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So today we are going to talk about

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blocks. Everybody has blocks. That's

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part of the human experience. Once

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find those blocks, expanded enough, bam,

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subconsciously push away our manifestations or have

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an element of fear about them? And

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how can we work through them? You

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discover pattern reading as it relates

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to manifestation? yeah so

7:43

like a didn't become clear all at

7:45

once a blocks i started to figure

7:47

out first that oh this is the

7:49

thing that's literally looping in our subconscious

7:52

still from wounding and childhood that we

7:54

imprinted whether we witnessed or experienced this

7:56

and it's literally the thing moving in

7:58

our subconscious this post our manifestations

8:00

away. That's the only way I could

8:02

think of the word is like block

8:05

and of course you can unblock. So

8:07

it's not like you're stuck and something

8:09

that I just want to make really

8:11

clear it's there's nothing wrong with you.

8:13

You're in this work, you're peeling those

8:15

layers, you're healing those blocks through new

8:18

neural pathways, through doing the deep imaginings

8:20

which is our hypnosis process and an

8:22

effort to get back to who you

8:24

really are. Who you were before you

8:26

experienced those different experiences that were they

8:28

were either shame, painful, or traumatic

8:31

to you. Those are what blocks are

8:33

right that are looping in your subconscious.

8:35

So that became clear to me like

8:37

over time I was like oh that's

8:39

what's literally preventing me from my manifestation.

8:41

Either that or I don't

8:43

have the space down there, the expansion. I

8:45

have never seen to believe in my subconscious

8:47

that this is possible. These are the two

8:50

things that are like blocking me right. But

8:52

over time in this process I

8:54

started to notice wait a

8:56

second especially through the deep imagining

8:58

work which we'll be doing in

9:00

this challenge. We're doing a tremendous

9:02

amount of unblocking in

9:05

deep imagining work overriding old neural

9:07

pathways with new ones. And

9:09

I started to realize through

9:12

the discovery of those DIs that when

9:14

I would go down based on a

9:16

trigger that was coming up in my

9:18

life. So in some experience

9:20

happening in my life that was activating

9:22

my emotions. Someone creating jealousy

9:25

in me or anger or whatever you

9:27

know could be anything

9:29

that's activating. I would

9:31

do a deep imagining and I get

9:33

down there and all the sudden through

9:35

the memories being revealed that spider web

9:37

of attachments of this experience and that

9:39

experience from the past. I

9:41

went holy shit wait this

9:43

thing that's activating me today also

9:46

relates to the contractor

9:49

who pissed me off yesterday who

9:51

also relates to the teacher who

9:54

Pissed me off three years ago

9:56

in the same way.. They're all

9:58

activating the same emotions. Russian and

10:01

me and I went oh see,

10:03

Universe is showing me my patterns

10:05

even when they're not totally obviously

10:08

connected. You know, when you're not

10:10

in that subconscious states they all

10:12

have a thread line based on

10:14

something I need to heal in

10:17

an effort to connect with a

10:19

manifestation. I've been calling and. Talk

10:26

about blocks and this as a piece

10:28

of sort of the trifecta of this

10:30

manifests. He said process, how big of

10:32

a role or they? What function do

10:35

they serve in this process? So.

10:37

To really get back to totally one know

10:39

why and I'm in. actually. Been surfing

10:42

beginning where manifesting. From our subconscious,

10:44

not from our thoughts. So all

10:46

of the implantation we pick. Up from

10:48

zero to seven. And of course, as

10:50

you continue to have life experiences

10:53

especially traumatic ones, you continue to

10:55

develop blocks along your life. We

10:57

talk about shadow a lot. So

10:59

shadow is simply something that you

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experience that you either witnessed. Or

11:04

experienced. That caused you to

11:06

have some form of shame or

11:08

pains. and therefore in that experience,

11:11

you went ahead and you imprinted

11:13

it in your subconscious. That's I'm

11:15

not worthy of this. I'm not

11:18

lovable of this. I will not

11:20

be loved if I am Seth.

11:22

Therefore, you have that frozen in

11:24

your subconscious still loop things almost

11:27

unbeknownst. To you if you haven't explored at.

11:29

In the trifecta of our

11:31

entire manifestation process we three

11:34

elements to at expansion and

11:36

blocking and aligned auction. The.

11:38

And blocking piece is the heaviest listing

11:41

that you will do in this work.

11:43

So because her manifesting from our subconscious

11:45

those memories those experiences we imprinted from

11:47

zero to seven any of the ones

11:49

where we had really good experience is

11:52

growing up. So reflections back to us

11:54

that we were high self worth it.

11:56

We will love for both the so

11:58

the things he meant. us very easily

12:00

into our life. But any of the

12:03

experiences where something happened that we felt

12:05

painful or shameful, or there was programming,

12:07

if you're like this, you won't be

12:09

loved. But if you follow this in

12:12

society, you will be loved. Those are

12:14

considered the blocks that are still looping

12:16

in there. Simple psychology, simple neuroscience, those

12:19

are the things that are literally pushing

12:21

away your manifestation. And the universe's only

12:23

intention in this entire dance you're doing

12:26

with it in this lifetime is to

12:28

get you back into your whole worthy

12:30

authentic self. That means the

12:32

little being you came onto the planet

12:34

as before you experienced any of that

12:37

pain, shame and programming. Therefore, the

12:39

universe is constantly going to reflect

12:41

experiences back in your life, which

12:44

we call mirrors that are going

12:46

to directly point you to blocks

12:48

that it wants you to go

12:51

down, heal and integrate, therefore becoming

12:53

more of your whole worthy self. So

12:56

today we are going to talk about

12:58

blocks. When it comes to

13:00

even taking a line action or connecting

13:02

with expanders, if we have

13:04

sort of a belief system that's operating in

13:06

our subconscious, that's telling us that that's not

13:09

possible for us, we can't even attempt to

13:11

do that, we'll be rejected if we try

13:13

to do that, we're not going to take

13:15

that action. We're not going to be open

13:18

to expanders that are around us, we're going

13:20

to shut them out, we're going to say,

13:22

Yeah, that's for them, not me. All of

13:25

those things key back into what our subconscious

13:27

is operating on. And I think the

13:29

really beautiful thing is that all

13:31

of those limiting beliefs can be

13:33

unblocked for anyone at any point,

13:35

no matter where you are at

13:37

in this journey. The blocks are

13:39

these hidden, somatic, emotional

13:42

memories stored in us

13:44

that are dictating how we operate

13:47

that is not our authentic self.

