I often talk with individuals trying to make a decision about some aspect of their life. Ex. Young adult picking their future path, parents deciding how to love and discipline, adults deciding how to best care for their elderly parent, individuals deciding how to better a relationship, teenagers deciding how to best share something impactful with their parents…the list goes on. A research study at Cornell University reports that we make 35K decisions per day. With all of these decisions, it can be really difficult to choose what to do. 

·        What gets in the way of decision making?

·        Mental: Two main cognitive distortions- 

§  Black and White Thinking. Ex. Right or wrong = accepted or not accepted. 

§  Shoulding. Ex. Other’s expectations. 

·        Emotional: often Fear of Failure (underlying both of these cognitive distortions). 

·        What helps with indecision?

·        Calming the emotional brain to access the thinking brain. 

·        Identity and indecision:

§  External – filter by what others think/feel/do or environment

§  Internal – decide who you want to be and use this as filter. 

·        No blame. No shame. No guilt. Only learning. 

·        New Perspective – looking at things from different angles

 How does understanding indecision help you LEAD Lucky? Who are the decision makers? Leaders! Gather all puzzle pieces, learn what you can, calm brain, filter through identity filter/business filter, and trust choice…right or wrong…good or bad outcome…know that you did the best you could with the information you had using this process.

 Closing: What is one thing you will take away from the episode today? What will you do? 

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