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Vico. Hi,
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I had a premonition last night,
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and it told me that
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today I'm going to make a match
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made in heathing.
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Ok Okay, that's a
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lot to live up to, but let's
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give.
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It a go.
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Now. I've got my guardian Ane just looking
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out for our friend.
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Here.
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This is date my Hourlita verse for our
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gorgeous Houri dai Le plays.
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Matchmaker for our star Dator and
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three.
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Lucky contestants looking for some grand
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motherly approval. I
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am your host, Vico, This joined
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by our lovely A.
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Are you ready to meet our handsome main Dat.
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Yeah, yes, let's do it. Yes
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me.
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This week's main Dat might have a little
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to teach us about survival
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skills.
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Oh yeah.
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When we asked what makes him the happiest,
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he says bike, beer
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and steak, short and sweet.
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I like it.
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Yeah, he just finished a four thousand
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mile bike ride and lives a pretty
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nomadic lifestyle.
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I think it's time to welcome in Havier.
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Ha yet, come on in Hello?
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Thanks for having me.
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Of course, tell us
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who Javier is, Give us
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your age, what sparks joy,
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what makes you take? Just tell
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us about your adventures? Anything laid on
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us you want to know it all well.
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I'm a first generation Puerto Rican
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and the mainland my mother unfortunately
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took us to Ohio, which was really
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not the best place to go. Gotcha,
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and me and my three brothers
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grew up there, and since a young
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age, my brother's always drode
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it into me and said, you know, your mother's raising
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us. As soon as you turn eighteen, you get out
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of the house, you go to college, and you don't
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make mom work to support you any more. And
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so I was like, yes, I'm going to go to college. I'm going to do
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this whole thing. And I did all that. I got
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tons of scholarships. I ended up traveling
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and studying in different countries, and
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then traveling I just started to
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realize that this whole chasing
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a job that you think will bring you lots
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of money and happiness wasn't doing it. Everywhere
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I went, the happiest people, the people
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who had the most joy, were actually living
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simple lives. I fell in love with
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that, and so traveling by bicycle allowed
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me to travel to communities that people don't
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really visit and meet and
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have wonderful interactions with people.
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So I became obsessed with trying
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new foods and exploring new communities. You
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meet everybody. You're forced to meet everybody,
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so I became very social and
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telling stories with people and
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being invited into homes all the time. So
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now, after eighteen years of cycling around the world,
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I've damn near done most of it.
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And that's what I was going to ask you, if I may interrupt.
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You've done this around the world.
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I've cycled all of North, Central and South America.
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Wow, most of Europe, North
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Africa, some of the Middle East, Southeast
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Asia, and Iceland
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and New Zealand.
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Wow, to name a few.
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You've definitely been everywhere.
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How does your adventuring affect
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your dating life?
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That's the most difficult thing. Really. You
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do meet solo female travelers,
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but I tell you, I keep falling
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for the wrong women because these
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strong, independent women I meet on
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the road, adventurous and
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really mentally mature to be on the road
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in traveling alone. I like them so much,
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but they don't like men. So I'm
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like, oh, anyway, I could change
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your mines really, because you're like everything
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I'm looking for. Nope, Nope, sorry,
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I just don't. I don't like men.
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Hot, damn hot, damn.
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So the incredible women just happened
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to be barking at the wrong tree.
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Dang, that's a bummer.
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There's a few of us everywhere else, are
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Liva, You're putting yourself as a contestine here.
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What's going on? My goodness?
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Now, what exactly are
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you looking for these days?
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I guess those little games that we
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think traditional men and women relationships
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are, like, I don't like that. I
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want a woman that's strong enough that I
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am just not lifting her up. I'm
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just kind of standing next to her.
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You were raised by women, Yeah,
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by my grandmother and my mother, And how was
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that up bringing?
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I also went to Catholic school, so there were a bunch of nuns
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in the wish too. So, honestly,
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because I'm the fourth and the youngest boy in
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a Puerto Rican family, my grandmother and mother
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told me, oh, you're going to be the priest.
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They're like, well, traditionally, if
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a woman has many boys, the youngest boy's
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got to be the priest. So in my head when
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I was a little kid, I'm like, I guess I'm going to be a priest.
