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4:34

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4:37

deep dive into this episode called,

4:39

Mama, I'm a dominatrix. You don't

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4:43

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4:46

And may or may not have let me and

4:48

Mila dom him. After you listen to this

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4:52

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4:58

sub for us to dom, and maybe even

5:00

you. So make sure you click

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us out on March 16th in New York City.

5:08

And let's have some naughty fun. ["Mama,

5:13

I'm a dominatrix." by Marley

5:15

and Mila.] Welcome

5:29

back to Good Moms, Bad Choices.

5:31

I'm Erika. And I'm Mila. So

5:34

I just wanna get straight into it

5:36

because I'm fucking so excited because we

5:38

have a special guest today that I

5:40

have been like stalking when I can

5:43

because her pages constantly get deleted. And

5:47

I actually discovered her at a horrible decision

5:49

show. A shout out to Weezy and Mandy,

5:52

our girls. They invited us to a show

5:54

out in New York before COVID. And

5:57

Mistress Marley came on stage

5:59

with her... sub and I actually had my

6:01

homeboy with me and he his mind was

6:04

fucking blown and I was like I need

6:06

to get this amazing black woman on our

6:08

show like so when we came to New

6:10

York I was like Neela

6:12

if anything happens if

6:15

anything doesn't happen this shit has to happen

6:17

we have to get Mrs. Marley so Mrs.

6:19

Marley welcome to the show hi thanks for

6:21

having me thanks for coming yeah Mrs.

6:24

Marley is not only a Dom but

6:26

she's an educator an activist event curator

6:29

mogul and educator in the Dom world

6:31

she's been featured on Buzzfeed New York

6:33

Times like she's top-notch doming business and

6:35

she's also the founder of Black Dom

6:38

Sorority which we'll ask you about that

6:40

too later on in the show so

6:42

welcome to the show Mrs. Marley thank

6:45

you for having me guys um if

6:47

you're on our patreon you will also

6:49

see that we are joined by Mrs.

6:51

Marley's sub he is here kneeled on

6:53

a leash which

6:56

I'm sure we have even more questions

6:58

to ask I'm gonna talk in my

7:01

sexy voice today because Mrs. Marley has

7:03

inspired me to wear my stripper shoes

7:05

my sexy outfit and because I'm the

7:07

sex of the podcast whatever

7:10

I'm gonna talk in my I asked I asked her what the fuck

7:12

am I have the podcast she's like I don't

7:14

know bitch yeah but I'm the sex

7:16

I was like wow okay true

7:20

um so Marley how

7:24

did this begin how did this come about how

7:26

did you discover this amazing talent of yours and

7:28

then like not only discover it hone in on

7:30

it and profit from it so

7:32

I kind of came into

7:34

this work just like survival work so

7:36

I've always been a sex worker so

7:39

I was a stripper in college I

7:41

did some sugar baby stuff and

7:43

then when I came here to New York I

7:45

was in grad school for fashion after grad

7:48

school it was hard to find a fucking job out

7:50

here like nine to fives or whatever so

7:52

I ended up working at a swingers club that

7:55

I found on craigslist because that's the Aquarius thing

7:57

to do like why as an Aquarius wouldn't I

7:59

do that? I do some crazy shit like that.

8:01

Oh, you're in a quiff? Yeah, yeah. Okay. So

8:04

I apply, I got the job, and then while I

8:06

was working, there was an older lady that worked in

8:08

coat check, and she was a dominatrix in her past.

8:11

And she would just share stories about it and whatnot. I'm

8:13

like, you know what, let me like look this up. So

8:15

I looked up the dominatrix stuff, and at first I was

8:17

like, I don't know if this is for me. Like I've

8:19

always been dominant in the sense of telling people what I

8:22

need and what I want, but I'm like in the sense

8:24

of like controlling men, I don't know, like is that really

8:26

me? So I was like, no,

8:28

I've seen 50 Shades of Grey. You know, everyone has seen

8:30

50 Shades of Grey and thinks like that's what

8:32

it is when it's really a bad example. But

8:35

I kind of like put it

8:37

behind me, but then one day I searched like online how

8:39

to make money as a woman online, just being

8:42

sexy and dominant. And I found

8:44

financial domination. So I started off

8:46

in financial domination, which is insane.

8:48

Tell our listeners what financial domination

8:51

is. So basically financial domination, they

8:53

call it Fendom for sure. It's

8:55

a psychological kink where the dominant

8:57

controls the submissive's wallet. So

8:59

basically you get paid just for existing. Subs

9:02

basically get off by just sending you money and they

9:04

know like they'll never meet you or they don't want

9:06

anything in return. They just want you to take their

9:08

money. What the fuck? Sign me the

9:11

fuck up. I am doing life wrong. I

9:14

can't even get a nigga to like pay for

9:16

a dinner on a trip. Like what the fuck?

9:18

I'm in beginner level Dom. I don't know, let

9:20

me tell you Marley, I've been Dom-ing in my

9:22

DMs. Thank you to

9:24

Good Moms. We have a plethora of people. We

9:26

talk about a lot of shit. So our audience

9:28

is wide, but I do have a sub who

9:30

I've never met, but you know, I try to

9:32

talk shit on my DMs, but like I've run

9:34

out of shit to say. But

9:37

I do feel like if I can just bloom

9:39

a little bit into my dominatrix, maybe I can

9:41

get to level two. So. Well,

9:44

I'm your wife, so you have to split everything

9:46

with me. Well, he paid for our surf lesson.

9:48

So be happy. He did pay for our surf

9:50

lesson in Costa Rica. That's true. Yeah. You're

9:52

doing something right. Right? Right, I just need to recruit

9:55

more, which like, that's what I have. I have so

9:57

many questions. But okay. How do

9:59

you spot? How

10:01

do you spot a fin sub? Is that even

10:03

a word? I think I'm... Yeah, that's

10:05

the word. Okay. A fin sub.

10:08

Because honestly, I thought that it was just like this older,

10:11

white, non-assuming

10:14

man. But I'm looking at your sub

10:16

who's joining us here and he looks

10:19

pretty young and hip and

10:22

not white. And also, he's

10:24

not concealing his face. So,

10:27

how do you spot or do they just come

10:29

to you and they ask to be dumbed? So

10:31

it depends. So you have different subs that are

10:33

into different things, right? So one of his

10:35

kinks is not financial domination. So for instance,

10:38

I would do other things with him. But

10:40

as in spotting fin subs online, I

10:44

mean, they come to you. So it's

10:46

like a lot of them are anonymous. A lot of them

10:48

don't even have profile pictures, no real name up or anything

10:50

like that. They just send money to your cash app. So

10:52

I can be sitting here and getting money to my cash

10:55

app and I never know who it is. They'll never be

10:57

like, oh, I sent you something. It'll just be like, for

10:59

you goddess. And that's it. You know what? So

11:02

I've definitely gotten those messages in my DMs, but

11:04

I'd be thinking like my baby daddy is trying

11:06

to expose my honus. I'm

11:09

like, this niggas done had him. One of his niggas making an

11:11

account. And I get scared.

