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Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your
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favorite shows. Hello, Hello,
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Hi Sharne. How are you? I'm
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good. We just had
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a great conversation with our guests,
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Just Merwin. I really think our audience
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is going to take this episode. I'm excited
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about it. A lot is covered in this episode.
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We hit on their childhood, we
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hit on ghost stories, what
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it means to be your own representative
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to help other people who are going
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through maybe what you have experienced growing
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up. It's a wide ranging discussion
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with plot twists, Yes,
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a lot of plot twists, and a lot
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of international intrigue. I'm
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kidding what kind of it's kind of
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true, But it's a great conversation. I really
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think y'all are going to enjoy it. So don't go anywhere.
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Who are we? Where
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do they come from? Who do we
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become? What is it to
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me? What do is
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it? There are?
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Who are my parents? Where
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are my names? Why
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are we born? We
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are ethnically
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ambiguous? Hi?
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Hi, sharin Anna,
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did you like that? I
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like that? We both started cackling. Yeah, I wanted
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to do that as a regular intro every time.
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I do really love when people have that
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kind of laugh, like when people have like a cackle
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laugh. I wish I had like one
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of those. I've never come across someone who has like a
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like a legitimate cackle laugh, you
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know what I mean, though, it's like an infectious kind of sound.
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I feel like I've always been very self conscious
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about my laugh. I will start with that. I've always been
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very self conscious about it. Well, I
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had to change my laugh. I used to laugh like hoh,
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and you know what I just got just made
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fun of ruthless. You're not being
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serious because you already know this about me.
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I've already told you this in the past when
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we went to comedy shows and stuff. I love
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your laugh. I think your laugh is
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so infectious and so like you
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like the Hi Hi. That's
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not what your laugh sounds like. You have a great laugh,
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and I would always recognize your laugh at comedy
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shows. I created that laugh the ha ha he
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he ho. I think I was like in high school
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and I was like, I'm just gonna laugh like this in movie theaters
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at comedies. I
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mean that would also be very distinctive and I would still
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recognize it, so that would also
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work such a funny laugh to laugh, like how
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people right laughter ha
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ha. If
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I'm being starcastic, I'll be like ha ha, but
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like I don't actually an
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extra little a h d if
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I'm really if I'm really like liking it.
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But anyways, Yeah, this was actually
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one of our better intros in my opinions,
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which is maybe sadum. Today
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we are joined by a guest that
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I only met kind of recently
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when we did the Bechdel Cast live reading,
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and the live reading was Twilight,
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And for those of you who don't know, Twilight
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takes place on like partly on indigenous
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land in the story, but also has a lot of indigenous
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characters. And I really appreciated
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Jess because they brought a lot of facts
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and knowledge about indigenous
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culture. And it's because they
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are also Indigenous and
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I have been wanting to talk to them
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for a very long time about their
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activism work and also just everything
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that they're up to. So without further
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ado, y'all please welcome
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Just Merwin bad
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for you.
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It's lovely to be here. Thank you so much.
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I'm so excited to get to talk more with both
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of you. I love the show. It's
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a huge honor. Yeah, I am
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Indigenous. I am an Indigenous. I
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guess I guess before is that
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the term also, like okay,
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I didn't wanna. I feel like there's a lot of terms
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that kind of get taken over by
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mainstream and then people run with it,
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whether it's like Native American or you're Americans
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that doesn't count either. Yeah,
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there's a lot of differences actually, even between
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like the States in Canada, like the way that we talk about
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things here in Canada, and it can involve
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like some of the same nations even, you
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know, and we'll use certain terminology and
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it's not uncommon for example too
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here folks in the States, Indigenous folks
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in the States still use terms like Indian.
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Like we talked a lot about that term
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in terms of not only just like the American
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Indian Movement, which is like an activist organization,
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but also just like some people prefer
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to saying Native American because it's
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like we're not Americans, you know, it's
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more like an umbrella term. It's really interesting
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because you don't get that so much in Canada. I think here
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in Canada we tend to use
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indigenous or First nations
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or maytie or like Inuit
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or you know, or you actually use like the nation
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name. So in my case, I'm
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mixed race Magma. So
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the Magma are people of
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the Northeastern Woodlands
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part of North America. Think
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of like Maine, Quebec,
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the island of Newfoundland, like New Brunswick,
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Nova Scotia, Prinsedwood Island, so like that
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big swath of territory is our traditional
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territory known as mcmaghie,
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and we are part of
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a confederacy. So that's another thing too,
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is not only do we have sort of the
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name of our each of our nations, but
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a lot of nations are part of like larger
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groupings because we had a whole political system,
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like we had so much sophistication pre
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contact and how we were organizing ourselves.
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So Magma are also part of
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the Wabanaki Confederacy, which includes
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like the Abenaki, the Panova,
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Scott, the Passamaquaddy, and the
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Willa Stock. So when
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you're Magma, you can say a Magma, you can say I'm
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Wabanaki. Both are correct.
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So yeah, it's kind of neat to
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think about the ways that we interrelate
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and the ways that we call ourselves,
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even like all of our nation names mean things
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like Wabanaki means people
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of the down Land because we're
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in the east where where the sun rises. Magma
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comes like, yeah, isn't it.
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I really love it as like as a word as
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a concept, and Magma it
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means like my family or my people. And
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then in the Magma language when we refer to ourselves
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we call ourselves lu. So
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there's like different layers of like how we delineate
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ourselves, like on a regional levell on
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a like nation or like tribal level,
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and then between ourselves, you know.
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So that's kind of like the breakdown. Part of
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My family is also Welsh and
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Scottish and and Irish, you know,
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like all sort of the Celtic sort
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of swirl. Let's let's get into that
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little bit. I want to get into your your background
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and your roots. Did
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you grow up in Canada? So
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I grew up in Nova Scotia, largely
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in the city of Halifax, also a little
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bit in Yarmouth, where my mom's family is from through
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my maternal grandmother.
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That's where I get Magma from.
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She was like just the most amazing person.
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I think Grandma Love in and of itself
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is like a magic thing,
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you know, Like, but she was. She was
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a really interesting lady, Bernice Crosby,
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And she was a
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blind orphan. She was orphaned at
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a very young age, Indigenous at
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a time when like indigenous people
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didn't get the vote in Canada until the sixties,
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Like you had basically no qu and writes, you
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know, to be born poor and
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disabled at that time was like next
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level. And then she
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married my maternal grandfather,
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who was like the son of an Irish immigrant. He
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was like twenty years her
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senior, so I think she was like nineteen
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and he was like forty, right,
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which is common of the time. Yeah,
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absolutely, And and like I
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had never been married, and so it was kind of like,
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you know what, let's try this, let's give this a shot.
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And on my dad's tide of the family.
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My last name Merwin is like Welsh
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originally, and it was spelled different
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because Welsh is also like an interesting
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language that doesn't really use vowels. I don't
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know if you've ever seen any like Welsh words, but they're
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all like consonants and you just kind of have to
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figure out what vowels go
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where and maybe what they sound like. You're
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like, maybe it's an a. I don't know,
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maybe we say it this way,
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maybe we don't. I didn't know that. Yeah,
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that I've out the Welsh language, you'll
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get words that are like c W c
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H and you're like, I
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don't. We're like no idea, no
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framework reference and how to say that. So
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they were sent punitively to North America
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because they were sort of roughnecks.
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Like my grandfather was used to say
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they were pirates, but I don't know like how
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actually piraty they were. They were just like they
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were just rough people that, like I
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got sent to North America because they were like, we don't
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want you here in Wales anymore. And
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so when they arrived in North America, they're like, you know what
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makeover as many people
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do and they, you know, immigrate to a new place. They
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anglicized the name and like change the spelling
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and the way that we spell it with an m u
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is actually very rare. Usually
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if you meet Merwin's it's m e r
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and they're everywhere like there's
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a there's a Merwin National Park in
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Wisconsin. Is
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that spelled m e er? Yeah,
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M E R W I N. And
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I think that it is after like a writer
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or a poet maybe, but
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it was something that you know, growing up in Nova Scotia
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like seemed very far fetched.
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I come from, you know, traditions of people
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who you know, like yarn
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In and like tellent talent tales,
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and I think that that is very
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much how I sort of ended up doing
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what I do now. Yeah, so
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like the stories of being like descended from pirates
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and they're being like a Merwin National Park in Wisconsin
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of the promised land of Merwin's. I guess um
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might not be true, but that's what I was told growing
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up. Yeah,
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you know Wisconsin. Yeah,
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you know if you have, you've never been there, who knows
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what it's like. You know, Like I've never to Wisconsin.