13:51

Usually not even conscious, we're

13:53

not even usually conscious of them.

13:56

And that's why when people in this

13:58

could even lead into blind spots. when people

14:00

are like, I've been doing the work,

14:02

you know, I've been unblocking, expanding and

14:05

taking a line to action. And it's

14:07

like that that big one hasn't come

14:09

through. It's because there's something in there

14:11

that's deep, it's hidden. It's so protecting

14:13

you, that you just have

14:15

not nailed it yet. That lack of

14:17

consciousness around it, it was a game

14:19

changer and manifestation completely from I'm just

14:22

going to pretend to be I'm just

14:24

going to stay in the vortex, I'm

14:26

just going to be positive all the

14:28

time, and not seeing a lot of

14:30

actions happen. So it's just

14:32

that consciousness pieces is really

14:34

important, I think for people. You

14:37

know, when it comes to being

14:39

in that magnetic state, being in

14:41

that abundant state, if you're

14:43

going around with all of

14:45

these almost like open wounds,

14:48

that you're trying to hide and cover

14:50

and protect and not let other people

14:53

see, and maybe you don't even know

14:55

you have the wounds, but you're still

14:57

like covering your body, think of how

14:59

much energy you're expelling, trying to hide

15:01

these things and take care of these

15:04

things and not let them get injured.

15:06

But when we go in, we examine the

15:08

blocks, we bring them to the surface, we

15:11

make them conscious, we work through them. Now

15:13

all that energy can just be felt

15:16

being you being magnetic being in your

15:18

power being in your abundance. So it's

15:20

such a beautiful space. And I'll say,

15:22

when I have a really deep unblocking

15:25

in the deep imaginings, like

15:27

something shifts big, almost

15:29

always within 24 hours, something

15:32

miraculous happens. Yeah, though it

15:34

is a really, really powerful

15:36

thing. So

15:39

to summarize that patterns are

15:42

these experiences that are all

15:44

connected to a root emotional

15:47

trigger that you have yet

15:49

to heal that you experienced

15:52

most likely in childhood, and

15:55

they're related. So if I wanted to make that

15:57

more clear, let me think of examples. I

16:00

would come back to this contractor one because I

16:02

dealt with it for so long before

16:04

I finally manifested the most incredible contracting

16:06

team in Mendocino. And it

16:09

was like constantly being lied to, taking advantage

16:11

of me because I'm a woman. That was

16:14

a big thing, you know, and me kind of

16:16

having to manipulate and play stupid, even though I

16:18

knew exactly what was going on. And

16:20

then also never being on

16:22

time, overcharging, which all sounds

16:25

pretty regular with contractors, but

16:27

the way that they were

16:29

presenting, it was like the

16:31

same experience, different person. It was

16:33

so related. And when

16:35

I had to do the work on

16:37

that, it really stemmed down to the

16:39

relationship I had between basically

16:42

not ever being really seen or

16:44

heard or attuned to from more

16:46

of my parental figures. Even

16:48

though I was like smart enough,

16:51

witty enough, outsmarting other people, most

16:53

of my male caretakers, just

16:56

based on like regular patriarchal

16:58

stuff or their own, you

17:00

know, the way

17:02

they were raised, they weren't seeing my

17:04

magic. They weren't seeing my creativity. They

17:06

weren't seeing like my intelligence

17:08

and strategy. And so I

17:10

had to really work on that, you know,

17:12

and at the same time, simultaneously, it wasn't

17:14

just the contractors. I remember other things were

17:16

popping up with people that were supporting me.

17:18

It was like levels of manipulation. I'm psychic.

17:21

I can see everything that's happening, but I

17:23

can't just like straight up call people on

17:25

what they're doing, you know, because it just,

17:27

you know, it just would get really hostile. So

17:31

it was like I was seeing this patterning,

17:33

this thread of all of these different

17:35

experiences that were all pointing at a

17:38

similar wounding that needed to be healed,

17:40

that was still looping, which is you're

17:42

not smart enough, even though you are,

17:44

you're not capable enough, even though you

17:47

are. And what you're having

17:49

to say and do isn't worthy of

17:51

being heard. And once I

17:53

could really get down there and deal

17:55

with that and overwrite those old neural

17:57

pathways, I then, of course,

17:59

manifested the moment. most incredible collaborative

18:02

on time. They're expensive, but they're

18:04

on time there. They go above

18:06

and beyond contracting team up here

18:08

in Mendocino, which is the place

18:10

that you would like least expect

18:12

to find a really incredible team.

18:14

And that just goes to show

18:16

an example of how patterns work.

18:19

So I'll definitely kick it over to

18:21

you two, but just wanted to give

18:24

that summary of we all are experiencing

18:26

patterns the moment we consciously or unconsciously

18:28

start calling it a manifestation, the

18:30

universe is going to start

18:32

to mirror to you experiences

18:34

based on what's still looping

18:36

subconsciously that's blocking that manifestation.

18:38

It might not seem obvious.

18:40

So these triggering experiences, they're

18:42

experiences that are going to

18:44

activate different emotions inside of

18:46

you, such as jealousy, anger,

18:48

resentment, these activating

18:51

feelings. And then when

18:53

you start to walk these through the

18:55

deep imaginings, you're going to notice that

18:57

multiple of them are connected to a

19:00

root block that is the

19:02

universe is literally like you have

19:04

to heal this or at least

19:06

override it to high self-worth and

19:08

an effort to connect with your

19:10

manifestation that's already in high self-worth

19:13

of that area. That's what the

19:15

law of attraction really is. Janelle,

19:18

I want to hear your insight on this

19:20

too, but Lacey just to close this thread

19:22

and this piece, what were

19:24

you manifesting at that time that

19:27

this wound needed to be looked

19:29

at in order for that manifestation

19:31

to fully emerge? Yeah,

19:34

I think it was the farm. That

19:36

was a big manifestation I was calling in

19:38

for a long time, a very long time,

19:40

and one that was always at the top

19:42

of my list, like the major, which was

19:45

always a farm in a cold-weathered place that

19:47

felt like England, that list that was

19:49

present for five years. So that was one thing.

19:52

And then I want to say the second might

19:55

have been team stuff, to be honest,

19:57

if I remember, might have been

19:59

personal and. professional team stuff.

