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schools for because

2:00

this was the best time of my

2:02

life. Did that sound

2:04

sad? I don't care, it's true. I hope

2:06

you enjoy and I will see you on

2:08

the other side. Hi

2:11

everyone, I'm Dr. Tara, sex and

2:13

relationship expert. I am a sex professor

2:15

at Cal State University Fullerton and

2:17

I'm also the, well, I guess now

2:20

it's not a brand new anymore.

2:22

I've been renewed for the second season

2:24

of celebs Go Dating. So I'm also

2:26

a TV host and TV sex expert

2:29

on celebs Go Dating. I

2:32

literally can't picture anyone better to do that.

2:34

That's so fun. Are you having the most

2:36

fun with it? Oh my God, it's so

2:38

fun. So I'll be leaving to London this

2:40

summer to film this show. For

2:42

those of you listening that if you haven't heard of

2:45

this show, that's fine because it's in the UK. And

2:48

I just realized like other countries have

2:50

their own set of famous television that

2:52

we just Americans just like never heard

2:54

of. Yeah,

2:56

so if you're listening and you're from the

2:58

UK, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

3:00

So let's go dating. They have had

3:03

12 seasons and it was

3:05

on season 12. And now I'm going to be back

3:07

on season 13. Fuck

3:09

yeah, man. I'm so excited for you.

3:11

Congratulations. Thank you. More sex

3:13

tips. Sex tips here too. Absolutely.

3:17

So this month and last month we've

3:19

been talking about tips, tricks and naughty

3:21

bits. And we've focused primarily on like

3:23

specific genitalia. Which is awesome and great.

3:26

And I want to focus on like the rest of

3:29

the body because I know we can have so much

3:31

fun with like all the other bits that we don't

3:33

give specific episode airtime to. So

3:36

let's begin there. I

3:38

want to start with breasts

3:40

and nipples because I

3:43

think we could all use tips and tricks on

3:46

how to like best play with them without hurting

3:48

them. So what are your go-to tips for mouth

3:50

and hands when you're playing with boobs and nips?

3:53

Oh my gosh. So I am a

3:55

big fan of nipple orgasm or nipple.

3:57

I'm going to ask you about that.

3:59

Okay. Yeah, I am a big fan.

4:01

My husband knows to like play with

4:04

them an extensive amount of time and

4:08

But it's really funny because he

4:10

doesn't like his nipples played with

4:12

but like all the people

4:14

I've dated in the past have had like

4:16

especially the men have had Have

4:19

loved their nipples played with so

4:21

okay Okay, so when

4:24

it comes to nipples, it's really

4:26

like a case-by-case basis So as

4:28

a sexual communication professor I have

4:30

to first tell you that you

4:32

should ask your partner first if

4:34

they like that area be explored

4:37

Massaged and stimulated because some really

4:40

not only that they don't feel

4:42

great about it. They dislike it

4:45

Yes, that communication should

4:47

be first piece and if

4:49

they're interested sure there's various

4:52

strategies to stimulate

4:55

the breaths and

4:59

So let's start with slow and

5:02

sensual right when we think of

5:04

for play I don't think anyone is

5:07

thinking like slapping the boobs immediately, you

5:09

know, I know it's not I

5:15

want to be warmed up before you slap them

5:17

like It's

5:20

like slapping the bag with wine, you know, you don't

5:22

want to do that to my chest, please Grinding

5:25

chicken thighs like We

5:30

don't need it a womanly

5:32

human person A

5:35

womanly human person. I like

5:37

it. That's why I'm a womanly human. Yes. I'm

5:39

a womanly human Yes, I want to all right.

