It might seem like a random topic but the joy we’ve felt (at times) in our power exchange is so powerful and amazing that it’s important to acknowledge. And also, we can’t be the...The post Joy in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDS

What is an Alpha Sub?

Jul 1st, 2022 1h 23m

In this week’s episode, we talk about the label “alpha sub” — how it was defined when we first heard of it and what it means to many people today. In this episode: Thanks...The post What is an Alpha Sub? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

What Do You Bring to the Table?

Jun 17th, 2022 1h 15m

John Brownstone posed an interesting question when thinking about power exchange relationships and new potential partners: What do you bring to the table as a kinkster and just as a person? So that’s what...The post What Do You Bring to the Ta

Love Bombing and Power Exchange

Jun 10th, 2022 1h 23m

A listener sent us a question about telling the difference between love bombing and being an eager caregiver type with new relationship energy (NRE). We decided to talk about love bombing, ideas for figuring...The post Love Bombing and Power E

Minisode 57: Tips for Dealing with Anger in D/s

Jun 7th, 2022 18m 59s

Assuming you’re in a mostly healthy, happy power exchange relationship, anger is something you’re going to have to navigate — your own and your partner’s. So this week, we’re sharing a few tips and...The post Minisode 57: Tips for Dealing with

Collaboration and Teamwork

Jun 3rd, 2022 1h 35m

This week, we’re revisiting a topic we talked about back in 2019: teamwork in power exchange. The conversation focuses on a book we recently read specifically on the idea of having a dynamic built...The post Collaboration and Teamwork appeared

Minisode 56: Punishment Tips

May 31st, 2022 19m 29s

Not every power exchange relationship needs (or wants!) an element of discipline, punishment, and consequences. But for those who do, there are a lot of things to keep in mind. This week, we’re sharing...The post Minisode 56: Punishment Tips a

Perfectionism in Power Exchange

May 27th, 2022 1h 27m

This week we’re talking about something near and dear to our experience — perfectionism, and how it can impact your power exchange relationship and you as a kinkster, regardless of your role. In this...The post Perfectionism in Power Exchange

Getting Back Into a Groove

May 20th, 2022 1h 7m

We’re baaaaa-aaaaaack…and we’re trying to get back into a groove, both for the podcast and in our D/s relationship. This week’s episode is more like a giant bonus section with updates about where we’ve...The post Getting Back Into a Groove app

Our Power Exchange During Times of Stress

Apr 15th, 2022 1h 22m

As you may know, JB has been pulled away from home and work to help take care of his ailing mom. It means he’s not at home as much, and he’s under a lot...The post Our Power Exchange During Times of Stress appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Minisode 55: Beyond Subspace

Apr 5th, 2022 14m 44s

Subspace is just one experience submissives can have during a kink scene. As we’ve discussed before, subspace isn’t a guarantee for every scene, and some people may never even get there. So let’s talk...The post Minisode 55: Beyond Subspace ap

BDSM Reddit Response

Apr 1st, 2022 1h 6m

We’re back with another response (reaction?) to questions asked over on the BDSM side of Reddit. In this episode: This week’s episode is sponsored by Beducated. Answering questions on BDSM reddit. Thanks to our...The post BDSM Reddit Response

Minisode 54: Consent in Power Exchange

Mar 29th, 2022 11m 3s

This week, we’re sharing the audio version of a video we made recently on a few things to remember about consent in your power exchange relationship. Most (all?) of it will be familiar because...The post Minisode 54: Consent in Power Exchange

Minisode 53: Trying New Kinks Together

Mar 22nd, 2022 18m 20s

We love a good process that we can (mostly) repeat over and over again. Yes, even in kink and for new kinky fuckery. This week, we’re sharing what we do when we’re ready to...The post Minisode 53: Trying New Kinks Together appeared first on Lo

BDSM Q&A

Mar 11th, 2022 1h 45m

This week we asked for your kinky questions over on Instagram (at that handle I will forever fucking hate) and in the live chat on YouTube while we recorded. In this episode: This week’s...The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Minisode 52: Subspace

Mar 8th, 2022 12m 5s

Too many kinksters chase subspace and then feel disappointed after their scene. Not because it didn’t go well but because they didn’t undergo a bio-chemical reaction that they had absolutely no control over. So...The post Minisode 52: Subspace

Are We Still DD/lg? | Revisiting Old Episodes

Mar 4th, 2022 1h 3m

This week, we’re going back in the archive to episode 6 where we talked about how we made the switch to DD/lg (Daddy Dom/little girl). This time, we’re asking ourselves – is that who...The post Are We Still DD/lg? | Revisiting Old Episodes app

Minisode 51: Electroplay Basics and Safety Tips

Mar 1st, 2022 22m 3s

New to the idea of electroplay? Like all other kinks, you need to learn about it before you try it – especially the risks. Here are a few things to keep in mind as...The post Minisode 51: Electroplay Basics and Safety Tips appeared first on Lo

Burnout in Power Exchange and Kink

Feb 25th, 2022 1h 37m

Towards the end of 2021, we both admitted to each other we were starting to feel burnt out – in our power exchange! While our relationship wasn’t the source of the burnout, it could...The post Burnout in Power Exchange and Kink appeared first

Minisode 50: Our Favorite Impact Play Toys

Feb 22nd, 2022 21m 10s

For the big 5-0, we decided to talk about one of our favorite things in kink – impact play. Specifically, we’re sharing different types of toys we absolutely love to use for impact play!...The post Minisode 50: Our Favorite Impact Play Toys ap

When a Service Submissive Can’t Serve

Feb 18th, 2022 1h 21m

This week, we’re talking about our experience during Kayla’s recovery from surgery – a time when she wasn’t able to be her service submissive self in her usual way. We share how we both...The post When a Service Submissive Can’t Serve appeared

Minisode 49: Tips for Balancing Kink and Parenting

Feb 15th, 2022 25m 24s

Too many people still ask, “Can you have a power exchange relationship and be a parent?” To that, we say, “YES!” As with all things parenting, compromises have to be made, but in our...The post Minisode 49: Tips for Balancing Kink and Parentin

What We’ve Learned After 300 Kinky Conversations

Feb 11th, 2022 1h 43m

This week, we celebrate a major podcasting milestone – 300 episodes of our Friday conversations. So this week we’re reflecting on what we’ve learned – about BDSM, about talking about BDSM, and about ourselves....The post What We’ve Learned Aft

Minisode 48: Sadism and Masochism

Feb 8th, 2022 16m 1s

JB is a sadist and Kayla is a masochist, and it’s something we talk about in a lot of contexts. In this week’s mini episode, we’re sharing a few things we want people to...The post Minisode 48: Sadism and Masochism appeared first on Loving BDS

BDSM Reddit Reaction

Feb 4th, 2022 1h 58m

Not only is this episode filled with Kayla Rants™, there’s also the rare sighting of a JB Rant™! In this episode: The Patreon Membership Drive continues through February 15 Thanks to silentwinged for sending...The post BDSM Reddit Reaction app