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Back everyone to another episode of

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Expanded Hope You guys are having

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a fabulous week! So on May

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unblock in it intentionally over the

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her seconds. Asa was actually my accountability

4:42

buddy for the Winter Manifestation Challenge. We

4:44

were able to voice mail back and

4:47

forth and had to share what was

4:49

going. On and keep each other accountable

4:51

during that process and it was so

4:53

instrumentally helpful. Asa has really works on

4:55

perfectionism. Allowing herself to be seen and

4:58

allowing ourselves to be seen was one

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of the key pillar it's that shifted

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a big day. One of the things

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first year as a business, she

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opportunities because. she stepped through

5:36

that see or she works you that perfectionism

5:38

and she was able to show up more

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authentically as herself so we're gonna dive into

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all the things he did to be able

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to do that and a little bit about

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our accountability buddy journey if you don't have

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10:44

Asha. Thank you, Jessica. Thank you

10:47

so much for having me and I am excited

10:49

to be back and I'm excited to share

10:52

how you and I went through the challenge

10:54

together and held each other accountable, but we're

10:56

also vision holders for each other, so I'm

10:58

excited to get started. It's

11:00

so interesting. I kept thinking about how

11:02

many times we'd send each other voice

11:04

notes and that's primarily how we communicate

11:06

as accountability buddies, just check in what's

11:09

going on, what's coming up and

11:11

this really speaks to the power of having

11:13

someone else to say this to, but there

11:15

were so many times where we just shared

11:18

what was coming up, what

11:20

the test was, what whatever

11:22

was and seconds later you

11:24

would have an infestation come

11:26

through. It was

11:29

like the wildest shit. It was really crazy.

11:31

I think for me, and I talked about

11:33

this in my first episode, which I can't

11:35

believe was almost four years ago. So

11:38

when I look back, I'm like, wow, so

11:40

much has changed in that amount of time,

11:42

but I think for me,

11:45

my patterning has continued, which I'm sure

11:47

we'll talk about, where my

11:49

perfectionism gets in the way where I'm like, well, this

11:51

is how I need to do the work and I

11:53

need to do it like A plus B equals C

11:55

and I need to journal this way and I need

11:57

to write it like this. And if If

12:00

I'm not doing it exactly the way that I'm supposed

12:02

to be doing it, then I'm doing it wrong. Every

12:05

time that I notice that

12:07

I manifest, it's when I do things

12:09

my own way. I do

12:11

it in a unique way that feels authentic

12:13

to me as opposed to maybe the exact

12:16

way that everyone else is doing it, which

12:18

is why I'm thriving in my

12:20

career right now as well. For

12:22

me, having you as an accountability buddy

12:24

was just the act of the

12:27

voicemail was so important

12:30

because sometimes the way that I

12:32

process things, when I

12:34

think about having to sit down and journal, even

12:36

though I know how important it is to write everything

12:39

down, I write things down all the time.

12:41

But it also takes my

12:43

brain sometimes moves so fast because

12:45

I'm just constantly hypervigilant about everything.

12:49

Sometimes my brain is moving faster than how

12:51

fast I can write. When

12:54

I can talk things out, I'm able

12:56

to process them in a much

12:58

deeper, better way than if I'm always writing

13:00

it. I would notice throughout

13:02

the challenge, sometimes when there would be

13:05

a journal aspect, I would cringe. I'd say,

13:07

oh, I really don't want to write something

13:09

right now. I'm just going to send Jessica

13:11

a voicemail so that she can

13:13

hear the whole processing because I want to

13:15

still unpack what's happening, but I want to

13:18

do it in my own way. I

13:20

noticed that when I was really embracing doing it

13:23

in my own way, I would send

13:26

you a voicemail and read it

13:28

for some really long voicemail tutorial. Sometimes I can't. Ten

13:30

minutes long, back and forth. But there

13:33

would be days, I remember that I would send

13:35

you a voicemail, hey, I'm being textured right now,

13:37

this is what's coming up, let's unpack this or

13:39

this is what's happening. And then literally that

13:41

afternoon, something would come through, like a manifestation.

13:44

And I said, wow, if I actually maybe

13:46

sat down and wrote everything down, would I

13:48

have gotten the same result? Possibly.

13:50

But for me, it felt more authentic

13:52

to send you a voice message and

13:55

talk it out because that's how I

13:57

communicate more as opposed to doing it in a way that's more

13:59

effective. exactly the way that everyone else does it. I

14:03

love that. And there's a bit of

14:05

science. We have an episode coming up

14:07

with Nicole's neuroscience and she talks about

14:09

metacognition. And in it, she's

14:11

saying that our brain is using more

14:14

kind of like sporadic, larger sections of

14:16

the brain when we're thinking about things.

14:19

They're kind of all over, they're open-ended,

14:21

they can float around. That's when rumination

14:23

happens. It's like, get stuck in these

14:26

cycles. But when we have to physically

14:28

speak words out, whether that's writing

14:31

or speaking to someone else, we switch over

14:33

in our brain to a logical section. And

14:35

when we do that, we have to figure

14:37

out a beginning, a middle, and an end.

14:40

But when they're in our heads, they're just

14:42

like this thought, this thought, this thought. There's

14:44

like a thousand things racing at once. So

14:47

literally, the act of having

14:49

to say what you're

14:51

going through, or the act of having

14:53

to write what you're going through, allows

14:55

you to access the less emotional, the

14:57

more logical part of your brain to

15:00

come up with a solution and process it in a different way.

15:02

Once I heard that, I was like, that's the

15:04

science behind why we're manifesting after the voice note.

15:06

But maybe it doesn't stand. I mean, it was

15:08

so fast, too, for me. I remember I would

15:11

send you a voice, and I'd be like, I

15:13

have to send you another one because stuff is

15:15

already happening, it's happening so fast. But I also

15:17

want to say that voice mumbling

15:19

you also really held me accountable

15:22

to staying in Dauphinport, right, because there would be like a

15:24

week where I would fall off on the challenge, and then

15:26

there would be a week where you would fall off, and

15:28

I'd be like, Jessica, are you up to date, like what's

15:30

coming up with you? And you're like, oh my God, I'm

15:32

so busy with work, and everything else going on, I

15:35

have to jump back on. So there

15:37

is something about, if you go to a gym, I

15:39

know there's science behind this, right? If

15:41

you pay for a membership and you go to

15:43

a gym, and you're on your own, sometimes you

15:45

can walk into a gym, and you're like, okay,

15:48

this workout is starting to feel really hard, I'm

15:50

gonna give up and stop now, right? But if

15:52

you start working with a trainer, a trainer is

15:54

going to hold you accountable, and start pushing you

15:56

maybe a little bit farther past your

15:58

edge than maybe you would normally push. yourself.

16:01

And I think that when you have an

16:03

accountability buddy, that's kind of what they're doing

16:05

for you. You're being forced

16:07

to engage in this way and

16:09

communicate and share what is happening where

16:11

you can't ignore things. And I

16:14

have a very, very strong inner

16:16

dialogue that's constantly getting. And so

16:18

by proxy of like me sharing

16:20

and voice-melling with you, it got

16:22

me out of my head and

16:25

I was able to unpack everything

16:27

and also have a different

16:29

perspective, an outside perspective of

16:31

what was actually happening and what was really

16:34

going on. This is why we

16:36

are our own blind spots, which you guys constantly

16:38

talk about even when I'm working with

16:40

clients now, I can give the best advice to everybody

16:42

else, but I'm in my own

16:45

blind spot. And I think this is why accountability

16:47

buddies are so crucial and

16:49

important in this work because you

16:51

can't always see everything because you're

16:53

in it. I

16:55

remember coming back from one

16:57

potential home viewing and I was like, it's

17:00

this price. And I think it's a test

17:02

because it's over budget, but I don't know

17:04

if it's tests that like maybe I should

17:06

just like pay more money or is it

17:08

the test that I have, you know, have

17:10

to do this or I have to, there

17:12

were so many options that couldn't really deduce

17:14

down. Like, is it asking me to step

17:16

out of lack and to pay more? Is

17:18

it asking me to stand in my worth?

17:20

Is it asking me to examine maybe less

17:23

my price a little bit, but there's a

17:25

number in which I won't go over and you

17:27

did a really good job of kind of holding

17:29

space and be like, okay, well, let's look at

17:31

what has been your pattern in the past. Are

17:33

you looking for this home to be your bandaid

17:35

and you just want it to work out? So

17:37

you're like, maybe it is about money. I'll just

17:39

pay the money. It's maybe it's not about that.

17:41

Maybe it's about speaking your needs and your boundaries

17:43

and letting it go of this being the pedestalized

17:46

item even though I really did petitline. You

17:49

had a pretty strong attachment to

17:51

this one. I did. I

17:53

really, I still do. I'm like, maybe

17:55

the current tenants will drop out. Good thing

17:58

we have another challenge. coming up so I

18:01

can hold you accountable again. Thank God.