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I have that in my head for like a good ten years.
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Yeah, that's kind of the family I grew up
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in you know, crucifixes everywhere.
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Oh really, Santos parties,
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Yeah, candles everywhere. Yeah.
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If you are with a partner
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and one of you is going through
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a moment of dysregulation, right,
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and something like jealousy comes up, how do
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you want to handle that, whether it's within yourself or
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the other person.
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Well, in general, I don't like conflict,
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and I don't like to argue.
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Now.
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I do like to debate, you know. I'm
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very opinionated, so I could debate about anything,
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the color of a rock or anything. But
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and in relationships, I walk away,
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take a breather, and then come back and revisit it
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as long as nobody's yelling. I was raised
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by women for a reason because I had a very abusive
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father. So I will not
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do that. And that's a big, big red
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flag for me. If somebody likes to
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push your buttons to make you aggressive, I
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get out of that picture and I walk away jealousy.
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I really try to avoid people who
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get jealoused for little things. That's a big
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red flag for me, and I don't like being situations
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like that.
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How do you communicate your feelings?
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How do you communicate your needs your ones
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around a partner because we are not mind readers, all
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of us, you know, amen to that.
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Yeah, I try. Communication is
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always something that needs to be improved. Part
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of the last relationship was
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because she couldn't communicate to me. We
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had made an agreement. I
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love beer. I'm a big beer drinker.
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And I said, okay, you know what, I love beer, you
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love wheat. How about I give
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up beer and you give up wheat. And
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we made this agreement. I didn't
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know that for a whole year. She was
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smoking up the whole time, and I was I
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gave up beer and we'd go out and I
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was like, oh my god, drinking water,
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drinking water. I looked good. I lost a lot
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of weight. But then one morning I found out
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she was still smoking, and that just crushed me.
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And I'm like, you've been smoking every single day the
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whole time. That relationship ended because of
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that.
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How long were you together before and a half years?
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It's two and a half years. And then because of that
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what drew you to her? Originally?
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Actually I had a friend
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MATCHMAK for us. So it's
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very difficult for me to meet people because
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of my lifestyle. And you know, I like to travel.
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That was the last one ten years ago. Yeah,
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copy that.
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Wow, that's a long time, bro.
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My friend said, I'm sick and tired of you being single.
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You got to meet my friend and then so
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it was kind of like okay, yeah, sure. She lived
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in Colorado and I was living in San Francisco
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at that time, and so after talking
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for a while, I said, you know what, I'm going to ride my bike
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to go on a date with you. And she was
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like, I'm in Denver, what do you mean. I
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go, yeah, I'll be there in two and a half weeks. So
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I left San Francisco and I rode my bike two and
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a half weeks and I got to Denver and went on
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a date with her, and she was blown away that I rode my bike
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a thousand, two hundred miles to see her. And
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then we started dating. But
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I tried to lay it all out there. I told
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her in the beginning, I'll never give you a
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ring, but I will build you a house.
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And so that was my kind of hint
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of how I would propose. So
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for my birthday, I flew her
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back to Colorado and I had arranged
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to go see all these properties and
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we found one hundred and twenty acres and
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it was beautiful, and that real estate agent
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took us out there and there's no house. It was
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just property and there was woods and
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hills. And I looked there and I said,
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come over here. And I grabbed her and I said, could
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you envision you and I sitting
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on a porch right here on a
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house that I build, with our children running
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around the yard. And this was her response.
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I guess I was proposed,
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why didn't you buy those hundred and twenty acres and
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build yourself a home?
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Well, you know there's
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something about people living in the woods and
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writing manifestos a load of the
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woods. I really want to become one
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of those guys.
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So it's better if you're own, daid Maya Wilita.
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Yes, I'm here in La.
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I'm like you could do the hard work.
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It maybe make things a little bit easier.
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With that said, I think
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Liliana is definitely ready to
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find that adventurer, that
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down for anything, woman who
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can keep up with you, or
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maybe you'll have to keep up with her. So let's
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bring in the contestants, shall we.
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We'll be back after the break. Welcome
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back today. Malani the first
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and now it's time to bring in our
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contestants.
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Hello, Charie, Shannaka and
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II le.
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Hi.