5:41

How do you warm it up massage? I

5:43

want it. I want to feel like it's sensual

5:46

and that you pay attention. So I believe you're

5:48

the giver it's very important

5:50

that you focus and be attentive as

5:52

you do the chest

5:54

or the breast massage I

5:56

would recommend using actually coconut

6:00

oil if you're

6:02

thinking like more yeah

6:04

more like different sensations because dry

6:06

massage is good too but I

6:09

think coconut oil or other essential

6:11

oils that to the liking of

6:13

the receiver can

6:15

enhance the feeling and when there

6:17

is that friction between oil and

6:20

hands and breath it

6:22

heats like temperature wise

6:25

so it will be warmer and

6:27

warmer helps also like blood flow

6:29

to the area it helps feel

6:31

feeling more like pleasurable so

6:33

I would say using some type of

6:35

lubricant like essential oils

6:38

or coconut oil would be really

6:40

great with this strategy of sensual

6:42

breath massage I

6:44

would say using both

6:47

hands would be great and kind of

6:49

going in a circular motion first right

6:53

while squeezing as well when

6:56

it comes to incorporating like touching

6:59

the nipples I would also so

7:01

like massage the areola first and

7:04

then try like soft

7:07

pull or soft kind

7:09

of playing with the nipple with the fingers

7:11

and see how it feels and ask

7:13

for feedback always as a

7:15

receiver like do you um can

7:17

I pull them or like do you want me

7:20

to pull them because some people really feel turned

7:22

on when they're pulled but something

7:24

really hate it so yeah so

7:26

you got to be careful yeah

7:28

I've definitely I've definitely

7:30

had partners that go straight

7:33

in for like the pinch and

7:35

it's like it's almost like they want my nipples

7:38

to be hard so they try

7:40

to get them hard by like pinching

7:42

it's like I don't want

7:44

that just take your time and things

7:46

will rise naturally like the bread it

7:49

will rise on its own exactly

7:52

like the bread sexier

7:54

than a bread analogy than a

7:56

bread analogy in the bedroom But

8:00

it's kind of like the clitoris. It's like

8:02

you don't want to just go in like

8:04

bang bang bang You want to massage it

8:07

first like help the blood flow to the

8:09

area, right? So the breath is the same

8:12

I would say the first strategy being

8:14

like a sensual and slow massage and

8:16

then we can kind of graduate

8:19

to like a more dominant

8:22

play of the breath where

8:24

it involves like more squeezing

8:27

like more intention more dominant

8:30

energy playing with the breath this

8:32

can help I think the receiver

8:34

to feel very like Wasn't

8:36

it you that told me you do like

8:38

like praise King almost? Yeah,

8:41

I'm pretty sure that was me You

8:44

or you like the

8:46

feeling of like almost being taken

8:48

advantage of during fact. Yes. Yeah.

8:50

Yeah I think that

8:52

feeling like the dominance of

8:55

the person giving the breath massage with

8:57

a more like Like

8:59

can you see ever feel like oh

9:01

my gosh, like, you know, I'm like

9:03

I'm such a good girl being a

9:06

good submissive Mm-hmm. And yeah, that's a

9:08

step up from the slow and sensual

9:10

strategy. Are you a fan of this

9:12

kind of progression? I Really

9:15

am I love it because I have smaller

9:18

breasts and I've always been a little insecure

9:20

about it and so if

9:22

I can feel like there's attention being paid

9:24

with slow and sensual and then graduating

9:27

into a more aggressive and like

9:29

I'm into it feeling then that

9:31

feels like Okay, this isn't

9:34

a part I need to be conscious of

9:36

right now like you're having a good time

9:38

I'm feeling comfortable and confident and so when

9:40

there is like long-term attention

9:42

to it Like in

9:45

this arc, it does feel good. I feel like

9:47

that would be a really nice thing to feel

9:49

in the bedroom Yeah, so that would be my

9:51

strategy and for my everyday kind of sex it

9:53

would end there But You

9:56

know, I Always want to offer alternative

9:58

breast play. Where if

10:00

you are into a week an

10:02

awful involved things like impact play

10:05

right. We can unlock things like

10:07

slapping some people like their cities

10:09

like flat. Fucking

10:12

like punching bag. you know that one

10:14

of the arcade or you times and

10:16

I learned. A

10:19

lesson I figured why I had

10:21

the who's daddy's girl and like

10:23

cities let like slap the kiddies

10:25

ah okay, nibble awful like them

10:28

like flawed ah or his men.

10:30

One of those and like Bdsm

10:32

tools. Ah, you can also think

10:34

of alternative play as like other

10:37

types of play like wax play

10:39

you can offer more lax on

10:41

to the brass and for some

10:43

people that nipples that I can

10:46

do nipples. Okay,

10:48

suspense. There's women love like only

10:50

I love like would back poured

10:53

onto my nipple. Our i'm relieved

10:55

Nine One is I'm like oh

10:57

fuck it's on the left. The

10:59

feels. Good and move like a tiny

11:01

bit of. Like. Shock and first

11:04

but yeah it must win it from

11:06

a fast and more than it feels

11:08

really good. So if you're into home

11:11

her native breath play you can try

11:13

the wax play. You can try Impact

11:15

play on them. You can also try

11:18

temperature a play on them. People like

11:20

using ice cubes on the nipple. Oh

11:23

yeah, one on drinking hot tea

11:25

or like hot water and and

11:27

suck on the nipple. Oh.

11:32

Oct. Amazon's name hussein know I

11:34

might have to do so much

11:37

to deal but I mean these,

11:39

this is a pretty comprehensive like

11:41

press and nipple play. Yeah.

