In this deeply personal solo episode, Lisa shares her story. She explains how her childhood conditioning and experiences of being raised as a “good girl” and a “people pleaser” shaped her life choices. In particular- in her love relationships. Lisa explains what “good girl” conditioning is including the “freeze or fawn” states and how she eventually “woke up”,  recognized her subconscious patterns, and began to heal into the empowered sovereign woman that she identifies as now.

Key Takeaways

(1:31) Lisa explains her childhood family dynamic

(3:30) Lisa discusses her patterning around romantic relationships in her 20’s

(4:59 ) Lisa talks about “Good Girl/People Pleasing” Conditioning

(7:37) Lisa talks about how she handled herself emotionally in relationships

(8:05) Hear about how the messaging Lisa received as a child had affected her self worth

(9:44) Lisa explains how she met her first husband and their marriage

(14:48) Lisa’s higher self began to speak to her and awareness began to rise.

(15:17) The moment Lisa’s body screamed at her.

(17:58) Lisa talks about letting go.

(19:07) Hear about what became easier over time 

(20:53) Hear about why Lisa embraced Human Design 

Quotables:

“The messaging is clear external appearance is more important than internal feelings.”

“No good girl can appear rude.  She learns to disconnect from her emotions and to appease those around her.”

“I also see that I was unable to address my feelings and emotions in relationships as I didn’t have the vocabulary or the experience to openly discuss my issues.”

“I now know that the reason that I was resentful and angry was because I came second."

“My body went into a state of excitement, energy exploded from every center of my being. I was free I was free.”

“Nobody but you knows how hard it was to pull yourself up from emotional rock bottom. Those lessons made you who you are and no one can take them away from you.”

“I had safety and security but that wasn’t enough for me to feel fulfilled. I couldn’t continue to live in such a disconnected way. My soul knew that there was more for me.”

“People pleasing - is exhausting you are always battling with who you really are.”

“ There ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY OPPORTUNITIES TO LEARN”

“Once that decision was made, let’s call it jumping off a cliff, doing the hard thing, the right thing, the scary thing everything has unfolded for me exactly as I would have wanted.”

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