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This is Eat Well, Think Well, Live Well podcast.
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I'm Lisa Salsbury, and this is episode 79
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habits of successful weight loss. Welcome
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to Eat Well, Think Well, Live Well; the podcast
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for women who want to lose weight, but are tired
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of counting and calculating all the food.
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I'm your host, Lisa Salsbury. I'm
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a certified health and weight loss coach and life
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coach, and most importantly a recovered
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chronic dieter. I'll teach you
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to figure out why you are eating when you aren't
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hungry, instead of worrying so much about
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what you are eating. Hey
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everyone. I have a great episode planned for you
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today. I want to talk to you about
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the habits that folks
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who lose weight in my program are
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developing. So these
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are the habits that I find time
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and time again are the ones
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that are leading to lasting
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weight loss. So I'm just going
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to jump right in number one, you're not going to
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be surprised by this. I talk about it all the
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time is they listen to
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their hunger scale. If you don't know
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what I'm talking about on the hunger scale, go back
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and listen to the back-to-basics episode I did
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in October about the hunger scale.
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Essentially, what I'm asking you to do
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is to wait until you're physically hungry
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to eat and that's pleasantly hungry.
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Not starving, which is not
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a word I love to use, but you know, we're not
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getting into that. Like cramping, stomach, kind
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of hunger. We want to eat when we're pleasantly
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hungry. It's the nicest time to start eating
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because you're really ready and your body's
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asking for food and then we stop
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eating at enough. Again, this
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is the nicest time for your body. It
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feels the best. You're going to feel the
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best later. You're not going to be overly full.
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That's the hunger scale
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in a nutshell, but this is a habit.
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That. Folks that lose weight in my
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program. Are developing. They
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are starting to use this every
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single day. And sometimes even though
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I talk a lot about creating their 24
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hour plan, a lot of times,
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as they develop the skill of listening
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to their hunger scale, what happens as
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they have more and more days where they did
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not plan. And the plan is
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eat according to my hunger scale and they are still
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able to lose or maintain their weight.
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Number two. Habit that these
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people develop is what I call the
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very next bite strategy. What
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this is, is when we have
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an overeat. When we,
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because as much as we do want to listen to
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our hunger scale, sometimes these things happen.
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Sometimes we do it on purpose. Sometimes
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we're like, I feel like garbage. I
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know that this food isn't going to help me, but I'm going
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to overeat it anyway. So
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sometimes we kind of do it on purpose,
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right. Sometimes we do it on accident.
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Sometimes we're just nibbling. It's mindless.
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It doesn't really matter why it happens. The
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point is that the very next bite
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strategy is that. They wait
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for physical hunger again. And
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then that very next bite is
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right back on plan. One
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over eaten meal. Doesn't turn
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into an overeat day. Doesn't
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turn into a, throw your hands up in the
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air for the week. It doesn't turn into
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I'll just wait till next Monday or the first
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of the month or the first of the year we don't wait.
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To get quote unquote,
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back on track. There is no back
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on track because we were never off track.
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We just over ate one meal, it's
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a whole different mindset. We're never
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off track. And so
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this very next bite really
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helps my clients just look at
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that one overeat as a singular
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experience. And they're not
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defining themselves as well.
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I guess I can't do this. Well, I guess
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this will never work for me. They're just
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like, yeah, this happened this one
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time, this week. And then for breakfast,
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I was right back onto my go-to meals. That
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is the very next bite strategy and
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the women in my program, they do this very
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well. They will report back to me. Yeah. I had this one
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overeat and it was no big deal. It
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didn't throw me off my game. number
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three is they consistently talk
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nicer to themselves and
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to their bodies. This
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is an interesting one because
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I don't talk a lot about this, but just
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remember that you cannot hate yourself
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thin. It's not possible.
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And I know because I've tried.
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I think we've all tried. I think we've all tried
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looking in the mirror and criticizing our
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thighs and, and, you
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know, juggling our stomach around and. Talking
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to our bodies in such a way that we would
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never speak those words out loud
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to another human being. We would certainly
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be correcting our daughter if we heard
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her speaking in that way to her body.
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And somehow we decide that it's okay
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for us to talk to our bodies in
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this unkind way and critical.
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I'm talking about those critical thoughts and like,
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well, if you were just. XYZ.
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Do these things better. You wouldn't look so
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gross. Right? I. I don't want to
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put like thoughts in your head of like maybe
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things you haven't thought of, but I'm guessing,
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you know what I'm talking about. I'm guessing you've had
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these thoughts. These are the things
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that my clients are able to
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stop thinking. They
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stop thinking that their bodies
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are wrong or something has gone
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wrong and they start
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asking how they can take amazing care
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of their bodies. It's a shift
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for themselves because instead
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of thinking, I have to hate myself
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enough to get myself to the gym. I have
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to hate this body enough to force myself
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to eat more salads. They actually
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start shifting into. If
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I loved this body, how would I best
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take care of her? What would
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look like love. For
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this vessel for my soul. We
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start to speak about our bodies in
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that way in beautiful language
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like this, like this is the vessel
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for my soul. This
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is the one. Body.
