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This is the Eat Well, Think Well, Live Well podcast. I'm
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Lisa Salsbury. And this is episode 87.
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Stop obsessing over everything
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you eat. Welcome
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to Eat Well, Think Well, Live Well; the podcast
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for women who want to lose weight, but are tired
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of counting and calculating all the food.
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I'm your host, Lisa Salsbury. I'm
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a certified health and weight loss coach and life
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coach, and most importantly a recovered
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chronic dieter. I'll teach you
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to figure out why you are eating when you aren't
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hungry, instead of worrying so much about
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what you are eating. Hi,
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thanks for tuning in today. It
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is warming up here yesterday being
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the first day of spring. So where I live in Northern
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California. It follows the seasons
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pretty closely. So we've got all the blossoms
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going and had lots of rain the past couple
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of months. So it's really green here.
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I'm wearing a cute jumpsuit today at
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short sleeve. And it's reminded me of
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a post I put up on Instagram ages go.
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And I said, I never regret the
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ridiculously large amount of water. I drink.
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Until I wear a jumpsuit. Seriously,
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the amount of work to go to the bathroom, especially
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today, since I'm also wearing a little sweater
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over the top of the jumpsuit. So
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yeah, nothing like getting completely undressed,
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like I'm a toddler to use the bathroom. But
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I'm still drain on. I'm about to 80 ounces
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today and it's about three o'clock
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when I'm recording. Incidentally.
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I do like to front-load my day with water,
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because if I'm trying to catch up in the evening,
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then I find I wake up in the night to have to use
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the bathroom. And if there's anything,
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I hate more than going to the bathroom on days
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when I'm wearing a jumpsuit, it's having
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to get up in the night to use the bathroom. So
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I'm pretty careful about that. Anyway,
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just a side note there today. I actually want to talk
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to you about a topic that was requested
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in my content survey that went out
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at the beginning of this year. I
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asked this question, what's your number
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one, weight loss or health-related headache. You wish
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you could snap your fingers and make, go away.
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And this answer caught my eye today.
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She said to stop obsessing
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over everything. I eat I E.
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Is it the healthiest? Is it what I should
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eat right now? Will this cause me to
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feel sick and so on. This
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is actually near and dear to my heart because the
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first freebie like free ebook I
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wrote was called drop the obsession and
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the weight in it. I discuss three strategies
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for helping you drop the obsession with counting
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and calculating all the food that
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you were eating and still be able
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to lose some weight. So I'll put the link
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to that original ebook in the show notes, just for
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fun. Today, but also
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I want to just address her specific
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concerns. My obsession. Was
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more about counting and calculating. I was coming
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off of macro county back then.
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And so it was kind of helping
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people transition from that. But this
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sounds a little bit different to me. I don't have a lot
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of information about this listener,
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but I think. That
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part of what she's obsessing about. When
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we think about obsessing over everything we eat.
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A lot of it likely has to do. With
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all the diets we've done in the past and getting
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confused. Because
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some, we did war low fat,
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and then maybe you tried keto, which is very
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high, fat. And then some cut
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out sugar completely altogether, no
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sugar, no flour. And then if you
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count macros, it's like, well, if you can make
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it fit, you can eat it. So you did mental gymnastics
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and a crazy game of tetras, trying to make sure
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that that serving size of nine
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Cadbury mini eggs fit in today. And
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it's all very overwhelming. You're
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likely obsessed with what you are eating
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because there's so much contradicting information
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in your brain. And that
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is overwhelming. And then every time
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you go to pick something up, you're like, I
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don't even know if this is healthy. How
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do we figure it out? How
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can we decide what to eat
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without obsessing over it? I
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made a list. I think I've got seven strategies
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here. To help you answer
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this question. So
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number one. I want
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you to drop the idea that
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every food you eat has to
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be the healthiest choice. You
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know how I know that nine Cadbury
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mini eggs is a serving size according to
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the package. It's because I bought
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some. And I ate some last
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week. They happened to be my
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favorite of all of the seasonal candies,
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like all Halloween or Christmas or
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any other holiday candies, Cadbury mini
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eggs are my favorite. Aside
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from some of like the homemade candies,
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I may get Christmas. I'm talking about like
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purchased candies. Don't
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try to fool me by the way, with
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those newer dark chocolate ones that came out a couple
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of years ago. No, I liked the original
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milk chocolate., I also
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consider myself. A generally healthy
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person. Not every food
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that I put in my mouth is the healthiest
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food. Sometimes I eat
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foods that I like for pleasure.
