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Today we're gonna go

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into how to go after what you

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desire. And it's not just

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right now. Welcome to the Create

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Welcome to another episode of

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the Create Your vibrant life

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podcast. This is your host,

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Padma Ali. And today we're going

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to be talking about how to go

1:52

after your desires. And we're

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going to talk about, most of us

1:57

are told, okay, you have a

2:03

vision, you want this, so then

2:03

take the actions and go after

2:08

it. Here, I'm actually going to

2:08

dive into it a little bit

2:11

deeper. Because when you when

2:11

you don't have what you want,

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what happens like what happens

2:16

to that, there's a reason you

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haven't got gotten what you

2:21

desire. And so we're gonna dive

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a little bit deeper into this

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particular topic of desire, and

2:32

also about going after what you

2:32

want. So let's first start with,

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what is it that you do want?

2:39

Oftentimes, when I ask people,

2:42

What is it that they want? They

2:42

tell me everything that they

2:45

don't want. Okay, so that in

2:45

itself is a is a broken

2:50

strategy, right? Because you're

2:50

going, you're putting into your

2:54

consciousness, what is it that

2:54

you don't want? But there's also

2:57

another reason why you haven't

2:57

achieved I'm going to use the

3:03

word achieved very loosely,

3:03

because I don't really

3:06

particularly believe in

3:06

achievement of something. But

3:11

it's more around, what is it

3:11

that your heart desires, and

3:16

what has stopped you from

3:16

getting that in the first place?

3:20

Which means we're going to talk

3:20

about okay, let me go here with

3:24

this. There's, there's, I was

3:24

having a few conversations, some

3:29

with my clients, and some with

3:29

some potential clients around

3:34

their vision, what they desire.

3:34

And what I was noticing was a

3:39

couple of things. For a few

3:39

people. What was coming up is

3:45

like, even having a desire field

3:45

out of their, their realm of

3:50

possibility, because so much of

3:50

their life, they have been

3:55

beaten down by even having a

3:55

desire. So for example, and this

4:01

is where trauma plays a role.

4:01

Right? So for example, if as a

4:05

child, you were not even allowed

4:05

to have a desire, because either

4:11

it was shot down, or your

4:11

parents said, Oh, how are you

4:14

going to do that? How many times

4:14

have you been asked that

4:17

question, right? Like you say,

4:17

Oh, I'm excited about this. And

4:20

the first question someone says

4:20

to you is, how are you going to

4:23

get there? And I can relate to

4:23

that in many levels. Because as

4:29

a visionary, oftentimes, I have

4:29

zero clues about how I'm going

4:33

to get there in the first phase.

4:33

The first phase is when you have

4:37

a desire, because I have no idea

4:37

how I'm going to take the next

4:42

steps to get there. But what I

4:42

do know is when I have a desire,

4:48

I know I'm going to figure out a

4:48

way but in those moments when I

4:52

was a child, I always always

4:52

thought around those lines as

4:55

well. And this is what I was

4:55

noticing, with the conversations

4:58

I was having was that When the

4:58

desire is shot down from day

5:03

one, then you're going to not

5:03

even allow yourself to have a

5:09

desire. So this is very vital.

5:09

Okay? Because especially because

5:16

if you've had experiences in

5:16

your life, like when I was

5:20

talking to a client of mine, and

5:20

and what they said was even

5:25

having a desire was shot down

5:25

immediately it almost Baris your

5:36

desire to have a desire. And I

5:36

pause there, I'm talking about

5:42

as slowly for a reason, because

5:42

I want this to sink in. And I,

5:46

this is where I'm going to

5:46

invite you to take a minute and

5:51

look back. These are the few

5:51

moments I will have you look

5:55

back into your past, otherwise,

5:55

the past doesn't exist. But

5:59

it'll give you a clue as to why

5:59

you haven't even allowed

6:05

yourself to dream. So go back to

6:05

your first experience of a

6:13

desire, and what came from that?