11:44

Absolutely so. I am someone who's

11:46

been with. Men: And

11:48

I think nipple play is fine, but I

11:51

don't know if it feels good to do

11:53

to them. but I love nipples. I think

11:55

nipples are so fun to put your mental

11:57

level. Some men do love it Like. my

12:00

ex loved his nipple played

12:02

with. So I think it's

12:04

a very individualized thing. Okay.

12:07

And can men get nipple

12:09

gasms like women

12:12

can? Yes. Yes. Really?

12:14

Yeah, they also have nerve endings.

12:16

It's like anatomically correct. Like they

12:18

have nerve endings. Why not? If,

12:20

if they don't feel good, it's

12:23

probably a mental block, which is

12:25

okay. Not everyone has to

12:27

work on overcoming all of their bodily

12:29

mental blocks. Like, sometimes it's just a

12:32

preference. Right. Like my

12:34

husband, like he really does not like

12:36

them being touched. That's fine.

12:38

But I do know that for people

12:40

who have had great experiences

12:42

with them, like for men who have

12:44

had great experiences, they tend to really

12:46

love it. Oh,

12:49

okay. So it's really, Oh, that's a shame.

12:52

I don't know if you've heard like women

12:54

that are like, that are saying like, Oh,

12:57

my boyfriend wants me to play with his

12:59

nipples. Like so weird. Yeah,

13:01

I know exactly what you mean. It almost

13:04

feels like if I, if

13:06

I've done it to partners, they've laughed

13:09

at it because it seems like

13:11

a feminine act to do to

13:13

them. So it's almost like don't do that. But it's

13:15

like, but I wanna like, it sounds really fun. If

13:17

it doesn't feel good, obviously I won't. But I know

13:19

exactly what you're talking about with the shame, because it's

13:21

almost like it's more of a feminine act than something

13:24

I could do to them. It's the same thing with

13:26

the butthole. Like, it's

13:28

great men attaching sexual

13:31

orientation to their body parts.

13:35

Body parts are just body parts.

13:37

If you ask any medical doctor,

13:39

they probably don't ask like, what's

13:41

your sexual orientation when they operate

13:43

on these body parts. So

13:45

you know, body parts, your

13:47

nipples are just nipples. Men,

13:50

women, non-pinary, whoever. Right.

13:54

Just your assholes. Absolutely.

13:56

And I'm going to get to that next because

13:58

I have a lot of asshole. I always have

14:00

a lot of asshole questions. But if

14:02

we're putting nipples in our mouth, what

14:04

are the go-to strokes you can do

14:07

or things you can do with your

14:09

teeth that would feel good or be

14:11

like arousing? Ooh, yeah.

14:13

I mean, always start with nibbles.

14:16

Like you never want to start

14:18

immediately like teeth, maybe nibbling with

14:20

your lips, maybe nibbling with

14:22

your lips first. And

14:25

then- Okay. And then graduate

14:27

into like using the teeth to

14:29

like nibble like this. But

14:32

then ask like, does it feel good? If

14:35

they go like, oh yeah, that feels good, then maybe

14:38

you can do a little bit harder. And

14:40

you can also grind like this. Oh.

14:45

Yeah. That's fun. Like you can

14:47

stay still and then just grind

14:49

your teeth without like chopping, right?

14:51

Without chomping on while. You can do like a little

14:53

chop, you know, but you can also

14:55

do like the grind. I

14:58

think ultimately most people just like them

15:00

being like licked and sucked. Women,

15:03

like I've talked to lots of women about

15:05

nibbles and most, not all,

15:08

some people don't like the nibbles being played

15:10

with, but most do like

15:12

the licking and the sucking. Maybe

15:15

it's like, maybe it's biological. Yeah.

15:20

Like people that don't want to be

15:22

moms, like it's just maybe biological and

15:24

internal to like like them being sucked.

15:27

Although all my mom friends are like,

15:29

dude, breastfeeding is the worst. Yeah.

15:33

I mean, cause it gets raw, right? Your

15:35

kid's on there for like nine months. So

15:38

at that point, that's just too much.

15:41

Yeah. Every single day. Cause yeah, you make me

15:43

do a nipple play, we don't do it every

15:45

day. Right. Yeah.

15:48

Cause It does tend to get like, I've had

15:50

partners who spend a little bit too long with

15:52

just their fingers, like on my straight nipple. And

15:54

It just feels a little too raw by the

15:56

end of it. Yeah. And Almost like it hurts

15:58

being in shirts in my. Broad because like

16:01

the raw dog my nipples for

16:03

just way too long. Yeah you

16:05

a sick or. It's

16:07

change the inner well you

16:09

know on my tab is

16:11

always like especially and after

16:13

care of. The whole play.