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It could be very high. I probably haven't.
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Maybe one day that'll be like something
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I do is like drive to Wisconsin and
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just be like what, um,
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you know, what has even going on?
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My um paternal grandmother
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was Scottish. My grandfather on that
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side had actually been a spy during
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World War two and
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like worked for like am I six,
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I think Your Majesty's Intelligence Service
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or am I five, and I think it's in my
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six. I think it is in my six, right, watch
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yeah, And I guess, like, you
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know, the short answer is that, like I come from a bunch of
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like rowdy, loud,
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storytelling people. You know,
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Well, what was it like growing up in
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Canada being mixed,
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being part Indigenous, partive
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European. I gu guess you can say, were
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there a lot of Indigenous people where you grew up
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or were you one of the few? How
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was that like? So it was kind
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of sort of a weird thing. I didn't really know any
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other sort of indigenous folks really growing
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up. I was thinking about this earlier actually, like
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how I would contextualize
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this, like because I'm very white passing, and
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my mom is darker, and my
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sister is even like you know, darker,
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and you know, has like long beautiful hair, and
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you know, and I never was that. I looked much
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more like my dad's side of the family. So for me, it was always
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like growing up knowing your Indigenous,
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but you don't look indigenous, and you get told that all
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the time when you're mixed, right, Like, I
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think you don't look you don't look X, Y
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or Z, like, you know, like I thought you were
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this yeah, yeah, exactly,
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and and even you know, and also being you
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know, trans and being queer. You know, in the eighties
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and nineties, you know, Halifax
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is a city, but it's a small city, so like living
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in a smell place, being
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queer, being mixed, being trans it. Just
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like at a certain point in time, you're
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just like, I just I just can't
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exist here because there's nobody like
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me. And I remember people saying
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to me when I was growing up, you're just being different
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to get attention, and the
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heartbreak of that also being like if I
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just want to be accepted, like you
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know, but only the things you remember when you're
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a kid, you know, those are formative
13:04
moments where you're trying to figure out who you
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are and your identity, and people
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think you're doing it for attention,
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Like it's so dismissive
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and insulting totally.
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The only representations, especially you know, at
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that time as well, like the only representations that I saw
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of indigenous people were like Western's
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you know, or um
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there was like one really racist like
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diorama and a museum that I remember
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like very distinctly. But other than that, like
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my frame of reference for like what it meant to
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be make not even though that was something that like I
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was told and I was told to be proud
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of, I was like, I what am
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I even proud of? Like I don't substantially
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you know, like there was like all
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the sort of confusion, I guess, And
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it wasn't really until I got into my teen years
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and started to reconnect.
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Like we have, at
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least here in Canada UM what
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we call friendship centers, and
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so like in any sort of UM
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city, like major city, UM,
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there's generally these friendship centers. And friendship centers
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are centers for
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like urban indigenous folks, you
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know, a lot of time they have services like daycares
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or like um the one in Halifax
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offers like a lot of programs to do with
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like language learning and
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like also like addiction recovery and
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also like you know, like sometimes they have like food pantries
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and things like that. So like it offers a lot of services.
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Sometimes they have clinics in them. It kind
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of all depends. So when once
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I started, you know, became
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like a team, I started like connecting with
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the Friendship Center in Halifax a lot more and
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meeting other MAIGMA people and
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like starting to feel a little bit more
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reconnected to like
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what it meant to be like
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indigenous person. And
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and at the time as well, we
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had an option in high
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school. So in high school, you know, it's it's similar to
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the American system here, like you have
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like primary through grade twelve and
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then you know you have to when you're in high
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school do so many credits to
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graduate. You know, you have to take like three science
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classes and two math classes, and normally
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you have to take Canadian history.
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But when I started high school, they were trying
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out this new program that allows you to take Migma
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history as opposed to
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taking Canadian history, which was
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like great. You could also take um
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African Nova Scotia history because we actually have a huge
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black community in Nova Scotia who
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were loyalists who came
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up after the American Civil
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War, so it's like a long established black
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community Nova Scotia, so you could take Yeah,
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it's really cool, Like there's and there's so much history
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too between like Migma folks and like
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African Nova Scotians and like
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some real jan Key stuff that happened with
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like the British being like we'll send you back to Africa
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and people being like what excuse
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me, Yeah, that is such
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the most cruel and bizarre
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like ultimatum or like
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like don't do this, or
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like that's the early intense
16:18
one. Yeah. And and for a lot
16:20
of these folks, like they didn't necessarily
16:22
like you know, they had been born in the States, so
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they didn't like it wasn't like they were like going home
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to their families. It was like the
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British there was a massive the
16:32
first race riot in North America happened in
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Nova Scotia, in a small town called Well
16:36
outside of Shelburne. After that happened,
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the British were like, we'll send you to
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this territory we have called Sierra Leone
16:43
and you can live out your your days there. And some people
16:46
did go, but a lot of folks stayed
16:48
in Nova Scotia because, like I said, you know, it was like
16:50
this has become our home now. Yeah. But
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yeah, so that's sorry, that's that's a total
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tangent. But yeah, so it's a really fascinating
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alogial's very fascinating. Yeah,
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it's very u in the province.
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So yeah, so so kind of getting to like reconnect
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in my teens and and do some make
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my history stuff and also
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like reconnects
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through the Friendship Center and starting to do more stuff there.
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And I was also at that time too, like going and hanging
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out like in our Outer
17:17
Youth project, like for Queer Youth. So
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it was like this like blossoming sort
17:21
of moment of like kind of finding
17:24
my voice and like finding my footing. Unfortunately,
17:29
when I was sixteen, my parents kicked me out. And
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can I can I ask was there a reason
17:35
behind it? Or was it just like or is that
17:37
touchy? I was gonna say, like it,
17:41
you know, it wasn't like one of those I feel like
17:43
we get into like the homework sort of like dramatization
17:45
of being like I came out as gay, and
17:48
not to say that this doesn't happen, like I think sometimes
17:50
people come out and their parents kick them out, you know,
17:52
but like my parents also, you know,
17:55
UM struggled with alcoholism,
18:00
and my growing up had not been particularly
18:02
easy, you know, because of that, and
18:06
um, you know, I sort
18:08
of started finding I think, my footing
18:10
and my voice, and you know, it was also struggling
18:12
with a lot of mental health stuff, and
18:15
I think that they just didn't
18:18
know how to deal with it. And so their way of dealing
18:20
with it was to get angry, and
18:24
that anger manifested in a way of sort of being
18:26
like, you can't live here anymore. And
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I went through a period, a very brief period.
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You know. I was fortunate and the fact that you
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know, I did have places that I could
18:36
go and people that I could stay with. I ended
18:38
up staying actually with my aunt Marcella, who
18:41
you know. I was like, I could sleep on our couch and
18:44
try and keep going to high school.
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But I did go through like there was like a very brief moment
18:50
where I was a little bit more um
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tenerant and like homeless, and
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that was, you know, not easy, of
18:58
course, you know. So I finished
19:00
up the school year of grade
19:03
ten and trying
19:05
to deal with all this other stuff that was going on, and
19:08
ended up getting sent from little
19:10
Halifax, Nova Scotia to live with my uncle in
19:13
rural France. WHOA,
19:16
that was a plot twist. Didn't see that coming, right,
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Oh, there's more plot twist coming, trust
19:21
me, it gets weirder.
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Maybe, I don't know. Well, okay,
19:26
let's get into it. After a very quick commercial
19:28
break. This will be enticing
19:30
for people to stick around. What
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what happens to France. Yeah,
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right back, Sorry,
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I didn't mean to cross the boundary.
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It's totally okay. It's all stuff that like
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I've been in therapy for years now, and
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if I didn't want to talk about it, I wouldn't, you
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know. Yeah, I just want to apologize
20:00
my curiosity sometimes is a
20:02
disease. No, no, No,
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it's totally fine. It's totally fine. Um, It's
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something that like I talk a lot about my youth with
20:09
the young people that I work with today, because you
20:11
know what, like a lot of Indigenous youth and
20:13
a lot of queer youth really
20:15
struggle, you know, and they go through
20:17
similar things. I have a really dear friend
20:20
who went through a very significant
20:22
period of homelessness in their early twenties, and
20:24
like being able to talk
20:26
about these things and talk also about like the fact
20:28
that it's like and now I'm I'm okay and
20:30
I have an apartment, and you
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know, when my parents first kicked
20:35
me out, I spent like the first like three days just riding
20:37
the public transit around Halifax
20:40
because I didn't have anywhere to be and just
20:42
like crying because I was like, I don't have
20:44
a home, and I didn't
20:46
really know. I didn't really have the
20:48
tools to like deal
20:50
with that, like what that meant emotionally,
20:53
and you know, to sort of look
20:55
at that kid that I was at that moment
20:57
and sort of be able to say now, like, yeah,
21:01
you know what, it's gonna be okay,
21:03
Like it's gonna like you're gonna go through so much
21:05
shit, but it ultimately
21:08
it's gonna work itself, you know, and you
21:10
can get through it. I think sometimes that can be really helpful.
