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One of my most common questions is: What do I do when I am triggered, but I still have to deal with the kids?

Here are my six steps:

1. Get safe – using whatever techniques you find the most useful. Starting with three deep belly breaths is great

2. Have a card/ sentence that centres you – something like ‘I’ve been triggered. I can get through this. I am safe.’

3. Take a moment for yourself to feel your feelings – a cuppa, a glass of water, a few breaths hiding in the bathroom…

4. LATER: journal or talk to someone about what happened. What may have set you off, and what the root cause might be

5. Using a technique like Ho’oponopono, go through the process of letting go the hurt.. or reducing its power over you

6. If all of the above still isn’t helping you, you absolutely have the right to seek professional support from a therapist.

Coaching will help you move forward with your plans and your life, whilst therapy will provide targeted, slower, deeper insight and release of emotions and memories that are deeply troubling. You deserve support. You are worthy of this gift. Everyone in your family will benefit from you seeking support.

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You can now access my free mini-course, The 7-day Connection Reset' to explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)

Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be