11:13

I'm like, oh my God, what if I

11:15

get exposed? And I don't know. So that's

11:18

really, that's typically how it is though. And

11:21

that I don't want to be found on the internet. Exactly.

11:24

So like financial domination, the biggest thing is being anonymous. So it's

11:26

like, I want to send you my money and I go to

11:28

who I am and I don't expect anything from you. So

11:31

like in your personal sex life, because

11:34

I'm sure it's separate, do

11:36

you enjoy being dominant in the bedroom

11:38

personally? Or is that just like, do

11:40

you do that only for your professional

11:42

life? I consider myself

11:44

a switch when it comes to like men I'm really

11:47

into. But I also

11:49

like, and women also, well no, with women I'm

11:51

dominant. So I'm bisexual. So with women, I'm very

11:53

dominant. With men I can switch, but I also

11:55

do something called topping from the bottom. So

11:58

like I could be some. But at the

12:00

same time I'm telling you what I want

12:02

like eat my pussy this way like do

12:04

it this way do that I'm very verbal,

12:06

but I still be submissive I you

12:09

know whatever but I'm gonna tell you what the fuck I want you

12:11

know would you let one of your partners put a Collar

12:14

on you know That's

12:17

where you draw the line Like

12:19

I like choking I love spanking I

12:22

don't mind like some bondage a little bit

12:24

of bondage But the leash like I can't

12:26

see myself like crawling around for them

12:28

or anything right? Yeah, um

12:31

Eric and I are doing some field research

12:34

tonight, and we're going to the sex club

12:36

in Brooklyn I

12:38

know right If

12:42

you want to come out like what's going on a

12:44

black one so I'll be in Brooklyn Join

12:49

us so I was gonna ask you like do

12:51

you have any tips for us if we want

12:53

to live out some of our Dominatrix dreams at

12:56

the sex club if we want to enforce some

12:58

dumbness. What are your suggestions? Well,

13:00

I actually throw sex parties myself So I have

13:02

a party series called black and kinky for black

13:04

and afro-latina people and we've had like eight parties

13:07

We just had one in Atlanta for Juneteenth

13:10

So I'll say the biggest thing and go into a sex party

13:12

you want to instill your dominance Try

13:14

to like see which men are submissive

13:16

you can kind of tell yeah a little bit

13:18

off the bat like just if they're coming up

13:21

To you and calling you goddess or wanting to

13:23

do every little thing for you Like really use

13:25

that to your advantage because being dominant at sex

13:27

parties is lit All

13:29

eyes on me type shit, you know So

13:32

like for me, I'm definitely submissive in

13:34

the bedroom. I've tried I've

13:36

like gotten more comfortable like Exploring

13:39

my dominance, but there's something about it that

13:41

I don't I feel like a little bit

13:43

insecure about like I almost feel like silly

13:46

When I'm doing it because I'm

13:48

so used to being submissive Mm-hmm

13:51

How like what is what is like? What

13:54

are like some of the things that you would

13:56

say like for someone that's wants to like explore

13:58

their dominance for the first time? Like what

14:00

are some of the things that they can do with

14:02

their partner or you know a new partner to kind

14:05

of like Assert themselves that they're

14:07

feeling like a little nervous or uncomfortable So

14:09

my first thing I would say is not all dominance

14:12

looks the same I think we see it on social

14:14

media and think oh it's all about being rude and

14:16

slapping them and punching them like Not

14:18

at all like I'm a sensual sadist, so

14:21

I'll fuck you up, but I'll be very

14:23

sensual and nurturing with it, right? so

14:25

it all depends on what are you comfortable with and

14:27

what has your partner even Consented to because

14:29

sometimes people will come into these things and

14:32

think well, I'm choking them So they're gonna like it. I'm just

14:34

thanking them. They're gonna like it and they don't like it. So

14:37

What my piece of advice I would give is

14:39

just to really? Do what

14:42

you're both comfortable with have that conversation beforehand. Like

14:44

what's your pain tolerance level? Can I slap you

14:46

in your face? Can I slap you on your

14:48

ass? Can I choke you? Can I call you

14:50

names like it's all about just having that open

14:52

conversation and then from there like you usually can

14:54

go with the flow And also just get out

14:56

your head. I think a lot of people get

14:59

in their head too much They just feel like they're being

15:01

dumb and then you know or silly and their partner might

15:03

love it the whole time. So a Question

15:06

about that too because I feel like some

15:08

people a lot of people think that especially

15:11

submissive men Like maybe they have trauma or

15:13

something has happened in their past Like how

15:16

do you navigate that space? Like how do you know like

15:18

is it something that you you try to like?

15:21

Avoid if you you see signs of like,

15:23

you know, someone that maybe has been abused

15:25

or it's not healthy It's not just a

15:27

kink. It's like based in a lot of

15:29

trauma. Mm-hmm. How do you not like how

15:31

do you navigate that? So I always

15:33

try to be like really transparent with my subs

15:35

like let me know your hard limits and

15:37

soft limits Like even today when we were

15:39

waiting I asked him like his hard limits and things of that nature

15:43

Are they? Do you want to say

15:45

your hard limits? Needles

15:50

electro sounding vomit

15:53

hard CBT Yeah,

15:56

I'll explain these things. So he said scat which You

16:00

guys know it's scatted. No, it's like shitting on something. If we

16:02

take a shit on something. Oh shit, okay. That's my heart limit

16:04

too. Okay. So then he said scat, he said CBT,

16:07

which is cock and ball torture. That's mostly like

16:10

when you're punching them in the nuts, punching them in the

16:12

dick. Sounding is when you

16:14

take the little metal instrument and put it down

16:16

a man's urethra. Oh!

16:18

Yeah. Oh my god. Oh my god, I

16:21

even got a dick and it hurt. Yeah, yeah. So

16:23

there's sounding, vomit of course,

16:26

blood, electro play, which is

16:28

like electrical shocks and things of that nature. So

16:30

those were his heart limits. But

16:33

you always have to talk about those things with people.

16:35

But some people come into

16:37

BDSM to take their traumas and turn

16:40

it into empowerment for themselves. So

16:42

I had one sub that he loved foot worship. He would

16:44

come over like to the dungeon. I would just put my

16:46

feet all over his face. When I asked

16:48

him, I like, why do you really like this? And he

16:50

said when he was younger, he had a babysitter that would

16:52

do that to him. And to

16:54

me, I saw it as like, that's very fucked up. Like

16:57

that's, where's his babysitter? Well,

16:59

fuck her up. And he was just

17:01

like, no, but it's empowering to me now. Like I loved

17:03

it, I like it. And it's something that I do to

17:05

make women feel good. So it's

17:08

really just about having those conversations, but also

17:10

like noticing little things. Like if I hit

17:12

a sub, how do they flinch up? How

17:14

do they react? I feel like

17:16

a good Dom should know how to

17:18

look at nonverbal and verbal cues. Yeah.