20:01

So those are really good

20:03

examples of something seeming obvious,

20:05

like obviously connected to those.

20:08

And at the same time it was interesting because

20:10

the universe was really, you know,

20:12

using my Achilles heel, my core wounds at

20:14

the time, which were finances. It's like this

20:16

is the price you were going to pay

20:18

and now it's double. And it would be

20:21

like, dude, what? You know? So it loved

20:23

using that too within the patterning.

20:26

It was even personal team stuff because

20:28

I remember the moment that one particular

20:30

person was supporting me on my personal

20:33

team transitioned out, bam, the farm came

20:35

through. It was like the last part

20:37

of that patterning. So not only did

20:39

the farm come through, also that construction

20:41

team. So it was really like, you

20:44

know, my tarot reader that I work with,

20:46

she'll pull cards like when I'm looking at

20:48

new people to work with or experiences and

20:51

she'll say, it's in your highest good. And

20:53

I've learned because highest good doesn't mean easy,

20:55

less traveled road. It means it's going to

20:57

be all the shit you need to learn

21:00

to elevate to that

21:02

next level. And that whole experience was

21:04

such a really good example of in

21:06

your highest good. Because once I learned

21:09

the lesson, once I am blocked, once

21:11

I did all the pattern reading to find those

21:13

blocks, expanded enough, bam,

21:16

those major manifestations came through.

21:19

Okay, Janelle, how do you see blocks?

21:21

How have you worked with clients and

21:24

big unblocking sessions and

21:26

the intensive that you do in

21:28

case anyone doesn't know Janelle does

21:30

EMDR intensive for those who are

21:32

going through the TBM work too.

21:35

How do you see that play out, especially with

21:37

patterns? So a basic

21:39

principle in EMDR is that when we

21:41

go through trauma, our brain pairs it

21:43

with a negative belief about ourselves. And

21:45

then we see the world through that

21:47

lens. And literally when I think

21:50

I've been doing maybe EMDR, I don't

21:52

know, six years or something before meeting

21:54

Lacey, and then she started talking about

21:56

it, I'm like, yes, that's

21:58

what it read. That's actually honestly. what pulled

22:00

me in is understanding blocks. Because

22:02

I'm like, yes, I've been doing this for a

22:04

while and I've studied this and that's exactly how

22:06

it works. And then what's fascinating,

22:08

just kind of how Lacey just described is that

22:10

we have adaptive memory networks.

22:13

So when she, you know,

22:15

she was triggered, this one top trigger

22:17

of like her contractors, right? And then

22:19

she went back into a route, she

22:21

kind of did the float back technique

22:23

and she discovered, okay, this is where

22:25

I picked this up, this is where

22:27

I had this negative belief on some

22:29

level. And then it's also associated with

22:31

other memories as well. And

22:34

so there's, she's right, there is an

22:36

actual web of memories connected to a

22:38

certain negative belief. To me, there's, you

22:40

know, so many layers of healing, but

22:42

as far as like negative belief concerns,

22:44

this is aside from nervous system work,

22:47

the negative belief is huge

22:50

to be able to call in whatever we're

22:52

calling in. We have to clear that out,

22:54

we have to do the work

22:56

to flip that negative belief around. So we

22:58

are believing and that's self worth, the

23:00

law of attraction and all of that to be able then

23:03

to connect with what we want. So that's

23:06

the whole basis of TVM work is

23:08

doing your own kind of detective

23:10

work on your own trauma histories

23:13

to be able to detect what your

23:15

negative belief is and how to heal

23:17

and integrate that so that we are

23:19

in our most whole self authenticity

23:22

to be able to get what we want. It's

23:25

so interesting because, and I love

23:27

that you even brought up the

23:29

nervous system work because what I've

23:31

been finding is that that limiting

23:33

belief that cements then

23:35

almost creates like a protector

23:37

part that has that

23:39

nervous system response to things. So like

23:42

when you were saying, Lacey, that it

23:44

hit your Achilles heel, that Achilles heel,

23:46

the rug is gonna get pulled out

23:48

from under you is a nervous system

23:50

response that's related to that block. This

23:53

whole protective web that shows up

23:55

around our block to keep

23:57

us perpetuating, almost keeping

23:59

the. block there because that's what

24:01

we know versus moving into territory that's

24:03

high self-worth but it's like we don't

24:06

know that to be true yet. And

24:08

then when you finally can expand and

24:10

unblock, you know it to be true.

24:13

You're like, okay, I can put a

24:15

new belief system in here. And

24:17

then you get to take the action

24:19

to regulate your nervous system and approach

24:21

the real life example from a new angle.

24:24

So that's so interesting

24:26

too. Am I crazy here? The

24:29

nervous system has so much mapping just like

24:31

the brain does. Oh my gosh. Doesn't it?

24:34

Right? Like all of these?

24:36

Isn't that so fascinating that it just creates

24:38

this level of safety. Okay,

24:40

you can survive based on this

24:42

mapping that we're doing, but it

24:44

feels not a natural,

24:47

I don't know what the word is, but to be

24:50

healing that and giving a new

24:52

suggestion and then overriding creating

24:55

a new neural pathway and a

24:57

new way that your nervous system

24:59

reacts to that experience. It's really,

25:01

it's magic. It's

25:03

interesting and there's a lot out there

25:05

on this because I think that there's

25:07

confusion around a regulated nervous

25:09

system always being calm. But

25:12

that actually is not what a

25:14

regulated nervous system means. A regulated

25:16

nervous system is where we can

25:18

respond appropriately to whatever the stimuli

25:20

is. And honestly, in your

25:23

case, with a contractor that was screwing

25:26

you over, it would have been appropriate for

25:28

you to have some sympathetic charge there and to

25:31

set a boundary and to

25:33

get activated. That's not you

25:35

dysregulated. That's actually responding appropriately.

25:37

What would be dysregulated is

25:40

if you got stuck in

25:42

almost like a vortex of

25:44

either being stuck completely on

25:46

or completely off. So

25:50

that's where we get problematic and that

25:52

is actually cumulative built up in your

25:54

nervous system. So a number of

25:56

experiences over time, built up, built up, built up, and

25:58

then you kind of get and almost like a rip

26:01

current, I like to think of it, of

26:03

either stuck on or stuck off or honestly,

26:05

sometimes both. And so that's

26:07

where the problem comes, but it's

26:09

appropriate. I think a lot of times, forgiving,

26:11

but like in spiritual community, it's like, we

26:13

just have to be at peace all the

26:16

time and we're all this calm. And that

26:18

is not what regulated nervous system is.