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Hello.
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First up, we have Sari.
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Sari is from Australia
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and has moved around a lot all
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of her life. She credits her upbringing
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with why she is able to be so flexible
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with change. Her red flags
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are people who don't listen and are too
9:47
self involved. Excellent red
9:49
flags. She's a virgo, but she
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says don't hate her for ed. She
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has a lot of variety in her charge. Welcome
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Shari, Yeah.
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Anytime, anytime.
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Who's next?
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Mevi go.
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Next, we have Eileen.
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Eileen is a pattern maker and has
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a strong passion for sustainable
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fashion. She has three passports
10:12
oh and has said if
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she wasn't working at nine to five, she
10:16
would move to a new place.
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Every three months. Hello Eileen.
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Hi, And
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last, but.
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Not least, we have Shaunaka.
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Shannika's friends would say she is either
10:30
one hundred year old grandmother.
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Or she is crazy and wild. She
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prides herself on.
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Being a loyal friend and is a bit of a footy,
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always looking to.
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Try a new restaurant. Meet Shaannaka.
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Hello, Hi, Hello,
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my beautiful Nia. That's I'm really excited
10:47
that you're all here today. So let's get
10:49
playing.
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Eh, Yes, thank you for joining
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us.
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So let's break the ice with you three.
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We are going to ask some
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rapid fire Russians.
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Leanna wanting the first one.
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Yes, let's do this now here
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we go, Ladies, pay attention. What three
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things would you bring with you to a deserted
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island? M m mmm interesting,
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Shanika.
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One of those global phones get my
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call from anywhere. Something
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to start fire with so that I can cook
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some food while i'm there, And
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something a purify water.
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Well, nice, excellent, Chari.
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What are your objects?
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So I am a bit
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of a forest fairy, so I think
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i'd fare pretty well on an island by myself.
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And I often daydream about
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escaping society and living in the jungle, so
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this is a dream to me. That's
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something that I would miss. There would be
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writing. I love writing, so i'd want,
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you know, a never ending pen and
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paper. And I
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guess i'd bring a hat because I tend to
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have a son quota. I get over the sun
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at certain times. Not on an island,
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I think there'd be plenty of it.
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Very very nice, very interesting,
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Eleen, what are your three items.
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I would definitely do a good pair of shoes,
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probably a book to read, big one,
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and plenty of snacks.
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Plenty of snacks, very very nice. All
12:17
right, my time for a rabbit.
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Good question.
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What is your favorite cheap
12:23
thrill, for instance a
12:25
crown trap from Taco Bell? And
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what is your favorite thing to splurge on, for instance
12:31
a deep tissue massage. I
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see shore you being like, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, do you
12:35
want to answer first?
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Yeah.
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I will absolutely sledge on a message,
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and I consider it a need, It's
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a necessity in life. And what's
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a chape throw?
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Wait?
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My chape throw is I don't pay
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for it, but I will take fruit off the trees.
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I say when I go.
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Walking, incredible, true
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fairy, a true girl
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Shaunago, What are yours?
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A cheap thrill is just a good girl's night, Bring
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a cheap bottle of wine, bring some snacks, and that's
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like an easy six of good
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times and you have to break the bank.
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Splurging is travel.
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I think that there's so much of the world to see,
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and there's so many places to go, and I think it's really important
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to take that time and explore the places.
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Eileen, what are yours cheap
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thrill?
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I would probably just say a spontaneous hike.
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With so much opportunity here in La to you
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know, either do a day trip, go really close,
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or even just drive a little outside the city.
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So that's pretty easy as far as a splurge.
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I often take Shaunaka's
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answer to it's always travel.
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That's always number one.
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Hell's yeah, hellsy, yeah.
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Fun, Helena, what you got, I'm going there with
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these ladies. Okay,
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here we go. If you were to have dinner with anyone
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dead or alive, who would that
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be?
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And I see a lot of wonderful reactions
13:55
with this.
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When do you think I lean?
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My answer is my grandpa, who isn't
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with us anymore, but I miss him. And
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uh yeah, always really good conversation,
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really mind enhancing.
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So beautiful answer, Shania.