17:23

So you learned

17:25

a lot of the stuff from this woman that you met in the coach

17:27

act, or

17:30

was she your first basically mentor essentially?

17:32

She was not my mentor. She was just someone

17:34

where like, if we were on break, we would

17:36

talk about things. She would more so tell me

17:38

her crazy stories about the things she did, but

17:40

it was never a teaching experience. So a lot

17:43

of these things you're hearing me talk about now, I had to learn

17:45

on my own. So I've never had a mentor

17:47

ever. I would imagine that also being a

17:49

Dom in the black space, and there's a

17:51

lot, I see so many white Dom's on

17:54

the internet. Like I've definitely seen like so

17:56

many on Instagram. What is

17:58

that space like? Like, is it very, is it? Is

18:00

there a lot of racism in it? And so

18:03

when I came into financial domination, I

18:05

came on Twitter, because Fendom is big

18:07

on Twitter. You go on Twitter, you

18:09

type in Fendom, F-I-N-D-O-M, you'll find a

18:12

whole nother world. And all

18:14

I saw was white doms, white doms, but I was still

18:16

new, so I would reach out, asking for help, Evolve. Some

18:18

of them would block me. Some of them would be really

18:20

rude. I had to learn, so you need to learn by

18:22

yourself. Just really super rude. There's

18:25

even engagement groups where other doms help. You get

18:27

your content out, and those engagement groups were always low-key

18:29

racist, or if they felt like you were more popular

18:31

than them, they would kick you out, and things of

18:33

that nature. And so that's why

18:36

I created Black Dom Sorority. Oh, god. Yeah.

18:38

Wow. I would imagine. Yeah. It

18:40

was tough. I think one

18:43

of the biggest misconceptions of

18:46

being dominatrix and Fendom is that you have

18:48

to have sex with your subs, or that's

18:50

the end goal, but that's not true, right?

18:54

No, that's not true. So that's the biggest, yeah. Like

18:56

he said, the biggest misconception. So out

18:58

of all of your clients, are

19:00

you sexually have sex with any of them? In

19:03

my three years of being a dom, I've never

19:06

had sex with a client. Wow. Wow. So

19:08

they're coming to climax. Are they even coming to

19:10

climax, or is it just the process? If I

19:12

allow them to. So it's still up to me.

19:15

So sometimes I'll do edging. Sometimes

19:17

I'll make them just jerk

19:19

off in front of me, and I'll make them stop

19:22

and keep going, or whatever. Sometimes I'll do things

19:24

with sex toys, like wands, or whatever. But

19:27

it's really up to me. Do

19:29

you let them do anything sexual to you? No.

19:34

So since you've been doing this three years.

19:36

Yes, three years. How have you

19:38

navigated relationships? Have you had a boyfriend? Are

19:41

men cool with it? Are they intrigued by it? Are they cool

19:44

with it at first? And then they're like, nah, you know that.

19:47

So I'm actually dating someone right now

19:49

who found me through my dom page

19:52

and was really just respecting my hustle,

19:54

or whatever. I will

19:56

say, seeing that I date black

19:58

men and black men only. I

20:01

will say that it's

20:03

kind of hard navigating next phase, especially like on first

20:05

dates, because I'm someone where I'm very open about what

20:07

I do. And I'm out there too, so you're gonna

20:09

find it eventually. Like you're gonna

20:12

find it eventually, but it's like, I

20:14

tell them like what I do, and then I

20:16

usually either get two responses, it's either, oh, you're

20:18

not gonna do that to me, or

20:20

they try to make it like a learning

20:23

thing, and I'm not trying to do it neither. I'm not

20:25

trying to teach on a date. Right, like I'm not your

20:27

teacher. Yeah, so. So how long have you been dating in

20:29

the sky? How's it going? So we've only been

20:31

dating since the beginning of this year. It's

20:34

going pretty well. Like he's always asking me about the things

20:36

I'm doing. He wants to learn a knowledge of it. I'm

20:39

thinking about bringing him to one of my sex parties, but

20:42

very much so thinking about that. Have you guys gone

20:44

to sex parties that are not yours, that you haven't

20:46

hosted? No, so if he comes to mind, it would

20:49

be his first ever. Do

20:51

you, are you dominating him at all in the

20:53

bedroom? Or is it, are you switching, or is

20:55

it just? I'm very much so a sub, he's very

20:57

dominant. He's a Leo, so

20:59

you know, how'd that go? Do

21:02

you think that for some men, they see

21:04

you dominating other men and then it's heightened. They want

21:06

to prove a point. Like definitely you're

21:08

not going to do that to me. I'm going to

21:10

Dom you, you know what I mean? Oh yeah, I

21:12

get like men from Instagram and shit and my DMs

21:14

all the time, like let me be the one. I'm

21:16

like blocked. Goodbye. You're a stranger, I don't

21:18

even know who you are. And you're just assuming that I would even,

21:21

first of all, give you a chance, like, you know.

21:24

Yeah, that's true. Like thinking about black

21:26

men particularly. I hate to say this,

21:28

but it's true. Y'all is close minded

21:31

and it's hard. Like when you're an open sex

21:33

forward, you know, confident in your sexuality

21:35

and your sex space, black woman, like

21:38

it's very hard to find someone who's

21:40

actually, genuinely actually open

21:42

to it and not just saying it and

21:44

doing it. Yeah, yeah. Just in the

21:46

black community period, just like you said, there's not that many black Dom's,

21:49

but you know, we're moms. So

21:51

I got to ask, how does your mom

21:53

feel about your career? My

21:57

mom is very supportive

21:59

of what I do. do. Beautiful. Wow.

22:01

So she's always asking like when's the

22:03

next event like whenever I throw events

22:05

like oh I know this decorator I

22:07

know this person like when

22:09

I'm going to sessions like send me your location

22:11

like things of that nature so like my mom

22:13

is very supportive both of my parents are super

22:15

supportive their main concern is always

22:18

just my safety which is natural for them to

22:20

have that concern but I know when I did

22:22

New York Times like my dad's just like I

22:24

gotta frame this I gotta frame this. Oh yeah.

22:26

Was it always that way? Yeah. Or were they

22:28

talking shit? You know parents be

22:30

like that's my baby's down like last week it

22:32

wasn't that way. So I think for my parents.

22:34

But you probably might have domed them

22:36

into some things. That's why I feel

22:38

like me and Mila have done is

22:40

just domed our parents into accepting us. I

22:44

think for my like for my parents

22:46

it was more so just like how are we

22:48

gonna explain this to the rest of the family

22:50

like to grandma to the aunties and stuff like

22:52

that but like I grew

22:54

up in a family of six kids so three

22:57

boys three girls and my parents were

22:59

very big on creative freedom growing up

23:01

so like I was the girl in

23:03

high school head shaved in high school

23:06

dressed really crazy like wore big ass like platforms

23:08

and shit like that was very rebellious and I

23:11

was like walk out that door every day and

23:13

my dad was like like I love your outfit

23:15

love your outfit. Oh my god I love that.