21:12
So you're right. I mean, I'm so glad
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you work with with kids because
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hearing your experience, I
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know, the youth and even adults
21:23
will listen to you and be
21:25
like, oh I will be okay. You
21:27
know, it's your efforts are appreciated.
21:30
I guess I want to say thank you. I
21:32
think sometimes to like having that perspective, like
21:34
I like when my parents
21:36
kicked me out, like you know, being able to
21:38
eventually make my way to like my Myselfa's
21:41
house, who wasn't actually
21:43
my but like it was like a family
21:45
friend kind of yeah, you know, but
21:47
he's also am I got like in terms of like chosen
21:50
family and everything, and you know,
21:52
we've remained very close throughout the years.
21:54
She's in her seventies
21:57
now and she's now
21:59
like the deca of her church, and she's really
22:01
active and involved in her community. Because she's
22:03
also the one that really encouraged me to get involved
22:06
in like doing activism and doing community organizing.
22:08
Like also like taught me a lot about racism and
22:11
how important it is to have compassion and
22:13
how important it is to meet people
22:15
where they're at, even if that's like a really difficult
22:17
place that we don't agree with. And
22:20
I think that sometimes what people miss
22:22
the mark on when they're they're talking about like
22:25
at risk youth or even like at risk adults.
22:27
Like I don't know if you
22:29
stop being at risk like once you turn eighteen,
22:31
right, I definitely
22:33
have had a lot, a lot of shaky years
22:36
between eighteen and now like thirty two. Like
22:39
there's been some times and sometimes
22:42
there's like conditions placed on meeting
22:44
somebody where they are. Sometimes
22:46
in order to access programming, you have to be sober.
22:49
Sometimes in order to access programming, you you
22:51
know, you have to be enrolled in school
22:54
or like before I went to go live with Matt and uncle
22:56
and France, I tried to apply to a
22:58
welfare program that was Availa about the time
23:01
that would have allowed me to get like
23:03
an apartment and stay in school and
23:05
like get a little bit of money so that I wouldn't have to
23:07
like work full time and go to school
23:10
as like a sixteen year old. There were a bunch
23:12
of different conditions placed on that, one of them being
23:14
that like my parents had to
23:16
contribute some of the money. It was almost like a
23:19
grant matching sort of thing where it was like the government would
23:21
put in this much, and then my parents would put in this much, but
23:23
my parents wouldn't actually sign the paperwork
23:26
on the part that they had to put in, so I was unable
23:28
to access that money. So
23:30
like I would have had to be working full time in
23:32
order to like just pay for living
23:34
expenses. So like there's there's
23:37
so many things like that that you catch you up that,
23:39
like, you know, what I always try and do in
23:41
in the work that I do get to do with other people
23:43
is you know, come from this place
23:46
of like compassion and sort of like talk a little
23:48
bit about some of the things that I've been through and
23:50
just sort of be like you know, like what
23:52
do you what are you doing right? Yet? Like what do you feeling
23:54
like what are you thinking right now? And then yeah,
23:57
I find that that often is really helpful because,
23:59
like you know, I think
24:01
sometimes too, we want to protect
24:04
kids, and I've been very fortunate to know some
24:06
amazing kids you know, who are like ten,
24:09
eleven, twelve years old, who you know are
24:12
already thinking about things like suicide, and
24:15
it like breaks your heart. You just want to be like I want
24:17
to protect you from the world, and
24:19
it's like there has to be an acknowledgment
24:22
of sort of like I can't,
24:24
but I can tell you that it's
24:27
not worth it, and it's not worth it for all these reasons
24:29
of like your life is going to be
24:31
amazing and you are capable of so much, you
24:34
know, Like, yeah, I'm
24:36
getting like a little worked up because I'm like thinking
24:38
about students I've had over the
24:40
year. I really, I really, we both
24:42
really appreciate your willing this
24:44
to be so open and honest about this stuff. I
24:46
think it's um,
24:49
I don't know, I think it matters. I mean, I feel
24:51
like what we talked about a lot on this podcast
24:53
is like you're not alone, which
24:56
is just kind of like big with children of immigrants,
24:58
because like you do feel alone.
25:01
Of the time because like one, like you
25:03
said, you just don't fit in and you want
25:05
to fit in, or like you're kind
25:07
of made to feel mothered on
25:10
many aspects and just by
25:12
people who like don't understand or just
25:14
like don't like get where you're
25:16
from or who you are, Like why do your parents
25:18
have accents? Like it's just like all this weird stuff
25:20
where you're like, dude, I don't know, I just am
25:23
what I am, you know, uh,
25:25
And I think we always just start trying to emphasize
25:28
like your experience is,
25:30
like, while it's unique,
25:33
a lot of people also have these similar
25:35
unique experiences that make them feel oothered
25:38
and that kind of outside what
25:41
the status quo should be or like
25:43
what you think life should be like.
25:45
So I think it's it's important to kind of have these,
25:48
you know, discussions and to just create
25:50
context. I think, like your
25:53
story like while like
25:55
you know, you know, Sharone felt bad asking
25:57
you about it, but like you're
26:00
story is probably story.
26:02
You know, I would say, tons
26:04
of people have experienced what you've experienced,
26:06
and it does take
26:09
time, I think, to come around to kind of being
26:11
open about it. But I think like that's kind
26:13
of your powers that you have this experience
26:15
that you can then turn
26:18
around and like guide people who
26:20
do need guidance, like in that moment where
26:22
like I just feel stuck and lost and
26:25
I don't know. I can only imagine if you, if
26:28
you existed, if a version
26:30
of you exist for yourself when
26:32
you were going through that, Like that's what I really
26:34
like, That's what I feel like. I
26:37
mean, I say this all the time on this podcast, but
26:39
you have to be the person that you needed in
26:41
a lot of ways. And I think
26:43
you're doing an amazing example of that. Oh,
26:46
thank you so much. No I and I totally agree.
26:48
And I think that that's something that's that's really lovely
26:50
in terms of like the message of
26:53
the podcast and what you've both done
26:55
with this platform that you've created in terms
26:57
of like speaking too, because
26:59
it's it's very true, like the margin
27:01
of you start to realize I
27:03
think as you grow older that like the margin of
27:05
what is like the status quo is actually a
27:07
very narrow margin, and more of us actually
27:10
fall into like the other category,
27:12
you know, Like so the more that we
27:15
can sort of find each other and like you
27:17
know, just be there for each other and
27:19
and like yeah, and be
27:21
the person that like we needed when we were growing up,
27:24
I think all the better, right, um,
27:27
because it's you know, the world is fucking
27:30
nuts, it really is. And
27:33
I think doing this podcast, we've also learned, like
27:36
people can come from all sorts of backgrounds
27:38
and upbringings and we're so much
27:40
more alike than we are different. And yeah,
27:43
a huge part of it is reminding everyone that you're not
27:46
alone. And even though
27:48
you're made to feel just like
27:50
I like a like a freak alien,
27:53
like just an other transient
27:55
whatever. Like, it's so I think coming
27:58
together and realizing
28:00
that it's good when you find
28:03
your people and when you find that
28:05
your efforts mean something. And I really
28:08
respect the fact that you work with children
28:10
because our kids, youth, young
28:12
adults, whatever, because those
28:15
formative years are so intense
28:18
and things that happen when
28:20
you're growing up can
28:22
completely alter your life so
28:25
totally and and like and and just like
28:27
the path that your life might take, and even
28:30
just like, I feel like to have somebody
28:32
say to you what you're feeling is valid
28:34
can be such a powerful thing because I think that
28:36
like, I mean, me and me and honest parents
28:39
would tell us we're so sensitive and that we're
28:41
like just don't cry or like
28:43
suck it up or whatever, and those that
28:46
that that's not helpful, you know what I mean, like you
28:49
hate to be sad. My parents a lot
28:51
of their frustration with us manifested
28:54
in anger as well, because it's like they just didn't
28:56
know how to communicate with us. Like my dad truly
28:58
did not know how to communicate it with a bunch of kids
29:00
who felt like stifled and confused
29:03
and shut down, and so he would just
29:05
get angrier at us, and that, you know, just
29:07
make us more upset. And it was like the cycle
29:09
of like, you know, you
29:11
don't know how to break free, and the parent
29:13
feels like, well fuck it, you
29:16
know, like I've been kicked out so many times
29:18
growing up that Luckily, like my dad is
29:20
so quick to be like get the funk out. But my mom,
29:23
my mom is truly like my savior in a lot
29:25
of ways, because while I
29:27
struggled a lot with the fact that she wouldn't
29:29
stand up to my father in the moment when
29:32
he was coming for us, if you will, like not
29:34
literally physically coming for us, but um, well kind
29:36
of you know, he's like threatening, you know, she wouldn't
29:39
stand up for us. In the moment, but like she'd
29:41
always be the one to come find us, you know, while
29:43
we're like wandering town being like why
29:45
does no one love me? Why does no one like me?