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I'll get emotional too. My
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dad passed in twenty twelve, so it'll
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be that I'm about to just like get
14:18
dinner with them again and catch up on the past.
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So yeah, that would be that would be mine.
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Sure, I'm sorry
14:26
to both of you. I've experienced
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a lot of death in my life, so I'd feel
14:30
wrong just choosing one of them. So I'm going to
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go with a world leader, like
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a life world leader, because
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I would just love to know what is
14:39
going through all of your heads, you know, like
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I would just be able to I would just really
14:43
like to question them and maybe influence
14:45
them a.
14:46
Little, you know, that would be good.
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Do you have any world leader that comes to
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mind?
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Give me any of them? I mean, there's
14:53
too many to name. Really.
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I feel that they are many world leaders who
14:56
need a little chunk land.
14:58
They all need a little chang lad talking
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about.
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All right, I had last one.
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Would you rather live in a world
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without music or one
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without internet?
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Wow?
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Shanny, go what is yours?
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This is so hard?
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Is there music on the internet? Like I thought Spotify?
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I see you trying to be like, let me just like do
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it one. Let me break the system here.
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I'm going to do that because music is
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so important to mean, I love music. I
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love going to shows. That's like a big thing for
15:32
me. But I would not be able to get anywhere
15:34
without the Internet. It's my smartphone is my map.
15:36
It's like I always lost. So I'm
15:38
like I need that. I need to stay connected with people.
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So I'd have to say no music. I'd
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have to pick the Internet.
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Okay, very nice, Sure,
15:47
what's yours?
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Fatally a world? Good night Internet. I mean
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I've day dreamed about living in the forest, so yeah,
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I just I love music and I think
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it's such a an essential
15:59
part of souls, you know. So
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yeah, that was an easy choice for Meleen,
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Eileen.
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What's yours?
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I couldn't live in a world without It's a
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tough one, but without internet, because we
16:11
have so much access to information. Also,
16:14
I am by myself here in La, so
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that's how I access my family most of the time.
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So that would just be that alone is the
16:21
sole reason.
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All right, thank you
16:24
all for your ladies rapid fire
16:26
responses.
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Dare I say they were fire?
16:31
Anyway, It's
16:33
time to play another game now before
16:36
I will lead that decides who she wants
16:38
to take on a second date. This
16:41
game is going to be a lot by
16:43
see, we are going
16:45
to be looking.
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For your hot takes.
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Maybe it'll win, I will eat this heart, or
16:51
maybe it'll be that hill
16:54
you would die on.
16:56
Give us an example.
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Okay, here's my hot takee It's
17:00
okay to wear socks while you're having
17:02
sex.
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I read like I mean that it's better.
17:05
It definitely is better.
17:07
Because it keeps your feet warm and it makes
17:09
everything feel warmer and
17:12
hell's with better orgasms.
17:14
Anyway, that's my hot.
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Take, My hot takes, hotake sex anyway
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it comes. Which
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time is that happening?
17:22
All right?
17:23
Oh the calendar?
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Well there you go, Shau, I got tell us what
17:28
your hotache is?
17:29
Okay, so I will say bloody Mary's
17:31
at night, order at the bar at night, like
17:33
what's wrong with you? And
17:36
so I think that's kind of a weird thing that people are like not
17:39
the right time the day.
17:40
To drink that it's just like like a spa show but
17:42
with a little vodka.
17:43
I got you salad in a glass.
17:47
Show you what's your hotache?
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I think you should just let spiders live
17:50
in your house. Does that count.
17:53
As they save my little plant babies from
17:55
all these little mosquitos and shit and like and
17:57
flies? So yeah, I'm there with you,
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Eileen. What's your heart take?
18:02
I think we should just skip the election this
18:04
year because.
18:05
There's no good answer anyway.
18:07
Here here we're
18:10
all clapping, We're all
18:12
does Brett Lena, I feel
18:15
like you.
18:15
Have another heart take on your chest.
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Well, something we like talking about on
18:19
the show is astrology
18:23
and we both put a lot of faith in the stars,
18:26
but not everyone does, so
18:29
Hot Tache, is astrology really
18:31
that helpful in the German and relationship compatibility?
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Shari? What do you think?