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I get to walk around and
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look at all of the beautiful things
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that this body can do. And we
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start to really notice all of the amazing
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capabilities that we do have.
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And this starts to be the more
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common thought. It's not that we
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never notice. I said, we, we talk
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nicer. It's not that we're like,
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oh, it's all rainbows and daisies that our brains
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all the time. It's just that the
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nice thoughts and the loving thoughts
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about our body start to sort of
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outweigh. The critical
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and the hate. This is a
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pretty important one. I
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actually started sort
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of coaching my mom about this
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without her consent. Um,
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which is what I call giving advice when nobody
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asks for it as coaching without their consent.
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But I. I
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just kind of said, you know, you maybe
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could try, you could try loving
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your body. Like that's not something you've ever
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tried before. And she
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admitted that she has never in her entire
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life. Try to love her body.
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And I just hope that I can catch
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some of you before you are in your
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late seventies. I
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want you to start loving your body now.
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And I think it is so
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important and so critical For any
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of your weight loss goals, because it
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really is the only way. That
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you will be able to keep the weight off because
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if we only hate ourselves to get the
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weight off. It's just not sustainable.
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It's not maintainable. Okay.
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Number four habit that I noticed
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that women have when they lose weight in my program
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is that they learned that they prefer
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to stop. At enough.
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this kind of is a reiteration
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of the hunger scale, but it's A little bit more
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nuanced. And what I notice
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is that they start getting more
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comfortable with stopping
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at enough than
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overshooting. And here's
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what the interesting thing is when you first
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start. To practice
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this and to stop at enough, you're going to be very
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disappointed. You're going to be like, oh,
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I hear my body is saying that's enough food, but
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mentally, this isn't enough. I normally
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get to eat more. Everyone else is still
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eating all this discomfort and disappointment
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is going to come up. But as
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you progress through the program, and
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as you continue to practice this,
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you stop thinking, well,
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who cares? How I'm going to feel later, I'm just going to eat
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this now. And you start
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to be more future-focused. And
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you start to prefer the feeling
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of eating too enough. Because
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you know that you will feel better
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in your body later. And
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you're going to feel better in your brain
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because you won't have to deal with all of
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that. Again, chatter.
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And that beating yourself up for yet
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again, over eating and you'll never get this
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and all of that kind of thing that goes along
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with the overeats. And
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so what happens is you start preferring
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stopping at enough, which
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is a really cool shift, because
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like I said, when you first start practicing
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this, it's going to be disappointing because you're
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like this isn't the same amount of food that I used to
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eat. And so you're going to feel disappointed.
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And eventually you're going to
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be like, you know, I actually prefer
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feeling this way. I prefer
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going to bed, feeling
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light and you know, not
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cramped up and gassy and bloating. I
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prefer not waking up in the
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morning, still full from the night
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before. You're just going to start noticing
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little benefits like that, that
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have nothing to do with the scale. Although
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those results will show up later
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and you're going to start preferring
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the feeling of enough. And that is
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a really, really cool shift of
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some. Some of the women that are in my program.
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So these are the skills
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that, um, we develop
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in my program and I just got a
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little sidetracked. I noticed I listed talk
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nicer to themselves again. Like
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it was number three and it's number five. Okay.
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So. Apparently that one's really important
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to me. So I just ended up having
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four. So it was, they listened to
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their hunger scale. They practiced the very
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next bite to strategy. They consistently
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talk nicer to themselves and they prefer
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to stop at enough. So
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these are the skills I am laser
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focused on when I am
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teaching. And these are the skills
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that will be especially important in
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my new group program. So
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if you've never joined a group program
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for weight loss, or even a group exercise
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program, let me tell you. It's
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not like group projects in high school where
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one person did all the heavy lifting and
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the other people just sat back
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and skated through. Nope. In
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this case, we are all going to
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put in the work, including me. I'm
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going to be showing up for you each and
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every week with a new skill. To
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teach you. I have a full curriculum
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for the program. And you'll
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be able to work on that and implement
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it that week to move your weight loss
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forward. This isn't the type of
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program where I show up and say, who needs
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coaching? Who needs, who needs
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help? Who had a challenge? Like now I
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have a curriculum ready for you.
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And we will be practicing these skills
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together and in
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order. I'll be coaching in that group
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and you will be amazed also at how
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this works. So after we're
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learning the skills that we're going to be working on that
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week, you'll be watching someone
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else get coached. Sometimes it'll be your turn.