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So that's number one, drop the idea
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that every food you eat has
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to be the healthiest choice. There is. I'm
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not saying eat cabaret, mini eggs every day
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for lunch. But all
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foods can fit in to
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your lifestyle. I definitely eat.
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Many eggs, as long as the majority
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of my food is from a whole
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food source. I don't worry about
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that extra bit. That is. Not
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so much. Okay. Number two.
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I also don't subscribe to the idea that
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food needs to be just fuel.
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If you caught my episode last week with Molly's
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Emek, we talked about how our teacher and
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the life coach school was very clear on the
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fact that food should just be fuel
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and not pleasure at all. That
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just doesn't work for me or Molly. We
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both feel like food can and
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should be enjoyed. We
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don't need to eat unseasoned, cardboard tasting
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food. If food is just eaten
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for fuel, then we wouldn't bother seasoning
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it or serving it with a complementary side
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dish or even eating a variety
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of food. But food can
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be both pleasurable and
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eaten in the amount that is pleasurable
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in the body. I've
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said this a lot of times, but the pleasure
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of the entire eating and food
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experience. Actually
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decreases. The farther
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over your fullness cues that you get.
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Typically, you begin to think more
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about how bad your body feels
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and less about how good the food
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is. The more you overeat,
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the higher, the chances are that you're also
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going to feel not great in your brain.
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'cause your old mean, girl self is going to
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start attacking you for yet. Again,
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overeating. You'll never get this right.
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Yada yada, yada. You know what she sounds
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like, right. So, if we want
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max pleasure out of food, we
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make an eat food. We enjoy in
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the amount that works well in our
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body. This is far more important
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than making sure it's the absolute
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healthiest choice. We
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just, we want to drop that idea. Okay.
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Number three, no food or meal
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that we eat can supply all
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the nutrients that we want. I
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think there's a lot of pressure that this person
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feels to have the healthiest
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meal, but if you were to Google,
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like super foods or nutritious foods,
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and what have you, you'll find
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a variety of things listed. But
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we can't eat all those foods in
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one sitting or in one meal. I
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just don't want to eat blueberries on top
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of salmon with a side of walnuts and cruciferous
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vegetables and lagoons. Like it's too much.
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You can't eat all the things at every
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meal. Each meal is
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going to have some foods that
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supplies some of the nutrients that you
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need. And then you'll get hopefully
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different ones at the next meal.
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So if this meal, your protein choice is fish
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great. But then next meal, it will be
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eggs or cottage, cheese, or chicken.
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And that's great too. Just
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because those foods might not be
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on the Harvard school of medicine, top
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10 healthy food list. Doesn't
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mean you shouldn't eat them. We
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need a variety of foods in
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our diet. All right. Number
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four, aim to eat foods from
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whole food sources, 80
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to 90% of the time. What
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I mean by that is hopefully we are choosing foods
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that are not ultra processed.
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On that frequency. So it's not that
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you have to make homemade food on that
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frequency on that 80 to 90% of
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the time, there are plenty of foods
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that are ready to go that aren't ultra
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processed foods. Bagged salads,
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meal delivery kits, even just an
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order of fajitas at your favorite Mexican restaurant.
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Would not be ultra processed that starts
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with chicken, bell, peppers, onions, and some seasoning.
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Ultra processed foods are going to be
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more like chips, crackers, granola
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bars, cold cereal. Things
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in packages that have a lot of preservatives
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and food dyes, artificial flavorings,
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stuff like that. I don't
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want to be part of the scare tactics of telling
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you to stay out of the center of the grocery store.
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I love the center of the grocery store. It's
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where I buy canned tomatoes and beans
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and rice and oatmeal. It's where
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you find seasonings and spices and
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salsa, all the stuff that's going to make your
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food pleasurable, which is what we want.
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Right. The more, you can
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buy foods that are convenient, like canned
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beans over dried beans. Frozen
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vegetables and precooked brown rice.
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The more likely you are to include
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those things in your diet. So don't
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shy away from those things, thinking
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that they are processed. All
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food that gets cooked or frozen.
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That's processed. You
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just want to be cautious about the foods I mentioned
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that are truly ultra processed. And
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I think, you know how to tell the difference.