26:20

That's actually really good information. And

26:22

it's such a healthy response to

26:24

be able to have access to

26:26

your whole range of nervous system,

26:28

whether it's sympathetic or

26:30

parasympathetic. I didn't

26:33

know that. That's really good information. Well,

26:35

and that's interesting too, because that goes

26:37

back to high self-worth, right? Like if

26:39

you had that contractor experience and you

26:41

were like feeling frustrated, a

26:43

normal reaction comes up, then

26:46

you go through and take the action

26:48

by setting the boundary, getting a new

26:50

contractor immediately, not settling for that anymore,

26:52

and just move on it with almost

26:54

ease, that's like, OK, you are

26:56

in high self-worth with this. You're not going to

26:58

settle for it, move on, universe. Let's get into

27:01

the next level of this. But

27:03

if you react to it,

27:05

you sit on it, you're ruminating on it, you

27:08

don't set the boundary right away. And

27:10

then another example of it comes up.

27:12

That's showing that you're still engaged in

27:14

needing to heal that pattern. So

27:17

it kind of gives you that roadmap,

27:19

that pattern, of where you are at

27:21

in relation to that dynamic. Yeah,

27:24

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28:46

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30:41

blocks we're defining as limiting beliefs,

30:43

the deeply rooted subconscious beliefs that

30:45

are low self worth and keep

30:47

you in old patterns, habits, small

30:49

disempowered and settling for less than

30:51

you deserve. They're physically blocking you

30:53

from your manifestation and magnetism. When

30:56

unblocked is the state of being

30:58

open, free, you have boundaries, you're

31:01

authentic and you reprogram those limiting

31:03

beliefs in your subconscious. When you've

31:05

removed old patterns that don't serve

31:07

you, your blocks, you create

31:09

magnetism. So just

31:12

to kind of distill down for everyone

31:14

there, you can even as you're listening

31:16

start thinking what are some of the

31:18

patterns that you may be repeating which

31:20

is really a version of your inner

31:23

child trying to get their needs

31:25

met by repeating out this pattern.

31:27

So Janelle from your expertise and

31:30

your perspective and I think EMDR

31:32

is like one of the most

31:34

highly recommended forms of therapy for

31:37

people who have traumatic memories or

31:39

their trauma is like living semantically

31:41

within the body and all of

31:44

that. So how do you see

31:46

this process of these sort of

31:48

core beliefs and memories manifest into

31:50

people trying to repeat them essentially

31:53

to heal them? Yeah.

31:55

So just for somebody that doesn't

31:58

know so much about EMDR. basically

32:00

when we go through trauma, every

32:03

single time our brain will

32:05

pair it with a negative

32:07

belief about ourselves. And when we take

32:10

any information in, our brain can just process

32:12

it to all the centers of the brain

32:14

and just kind of digest it through, but

32:16

when trauma happens to us and it gets

32:18

paired with that negative belief, it just will

32:20

loop there. And then we see, of course,

32:22

out through that lens. I've said

32:24

this before, but like, you know, that saying that we see the

32:26

world through rose-colored lenses, we really see

32:29

it through whatever specific trauma, whatever

32:31

our brain picked up through that

32:33

negative belief, we see out of

32:35

that space. There's four

32:37

categories. There's one of defectiveness,

32:40

there's one of responsibility, there's

32:42

one of safety, vulnerability, and

32:45

then power and control. So

32:47

the defectiveness category is like, I'm

32:49

not good enough, I don't deserve

32:51

love, I'm a bad person, I'm

32:53

worthless, inadequate, I'm incompetent, I'm shameful,

32:55

I'm not lovable, all of

32:57

that. The responsibility category is more

32:59

of like, I did something wrong, I

33:01

should have known better, more

33:03

of just somebody that's always in

33:06

that chronic place of self- blame.

33:08

The safety vulnerability category is, I

33:10

can't trust anyone, I can't protect

33:12

myself, I'm not safe, it's

33:14

not okay to feel or show my emotions

33:17

is a big one in that one. And then the

33:19

power and control is, I'm powerless and helpless, I'm

33:21

not a control, I can't get what I want.

33:23

That's actually a big one for manifestation is, I can't

33:25

get what I want. I

33:27

can't trust my judgment, I'm gonna fail,

33:29

I can't succeed, I have to be

33:32

perfect, please everyone. So it's interesting, but

33:34

like, you know, some people are always

33:36

in the power and control category, or

33:38

some people always kind of hang out

33:40

in the defectiveness. I mean, there's

33:42

like the single incident traumas, like I was in

33:45

a car accident, or this one specific incident happened

33:47

to me. And then there's

33:49

attachment trauma, which is, you know, what we've

33:51

talked about before, Jessica, which is repeatedly I had

33:53

a dad that was a workaholic, and then I

33:55

felt not good enough. So a lot of the

33:58

real deep, deep core narratives I

34:00

would say they're more attachment-based. They're

34:02

the ones that were thousands of

34:04

times reinforced. And then we

34:06

might have just a secondary and third

34:08

ones based off of like we had

34:11

whatever, maybe a couple years of repeating

34:13

thing in high school or something. But

34:15

usually there's this core, core

34:17

one or core category that each of us

34:19

can kind of tend to go to. I

34:22

think that was a really good highlight because if I were to

34:24

look at my core, core narrative,

34:27

I would have to say what comes up

34:29

the most is my needs don't matter. Like

34:31

I'm constantly shifting those to my needs matter,

34:33

my needs matter first, etc. But

34:36

it's fascinating. And this is something I would like

34:38

to dissect a little bit together, because

34:41

as I'm looking at this list, all

34:43

of these I can see in different

34:45

categories have popped up for me. And

34:47

then really, really transformative manifestations

34:50

have just started piling through.