23:17

How about this? Me and my mom would go

23:19

thrifting together so like my mom's an Aquarius too

23:21

and my dad's a Gemini so like we're just

23:23

airy ass signs so it's just like we just have

23:26

a lot of freedom just instilled in that spirit so

23:28

yeah. You know we're I'm

23:30

curious now that we're talking about this you know

23:32

we're sex positive parents and that's not always you

23:35

know condoned or that's not traditional in the black

23:37

household. How like how was your introduction to sex

23:39

they talk about was it equally as free in

23:41

that space too they talked to you about it

23:43

did you feel like obviously you guys have a

23:45

great relationship but was it even in those spaces

23:47

you felt comfortable to have those discussions? I would

23:50

actually say no. So

23:52

I think sex was just something my parents

23:54

did not touch on. Yeah I

23:56

just want

23:59

to say like No, not at all. I

24:01

didn't even, my mom thought I was a virgin the whole

24:04

time until I told her when I was like 19 that

24:06

I'm not a virgin. So

24:08

she was like, what? You're not like, so it

24:10

was just, it's weird cause there was freedom

24:12

in other spaces, but when it came to sex, it was

24:14

just something they really didn't touch on. I

24:16

don't know why, you know, what

24:18

was the cause of that? But it was just. Hush hush.

24:20

Yeah, it was hush hush. But now it's like more

24:22

open. Like now my parents talk about sex in their

24:24

sex life and I don't want to hear that. But

24:26

like. So like, since you do this now, I got

24:28

a couple of questions. Yeah. So like I had bought

24:30

like a whip on Amazon and somehow accidentally send it

24:32

to my parents. Oh no. And I called my mom,

24:34

I was like, oh, something from work came for me

24:36

today. Can you send it back? She was like, but

24:39

I've already been using it on your dad. I was

24:41

like, oh my God. In running the

24:43

family, y'all. I'm like, but I think I opened

24:45

them up to have those conversations or whatever. You

24:47

had to reignited your parents' sex life. Oh

24:49

my God. You might have did that girl. Oh my God,

24:51

I don't want to think about it. Oh my God. Well,

24:55

do you, I have a question for you. Do you, do you

24:57

have any interest in having children? I

25:00

actually don't. That's fine. You don't

25:03

gotta waste your girls. Don't ever say it like that. Don't

25:05

ever say it. Well, I don't want no kids. Okay, good.

25:07

Yeah, don't be ashamed. And just because you're on the good

25:09

moms, bad choices is not me. Look, I

25:11

think a lot of times women, we always feel like that's

25:14

supposed to be like part of our duty as women. Like

25:16

if you're not, if you don't want to be a mom,

25:18

what's wrong with you? Or like because of the work that

25:20

you do, that must be the reason why you don't want

25:22

to have kids. But I think some people just don't want.

25:25

I've always been this way. And I told myself like,

25:28

so I'm on the fence about having kids. I told myself

25:31

about what's to have kids. It would

25:33

have to be surrogate or adoption. I

25:35

just, I just cannot. You can't

25:37

imagine busting it open. I

25:40

just get annoyed with every little thing. It would just annoy

25:42

me. Well, girl, that don't have kids. The surrogate don't help

25:44

that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Kids is annoying, girl. You

25:46

know how kids are annoying as hell. I love them, but

25:48

God damn. But it's like, I love my nieces and nephews. I

25:50

love them. Well, then you can give them a hug. Because it's

25:53

a little different. Yeah. You

25:55

can't give them back. We're in the car

25:57

the other day, taking the kids to camp. And they were

25:59

just singing off keys. as fuck and just

26:01

I don't know what they were talking about

26:03

I really don't like like noise a lot

26:05

like a lot of repetitive noises and unnecessary

26:07

noise and I my blood

26:09

was boiling and I'm like they're fucking kids

26:12

and yeah they're yours it's not

26:14

for me it's so annoying

26:16

I literally prayed to God like please

26:18

God please give me more patience Lord

26:20

because this is very annoying so it's

26:22

okay yeah it's a thing do you

26:25

have any moms in your courses

26:29

yes so I have a lot of moms on my

26:31

courses I have a lot of moms and black Dom

26:33

sorority my best friend that

26:35

does domination stuff with me she's a mom and

26:37

she runs a sex toy shop so she's a

26:39

mom of three her youngest is like two and

26:42

she runs like a sex toy shop so I have

26:44

a I'm surrounded by a lot of moms in this

26:47

industry that's so cool I because I wondered I wondered

26:49

like how many moms there are in your industry and

26:51

how they how they would talk to their children

26:53

about their their sex work we had on

26:56

we're friends with a King noir and Jess

26:58

setting Jasmine and we've had them on their

27:00

show and they've so eloquently explained you know

27:02

how they've you know navigated that space with

27:04

with their parents I mean what's not with their

27:07

parents sorry with their children and I

27:09

would imagine it'd be similar

27:11

yeah but yeah

27:13

that's so cool that you're I don't know that

27:16

your parents are so supportive of your career I

27:18

love it and it makes it and

27:20

I see my privilege in that because as a sex

27:22

worker period a lot of people can not come out

27:25

to their family they're gonna either get disowned kicked out

27:27

lose jobs like all these types of things I'm like

27:30

I acknowledge my privilege and that I even can talk

27:32

to my parents about this I can call my parents

27:34

and say oh I threw an event today and we

27:36

kicked ass and we whipped you know white men and

27:38

we did all this stuff and you know my dad's

27:41

like yeah my mom's just like I'm gonna see pictures

27:43

my mom's like real visual like I want to see pictures I want

27:45

to see pictures but I think what my parents really like

27:47

about it is the education I'm

27:49

bringing also so like my mom's

27:51

really big on education so she just loves to see

27:54

stuff like this and just to hear me

27:56

talk about the education around it because some stuff she

27:58

doesn't even know What

28:00

are some of your kinks? Oh wow.

28:02

I mean, is your profession a kink?

28:04

Like would that be considered a kink?

28:07

Financial domination? Yeah. Yeah. It's

28:09

a kink. Do you mean like the kinks

28:11

I like to do to people or where I like to be

28:13

done to me? Both, both, yeah. Okay, so I love

28:16

face smothering. What's that? Famous

28:18

face fitting, but we call it smothering. Oh

28:20

yeah, I'll sit on something. Oh yeah, girl, I done

28:22

peed some face smothering on your page. Yeah, I

28:25

love face smothering. I saw that brunch you

28:27

did out in Atlanta. That looked so amazing.

28:29

I'm having one next month. Oh my God,

28:32

you guys go check out her brunch in

28:34

Atlanta. She did this beautiful recap video and

28:36

I was like, what the fuck? Where was

28:38

I? So

28:41

I love face fitting. I love

28:43

pegging. I

28:45

love foot worship, any type

28:47

of impact play, whether it's spanking, paddling,

28:49

fogging. Are you or to get to

28:52

the subs? So I'm listening to ones

28:54

I like to do to people. Golden

28:56

showers, I like, I

28:58

love humiliation, especially public humiliation.

