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Hello and good morning . Welcome back

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to Go Ask Sawyer . This is Jamie

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, your host of Go Ask Sawyer , and

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this is a new series called 10

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Minute Thought . Today , my thoughts are

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around who is speaking

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for you ? Are you

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speaking for you , are your actions

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speaking for you , or is society

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speaking for you ? Or maybe

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even your inner child ? So these

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past two weeks I

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have had some stuff come up

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. In the last few episodes I've talked about

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jealousy , I've talked about dimming your

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light , I've talked about staying in your own lane

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, and I realize some of the

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ways I am speaking , some of the ways

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I have exploded on people

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or wanted to explode on people , are

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just unhealed parts of myself that

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are coming up , are just some parts

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of my inner child

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, you could say , or parts

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of me that I have felt shame around

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, or parts of me that have been silenced

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for a long time , coming and exploding

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all the way out . And I've really kind

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of sat with it this

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last week Like why

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am I doing this ? Why am I still

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getting upset ? Why am I still

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allowing what others say

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to pull me into a place that is

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not who I want to be , that is not who

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I am , and so I feel like

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recently I have not

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been speaking for me . There

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are unhealed parts of me that

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are speaking for me , and

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that's what I kind of want to get into on today's

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10 minutes . Our first quote starts

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with authentic power is taking

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responsibility for your own energy

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, no matter what is happening with the world

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around you . By Danae Logan and

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I thought that was really key around

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what's happening , because it's

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being in yourself enough to understand

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that you need to take responsibility

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for the energy you're putting out there . Again

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, kind of back to that being in your own lane

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, even if someone triggers you

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and you go off on them . Yeah , okay

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, something inside of you is triggered , someone

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said something offensive , but you also

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need to take responsibility of how you responded

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and how you react . That is the most authentic

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, strong part of being a human

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is saying , yeah , what you

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said is not okay , is

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not appropriate , is you

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name it ? But what are you gonna do about it

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? Are you gonna let yourself be pulled out

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of wherever you are ? Are you gonna throw back

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the same kind of negative energy ? Are you going

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to match word for word and the way

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you respond ? Is that who you are

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or is that something else inside

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of you that clearly is being unmet

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. Our next quote comes from Abraham . People

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will love you , people will hate you , and

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none of it will have anything to

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do with you . That one was just

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very eye-opening and I have

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to remind myself all the time on . How

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people treat you has more to do

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with them than it has to do with you

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. People who hate you are usually

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projecting some sort of

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sad , unhappy

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wound inside them on you . Maybe

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you have something they want . Maybe you

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have an energy they don't even

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know how to get . Maybe people love you because

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there is something inside them

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that you pull out

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of them . You make them feel safe . That

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is why they love you so so often

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. People again will love us and hate us

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, and it doesn't have anything to do

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with us . It's something inside them

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that you are either fulfilling or

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you are showing and mirroring them . Our

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next quote comes from Marianne

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Williamson . I believe I read a poem

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by her last week See all

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human behavior as one of two

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things either love or

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a call for love . That whole

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idea of hate . Right , love and

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hate . Both have four letters . They are

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very opposite each other and most

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of the time hate is fueled by

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a love . Somebody does not have

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. A peace someone does not have , so

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they need to hate , because that

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is the only way they know how to be

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. Next is by Miriam

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Hassan . How would someone

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who loves themselves and knows

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their worth respond ? Embody that

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? I really like this one and again

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, kind of going back to our theme today is

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who is speaking for you ? If you

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loved yourself and you

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knew your worth , when someone comes

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at you with something that has nothing to

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do with you , how would that type of person

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respond ? And just practice embodying

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that ? Most of the time , my embodiment

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of that is more silence

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or responding in . Okay

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, if that is how you feel and leave it

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at that . If that is how you feel and

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leave it at that , because , at the end of the day , you

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are not living that other person's life , you

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are not in their thoughts , you are

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not receiving the consequences of their