34:52

And so something that I'm

34:54

so curious to kind of

34:56

dissect together, you're someone who has

34:59

been doing this work for so

35:01

long, and you're so versed in

35:03

EMDR and SE. What

35:05

do you think because when it comes to

35:07

the core narrative, that takes

35:09

so much reinforcement, a positive reinforcement

35:12

and tackling it over and over

35:14

and over again, taking action steps

35:16

in life, etc. But

35:19

I find that these unlock a little

35:21

bit faster, which makes total sense based on what

35:23

you said earlier. Yes. And manifestations

35:26

come through rather quickly when you

35:28

tackle these second narratives. Yeah,

35:31

and you're right, it's so much easier to move

35:33

through. You know, the core narrative ones is the

35:35

ones that people are going to do a ton

35:37

of inner child around and they go back to

35:39

over and over again. That's more of like a

35:42

big story clearing. But you're right, the secondary third,

35:44

all of those, those are pretty quick, quick and

35:46

easy. Easier. When

35:49

I was looking at that particular very

35:51

first thing that was really making me

35:53

start to understand subconscious and unblocking, it

35:55

would have been a core narrative now

35:57

because it would have fallen under my

35:59

knees. needs don't matter. It's

36:01

really interesting too, at that, I would say it

36:04

was a very big rut time. It wasn't even

36:06

a rock bottom. It was a very big rut

36:08

time. But it was a rock bottom that led

36:10

me into the self-reflection that was

36:12

happening then. I had to

36:14

be in that space to force

36:17

me to start to learn this process.

36:19

So it's interesting that probably most of

36:22

the triggers coming up in my life were

36:24

hitting on that core narrative, which

36:26

I think says a lot about if

36:29

we never start to address the core

36:31

narrative, that's when we live in a life

36:33

of complacency. Same loop over

36:35

and over. Your life just looks

36:37

the same. That's when you keep dating the same

36:39

emotionally unavailable person and the job and the thing

36:41

and the thing and the thing. Yeah,

36:44

exactly. And then if

36:46

we think about this, we talk about

36:49

this in the manifestation work all the

36:51

time. But we have these limiting core

36:53

narratives implanted, your core one, your secondary,

36:55

tertiary, et cetera, your list of 20

36:58

items, whatever it is. But part

37:00

of the reason, I think, in

37:03

the neuroscience perspective and psychology perspective

37:05

of it that we're continuing to

37:07

press against these narratives is

37:09

that, like you always say, Lacey, the universe

37:11

wants us to get back to our whole

37:13

authentic, worthy self. And these were things that

37:16

we took on in beliefs about ourselves that

37:18

aren't true. And so if

37:20

we can be poking the wound in

37:22

certain places, then we can say, OK,

37:24

that hurts. Let

37:27

me look at it because I don't want

37:29

to deal with it the way that I'm

37:31

dealing with it, believing this negative belief about

37:34

myself. And it kind of forces us to

37:36

have a dark night of the soul, so

37:38

to speak, with each of our beliefs and

37:40

really say, OK, was this serving me before?

37:42

Did this help me survive as a child?

37:44

And do I need this belief now?

37:47

And can I believe something different

37:49

to really integrate into our whole

37:51

authentic, worthy selves? And the more

37:53

that you uncover, the more you

37:55

unblock, the heaviest stuff starts to

37:57

drop off, the most activating stuff.

37:59

stuff seems to exit

38:02

your life and then the tension

38:04

becomes easier so to speak.

38:07

Such a beautiful way of saying it Jessica. Yeah,

38:10

that's exactly it. So

38:17

what are blocks? Blocks

38:19

are those deeply rooted subconscious

38:21

living new beliefs that push

38:24

away our manifestation. Because

38:26

they are the things that are rooted in

38:28

low self worth. Those are the things that

38:30

are rooted in our old patterns, our old

38:32

habits. Keeping us small and

38:34

disempowered settling for less than we deserve.

38:38

And before you get nervous about, oh

38:40

my gosh, what do I have blocking

38:42

in my subconscious? Everybody has

38:44

blocks. That's part of the human experience. We

38:46

experience pain, shame, programming, all of the things.

38:49

And our brain wants to keep us safe.

38:51

It wants to keep us a part of

38:53

the path. It wants to avoid rejection. It

38:56

wants love from our family around us.

38:58

And so it tries to protect us

39:01

with these coping mechanisms that say don't

39:03

do that or you won't be loved.

39:05

Or don't step out of the norm

39:07

of the family unit. Or

39:09

keep repeating these dating dynamics because this

39:12

is what you know. This is the

39:14

familiar. The new feels

39:16

scary, different to us. So

39:18

what we have to do with blocks

39:20

to get to a state of unblocking

39:23

is to A, identify

39:25

the blocks. What is operating down there?

39:27

What did we pick up in childhood

39:29

that we're probably not even conscious of

39:32

that is actually running the show with

39:34

our manifestation? How can we

39:36

get to a state where we desensitize

39:38

the emotional reaction around

39:41

this limiting belief? Where

39:44

we sort of debunk the limiting belief

39:46

and we override it by replacing it

39:48

with a new empowering belief that is

39:50

going to get us to that high

39:52

self-worth in relation to whatever we're calling

39:55

in. So when we are

39:57

unblocked, we're in that state of being open

39:59

for the future. free. You still have

40:01

boundaries. You're truly authentic. And as

40:03

you reprogram those beliefs, you're going

40:06

to shift the neural pathways in

40:08

your subconscious and you stop looping

40:10

on those same patterns that

40:13

you thought you needed, those familiar

40:15

patterns, and you start moving into

40:17

a more magnetic aligned path. So

40:22

once someone feels calmer in their body,

40:24

is it that they feel safer to

40:27

access the trauma, to heal the trauma?

40:29

Is that kind of what's going on?

40:32

Yeah. I mean, usually when you bring

40:34

up your trauma, you could really easily

40:36

start to disassociate. If somebody

40:38

is doing like inner child and a trauma

40:40

came up and they found themselves where

40:42

they just kind of spaced out the whole

40:45

DI, that's a sign that

40:47

you've disassociated. And it's

40:49

just your body's way of protecting itself. But just

40:51

to be aware that we want to

40:54

get you back online, it's almost like a

40:56

little balloon, you know, like it goes up

40:58

in the air and you're like, I just

41:00

disassociated and you want to pull the balloon

41:03

back to the ground. But that's what these

41:05

SE practices are or the safe DI. That's

41:07

what that does. So you want

41:09

to make sure, am I present and am

41:11

I really here or am I

41:13

just so panicked? If you're so

41:16

panicked going into a DI,

41:18

it's going to be really hard to do

41:21

any trauma resolution. Some

41:23

people are going to need to stay in the

41:26

safe, the new deep imagining called safe. They might

41:28

need to hang out there for a while or

41:30

do a lot of prep work. If they know

41:32

that they're going to do, you know, work on

41:34

some trauma, I would do the safe one before

41:37

just to make sure am I regulated?

