www.homoliciousliving.comIn this episode, we are going to discuss how we behave and think of ourselves when we are in or out of a relationship.  We will talk about discovering your “core” self & not losing your “core” in a relationship or after breakups.Delicious Dish:Cortney will talk about making a HOMOlicious Cup of Joe; adding coconut oil, cloves and pumpkin creamer to your coffee.Mind Body Green lists the benefits ofCoconut oilClovesPumpkinRecipe for "HOMOlicious Cup of Joe!"Grind beans with 1/2 tsp whole clovesBrew coffee the way you likeAdd a tablespoon of organic unrefined coconut oil & whole made pumpkin creamer stir & enjoyRecipe for Pumpkin CreamerSoak 1/2 cup of raw pumpkin seeds over nightStrain & add to high speed blender with 2 cups filtered water, 4 dates or 2 tablespoons of grade B maple syrup.  Put in air tight container in fridge.  Expires after a week so use daily!Defining who you are to your core:A core person knows what make themselves happy and what makes them shine.They work on cultivating a healthy version of themselves.Pay attention to the type of person you attract to see if there is something else you need to work on with your core.Be your best self to attract the best person for you.Defining a healthy relationship and being the same core person in an out of a relationship:Feeling SAFE to express yourself; your emotions, dreams and fears.TRUST the other person.Establish BOUNDARIES and AGREEMENTS; and the other person must have good intentions to me. After a break-up:Re-evaluate what worked and didn’t workWhat did you like or dislike about your ex?What did you like or dislike about yourself?Discuss going to therapy afterwards and how that helped to better myselfFeel the feelings you are having. A quote by Amy E. Smith (from The Joy Junkie Show) “Feeling your emotions are the fastest way to heal but it is what we resist the most.”Take responsibility for your actions and behavior, and how that might have led to the failure of itMake lists of what you want your next relationship and partner to be likeKnow that you must love yourself completely, and more than anyone else, in order to be healthy and happy for the next relationshipIt’s okay to “have fun” in between relationships, just be healthy and separate your need for the “human connection” of sex and actually building a new relationshipGive yourself a timeframe. For example, don’t begin a new relationship for at least 6 months, or whatever amount of time you feel comfortable with. Absolutes before the next relationship:If it was a marriage that ended, make sure your divorce is final.Don’t still live with your ex.Don’t have any financial accounts with your ex.Minimalize or have no contact with your ex so you have “time to heal.”Make sure you’re not thinking about your ex when you wake up in the morning or go to bed at night.When you can talk to your ex without missing them or feeling very angry or frustrated, that’s a very good sign that you’re over them.Above all “Listen to your gut!!”"52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life" by Andrea OwenThe only way to get what you want is say what you want.Never look to the other person to define who you are.Love the person you are outside and in the relationship.The person you choose for the relationship should be your biggest fan.When you’re ready to date, look back at your list of what you want out of your next relationship and partner.Things that make you go Hmmm? Or MmmmMmmm   Hailee Steinfeld song, "Love Myself"Mmmm   The Intensity vibrator by Pour Moi, WOW! It’s kegels with a happy ending.Thank you!We want to thank all the podcasts that inspired us to start HOMOlicious Living:The Joy Junkie, with Amy and Mr. SmithDishing up Nutrition, for your daily nutrition adviceSex with Emily, inspiring us to stay sexually freeHappier with Gretchen Rubin, with easy to implement tips and tools to be happyThe Jillian Michaels Show, because she’s Jillian MichaelsThe School of Greatness, with an incredible entrepreneur Lewis HowesThe Rich Roll Project, plant powered wellness advocate and ultra-athleteThe Men’s Room, from our very own KISW 99.9 FMQuote of the weekWe leave you with this quote by Eckharte Tolle, “If you can get the inside right, the outside with fall into place.”We would love to hear from you, so check us out on Facebook or at www.homoliciousliving.com. Subscribe, rate and review us, and share your topic ideas.Have a HOMOlicious day!