24:52

I just I feel so much gratitude

24:56

and appreciation because you

24:56

really let me see ya. You let me

25:01

see who I could be just by being

25:01

myself. And that's not a gift I

25:06

get very often. I think this was

25:06

probably the first time I've had

25:08

that gift, like had that

25:08

opportunity to be really gifted

25:11

like that.

25:12

Oh, and you're

25:12

fucking fantastic for who you

25:14

are obviously. I mean, mountain

25:14

goat, baby mountain goat, just

25:23

prancing around those hills,

25:23

like fairy Fey. I, oh, I'm

25:28

telling you what. And we saw

25:28

some of the most amazing things,

25:32

we took a long road trip up to

25:32

Flagstaff. I'm telling you, it

25:38

really truly was a trip of a

25:38

lifetime and so relaxed. So

25:43

relax. We weren't doing work.

25:43

knew we were feeling out what we

25:49

want next for Misfit Mondays,

25:49

and what we want next for our

25:53

own businesses, and how do we

25:53

take our talents and our

25:58

passions? And especially our,

25:58

our passion of building

26:05

community? And how does that

26:05

look going forward. And it's

26:14

gonna be big. I feel that we're

26:14

in this beautiful pause moment

26:20

that we've graced ourselves with

26:20

today. But we have big episodes

26:29

coming up and fantastic guests

26:29

that we are putting on the

26:35

universe to bring in for us.

26:35

Yeah.

26:41

And they will say, you know, just to make sure that we are like, completely explicit

26:43

here, it is okay to pause.

26:48

because I think that we also

26:48

don't give ourselves the grace

26:50

to pause, sometimes they think

26:50

that we feel this, this need to

26:54

always be on, this need to

26:54

always meet expectations. And

26:58

I'm hoping that, you know, by

26:58

us, you know, saying it's okay

27:01

to pause, and us, you know, not

27:01

doing the traditional format

27:03

that we've always done the past

27:03

couple months, and just taking a

27:06

second to go, you know what,

27:06

let's reflect. I think in those

27:09

moments of pauses, the moments

27:09

where you can really sit down

27:11

and go, alright, Where, where,

27:11

what have we done? Where are we

27:14

going? What are the needs and

27:14

resources we want and have a

27:17

need and, and taking stock of

27:17

like our privileges to because I

27:22

think this was the other piece,

27:22

too, is. And I mean, you touched

27:25

on this just a little bit ago,

27:25

but part of it was we also I

27:27

wanted to us to sit down and you

27:27

know, and talk to Charmaine

27:29

about this and think about like,

27:29

what are the privileges we bring

27:32

into this space? And what are the voices that we're not bringing along with us. Because,

27:34

you know, honestly, the first

27:37

like, three, the first three

27:37

guests we had have all been

27:39

white, I'm sure one of them has

27:39

been a woman one has been a

27:43

straight man, and the other has

27:43

been queer identified. Um, I

27:47

think a lot of them white. Um,

27:47

and I know that I show up, you

27:51

know, and just to name my

27:51

identities and my privileges,

27:53

I'm somebody who is white, and

27:53

somebody who identifies as

27:58

gender non conforming, and

27:58

somebody who has, you know, a

28:02

decent fucking salary, and I

28:02

haven't had to struggle through

28:05

COVID like people, and I think

28:05

these are, these are all

28:07

strengths and privileges that I

28:07

want to make sure that I name

28:10

because those are those are key

28:10

to understanding and where I'm

28:15

not making space for other

28:15

people. And so I wanted

28:19

Charmaine and I really reflect

28:19

and think about like, who are

28:21

the spaces? Who are the people

28:21

that we want to invite because I

28:23

know for me, I want to invite

28:23

more people of color, I want to

28:25

invite more indigenous folks, I

28:25

want to invite in people who

28:28

have not necessarily been into

28:28

Shadow Work, but you know, who

28:31

have a story of their own

28:31

because everybody has a story.