18:03

Okay, so you've had some massive career

18:05

shifts in the past year, essentially

18:08

going, I wanna call it

18:10

almost like corporate girly into

18:12

like complete entrepreneur in a

18:15

very different field, going from

18:17

entertainment industry work to astrology

18:20

and creating this whole business around astrology,

18:23

which has been your passion since I've

18:25

known you. You've like been able to

18:27

read charts and understand and translate the

18:30

language in such a different way. Start

18:32

us at the beginning of what you

18:35

were manifesting when you wanted to initially

18:37

make this shift and what came up

18:39

as the hardest things in the way,

18:41

including that narrative of it has to

18:43

be hard, which is sort of one

18:45

of your patterns. Okay,

18:47

well, there's a lot to unpack here. So

18:50

I actually wasn't interested in manifesting

18:52

this at first because it

18:54

was a hobby and it was fun for me and

18:57

I have been studying astrology for years

18:59

and years and years on my own. I took

19:01

courses, I don't know how many books I have

19:03

now between like 30 to 50 books in

19:05

my arsenal that I keep rereading. Every

19:07

type of astrology, but you can think of,

19:09

right? I've taken so many courses, I've had

19:12

mentors and in the beginning it was really

19:14

about, in the beginning I was

19:16

skeptical. So I first started learning astrology because I

19:18

wanted to prove it wrong. And then

19:20

the more that I, that's my scorpion nature,

19:22

right? And then the more I learned,

19:24

the more I realized there was something really

19:26

fascinating here and there was something to this.

19:29

And I kept just learning from everybody. And

19:31

then I started reading my friend's hearts for fun

19:33

or even just going out to dinner with people and

19:35

I said, oh, you know, this is not as good

19:37

as happening in your life right now because you're going

19:39

through this cycle or this transit. I

19:41

had so much hesitation and resistance to

19:43

actually even doing this as a career.

19:46

I started getting pings about it that just

19:49

got louder and louder and louder to

19:51

the point that I could not ignore

19:54

them. Honestly, this catalyst was really

19:56

a rock bottom that I had back in

19:58

2022. in

20:00

a partnership that at the time I

20:02

thought was a manifestation come

20:04

through. It ended up being like

20:06

a very shiny carrot and a

20:08

test and I noticed that

20:11

a part of my patterning was also

20:13

that I have

20:15

like a hypervigilance to help and

20:18

almost have like a pride of oh

20:20

I'm constantly doing self-worth work and I'm

20:23

constantly doing like self-growth work and I'm always

20:25

reading the next book and I'm trying to

20:27

like see what else I can do to

20:29

better myself and the problem

20:32

that I noticed in this relationship

20:34

was my hypervigilance of like always

20:37

holding myself accountable was actually keeping

20:39

me stuck in a situation

20:41

in a relationship that was not healthy for me

20:43

at all and because every time

20:45

there was an issue in the relationship I

20:47

was like oh if I'm getting triggered this

20:49

is amazing I need to do more work

20:51

if this is happening it means I need

20:53

to unblock more if this is upsetting me

20:55

it's a me problem it's not a this-person

20:57

problem and I started to get like increased

20:59

anxiety over and over again and I

21:02

would make excuses for it because I

21:04

would say well I'm just an anxious

21:06

person so that's all having body but

21:08

the anxiety was actually not anxiety is

21:10

actually my intuition telling me like you're

21:12

not safe in this relationship and I don't

21:14

mean safe like that you know there

21:16

was something really scary going on but

21:18

because I wasn't emotionally safe there and

21:21

I think that this is part of something

21:23

that I realized is part of my patterning

21:25

is I'm so used to taking so much

21:27

accountability that I almost remove all the accountability

21:29

off of the other person for showing up

21:32

that same way and doing their own work

21:34

so I ended up leaving the relationship I very

21:36

quickly realized this was a test we weren't together for

21:38

very long it was like five months and

21:41

then I was rock bottomed really intensely

21:43

and I kept getting pings during this rock

21:45

bottom I would see my friends and all

21:47

these things and I was like why is

21:49

this happening and they would say

21:52

you know what Asha you said this to me about

21:54

my chart and I've had readings with other people and

21:56

like no one ever told me that about my chart

21:58

and then I would meet up with another friend and

22:00

they would say, you know, I've read

22:02

so much online and no one's ever said

22:04

this. And I just kept getting things that

22:06

just kept getting louder and louder and

22:08

louder to the point that I couldn't ignore

22:11

them anymore. I was like, the

22:13

way that you see the planets and the

22:15

way that you see astrology is different and

22:17

there's a reason for that. And you need

22:19

to start sharing this with people. In the

22:21

beginning when I first saw it to my

22:23

business, there was a lot of, again, hesitation

22:25

and fear and anxiety, especially

22:27

with being seen. Also

22:30

because I have like ongoing weight issues, that was

22:32

a scene that was coming up on and off.

22:34

And in addition to that, it was

22:36

really about, like a lot of imposter syndrome came up

22:39

and I'm like, oh, can I really do this? Maybe

22:41

I should just continue doing it for fun for friends.

22:43

And then I would follow expander and

22:46

I would notice that it was actually limiting me

22:48

in a way. They were expanding me, but at

22:51

the same time, they were limiting me, which is

22:53

interesting because I kept comparing myself

22:55

to them. And I

22:57

kept saying, oh, if I'm gonna do this business,

22:59

I need to do it like this. And I

23:01

need to start talking about the planets like this

23:03

and I need to start explaining things like this.

23:05

And if I'm gonna do video content, I need

23:07

to make sure that it includes this because this

23:09

is the way this person's doing it. And in

23:11

fact, I wasn't supposed to do any of that. The

23:14

second I really embraced like my own unique

23:16

way of doing it is

23:18

when things really took off in my career

23:21

because every single person that has a session

23:23

with me now comes in and says,

23:25

I finally understand my chart because

23:27

you explain it in a digestible

23:30

different way than I've ever heard

23:32

before. I tend to talk, you've been

23:34

my friend for a long time, like I tend

23:36

to talk a lot in metaphors and I bring

23:38

those metaphors into sessions with clients. And at first

23:40

I was like, this is really weird. But every

23:42

time I use the metaphor to explain like a

23:45

cycle or a transit or what's happening with someone's

23:47

chart, someone will look at me and say, oh

23:49

my God, I get it now. It's click. So

23:52

I have like a very unique way

23:54

of articulating the planet so that people

23:56

can understand them in a more Practical

23:59

Way. Because listen, I'm an astrologer know

24:01

for you, that's right now. and he just

24:03

had a former Scorpio the seat belt. No.

24:06

One gives a shit load of the

24:08

forming. An ominous other thing. That

24:10

movie says nothing. Would you vote for about

24:12

it? What Is it? Me: Or what are

24:15

your about. Him. As me I

24:17

would. I do that and that has added a

24:19

person. I said you didn't citizen a coach This

24:21

in a way that I live in. A true

24:23

patriot with me. I don't really care if someone's

24:25

like telling me about what's happening this week. I'm

24:27

okay. Know what I'm gonna do about this energy.

24:30

When I started doing posting think guys this is what's

24:32

going on for This is what you do with it.

24:35

And that's when people. it's Omega. Thank you

24:37

for finally explaining it these terms. Okay,

24:41

I want to back up a little bit

24:43

and just kind of know on some of

24:45

the things he talked about. Some one the

24:47

relationship, the concept, the hyper vigilance to be

24:50

like. Okay, how can I look at my

24:52

side of the three like if there's a

24:54

problem? Really Ship is nothing to do with

24:56

dance as all my production rights and in

24:59

one element that is one part of the

25:01

puzzle. The other part of the puzzle is

25:03

than the other person has to be doing

25:05

their own perks. And once you do your

25:08

own work and neck okay cool where my

25:10

repeating these patterns. And I'm projecting onto

25:12

them. where am I not taking care

25:14

of myself? Once you look at that

25:17

stuff, you can determine pretty quickly like

25:19

move this is totally my wounding coming

25:21

up or. This is

25:24

my wounding and I need this person

25:26

to meet me here as I'm in

25:28

my healing journey of it or. This.

25:31

Actually isn't my wounding. This is a boundary

25:33

that I don't want to settle for anymore

25:35

and so you're good at home to one

25:38

of those three. conclusion. But the I want

25:40

everyone to really think about that because we

25:42

talk about there's a lot in the work.