41:39

Am I present? Am I here? Once

41:42

that's online, you can do some really good trauma

41:44

work. And if you just associate

41:46

again, just okay, take a break, go back,

41:49

honor your emotional boundaries, go back to

41:51

doing the safe DI to make sure

41:53

that you are connected to yourself and

41:56

you feel safe. And so

41:58

it's going to be very individual

42:00

with whatever that person's working through.

42:02

And I've been here before,

42:04

I'm like, where I'm so eager to

42:06

have a manifestation come through that I

42:08

just want to run in and rip

42:10

it off like a band-aid. But the

42:12

essence of TBM is real self-worth, true,

42:16

deep self-worth. And true

42:18

self-worth doesn't run over

42:20

our emotional boundaries. It deeply respects

42:23

our emotional boundaries and

42:25

our trauma and deep

42:27

self-worth is just so

42:29

carefully, so lovingly

42:31

holds our trauma work. And

42:34

I think in that, ironically enough,

42:36

our manifestation might come through by

42:38

moving through it slowly and not

42:40

just making sure it's done because

42:42

it communicates that deep self-worth.

42:45

So don't be afraid to bounce back

42:47

and hang out and do some of

42:49

the SD work and the safety eye.

42:52

And if you need to hang out there for weeks, if

42:54

that's what self-love and self-worth is, just

42:57

go with that. I

42:59

love that you said that because I think I

43:01

definitely resonate with the jumping in and

43:04

ripping off the band-aid. And sometimes it's

43:06

like, you just need soothing. You just

43:08

need comfort in this moment. We can

43:10

get to them blocking tomorrow or the

43:12

next day, but just soothe. Yes.

43:16

What are signs of one being in that?

43:18

So it's a green light to keep moving

43:20

forward with actual unblocking. I

43:22

would say go back to the safety eye. When you

43:24

go back to the safety eye, it will bring you

43:27

back to present. Anytime you are

43:29

tender, anytime you're raw, that will bring you

43:31

back to the present and then you can

43:33

keep going. If you're feeling good, then I'd

43:35

say move on and do the DI. One

43:38

thing I just wanted to add

43:40

in to that piece as well,

43:42

the core concept with a lot

43:44

of these DIs is to really

43:46

take one theme through the whole

43:48

thing and be able to have

43:50

the safety eye, to resource yourself,

43:52

soothe yourself, get in the practice

43:54

of visualizing, and then to have it

43:56

about things that are joyful and bring you excitement so you

43:59

can get in the habit. of what does it

44:01

feel like to visualize in a deep

44:03

imagining without visualizing, you know, your inner

44:05

childhood wounding. And once you

44:07

really get in the groove with that one,

44:10

then you can start going through the unblocked

44:12

and the fear and the anxiety pieces and

44:14

understand what's going on there and what blocks

44:16

and things need to be called to attention.

44:19

It's going to take time, but it doesn't

44:21

mean that you can't be magnetic during that

44:23

entire process. Absolutely. A

44:30

blocking truly is active getting to the

44:32

root belief of this block and desensitizing

44:34

the emotional charge around the wound that

44:36

created this block in the first place.

44:39

Where did you learn this? How can

44:41

you write a new story for yourself?

44:43

How can you see the old

44:45

wounding through the eyes of your

44:48

now matured adult self and write

44:50

a new belief system, a new

44:52

story? And I think it's also

44:54

really important to point out you're not broken. Every

44:57

single person who is living on this

44:59

planet has blocks. We have picked up

45:02

things on our journey that is part

45:04

of living. And so

45:06

the idea is not to not have blocks

45:08

at all. It's how can we

45:11

identify the blocks that are down there

45:13

that are not working for us anymore?

45:15

They're actually in the way of what

45:17

we want and where we're going, especially

45:19

in the way of our

45:22

authentic. One

45:24

big place blocks show up is

45:26

as a subconscious fear around connecting

45:28

with your manifestation. You may consciously

45:30

say, I am not scared of

45:32

my manifestation. I can't wait for

45:35

it. I'm so excited. But think

45:37

about and even now as the

45:39

audience check in with your body

45:41

for a moment. When

45:43

you think you get that phone

45:45

call or that that moment happens,

45:48

your manifestation has come through. Now

45:51

that it's here, what would your

45:53

day to day look like? How

45:55

would it change? How would your life change

45:58

once it came through? part

46:00

of you fearful? Is any part of you

46:02

be like, oh gosh, I really want that

46:04

new dream home but how am I gonna

46:06

upkeep all the new space or how am

46:08

I gonna afford the furniture to fill it?

46:11

Or what if it's further away from all

46:13

my friends and family that I want to

46:15

be close to? Are there any

46:17

sort of limiting beliefs that immediately start

46:19

to float in when you think about

46:21

having that manifestation come through? One

46:23

big one that pops up for people is

46:25

what are people gonna think? I

46:28

had a friend who's manifesting this big European

46:30

vacation and one of her

46:32

fears around this coming through was, I

46:35

feel like my family's gonna judge me

46:37

for taking time off work and spending

46:39

all this money on myself. They're gonna

46:41

think it's a bad financial decision but

46:43

I really really want it. My soul

46:45

is craving it. Now

46:47

if you just think of that

46:49

dynamic, if you're worried that you're

46:52

going to get a bad reaction

46:54

from your family who your inner

46:56

child and your adult self likely

46:58

wants love and connection from, you're

47:00

not going to fully listen

47:03

to all those things. You're maybe not

47:05

gonna unblock all the things you need

47:07

to unblock. Maybe you're not gonna see

47:09

all the expansion that is at your

47:11

fingertips towards manifesting this dream vacation

47:13

because you're afraid of that isolation on the

47:15

other side. That's how some of those fears

47:17

can show up. So how do you know

47:20

if you have blocks in the way? Are

47:22

the things you are manifesting not showing up

47:24

in your life at all? So if you

47:26

are someone who's like I've been manifesting this

47:28

thing for a really really really long time,

47:30

if you are taking a line

47:33

to action and you have expanders, then

47:35

blocks is often the root of

47:37

what's happening there. Do you

47:39

have reoccurring tests with a similar through-line?