28:33

And it's like, how do we? How do

28:33

we illuminate those stories? How

28:36

do we invite you into space

28:36

where you feel safe enough to

28:39

explore that for yourself? I

28:39

don't know about you, Charmaine,

28:42

what are your thoughts?

28:43

I agree. And I

28:43

want to take that back to our

28:46

Yes. And as I kind of said with

28:46

you, earlier privately today,

28:53

but it was just that, yes. Yes,

28:53

the first three guests that we

28:57

have had, have been white. And

28:57

that had a lot to do with people

29:05

we do convenience. Because when

29:05

we decided to do this, we

29:11

decided to go all in and start

29:11

with the people we had close to

29:15

us or Well, I didn't have Yogi

29:15

Bryan close to me, that was the

29:18

universe giving me my thirst

29:18

trap. Thank you. And we are

29:25

grateful and we are grateful.

29:25

However, as we build out, our

29:34

year of episodes, we do have

29:34

people of all races gender

29:43

identities, pass religious

29:43

leanings, and it wasn't that we

29:55

weren't aware and so we I I'm

29:55

glad that we are being

30:01

transparent and say, Hey, we

30:01

know, we know what this could

30:05

look like. But please trust us

30:05

that as we go forward, now that

30:10

we've had some time we've been

30:10

able to get a routine put some

30:13

episodes under our belt. We are

30:13

reaching out we are manifesting

30:18

the people that we would like to

30:18

have on our show. And asking,

30:24

making the Ask Of course, anyone

30:24

can say no, but we are working

30:29

on it. So if you know somebody

30:29

that you think would be a great

30:33

guest on Misfit Mondays, hey,

30:33

hit us up.

30:38

[email protected]

30:43

or Misfit Mondays on

30:43

Instagram. That's fine. Slide

30:45

into our DMs,

30:46

slide right in.

30:46

It's already lubed pre lube dm.

30:50

So what do we want to

30:50

talk a little bit about who our

30:54

guests are? Um, because we were

30:54

bringing in Mark Daniels, Dr.

31:01

Mark Daniels for Dr mark

31:01

Daniels, for our episode on what

31:06

does that episode on that's on

31:06

toxic positivity, I believe, if

31:09

not mistaken.

31:10

It is is on

31:10

toxic positivity. Ya see ya. And

31:16

give me two seconds here.

31:20

And then I'm also

31:20

going to name some people that I

31:22

that we haven't confirmed yet,

31:22

but you know, and they probably

31:25

haven't heard it yet. But we're going to put it out there in the universe that we want them on

31:26

the show. So I'm just going to

31:29

name them anyways. And if

31:29

they're listening, and it's a

31:32

yes for you. Hit us up.

31:35

Yeah. So Dr.

31:35

Mark Daniels is an amazing,

31:39

amazing human being who is here

31:39

in South Dakota, and is on the

31:47

board of the transformation

31:47

project. Go take a look at them.

31:52

It's

31:52

transformationprojectsd.org.

31:57

They are doing so much work with

31:57

getting the terrible bills that

32:02

are going to our state and

32:02

really getting a hold of all of

32:07

our government stakeholders and

32:07

getting these bills taken out of

32:12

the running. It is amazing the

32:12

work that they do. But while Dr.

32:20

Mark is a cisgender straight

32:20

male, he is also the father of

32:29

two spirit, trans man who just

32:29

received his nursing license

32:37

which is just amazing. And so he

32:37

has a lot of his own stories. He

32:43

also works in mental health with

32:43

indigenous individuals here in

32:48

the state of South Dakota as

32:48

well as veterans. So I am so

32:52

excited to bring him on. Just as

32:52

someone I've met Personally, I

32:57

really truly believe he's going

32:57

to add so much too. Misfit

33:03

Mondays a super super great guy

33:03

super great guy can't say enough

33:07

about him. You go now I've been

33:07

yapping.