16:15

So it's like every one can do whatever

16:17

they want that with the nipples. like in

16:20

they can do this often send you want

16:22

to say there and they can graduate into

16:24

more aggressive. They can even try those alternatives.

16:26

Nibble place at the Hobby and that a

16:29

day. I think everybody needs. After.

16:31

Care of nipple play and I

16:33

always love using coconut oil and

16:35

massaging them in. It's like skincare.

16:38

Ah holy coconut oil as anti bacterial

16:40

and so it just kind of making

16:42

me feel good Overall it's also like

16:44

a mentor methodically. okay early. really both

16:46

are to do a good spirits are

16:49

you there And ago I have their

16:51

names to the hum names. Are you

16:53

to be superfluous? I don't. What are

16:55

your names of you you gonna cover

16:57

with them together Now. Kind.

17:00

Of I name everything Psyche Ike I

17:02

need my car and him all my

17:04

appliances. I don't know why have any

17:06

money for thirty? I like handle the

17:08

energy Yes. Food my

17:10

nightmare size and energy. Gothic. My left

17:13

boob is bigger isn't you left? Book

17:15

editor to the is a very common

17:17

thing. I

17:19

think so. Yeah, My. Left

17:21

boob is like I think we left. Food

17:23

is bigger. If again leaves bigger is ah

17:25

yes that is so weird. I don't know

17:27

why that happens, but I know it's very.

17:29

Normal that one breast is usually a little bit

17:31

bigger. I think so. Yeah, so my

17:34

left boob is saucer. Because.

17:36

He longer can. Like. She's a

17:38

Super Bowl Beautiful city. always.

17:41

her nipples always hard to

17:43

resist. Citizens

17:46

you're talking about her since you

17:48

came on outlay of a little

17:50

bits that serves she's a progressive

17:52

love I love the she is

17:54

yo bit. Of

17:57

processes. I.

17:59

Like it was. The other one, the one of

18:01

the right time says she's A. she's a little bit

18:03

more modest. More

18:05

specifically, the circling around. A more

18:07

modest she's always kind of hiding the nipple

18:09

though he thought. Okay

18:11

yeah when that happens to the toss

18:14

it also Natasha upper you know in

18:16

hello these is kind of like properly

18:18

in there like my left side over

18:20

their. Job is. Just

18:23

strong arm and are waiting to

18:25

hear is still there. Anyways

18:29

yeah I'm like of love it or I'll have

18:32

you think about of your own can say the

18:34

be were it okay for them and yeah you

18:36

can't. Have. Less than Your Kids as

18:38

be worse off a Think About it has

18:40

yes this one's more in charge and more

18:43

both basis and like that and I like

18:45

ones. The thing about more shy is funny

18:47

Tiffany and wait a minute, what's up, What's

18:49

like and in charge name? Burn.

18:55

Beatrice. Kidnapped non and I was

18:57

going go sale but that from. The

18:59

Show It on those. So

19:03

Obama. I kind of love that. Are.

19:06

You want to learn. This

19:10

one is Ruth Gator Been yeah,

19:12

bader Ginsburg com. And. What

19:15

Is she? She's mighty. yeah, but

19:17

just shire. Ah she's

19:19

She's Swedes his size.

19:21

You see Charlotte's of

19:24

ah earth in Charlotte.

19:27

I panel of it as some good

19:29

news is they move less and the

19:32

trial and say. Oh

19:34

my God. Perfect. Okay that minority I'd

19:36

as any other girl he won their

19:38

boobies named call me call soccer Tara

19:41

she does so many things and nipple

19:43

naming as one of them So many

19:45

been. Over

19:47

Go that's amazing and will you mentions

19:49

the but a couple times and I

19:52

definitely want to dive down into that

19:54

button balls are two of the other

19:56

be words that I wants to pay

19:58

a little bit more. Attention to.

20:01

When. I'm talking about playing with the

20:03

but. I. Kind of go back to the

20:05

same nipple play like with the partners I've had

20:07

where I love just like. Plane.

20:10

with a booty first and foremost, but

20:12

it can kind of feel a little

20:14

like. I'm in charge when I'm

20:16

playing with the but. I don't

20:18

know what else could lucky me do

20:20

with like the cheeks, the cheeks who

20:22

I mean. I always think it's so

20:24

passionate with my partner. Like links, links,

20:26

sheath, Oh

20:29

yeah mine is like get in there like

20:31

liggett and like might is leave a bite

20:33

mark. How how hot is it Did have

20:35

like a little bruce the next day. It

20:38

totally is. Oh, that's so funny. He

20:41

declares that on his own volition. Was

20:44

you say is that we do not

20:46

have issues. Systems. Switching suffixes are very

20:48

nice. think the So it's so

20:50

hard to like leave a mark

20:53

as the all of that psychology

20:55

is really hot. So ah young

20:57

like Lake Union Piety the cheeks

20:59

I think it's really hot leaving

21:01

your yeah marking territory. Yeah.