6:13

Were you encouraged to have a

6:19

desire? Or were you discouraged

6:19

to have a dream or a desire

6:23

however you want to put it? So

6:23

that is the first step? Then

6:28

comes? The the common factor

6:28

that I was noticing in all of

6:34

these conversations, which was,

6:34

I have not been able to do it in

6:38

the past. So how am I going to

6:38

do it? Now? How am I going to do

6:41

it this time, because it hasn't

6:41

happened. And I don't know how

6:47

to get there. And this is where

6:47

I often tell my clients and the

6:54

people, I'm interacting with

6:54

potential clients, or students

6:58

that you need to build a bridge,

6:58

it's not going to happen

7:02

overnight, you need to build a

7:02

bridge, then the bridge will

7:06

happen between where you're at

7:06

and where you want to go. But

7:11

again, what often happens again,

7:11

in these conversations, I was

7:14

noticing a particular theme. And

7:14

the theme was, I have tried so

7:19

many things, and it hasn't

7:19

happened back then. So how is it

7:22

going to happen now. And I don't

7:22

know if I wanted put some more

7:25

effort and time into this.

7:25

Because I don't know if it's

7:28

going to happen. So what's the

7:28

point, this is where trauma

7:35

happens. Trauma comes into play.

7:35

Because if you have had a

7:39

traumatic experience around

7:39

having desires, and not having

7:45

had a path to get to it, and

7:45

then you are going to be, you're

7:50

not going to believe in yourself

7:50

to have it to be able to get

7:53

there. So building the bridge

7:53

then becomes very scary, because

8:02

you don't know if the bridge is

8:02

going to be built. You don't

8:05

know if the bridge is going to

8:05

lead to the other side. Do you

8:09

see how this is then then you

8:09

almost don't even want to take

8:16

the first steps to build that

8:16

bridge. Now this is what I tell

8:21

all my students and my clients

8:21

and even potential clients, I

8:25

tell them this this thing, where

8:25

I say you can either be where

8:30

you are, and feel bogged down or

8:30

feel like you can't take the

8:36

next steps. Or you can say,

8:36

okay, what can I do about this?

8:43

What can I shift or change in my

8:43

way of thinking, feeling being?

8:48

What can I do differently in

8:48

order to have a different

8:52

outcome? Because unless you deal

8:52

with the trauma, and unless

8:57

you're willing to put the effort

8:57

into changing, nothing is going

9:02

to change, nothing changes if

9:02

you don't change anything,

9:05

right? That is the bottom line.

9:05

You can either continue on the

9:12

same trajectory, or you can say,

9:12

Okay, that didn't work then. But

9:18

I'm going to do something

9:18

different. I was watching my son

9:22

he is really into yo Yos these

9:22

days and he does a lot of

9:26

different tricks and the yo Yos

9:26

were using his yo yo and

9:32

and I was observing him and

9:32

watching like how does he do

9:36

with any takes he he practices a

9:36

lot without even knowing he is

9:42

not focused on the end result.

9:42

He's focused on just practicing

9:48

and practicing and practicing.

9:48

And then at one point I was

9:51

observing him and he was getting

9:51

a little frustrated with

9:54

himself. He was getting

9:54

frustrated that he wasn't

9:56

getting the particular move of

9:56

what he was Trying to get

10:01

towards. And, and that was an I

10:01

just, I was chatting with them.

10:05

I was asking him like what was

10:05

going on? And he's like he was

10:07

getting frustrated. And I said,

10:07

Okay, how about you use some of

10:10

the tools that we've talked

10:10

about? And these are very great

10:16

tools. And this is where I want

10:16

you to pay attention and take

10:18

notes on this. Okay. So one of

10:18

the tools I've taught him and

10:22

that I use for myself and bring

10:22

to my clients and students is

10:26

intention, your intent and your

10:26

intention. So our first thing we

10:33

do in our home is, what is your

10:33

intention? What intention Do you

10:38

want to set for this particular

10:38

thing? And he was in a very

10:43

frustrated mood that day. And so

10:43

he said, no intentions don't

10:48

work. It I've set my intention,

10:48

and it doesn't work. And I was

10:51

like, Okay, if you have that

10:51

attitude, what do you think will

10:54

happen? And he says, well, then

10:54

I won't get it. I won't get the

10:59

move that I'm trying to make. I

10:59

was like, okay, good that you

11:02

got that. So what can you shift?

