This isn’t exactly a new topic, but its one we’re finally giving its own episode — how can sex be part of our dynamic when one or both of us don’t want sex? We...The post Dealing with Low Libido in Our D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving

Minisode 13: Submissive Red Flags

Apr 27th, 2021 21m 40s

We’re baaaa-aaaaack with minisodes — shorter (for us) episodes to give you quick tips, information, and our thoughts on a bite-size BDSM topic. In many cases we’ve already talked about these in a longer...The post Minisode 13: Submissive Red F

Pausing Your D/s Relationship

Apr 23rd, 2021 1h 20m

This week’s episode was inspired by a question we received from a listener on how to handle your D/s relationship being on a break or pause. We share our experiences and our thoughts on...The post Pausing Your D/s Relationship appeared first o

Positive Reinforcement

Apr 16th, 2021 1h 18m

How have we gone so long without a dedicated episode on positive reinforcement in D/s? We don’t know either, but here we are! This week, we talk about it within our own relationship, how...The post Positive Reinforcement appeared first on Lovi

Leadership Styles and Power Exchange

Apr 9th, 2021 1h 17m

This week we’re perverting yet another vanilla concept — this time, business leadership styles and how they relate back to power exchange relationships. Some have direct correlations to obvious D/s dynamics, others are more...The post Leadersh

BDSM Q&A | March 2021

Apr 2nd, 2021 1h 21m

Instead of throwing in a Q&A episode when we run out of topics, we’re actually planning them this year — one every few months! The best way to ask questions is to follow us...The post BDSM Q&A | March 2021 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Self-Preservation

Mar 26th, 2021 1h 16m

This week’s episode is a bit of a rant based on things we’ve seen in the online kink community. Every time the issues come up, we (I) think, “Please have a sense of self-preservation!”...The post Self-Preservation appeared first on Loving BDSM

Relationship Attachment Styles and Power Exchange

Mar 19th, 2021 1h 16m

A random phrase led to a Google search which led to this week’s topic — what are the different relationship attachment styles and what do they have to do with power exchange? Let’s talk...The post Relationship Attachment Styles and Power Excha

Thinking of Kink as a “Practice”

Mar 12th, 2021 1h 11m

We said it in a past episode and it stuck with us, so let’s talk about it: consider thinking of your kink life as a practice, similar to the way people think of yoga...The post Thinking of Kink as a “Practice” appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Why Knowing Yourself Matters in Power Exchange

Mar 5th, 2021 1h 9m

Pardon the rambly episode this week. The idea of “know thyself” and what that can look like, how people express their identities, and why it’s important to power exchange is a massive topic. We...The post Why Knowing Yourself Matters in Power

Advocating for Yourself in BDSM

Feb 26th, 2021 1h 15m

The word “advocacy” in terms of power exchange and BDSM has been on our minds a lot lately, so it’s time to do an episode about it. We used a non-kink list of how...The post Advocating for Yourself in BDSM appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Boring Ruts and Routines in Power Exchange

Feb 19th, 2021 1h 14m

Boring implies “bad” but we don’t think that’s always the case. The reality, though, is that long-term relationships, kinky or otherwise, can find themselves in a rut or routine after a while. So let’s...The post Boring Ruts and Routines in Po

Figuring Out Our Apology Language

Feb 12th, 2021 1h 22m

We’ve talked about love languages before, and we’ve talked about making mistakes and needing to apologize. So imagine our delight when we discovered there’s a thing called an apology language (based on the 5...The post Figuring Out Our Apology

Fantasy vs Reality in D/s

Feb 6th, 2021 1h 14m

We’ve said it many times but never really focused on it — the fantasy of D/s, kink, and BDSM can’t match the reality. That’s not a bad thing, unless you convince yourself you’re failing...The post Fantasy vs Reality in D/s appeared first on Lo

Going to Bed Angry

Jan 29th, 2021 1h 17m

Most of us have heard the cliched advice, “Never go to bed angry!” Everyone has their own opinion and experience with arguments in relationships, including those late-night disagreements. We try not to go to...The post Going to Bed Angry appea

Why It’s a Journey

Jan 22nd, 2021 1h 2m

You’ve heard us call BDSM, power exchange, and the kink life a “journey.” And yes, it’s become cliche, but that doesn’t mean there’s not some truth to it. This week, we’re talking about why...The post Why It’s a Journey appeared first on Lovin

Being “Picky” About Your Partners

Jan 15th, 2021 1h 6m

A conversation with a kinky friend of ours prompted this week’s topic. That person stayed in a crumbling relationship because they thought they were being “too picky.” We disagreed with that person completely. But...The post Being “Picky” Abou

Re-Doing a BDSM Checklist

Jan 8th, 2021 1h 39m

It started as an offhand idea John Brownstone threw out right before Christmas, and then we ran with it. It’s been years since we did any BDSM checklists, so we recorded ourselves doing one...The post Re-Doing a BDSM Checklist appeared first o

Another BDSM Q&A

Dec 18th, 2020 1h 33m

Okay, so Q&A episodes might be our way of getting out of thinking about a topic, but it’s the last episode of 2020, and we thought it would be fun, and we needed something...The post Another BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Navigating Our Power Exchange as Business Partners

Dec 11th, 2020 1h 23m

It’s no secret around here that we work from home and we work together. We talk about it a LOT and use it as examples in a lot of conversations about our power exchange....The post Navigating Our Power Exchange as Business Partners appeared fi

What We Can Learn from Hindsight

Dec 4th, 2020 59m 15s

Have you ever looked back on a break-up or a big argument with your partner, and thought, “I knew something was wrong.”? Yeah, that’s hindsight for you. But what can do to avoid only...The post What We Can Learn from Hindsight appeared first o

Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up the Holidays

Nov 27th, 2020 1h 39m

We do this every year, and every year it’s a whirlwind. This week, we’re sharing our favorites from all the toys we used in 2020. Why? Because we love masturbation, sex, orgasms, and sexual...The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up

How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update

Nov 20th, 2020 1h 31m

Back in episode 13, we shared how we handle money within our power exchange relationship. Over the years it’s changed a LOT. So we thought we’d revisit the topic to share those changes. In...The post How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship

Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationships

Nov 13th, 2020 1h 17m

We received a fascinating email about a promise made in a D/s relationship, and it got us thinking about the promises we’ve made and how we feel about “promises.” So let’s talk about it!...The post Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationship

Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To

Nov 6th, 2020 1h 25m

In this week’s episode, we take a listener question about BDSM collars and turn it into a larger discussion on compromise (yes, we’ve done that episode before). The dynamics of the question posed got...The post Deciding When to Compromise in B