You may have heard the suggestion to keep only those things that spark joy. If you're trying to clear some clutter, Jane and I think it's worth asking if those things spark guilt. The sweater that itches but you'd feel guilty donating because Mom gave it to you. The shoes you feel guilty not wearing because you paid a fortune for them, but they kill your feet. The painting you can't bear to display because it's ugly -- and since that, too, was a gift you stashed it in a closet instead of getting rid of it. You get the idea. The thing you most need to lose is the guilt!