25:44

When you have those friction points in your

25:47

relationship go inward and then with information you

25:49

learned go back out and made sure it

25:51

matches up. Going forwards, get on the same

25:53

page it's not a bully mean dynamic. Go

25:56

inwards A You can get clarity to understand

25:58

why they're showing up, wr me that attracted

26:00

the truth and what's going on the merits

26:03

and then go that know cool. Now that

26:05

I know that let me boundary were up

26:07

and I settling do I need to speak

26:09

my needs? You know what is that next

26:12

step you need to do and so huge

26:14

that you are able from failure since you're

26:16

into a symbolic. actually now we're gonna caught

26:19

this dynamic here. And so

26:21

interesting because. In you

26:23

beginning to launch your business I remember

26:25

when you were like okay I'm gonna

26:27

make my lab sightseeing I'm gonna make

26:29

it soon and you were dragging your

26:31

feet and dragging your be in a

26:33

my girl as you don't make this

26:35

website and the next month I so

26:37

where here guys like I better seats

26:39

your by and up there so soon

26:41

and as the same time and it's

26:43

had been like you know well after

26:45

your break up you were like I've

26:47

been hearing crickets on the duty front

26:49

like it's literally dried up. Awfully nothing's

26:51

coming through and I. Have we came

26:53

to this conclusion to get out of

26:56

like the universe and literally saying to

26:58

you i'm not giving you a bread

27:00

crumb and love until you put this

27:03

to Had to help with the say

27:05

it out Like you need to launch

27:07

this business and be a new are

27:09

worth allow yourself to be seen. So.

27:12

You can be seen in relationship and

27:15

then what happened after you started launching

27:17

your read say and you started posting

27:19

videos. I'm so happy you remember about

27:21

that because I forgot about that and

27:24

so you just reminded me you will

27:26

because a lot of the fear of

27:28

even launching was just putting my face

27:30

out there on social media right and

27:32

just starting to talk about things. and

27:35

once i once and really own day

27:37

it was almost live windfall for quick

27:39

things coming in. lots of matches, lots

27:41

of cats, classes, But also like

27:44

expansive test. Not. The

27:46

same type of test that you to

27:49

combat which would do too easy to

27:51

say to say no to raise but

27:53

then all the time when I went

27:56

and crickets and nothing all the accessories

27:58

coming back around also. Hitting

28:00

me up another this energy as a

28:02

while because I'm really starting to put

28:04

myself out there and be comfortable being

28:07

seen and in a more empowered way

28:09

of okay I'm I'm launching the business

28:11

has to do spirituality. This is who I

28:13

am and and owning it is. This is always.

28:15

Been. A passion of mine. I've just been

28:17

doing a behind Closed Doors and now I'm

28:19

really doing it publicly and owning yes, I

28:23

have a sudden all the man started

28:25

coming around again and I knew people

28:27

are also people from the past and

28:29

I was a third. Definitely something energetically

28:31

here and I remember the zags it

28:33

has the ice and I got his

28:35

pings download during a D. I have

28:37

said oh shit you will never attract

28:39

the right partner that you want to

28:41

track that you've written on your list

28:43

until you step into the career for

28:45

yourself. Why. As

28:48

it's literally signing it with resistance a

28:50

tooth and nail. To send it. To

28:53

manifest out really doing

28:55

this stuff. In else I'll

28:57

try to bypass it. They even knew

28:59

I kept getting things and advanced see

29:02

so much. Fear and resistance

29:04

because I'm waiting for everything to be

29:06

perfect. For the perfectionism comes

29:08

and I was really for getting to be

29:10

purpose of are thinking okay the website. Isn't

29:13

quite perfect that so. I. Can't watch the

29:15

yes and I haven't figured this out so I

29:17

can do a yet. You know I do think

29:19

to win a manifested my new place and I

29:21

move. Then I saw a dozen boxes for a

29:24

little while and my mom's i. Learned.

29:26

Through and passing. You're treating and I said

29:28

well I don't know exactly where want

29:30

to place to go and until I

29:32

figure out exactly where I want the

29:34

place to go on not an unprecedented

29:36

amounts of just put them on any

29:38

south and as you're living through your

29:40

kitchen every single day then you can

29:42

just move them. It doesn't have to

29:44

be perfect. And next to

29:46

perfectionism, the showing up and so many

29:48

ways I'm of what is wrong with

29:50

me. I am really self sabotaging. On

29:53

all these levels right now. so

29:55

interesting to there's also like from learning so

29:57

much about the nervous and recently that were

30:00

baking into the challenge. Part of

30:02

perfectionism sometimes can be that freeze response.

30:04

Let's just freeze and not take the

30:06

action because it's a little too scary

30:08

to take the action and maybe fail.

30:11

So we're just gonna kinda just be

30:13

stuck here. And oftentimes

30:16

what can happen with that is you

30:18

get stuck in the rumination, over

30:21

researching, looking things up nonstop because it's

30:23

like, well, I'm still doing something. I'm

30:25

looking things up. Are you though, like,

30:27

are you getting stuck in that without

30:30

taking that action? And part of that,

30:32

you think about hypervigilance, right? It's like

30:34

constant attention. It's a stress mode. It

30:37

can be a power mode, like a

30:39

superpower. It can also be a stress

30:41

mode. And so if you're in that

30:43

stress mode, how's your nervous system regulating

30:46

in those moments in the freeze

30:48

response? It's not. Yeah,

30:51

I mean, it's really not. And

30:53

I think I was even hypervigilant at

30:55

one point in the challenge. I

30:58

had a lot of shame come up too, because I'm like, well,

31:00

I've been doing this work for so long. Why are the same

31:02

patterns still showing up? The self shame

31:04

and the self inner critic of like, you

31:06

should know better by now, right? But it's

31:08

like an onion. There's so many layers. You've

31:10

taken off the first several layers, but there's

31:12

still so many more underneath it. It's really

31:15

deep rooted. And I think that a lot

31:17

of this has to do with even like

31:19

my own hypervigilance when we were going through

31:21

the challenge. In the beginning, before you and

31:23

I really held each other accountable, right?

31:26

I was thinking, okay, or actually, I

31:28

don't even want to say this was in the challenge

31:30

because you and I didn't really do as much in

31:32

the challenge. I really just did it with the TBM

31:34

work before the challenge. We're always like, okay, what's the

31:36

next thing I need to unblock? What's the next thing

31:38

I need to unpack? What's the next thing I need

31:40

to expand? It's like, what else

31:42

do I need to do? What else do I need to do? What

31:44

else do I need to do? What else do I need to do?

31:46

It's like constantly looking for the next thing to fix it. And

31:50

the energetics behind that was me basically telling

31:52

the universe, there's still something wrong with me.

31:54

So I have to keep finding a problem.

31:57

And for me, what I

31:59

noticed... was so helpful

32:01

in all of this work was not

32:04

just the unblocking and the expanded because

32:06

I was unblocking so much was

32:09

the reinforcing. Because reinforcing

32:11

DIs have been my lifesaver, which I

32:13

think we forget about unless we're in

32:16

like a rock bottom or an up

32:18

level, we tend to kind of forget

32:20

about it because they've been really like

32:22

associated with the workshops and stuff. And

32:25

I know that they're in the daily practice,

32:27

but they're, you know, we're so used to

32:29

going through like a trigger or a shadow

32:31

or a fear or whatever's coming up. And

32:34

that's all really important and helpful. But if

32:36

you're constantly unblocking and you're

32:39

constantly expanding, but you're not letting

32:41

your nervous system like catch up to everything,

32:43

what happens and this is what I'm going

32:45

through right now is I'm having insane manifestations

32:47

come in in my life. I'm having massive

32:50

up levels. And now the system is saying,

32:52

can you keep up with this? I'm

32:54

really trying to reinforce as much as

32:56

possible because it's not just about getting

32:59

the manifestation. It's about being able to

33:01

hold the space once it shows up.

33:04

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33:06

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33:08

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up levels over the past year have been huge.

35:57

Launching a business in and of itself is a huge step. putting

36:00

yourself out there on social media is a

36:03

huge step. All of those things indicate,

36:05

especially when done from a place of like,

36:07

I'm stepping through fear, but this feels aligned

36:09

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36:17

you would start booking clients in the beginning.

36:19

And you were like, oh my gosh, this is

36:22

so exciting. And like how much you'd over give

36:24

to some of the clients. This is like

36:26

so common for anyone who's been a coach or

36:28

anyone in the healing space that in the

36:30

beginning, they're so excited to

36:33

have clients, they go above and beyond.

36:36

And as you continued on and you

36:38

would get booked out for a week,

36:40

for two weeks, for a month, three

36:42

months, you know, your list started like

36:44

really filling up. I think it starts

36:46

to show you, it's like

36:48

the incremental trust muscle, where

36:51

you're like, wait a second, what is

36:53

the energetic of me over giving to

36:55

every client? And when I say that,

36:57

you know, for you, that looks like

36:59

constant follow-up emails or researching above and

37:02

beyond or answering more questions after a

37:04

session's over and all the things. How

37:06

did you start to build your trust

37:08

muscle that like your self-worth was like,

37:10

wait, what I have to offer, I

37:13

trust that I believe in the value I'm providing

37:15

with my time, I don't need to over deliver.