29:00

I love taking subs out in public and

29:02

just talking shit to them and seeing everyone's

29:04

reaction around. Like, it's

29:07

hilarious. I

29:09

also like a little bit of bondage and nipple

29:11

torture. I love CBT, I love kicking people

29:13

in the balls, I love ball busting, and

29:15

I really love trampling. So I just love

29:18

walking on subs. I

29:20

just love it. Have you ever had any severe

29:22

injuries that have happened? No, thank God, thank

29:25

God, no. Well, speaking of

29:27

humiliation, I know that you

29:30

kind of blew up on the internet when

29:32

you brought one of your subs

29:35

to, where was it? It

29:37

was a homecoming. Yeah, North Carolina. In North

29:39

Carolina homecoming. Yeah, and you were walking him

29:41

around the homecoming. Was

29:45

that the first time you'd ever done anything like that?

29:47

Publicly outside? Yes. Okay, and what inspired

29:49

that? Were you just like, why there, why then? So

29:52

I was going to homecoming anyway to

29:55

just meet up with my friends, have a good time, and I

29:57

was like, you know, I'm still working when I travel. let

30:00

me like see if a sub wants a session. And I

30:02

made an ad on FetLife for like public humiliation and whatnot

30:04

and the sub reached out and he was like, I would love

30:06

to do it. I was like, well, I'm gonna be walking you

30:08

on a leash through a busy campus during like homecoming

30:11

on a black campus at that. And he was like,

30:14

I wanna do it, I wanna do it. So I get

30:16

there a day of, he's like so excited. Like I wasn't supposed

30:18

to do the leash walking to like 3 p.m. He's there

30:20

like 10 a.m. waiting. I'm like

30:22

waiting. He was like, I'm just so excited to just

30:25

be on your leash or whatever. So like the whole

30:27

time I'm doing, like what you guys see is like

30:29

the video, but the whole time I'm doing a session

30:31

is like I'm still in session. So like we're still

30:34

in sub space, still in dom space. And the video

30:36

that ended up going viral, I didn't even know it

30:38

was being taken of me. So

30:40

what you see in the video is me posing for

30:42

my best friend's phone for him to take a picture

30:44

of me. But then this other video, like we got

30:46

drunk after that, after the sub went home and the session

30:49

ended, we got drunk and I woke up and my Twitter

30:51

was like on fire. I went from

30:53

like a thousand followers to like 13k. I'm

30:55

like, what the fuck is going on? Yeah, so it

30:57

was like, it was crazy. Oh wow,

30:59

like there it is. Oh,

31:01

hey. Wow. Is

31:04

humiliating white men like a specific kink

31:06

for you or is it like reparations?

31:08

Yes, as you can see my reparations

31:10

had a. Oh, I didn't see that. Yeah.

31:15

It's my favorite thing to do. It's my

31:17

absolute favorite thing. I

31:19

feel like that would be a favorite thing for me to do as well.

31:22

Wait, Emory Wine, you said you met him on, what

31:25

site was that? The site is called Fett

31:27

Life. Fett Life? Yeah. Let

31:29

me put the right thing down. It's like

31:31

a kinky Facebook. So it's like, you can

31:33

go up there. People post ads for like

31:35

sessions. Like you can find all the New York

31:37

parties up there, the dungeon parties, the sex parties, all

31:39

those types of things. So yeah. So,

31:44

you know, I have a little boo in New York and

31:46

sometimes it's hard to keep it

31:49

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32:02

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32:04

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32:08

he gets on my nerves and we break up I

32:10

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you into like theater as a child? I feel like

34:33

I would, I would

34:35

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34:37

strange sexual favors in my life where I had

34:39

to like talk myself into it, like bitch get

34:41

it together. And so I feel like it would

34:43

be like just my like, you could be an

34:45

actress. Is that

34:47

do you feel that way? Because you can

34:49

go in and out of like sessions and amount

34:51

of character. Do you feel like you like almost

34:53

have a what is it Sasha fears alter ego?

34:55

Yeah, I think so. Mrs.

34:57

Marley is my alter ego.

35:00

Right. But it's like, I've done it so much now

35:02

that it's also something that I really, really love, you

35:04

know, like, I just

35:07

love this shit. So it's safe

35:09

to say you're not in fashion anymore.

35:12

No, I want to get back in it.

35:14

But it was my first love fashion, boys

35:16

in my first love, but it's just like the fashion

35:18

industry. And then you know, I quit my nine to

35:20

five last January because I was like, I was making

35:22

more in one session than I was after two weeks

35:24

pay. Like I have to get the hell out of

35:27

here. I want to know how much your cost for

35:29

your session. So it depends on what type of session

35:31

it is. So like if it's something like

35:34

foot worship, I would do maybe like 300 an

35:37

hour 400 an hour tributes,

35:39

which is in financial domination can just

35:41

range from anything I have one sub

35:43

where I request like literally every week

35:45

$300 from him. He sends it my

35:48

highest paid session has been

35:50

a pegging session. And it

35:53

was with a NFL player. I cannot say the

35:55

name, of course. And that

35:58

session was a 5k hour. How

36:00

many hours did you go? We did

36:02

three. Whoa! That's a

36:04

whole lot of pegging, baby. Did you take

36:06

breaks? So it was like pegging. There was

36:08

other things. There were other things too. Like

36:11

he was into spanking and into humiliation and

36:13

things of that nature. So yeah. Yeah. I

36:16

once had a man put on my high

36:18

socks and like do a

36:20

slow twirl for me. And he was not a man

36:22

that I would have ever assumed was into wearing my

36:24

dress or my socks. But there he was wearing my

36:26

dress and my socks. And he was. He

36:30

was asking me if we could go somewhere like church

36:32

with him on a leash. And in my mind, I

36:34

was like, I am not taking you nowhere in no

36:36

leash. But now I'm second guessing all of that. To

36:38

church? He specifically wanted to go to church. Bitch, there's

36:40

a drag-out there. I think that might be a hard

36:42

limit for me. Church, that might be like, which one?

36:46

That would be a hard limit. But no, I love

36:48

femin- it's called feminization. Or simplification.

36:51

Feminization is what you wanted.

36:53

Yeah. So I love doing that

36:55

too. I love putting makeup and shit on my side. That sounds fun.

36:58

Do you- even though you really like

37:01

the reparations and like doming white

37:03

men, do you have all types

37:05

of subs? Yeah. Okay. Go

37:08

with ranges. Yeah. So I've had

37:10

like- I've had black subs, but I don't know if black subs

37:12

are into just like foot worship. They just like the little- Oh,

37:14

they don't want to go like- Cute stuff. They

37:16

don't want to go love with it. Yeah, they like the cute stuff. I had two

37:18

black subs at the Atlanta brunch that were okay with like spanking

37:20

and things of that nature. But you will not find a

37:23

lot of black men that are okay with ball busting. They

37:25

do not want to be kicked in the nuts. It's

37:28

not common. But like as in just

37:30

my subs and ranges, I've had like

37:32

CEOs, Wall Street men, college boys, your

37:34

regular construction guy. Like I've had so many

37:36

different types. What's the oldest sub you've ever

37:38

had? The oldest sub I had

37:40

was, I want to say 68. And

37:44

the youngest? The youngest I've had was 20. This

37:47

one looks pretty young. Looks

37:49

pretty around our age. Wait, let's talk about-

37:51

what's- I'm sorry. What's your sub's name? Beta.

