A very short episode - thoughts inspired by a song...on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ETC85CgzTHM?si=IVQK0dxc12Us_4g9on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/2UHK8agSYWJUzMuQTPMCVq

41: IFB Culture

Apr 10th, 2024 1h 7m

We discuss why transition out of the IFB feels like living in a foreign culture, IFB social hierarchy and potential inbreeding, with background music by Poppy the guinea pig.CD Code: MUSICEPISODE24

40: The Music Episode

Feb 13th, 2024 2h 4m

We finally tackle a much requested topic - Christian Music. So many rules, so little sense. So what music is ok - and why do Christians make up so many rules about it?Recommended Resources:Postmodern JukeboxOur CD - discount code: MUSICEPISODE2

39: Psychological Manipulation and the Israel/Hamas conflict

Dec 13th, 2023 2h 39m

A number of people in the Deconstructing/Advocate community read this situation shockingly wrong. So what's really going on?This is a very heavy and long episode, but we felt it couldn't really be any shorter without leaving out anything import

38: Purity Culture

Dec 2nd, 2023 1h 15m

We discuss the toxic IFB teachings on "purity" and how it is destructive, harmful, and not even close to the truth. Once you start really examining it, the evangelical view of sex is quite disturbing.Resources:Bare MarriageShe Deserves BetterAn

37: Rejecting Legalism Isn't Enough

Nov 17th, 2023 1h 11m

We explore something we have noticed - when people recognize and reject legalism and think that they have somehow arrived at a new and better Christianity. But it isn't enough and we discuss why.Resources: Rebecca Davis' Blog - HeresTheJoy.comT

36: Money, Money, Money

Aug 19th, 2023 1h 51m

A discussion on how financial teaching and practices in abusive churches affect the lives of those under them - for years.Recommended Resource: Pagan ChristianityOther links:Reporting on Franklin's Graham's behaviorMore about Faith PromiseThe N

35: Why We Don't Go to Church

Jun 16th, 2023 2h 18m

We discuss why we longer attend and institutional church, why it's good to take a break from church, and what "church" actually is (despite what we think of).Resources:Broken Trust by F. Remy DiederichPagan Christianity by Frank Viola and Georg

34: Book Review: Becoming Free Indeed by Jinger Duggar Vuolo

Jun 2nd, 2023 1h 39m

We share our thoughts and analysis of Jinger Duggar's recent book. What's good, the import context of the book, what's bad, and what's missing.Recommended Resources:Untwisting Scriptures, Book 1 by Rebecca DavisUntwisting Scriptures, Book 3 by

33: Survivor Story: Interview with Olivia Hitt Olds

May 10th, 2023 2h 15m

TW: Discussion of Child Abuse, Death of a Pet, Suicidal ThoughtsWe talk with Olivia about her experience growing up under an abusive, narcissistic mother while under the influence of a toxic, abusive IFB "church" cult under a very controlling a

Bonus: Analysis of "Created to Be His Helpmeet"

Mar 24th, 2023 1h 45m

Analysis of Debi Pearl's book Created to Be His Helpmeet. In which we refrain from reading inappropriate quotes from the book (mostly), dismiss Rachel's awkward college homemaking class, and reflect on why we don't like happy people.Resources:I

31. What About Spanking?

Feb 4th, 2023 1h 22m

We discuss what the Bible teaches about spanking children and how scripture has been twisted to defend certain cultural ideas. We also delve into the history of spanking a bit to see where the idea of disciplining children that way came from.Re

30: Modern Manifestations of Patriarchy

Jan 20th, 2023 1h 20m

We discuss a variety of modern patriarchal movements and teachers. The final episode in our patriarchy series.Examples of False teaching:Created to be His Helpmeet by Debbi PearlLove and Respect by Emerson EggerichsDocumentation of Piper's abus

29: Untwisting Scriptures Book 4 with author Rebecca Davis

Dec 2nd, 2022 46m 30s

We talk with Rebecca Davis about her newest book - Untwisting Scriptures Book 4: Wolves, Hypocrisy, Sin Leveling, and Righteousness. It's a really good one! Get the book here: https://a.co/d/3NQ2trQ

28: Patriarchy Pt. 7: The Rebirth of Patriarchy

Nov 11th, 2022 1h 36m

We delve deep into the history of where modern patriarchy finds its roots. Since it isn't from the Bible where did it come from?The Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Barr: https://amzn.to/3xcPDjQThe Other Half PodcastInterview with Beth Barr

27: What About Halloween?

Oct 18th, 2022 1h 36m

We discuss the origins of Halloween and whether you can take your kids trick-or-treating. Has the church told the truth about Halloween?Books:Trick or Treat: The History of HalloweenThe Book of Hallowe'enPodcast Episodes about Samhain: https://

26: Justin Woodbury Interview Pt 2

Oct 4th, 2022 1h 6m

In this two part interview we have a conversation with Justin about his new book and his experience in the IFB. Trigger Warning: Sexual AbuseJustin's Book: Sheltered but Not Protected

25: Justin Woodbury Interview, Pt 1

Oct 4th, 2022 1h 24m

In this two part interview we have a conversation with Justin about his new book and his experience in the IFB. Trigger Warning: Sexual AbuseJustin's Book: Sheltered but Not Protected

24: What about Women Pastors? (Patriarchy Pt. 6)

Sep 16th, 2022 29m 8s

We explore the question of women in church leadership, and why that is one of the things that scares complementarians.Recommended Resource: Paul and Gender by Cynthia WestfallInterview with Complementarian Professor on Theology in the RawMarg M

23: Patriarchy Pt. 5: A Ramble through Complementarianism

Aug 24th, 2022 1h 58m

We discuss the differences between Complementarianism and Patriarchy. Is it really any better, or is it just a different name for the same thing?Links:CBE Website: https://www.cbeinternational.org/Episode from The Church Split: https://music.am

22: Patriarchy Pt. 4: NT Passages Deep Dive

Jul 8th, 2022 1h 23m

In this episode we examine more passages in the New Testament in more depth that may seem to support patriarchy. Resources: Heiser on Headcoverings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-naked-bible-podcast/id961385822?i=1000430050017What P

21: Patriarchy Pt. 3: Philosophical Foundations of "Biblical" Patriarchy / Women in the NT

May 13th, 2022 54m 7s

What does the Bible actually say about how women should function in the church? Does the so called "Biblical Patriarchy" movement really have a basis in Christianity and the Bible? We start into this discussion with interesting results.What Pau

20: Patriarchy Pt. 2: The Old Testament & Life of Jesus

May 6th, 2022 1h 12m

We discuss whether the Old Testament teaches patriarchy, and how it fits in for New Testament believers. Then we get into the life of Jesus and how he treated women...very instructive!Recommended Resource: Own Your Life by Sally Clarkson: https

19: Patriarchy Pt. 1: Adam and Eve

Apr 22nd, 2022 1h 8m

Beginning our study of Patriarchy with the scriptural basis (or lack thereof). We discuss what creation, the fall, and some NT passages that discuss them show us about how God views women.Recommended Resource: What Paul Really Said About Women

18: The "Man of God" (Spiritual Authority, Part 5)

Apr 8th, 2022 39m 59s

Good News for pastors and all believers as we delve into the commonly misused titles and responsibilities often attached to "preachers" in the church.Recommended Resource: 58 to 0 by Jon Zens: https://amzn.to/3ui0NBSThe Roys Report - Bullies in