In this episode of Hidden Potential Podcast, Sarah welcomes John Romaniello. John shares a lot about polyamorous relationships, open relationships, BDSM practices, and all things kinky. John explains the dynamics that he built with his partner when it comes to flirtation, connection, and sexual encounters with other people. Despite being a taboo topic, John very easily shares the concept and main ideas of these topics.

John also talks about how important it is to be honest with the partner and how keeping an open dialogue is nothing but beneficial for both sides of the relation. Confidence is built through honesty, and having equality in a relationship is the key to make it all work. You will also learn what falls into the category of “kink practices”, what BDSM really means, and how to know if a person is willing to experiment. Tune in! 

“You can create specialness, but we all have this need to be special, we all have this need to be chosen, and what polyamory does is: it shows a mirror that my ego wants so desperately to feel that of all the human beings in the world, I am somehow superior for my partner.” – John Romaniello

Key Timestamps

[01:32] – Round of personal questions;

[06:11] – John explains the spectrum of polyamory;

[09:17] – How past relationships made John feel trapped;

[12:48] – Monogamy as a practice is a social condition;

[19:28] – Managing our curiosity towards polyamory;

[21:52] – The dynamics of an open relationship (healing traumas);

[25:00] – The idea of communal living and open relationships; 

[27:57] – John explains the hierarchy of polyamorous relationships;

[33:29] – How do we measure success in a relationship?

[37:34] – Heartbreaks can bring pleasure or pain;

[44:28] – Feeling a sense of emotional and sexual property is part of us;

[46:38] – John talks about his relationship with his fiancée;

[55:39] – Sharing things is nothing but beneficial for the relationship;

[01:01:35] – Attachment styles (avoiding hard conversations);

[01:07:10] – John’s definition of “kinky” practices;

[01:11:50] – How the dominance/submissive dynamic works;

[01:22:54] – John’s personal experiences with BDSM;

[01:27:21] – John explains how he started to share about these topics;

[01:30:13] – How meeting new people happens for John.

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About John Romaniello

John Romaniello is an entrepreneur, NY Times best-seller author and a coach for 7-Figure entrepreneurs. You can find him talking about polyamorous relationships and different sex practices on BDSM in his social media profiles.

Connect with John Romaniello!

Instagram: @johnromaniello

Website: www.johnromaniello.com

Connect with Sarah!

Instagram: @saffarisarah

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