18:36
I don't buy into it? I
18:38
mean I know a lot about it
18:41
for someone who doesn't buy into it. And
18:43
when I had my chart read by a friend,
18:46
I was kind of blown away by
18:48
how much was in my chart that was relevant to my
18:50
life. It was like, show me where it says that I don't
18:52
believe you. So I
18:54
guess I'm open, but skeptical.
18:57
In true virgo form trying
19:02
to go out. Are your thoughts on that?
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Okay, you're not going to like my answer.
19:07
You never know.
19:08
I don't buy into astrology.
19:11
I think it excuses bad behavior,
19:13
especially can be from an aries, because I don't feel like I
19:16
fit in aries at all. So because I don't
19:18
feel like I fit it, I think a lot of people use
19:20
it as an excuse like, oh, I'm sorry, I
19:22
like acted that way and it was hot headed and crazy.
19:24
It's because I'm an Aries.
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I'm like, no, girl, you're just a bit like.
19:27
It's not because you're astrology sign, like
19:30
you're just not a nice person. So don't
19:32
blame it on like marking retrograde
19:34
or the plans are misaligned.
19:35
No, so it doesn't matter when you were born. You
19:37
are a Taurus.
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Oh, I love that. I love that answer. That's
19:44
fucking great, Eileen, what are your thoughts?
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I agree with the other two ladies.
19:50
When I do kind of read my
19:52
chart, I kind of agree with certain things. But
19:54
I also can't, you know, determine decisions
19:57
in my life based on what I'm reading.
19:59
I'd rather go off of like my emotions and what
20:01
I think is right for me.
20:02
So I think there's something there obviously
20:05
is pretty old and in play system, but it's
20:07
not for me.
20:08
Here here, here, here. I love that.
20:10
That's great, Vico, it is your opinion. I
20:14
knew you were going to have to go there.
20:16
I do enjoy substantially
20:19
astrology, but I don't take just my son's sign
20:21
as a telltale. I'm a Libra, but I'm not
20:23
just a Libra. There's other elements in me that
20:25
like play with each other. I have my sad
20:27
rising, my scorpio moon, my virgo venus.
20:30
Everything communicates to each other and encompasses
20:32
like who I am as a person.
20:34
But again, I similarly do.
20:36
Agree that people that are always using
20:39
these things as a crutch to excuse their
20:41
own behavior, that's never okay. So
20:44
like, I very much sympathize
20:46
with these things, and I also love
20:49
to just, you know, lean a little bit. And I'm like,
20:51
oh, I'm a flirt because I'm a libra, but
20:53
I'm just.
20:53
A fuck a
20:56
great description of a libra.
20:59
And well, I think we've come to that point.
21:03
This part is always hard, but thankfully,
21:05
I don't know.
21:08
It Isa's duty
21:11
to send one of these cuts
21:14
down the road.
21:16
You are each so adorable.
21:19
However, at the end of the day, Alita
21:21
has to look at what our main
21:23
data is interested in and which
21:26
of the three of you, which two of
21:28
the three of you will be a little more compatible.
21:31
And we still have a lot more questions to ask before
21:33
the end of today's show. Anyway,
21:36
and for that reason alone, the
21:38
one person that will be leaving us today
21:41
is Shanic.
21:44
My goodness, thank you, think you,
21:46
think you, thank you, thank you so much.
21:49
We have such a wonderful energy. We
21:51
really appreciate you.
21:53
Than bye
21:57
so much.
22:00
We'll be back after the break. Welcome
22:06
back today, my holy the first.
22:10
Well, here we are, the two of you now
22:12
are going to have a nice little one on one a
22:14
little so all
22:17
right, Suri, welcome to.
22:21
Take it away.
22:23
Hi, my love, how are you today?
22:24
Oh?
22:25
Good?
22:25
Thanks?
22:25
This is fun. How are you?
22:27
I'm doing good, so glad to see you. I'm
22:29
gonna ask you a couple of questions. Just open
22:32
up your heart in your mind and tell me how it is.
22:34
Okay, what kind of people
22:36
do you usually date?
22:38
I usually date people
22:40
who don't have homes. It's
22:42
not intentional, but I've dated a
22:44
guy who lived in his van, a guy who lived
22:46
in his car, another guy who
22:49
was traveling well, didn't have a heart like
22:51
it just seems to be a pattern.