29:47
She would come find us later and be like, you know, how
29:49
your dad is what? You know, at the time, I'd be
29:51
like, fuck that dude. But like
29:54
in the now looking back on it,
29:56
and yes, of course, with years of therapy, like
29:59
kind of fine, make peace with the way that everyone's
30:01
kind of struggling internally and trying to understand
30:04
each other. And it's just we're
30:06
all human, man, We're all just trying to figure
30:09
it the funk out. It is so hard
30:11
out here. It's you
30:15
know, and I think sometimes it's
30:17
like you know, and I try to be sympathetic,
30:19
and I do talk to like parents sometimes too,
30:22
um, you know, and
30:24
and like my my cousins are all like
30:27
all have kids and stuff like that, so we spend a lot of time
30:29
like talking about parenting with them, and
30:32
you know, I think that it's I think it's I
30:35
think it's legitimately hard for parents, especially because
30:37
if there's like differences that they can't
30:40
see or differences that like they don't understand
30:43
within like their context of understanding the
30:45
world. I think it's really hard.
30:47
It's like because I don't
30:49
know when it comes to things like
30:53
I don't like not fitting in at school,
30:55
or or feeling
30:58
queer or whatever. It's like maybe
31:00
they can't wrap their heads around your
31:03
existence. And that's really hard.
31:06
Yeah, in the context too, you know,
31:08
Like it's it's like I think that
31:11
I think that sometimes we because
31:13
of what we experience, you know, growing
31:16
up. You know, we sort of arrived in adulthood
31:19
with like a certain understanding of the world and a certain
31:21
like because we were you know, we sort of were contained
31:24
within a certain context, right, And now
31:26
you've been trying and like catch myself on this as well.
31:29
But like I think because of that, sometimes, you know,
31:31
when our kids are experiencing things our
31:34
kids. I don't have any kids. I'm not going to have any
31:36
kids. I'm gonna just like you know what you mean, it's like the
31:38
collet of youth. Yeah, but
31:40
like when you when you know and and and
31:42
sometimes like you just it's just
31:44
so far outside of like what you like
31:47
have ever even sort of you
31:50
know, experience. I guess like
31:52
like I think about like, um
31:55
so, like the Magma
31:57
had really like we were one of the first nations
32:00
in you know, what's considered Canada now to
32:02
have contact with Europeans. When when Europeans
32:04
started coming over, and it was like even as early
32:07
as like the fifteen twenties and
32:09
then you know, so that's like five years
32:11
ago. It's a long time ago, and that
32:15
has undoubtedly shaped
32:17
our nation and and
32:19
and how we practice
32:22
and our identity
32:24
and like spirituality and all these other things. And
32:27
it's very interesting now to sort of talk to like
32:32
the young like queer magma folks
32:34
that I know, um,
32:37
because like they're starting to reclaim
32:39
things in a way that like I don't think
32:42
my generation would have been able to and definitely
32:44
like not their parents generation. Like you
32:46
know, when I was growing up, we still talked about things
32:48
like don't
32:50
drink from a public water fountain because you'll get eight.
32:53
Like we were still scared of aids, you know,
32:55
to the point of like well if you're
32:58
if you're queer, you just have eights and
33:00
that's like, you know, so you
33:03
know, realizing it is like that your queer is
33:05
like a very young person like you know, um,
33:09
I knew from a very very early age and being
33:11
like oh well, I'm going to die of
33:13
AIDS, and that's just like how you understand
33:16
the world. And then talking to kids
33:18
now who are like sixteen, who
33:20
are like, what is even gender it
33:24
is? In? Yeah,
33:27
it is pretty incredible how different.
33:30
I mean, I'm excited
33:32
to see what the future holes as far as queerness
33:35
and general identity and just
33:37
knowing how far we're like even that experience,
33:39
like yeah, like the youth are eons
33:41
beyond where I was when I was their age,
33:43
and I was very confused and I felt
33:46
so much shame about being queer. And
33:48
there's a lot of reasons, whether it's religion or
33:50
culture otherwise. But if
33:53
I I mean, there are definitely cons
33:55
to being a teenager now, like whether it's
33:57
like social media and the internet, But the
34:00
upside is that
34:03
those tools can connect you to people that are
34:05
experiencing what you're experiencing and
34:07
opening the door to be like we're all
34:10
on a spectrum and it's okay, and
34:13
like it's so refreshing, and
34:15
even just things like from like an indigenous perspective
34:17
of feeling like there has been this big
34:20
resurgence, you know, like a lot of
34:23
artists my age and sort of like of my generation
34:25
you know, are now like sort of rising to prominence
34:27
and becoming much more visible. And so there's like, at
34:30
least here in Canada, you know, like there's so much
34:32
more Indigenous art and
34:35
culture and stuff being created. You know, things
34:37
like like there was a film that just came
34:39
out last year called Blood Quantum that
34:41
was like a zombie indigenous
34:44
like like crazy
34:47
horror gory film. And like
34:50
to see something like that, you know, whatever you think of
34:52
sort of like horizon amount or like whatever.
34:55
You know, if that's not your thing, that's totally fine. But just even
34:57
the fact that that exists, I was like,
34:59
it's bad. That's awesome, you
35:01
know, like how can I can't be upset of that?
35:04
You know, So,
35:06
like, you know, there's so many like there's
35:08
so many things that like the the youth I think also are
35:10
able to access um
35:13
both within themselves, within their communities.
35:15
You know, Elders are becoming a lot more open
35:17
to talking about things like gender variation
35:20
and like variation and sexuality
35:22
in a way that I don't know would have been the case
35:24
like twenty years ago. And all
35:26
that's really great because like ultimately, you
35:29
know, you know, Indigenous
35:32
people's had a lot of
35:34
different understandings of gender and sexuality,
35:37
and a lot of those practices went away.
35:40
Like I said, you know, when we sort of
35:42
came in contact with Europeans in sixteen
35:45
o four, the grand chief of the Migma I
35:47
remember too, was baptized
35:49
by some Jesuit mescenaries and like essentially
35:52
the nation became a Christian
35:54
nation. That sex
35:56
with your ship. You know, there's
35:59
so many ex samples. I mean, we
36:01
didn't. I wish we cover this more in our education
36:04
in the in the States, but our education
36:06
here is so it's like it's
36:08
like the whole saying like the winner writes
36:10
the history kind of thing, and so you only hear kind
36:13
of one side of everything. But there are so
36:15
many examples of religious
36:17
whitewashing, essentially, if so many indigenous
36:19
cultures and so many it's
36:21
it's just really unfortunate and really disgusting
36:24
we really think about it. It's like it's and
36:27
it doesn't get talked about enough, it really because
36:30
that alters generations and history
36:32
and people. You know, that is
36:35
like it's traumatic in the moment
36:37
on so many levels, but that trauma
36:39
carries generation generation totally,
36:43
and and and it alters how
36:45
we understand our past
36:47
and how but also like how we can
36:49
envision our future, right, you
36:52
know, and so to see like young
36:54
people starting to pick up things and like run
36:56
with things now and also to understand that like
36:59
they can also like create within that, you know,
37:01
like you know, sometimes tradition
37:03
starts with us, and so
37:06
starting to see a little bit more of of
37:08
like new traditions starting and being
37:10
like so proud of that. Like one of the big things
37:12
that's happening that is really exciting to see
37:15
is like how language is also changing.
37:17
Not I'm not a fluent MCMA speaker.