37:18

That's a really good point to bring up

37:20

because so many people, especially when you're in

37:22

a service-based industry, like, you know, there's a

37:24

fine line between like, how

37:26

much do you wanna give, how much extra do you wanna give? And for me,

37:29

also, you know, I tend to, or I

37:31

used to tend to over give a lot

37:33

more and boundaries have been a continuous test

37:36

for me over and over again and relationships

37:38

and family dynamics and friendships and in my

37:40

life and all aspects. And so naturally they

37:42

would also show up when I would up

37:44

level and launch my business, right? Where I

37:47

would have clients that would really be like, oh,

37:49

thank you so much for your extra time, I

37:51

appreciate it and they would be really acknowledged to

37:53

that and then there were people that were just

37:56

really, really testing the limits

37:58

and really testing the boundaries. That's when

38:00

I would say okay, these are very

38:02

clearly a test and in the beginning

38:04

I noticed that every time I would

38:06

respond. Above. And beyond a

38:09

reasonable this is. Really authentic. He says

38:11

that as a hobby ball was and

38:13

to understand the for a want them

38:15

to understand the cycle then you know

38:18

the reason as any was everyone is

38:20

different. Every cycle that somebody

38:22

is an hour. Just tell them what I wish

38:24

someone would have told me when. I was going

38:26

through that transit. With someone told

38:28

me what this means alot how.

38:31

To handle and saw me look what

38:33

to do about this cycle that I'm

38:35

in when I was unable to handle

38:37

it a lot easier right? Like a

38:40

Saturn returner known her for whatever it

38:42

is so that they go to meetings.

38:44

So much energy in the beginning. I

38:46

hope everyone because they added there and

38:49

I know it feels like when you

38:51

like new unit that transit an effect

38:53

on excuse and have answered and then

38:55

it became. Really? Energetically

38:58

training, A went from

39:00

feeling authentic in the beginning to

39:02

feeling desperate for the sense of

39:05

a lot. Of

39:07

for so I can't fast now because

39:09

I'm gonna lose people and in fact

39:11

the opposite happened when I started setting

39:13

boundaries of people people are suffering from

39:15

my came along with. And

39:17

vamos a secret sauce way if an

39:20

overstatement own time, national expect any. Went

39:22

off to respect my time right? So

39:24

a farm com flew over. Son was

39:26

as an old me for money we

39:29

can always make more money. Recruiter Combat.

39:31

Good. When I'm giving my time away

39:34

in that huge regardless of if not

39:36

of one kind of one point turns

39:38

into ten Printers was a twenty twenty,

39:40

turns into a hundred and then become

39:42

a pattern. And then who

39:45

are to blame for refunding myself? The

39:47

person who's asking the person or myself

39:49

without having the clear boundary. I

39:52

can't say that like Elena show up

39:54

in life in that's why I'm in

39:56

a while we so that we want

39:58

a relationship like this or function. like

40:00

this or a career like this, but then

40:02

we tolerate this type of dynamic and behavior

40:04

in other parts of our life, right? If

40:06

I say I want this type of relationship

40:09

and partnership that I'm trying to manifest and bring

40:11

into my life, but I'm allowing people

40:13

to disrecep my shame in my business,

40:15

then what I'm saying and what my

40:17

actions are doing are not aligning their

40:19

two different things. I'm showing the

40:22

universe, hey, I want this in this area,

40:24

but I'm willing to accept less in this

40:26

other area of my life. So,

40:28

of course, the universe is not going to know what

40:30

to bring you and your manifestation is not going

40:32

to come through because you're talking the talk, but

40:35

you're not walking the walk. You're

40:37

saying that you're ready for this, but you're

40:39

not really doing the aligned action to

40:42

really bring that manifestation in.

40:44

And when I started really setting

40:46

those boundaries, I also started setting boundaries on dating

40:48

apps with people. And by first, I was like,

40:50

I can't just do this in my business. I

40:52

have to do this everywhere. I have to

40:54

do this with clients. I have to do this with people that

40:56

I'm matching with on a dating app. I have to do

40:58

this with my family. It can't just be

41:01

in one area because I was, even

41:03

though it was showing up in one area, then

41:05

it would show up in another area because, right, everything

41:07

is connected. So I would pass the

41:10

test with clients and then it would show

41:12

up with my family. And then I would pass

41:14

it up with family and then it would show up with a friend. The

41:16

energetics are always still there. They're always still circling

41:18

us. When you

41:20

were in those moments and it was like really

41:22

hard and you had to set that boundary, you

41:25

would have to step through

41:27

fear and show up in a new way, like a

41:29

time that you hadn't done that before. What

41:33

tools did you use? Were there any tips

41:35

you have for someone who's in those shoes

41:37

right now who's like, dang, I know I

41:39

have to do this. And

41:42

I also want to point out the example

41:44

you're giving are like the microscopic things that

41:46

we could just as easily be like, ah,

41:48

whatever. It's not that big of a deal,

41:50

but it actually is that big of a

41:53

deal because it stacks up, as

41:55

it impacts how you're reacting in all the other sections.

41:57

So for the person who's sitting there, it's like, oh

41:59

my God. I totally am not valuing

42:01

my own time and that's why I'm

42:03

doing this. I'm not valuing this about

42:05

myself and that's why I'm settling for

42:07

this. Is there any tips on

42:10

how to make that first leap,

42:12

that first boundary, assert that first

42:14

new step? Because I think

42:16

that's often the harder. I

42:18

mean, to be honest with you, I'm still not

42:21

an expert at it. It still shows up and

42:23

I still get tested in this way and I

42:25

feel like that will just be something that I'm,

42:27

you know, maybe just something that I will continue

42:29

to get tested in. They do get easier but

42:31

they also get more challenging, right? Because sometimes the

42:33

stakes get higher. So I don't

42:35

want everyone to think like, oh, once you've mastered

42:37

it, that's it. It's never going to show up

42:39

in your life again and we're all human, right?

42:41

We're not robots. We're going to still get triggered

42:43

and react to things as things come up. But

42:45

for me, I really did the safety eye a

42:47

lot. The driver's CTI was really

42:49

important because it made me feel like I

42:52

still had control, right?

42:54

I'm not like in a control freak way of like,

42:57

okay, if this falls off, like it's okay because like

42:59

things will still align. But

43:01

I think for me, I noticed that I

43:04

had to feel like a security and a safety

43:06

when I would say these things because there was

43:08

always a fear attached to it. So either the

43:10

fear of GI I would do and the safety

43:13

eye and I was like, what is the fear

43:15

coming from, right? Is it abandonment because I'm afraid

43:17

people are going to leave? Is it that I'm

43:19

afraid that I'm going to be misunderstood because people

43:21

don't understand that I'm setting a boundary? They think

43:23

I'm being mean or harsh or tough

43:25

with them. Like whatever that is, I

43:27

would unpack it obviously through a GI

43:30

and sometimes or a lot of times

43:32

voice memo you and you would hold

43:34

me accountable to this as well. But I

43:36

think for me, I had to feel safe. I

43:38

was not able to step through, by the way, I

43:40

stepped through a lot of fear, but I

43:42

had to make sure that I felt safe enough to do it

43:45

because my patterning used to be, again,

43:47

with all the hypervigilance is that I would be

43:49

forced to step into fear because I was left with

43:52

a choice. And I started to

43:54

learn, okay, if I start to follow

43:56

things before they get really extreme, if

43:58

I may. myself

44:00

feel safe to listen to these things and

44:02

sit through fear before I'm forced to do

44:04

it, how can I continue to make myself

44:07

feel safe in these moments

44:10

to step through that fear, right? So the

44:12

safety eye was so important. I was like,

44:14

whatever that looks like, right? Okay, if you

44:16

do this, sometimes I would even do worst

44:18

case scenario. If you do this, what's the

44:20

worst that could happen? It's actually not that

44:22

bad, right? When you unpack it. And

44:24

then it would give me more

44:27

like safety and security to actually,

44:29

quote unquote, jump off that cliff, right? And

44:31

just trust that there was a net to catch me. But

44:34

for me, it was always anti-safety, because

44:37

I've had a lot of trauma in my

44:39

life. My time is

44:41

that like, I will freeze,

44:43

overthink and unpack of us, okay, I

44:46

don't feel safe here. So like, something needs to

44:48

shift, I need to pivot. So anytime it's about

44:50

like taking a risk, I need to feel safe

44:52

in order to take the risk. I

44:55

think that's so powerful. And I

44:57

like the idea to, with the

44:59

worst case scenario, when you look

45:02

at what is the worst

45:04

that can happen here. And oftentimes, in

45:06

our heads, it is so much worse,

45:08

we make it out to be like,

45:10

the worst possible thing in the entire

45:12

world, it almost gives you freedom to

45:15

even consider that happening. Like, so when

45:17

you were going through it, okay, if

45:19

I set this boundary, this client, they

45:21

could think I'm being mean, and they

45:23

could never work with me again. And

45:25

they could write me a bad review. Let's say

45:27

that's the worst thing that could happen though, totally

45:29

stuff. Plenty of people get bad

45:31

reviews in their life, and they continue on in

45:34

their businesses. Plenty of people lose clients and change

45:36

clients over the years, and nothing happens to their

45:38

business. And the other thing I like to bring

45:40

in when I'm working through worst case scenario is

45:42

like, what do I lose

45:44

by not doing it? If I

45:47

decide to just never set that boundary

45:49

and not step through that fear, what

45:51

good am I missing out on on

45:53

the other side because I wanted to

45:55

stay small and because I wanted to

45:57

stay in what's comfortable and familiar. Could

45:59

I I have 10 new clients

46:01

on the other side of setting this boundary

46:03

with one, you know, and you

46:05

kind of came up against that when you were

46:08

at a place where you needed to raise your

46:10

rates because you were just booking out so much.