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You have probably seen the headlines about
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the study published in the British medical
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journal. That found that people
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who consume high amounts of these
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foods, the ultra processed ones. Have
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an increased risk of anxiety,
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depression, obesity, metabolic
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syndrome, certain cancers, including
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colorectal cancer and premature death.
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That's a big, scary list, but
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it also shows that there could be
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a threshold effect. Meaning
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people who consume small amounts
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under a certain threshold are not
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at increased risk. They
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didn't define clearly how
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much is quote unquote. Okay.
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Where this threshold lands, because it may
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vary from person to person. And
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it probably depends on other lifestyle
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habits. But this goes back
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to my idea of 80 to
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90% of the time. We want to be
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eating foods that are from a whole food type source.
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So. We don't need to be super
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afraid of ultra processed foods,
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as long as they are not making up
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50 to 60% of our diet, which
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is where Americans are about right
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now. Okay. Number
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five, let bio individuality
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reign Supreme here. Part
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of what is healthy for you?
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Is what works in your body.
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Not only that, but there is also some amount
11:13
of beliefs that go into this as well, such
11:15
as religious beliefs that prohibit some foods
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and therefore. Go into our beliefs about
11:20
what is healthy for your body. So
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there's so much bio-individuality.
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So for example, I don't eat. Um,
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bananas because they make me nauseous.
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But I don't shy away from recommending them
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to my clients. You figure
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out if bananas or dairy or pasta
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works for you. You try
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it and see how it feels.
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So. Bio-individuality not
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only encompasses our allergies
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and adverse effects, but also things
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that give us energy and our food
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preferences. What you like
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matters. If you don't
11:56
like particular foods. And
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you don't want to learn to like them,
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like save vegetables. For example, we
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can figure that out. We can figure out.
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Vegetables that do work for you, some vegetables
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or fruits that you do. Like I have
12:10
a couple of clients and their list of fruits
12:12
and vegetables that they like is very, very
12:15
short. We work with that. And
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then if they're willing to try, we figure
12:20
out ways to try new things, but
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your preferences do matter.
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Okay. I want to talk specifically now to this
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person that commented. And I, I
12:30
sure hope she's listening, but I also know that a lot
12:32
of you listening probably feel this same
12:34
way. When she said
12:36
what I should eat right now.
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And is it going to make me sick later?
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so that it's kind of twofold. That the right
12:44
now thing is what I want to talk about first, when
12:46
you're making your food decision in the
12:48
moment. All of that food
12:50
chatter that I talked about at the very
12:52
beginning from all of the years of dieting
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will be loud. You're often
12:57
being influenced by your lower brain. When you are
12:59
standing in front of the refrigerator and trying to
13:01
pick something for lunch, we want
13:04
to make our food decisions with our higher
13:06
brains. We want to think about
13:08
making those decisions with our best thinking
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brains. This is the part of your brain
13:12
that makes you human, because it's this
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part that can think about and make plans
13:17
for your future. Making
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a 24 hour practical plan each morning.
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And just taking five to 10 minutes to
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use your best. First of
13:25
the morning, thoughts to plan your food for the
13:27
day can go a long way
13:30
to calming this food chatter.
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When you were looking also at your whole
13:35
day, you can also better see
13:37
how you are getting healthy nutrients throughout
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the day and not having to worry about
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cramming them all in at one meal.
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Here's another great thing about having a plan.
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You can keep it for future use. You
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don't have to reinvent the wheel every
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day. When you find meals that
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work for you and don't make you sick and
13:55
help you feel energized, make sure
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those get transferred to your go-to meals
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plan. That download is also
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in the show notes. If you don't know what I'm talking
14:04
about. You'll want to grab that.
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Picking from your go-to meals is
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also a safe bet when you don't
14:11
know what to eat. But
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you've got to do the experiments first
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to see what works. If
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you were having a lot of trouble with food, making
14:21
you sick, I would strongly recommend
14:23
you track that closely. This
14:25
is actually how I discovered the bananas. Give
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me nausea. I was drinking these really
14:30
green smoothies, like where you fill the
14:32
blender with greens and then blend that down
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until it's liquid. And then fill it up again with
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more grains. And I put
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a banana in there as well, amongst other
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ingredients to make it palatable.