37:19
I have been learning, but it's a
37:21
very complex language. It's
37:24
all verb based or mostly verb based. There's
37:26
no gender pronouns. That's
37:29
the future, right, It's
37:31
so great. It's you talk about it's like me
37:34
you and then like the collective you
37:37
like them so much better. Like I
37:39
think what really sucks me up because Okay, Arabic
37:41
is very gendered, Spanish is very
37:44
gendered. I've been teaching myself trying to learn
37:46
Spanish on my own, and I'm realizing just
37:48
how like they're not similar at all language
37:50
wise, but they're both very gendered
37:52
languages. Like in Arabic especially, it was
37:54
my first language, and even
37:56
objects are massful and feminine, like
37:59
kind of similar in Spanish that I'm
38:01
realizing now, But it's
38:04
such a gendered language, like Arabic
38:06
is so gendered. I don't want to
38:08
give that to as an excuse as to why sometimes
38:11
pronouns are like they tripped me up, but like
38:14
it's it's really refreshing to hear
38:16
that, like the Magma language
38:18
is kind of like EON's ahead of that, and
38:21
recognize that we're all just like human and not exactly
38:24
like male or female or whatever else is
38:26
in between. We're all just then
38:28
in between where we're all that. In
38:31
Farsi, they don't have there's
38:33
no gender to nouns. There's no grammatical gender.
38:36
Oh that's really cool, yeah, because I never
38:38
thought about it until one day my dad. I
38:40
was like, well, how would I describe
38:43
something like for a woman, And and
38:45
my dad was like, that's not
38:47
you just say that, And I was like, oh my god,
38:49
you're right, Like we don't do that. It's
38:52
like someone had to point out to me, because you know, when
38:54
you learn in school, like a
38:56
language, you're like hyper aware of
38:58
such things, but like just learned
39:00
because I was the group speaking it, so I
39:02
just never thought about it. And then I remember my dad just
39:04
being like, there's no gender, and then I was
39:06
like, oh my god, you're right. I'm so
39:09
used to being trained to think there
39:11
is. Yeah, that flows my mind because
39:13
in Arabic, like even the moon is it's
39:15
a woman, like it's like not like a technical woman,
39:18
but like the noun for her. And I
39:20
just said, the noun for the moon is like
39:22
a feminine thing, and like a
39:24
ship is feminine, Like even
39:26
like a dog can be both. Like like there's
39:28
different words for any every animal,
39:31
if it's a male or female animal. It's
39:33
just it's really segregated
39:35
gender wise. And I love Arabic. It's
39:38
my It's a beautiful language, but
39:40
it has some work to do as far as the future
39:42
of gender, and the future of gender
39:44
has been the past and president of gender
39:46
as well. It's just like catching up to
39:49
you know, can I ask you to a question? Yeah,
39:52
plot twist. I'm taking over the podcast. No,
39:57
So this is what's really interesting for me because but I was gonna say,
39:59
like, like we're starting to like like we didn't
40:01
have a word in mcmah for like queer, so like young
40:03
people are coming up with these words. Now, do
40:05
you find in sort of like
40:08
the diaspora of sort of like
40:10
you know, your respective communities that like that
40:12
language is sort of evolving, like
40:14
or do you find that, like when you end up talking about Christoph
40:17
you end up doing it more in English. I've been doing
40:19
it more in English, to be honest. I
40:21
have noticed that there are some
40:23
like uh, in like Instagram
40:25
and like accounts that I'll like look up like
40:27
like these like younger people than me that are like Palestinian
40:30
or whatever, and just seeing how they're adapting
40:33
the language. And it's
40:35
definitely something that is new
40:37
and trying they're trying to implement. Does
40:39
that make sense, It's like it's just it's a it's a work
40:42
in progress, and I really value that work in progress.
40:45
And I'm glad that it's being talked about because there are so
40:47
many Arab Middle
40:49
Eastern Muslim queer
40:51
people and they need a space.
40:54
Uh. And they're they're and they've always been there. That's the
40:56
thing, Like I don't want to make it seem like there
40:58
it's like just happened to this
41:00
decade. Queer people of the Musom community exists.
41:03
That's not true. They've always been there, and
41:05
it's it's apparent in the art, it's
41:07
apparent in the
41:09
the writings. So many poets, like a
41:12
lot of male poets in Arabic,
41:14
they would talk about a male lover. So it's like
41:16
ganus existed, you know. So it's just
41:19
I think it's just it has never been mainstream
41:22
and so it never gave it was never given the
41:24
attention as far as language is concerned. But
41:27
I hope it continues to progress
41:31
in that direction. It's the same for
41:33
me. I don't. I don't really well because I
41:35
honestly only speak first to my parents and my siblings,
41:38
but like siblings rarely, but
41:40
like, um, we don't talk
41:42
about such things because
41:44
it doesn't come up in conversation. Um.
41:48
And I feel like when my parents do talk about it,
41:50
they speak about it in English as well, Like I don't even
41:52
think they would be hip to anything that was happening.
41:54
I really should look into it. I don't know. I'm
41:57
gonna I'm gonna look into it. I'm
41:59
gonna do my re series. People my
42:01
family would definitely use English as well. But
42:04
let's just take one last break. Thank you
42:06
for that great question, by the way, Jess, Let's
42:08
take one last break. We didn't get into France
42:11
yet, but I didn't forget
42:13
We're gonna get into France. I want to get into
42:15
your work as a programmer for film festivals.
42:17
I want to get into fat Tuesday. I want to
42:19
get into all of it. Also ghost stories.
42:22
Oh yeah, I have a ghost story for you, because
42:24
we were talking about stories. Yes, we
42:27
got We just told us a story on the
42:29
Bechdel cast stream. Uh. It
42:32
was amazing, but I'm decided to hear more. We'll
42:34
be right back. We're
42:43
back, okay quickly. I
42:46
maybe I'm being selfish. Now, tell us
42:48
about France, tell us about I
42:51
want to get into your work, and I want to hear this ghost
42:53
story. Yeah. So, so I ended up
42:55
in France at like seventeen,
42:58
and I did not speak French.
43:00
I spoke Canadian public school French, which
43:04
you know, when I was growing up, like was a
43:06
lot of like they taught you French through songs, and
43:08
I don't know if they do this with Spanish in the
43:10
States, but like we'd learned songs like
43:13
Natalie, Okay, that kiss, that's
43:17
that's more helpful. But we
43:20
something that I really despised. I
43:22
have a thorn in my side as far as the education
43:25
system here goes as Spanish as it required.
43:27
So really, yeah, a
43:29
lot of people here only no one language, and that's
43:31
only because the school top in one. What
43:34
yeah, we have to we have to learn at least two,
43:36
we have to learn French and English. And then the majority
43:39
of the world is like that America is
43:41
the languages are required as like
43:43
a graduation thing, but you get to pick if
43:46
you want, like French, but that's not until high school.
43:48
Oh, high school, and then
43:50
if depending on your major in college, I
43:52
had to also do a language and college.
43:55
But I think but I think
43:57
German if it was if it was, but
44:00
if it was like mandatory
44:02
as a kid, that's much more conducive
44:04
to actually learn the language, you know what I mean, Like this
44:06
country hates immigrants, so they would never
44:10
I mean, I think it's sus
44:12
that we teach French and not indigenous
44:15
languages because like but
44:18
very like yeah, very
44:21
very like white like
44:24
prominent way of being like these these are languages
44:26
you should know white people know them.
44:29
But it's it's also sort of happening now we're
44:31
like so I think we start Frenching, like
44:33
you can do French immersion, but you can also start French,
44:35
I think in the public school system, like in grade three, but
44:39
now to somebody was telling me this the other
44:41
day, and I don't know, Like Montreal is
44:43
a pretty big, like multicultural
44:45
city. We also have like schools where
44:47
you do like Hebrew immersion, and like we
44:49
have schools where you do like like Arabic
44:51
commersion. Yeah, we've
44:53
got and I don't think we have a school or we used
44:55
to have a school where you could do like Farste immersion.
44:57
But I think you have to be like older, like I think you started
45:00
it like grade six. Interesting,
45:03
I mean that's still just like it's also like
45:05
an awkward, weird age to just be like and now
45:07
we're going to throw you head first into
45:09
another language. But I think a lot of the folks
45:11
who go there are like, you know,
45:13
maybe a parent speaks Arsita, so it's like maybe
45:16
a little bit easier. But I
45:18
want to talk about France, though I don't want to get too
45:20
side tracked. Tell us about France.
45:22
Okay, you gotta keep me on track, though, you gotta,
45:25
because like I will you know me, I'm just everything
45:27
you say. I'm like listening to you, like
45:29
like just like at the edge of my seat. So I'm
45:32
going just letting you go because I'm just listening. Um.