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Sometimes it won't be. And
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you will be amazed at again,
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this is not like watching someone do the work
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in that high school project. And you just sit back
11:34
and learn nothing. When you watch
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someone else get coached, you're going
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to be able to see it really clearly
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for them, especially just after a couple
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of weeks. You'll see the solution
11:45
to what is happening for them. And
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you'll be like, oh, obviously, because
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you weren't as emotionally invested
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as you are with your own problem. And
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then when it's your turn to get coached, you might feel
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really stuck. And other people
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are going to be able to see your solution. And
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so what's going to happen is over time, you're
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going to have these aha moments maybe later,
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or maybe while that person is getting coached.
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And you're like, oh, that's really similar
12:11
to my challenge. Maybe it's
12:13
just a different food or a slightly different circumstance.
12:16
And you're having that same, it's so
12:19
hard thought. And then you're going to
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be able to apply the coaching that you've heard on
12:23
that other person to your own
12:25
problems and challenges. So you'll be
12:27
surprised at how much you learn, even if
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it's not you being coached. So
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we are also going to get together every Monday
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for a meal planning call. I'm
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really excited about this addition to
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the group program. This is going to be a working
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call. So it means a time
12:43
for you to actually get your planning
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done. I find that planning a time
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to do the planning is often what my
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clients or myself struggle with. So
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I decided, you know what, let's just get together
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to do it. So after we get going,
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I'll be chatting with the group participants to make sure
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this call is at the right time for everyone. Right
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now I have it scheduled for Mondays at two o'clock,
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but that could change if everyone is like, no,
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we need to do it later in the evening or maybe early
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morning, maybe we'll all come in our PJ's and bedhead
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and get it done first thing in the morning, but
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in any case, we'll find a time that works for
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most people. I will have some meal
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planning tips. I'll share each week for a few
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minutes, just some ideas to get going on
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that week's session. And then we will work
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quietly for 28 to 25 minutes.
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We'll take a break and share if anyone has some
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great ideas. And then if you're not done,
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we'll continue on for another 20 to 25
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minutes. And then share again at
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the end. So it
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will not only be a time to get the work
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done, the planning work, but
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also to share if you've got some great
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meals planned, so you can share with
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the group. And then if you finish your meal
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planning, then it will also be
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a great time to work on any of the skills
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that we've been learning in that week session, or
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get caught up on some of your guided journaling
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from the workbook. That sort of thing.
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So it's just an extra call
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I'm really excited about doing with
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the group. I looked at several
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research studies this week, trying to determine
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if the research showed benefits of group
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over individual coaching. And
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it's hard to find in this particular kind
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of coaching there's. Studies on
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a lot of programs like weight Watchers
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or other programs where it's just like
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a group exercise class. Um,
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the ones I did find though, definitely
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showed more benefit with the group
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coaching. Over individual,
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but specifically if they brought
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a friend along. So, not just
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in a group of people, they didn't previously know, but
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with someone they cared about, so
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groups where they didn't know anyone were also successful,
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so don't think, oh gosh, I don't know anyone. So
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it's not going to work for me. It does. But
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I just wanted to let you know, that's why
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when you sign up for my wait list, you'll
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get a little bonus discount for you
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and for you to pass along to a friend
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that also signs up. So
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that bonus and waitlist is actually
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going away this weekend.
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Because we will be starting full signups for the
15:03
group and getting everyone onboarded. So
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there won't actually be a wait list
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anymore. So if you want that discount.
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Be sure to get on the wait list in the next couple
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of days. If you're listening to this
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later, I'll give you some dates. That
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discount will go away. Saturday, January
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27th, because onboarding is beginning
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Monday, January 29th, and
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you will have a week then to get signed up
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and ready for us to begin on February
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7th. The other benefit
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I noticed in one of the studies is
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that the group programs tend to be a cost
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savings over one-on-one sessions.
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And that is true here as well. I've
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got all the pricing listed in the emails going out
15:41
this week, along with the payment plans,
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but just so you know, it's less than half of
15:46
my current one-on-one client cost. Lastly,
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if you have any questions at all, or
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if you're wondering if group or one-on-one
15:53
is right for you, I'm still
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doing free strategy calls for the
15:57
group program. You don't have to be
15:59
interested in one-on-one coaching in order
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to schedule one of those calls. So
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get one of those scheduled this week. If you want
16:06
helping help deciding if this is the
16:08
perfect fit for you. Okay. I'm
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looking forward to meeting a lot of you
16:12
in the group. And maybe even this week,
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if you want to chat a bit on a strategy call,
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I just remembered one thing I didn't mention. Yes,
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the group sessions will be recorded.
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So if you miss one, no worries.
16:24
You can always catch the recording. So
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I've also put my email directly in
16:29
the show notes of this episode. I don't normally do
16:31
that, but honestly, feel free to email
16:33
me any questions you have about this. I
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want to be really available for you. In
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the next two weeks to make sure that
16:39
all of your questions are answered about the
16:42
group program. Okay. Thanks for listening
16:44
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