33:13

two guests that I have

33:13

and well actually one of them I

33:15

knew is kind of sort of confirmed because I talked to them when we first started

33:18

Misfit Mondays and she was

33:24

actually so her pronouns are she

33:24

they and I try to use she and

33:27

they as much as possible because

33:27

sometimes I feel like when we

33:29

use when somebody sees this she

33:29

they they try to use they as

33:32

much as possible and then forget

33:32

that she's also it or they use

33:34

She is like there's always that

33:34

thing so I want to make sure

33:36

that I'm mindful of using both

33:36

and as equally as possible, but

33:39

thought she was on favorite

33:39

Fridays with me when I didn't

33:43

know whenever y'all listening to

33:43

this also was on my my Haus of

33:46

Zeph Favored Fridays where I

33:46

have people come in and just

33:50

talk about their spiritual gifts and I knew this was cross posting, but if you want to be

33:52

on Favored Fridays just hit me

33:54

up on house obsessed and

33:54

Instagram that's Haus of Zeph or

33:59

[email protected] it's in my

33:59

link in my bio But anyways, this

34:02

actually was all my favorite

34:02

Fridays and I want Sasha to do a

34:06

set a series of sessions with us

34:06

called horcruxes or bust and

34:10

talking just a lot about soul

34:10

retrieval and trauma what it

34:15

does to your soul and really

34:15

allowing yourself to be seen and

34:17

just you know, doing a little

34:17

bit more of that deep dive into

34:20

Shadow Work. And then the second

34:20

person I want to bring on is my

34:24

spiritual mentor Jordan Hope

34:24

Miller so if you're listening to

34:26

this, Jordan, I am begging you

34:26

with everything that I am to

34:31

come on because I think you're

34:31

fucking amazing. But Jordan Hope

34:35

Miller is a spiritual mentor and

34:35

guru guru guru if I can get my

34:39

lisp out of the way today at

34:39

what's a Jordan's Instagram

34:44

handle. Do you know? I'll top

34:44

your head. I think it's that at

34:47

Jordan Hope Miller or Oracle

34:47

hope Just give me a few seconds.

34:54

It is

34:54

@JordanHopeMillerOracle

35:00

Great, so Jordan hope

35:00

Miller Oracle that's on

35:03

Instagram. But Jordan, I would

35:03

love for Jordan to come on

35:06

because Jordan is a black trans

35:06

person. And I would really love

35:10

to just talk about what killing

35:10

the gender binary looks like

35:13

because I think that a lot of

35:13

time now it's not I think I

35:15

believe I need to get into this

35:15

more I believe thing and really

35:18

own my beliefs because I think

35:18

kind of gives me that wishy

35:20

washy. my beliefs are not solid

35:20

when I knew that my beliefs are

35:23

pretty solid. But killing the

35:23

gender binary and really cursing

35:28

the boxes we put ourselves in

35:28

and so asking us, how can we be

35:31

expansive? How can we fully own

35:31

everything that we are? So we

35:36

don't create more of that hetero

35:36

part, more hetero,

35:39

heteropatriarchal horcruxes and

35:39

so that way we can just stop

35:44

putting our souls out in the

35:44

universe and really just start

35:47

keeping our souls for herself.

35:47

So those are the two that I knew

35:51

that I want.

35:53

I'm trying to

35:53

get out into the universe that I

35:55

want Khadaura for episode called

35:55

move up, move up. Khadaura is a

36:02

leadership coach, who I found on

36:02

tik tok. Again, I got a little

36:07

thirst trapped in there. Trapped

36:07

trapped it it got a little

36:11

thirst trap did it it did in

36:11

there and realize that this dude

36:18

knows what he's talking about.