46:12

We're like, shit, what if I lose all my

46:14

clients? Like, what's going to happen? And you know

46:16

what happened? I raised my rates and then I

46:18

had the busiest month in my business that I

46:20

never had. Crazy. After raising my

46:22

rates. So when you talk about

46:24

the energetic start, I really owned it and I was

46:26

like, I'm going to raise my rates. And the reason

46:29

why I'm doing it is because I know the value

46:31

I bring. Not only do I have clients, I have

46:33

repeat clients that keep coming back over and over again,

46:35

right? Because they're starting to learn, even if they're like

46:38

a TBM or they're like, oh, I'm finally understanding my

46:40

chart and I'm working with the energetics of

46:42

my chart as opposed to fighting against it. That's

46:45

what I want to do with astrology. Here's the

46:47

metaphor for you, right? We can't control the waves

46:49

of the ocean. They're always going to

46:51

happen. We can't control the currents. What I want

46:53

to do is teach people

46:55

to surf and ride the wave

46:57

as opposed to being shocked and have the wave

46:59

take you under. You can see themes like that

47:02

in your chart when it's opportune times to manifest

47:04

this or that. Why you shouldn't be settling, right?

47:06

There's sometimes I'll see in a client's chart and

47:08

I'll say, hey, this cycle is going on in

47:10

your life right now. No way am I letting

47:12

you settle here. No way. Look

47:14

at all of this portal of opportunity. You're not

47:16

settling in this area. Or I'll say, hey, this

47:18

area of your life based on what's going on

47:20

in your chart right now, this is where you

47:22

might get tested coming up over the next month

47:25

or the next two months. Just a

47:27

heads up so you know, like if you're tested

47:29

in this area, this is what you do about it. This

47:31

is what this planet is trying to teach you. And this

47:33

is how you pass the test. So when

47:35

you start working like with the energetics of it,

47:37

too, I have clients coming back

47:40

over and over and over again because they were like,

47:42

oh, it's not just about setting my chart. It's like

47:45

I'm continuing to work with my own astrology. And I

47:47

was like, okay, I know the value I'm bringing now.

47:49

And there's no question about that. So I'm going

47:51

to raise my rate because this is what I'm

47:53

worth. And I believe that. And it's because I

47:56

see it. And once

47:58

I did that, my. most book

48:03

it was really interesting because

48:05

all the fear that was keeping me limiting I

48:07

was like well what if people get upset that

48:09

I'm charging higher rates now or what does this

48:11

happen. In fact the opposite happened for

48:14

me personally the voice notes were

48:16

so helpful because when

48:18

we talk about worst case scenario

48:21

and I think worst case scenario in my head

48:23

a lot of times I

48:25

would voice mumble you of like Jessica what

48:27

if this happens and then I

48:29

would hear what I would say and I

48:32

would send you the voice note and then I send

48:34

you a follow up voice note and I would say

48:36

I just listen to what I

48:38

said to you and that sounds insane. That

48:40

would never happen why am I even telling

48:42

myself that story but the action of sending

48:45

you that voice mumble when we were doing

48:47

a challenge together showed me

48:49

the crazy worst case scenario thoughts or

48:51

the fear that was stopping me from

48:54

taking those leaps forward. There's

48:56

times I would send the voice memo to you and I

48:58

would think if somebody else said that out loud I'd be

49:00

like why are you even thinking these thoughts. That's so crazy.

49:03

They were saying it out literally saying it

49:05

out loud and me holding myself accountable

49:08

of sending it to you that suddenly

49:10

it stops the narrative and now like

49:12

now I'm like okay I can't

49:14

keep saying this anymore. So

49:17

this is what's really interesting and this is

49:19

why we baked into the challenge this year

49:21

and I'm really excited for all of you

49:23

guys to dive into this but that part

49:25

of our narrative that has that crazy fear.

49:27

I like to look at it through the

49:30

lens of like parts work or internal family

49:32

systems. You have your limiting belief down there.

49:34

There's like an inner child attached to that

49:36

belief because that's the wounding that they picked

49:38

up. But then there's almost like

49:40

this you know in an internal family systems

49:42

they call it a protector. You could call

49:45

it a self-sabotaging part. It's the part

49:47

of you that has that fear

49:49

that's attached to it. Can we

49:51

examine the fear and

49:53

kind of debunk it and understand

49:56

when it's in the driver's seat when

49:59

that takes over. and recognize it

50:01

just as a fear, not as a fact.

50:04

What was your limiting belief underneath

50:07

some of those patterns that were coming up? Like what do you

50:09

think one of the root ones were? Oh

50:11

yeah, that I'm not good enough unless I'm

50:13

perfect or that the limiting belief was that

50:16

like, I'm still in a posture. I

50:18

mean, it's always coming down to I'm not good enough. And

50:20

I think a lot of that also

50:22

came down to what I realized and I didn't

50:24

even really realize this until like you and I

50:26

went on a hike recently and we talked about

50:29

like parentified children, right? As being

50:31

the oldest is there

50:33

was a lot with me in the way that I

50:35

grew up, I have two younger sisters. A

50:37

lot of it has to do with like, okay,

50:39

you're the fixer, you're the mediator, you're the older

50:41

one, you have to be responsible, you have to

50:44

set a good example. So like, it's okay to

50:46

put your needs second because like

50:48

you're setting an example for everyone else. So

50:51

for me, the limiting belief, I

50:53

guess also was that like, if

50:55

I'm doing this, I'm putting my needs first.

50:57

So therefore I'm doing something wrong based

51:00

on like how I was brought up. And

51:02

so if that part of you believes,

51:04

I'm not good enough if I put my needs

51:06

first, right? Let's kind of combine them even there.

51:08

Like, let's say the root thing is like, I'm

51:11

not good enough if I put my needs first.

51:13

That part of you does not

51:16

want you to experience the pain

51:18

of what happens when

51:21

you put your needs first and

51:23

you're rejected or you're abandoned. So

51:25

it's going to have you self-fabotage

51:27

and play small to prevent you

51:30

from ever being in a dynamic

51:32

where you could potentially be wounded

51:34

by putting your needs first and

51:36

it not going well. So recognizing

51:39

that with that limiting belief is

51:41

also a part of us that's

51:43

trying to help us not be

51:45

wounded, but it's keeping us small.

51:47

It's keeping that belief system in

51:49

play. So that's where that fear

51:52

comes from. Your systems, like we

51:54

learned that we cannot put our

51:56

needs first. That's not good. So

51:58

if I do it, something

52:00

bad will happen. So let's create this part

52:02

of self that is going to come forward

52:04

and be like, no, no, no, whoa, that's

52:07

a huge red flag. Gosh, don't do it.

52:09

Don't put yourself out there. Don't set the

52:11

boundaries. Like you can't do that. Don't

52:14

see that as your truth. See

52:16

that as just a protected, wounded

52:18

part that needs to be attuned to

52:21

and when you can kind of dialogue

52:23

with it. And especially through the challenge

52:25

in week two, we're going to really,

52:27

really learn everything we can about that

52:29

self sabotaging part. If you really get to

52:31

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52:33

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52:45

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back to guess. So.

54:59

As you say doing this it's

55:02

like layers peeled back like moment

55:04

by moment like situation by situation.

55:06

What other dynamics on veiled as

55:08

you are under way as estate

55:10

career of level. And

55:13

in so many, I had a lot of. Dangling.

55:15

Terrorists tests that came in. actually right

55:17

right after the challenge I had that

55:20

like huge A I test that came

55:22

in yeah that I thought was Matheson

55:24

that I said no to. There

55:26

is a group. There were two. Male partners

55:28

that are were like silicon Valley guys

55:30

that reached out and and submitted something

55:32

like a few months before but I

55:34

never heard anything for around two months

55:36

it was just and I said you

55:38

know I have no attachment to this,

55:40

this or something better and originally they

55:42

recently said hey we have launched that

55:44

a spiritual this company and we really

55:46

want a face and we want contents

55:48

and we need somebody who knows astrology

55:50

and Tarot and all of these things

55:52

and we have the money and we

55:54

have the reach. we can like that

55:56

you in front. Of lots of people we

55:58

just needs and all. And.