21:04

I love that I would. I

21:07

appreciate kind of. What?

21:09

Would you call biting like

21:11

carnal place? Ah yeah. like

21:13

of animalistic re like Newman's.

21:16

By and like the threat. Things

21:18

together set things apart. So

21:20

many animalistic, like carnal play.

21:22

Really like that. It's when

21:24

you're in a long long

21:26

term relationship. Like anything past

21:28

two years, it's almost like

21:30

it needs a lot of

21:32

prep. yeah

21:35

he parnell because it's more than you

21:37

vinci every single day you leave the

21:39

same bed for years and yeah for

21:41

people who want to incorporate more of

21:43

this like when we talk about these

21:46

like passionate sexual encounters it takes a

21:48

lot of effort to get into and

21:50

people need to set aside time and

21:52

intention to do it i don't want

21:54

people that are listening that are in

21:57

long term relationship to feel turned on

21:59

when we talk about these like carnal

22:01

acts because they might feel like oh

22:03

girl like you know

22:05

you're just dating like we've been together

22:07

five ten years like this isn't happening

22:10

it can't it

22:12

just needs that like intention and time

22:15

yeah no that's such a good point to bring

22:17

up too because if Cass were here she would

22:19

talk about that as well like she's been with

22:21

her partner for seven years and I would

22:24

assume that jumping into the

22:26

heat of the moment you know

22:28

that that was like definitely one year two

22:30

year in type of energy but when you're

22:32

talking about being passionate as

22:34

you're more comfortable setting aside time and

22:36

attention to doing that so is

22:39

that like kind

22:41

of doing more foreplay throughout the day or like

22:43

planning sex what does it look like to be

22:45

more intentional if you want to get like

22:48

rough and carnal hmm I think

22:50

it's both I think that you

22:52

can do all kinds of tricks

22:54

to make sure that you

22:56

maintain a healthy amount of like passion

22:58

within your sexual encounters with your spouses

23:00

or long term partners what

23:03

I really love is two things like

23:05

first thing is making sure you insert

23:07

play throughout the day and that can

23:09

look so different for different people some

23:11

people they love like smacking the butt

23:13

in the living room or you know

23:16

cuddling like cuddle up while you watch TV

23:18

and then maybe like massaging the other

23:21

person's kind of genitalia like meanwhile right

23:23

like not necessarily trying to initiate sex

23:25

but like just to feel it out

23:27

you know started dating like

23:29

just feeling it out but

23:32

it can also be you can also like

23:34

sexed you can send them you can start

23:36

sexing with them during the day but then

23:39

the other part of

23:41

it is making time so yeah it

23:43

could look like hey should we eat

23:45

early today so we can play after

23:48

or maybe it could be like who

23:50

can we schedule like a Sunday afternoon to

23:52

play and then go out to eat like

23:54

go out for dinner after right

23:56

it's being more intentional about

23:58

these times than hoping it

24:01

pops up out of nowhere and

24:03

when it doesn't like both people

24:05

are just disappointed and resentful that

24:08

the other person doesn't initiate mm-hmm

24:12

yeah so leave don't leave

24:14

room for assumptions like communicate what you

24:16

need if you're like hey babe we

24:18

haven't had like long sex

24:20

like for a while we've only had quickies can

24:22

we make sure we set aside time this weekend

24:24

to do it yeah

24:27

yeah I love these reminders all the

24:29

time because it's so fun to dive

24:31

into conversations like we're

24:33

having you know like the things that we can

24:35

do with the body parts and how we get

24:37

adventurous and all of these things but it is

24:39

a real part of the

24:42

conversation is like being intentional and being

24:44

having the conversation and also feeling

24:46

okay if like this just doesn't happen in your

24:48

relationship all the time like you do have to

24:50

work towards it or be intentional

24:53

about creating space for it so very

24:55

good point sex doesn't

24:57

have to be penetration or end in

24:59

penetration like if we're doing button massages

25:02

and like licking biting it can just

25:04

end there I can just be a

25:06

butt war shipping session and it ends

25:09

you like you bit me out like that feels

25:11

good thank you bye bye yeah it

25:14

doesn't really have to go anywhere you know

25:16

when people think oh but all of these

25:18

things that we just talked about it all

25:20

and like it all leads to penetrative sex

25:22

and then like you know but I'm not

25:25

feeling up for it that's okay you don't

25:27

have to have penetrative sex like ever mm-hmm

25:29

ever I know it doesn't have to be

25:31

the end goal and that's another one

25:33

of the things that I've loved learning

25:36

through this podcast is like orgasm penetrative

25:38

sex and the definition of sex all

25:40

of those things can be your own

25:42

quote-unquote goals or they can be your

25:44

own definition and no sex act

25:46

or even how however rowdy you get doesn't have

25:48

to lead to anything else if you don't want

25:51

it to but let's say you

25:53

do let's say you

25:55

want to stick a finger or

25:57

two into the bum Then.