36:18

Amazing coach. Go ahead and give

36:25

him a follow on Instagram. Is do

36:25

to do? I don't know. Hold on. I

36:39

tell you Oh, hey, how would I

36:39

spell it? Right? I'm really good

36:45

at things and stuff today. Don't

36:45

it? Instagram is @itskhadaura,

36:52

it s KHAD A You are a slide into

36:52

Kundera's DMS and say, Hey, you

37:00

need to do Misfit Mondays for

37:00

us. Haha, calling all the

37:04

Misfits, calling all the

37:04

Misfits. So definitely would

37:08

like to send that out there. And

37:08

then of course we have few more,

37:12

but we're not going to give you

37:12

all of our bag of tricks. Come

37:15

on. Now. You need to feel

37:15

surprised. We'd like to keep you

37:20

in and tissa. Patientce every

37:20

now and again. So we are

37:28

definitely putting those out

37:28

into the universe. What else are

37:31

we doing next? I don't know,

37:31

what we're doing next?

37:33

Well, I had a download

37:33

because you and I have been

37:36

talking about well, we got this

37:36

first year? And is this going to

37:38

mean the end of Misfit Mondays?

37:38

If we get to this first year of

37:41

information? What are we going

37:41

to do next? And you and I

37:45

already have plans for what we

37:45

kind of want to do with the

37:47

material we have on Misfit

37:47

Mondays, which I'm not going to

37:49

spoil because we want to work on

37:49

that make sure that that's

37:51

something that you're surprised

37:51

by. But while we were having

37:54

this conversation, it just came

37:54

to me. What if we take Misfit

37:58

Mondays and make it a one on one

37:58

interview with people we do we

38:01

lay all this year of base

38:01

building with Shadow Work and

38:03

making sure that people have a

38:03

thorough understanding of how

38:06

they can best show up for themselves and show up for others. What if the next year

38:08

after this first year, we just

38:12

have people who come on Misfit

38:12

Mondays and share their shadow

38:14

journeys with us and share the

38:14

ways in which we could we could

38:18

talk a little bit more about you

38:18

know, how do you best show up

38:20

for yourself? What are the ways in which you're you're showing up for yourself now what are the

38:22

ways that you you can identify

38:25

as growth areas? And then how

38:25

can we both work one on one to

38:29

figure out like what this looks

38:29

like, this is something that

38:32

just popped in my head. So like

38:34

I like that and

38:34

and a part of the reason I like

38:37

that is because as I've said a

38:37

few times now, here we are

38:42

recording and what this is going

38:42

to go out in February. And from

38:50

when we started in October, four

38:50

months ago, to now I feel like

38:56

I've at least gone through two

38:56

if not three total transitions.

39:03

And in shadow work and life in

39:03

and I think that it's great. And

39:09

of course then we're gonna get

39:09

some of those best stories and

39:11

they could come back again a

39:11

year later and see where they're

39:14

at. See what else that they've

39:14

learned because our journey is

39:19

spiritual wellness, mental

39:19

health. You know, there's never

39:25

an end there's no end to to the

39:25

work. It's you choose to do it

39:30

and you keep going. And the

39:30

deeper you dig, the longer

39:36

you're gonna be digging. It's

39:36

what it's like refurbishing an

39:40

old house, you open up one wall

39:40

and you're like, Well shit. Here

39:45

we go.

39:47

Yeah, and I think I

39:47

would love that. And so you know

39:50

if any of our listeners are out there listening and we're like, hey, I want to talk about my

39:52

shadow journey. Let's get a

39:55

conversation going and see what this looks like. It's gonna be at least a couple months before

39:57

this even happens. But I would

40:01

love to start taking you know,

40:01

just names and things of people,

40:05

you know, who want to. And maybe

40:05

it even becomes something where

40:08

we do it like once a month or

40:08

once every two weeks or

40:10

something, I don't really know what the format looks like this download just popped in my head,

40:12

wasn't even thinking about it

40:15

universe's like, you know, maybe

40:15

this is where y'all need to go.