56:01

I would literally. Like okay

56:03

was it since the great right they came

56:06

in I sent them a few examples of

56:08

the video content that I could send them

56:10

and do for them and they came back

56:12

and they sent me an offer do like

56:14

we love you want to hire you and

56:16

then I was like okay this is a

56:18

high offer but I'm still going to negotiate

56:21

so I asked for more degree to it

56:23

and then we have been zoom cause were

56:25

ask more questions because I was getting things

56:27

as like you know just as extra questions

56:29

I don't just jump on anything never say

56:31

anything they just double check. Everything asks the

56:34

extra question and through like multiple do

56:36

cause I realized the company was not

56:38

in integrity with very ai based I

56:40

wasn't able to keep any the original

56:42

footage like I was is there was

56:44

a lot of said that wasn't a

56:46

lines anymore so I had to say

56:48

no and originally I was like oh

56:50

this is a man physician coming I'm

56:52

even noise and wanted because it wasn't

56:54

even though my local the kids often

56:56

do this whole time to make. Grow

56:59

my business even more than I can still

57:01

see Client I never wanted assessing plan. So.

57:03

Didn't want to manifest anything where wasn't able to

57:05

sell see people one on one and this is

57:08

a huge what I thought might be like a

57:10

bridge or an emphasis is to help me continue

57:12

to do that. but then I simply very to

57:14

be Rise of the Test and I said no

57:16

to air and then like two weeks later. Someone

57:19

from Amazon reached out and are like

57:21

you know what we want to add

57:23

you to or article that word we've

57:25

been falling you for why we love

57:27

how you're talking about astrology. So different

57:29

than everyone else We learn as you

57:31

and her article of like sixteen visionary

57:33

educators for twenty twenty four. So there

57:36

was, like I said no, I'm in

57:38

a manifestation came through like two weeks

57:40

later. The same wonder. a really big

57:42

one, a a great one. And then

57:44

again, Besides the time I

57:46

said getting masses and in an accident

57:48

and suddenly passing attack and say no

57:50

because I'm testing as it is a

57:53

partner with anybody is hop to be

57:55

in integrity the to me that is

57:57

the most important thing Seaborne options. Looking

58:00

into syndication out of the adrenaline,

58:03

a partner with the company. Or.

58:05

Tax money into company with nothing to be

58:07

an unfettered access. To the

58:09

ambulance and funny. When I'm when I'm

58:11

one of the client I know what I'm bringing their

58:14

because I'm showing up at official drive nor do with

58:16

These guys are going to do with my faith in

58:18

my knowledge or the content I give them. Go.

58:20

Or papa has the Amazon article

58:23

came through with two weeks later

58:25

or business or to getting busier

58:27

with clients simultaneously at the same

58:29

time and then officer during matches

58:31

on Astrodome and that's one another

58:34

lawyer started to on part. Because

58:36

I notice I wasn't fully

58:38

owning the. Fact that I

58:41

didn't even in Medina made.

58:43

During their and so I went on

58:45

the ass and I said you know

58:47

what I was on a few but

58:49

old river example of him for example

58:51

or them Hands on Earth past and

58:53

hands where you can talk a little

58:56

bit about yourself and what you're doing.

58:58

all the things And there was a

59:00

Palm Springs that was to Truth and

59:02

ally. I wrote that I have two

59:04

brothers or doctor I have two sisters.

59:06

I wrote that are you to swim

59:08

competitively and then I wrote i love

59:11

Astrology. So. The truth in that would

59:13

be astrology and the suing the fact that

59:15

I I don't have any brothers about with

59:17

life but it was. I was a good

59:19

like ice breaker for people and it helped

59:21

me really see who would take the bait

59:23

and who wouldn't essentially so I would get

59:25

messages and guys who would say i really

59:27

hope the lies that you love astrology because

59:29

I hope are not one of those sex

59:31

and I was like okay that's a very

59:33

clear now I'm not interested and will never

59:35

be very good I really hope it's this

59:37

I really hope is that could like I

59:40

would love to learn more and wasn't. Really

59:42

serves embracing that even in dating,

59:44

even though. It can even

59:46

feel like the were related. The were obviously

59:48

really directed love and money though is connected

59:51

so I resorted owning in like dating and

59:53

showing up. Then what is happening with the

59:55

energetic shifted so much so fast that like

59:57

a first I was attracting people who. like

1:00:00

questioning it to now, the

1:00:03

people that were coming in were

1:00:05

not only intrigued, but literally I

1:00:07

was having men sending me their birth

1:00:10

chart information in messages and say, can you read

1:00:12

my chart for me? Oh my

1:00:14

God, can I learn from you? Tell me about myself.

1:00:16

Wait, I'm so fascinated. I wanna learn about this. Where

1:00:18

at first I had a block around, well,

1:00:21

maybe it's gonna be harder to find someone

1:00:23

who's into this stuff or who's into spirituality

1:00:25

or who's gonna accept this about me. Because

1:00:27

the belief is that there's a lot more

1:00:30

females in the industry, right? So I'm like,

1:00:32

okay, maybe there's maybe gonna be some judgment

1:00:34

for men. But in fact, once I started

1:00:36

really owning it, even on something as simple,

1:00:39

but not simple as a dating app, the

1:00:41

people that were coming through were not just people

1:00:44

that were accepting of it, but

1:00:46

people that were so intrigued, that wanted to

1:00:48

learn from me. And they were like,

1:00:50

how can I be your client? Can you tell

1:00:52

me about myself? Tell me about my chart. And

1:00:54

this was another way that I was tested with

1:00:56

boundaries. And I was like, I know we just

1:00:58

maxed in the app, but people pay me for

1:01:00

this service. I'm not supposed to put a down

1:01:02

closure chart. But yeah, it was just interesting how

1:01:05

when I really started to own that this is

1:01:07

my career, which also goes back to the ping

1:01:09

I got a year ago, that said,

1:01:12

Asha, you're never gonna attract and manifest the

1:01:14

partner that you want until you really step

1:01:16

into this career and you really own it.

1:01:19

And still, almost a year later,

1:01:21

I was still being tested in that way

1:01:24

of, okay, you've done it on social media,

1:01:26

you've done it with your family, you've done

1:01:28

it with your friends, you've done it in

1:01:30

your business, and that's driving the next level

1:01:32

of that to still show up that way

1:01:35

in a dating app and really own

1:01:37

it there. And once I really did that, everything

1:01:39

started to shift as well. I

1:01:42

mean, I had plenty of breakdowns, by the way.

1:01:44

This was not food scaling the whole time,

1:01:46

let me tell you. There were many times

1:01:48

where I was like, you know what? I'm

1:01:50

in trust, I'm in deservingness, I'm not settling

1:01:52

here. I'd have a week where I'd

1:01:54

feel so good, and then the next week I would literally have

1:01:56

a breakdown and I would say, oh my God, I'm gonna be

1:01:58

single the rest of my life. life, I'm going to be

1:02:00

alone. I'm just going to die in my

1:02:02

apartment with my cat and no one's ever going to

1:02:04

find me because it's just us two, right? Like

1:02:07

this stupid crazy stuff that we tell

1:02:09

ourselves and I really had to,

1:02:11

well, one, I had to remind myself the last

1:02:13

thing that I learned in a lost relationship. The

1:02:15

only thing worse than being single when you don't

1:02:17

want to be single and feeling

1:02:19

alone is being in a relationship

1:02:22

with somebody and feeling alone and

1:02:24

that's how I fell to my lost relationship with

1:02:26

that person and I swore

1:02:28

to myself that I would never,

1:02:30

ever settle again to

1:02:33

any type of dynamic where I

1:02:35

fell alone because what happens then

1:02:37

is all of that extra

1:02:39

energy that I was giving to this

1:02:41

other person, now I'm able to give

1:02:43

to myself. So I

1:02:45

really had to shift my perspective. Were

1:02:48

there days that that was really challenging?

1:02:50

Hell yeah. There were days I had

1:02:52

breakdowns. I'm like, oh my God, I'm

1:02:54

getting older. Another birthday and like I'm still

1:02:56

single. What is happening? Right? My career is

1:02:59

taking off. All this other stuff is happening.

1:03:01

Everything is going great in my life and

1:03:03

it almost made it even more obvious

1:03:05

to me because it's like when everything is

1:03:08

going to be, you kind of

1:03:10

make excuses for things but when a lot

1:03:12

of things in your life are really, when

1:03:14

you're really manifesting and things are really going really good,

1:03:18

my parents, I have a tendency to notice

1:03:20

the one thing that's not working, right? I'm

1:03:22

like, everything in my life, I'm manifesting here.

1:03:24

I'm manifesting here. This is all going really well,

1:03:26

but why am I getting this?