26:01

I. Know that there has to be some conversation

26:03

before you do that. So what Is Three

26:05

and tree? Our. Pre

26:07

requisite. Sold

26:09

for But play? Oh my gosh,

26:12

I mean obviously you know all

26:14

of these plays. And. Loss.

26:16

Ah, a conversation prior to

26:18

and happening and in this

26:20

conversation especially when we're talking

26:23

but play for both men

26:25

and women on. Is

26:27

seen as a more like taboo

26:29

sexual act if you well you

26:31

know cause like. Penis. In

26:34

vagina is a given. Rarely

26:36

gets that's that's what most people

26:38

would say that. Ah, Nowadays people

26:40

are much more comfortable with

26:42

oral sex. ah they're much

26:44

more comfortable with like hand

26:46

jobs and seems like stimulation

26:48

so I do something that

26:50

is still kind of taboo

26:53

is a know for men.

26:56

Or women as well in some

26:58

areas ah of the country or

27:00

the world but for men particularly

27:02

it's don't quite table so this

27:04

conversation have to sound like. Something

27:07

along the line of us together

27:09

exploring rather like i wanna do

27:12

this to you. right?

27:15

And who they only. Last week we had

27:17

Sassou Nguesso getting this we wanted to try

27:19

and I want us to try something new.

27:22

I heard from the Honeydew Me podcast and

27:24

they were talking about massaging the but whole

27:26

and then like a little bit of a

27:28

rim job and I just thought we would

27:31

have fun trying it would do you think.

27:35

It's always good to ask the like present

27:37

the idea of them as the person what

27:39

beeping first rather than like I want to

27:41

do with. Such.

27:44

A good point because that sounds completely

27:46

different of saying i wanna do this

27:49

to you right vs I heard this

27:51

and I would love for us to

27:53

explore this together. Yeah, I actually did

27:55

like with an online light therapy session

27:57

live on Twitch with a Twitch creator.

28:00

And it was like I lived couples therapy

28:02

so it was the it was a couple

28:04

under young rider like in their early twenties

28:06

and a girl keep seeing on i want

28:08

a pet you I want to pick you

28:11

so him the he goes like was like

28:13

i'm on I am I going to want

28:15

to do it because you like pushing me.

28:18

right? Right to So I always tell people

28:20

like you never want to approach a conversation

28:22

like I want to do This. To you.

28:26

Very. Fair because the other just feels

28:28

like. It's. Not a consensual environment anymore

28:30

and like okay so this is for you and

28:32

you never know if I wanted yeah yeah he

28:34

and how interview as my body. Yes,

28:37

My second body. So if they're good

28:39

with the go ahead, you're saying a

28:41

little anal. Must. He said. Massaging,

28:45

Like that the whole on the outside or

28:47

the inside my if we're going and a

28:49

whole on the outside you see in the

28:52

some but also loop it up don't like

28:54

account don't dry massage I've had of man

28:56

that like likes to like dryness hot and

28:58

dry finger the but whole he got like

29:01

him roy so i was gonna say i

29:03

thought was one of my questions as like

29:05

isn't that a risk if you're just. Going

29:09

in idea of money only bought like

29:11

you're asking me about your him roiling

29:13

what your but play routine and day

29:15

and he was explaining to me and

29:17

like obviously you're getting him for like

29:19

hemorrhoids because yeah how do they should

29:21

use of lube it out like way

29:23

way lou be first so sure that

29:25

you either use. Lube. That

29:27

you like or are my go to

29:29

coconut oil. To

29:32

massage that area. I actually recently

29:34

have this done to me by

29:36

my husband and it feels a

29:38

maze a new. He uses coconut

29:40

oil all over his thumbs and

29:42

index finger and I feel like

29:44

massage at like Bears or L

29:46

My More While who's a vibrator

29:48

and my clear. That

29:51

sounds like a lot of fun. a

29:54

lot on a lot is going on

29:56

but any i like the thing cause

29:58

i am feeling when a came

30:00

like it almost felt like

30:03

stronger because my butthole

30:05

was also very like clenched.