47:41

The same energetic? The same things being

47:43

asked of you? Maybe it's your boundaries

47:46

are always being crossed or you don't

47:48

feel heard or seen in the dynamics

47:50

that you're with. Are you

47:52

attracting the same dynamics that are not

47:54

getting you closer to your manifestation? The

47:56

same exact type of test? The same

47:59

shiny carrots but never wind

48:01

up working out and they don't seem to

48:03

get any better. Are you

48:05

unconsciously repeating a pattern, witness and

48:07

childhood? If you think about your

48:10

home and family dynamics, did

48:12

you see this dynamic show up in

48:14

your home life? Are you

48:16

defensive blaming others or easily triggered?

48:19

Are you afraid that the

48:21

rug will be pulled out from under

48:23

you or are you in a scarcity

48:25

mindset? Do you feel constantly in conflict

48:27

or avoid being in conflict altogether? Are

48:30

you numbing, procrastinating or unable to

48:32

take action? You're choosing people that

48:34

aren't good for you. You're choosing

48:36

people that don't feel aligned with

48:38

your authentic desires and yet you

48:40

keep running into the fire with

48:42

them. And then one big one

48:44

is you get stuck in the fight,

48:46

flight, freeze or fawn response. It could

48:48

be any of those four but like

48:50

Janelle has said, a regulated nervous system

48:52

is one that you know if things

48:54

happen in your life you might pop

48:56

into those responses and then come out

48:58

of it and then pop down to

49:00

the other responses and come out of

49:03

it. That's normal. The tricky part is

49:05

the dysregulated side is when you are

49:07

stuck in that. So that's

49:09

like after you have some

49:11

emotional reaction you are stuck,

49:14

feeling and ruminating, angry about something for

49:17

a long time or you're stuck in

49:19

the freezer response where you're constantly procrastinating

49:21

and not moving forward. All of these

49:24

things are signs that that nervous system

49:26

doesn't feel safe to come back down

49:28

again and that is a sign that

49:31

a block may be trying to alert

49:33

you to its existence. It's also

49:35

important to be working on a nervous

49:37

system simultaneously which is something that we're

49:39

definitely going to be diving into in

49:41

our upcoming summer challenge. By

49:54

now you're starting to get the feel for TBM.

49:56

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49:59

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50:01

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50:03

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out the sale. Now back

51:56

to the episode. Blocks

52:08

are all the pain, shame, programming, the

52:10

limiting beliefs, the core wounds that

52:12

are created in your subconscious that

52:14

keep us from truly believing that

52:16

the things we want are possible

52:18

and prevent us from connecting with

52:21

our manifestation. They're energetically blocking out

52:23

what you want to come through.

52:26

And I almost want to give the

52:28

visual for someone to think about blocks.

52:31

I had this thought the other day, because

52:33

you know how you have the example of

52:35

expanded is allowing the runway

52:37

to become visible for the plane

52:39

to land. I

52:42

almost see it as the plane, which is

52:44

your manifestation, wants to land. It has space

52:46

to land if you're expanded enough. But it's

52:48

almost like the radar at the airport, which is

52:50

your subconscious, is giving it signals

52:52

not to land. It

52:54

can't figure out where it needs to

52:56

go because it's being told to keep

52:59

circling or not land or don't come

53:01

through. And what the radar

53:03

or your subconscious is actually saying is allowing

53:05

tests to land or things that you

53:08

settle for before to land and stay

53:10

in alignment with until the radar is

53:12

at the subconscious self-worth with the plane,

53:14

then it will tell it to land.

53:16

Otherwise it's just blocking it. That's

53:19

a great way to look at it, or it's the storm.

53:21

Like you're going to keep flying. You know

53:23

what I mean? There's nowhere to land. What

53:26

you're saying makes sense because it's

53:28

like you just don't see the path forward. And

53:31

this is all subconscious that we're talking

53:33

about. So for the listener who's like,

53:35

wait, what? It's really just like Jessica

53:37

was saying, it's the old

53:39

memories and the imprints that are looping.

53:42

And either way, you want to look at

53:45

the analogy. That's exactly the case. And

53:47

I know some people are really turned off by

53:49

the word block. Just know if you're triggered

53:51

by that, it's actually nothing to do with

53:54

the word yourself. It's just something you're still

53:56

annoyed at or frustrated that you haven't manifested,

53:58

et cetera. energetically block,

54:00

you can unblock. There's a solution

54:03

there. So just looking at the

54:05

block as it's just

54:07

something that's still looping in your

54:10

subconscious that is literally projecting out

54:12

and saying, I'm really scared of

54:14

this. I can't have this. I'm

54:17

not lovable for this or worthy

54:19

of this. And the beautiful thing

54:21

is, is there is a solution.

54:24

There's a healing, there's a way

54:26

to subconsciously get down there and

54:28

desensitize the emotions surrounding that

54:31

experience. And then using neuroplasticity to

54:33

reprogram or re imprint that, wait

54:35

a second, that had nothing to

54:37

do with me, I'm actually really

54:39

worthy and I am

54:42

so lovable and it is okay.

54:45

And, and I do

54:47

want this, you know, suggest noting

54:49

that that don't be too triggered

54:51

or what not with the

54:53

word block because it's something that you can

54:56

not block you can change. And

54:58

we all have different variations of

55:00

them. That's the whole reason the universe

55:02

is dancing with us and mirroring experiences

55:05

to us because it is really just

55:07

trying to get us back into our

55:09

whole worthy authentic self that we were

55:11

born as before we experienced any pain,

55:13

shame or programming. And in

55:16

fact, looking at the blocks as

55:18

survival mechanisms, you

55:20

know, they were created out of a

55:22

way for you to like cope or

55:25

survive in a situation that didn't feel

55:27

good to you usually as a child,

55:29

then you can start to have some

55:31

empathy for the blocks. It's almost like

55:33

curiosity of like, why did this subconscious

55:36

limiting belief even become created? What was

55:38

it trying to do? How was it

55:40

trying to provide safety, value, security, connection,

55:42

love, etc. And then when we see

55:44

it from that lens, it's almost like

55:46

having empathy for the parts of us that

55:49

attach to these blocks and held on to

55:51

them. And then it's now the adult version

55:53

of us saying, Okay, I see

55:55

why you were created that was smart for

55:58

that period of time, but now

56:00

for what I want in life and my evolution,

56:03

it's time for me to move through these blocks and

56:05

start to create a new reality. So

56:12

I wanted to share with you guys a couple examples

56:14

of how blocks play out in people's lives, just so

56:16

you can start to get your mind thinking about them.