45:37
So I ended up in France, and I didn't really speak
45:39
French, and um my part
45:41
of my condition of going to go live with plant and uncle was
45:44
Okay, you gotta go to school, you gotta finish high school,
45:46
gotta gotta do that. And so I
45:49
ended up in in France. The
45:51
way that they do high school is is weird and
45:53
different. So you you sort of finished high school
45:55
when you're in grade ten, and then you have
45:57
like two years that are called your baccalaureate,
46:00
which is like, oh, it's like in Syria too,
46:02
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, so
46:05
I had So I ended up in France doing
46:07
a baccalaureate, didn't speak French, had
46:10
to learn how to speak French. Whoa like
46:12
fast. And that was like a whole
46:15
thing because I was in a
46:17
program that was like literature and
46:20
history and philosophy, like all
46:23
the things that I love, but also things that you
46:25
have to know how to like speak the language in order
46:27
to understand, Like you can't just like bullshit your
46:29
with philosophy or maybe you can, but
46:31
like it was interesting. It was I was in a
46:33
private Catholic institution, and
46:37
uh boy, howdy,
46:42
I showed up and I was like, I had
46:44
like it used to be a haircut that
46:46
was like sort of like a mohawk, but like a mohawk with bangs,
46:49
called a chelsea. I
46:51
had a very I had a very bad haircut,
46:54
and all of
46:56
my pants head holes in them. And I was
46:58
like at this very like bored Catholic
47:01
institution. Like we had Mass on like Wednesday
47:03
morning to go to Mass. It was like what um,
47:07
So I went and did that. And I learned how to speak
47:09
French and I
47:11
did all my exams and it
47:13
worked. It worked out somehow, miraculously.
47:16
I ended up graduating with
47:18
like pretty decent marks after
47:20
like two years. And this is always
47:22
living in France, and I was living with my uncle in this like tiny
47:25
little village. Our village had two streets.
47:28
Wow. And so the street that we lived on and
47:31
then the other street, uh was
47:33
where all the important things were. So like the bakery,
47:36
the church, the butcher, the
47:39
tobacconist you know, that was
47:41
like on the other street and that those were the two streets
47:43
in our town. Yeah,
47:47
the tombaccini, Yeah, the person
47:49
who sells cigarettes basically
47:52
because in France you need you need two things. You need
47:54
baguettes and you need cigarettes. At least
47:56
at that time, that was very true. So
47:59
I went back in the because my you know, uh
48:02
I just I it was if being
48:04
out in a small city, it
48:07
was not possible. It was definitely not possible in
48:09
rural France in
48:11
the early two thousands. And I
48:14
went back in the closet and I started smoking, and
48:16
I tried to seduce
48:19
young um seminarians because
48:21
we lived very close to a religious community,
48:23
and I'd be like hello, and you
48:26
know, it was more it was sort of like it
48:28
was more for fun, I think, than like I didn't
48:30
know what to do with them. If they actually were like, yes,
48:33
I will kiss you, I'd be like, well
48:36
yeah, slow down, back
48:38
off, buddy. But but at the time, you know, you're
48:40
sort of like rebellious and you're like, I just wanna I
48:42
want to spoil something um
48:46
And and that kind of all came crashing to an end
48:48
one night when uh I,
48:50
I went out with some people and we got very drunk
48:53
on some Spanish absence, and I
48:55
had been a little bit too forward with a young seminarian
48:58
and then the next morning he gave me pen flip, being
49:00
like is marriage for you? Like,
49:03
maybe you should consider a celibate life, and I
49:05
was like, maybe I have to. It
49:08
was like one of those moments where you're like, I
49:10
don't know if it was a rock bottom, but it was definitely like a
49:12
moment of being like a maybe
49:15
maybe I should do something different um
49:19
bottom for some guys, which
49:22
pamply you're like, oh fuck this yeah.
49:26
Well, it was just like you know, I was like, this
49:28
is not really going anywhere. I'm not like I'm
49:31
not making friends or influencing people. This
49:33
is just this is sad. This is maybe sad.
49:36
Maybe this is sad. Um.
49:39
I have a lot of those moments in a regular basis where
49:41
I'm just like maybe this is sad, and then I just
49:43
keep doing whatever I'm doing. So when
49:45
I finished my baccalaureate, I graduated.
49:48
I've been living in France for like two and a half years.
49:51
UM. During that time, I had been working in a
49:53
community that my uncle were part of that
49:55
like isn't an intentional
49:57
community for adults
50:00
with intellectual and physical disabilities. So
50:03
I've been working there a little bit and through that I
50:06
had the opportunity to go
50:08
to Kolkattam.
50:11
So I've had
50:13
a job in Calcutta and I was like, Okay, I'm
50:16
nineteen years old. Now I'm
50:18
going to go to India. And
50:21
you know, I think that a lot of people this is
50:24
this is what I like to call the problematic ears,
50:26
because this was like I look back on this
50:28
and it's pretty It's
50:30
definitely problematic to be like a young person
50:32
from a like western
50:35
country going to another
50:37
country to like work for
50:40
an NGO. I think a lot of people
50:42
do it, but I think it's it's a gray area,
50:44
you know, because at one at one side, there's
50:46
like you're traveling
50:49
and immersing yourself in a culture you wouldn't have the opportunity
50:51
to otherwise. Like
50:53
I think it's like a little bit imperial a
50:56
little bit imperialist, you know, like it's
50:59
like white savery ory.
51:01
Yeah, yeah,
51:03
you know, it absolutely is. It absolutely is.
51:05
And I think that like even
51:08
though you know, like I didn't go with sort
51:10
of like the idea of like, oh I'm
51:12
gonna go find myself in India or you know, I'm
51:14
going to do this and the other thing, I think just the fact
51:16
that like, um,
51:18
you know, having grown up in the West, like I and
51:21
then like you know, and
51:23
and fairly privileged circumstances, even though
51:25
things were incredibly difficult and we were poor,
51:28
you know, and I had gone through a period of homelessness, like I
51:31
realized in India. You
51:33
know, even at my poorest
51:35
I still had access to more than like what
51:38
some of the families and people I was working
51:40
with had, and like so
51:43
it really, you know, it really kicked my
51:45
ass in a in a pretty big way, and
51:48
and in a way that I think, um
51:51
it was really good and really important because it also taught
51:53
me a lot about colunialism because again, like I was coming
51:55
from this this place of sort of being like I cannot
51:57
perpetuate colunialism. I have
52:00
indigenous and
52:03
then sort of realizing that like in
52:05
India, I just look like another white person basically,
52:08
and being like, oh fuck, actually, you know
52:10
what, I am part of this
52:12
this really terrible thing, and you
52:14
know, having to kind of own that a little bit more
52:16
and and figure myself out through
52:19
that. Um So, I lived
52:21
in Calcutta for like
52:23
a year and a half, and it
52:26
was very fortunate. Like Bengali
52:28
culture is amazing, and there's so
52:30
much poetry and art and cinema
52:33
and cool stuff
52:35
that like I'm so glad that I got to experience,
52:37
you know, And I got to travel around India so much
52:39
a little bit, and so much of that
52:42
country is just like
52:44
mind blowing. The beautiful like sunsets
52:46
that just like brought me to tears because I was like
52:48
it just like it just does
52:50
that here, you know, like the colors
52:53
were so much more alive, you know, and like,
52:55
you know, I think of Europe is being like pretty
52:58
gray, you know, like people were ray,
53:01
everything's made out of stone. Everything was really
53:03
great. And then to go to India where everything was like all
53:05
of a sudden like hypercolor and
53:07
just being like just
53:10
blowing my mind. So I
53:13
came back from India and
53:16
was like, well, now
53:19
what I hadn't lived in Canada for like four years.