1:03:29

It was really about embracing

1:03:31

the whole spiritual bypassing

1:03:33

stuff that people say about gratitude, but

1:03:36

there is something to this. Really appreciating

1:03:38

all of the other things and I

1:03:40

had to realize also what was really

1:03:42

important to remember, I had

1:03:44

a conversation with one of my friends who

1:03:47

said to me, she had

1:03:49

gotten engaged and married and she said,

1:03:51

Asha, you really need to embrace and

1:03:53

appreciate the time

1:03:55

that you have to yourself now because

1:03:58

once you get into that partnership, you

1:04:01

maybe won't be able to do some

1:04:04

of the stuff that you maybe used to be able to

1:04:06

do, right? Like you probably can't sit on the

1:04:08

couch and binge Netflix all day long without maybe

1:04:10

being judged by your partner or something, but obviously

1:04:12

we want to be expanded here and want to

1:04:14

attract a partner in that accepts all these different

1:04:16

versions of us. But I think I switched the

1:04:18

perspective to what do I want to

1:04:20

do now that I maybe won't be

1:04:22

able to do when I'm in that next level

1:04:24

in my life. What can I

1:04:26

do now that I'm still single? And

1:04:29

also I realized my career was so

1:04:31

busy. I realized, oh my God, even

1:04:33

if I met somebody right now, would

1:04:35

I even have faith for them? Things were

1:04:37

getting so ramped up and I was up leveling

1:04:39

so much. Like to the point that I'm having

1:04:41

to say no to things because so much stuff

1:04:44

is coming through and I'm like, I don't even have time

1:04:46

to say yes to everything, even though I would like to.

1:04:48

How am I going to really be able to

1:04:50

show up for a partnership right now, even though

1:04:52

I really want to be in one? So I

1:04:54

think it was really starting to embrace like, what

1:04:57

do I still want to do while I can? And it

1:04:59

was more about like having more fun because I was

1:05:01

taking everything, I had the tendency to do it,

1:05:03

I was taking everything so seriously. And I was

1:05:05

like, where is the fun in this? Like dating

1:05:08

doesn't have to be about like, oh my God,

1:05:10

is this the person? Is this the test? Is

1:05:12

this the manifestation? Is this it? I would have

1:05:14

gone on dates and having fun. And I was

1:05:16

like, all right, like if this is a guy,

1:05:18

great. If it's not, it's been great. But were

1:05:20

there challenges? Yes. And

1:05:22

I had days where I would like, you

1:05:24

know, fall off the tightrope and suddenly go back into

1:05:26

my old patterning because that's what we do, right? And

1:05:28

I would have to bring myself back there. Just

1:05:31

reminding myself how it

1:05:34

felt energetically when I wasn't in that space.

1:05:36

Also, what really helps me is the

1:05:38

same way that I was sending you

1:05:40

voice notes unpacking things, I started sending

1:05:42

myself voice notes. So when I was

1:05:44

like in full on manifestation mode

1:05:47

of like, just like when

1:05:49

I would go on a date, and I was everything would

1:05:51

go really great, because I was just having fun. And

1:05:53

I was just really feeling really magnetic.

1:05:56

I would send myself a voicemail. And I would say,

1:05:58

Asha, remember how you felt This

1:06:01

is what happened, this is the energetics behind this,

1:06:03

this is how you show up on the date.

1:06:06

So in the next day that you have a breakdown, in the

1:06:08

sense that this manifestation has been helped and helped and yet

1:06:10

I want you to listen back to this voicemail and this

1:06:12

is how you need to approach this situation. I

1:06:14

think we forget, like when things are going

1:06:16

really good, we forget what it feels when

1:06:19

things are really bad. And for

1:06:21

me I was saving voicemails for

1:06:23

myself, for like future versions of

1:06:26

myself, to remind myself, hey, when

1:06:28

you're in a bad day, when you're in a bad

1:06:30

time, what is the magnetic version of

1:06:32

you say to you? When we're

1:06:35

in the dark parts, right, in the anxiety

1:06:37

days, in the fear days, in the desperation

1:06:39

days of, oh my God, is this ever

1:06:41

going to happen? You can

1:06:43

go back and listen to like, well,

1:06:45

what was happening energetically for me when

1:06:47

things were flowing? What

1:06:50

are you hoping to, you know, we're going

1:06:52

to focus in on our biggest block for

1:06:54

this challenge. We're going to focus in on

1:06:56

the pattern we're repeating, the thing

1:06:59

we want to kind of get on the

1:07:01

other side of. And I like how you

1:07:03

said multiple times for this episode, like we're

1:07:05

always going to have another layer to pull

1:07:07

back. But as we're pulling back that layer,

1:07:09

it's like, damn, life can get so much

1:07:11

better. And there's going to be

1:07:13

more challenges. It's not the pedestal you get

1:07:15

to and we're on a mountain and everything's

1:07:18

great. Like it's new challenges at a new

1:07:20

level, but let's stop and enjoy the things

1:07:22

in that space. And I think, I

1:07:25

think about where you are, where you were last

1:07:27

year. And I think

1:07:29

about where you are now. And I

1:07:31

also have, I was listening back to

1:07:33

our first recording and even your public

1:07:36

speaking has gotten so

1:07:38

much better, so much more

1:07:40

confident, so more self-assured. It's

1:07:42

like night and day. I love you to death,

1:07:44

but we had to edit that first episode so

1:07:47

much. We

1:07:51

had so many, um, and pauses

1:07:53

and that was four years ago.

1:07:56

And now you haven't said, um,

1:07:59

once you were. so rooted in

1:08:01

your power. Like it is so

1:08:03

freaking cool to see. Like I'm

1:08:05

like so proud of you. I

1:08:07

think you- I'm gonna cry. No, you're

1:08:10

gonna make me cry. Well, I mean,

1:08:12

it took work, right? And this was

1:08:14

also part of stepping into the fear. If

1:08:16

I didn't pull myself out there and

1:08:18

film videos for social media talking about astrology,

1:08:21

I wouldn't have done that, right? And look

1:08:23

what's come from that. I'm now when I

1:08:25

do a podcast, now when I film a

1:08:27

video, I am coming from a more empowered

1:08:29

state. I'm not questioning what I'm saying.

1:08:32

I know that I know what I'm talking about. We

1:08:35

always expect to be perfect. Me,

1:08:37

I'm just speaking for myself, right? We expect to be like

1:08:39

the experts of something the first time we do it. And

1:08:41

I think a reminder that like

1:08:43

it takes practice. This was

1:08:45

four years in the making. You

1:08:47

heard me four years ago and

1:08:49

now, well, I speak a lot better

1:08:51

now and I'm sure I'll speak a lot better a

1:08:53

year from now and even better a year from then

1:08:55

and so on and so forth. But this

1:08:58

is part of the process, right? We're not

1:09:00

going to become successes overnight. You don't learn

1:09:02

how to ride a bike after one time.

1:09:05

You have to keep getting on it, keep

1:09:07

doing it over and over and over again

1:09:09

and eventually like something clicks and

1:09:11

you get more comfortable. It's all about

1:09:13

practice. If you don't get it right the

1:09:16

first time, there's so many times that I would slip

1:09:18

up. If I didn't step

1:09:20

through the fear and put myself

1:09:22

out there, I wouldn't have learned. That's

1:09:24

where the growth is. You can't grow if

1:09:27

you're staying in your comfort zone. There is

1:09:29

no growth there. I was

1:09:31

gonna say the version of you last year who

1:09:33

was thinking about launching their business, could you have

1:09:35

imagined you were in this position today? No.

1:09:39

I mean, I will say that I was definitely

1:09:41

a vision holder for myself and there were a

1:09:43

lot of people that, including yourself that were vision

1:09:45

holders for me too. So thank you

1:09:47

for that. But I don't think I

1:09:49

would have imagined how embodied or

1:09:52

empowered I would have felt in it. It

1:09:54

still seems so out of reach and

1:09:56

it doesn't feel that way anymore. Like everything that is

1:09:59

coming through, I have to. they know to things now.

1:10:01

Everything that is coming through, I feel, I'm like,

1:10:03

oh yeah, I deserve this. And

1:10:05

not from an ego place, it's like, no,

1:10:07

I know that energetically, this is coming in

1:10:09

for a reason, if this is not the

1:10:11

right thing, then this is something better, or

1:10:14

something else will come back around, right? I

1:10:16

know my patterning. And I think, since

1:10:18

you brought up the summer challenge, I think for

1:10:20

me, I'm gonna put it out there

1:10:22

so other people, including yourself, can hold

1:10:24

me accountable is continuing

1:10:27

to unblock the fact

1:10:29

that things have to be a struggle,

1:10:31

or really hard still, in order

1:10:33

to achieve something. Because that is

1:10:35

still something that I tend to

1:10:38

notice circles back around in my life.

1:10:41

So I think, for me, the

1:10:43

thing that I wanna do that I wanna put through the

1:10:45

challenge is really adding

1:10:47

more ease. Things do not

1:10:49

have to be this difficult all the time.

1:10:52

I have a seriousness sometimes that I attach

1:10:54

to everything, that I'm still working through, and

1:10:56

I'm still unpacking. I've gotten so much better

1:10:58

at it, but there's that onion, there's still

1:11:00

so many layers there, that I have to

1:11:02

uncover it. And it doesn't have to be

1:11:05

so hard all

1:11:07

the time. Are there challenging days?

1:11:09

Yes, of course there are. But

1:11:11

there can be ease and

1:11:13

flow, even in the challenging days as well.