56:19

So one of our process members,

56:21

Allie, who is actually our incredible

56:23

copywriter here at TBN, in

56:25

her process episode that we'll link in

56:27

the show notes, she talked about this

56:29

block around career when she was pivoting

56:31

from a corporate job that

56:33

she felt really unfulfilled in, that

56:35

was super, super hard and taxing

56:37

on her body and nervous system

56:39

to something that felt more free,

56:41

exciting, working with clients in a freelance

56:44

capacity in a way that lit her

56:46

up and was fun and easy. One

56:49

of the blocks she had to look at

56:51

and face was this narrative around work. Her

56:54

block was that work had to

56:56

be hard. And so

56:58

when she looked back at her parents' dynamic,

57:01

she witnessed that, oh my gosh, working

57:04

hard is exactly how my parents

57:06

approach work. Her subconscious could

57:08

not see to believe that work could

57:10

equate to ease, flow, joy, love. Another

57:14

element that she also discovered is that

57:16

as a little kid, when her parents

57:19

would drop her off for daycare and

57:21

go to work, that work equaled

57:24

this painful point of disconnection from

57:26

love and her parents. And so

57:28

she had to go back in

57:30

and unblock and heal that wound

57:32

scene around that little child's, what

57:34

they witnessed there, what that meant,

57:36

what work meant to her little

57:39

inner child's self. So

57:41

she could then manifest the career that she

57:43

has now working with incredible clients, loving what

57:45

she's doing and feeling really lit up by

57:47

her work. Another common

57:50

block I see a lot and

57:52

one of our members wrote in

57:54

about was how they were manifesting

57:56

being seen through their business and on

57:59

social media. And when they went to

58:01

share on social media and grow their

58:03

following and grow their business, they kept

58:05

running into a wall. It felt like

58:07

climbing up hill to get there. And

58:10

they were doing all the things consistent, whatever you

58:12

can possibly do, and they still were not hitting

58:14

the numbers that they wanted to achieve or

58:16

even the growth they wanted to achieve. And

58:18

when they really looked down at that

58:21

block, they realized that their inner teenager

58:23

picked up that it was not safe

58:25

to be seen. Because when they were

58:27

seen in school, they

58:29

were bullied when they wore their shiny

58:32

new dress, when they decided to do

58:34

their hair that day, other

58:36

girls would pick on her and

58:38

said that she, oh, why does she think

58:40

she's so cool, so special? What's going on

58:42

there? And so she internalized

58:44

this block, this narrative, that it

58:46

was not safe to be seen.

58:48

So even though she consciously really wanted to

58:51

grow her business and to be seen, her

58:54

inner child was the one in the

58:56

driver's seat saying, actually, let's

58:58

keep this at a distance. And when

59:00

she was able to unblock that, her

59:03

numbers started to grow, her business

59:05

started to grow. Because when

59:08

she unblocked it, her actions

59:10

started changing ever so slightly, she showed

59:12

up a bit more confidently, and she

59:14

was able to create the business that

59:17

she had always wanted. This

59:19

is actually a similar theme that

59:21

I remember from the Miss Excel

59:23

process episode as well, that it

59:25

catapulted her career when

59:27

she could really truly own her authentic self

59:29

and show her that it was safe for

59:31

her to be seen. So you guys

59:34

can start to think about what might be

59:36

standing in your way that you

59:38

don't even know that's down there

59:40

in your subconscious, right? That's why

59:42

we're launching the Find Your Biggest

59:45

Block exercise, so you guys can

59:47

really take inventory and understand what

59:49

might be operating in your subconscious

59:51

that is playing out in your

59:53

reality, that is blocking what

59:55

you actually want. Such a

59:57

difference between our conscious desires subconscious

1:00:00

fear is pushing away that

1:00:03

desire that is where we take our actions

1:00:05

from. I

1:00:12

hope you guys enjoyed this episode today and I'm

1:00:14

so glad we have this resource for anyone

1:00:16

to come back to when they're going through

1:00:19

blocks to start to really understand what they

1:00:21

are and how they play out. It is

1:00:23

the theme of our summer challenge this year.

1:00:25

We are diving into our biggest blocks and

1:00:27

hitting it from every single angle to really

1:00:29

chip away at it and include a whole

1:00:31

new reality on the other side. So if

1:00:33

you're sitting there listening to this and you're

1:00:36

like wait a second I want to know

1:00:38

what my biggest block is. We

1:00:40

have a free exercise for you. If you

1:00:42

click the link in our show notes or

1:00:44

dms the word on blocked we will send

1:00:47

you the free exercise. You could pin down

1:00:49

what your block is. Share with us. Let

1:00:51

us know what is that block for you.

1:00:53

What is coming up? What's that story? What's

1:00:55

that narrative? What's that fear? Let's

1:00:58

learn about it and through our

1:01:00

summer challenge we're going to take it

1:01:02

step by step to unblock it. It's

1:01:05

really interesting because even as I was

1:01:07

going through you know this free exercise

1:01:09

myself when I had first went

1:01:11

through and wrote my answer it's a theme

1:01:14

that kept coming up with not being able

1:01:16

to prioritize my needs. All

1:01:18

these little things rooted down to

1:01:20

really self-care and prioritizing my needs

1:01:23

and one common block or limiting narrative

1:01:25

could be my needs don't matter and

1:01:27

that felt resonant and then I sat

1:01:30

with it for a couple days and

1:01:32

I was like wait a second it's

1:01:34

not that my needs don't matter it's

1:01:36

that I don't feel that I'm capable

1:01:38

of honoring my needs first. That

1:01:41

was the block. There was a

1:01:43

part of me that didn't believe

1:01:45

it was possible for me to

1:01:47

prioritize my needs first and so

1:01:49

that's what I'm going to be

1:01:52

taking into the challenge this year

1:01:54

and diving into even more so.

1:01:56

I just wanted to share that little example

1:01:58

because I think sometimes that

1:02:00

narrative, that phrasing, just a few

1:02:03

words off can really hit the

1:02:05

nail on the head for the

1:02:07

story that you are operating from. So

1:02:10

let's discover our blocks together and

1:02:13

let's unblock them and have

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a beautiful time connecting with our

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manifestations. Alright guys, have a

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great week. you