53:22
Came back to Canada and was like a little bit had
53:24
a moment of sort of like difficulty adjusting
53:27
because like, also are just
53:29
gotten very used to living
53:31
without a lot of stuff, and
53:33
all of a sudden, it was like it felt like I
53:35
was just like inundated with things, and like
53:37
even just like the idea at one point of like having
53:40
more than like two pairs of pants I was like, why do I need
53:42
more than two pairs of pants? I'm either
53:44
wearing one or I had like, are
53:46
I'm wearing the other one? And it was just like it's
53:48
just fine. So that was kind of
53:50
like a little bit hard to get used to. And then I
53:53
went and studied art at the I
53:55
stayed film and animation at
53:57
the Nova Scotia College of Art and Design. And
54:02
coming back to Canada was also really good too, because I could
54:04
kind of reconnect again with um
54:09
like bigma stuff, because like I couldn't
54:11
do that overseas, and like so it
54:13
kind of I came back, I
54:15
dealt with some like lingering
54:19
stuff with my parents, you know, dealt
54:21
with some lingering stuff in terms of like coming out
54:25
and and yeah, and
54:27
again sort of reconnected to culture. And
54:29
then when I was finishing at the university,
54:32
I don't know more happened, and I don't
54:34
know more was a youth
54:36
indigenous activism
54:39
movement looking at issues
54:41
relating to the environment, but it extended
54:44
from there as well, because everything
54:46
is sort of interconnected. So coming back to
54:48
Canada like and being in university sort
54:50
of at this point where like this this big
54:53
indigenous like political movement
54:55
was happening. It was also a catalyst
54:58
for getting me back involved in doing like ganizing
55:00
and activism and stuff like that. And then
55:03
I've bounced between Montreal and Halifax.
55:05
I've lived in Montreal now for four
55:08
years five years, and a lot of what
55:10
I've done sort of like the cultural work that
55:12
I do working for film festivals, but also in
55:14
my practice as an artist has been really
55:17
influenced by everything that like going
55:19
on in the world and trying to be able to use art
55:22
as like a medium to communicate and to
55:25
connect with people around subjects of
55:27
like social justice. I started programming
55:30
films and working for film festivals because I didn't
55:32
see any films about
55:34
people like me. Mm hmm. One
55:37
of the first screenings that I put on in Halifax
55:39
right after university was like a screening of
55:42
all like queer female
55:44
like trans horror shorts
55:47
nice. This was like two thousand and twelve,
55:50
and I remember people saying at the time like, isn't
55:52
it a bit much? And I was like, what's
55:55
a bit much? And they were like, well, you know, you're
55:57
just you're focusing like not
55:59
on men and not a bit much.
56:01
Do we really need a screening that's like women
56:05
yeah, was made by women.
56:08
You know what we do what?
56:12
Yeah. I was surprised at how much
56:14
like resistance there was, Like I thought people would be
56:16
like excited that I was like coming in and being
56:18
like, we need a screen indigenous
56:21
people, we need to screen when we need to screen trans
56:23
people, And they were like, oh,
56:26
so you see, um
56:29
you mean the white man uncomfortable you know, yeah,
56:33
very much. So that was also
56:36
a very formative experience
56:38
of sort of like those early years programming and realizing
56:40
that like like one festival I worked for,
56:42
I worked like a dog. I increased
56:44
the amount of like indigenous filmmakers
56:47
that they were showing to the point where they qualified for a
56:49
grant from the province because they were
56:51
showing more Indigenous filmmakers to
56:53
do like extra programming. And the only
56:56
thing they ever complimented me on it
56:58
was my appearance. Wow. Yeah.
57:01
Yeah. And I didn't wear lipstick
57:03
one day and they asked me if I was sick, and then
57:05
like I just I was like oh no,
57:08
and I you know, and I mean I hope
57:10
though I hope those experiences. If
57:13
anything, eventually, I
57:15
would like I remind you that, like,
57:17
oh, this work is very important, Like I am
57:19
very needed. No one else is doing this.
57:22
That's so disheartening. That's
57:24
so disheartening. So I'm sure you
57:26
both have had like similar sort of experiences in
57:29
certain places. Like the glass ceiling is really real
57:31
and it totally did. It totally like radicalized
57:34
me and in a way and like made
57:37
me dig in. And so I sort
57:39
of stepped back from working from
57:41
from like big mainstream sort of
57:43
festivals, which I had been working for like some
57:45
some very prominent festivals and doing stuff with them
57:48
UM to doing more like independent
57:51
programming where I had a lot more control and also
57:53
where I could provide a lot more community
57:56
support. Like one program that I got to do a
57:58
couple of years ago here in Montreal was all around
58:00
the theme of UM mental
58:02
health, especially like q t bipop
58:05
mental health. And at the end of the screening,
58:07
you know, like we just had like a little listening set
58:10
like a session where
58:12
like people UM could
58:14
come and just like talk and for
58:16
a couple of minutes and like if
58:18
they needed you know, assistance
58:21
was something we could sort of help them up with something. But like
58:25
it was like sort of like peer counseling. Yeah,
58:28
and you can't necessarily do that like with
58:30
a big festival. It's you know, like there's there's
58:32
so much bureaucracy behind all those kind of
58:34
things, where like I could do that if it was just me
58:37
screening you know, some short films in an
58:39
art gallery, um,
58:42
and doing all that kind of stuff is kind of led me
58:44
to the job that I'm in now, which is I'm a lead
58:46
programmer at t QFF, which is the
58:48
Toronto Queer Film Festival,
58:50
and we're a yeah,
58:52
we're like more of a grassroots community
58:56
based, collectively programmed queer
58:58
film festival that really
59:00
centers black and Indigenous perspectives.
59:02
It's the kind of this like nice marriage
59:05
between the work that I was doing independently
59:08
and the like
59:11
festival environment where you sort of have like
59:13
the resources and the structure and the time
59:15
to do things that are really cool. And
59:17
I'm sure what you learned or like gathered
59:20
from those big breocracy kind
59:22
of festivals kind of influenced
59:24
your role in a smaller setting
59:26
and like you can like kind of I
59:28
don't know, merge those worlds together
59:31
even more informed, oh big
59:33
time. I think sometimes like when you're
59:35
not necessarily always provided
59:37
with like the tools that you need in order
59:40
to do something that like sometimes you just have to learn
59:42
through doing things, and so like being able to come
59:44
from this experience of working with big
59:46
festivals and work
59:48
with them at smaller festival. It's sort of like makes
59:51
me a lot more resourceful. I
59:53
think has made me a lot more structured and a lot more organized,
59:55
which is also really to the benefit of a smaller festival.
59:58
I have all the trappings of of bureaucracy,
1:00:00
and I know how to do all the bureaucracy stuff without necessarily
1:00:03
being fully invested in it. Yeah, so
1:00:05
that's pretty like, that's pretty nice. You know, that's
1:00:08
amazing. That's amazing. I'm so grateful
1:00:10
that your life led you to where
1:00:12
you are now, and I'm so
1:00:15
grateful that you shared with us your story. Before
1:00:17
we go, though, I want you to
1:00:19
tell everyone where they can find you on the internet.
1:00:21
But I also want to hear this ghost story. Okay.
1:00:24
I was like, I was waiting for that too. I was like,
1:00:27
ghost story or the internet, whether
1:00:29
you can find me? Um, So this ghost
1:00:32
story. And I've been sitting on this because we
1:00:34
have like a group chat listeners inside
1:00:36
behind the curtain, we have a group chat. I was
1:00:38
like, maybe I should send this via the group
1:00:41
chat. And I was like, no, no, no, I'll
1:00:43
hold on to it. We'll get a chance to talk again. I'll hold
1:00:45
on to it. Oh my god, I'm so happy
1:00:47
to be right here in this moment, so
1:00:50
amazing. Yes, I've been holding on this specifically
1:00:53
for you Shrine. So this
1:00:55
is my ghost story I dedicated to on
1:00:58
Instrine. So, I guess growing
1:01:00
up in Nova Scotia, it's a very spooky place.
1:01:03
I brother think I encourage you about to visit, maybe
1:01:05
in the summertime, because it's really the way
1:01:08
was not great the rest of the year. Yeah, you
1:01:10
know, but it's nice in the summertime. We we do
1:01:12
beaches. I guess
1:01:14
we have those in California too, but we you know, our
1:01:17
beaches are colder and more rocky.
1:01:20
Oh I
1:01:22
can, I can dig it. You know. It's it's a very
1:01:24
spooky place. Like people, you know, everybody's
1:01:27
family has has like a family ghost story or
1:01:29
like a family member that sees for runners,
1:01:31
or you know, a story of a haunting or
1:01:34
possessioners. You know, like that's just part
1:01:36
and parcel coming from the East Coast. And
1:01:38
so I would say that I believed in ghosts,
1:01:40
but like I've never really experienced anything spooky.