37:54

What is it? Beta. So

37:57

let's talk about beta. So if you guys are-

38:00

on Patreon then you know that you can

38:02

watch this whole episode and you can see

38:04

Mistress Marley and her sub, Beta, here. How

38:09

did you guys come to come to

38:11

Connect? Was it through like an app of

38:13

or like a website like Fendom or not

38:16

Fendom? So we actually connected through Fend Life.

38:19

And how long has he been your sub?

38:21

He's been my sub now for one day.

38:23

Oh wow! This is a sub! This

38:26

is a newbie! I'm breaking in a newbie. Oh wow!

38:30

Is this how you usually do it? Yeah, I

38:32

usually break in some newbies you know. What's

38:34

the process of breaking a newbie in? Can

38:37

you see? You want to see? I want to see something,

38:39

yeah. If you need help let us know.

38:43

Head down to the floor.

38:45

So it's really about how

38:47

well they take commands, right? Because like you

38:49

have some subs that really think they run

38:51

the show and I'm like you're not a

38:54

sub. Then you have some that will like really

38:56

you know listen to your commands or whatnot. So

38:58

for instance this sub has to call me Mistress

39:00

Marley. All my subs have to call me Mistress Marley. It's never

39:02

Mistress, it's never just Marley, it's Mistress Marley.

39:05

And I will administer punishment if it's not,

39:07

if my name is not said how it

39:09

needs to be said. But I have his

39:11

hard limits or whatever so he said he's into

39:13

impact play but lightly. So head down.

39:19

So it would just be some impact.

39:21

He has a little hard butt. So

39:26

yeah and I'll say when I hit you say

39:28

Mistress Marley, okay? Louder.

39:35

Louder. Mistress Marley. Louder.

39:37

Mistress Marley. No

39:39

one to try. I

39:43

thought you were a sub. I know but

39:45

it just looks so fun. But yeah so

39:47

it just all depends you know so. Wow okay.

39:49

So how do you like, how

39:54

do you know if like they're going, if you're

39:56

going to keep them or like how many how

39:58

many subs can one woman have? Right? Like

40:00

how many clients do you currently have on

40:02

your roster? Oh my goodness. So it's

40:06

so many because I'll get some that can serve

40:08

for a month and they might drop off. Like

40:10

the thing about BDSM is that people,

40:13

you have some people that aren't always trying

40:15

to do all the time. Like same thing

40:17

with financial domination. I have a sub come and

40:19

spend all his savings and that's it. He can't do nothing

40:21

else or he can maybe give $10

40:23

here and there or whatever. I want

40:25

to say now I probably have at

40:27

least 20, 20 subs,

40:30

but even I sometimes have to peel back because

40:32

it can become a lot. But as in long

40:34

term subs, I have three. So I'm

40:36

very picky about who my long terms are.

40:39

So basically you, you, you set the tone. It's not

40:41

about them running out of money. It's like, I just

40:43

don't have time or energy for you. Yeah. And I

40:46

cut it off and some of them were like, waste your time. Like some

40:48

of them would try to talk to you all day and you're like,

40:50

you don't have time. That's been my mistake. The

40:52

people in the doming and the DMs, they want

40:55

to talk. I'm like, nigga, I don't have

40:57

time. Sent cash at me. Is it hard to

40:59

separate like your personal, you're like, I'm

41:01

such a nice bitch. Like I'm like, Oh, how was your

41:03

day? Like what happened with your grandma? You know, like I'm

41:05

always talking and I'm like, damn, I got, I'm supposed to

41:08

be a dominatrix. So I'm like, how do you, like, how

41:10

do you navigate between? Obviously you've

41:14

had long term subs, you've, some of them

41:16

you've developed friendships with to some extent or

41:18

no. Is it just strictly dominatrix? Um,

41:21

so for me, it's like,

41:23

I usually can like

41:25

see time wasters ahead of time. So

41:28

my rule of thumb is always two replies and

41:30

I block you. So I'll give you two replies.

41:32

I will tell you where you need to send

41:34

the money, especially if you're just

41:36

coming to me on Instagram, because if you're coming to

41:39

me on Instagram anyway, you've already fucked up. Cause I

41:41

tell people how Instagram has been watching

41:43

me, don't message me. None of this shit on Instagram, like

41:45

whatever. But if you are going to, here's

41:47

my cash app and you'll have some subs.

41:49

They'll be like how much goddess I tell

41:51

them how much and they still just keep talking. And I'm like

41:53

sending them to me. And then the next five minutes or you're

41:55

blocked, I'll let five minutes pass, block

41:58

them. And then some of them will send. to be

42:00

unblocked, like I have an unblocked fee of $50. So

42:02

if you get blocked, you can be unblocked for $50. That's

42:05

a good question. So yeah, so you really just have to

42:08

know time wasters right up front because they will really try

42:10

to get free kink. They'll just try to talk to you

42:12

all day. Right, try to get off or whatever. Yeah,

42:14

to the, which I don't mind talking kink with

42:16

subs that I've worked with is a difference. But

42:19

you as a stranger just come in my inbox thinking I'm going

42:21

to sit here and shoot the show. Talk to

42:23

your fantasy about how you want to be stepped on. I'm like,

42:25

no, I don't know you. Like,

42:27

you know. Do you have like relationships with your subs?

42:30

I know that, like you said, when

42:32

one of the guys came to you and like foot worship

42:34

and you were like, where the fuck is this bitch at?

42:36

Like, let's fuck her up. Like,

42:38

do you have a relationship like that where you are

42:40

protective of them? And, or do you kind of try

42:43

to, you have a boundary up and you don't really

42:45

cross that boundary? It depends on the relationship I form,

42:47

but with all subs across the board, I have a personal

42:49

boundary. So none of them will ever know my real name.

42:51

None of them will ever know where I live. None

42:53

of them will ever know what's going on in my

42:55

dating life. None of that shit. I pretty much keep

42:57

it kink related. If they're going through something,

42:59

we might can talk about it as long as I'm not

43:02

doing too much emotional service.

43:04

I try to put that boundary up

43:06

too. But I have had one sub before that was

43:08

going through a lot of like mental trauma and we

43:10

would talk about it or whatever. During session, we would

43:12

talk about it. It would still be like,

43:14

you know, the paid fee or whatever, but

43:16

he would send tribute and things of that nature.

43:18

So it really depends on what I built within.

43:22

We actually had a, we

43:24

had an episode with Harder

43:27

Soft and I

43:30

love those guys. Tahoe. Tahoe

43:33

was raving about you. It was like, if

43:35

you had a Yelp review list, you'd have

43:37

like all the stars. He was like, goddess

43:39

mistress Marley came over with my girl and

43:42

it was amazing. So you do do couple

43:44

dominate. Yes. Yes. That sounds kind of high.