1:11:17

I'm so excited to see what shakes out

1:11:19

for you on the other side of that,

1:11:21

because exactly how you described it, you've worked

1:11:23

through that, and you've gone to another layers

1:11:25

of it, but it's still circling around. That's

1:11:28

the theme that I want people to take through for

1:11:31

this challenge. It's like that thing that you've

1:11:33

looked at in bits and parts and I'm

1:11:35

blocked a little bit here, and maybe I'm

1:11:37

blocked a little bit here, or maybe you're

1:11:39

brand new and listening to this for the

1:11:41

first time, and you're like, I've never looked

1:11:43

at it, but I'm ready to dive in.

1:11:45

Amazing. How can we really look

1:11:47

at it from every angle, from a

1:11:50

nervous system perspective, from a self-sabotaging perspective?

1:11:52

Why does that part of us still

1:11:54

not feel safe to let go of

1:11:57

that narrative? And that's really where, like

1:11:59

you were... Feign reprogramming.

1:12:01

Back to Safety. How do we

1:12:03

create that new neural pathway and

1:12:05

say no, But this one safe.

1:12:07

Now this one safe, Now this

1:12:09

on sale and then reinforce it

1:12:11

so it's gonna be huge challenge.

1:12:13

Very very very powerful stuff. I'm

1:12:15

excited to do it alongside you

1:12:17

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I look forward to working with

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everybody and helping everyone work with

1:12:46

the energetic of their tar and

1:12:48

working with the energy vs fighting

1:12:50

against it. Yeah. A

1:12:52

thousand percent. I was a huge thing for

1:12:54

me, Especially think we did are reading in

1:12:56

was it we be January right at the

1:12:58

top of the near and we went over

1:13:01

everything that was coming up in the next

1:13:03

four months. And that's one of the things

1:13:05

I really love about your work that I

1:13:07

haven't really seen a lot of other astrologers

1:13:09

do if any. specifically what is your cycle

1:13:11

right now? how is everything that's going on,

1:13:13

the oil impacting your chart a lot of

1:13:15

times it's birth chart reading that this is

1:13:17

more In the next few months what's coming

1:13:19

out for you and the next month what's

1:13:21

coming up. And it was funny

1:13:24

because a lot of the themes

1:13:26

surrounded around home families, internal foundations,

1:13:28

internal habits and I'm over the

1:13:31

times like okay to kind of

1:13:33

maybe predicts was saddled the around

1:13:35

and when I look back now

1:13:38

much oh of course like everything

1:13:40

been tested in my home manifestation,

1:13:42

almost everything on my list this

1:13:45

year revolved around my routine, my

1:13:47

personal self care routine. this whole

1:13:49

manifests he said like everything rooted

1:13:52

down. To it. I mean, Astrology is

1:13:54

like, okay, let's look at all the

1:13:56

places where you're really not in alignment

1:13:58

with yourself and you really need. kind

1:14:00

of work on those things and work on your

1:14:02

self-worth in order to step it up. So it's

1:14:04

kind of crazy how aligned that was. Yeah. Thank

1:14:06

you for saying that. And that's why I say

1:14:08

like so many of my clients, like they work

1:14:11

with the energy of their TART. And that's why

1:14:13

I say I'll have a session with somebody and

1:14:15

I will say, I don't want you settling here

1:14:17

because of what's happening in your TART.

1:14:19

Or you may get tested in this area over the

1:14:21

next couple of months. I don't want you to get

1:14:24

caught off guard if there's triggers or tests here. They're

1:14:26

happening. They're going to happen here. And this is why

1:14:28

they're happening. And this is how you pass the test.

1:14:31

Can we manifest at any point in

1:14:33

our life? Yeah, of course. But there

1:14:35

are still seams and cycles going on

1:14:37

in every single person's TART, whether

1:14:40

you realize this or not. It's like it's

1:14:42

an extra additional tool that you

1:14:44

can use to help you with

1:14:46

your manifestation process, right? It's like

1:14:48

getting a weather report. I'm telling you, hey, it's

1:14:50

going to rain outside tomorrow. But you still have

1:14:52

to be willing to decide what you do about

1:14:54

the rain. But maybe now that you know it's

1:14:56

going to rain, you can plan your day a

1:14:59

little bit differently because you know it's going to

1:15:01

rain out. I feel like

1:15:03

this year in particular, and maybe it's just sociology,

1:15:05

super intense, but it feels like more

1:15:08

than ever before, everyone is

1:15:10

kind of being asked to really

1:15:13

shed the bullshit that doesn't

1:15:15

matter and connect

1:15:17

back to our higher self,

1:15:19

our magnetic self, our true

1:15:21

essence in integrity, in a

1:15:24

way that feels aligned, in our

1:15:26

power, that maybe before we would

1:15:28

have approached it from a different

1:15:30

lens or a different angle. But

1:15:33

now it's like, forget all

1:15:35

that. Really get down to

1:15:37

your soul. What are you

1:15:40

being asked to just change, to

1:15:42

shift the gears of, to open

1:15:44

up a whole new dimension of

1:15:46

possibility? And part of opening

1:15:48

up to that possibility is letting

1:15:51

go of all the shit that

1:15:53

we think we can just like up level

1:15:55

and up level and up level. You have

1:15:57

to let go of all the old stuff.

1:15:59

That's why sometimes an up level can

1:16:01

be so uncomfortable because we don't

1:16:03

want to let go of the

1:16:05

old attachments. But it's like when

1:16:07

we let go of those attachments,

1:16:09

that's when we actually can have

1:16:11

that surrendered embodied integrated up level.

1:16:14

But we try to take everything with us. It's

1:16:16

like, I don't know what to do up here.

1:16:18

This feels like chaos. Yeah, there's like an attachment

1:16:21

that happens. But also I noticed that like, even

1:16:23

sometimes it's up level, there's a grief that happens,

1:16:26

because you start to realize

1:16:28

you can't take everybody and everything with you

1:16:30

when you up level here, right? You start

1:16:32

to say no to things as no to

1:16:34

people, no to situations, no to dynamics, no

1:16:36

to behaviors, all these things. If

1:16:38

I really want to step into this 2.0 version

1:16:42

of myself, that means I

1:16:44

have to release this, that means I have to

1:16:46

release this job, that means I have to release

1:16:48

this home, that means I have to do my

1:16:50

attachment to living in this city, that means I

1:16:52

have to release this relationship friendship that's been keeping

1:16:55

me limited or toxic or whatever that is. And

1:16:57

most of the time, that's where the challenge comes

1:16:59

because you're like, we expect everything

1:17:01

to feel good all the time, even

1:17:04

when we're manifesting and up leveling. And then

1:17:06

we realize sometimes up level can actually feel

1:17:08

very lonely, because you have to

1:17:10

release so much and then you're like, well,

1:17:13

now I'm in a different vibration, I'm

1:17:15

in a different energetic, I'm in a

1:17:17

different place, what's next? The same things

1:17:19

that I accepted in my life before,

1:17:21

I can no longer accept in this

1:17:24

new arena. And there can

1:17:26

be grief that comes with that, right?

1:17:28

Of like, almost shedding your old identity,

1:17:30

or your attachment to your old identity, because

1:17:33

now you're stepping into new identities. So people

1:17:35

are always thinking, oh my God, I'm so

1:17:37

excited to, you know, stop. Scorpionic, Phoenix

1:17:39

rising from the ashes, right? The

1:17:41

metamorphosis, but like, there's also grief that

1:17:44

can show up with releasing who you

1:17:46

used to be. It's

1:17:48

really powerful. I think everyone's going

1:17:50

to have a really impactful next

1:17:52

few months, next year, rest of

1:17:55

the year, all of that. And

1:17:57

we'll be sharing online alongside you

1:17:59

guys. So. don't worry. Well thank

1:18:02

you Asha. This has been so powerful

1:18:04

and extensive and can't wait

1:18:07

for more. I can't wait for more either.

1:18:09

Thank you so much again for having me. It was

1:18:11

so much fun. I

1:18:18

hope you guys enjoyed that episode and if

1:18:21

you're starting to get a taste of our

1:18:23

manifestation process and want to know a little

1:18:25

bit more about what some of these exercises

1:18:27

look like, be sure to check out our

1:18:30

Find Your Biggest Block exercise. If you download

1:18:32

the TBM app, the TBMagnetic app in the

1:18:34

App Store and create a free login on

1:18:36

your desktop, you can access this workshop or

1:18:39

check out the link in the show notes.

1:18:42

Really learn about what might be blocking

1:18:44

you. If you're first learning about manifestation,

1:18:46

blocks is an integral part of

1:18:48

what may be standing in the way between

1:18:51

you and your manifestation. If you want to

1:18:53

learn more about our manifestation process, check out

1:18:55

the episode How to Manifest Anything You Desire

1:18:57

where Lacey, the founder, and I go over

1:19:00

all of the insights and breakdowns of what

1:19:02

this process entails that makes it so different

1:19:04

from other manifestation methods on the market. And

1:19:07

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