40:18

And I think that the beauty of

40:18

this is because Shadow Work is

40:21

always a journey, you're never

40:21

completely done with it. And if

40:25

you think that you are, I would

40:25

invite you to take a really hard

40:28

look at that certainty, and

40:28

instead invite in a lot more

40:31

curiosity and go, you know,

40:31

really, because I think there's

40:35

always room for growth. And if you ever stopped growing, you might as well just call it

40:36

quits. Because life is all about

40:39

growth and life is about you

40:39

know, and that growth happens.

40:43

The more you engage in relationships with people, the more you engage in relationship

40:45

with yourself, you always find

40:47

out more. Because for me, Shadow

40:47

Work is about discovery. And

40:51

it's about discovering

40:51

opportunities for yourself. And

40:54

are you ready for those opportunities? And if you're not ready, how can you get yourself

40:56

ready? What are the things you

40:58

need to do to prepare for that

40:58

journey? Because I think that's

41:01

what Shadow Work is, is

41:01

preparing you for that life

41:03

journey. It's preparing you to,

41:03

you know, go through some it's

41:07

not No, it's not, it's it's

41:07

preparing you to go through

41:09

experiences in order for you to

41:09

find a lesson there. Because

41:12

then those lessons are those

41:12

gems, where we figure out like,

41:16

this is how we show up as a less shitty human.

41:19

Uh, yeah. And I

41:19

need to say in, in this Hold on,

41:26

it's all coming. To be perfectly honest, I

41:32

remember, I think the reason

41:39

this is important to me that I

41:39

do this work is I remember,

41:43

being the person in my 20s, who

41:43

had gone through some shit

41:47

already in my youth had left

41:47

religion and kind of

41:52

spirituality altogether. And was

41:52

like finding my way and I can

41:58

see that person now. And the,

41:58

the hurt, and the anger and the

42:07

depression and all the things

42:07

that I carried with me into

42:11

everyday and, and the things

42:11

that I would complain about,

42:14

like, I see that. And now when

42:14

people come to me, and I realize

42:17

like all of their statements or

42:17

complaints, I'm like, I was that

42:21

person at one time. And I

42:21

remember the people out in the

42:26

world who had a voice and we're,

42:26

you know, spiritual gurus and

42:30

honestly, like, all you have to

42:30

do is change your mindset. All

42:34

you have to do is be happy and

42:34

think happy thoughts. And all

42:38

you have to do is this, that or

42:38

the other thing, and that's

42:44

great. And it is, yes, it is

42:44

true, comma. And what they're

42:51

not telling you is that you have

42:51

to do a lot of shitty shadow

42:54

work to get there. Because you

42:54

have to actually deal with all

43:00

of the anger and the sadness and

43:00

the stuff that you're holding on

43:03

to and get real with yourself

43:03

about. Why do I feel this way?

43:07

Why do I have these beliefs

43:07

about myself in my life? What is

43:12

it that I'm feeling? What is it

43:12

that I truly want? How does this

43:15

make me feel? How can I change

43:15

my perspective, you have to do

43:20

all that work first, to get to

43:20

the point where you're like, Oh,

43:24

yeah. Okay, let me find the

43:24

silver lining this situation

43:29

that I don't particularly care

43:29

for today. How is this helping

43:34

me? How is life working for me

43:34

and not against me in this

43:39

situation, but it isn't all love

43:39

and light, you just have to

43:43

change your perspective. It

43:43

takes fucking work to change

43:47

your perspective. And that's

43:47

what nobody tells you about.

43:51

And, you know, whoever they're

43:51

out there making millions of

43:54

dollars on their yoga pants and

43:54

love and light. And it's not all

43:59

love and light because there's

43:59

real work that has to be done

44:02

there. And they don't talk to

44:02

you about all the different

44:04

people that listen to them cry,

44:04

and be angry and throw dishes.