22:52
Okay, And that didn't bother you?
22:54
No, why? What
22:56
is the reason?
22:57
Money can change in a heartbeat? So it's
23:00
not the reason that I would be going for
23:02
someone. And it was, I guess because I'm
23:04
such a free spirited
23:06
person myself. I understood the hippie
23:08
lifestyle and the nomad lifestyle.
23:11
Tell me about your cooking
23:13
expertise.
23:14
Yeah, I love to cook. I
23:17
enjoy it a lot. I will say, though,
23:20
that I don't cook meat because I don't
23:22
eat meat. So that can be a deal
23:24
breakup for some people.
23:26
But Let's say that you are with your
23:28
partner at home and you're making dinner
23:30
and he would like to have a steak. It's
23:33
okay if he makes it himself.
23:34
He has to do it himself.
23:35
Yeah, okay, all right. So
23:38
when was your last romantic experience
23:41
and how long was it it ended?
23:43
I'd say two years ago. We
23:45
were very incompatible and so
23:48
it was a bit of a painful breakup. It's
23:50
funny because I'm such an easy going,
23:53
will accept everyone and anyone
23:55
kind of person. I have so many friends
23:57
that I maybe disagree with on very
23:59
fundamental things, also some that
24:01
I agree with. But I've never ever thought
24:04
when it comes to relationships and maybe I should take a
24:06
different approach. It's only since that relationship
24:09
that I've realized, oh, maybe certain
24:11
things do need to be the same. You do need
24:13
to look for things that are compatible or it's
24:15
just never going to work.
24:17
What are you specifically looking for in a man?
24:20
I want someone who we can make each
24:22
other laugh. That's really important to me. I
24:25
want honesty, and I want
24:27
someone who is, you know, compassionate
24:29
and kind and empathetic.
24:31
Are you willing to go on adventures,
24:33
travel, do all kinds of things?
24:35
Yeah, I love adventures. I love travel. I
24:38
am speaking of adventures like I've done
24:40
stunt school. I learnt a paraglide
24:43
solo. I love hiking.
24:46
I've jumped off clifts into oceans.
24:48
My mother and I a deal when I was young
24:51
that I had to stop telling her before the fact.
24:53
I had to tell her after I was safe,
24:56
so that she didn't have to worry.
24:58
That is so sweet. Well, thank you,
25:00
Shari. That's really sweet of you. We enjoy
25:03
your answers and let's see what happens.
25:05
Yes, thank you, SCHERI, thank
25:07
you, thank you.
25:10
Fantastic a Walita, take it away
25:12
with your gofen.
25:16
How are you, my love?
25:18
I'm great?
25:18
How are you, a Belita?
25:19
I am doing great. This is getting tougher
25:22
by the second. So just open
25:24
up your heart in your mind and be honest about your answers
25:26
and let's see where all this goes. Okay, now
25:29
you were you were born in Germany.
25:32
I was born in Germany.
25:33
Yeah?
25:33
Did you live there for any period of time?
25:37
Yes?
25:37
So.
25:38
My mom's German, my dad's Canadian Americans.
25:40
I kind of grew up with all three. We
25:42
moved around a lot as a kid, so I lived
25:45
on three different continents before I was like three,
25:49
so yeah,
25:51
but I grew up in Germany.
25:52
That's my hometown.
25:54
Most of my you know, my mom's side of the family is all
25:56
there, but that's kind of what I consider my hometown is in Germany.
25:58
So I speak fluent German.
26:00
Have you ever dated a German Man?
26:03
I have, but it's been a while. I've been here
26:05
for thirteen years, so okay.
26:07
So what is it that you're looking for in a relationship.
26:10
I think just a partner,
26:13
like an equal, someone who likes to have
26:15
fun. I definitely do love my downtime,
26:17
but I also really like to make
26:20
the most out of every day. So I really would
26:22
like a partner who kind of feels the same way.
26:24
You know, you wake up in the more it's like what can
26:27
we do today or how can we make the most of our
26:29
time?
26:29
Okay, so you are ready for a relationship,
26:32
absolutely? What is love to you?
26:35
I'm kind of rational when it comes to love.