43:46

I'm into that. It was really fun. It was

43:48

fun. You dominated them both? No, I

43:50

dominated her and we were teaching him what to

43:52

do. Oh, so it was almost like a teaching

43:54

session for her partner. Yes. Yes. But it

43:56

was for her birthday also. She, she

43:59

loved it. That's amazing. Yeah, yeah, do you

44:01

do you Dom a lot of women since

44:03

you are bisexual or does has nothing to

44:05

do with it? So I've Domed a few women

44:08

I've had women reach out. I love to

44:10

Dom black women I've

44:12

Domed other races of women too. It's just

44:14

for me with women I find myself being

44:17

a bit more gentle like it's hard for

44:19

me to do humiliation with women, especially black

44:21

women I just can't right I can't I

44:24

think the most I would do with a black

44:26

woman to be like you're my little bitch or

44:28

you're a bad bitch Like I give affirmation to

44:30

them during the session. So I'm very big on

44:32

that. Yeah Okay, imagine

44:35

being affirmed by being dominated, you

44:37

know, there's so many ways to do it thinking

44:39

of affirmations and manifesting

44:41

we typically start off the show

44:43

with an affirmation and I

44:46

was wondering if you have any affirmations for our

44:48

listeners or maybe just one affirmation that you can

44:51

share So my favorite affirmation to

44:53

do every morning is I'll sit and look in the

44:55

mirror And I'll say

44:57

I'm a bad bitch. I'm

44:59

a money magnet Success comes

45:02

to me easily abundance always comes to

45:04

me. I am well protected. I always

45:06

say that I am a bad

45:08

bitch Money comes

45:10

to me easily money magnet. I'm a money magnet

45:14

Abundance comes easily

45:16

success comes to me easily. That's come

45:18

to me easily. I am protected. I

45:20

am protected I love that. I love

45:22

that I also know that

45:24

you you have a manifestation course,

45:27

right? Yes. Yeah, how do you use man?

45:29

Because we're big on manifesting and big

45:32

manifestors over here. How do

45:34

you use manifestation in your work? Oh

45:37

in so many ways Beginning of

45:39

the month. I'm always manifesting this amount of

45:41

clients. I'm very big on writing it setting

45:43

it and forgetting it So I'll

45:45

write something down and I'll put it like under my

45:47

mattress. So that way it's still in the same area

45:49

as me but I Don't

45:52

see it. I also work a lot

45:54

with like, um, I'm very big on ocean so

45:56

I consider myself a daughter of ocean You guys

45:58

know who will shoot water The Ocean. No shoes.

46:00

I see the goddess of of the ocean. Yes

46:03

of the ocean. So like I'm really big on

46:05

working well soon I have associates had to Ah

46:07

I'm I did do a lot a candle work.

46:09

I do a lot of different types of things

46:12

and it has always just like worked for me

46:14

though a manifestation. Are already know I have everything

46:16

I want like I never dow, I never. Say

46:18

maybe this will happen. I stayed in the

46:21

now as if it's already happening. And

46:24

is that in any way like. Ruff

46:27

into your work. Year So

46:29

like. I. always say like. In

46:32

I'm gonna give ah offense, I was gonna save

46:34

you a hundred dollars today or it's Flint. Sub

46:36

is going to tribute a hundred hours a week

46:38

or something and it always them. Zoom

46:40

always so I know you have courses

46:43

isn't any? Also have the sorority yeah

46:45

what is like the difference between those

46:47

two? So the courses are more so

46:49

for people that don't want to commit

46:51

to something like a sorority. Or something to

46:53

like a group or ably. Have to dedicate their

46:55

time. So the courses on patriarch on sex

46:57

qaddoumi five dollars a month arm if you

47:00

want to, courses and as ten awesome of

47:02

you know it, the more tears. Savitz here

47:04

for sex work as here for domination as

47:06

here for shivering and then I have a

47:09

mentor is here for those I might need

47:11

a little bit more help. Ah, I'm so

47:13

they can access that. Twenty Four Seven I

47:16

have. Now over a hundred courses that has

47:18

been up since April. Twenty Twenty. That.

47:20

And to be clear shivering as being the sicker

47:22

baby or idea of her yes at all either.

47:24

Yeah I'm funny of a media like I'm sorry

47:26

I I think I have. I think I have

47:28

to take a here you are you deaf? We

47:30

do Agassi a second set. You love him. I

47:32

saw the i know a breakdown and I'm the

47:34

I got. The crazy part is I am a

47:36

sub like I'm a switch to meet. You know

47:39

to him for me it's like if I see

47:41

someone and I can easily tall that my at

47:43

it like that you're in awe of me and

47:45

that I could take advantage in that way I'm

47:47

that has happened to that more right now. So

47:49

many if I see. Somebody. I'm having some somebody

47:51

who is like. obviously dominate then

47:53

i'm honest submit but if you

47:55

like say to dominate a mother

47:57

fucking dominate ryan dominant in the

47:59

chain Like, because I'm the same

48:01

way. Like I know. But then once I get in the

48:03

room and that's where they, that's where it fucks them up.

48:05

And then they're like, yes. And I'm like, I know. I

48:09

love, I love someone who can, can don me

48:11

and it's believable. I'm like, Oh, oh shit. Okay.

48:14

But if you're like fake, I'm like, shut the fuck up. Right. Right.

48:18

Exactly. Exactly. So like the

48:20

Patreons is more so like for those that want to just more

48:22

relaxed teaching something that can access, but in

48:24

black Dom sorority is like a whole tribe.

48:27

It's like we have brunches. We do community

48:29

work. We do marches. We

48:31

have like retreats. We have a Las Vegas retreat

48:33

coming up. So it's like, really, that's going to

48:36

be, it's going to be like labor day around

48:38

that time. I

48:41

think. Yeah. Yeah. So

48:45

we try to do different things and it's like everybody's

48:47

so different in the group. That's like a hundred members and

48:50

everyone's just so uniquely different. And I love

48:52

it. Are they all practicing dominatrix in their

48:54

personal life, like on a, like a professional

48:56

level or is it just some people is

48:58

just their kink? For

49:00

some people just their kink. So you'll have some people that's just

49:02

lifestyle in there. I mean, they just live the lifestyle 24 seven.

49:05

But then we actually have some that are

49:08

dominant like, or doing professional dominance. And

49:10

we have courses surrounding that we'll bring

49:12

in other instructors. We'll learn

49:15

different things. Like we had someone come in and

49:17

teach us rope tying on zoom. Like, so we

49:19

do all those different things. So, and we're

49:21

all over, like we're international West coast,

49:24

South, Northeast. Amazing. Yeah.

49:27

Okay. So before we get you

49:29

out of here, I don't know if this is a

49:31

core boundary, but I really, I mean, I think me

49:33

and I know me and Mila, we want to like

49:36

learn a little something. Can we learn a little something

49:38

here or put it in practice? I want to thank

49:40

him for something. I'm

49:42

here. Like he's on the leash. Like

49:44

the niggas about to leave. You

49:47

need to get beta, beta. Do

49:49

you consent? Okay.