30:08

He stayed on the outside though you're saying

30:10

right? Yeah he was just plumping the hole

30:13

using his like lubed thumb and I

30:15

was using a vibrator on top. But

30:18

yeah for those that also like

30:20

to play inside you can kind

30:22

of massage the butthole first, always

30:24

massage the butthole first because you

30:26

want to make sure it's like

30:28

in a warm condition so it's

30:30

more stretchy. Whenever the skin

30:32

is cold it will

30:35

constrict and it will not

30:37

be expanding or it will

30:39

not feel good on the inside. So

30:41

make sure that it's warm and massaged.

30:44

Then when you enter use one finger

30:46

first make sure you also don't have

30:48

long ass nails like this. Yeah fucking

30:51

talons going with your ass. Exactly. Is

30:53

that a woman or a cat? Or

30:56

a sloth. That

31:04

would be so painful. A lot for

31:06

women. I think so. Yeah because they

31:08

get on around a... Yep

31:10

you're right you're completely right. Sloth

31:13

nails if you're doing anal. So

31:16

yeah make sure you use the one

31:18

finger first go in and kind of

31:20

like doing this like all around massaging

31:22

it all around on the inside and

31:24

then go like this right

31:26

in the circular motion using

31:28

the finger and if you want you

31:31

can stretch you can try and

31:33

start like stretching it. I

31:38

learned this from the gaze and they

31:40

always like stretch their butthole before they

31:43

have penetrative sex and it

31:45

always feels like so much better than a hole

31:49

that's not stretched out yet. A hole

31:51

that's not quite stretched out. How

31:53

do you stretch your own butthole? Well

31:56

you can do it your own or you can have your partner

31:58

do it as a part of the Or play which

32:00

I be as easy her like. I like

32:03

having linens when time like mythology and then

32:05

putting a finger in and stretching it on

32:07

the inside but you can also do it

32:09

yourself by again like Luby up your finger,

32:12

sit in like a Yogi Squat and the

32:14

Uptown. Put. Your finger up and

32:16

stretch around the whole. Ah

32:19

yeah. okay yeah yeah. I guess

32:21

I've never gotten to that position

32:24

before. I've never use my hands

32:26

on my own, but before I

32:28

have tried anal beads. And

32:30

actually, I have beef with anal

32:32

beads because they're too flimsy who

32:35

that if I'm a beginner. Figuring.

32:37

It out first of all like just getting

32:39

used to touching and being near my butt

32:41

hole. I don't want to have to like

32:43

shove beans up my but I would rather

32:45

use. A. Plug

32:48

that kind of is like obviously

32:50

stiffer and goes in itself. Speed

32:52

depends on the technology. Like Llandeilo

32:55

has one that's hard so it's

32:57

a it's oh darn some very

32:59

small and and bigger and bigger

33:01

and bigger. So. I'm

33:04

kind of just use that first

33:06

ball. Like. That members be

33:08

without movie any deeper and now just

33:10

be like your level one kind of

33:12

play right on but that one is

33:15

days straight up it doesn't go like

33:17

flimsy so i be it just depends

33:19

on the product and the brand but

33:22

I when i like anal beads in

33:24

terms of training because I can just

33:26

like. Have anal sex like

33:28

a kid? Yeah time. So it's like

33:30

okay. we're going to go on a

33:33

staycation as we get an i want

33:35

have anal sex. I'll be like okay.

33:37

so Thursday of the like the authors

33:39

and little ones. Butler. Sized

33:41

hole, the size rim job and

33:44

like anal. Maybe one, maybe two

33:46

balls max. Ah,

33:48

okay. massaging it around while I play

33:50

with my plate or while he plays

33:52

on my plate. But

33:55

I need for app right? Yeah,

33:57

yeah, totally what can you do.

34:00

If you're in a moment where like you

34:02

are engaging an anal play and you feel

34:04

yourself can a cleansing up clenching up and

34:06

getting a little like tight down there can

34:08

either you're nervous about it or it's like

34:10

feeling tight. Who.

34:13

Taking a deep. Accrediting.

34:16

The bread to the Times. So.

34:18

Like a deep breath through your nose.

34:21

Down to the tommy and then just keep

34:23

taking be brett. That

34:25

will. Definitely help loosen up

34:27

that area more lose can't help

34:29

as well and Delta perhaps whatever

34:32

else and usually turns you on

34:34

may be is. Playing.

34:36

with the nipple like have your partner

34:38

play with your nipples maybe it maybe

34:40

a vibrator and played your clear it

34:42

so that you know this more blood

34:44

flow around that area in general. Ah

34:47

Raye. Battle. At home. Okay,

34:50

And what can we expect for the next

34:52

day? Like let's say this is kind of

34:54

your first or second time playing with year

34:56

but whore having someone else play with it.