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And they were just making me
14:45
so nauseous, but I was following
14:47
this green smoothie, fad diet things. So I
14:49
was determined to carry on. But
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it wasn't until a banana plane
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and had the same reaction that I
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realized, oh, it was the banana
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in this movie. That was the problem. If
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I hadn't been tracking the nausea and
15:03
what I was eating at the same time. I
15:05
wouldn't have figured it out. I don't think. So
15:08
I like giving yourself a one to
15:10
10 score for the symptom
15:12
you are tracking, whether it be nausea or
15:15
gas or bloating or heartburn. Just
15:17
jot that score down next to the meal
15:19
that you ate, and then you
15:22
have great data to look back on to
15:24
see if you can find. A pattern.
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Lastly, this is a little
15:29
bit more on the, is this going to make me
15:31
sick part is I
15:33
also find that a lot of these symptoms
15:36
go away. When my clients
15:38
stop overeating. I
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love those Cadbury mini eggs. I think
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I've already mentioned that. But
15:45
if I eat too many. I definitely
15:47
feel sick. Pay attention
15:50
to your hunger scale and make sure
15:52
that the quantity of food.
15:55
Is not actually the problem.
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Last August. I was being interviewed by
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Brandon Eastman for his podcast.
16:02
And he said, You know, I love these,
16:05
these Mexican bulls. They're so
16:07
good. They've got like rice and chicken
16:09
and vegetables, but every time I eat them, Like
16:11
I feel so sick. It's like the combination of
16:13
ingredients that ends up being bad
16:15
for me. And I was like,
16:18
is it the combination of ingredients
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or is it the quantity that you're eating?
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And he was like, whoa.
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Because we want
16:28
to blame it on these ingredients. We want
16:30
to blame it on the restaurant. But we've got
16:33
to pay attention. To the
16:35
quantity and see if
16:37
that is the part that isn't making
16:39
us sick. Okay. I think I have
16:41
already given you seven things, but I sort of have,
16:44
have lost track. I
16:46
have one more now. Here's my
16:48
final thought. Trust
16:50
yourself. We have
16:52
spent so many years on different fad diets
16:55
and trusting the meal plan in
16:58
the book or the diet app to
17:00
tell us exactly what to eat and how many
17:02
calories and what we're still short on.
17:05
And ignoring our bodies
17:07
all together. What
17:09
if you started to trust your own
17:11
body? A lot of people say
17:13
they wish they could just eat whatever they want. And
17:16
that is not what I'm talking about. Trusting
17:18
your body is not the same as
17:21
eating, whatever your lower brain wants on a
17:23
whim. I see the difference when
17:25
people say, oh, I just wish I could eat whatever I want.
17:27
What they mean is they wish they could eat
17:29
all of those ultra processed foods, all of
17:31
this high sugary. High-fat type
17:34
items that are delicious. But
17:36
feel terrible in their body.
17:38
Most people, when they say I want to eat whatever I
17:40
want, totally disregard how
17:43
their bodies actually feel after
17:45
they've eaten those things. If you
17:47
really listened to your body when she said,
17:49
oh, that's enough food or
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maybe you'll notice. Wow. I really do have
17:54
less sugar cravings when I get adequate
17:56
servings of fiber and protein. Then
17:59
these become. The things you actually
18:01
want to eat. And you
18:03
stopped saying things like, I wish I could
18:05
eat whatever I want. And you start trusting
18:08
what your body is telling you, instead
18:10
of punishing your body and criticizing
18:13
and withholding food, because you don't have
18:15
the exact right thing. Or because you think
18:17
that you haven't exercised enough or for
18:20
whatever reason. What have you
18:22
trusted that your body is capable of helping
18:24
you lose your weight? I
18:27
saw this quote years ago. And
18:29
it has remained one of my favorites and has been
18:31
a guide to me on this journey from chronic
18:33
fad diet or to feeling like me
18:36
and my body are capable. And
18:38
I said to my body, Softly.
18:42
I want to be your friend. It
18:44
took a long breath. And replied.
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I have been waiting. My whole life
18:49
for this. That's by
18:51
Nayyirah Waheed. I don't know if I'm saying that
18:54
correctly and I don't actually know anything about
18:56
that author. But I love
18:58
it. And it has impacted me. Tri
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trusting yourself. Try trusting
19:04
your body and letting go. Of
19:06
that food chatter and the diet mentality.
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Try taking exquisite care
19:12
of this body that you live in. Have
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a good week. My friends as always thanks for
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listening. And maybe even sharing.
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This episode of the Eat well think,
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well live well podcast.
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