49:52

Do you consent? What do you want to do? Do you want

49:54

to know? I don't know. I don't know. Tell

49:56

me what to do. No, you have to be dominant. Okay.

50:00

So me wasn't really- Okay, start. Let me start

50:02

with my dominant friend. Okay,

50:05

sit. And down. And do you

50:07

want to do this, baby? My friend's already done the

50:09

domino on this side. Sure. Okay,

50:11

sit. Do

50:19

you like it? Bada,

50:21

do you like it? Let me hear it.

50:23

What do you want to call me? I want to call me.

50:25

Oh, I make my- I make my- I

50:28

make my sub call me Daddy Mila. Please

50:31

call me Daddy Mila. Do

50:34

it again. Do you like it? Say

50:37

it louder. More

50:40

enthusiasm. Okay,

50:44

now you want to switch. Okay. I

50:50

gotta figure out my name. Shit. Figure it out quick,

50:52

he's coming over there. Bada, go to Erica. Head

51:01

down. There you go. Okay,

51:04

I'm Mistress E. Super

51:07

original. Mistress

51:11

E love. Okay, Bada,

51:13

get ready. Do

51:16

you like that? Where

51:20

else do you want to be saying? Say

51:25

it louder. Can she pull your hair a little bit? Pull

51:29

that ponytail. Tell

51:32

me you like the spank. What's

51:35

my name? Good

51:38

job. Thank you

51:40

so much, Mistress Smiley. You've just been so- Thanks

51:42

for sharing your sub with us. Of course. That

51:45

was so kind. Wow, all our friends are so

51:47

kind. Now I'm really ready for

51:49

the sex party tonight. It's not just my

51:51

stripper shoes, my red lipstick, but tonight is

51:53

the night Daddy Mila comes in full force,

51:55

baby. Fuck, I need to go get some

51:58

shoes right now. I'm glad you guys- going

52:00

to a black one that's good I know can you come

52:03

where is it I'm gonna tell you after

52:05

cuz I'll be in Brooklyn all night let's

52:08

do this yeah you know I'm feeling yeah

52:10

I'm feeling very much into my lifestyle this

52:13

trip in New York I'm empowered

52:15

and I'm ready and now we

52:17

had this interview with mr. Smarley I'm

52:19

a fucking I'm a level two Dom

52:21

I just graduated my I see it

52:23

myself from level one to level two

52:27

okay mr. Smarley let our people know where they can

52:29

find you everybody wants everybody

52:31

wants everybody wants especially a fen Dom

52:34

yeah yeah so you can find

52:36

me I'll say on Twitter

52:39

to start because Instagram is a hater

52:41

who knows how long I would be there so

52:43

on Twitter I'm eyes on fire so

52:46

eyes and then X on

52:48

fire or you can just type in mistress Marley in a

52:51

search bar and I'll come up on

52:53

Instagram I'm the chocolate Dom a D O

52:55

M M E with two underscores I was

52:57

originally just had one underscore but I deleted

53:00

so I'm like let me do another underscore

53:03

and then patreon.com/sex

53:05

academy that's sex

53:08

see a D E M Y

53:11

and that's about it you wait those

53:13

bases I have one more thing yeah so

53:15

it would not be right if we didn't

53:17

ask you this I don't know if you're

53:19

prepared to tell a story but we have

53:21

a segment on our show called Horries where

53:23

our people tell a horror story it's like

53:25

a high-level horishness it was out of

53:28

the ordinary it was crazy like whatever you can

53:30

come up with if you had like a

53:32

particular session or particular experience I was

53:34

like I've done a lot of shit

53:36

but this shit is crazy just

53:39

put me on spot I'm sorry oh let

53:42

me see does it have to be a session

53:45

no okay so I want to say the craziest thing

53:54

I've done was a sex party it

53:57

was my sex party A

54:00

with my second wind south so amateur and

54:02

during man. And. I'd assume

54:04

you're getting religious emissaries his site so

54:07

drugs or people walk in an obvious.

54:09

Porn, champagne and people's mouths. I

54:11

take this or whatever. And I invited

54:13

someone that had only had sex with

54:15

like twice and it was his third

54:18

party. And he's like younger than me.

54:20

Like two years I'm going to me

54:22

and. I. Just remember as being in

54:24

a room and just fucking and so many

54:26

people watching as and. I. Was doing so much

54:29

crazy. Sit right, he's fucking fucking me and then

54:31

that they like this other guy. his dick is

54:33

out on my one. I like the way of

54:35

a great effect party and then the fucking bad

54:38

breaks Every every once in a we still keep

54:40

going. I just like what the fuck is or

54:42

at my neither part though like is about my

54:44

footsteps it gone on his whole time. people are

54:46

watching and it's so crazy to be like game

54:49

fox and look up. you just see someone casually

54:51

in. Tips: or lie. About.

54:54

Our that food and are part of a little

54:56

finger foods. So to just like beginning fauci to

54:59

see someone's hips and live a good to say

55:01

about like a guy a black i'm he's like

55:03

encouraging you like Genesis get that says I'm like

55:05

oh my god is a sign of the like

55:07

that with crazy to me because. I'm.

55:10

Via like lobby and whites. But in those

55:12

circumstances of the crazy. I'm drunk. The.

55:14

New partner. The bad breaks the girl

55:16

in the to but they're the same

55:18

zombie encourage so that it methodically was

55:20

some. What's going on at once? I'm out

55:22

fine. Gamma Ray? Yeah yeah, that's fun.

55:25

Oh My. God. Thank you for sharing

55:27

And thank you for coming. On are

55:29

so I'm so happy were able to make this

55:31

happen on. Ah, you know

55:33

you guys are defined as were Dead Man's

55:35

underscore. Bad choices on Instagram? Ah good Monza

55:37

choices were every listen to your podcast. Make

55:40

sure to check out our patriotic. We don't

55:42

have any donning classes yet, but who knows.

55:44

I mean literally by your three and don't

55:46

I learned to say sort of it a

55:48

second career texting my legs. Look at this

55:50

as a little saying what you think about

55:52

these words. these it is is a good

55:54

line. Businesses do it. You should make a

55:57

dominatrix. Clothing. Line. Dissonance thinking

55:59

are doing. I do that. Good idea.

56:01

You should. Make sure to

56:03

go rate and review us on Apple Podcasts,

56:05

you guys. Please. There's thousands and thousands of

56:08

you listening and we only have about a

56:10

thousand likes and ratings. That's the bullshit. So

56:13

I'm gonna dom the fuck out of you and

56:15

you better fucking go rate and review us, okay?

56:17

This is Daddy Mila and I said do it

56:19

now. Well this is Mistress

56:21

Elo. Yeah. She

56:24

added a lot of that then. I'm gonna get my shit together. That name might

56:26

change shortly, but that's what it is for now. Thank

56:29

you guys. Bye. Bye.