34:59

Is. it gonna be like sore and

35:01

what can we do to kind

35:03

of miss get better yeah if

35:06

you have penetrate of eight like

35:08

a be up anal sex in

35:10

muslims or. Okay,

35:12

but if you're just like massaging

35:14

about whole fingering it and then

35:16

like leaking it like rim job

35:18

the no repercussions. Okay, nothing said.

35:20

Nothing should feel uncomfortable or hurt

35:22

the next day. I get my

35:24

butt hole massaged regularly so I'm

35:26

pretty sure the hell are like

35:28

leave earth as I target of

35:30

a pain or like poop a

35:33

hung out randomly. The deficit. I

35:36

would have known about. This

35:38

I'm know that you can just not talk to

35:40

me. Not to

35:43

love Thought about anal

35:45

sex. Yeah. The next day won't

35:47

be sore. Yeah,

35:49

okay, so just prepare for that going

35:51

in and take whatever. Precautions to make yourself

35:53

feel a lot more comfortable than X That. Like

35:55

if you have a long trip to Asia

35:57

where you like have to sit on. playing

36:00

for 20 hours, do not have anal sex today.

36:02

Do not have anal sex today before. Right. Okay.

36:05

Great tip. Solid tip. Uncomfortable. Uncomfortable.

36:09

Well, I want to wrap up with a little bit of

36:12

ball play and I have one very specific

36:14

question that I want to end with, but

36:16

to begin with, um, what are your

36:19

go-to tips and tricks for ball play?

36:21

What are your favorite like hand maneuvers

36:23

or mouth maneuvers? Yes.

36:26

So my favorite go-to is

36:28

giving my partner a blow

36:30

job, hand job combo while

36:32

using my left hand fondling

36:35

the ball. Okay.

36:37

And it's explosive for a

36:40

woman male partner. Um,

36:43

it's really a pro move because I used

36:45

to just give the blow job with a

36:47

hand job combo, but then I realized that

36:49

from, from a good friend of mine that's

36:51

in the porn industry, fondling

36:54

the balls as well can really like

36:56

stimulate that whole area. And when they

36:59

come, they come harder. Um,

37:01

so I would do the

37:03

blow job, hand job combo, use my left

37:05

hand, fondle the balls. And as he's about

37:08

to come, I grab it harder, but

37:10

not too hard because it can startle

37:12

them and they can lose their, literally

37:14

lose their erection. And

37:17

so just make sure when you talk it

37:19

harder, when they're

37:22

about to come, you like go up

37:24

and like tuck it in, like not

37:26

don't pull, don't like, too hard,

37:28

just, just be there like snug. And

37:31

it will help them come

37:33

like even harder. So that's my

37:36

go-to tip. You're welcome. Okay. Everybody.

37:39

You're welcome. Your partner is going to be

37:41

head over heels. And

37:45

because your, this is my final question

37:47

and because you are, um, my

37:50

favorite dirty talk expert pro, what

37:53

is something, what is dirty talk? You can

37:55

say to balls. Yeah.

37:58

Oh my God. One

38:02

of my favorites is dirty is

38:04

does daddy want to put his balls

38:06

on my face? He

38:10

literally gets up on his feet and like come

38:12

over and like sit down and put his balls

38:14

in my face and in my mouth like does

38:16

daddy want to put his balls in my mouth?

38:20

Okay, do you praise them at all?

38:23

Like do you say like cool big

38:25

balls or like? Yes,

38:29

praise. Praises are always great, right? Like

38:31

it's great for men. So

38:33

like, I always go like your

38:35

balls are so big or like

38:38

oh I love having your balls in my mouth or

38:41

like your like you know

38:43

your balls smell so good. Okay.

38:47

Yeah, after shower. Cause

38:49

you know, after shower. Because you

38:51

know, after shower is like a danger area. That's

38:54

a specifically timed compliment that I can

38:56

appreciate. I

38:58

think some couples do this for fun and

39:00

sure if it's in their repertoire they can

39:03

do it but I don't recommend a lot

39:05

of people do it. It's baby talk to

39:07

the ball. Like baby talk to

39:09

the ball and penis in general.

39:12

I have heard couples that came to my

39:14

coaching practice that do it and it's

39:17

a turn on which is fine but I

39:19

find most men do not like that. That's

39:22

a super fair thing to not

39:24

like. I appreciate that. Those balls

39:27

are so cute. They're so cute.

39:29

They're so small and cute. It's

39:33

just the last thing you want to

39:36

hear. Even if you're complimenting, you're like

39:38

it sounds like you're lying. Yeah. It

39:41

sounds like a big old lie. And

39:43

no one wants the balls that are small and cute.

39:47

No one wants that. I don't think. They get accommodating. What

39:52

is it? Your boobs. Sasha. What's

39:55

yours? Are we doing Ruth? Ruth

39:58

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