26:37
I try to be a little bit more down to her, so you know, I'm not
26:39
the kind of person who gets swept away.
26:41
Give me two qualities you're looking for in a
26:43
man, a.
26:44
Good sense of humor and
26:48
someone who can be honest.
26:50
That's very important, isn't it. Well,
26:52
thank you so much, sweetheart, it's very nice
26:54
answers. And let's see where we go from here,
26:57
Okay, perfect I
26:59
wanted to Yeah.
27:00
Is it time for us to let them know our
27:02
secret?
27:03
God, I've been waiting forever. I
27:05
know, I know them, let's tell them.
27:09
Well, so a little did you know that
27:11
our main data has been listening
27:14
this whole time. He's been lurking
27:16
in their shadows, looking at everything
27:18
and listening to all.
27:20
Here's the thing, though, Alita might.
27:21
Have an idea of who she likes for
27:23
him, but we're gonna have you step out for a second
27:25
to see we have.
27:26
A unanimous decision.
27:27
In the meantime, muchisimas
27:29
grasias to the both of you, Bess,
27:33
truly, it's been so much fun.
27:35
Thank you so much for playing. We'll deliberate and
27:37
then we'll bring you back in into the damn thing. Yes
27:42
havit, come on in for a hot second.
27:44
And first impressions
27:46
about these two now that we
27:49
have gotten to know them a little bit more.
27:51
Shari has that nomad lifestyle
27:53
she mentioned certain key words. She is
27:56
really free flowing and is kind
27:58
of creative. I think the biggest thing is
28:01
this vegan thing. I actually
28:03
do hunt and on
28:05
the island I would definitely be grabbing animals.
28:09
But she's willing to let you cook your own meat.
28:11
Yeah that's true.
28:12
And since you are very much in the strong
28:14
belief that you each stand on your own
28:16
and you share whatever lifestyle
28:19
you each have, well then good we can do that, right
28:21
Yeah.
28:21
Yeah, I mean I did it brings before
28:24
Eileen. I actually really like Germany.
28:27
I go to Germany often for the beer festivals.
28:30
That's cool, that's interesting, And that she has
28:32
different passports that's actually really
28:34
nice. If I'm looking forward to like children
28:37
and a family, Canada and Germany
28:39
those are great places to live. Actually, those are the key
28:41
things I've jotted down.
28:43
All right, Well, thank you.
28:45
Me and I would are going to process
28:47
everything that's happened, and we're going to bring
28:50
them both and make a choice.
28:51
Yeah yeah, let you know, soon.
28:56
Will leave that talk to me.
28:58
My opinion would be, what
29:00
is yours?
29:02
It's a tough one. It's a tough one.
29:03
I feel like I know that he says he wants someone
29:05
has independent, someone that's like in
29:07
doing their own and all that does. But there's always that like
29:10
mentioned of, like I want to build a home, right. I
29:12
think Eileen has a bit more of that, right,
29:14
But she's also independent, is doing her
29:16
own thing. So I think that Shari is
29:19
wonderful, is amazing. I do
29:21
think that like they're both so independent that they're
29:23
just gonna not really.
29:26
Be independent of each other.
29:27
Yeah, it might be fun for a couple
29:29
of trips here and there, absolutely, but then
29:31
when it comes to like building home and building
29:33
house, I think that's not something that might.
29:36
Yeah, but I think they're both great truly dumb for
29:38
either.
29:39
Oh so let me think about it for another
29:41
thirty seconds.
29:42
Sounds good.
29:43
Let's do that.
29:47
Okay, So the
29:50
jury has a verdict.
29:52
Thank you both so much for your wonderful answers,
29:54
for being so candid and earnest and really
29:56
putting it out there.
29:58
That listen, ladies, you
30:00
are both amazing, fantastic,
30:02
out of this world a little different.
30:05
But in this case, I needed to look at
30:07
what our main data wants, needs
30:09
and is looking forward to, and for
30:12
that reason alone, the
30:14
person who will be with our main
30:16
data today is Eileen.
30:21
Wow.
30:22
Yes, sorry, I
30:24
had a lot of fun. Thank you so much.
30:26
Oh, thank you thank you so much.
30:28
You bye b bye.