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life . It just needs to be what

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it is . And how often could things

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just kind of go away if more silence

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was had ? And again , I'm not using silence

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or going away as numbing

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or , as you know , pushing

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under the rug with issues . I'm just saying when

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things that really don't need you don't need to be

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a part of . How can you respond

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to somebody who truly loves who

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you are and you know you're worth ? How

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would that person respond ? And

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then , finally , I don't have a person who

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said this , but I'm sure a million people have

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, or please let me know who did . Let them

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criticize who they think

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you are . They don't know you anymore

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. This goes out to every person who

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has gone through these journeys , who

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has disconnected from people in

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their life , who has maybe taken a left

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instead of going a right , who , for those

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of us who have played the villain in other

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people's stories that is true , I've

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been a villain in many stories , but the

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person I am today is not that same

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person . The person I'm working on today is

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not that same person , and the person I am

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today has accepted , prayed

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for forgiveness , written it out , and

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I still love myself . So any voices

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out there criticizing you for what you're doing

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starting that project , going back

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to school , changing the job , getting

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into a new relationship , changing your

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idea of the perfect favorite color let

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them criticize you . They don't know who you

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are today and , honestly , I

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might change my favorite color again tomorrow . Each

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day we get to decide

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if we are going to be a healed

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person or unhealed person , and

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I love that meme . There's a meme I've been

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seeing over and over about like a

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situation and who's going to handle the situation

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the healed or the unhealed person . And every

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time I let my unhealed person take

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care of the situation , I got to tell you I wake

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up the next day with a lot of regrets

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Not even regrets , but just like

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, oh dang , that's not even me , and

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an unhealed person can find offense

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in pretty much anything someone does

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. If you don't use your

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blinker at a light , which I can't stand

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, but that's me because I'm a runner and a biker

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and an unhealed person is going to find

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extreme offense in that , whereas

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I'm just like , okay , and again I'm not here

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, I'm just saying , like the littlest things

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or the biggest things an unhealed person

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will find offense in . A healed

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person can understand that actions

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of others again have nothing to do

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with me . Do I want that person

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at the light to use their blinker

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and look both ways ? Because I am someone

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that uses a crosswalk , I am someone that

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crosses the street on a run . I've almost

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been hit by a car plenty of times

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because someone did not look . Yes

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, it is very frustrating , but I don't know

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what's going on with that person in the car . Maybe they were

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never taught to use their blinker , maybe they

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have never been a runner before , or

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a person that uses crosswalks , or

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a biker in which you rely on

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people around you to pay attention

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and look , if you've never been taught that

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, how would you know ? If you've never

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been taught the importance of a blinker , how

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would you know ? Is it frustrating ? Yeah

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, do I want to lose my life ? I do not , but

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it's just a small thing that

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people do that I can either

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take offense to and be like , oh my gosh , they're

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trying to kill me , or just realize maybe they were never

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taught , maybe they were in a hurry , maybe

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they have so much on their mind that , honestly

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, they weren't even thinking about it . Because I know I've done

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that . I've been under a light and

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I did not use my blinker and I

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felt real bad . I was like , oh my gosh , I'm so

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sorry , I know better and I knew better and I fixed

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it . So where in your life

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can you take more responsibility

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for your own energy and what you're putting out

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there ? Where in your life do

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you need to start putting things down

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and realizing that others'

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actions and words again are

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more about them than you . And

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where are you starting to notice

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that it's you showing

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up to speak for you ? You , this

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beautiful human being

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who is working hard to

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be better every single day and take responsibility

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? You , I am speaking for me . And

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where are there still places in your life where

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you're allowing society or an

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old version of you speak for

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you ? Make sure you stand on

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what you're saying and what you're doing

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. Make sure you know who is speaking

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for you and never , ever , allow

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anyone else to speak for

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you when you have the power to do

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it for yourself . Have a beautiful

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day . I hope this thought resonated

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. If not , maybe next week . Bye .