44:09

And you know, all the stuff that

44:09

they've gone through. They don't

44:13

talk about that stuff. It's

44:13

like, oh, Yo, I lost my job. And

44:20

I decided to go to India and Eat

44:20

Pray Love. Well, good for you.

44:25

I'm glad you had the money. Get

44:25

yours sis, hmm? But that isn't

44:30

the reality for 99.9% of us. We

44:30

don't have the income or the

44:38

resources to always get the

44:38

mental health care. We need to

44:42

get the actual health care we

44:42

need to take time away from our

44:47

family. You know, I know that

44:47

taking this trip to Sedona is

44:51

beautiful. It was That was my

44:51

privilege. Because I had a job

44:58

that was secure all of last I

44:58

didn't have to worry about a

45:01

paycheck. I get to do these

45:01

things. And I know that there's

45:06

people out there that don't get

45:06

to do these things. And so how

45:12

do you make your self care and

45:12

your spirituality and your true

45:18

happiness a priority, when you

45:18

aren't able to do what everyone

45:24

up there and out there is

45:24

telling you to do. And that's

45:26

really why Misfit Mondays hit me

45:26

in the heart so quickly when the

45:31

idea came up is because, yes,

45:31

people have to talk about the

45:35

real life shit, the real stuff,

45:35

not just the loving light and

45:40

change your perspective, because

45:40

a lot of work goes into changing

45:43

that perspective. Sorry, that

45:43

was total download emotional

45:47

channel.

45:48

I love all that,

45:48

though. Because I think I think

45:50

the thing that's here that's

45:50

sitting with me is people might

45:53

be going well, why? Why? Why is

45:53

this stuff difficult? Why does

45:57

this thing suck why is there

45:57

real work? The bottom line is,

46:00

is this is all about

46:00

relationships. This is about a

46:02

relationship with yourself. This

46:02

is about relationships with

46:05

other people. This is about how

46:05

you show up and how you move in

46:08

the world. And it takes a lot of

46:08

self awareness and checking in

46:13

with yourself and saying, you

46:13

know, what, how am I taking

46:16

space or making space here? How

46:16

is my traumas and my trauma

46:20

experiment, not not traumas,

46:20

trauma experiences, because I

46:23

don't believe that you are your traumas, I think that your traumas happen for you to grow

46:25

into yourself and grow into

46:28

whatever you are to be, and who

46:28

will not even who you are to be

46:32

who you are as a person. Because

46:32

I think there's a whole process

46:35

of remembering, and I'm not going down that rabbit hole, because it's a really long

46:37

rabbit hole in a really deep

46:39

breath, a whole nother set of

46:39

episodes. But it's just that

46:43

we're in relationships with

46:43

ourselves and our relationship

46:45

with each other. Because humans

46:45

are social creatures, we like to

46:49

be connected, whether we want to

46:49

admit it or not. And you know,

46:51

and even that degree of

46:51

connection is different for

46:54

everybody. Some people may not

46:54

want to be as connected to

46:57

others as much as you know,

46:57

somebody else was and that's all

47:00

okay, but the bottom line is, is

47:00

we're all in relationships with

47:03

one another. And we have a

47:03

responsibility to be accountable

47:06

to not only our happiness, but

47:06

to somebody else's, not that

47:09

you're responsible for

47:09

somebody's happiness, but you

47:11

are accountable, because the way

47:11

that your actions, the way that

47:15

you respond to emotional

47:15

situations, or the way that you

47:18

respond to experiences is going

47:18

to directly impact somebody

47:21

else. And it takes a lot of self

47:21

awareness to realize that, you

47:23

know, let me let me choose

47:23

differently here, because I want

47:26

to make sure that I'm showing up

47:26

not only for myself, but I also

47:29

want to make sure I'm showing up

47:29

for somebody else, too. And this

47:32

takes work, and it's fucking

47:32

messy, you're gonna fuck it up.