30:31
Well without further
30:33
ado, Eileen neat
30:36
Havierer javierre come on and
30:38
turn your camera Hellovier,
30:43
Hello Javier.
30:44
What were your first impressions?
30:46
I love that you're German and Canadian.
30:49
I go to Octoberfest a lot.
30:51
I've worked Octoberfest, so I think that's
30:54
kind of cool.
30:55
Wow, can you carry all the beers?
30:57
I can only carry six more than I can carry.
31:00
I actually have leto housin right here in La
31:02
and I.
31:02
Haven't done this.
31:04
Yeah. Oh, okay, yeah,
31:06
you seemed adventurous and willing to
31:08
be spontaneous and creative. So
31:10
that's what I noticed.
31:12
Okay, you too.
31:14
We know there's a lot to talk about,
31:17
so we're going to send you off on.
31:18
Your little virtual date.
31:22
We're going to turn it on to Eeps's drums.
31:24
So hard.
31:27
So I moved to La. I've only been here a
31:30
month. No way, I moved from San Francisco.
31:32
Okay, I love San Francisco.
31:34
My parents lived in San Jose for years,
31:36
so I'm very familiar.
31:38
I'm still learning the area. I'm
31:41
a really big cyclist, so
31:43
I actually ride my bicycle around the world.
31:45
No Way, I
31:47
have a bicycle.
31:48
You do good.
31:49
I bought it off an old lady in twenty twenty when
31:51
the pandemic hit and it has a basket.
31:53
But I do love my bike well.
31:55
On social media, I'm hungry guy
31:57
on a bicyclea you
31:59
can see tons of my photos of traveling.
32:02
I do love to eat and I love to cook.
32:04
I love to eat.
32:06
I do hunt too, to eat it not
32:08
for the trophy.
32:09
Oh wow. My family in Germany
32:11
they're butchers. My cousins they're
32:13
butchers.
32:14
Yeah, and so they hunt and stuff and then
32:16
like the meat was provided by my mom's
32:18
best friend's farm.
32:19
Great. You can check out my Instagram
32:22
profile I just added to I've just
32:24
been adding tons of pictures of my travels and
32:26
food that I eat or things that I
32:28
yeah, I do.
32:30
Cool.
32:30
Yeah, that pretty much tells my whole life story since twenty
32:33
seventeen.
32:33
Nice. That sounds cool. Welcome
32:37
to La Yeah.
32:38
It's it's uh, there's
32:40
so much to see. It's there's a lot of driving around here.
32:42
So but yeah, I'm definitely up for like
32:44
going on parking, taking the bikes out, and then
32:46
cycling a trail. If you're down for that,
32:49
that'd be kind of cool.
32:50
I'm definitely down for that.
32:51
Yeah.
32:51
So my bike it's an older it's like nineties,
32:53
but it's a mountain bike hybrid.
32:55
It's not like a road bike or anything.
32:57
I may have a bike that you could use.
33:05
Ah Okay, that is all
33:07
the heat we could handle this week.
33:09
Folks.
33:10
Check back in next week as we meet our
33:12
next Nieto, Nietta Nieta
33:14
and a Alita plays matchmaker
33:17
once more. Bite Maori The
33:19
First is a production from WV Sound
33:21
and iHeartMedia's My Ultura podcast
33:23
network, hosted by me Vico Ortis
33:26
joined by the fabulous Leanna Montenegro
33:29
Bait may Awali. The First is produced by
33:31
Leo Clem, Nico Raguel, and Sophie
33:33
Spencer Zavos. Our executive producers
33:35
are Wilmer Valder Alma, Leo Clem, and Nico
33:38
Raguel w V Sound. This
33:40
episode was edited by Sean Tracy
33:42
and Nico Raguel. This episode
33:44
features original music by Gabe Lopez
33:47
and Alvaro Morello. Special thanks
33:49
to our team of cupits at w V
33:51
Entertainment. Special things also
33:54
to our hopeful romantics this week, Javier,
33:56
Eileen, Shanaka and Churi.
33:59
Additional thanks to Salt and line Media.
34:01
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34:10
do anything.
34:11
I will lead that wouldn't do.
34:12
Oh, just do it better, Okays.
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