1:01:43
I was like, you know, outside
1:01:45
of that story that I told during
1:01:47
the Twilight live stream, like
1:01:49
that was a spooky story. Like,
1:01:52
but like I only had stories like that that were like secondhand
1:01:55
stories from like friends. I had never really experienced
1:01:57
anything on my own. So earlier
1:01:59
this year or this would
1:02:01
have been back in the springtime, I
1:02:04
think just after Lockdown kind of happened. So
1:02:06
it was like maybe like April, I was sleeping
1:02:08
and I woke up because
1:02:10
I felt a man leaning
1:02:13
his arm like into my chest, like somebody,
1:02:15
you know, sort of like putting pressure, so like their
1:02:17
arm would have been like across my chest and was like
1:02:20
holding my right hand,
1:02:23
like had their hand around my fist, and I could
1:02:25
like feel like the warmth
1:02:27
of their body and like the arm hair on their
1:02:29
arm, And I'm like lying in bed being like
1:02:32
this is it? Like in fact,
1:02:34
this is how I go like because
1:02:36
like I also live on the first floor, so I'm like
1:02:38
people could get in my windows. Like I'm you know, I
1:02:41
watched way too much like Unsolved
1:02:44
Mysteries, just like thinking of all the
1:02:46
possibilities and I'm like, oh, well,
1:02:48
it's been nice, it's been fun. I'm saying like
1:02:51
my goodbyes in my head, and this person is just like leaning
1:02:53
into my chest and I was so scared,
1:02:55
and I'm just like okay, and
1:02:57
then I sort of feel like the pressure
1:03:00
come off. Whatever has been on top
1:03:02
of me sort of like moves to the side of the bed. And
1:03:04
it's somehow like I had
1:03:07
noticed this when it was like whatever it was on top of
1:03:09
me, but like now this on the side of bed, it's
1:03:11
somehow like it's like a darker shade
1:03:13
than like the darkness in the room
1:03:15
in a really weird way, Like I don't know if that makes sense,
1:03:17
but yeah, it's like
1:03:20
it's like a darker kind of darkness. You're
1:03:22
just like you're looking at
1:03:24
it and you're like there's something
1:03:26
obviously there, and and like I
1:03:28
was just like at that moment,
1:03:30
I was like, Okay, this is fucking it. I'm gonna like
1:03:32
turn on the light. I'm gonna see who this motherfucker
1:03:35
is in my house. So I reached over and I turn
1:03:37
on my my bedside lamp and
1:03:39
I look back and there's nothing there. Wow.
1:03:42
And so I was like completely freaked
1:03:45
out because I and I was like looking
1:03:47
under the bed. I like went and got like
1:03:49
a knife from the kitchen. It was like doing that thing where
1:03:51
you're like checking the closet, like I'm
1:03:53
gonna like fucking make sure that, like, yeah,
1:03:56
there's nothing in my house. Because I was
1:03:59
convinced. I was absolutely convinced
1:04:01
that. I was like, you know that this had
1:04:03
just happened, and
1:04:06
oh. I like called
1:04:08
up a friend of mine the next day and was
1:04:10
like, you know, my friends a
1:04:12
spooky bitch and she like knows about this stuff.
1:04:14
And I was like, all right, I believed
1:04:17
in ghosts. I especially believe in ghosts.
1:04:19
Now what's going on? What's happening
1:04:21
in my house? And she was like, okay, this
1:04:23
is what you gotta do. And she's also a magma, so
1:04:26
she was like, got you got these herbs? And I
1:04:28
was like, you bet, I got these herbs. And so I
1:04:30
took a bunch of herbs that I had
1:04:32
and I have a drum, and so I got my drum
1:04:34
out and she's like, okay, and this is what you're gonna do. You're gonna burn
1:04:36
these herbs and you're gonna drum and you're gonna just ask the spirit
1:04:38
to leave because it doesn't sound like they're there for any good reason.
1:04:41
I was like, okay, you know what, I hadn't
1:04:43
slept the night before, so I like burnt on
1:04:45
my herbs. I had my drum. I was like drumming
1:04:47
in my house, like you know, just be like
1:04:49
oh wait, go wait. And I was like, this is dumb.
1:04:51
I'm being dumb. It was probably just like an
1:04:53
hallucination. I don't know. And
1:04:56
then a orange orbs shot
1:04:58
down my like hallway, passed my door
1:05:01
and I was like the back of my house and I was like,
1:05:03
I like my cat ran after it. And I was
1:05:05
like, well, fuck, I
1:05:08
don't know that well,
1:05:11
but since then, like I've been ghost free,
1:05:13
so I mean, ghosts
1:05:16
are real, man, like a real
1:05:20
And I was like, are you going to call
1:05:22
my friend Michelle? Well,
1:05:25
now we're going to call you. Yeah,
1:05:27
I'm gonna call Jess.
1:05:31
What experience. I was
1:05:34
very harrowed, and I was like, I've never had
1:05:36
that before where I've woken up and like been so
1:05:38
convinced something was happening. It's
1:05:41
not happening. Oh that's scary, that's
1:05:43
spooky as fun. He sounds like or the
1:05:45
ghost whoever it was sounds like it was
1:05:47
like a like if I was sitting over
1:05:49
you like that. I just imagine all those paintings
1:05:52
with like suck you by or Sucy Busses or whatever.
1:05:54
I've the edge of the bed, that's yeah.
1:05:57
And this was somebody who like felt like they were like
1:06:00
had like slammed into my chest like they're
1:06:02
holding me down, and I'm like, and my
1:06:04
friend Michelle was for saying, like, you know, ghosts
1:06:06
could be doing that, like spirits could be doing that to
1:06:08
get your attention, and I was like,
1:06:11
I don't have a good feeling about this, Like that's
1:06:14
not the way to get my attention. I'm very glad
1:06:16
that you are ghost free since that incident.
1:06:19
That is alarming at least at
1:06:22
least yeah, at least,
1:06:25
at least it wasn't somebody who would like crawled
1:06:27
in through my window. Though. Yeah, that's
1:06:29
very true, that is. I mean, yeah,
1:06:32
at least that's at
1:06:34
least that's not the case. But there's also like
1:06:37
this unexplained I'm I like supernatural
1:06:39
ship, you know, but it's also unexplainable.
1:06:42
You know, it's who knows what that was
1:06:45
and who knows why it was? The Harry you know, yeah,
1:06:48
maybe just wanted to be like, oh may
1:06:51
that or maybe it's like
1:06:54
maybe it was like, hey, you're
1:06:56
snoring, and I don't like, I don't know, you
1:06:58
know, like it was like being a
1:07:00
real edge lord. Yeah, because you're
1:07:03
snoring,
1:07:05
try you out cut
1:07:08
off your breath like, um,
1:07:11
Jess, thank you so much for being
1:07:14
on the show and sharing your life with us.
1:07:17
We didn't even get into I want to talk about fat
1:07:19
Tuesday. I want to talk about all the
1:07:21
stuff you're into. But we'll talk about it
1:07:23
next time because you're gonna get back, all
1:07:25
right, Well, for sure come back, and that would be lovely.
1:07:27
I had time chat with you, Yeah,
1:07:30
I would love that. Um But until
1:07:33
then, I'm kind of excited to see
1:07:35
what else happens to you, ghost wise until
1:07:37
we meet again. Until
1:07:42
that happens, where can the lovely folks
1:07:44
listening find you? Um?
1:07:47
So, the best place to find me is on
1:07:49
Instagram. I used to have Twitter, I
1:07:51
no longer do. I
1:07:53
do not excel on that
1:07:56
platform, so I got rid of my Twitter.
1:07:58
But yeah, people can find me on Instagram. I'm
1:08:00
at Underscore, rad Underscore,
1:08:03
Babe Underscore or Jeff Merwin.
1:08:05
If you search my name, you'll you'll find me. And
1:08:08
right now I'm posting a lot of cat photos
1:08:11
because I just adopted a new kitten, but usually
1:08:13
that's how I post a lot of art stuff. Nice.
1:08:17
I am thinking very hard about
1:08:19
adopting an adult cat right now, so
1:08:22
I'm gonna go stalk your
1:08:24
your page. Anyways. This
1:08:27
is ethnically ambiguous, y'all. It's ethnically
1:08:29
am a m B on Twitter, ethnically am
1:08:31
big a m B I G on Instagram.
1:08:33
This is Sharine shiro hero on Instagram
1:08:36
and shiro hero six six six on Twitter,
1:08:39
and I'm at Anahostian there, and
1:08:42
yeah, check out Jess. They're
1:08:44
up to a bunch of amazing things.
1:08:47
And stay ghost free. Yeah
1:08:49
that's the most important parts. Stay goes free,
1:08:52
because y'all, North America is one big
1:08:55
like this
1:08:58
is all burial ground that the
1:09:00
white man has. It's just I
1:09:02
don't even want to get into that.
1:09:05
Wow, all right. Ethnically
1:09:23
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