47:35

And that's okay. But also, like,

47:35

celebrate, when you make growth

47:38

opportunities, celebrate, when

47:38

you take a pause to take a beat

47:41

and reflect. Have you just

47:41

learned to love yourself and

47:45

embrace the gratitude for being

47:45

here? Yeah. And if you feel

47:49

like, Oh, I want to have all

47:49

those great things. Let's let's

47:53

chat about how we can get you

47:53

there. Because I think that, you

47:56

know, yes, there's institutional

47:56

forces that prevent us from

47:59

often, you know, achieving the

47:59

riches, the material, material

48:04

riches that we feel like we

48:04

deserve. And let me be clear, we

48:07

do deserve it. But sometimes

48:07

getting there just, it's fraught

48:11

with complications, because

48:11

that's the way we are set up as

48:13

a society. And it sucks, and

48:13

it's true. But it also doesn't

48:17

mean that's the be all end all. Because I think the silver lining here is that when we

48:19

start showing up for each other,

48:21

and we start building ourselves

48:21

up, that's when we start

48:24

building communities that matter

48:24

and communities that lasts

48:26

because in our community, we

48:26

learn how to, you know, engage

48:28

in communities that support one

48:28

another. And there's mutual aid,

48:31

there's mutual accountability, because I think it's in this mutuality, where there's real

48:33

long lasting connections are

48:36

forged. Sorry, that was me going

48:36

down another tangent just as

48:40

much as you

48:41

know, I hear it.

48:41

And with us, with everything

48:46

that's going on, you know,

48:46

astrologically, as well.

48:52

Something that's come up for me,

48:52

is the realization of as you

48:59

work into your soul purpose, and

48:59

you're, you get in touch with

49:04

your intuition, and you start to

49:04

really say yes to the things

49:09

that are aligned to you.

49:09

Challenges will come up, and

49:16

it's like, all around the

49:16

mulberry bush. The monkey chases

49:22

the weasel, you know, I feel

49:22

like I've gone around some of

49:25

these bushes with the weasel a

49:25

few times too many in my life.

49:30

And I'm telling you what, the

49:30

minute you think you've gotten

49:37

around that bush and you've gone

49:37

down the right path, there's

49:40

going to be a bush that pops up

49:40

with almost exactly the same

49:45

obstacle. That looks just a

49:45

little bit different to see if

49:48

you're going to chase that

49:48

sucker again. And it happens. I

49:54

got it. I got it thrown to me

49:54

this week with someone popping

49:59

into my text like Are you going

49:59

to chase this, this white rabbit

50:02

down this hole again? Or are you

50:02

actually going to stay on your

50:04

path? It happens to all of us.

50:04

And the thing is, there's no

50:09

shame in going around the bush a

50:09

few times. I know there's, you

50:13

know, I know even with my, my

50:13

alcohol abuse, there were many,

50:18

many times where I would come

50:18

back to the beginning. It's

50:20

like, you got to get off the

50:20

path, go this way, and I could

50:24

hear it. I knew I, I knew what

50:24

my intuition was telling me. I

50:28

knew what was being said to me.

50:28

And I was like, I don't wanna

50:31

it's too hard. I can't do it

50:31

that way. Like, go around the

50:35

Gosh, darn trail again, all

50:35

around the bush. And then things

50:39

would change a little bit in

50:39

life. Things happen, and then

50:44

I'd get to another point where I

50:44

could feel it. I was being

50:47

pulled to come off that path.

50:47

But it's like, Ah, yeah, sorry,

50:52

universe doesn't quite feel

50:52

right for me yet. And I go

50:55

around the fucker again, until

50:55

finally, last year. I was like,

51:01

Okay, I'm getting off. I'm

51:01

getting off, take getting off

51:05

this trail. And so now, I've

51:05

been sober a year. And I can, I

51:12

can clearly look back and see

51:12

those points of like, oh, okay,

51:16

there was a point. And there was

51:16

a point. And there is a point,

51:19

just like looking, you know,

51:19

once you get out of a bad

51:21

relationship, and you've been

51:21

able to get through the grief,

51:24

and the anger and the whatever,

51:24

all that stuff, and then you

51:27

look back, you're like, oh,

51:27

there's a red flag. I didn't

51:31

see. Well, there's another red

51:31

flag. I didn't. I thought I just

51:37

didn't register it. I chose not

51:37

to view it for what it was. Same

51:42

thing that's part of Shadow

51:42

Work, too. You know, just

51:46

because we go through the work

51:46

does it mean that we're ever

51:49

done? Because those relative

51:49

obstacles will show up to see

51:55

like, hey, did did you learn

51:55

your lesson? Are you gonna go

51:58

chase this rabbit over here? Are

51:58

you gonna stay aligned with your

52:02

intuition and your, your soul

52:02

purpose.

52:07

So I love that you've

52:07

literally brought this back full

52:09

circle, because I think this is

52:09

where we're going to be ending

52:12

it. But also, I want to say

52:12

congratulations on your sobriety

52:15

for a year because I want to

52:15

make sure that that gets pointed

52:17

out. Congratulations, that's a

52:17

huge accomplishment, and I'm so

52:22

fucking proud of you. But you

52:22

know, and you've, you've

52:25

literally brought this, this,

52:25

you could not have put this

52:28

conversation more in a circular

52:28

motion than you just did.

52:31

Because, you know, everything

52:31

you just said was about that

52:34

card I pulled, it's about

52:34

releasing the ego. And that is

52:38

literally what we have been

52:38

trying to do over the last

52:40

couple months with Misfit

52:40

Mondays is releasing the ego and

52:44

you know, really saying where we

52:44

kind of experienced challenges.

52:47

And we we experienced growth

52:47

opportunities along the way. Um,

52:52

we've learned a lot of great things from all the guests we've had from Yogi Bryan to Kristen

52:53

Smith to Alex Kriech. And

52:58

they've shown us a lot. they've,

52:58

they've enjoyed this journey

53:01

with us. And I'm so deeply

53:01

grateful for them. And then, you

53:06

know, today we took a pause,

53:06

because we realized that we've

53:08

been going full throttle, we

53:08

realized that we needed we

53:12

needed to pause to you know, ask

53:12

ourselves, how can we be more

53:15

intentional moving forward? So

53:15

we learned some lessons we look

53:19

towards where we can be more

53:19

intentional, and now we're

53:22

actively, you know, envisioning

53:22

what Misfit Mondays could be,

53:26

um, and really just refocusing

53:26

our efforts in a way that's more

53:29

intentional in a way that's more

53:29

purposeful for how we need to

53:33

show up for the community and

53:33

how we also need to show up for

53:35

ourselves. And unless you have

53:35

anything else to say, I want to

53:39

say that's basically it for

53:39

Misfit Mondays, for at least

53:42

today, just for today, not for

53:42

like the rest of time.

53:45

I say peace out,

53:45

peace out my siblings in

53:50

spirituality, and Shadow Work.

53:52

Wonderful. So thank

53:52

you so much for spending time

53:55

with us today on Misfit Mondays.

53:55

You can catch us on Instagram at

54:02

at Misfit Mondays, I forgot for

54:02

a second where it was you can

54:04

catch us on Instagram at Misfit

54:04

Mondays. You can also catch us

54:09

on at gmail at

54:09

[email protected].

54:15

And we hope to catch you around

54:15

here. And if you want to be a

54:21

future guest, be sure to reach

54:21

out to us we would love to have

54:24

you and chat about what your

54:24

shutter journey looks like. So

54:29

thank you everybody for sharing

54:29

your time, your space and your

54:31

energy with us and we look

54:31

forward to sharing more wisdom

54:35

and engaging deeper and

54:35

community with you. Thank you