11:02

So I said, Okay, I can set an

11:06

intention. And then we have a

11:06

second step to this, which is

11:09

visualizing the outcome that you

11:09

want. And so I told him, Can you

11:15

visualize what is the move that

11:15

you're wanting to make with

11:18

this? So he said, Okay, I can do

11:18

that. So we took a minute, he

11:22

said his intention, and we any

11:22

any visualize what he was

11:26

wanting to achieve. And then he

11:26

tried it, again, for the

11:33

probably 100 100 time, or, I

11:33

don't even know, like 500 time

11:37

because he was really working at

11:37

this particular move for a while

11:41

now. And then it worked. And

11:41

this is the key, like, so it

11:47

takes practice, it takes trial

11:47

and error, it takes holding your

11:52

intention, it takes sometimes

11:52

getting frustrated, and then

11:55

coming back to your center for a

11:55

desire to come to fruition.

12:00

Obviously, this is a very stupid

12:00

example, right? Like on a large

12:04

scale of things, who cares about

12:04

the yo yo and all that, but I

12:07

want you to be able to see in

12:07

the from the eyes of a 10 year

12:12

old, they want you to be able to

12:12

see from the eyes of a office of

12:17

a set of a child who can who's

12:17

learning the ways of life, and

12:23

who's coming at it from a place

12:23

of curiosity, how often we lose

12:28

that because of conditioning.

12:28

This is where the trauma

12:32

happens. And this is where

12:32

unless you work through the

12:35

trauma, you will continue to

12:35

spin your wheels. And the

12:39

question then for you is are you

12:39

willing to continue to spin your

12:42

wheels? And what is that costing

12:42

you? Or are you willing to see a

12:47

different possibility, the

12:47

choice is yours. And before we

12:52

go any further, I'm going to

12:52

interrupt this this session, I

12:56

mean, this session, this this

12:56

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invitation to you. If you are

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episode. Actually, before we

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it's all in that handbook. So

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thank you. Okay, back to

14:46

desires. Okay, so let's now talk

14:54

about how do you bring your How

14:54

do you get in on board with your

14:59

desire to First is like saying,

14:59

Okay, is there anything getting

15:02

in the way of my desire, even

15:02

holding a desire? Because you

15:06

know, everything starts with a

15:06

vision. So if you're not even

15:10

allowing yourself to dream or

15:10

have a vision, how are you going

15:13

to get there? So allowing

15:13

yourself to dream, allowing

15:17

yourself to have a vision, and

15:17

then asking yourself, Is there

15:20

anything in me that is resisting

15:20

that? Is there anything in me

15:24

that saying I can't have it? And

15:24

then that is where the digger

15:28

digger deeper work comes in, you

15:28

have to dig deeper into what are

15:34

the the trauma, what is the

15:34

unconscious beliefs, what are

15:39

what is really, truly holding

15:39

you back. And this is what I

15:42

cover in my program, the Livia

15:42

purpose program, we have some we

15:47

have, I have given so many

15:47

modules and specific tools on

15:52

uncovering the trauma and

15:52

working with it. And this is

15:55

what I do with my students.

15:55

Because unless you work with

16:00

that, then you're going to

16:00

continue repeating the patterns,

16:04

okay? So learn to or allow

16:04

yourself to go into it. And it

16:10

doesn't have to be heavy, does

16:10

not heavy, actually, it's very

16:13

light, once you do the work,

16:13

once you're in it, like maybe in

16:17

the as you're in it, it might

16:17

feel very heavy. But as you work

16:22

through it, it is going to give

16:22

you so much feeling of freedom

16:26

and lightness. So being on board

16:26

with working through the trauma

16:33

is going to be such an such a

16:33

key factor for you. And you

16:38

know, with my skill sets on in

16:38

from psychology, like doing the

16:42

work that I've done for so many

16:42

years on, in as a therapist,

16:48

this is where all that comes

16:48

handy. And then when I think

16:51

back, like you know always

16:51

wonder like, wow, what made me

16:54

even choose to be a therapist.

16:54

And it was actually to work

16:57

through my own trauma. If I'm

16:57

very honest with myself, my own

17:01

trauma actually drove me to be a

17:01

therapist, because I knew

17:05

somewhere deep down like I had

17:05

to do this deeper work. And then

17:08

when I worked through some of

17:08

those things, now that this work

17:11

ever ends, I just lost interest

17:11

in doing the work as a

17:15

therapist. And instead this,

17:15

this path became more clear to

17:19

me. Because in doing this work,

17:19

I'm able to not only do the

17:23

deeper work, but I'm able to

17:23

help my students take go to a

17:27

higher level of what they're

17:27

really here to do. And what are

17:31

they what are your desires. And

17:31

if and those desires don't

17:34

often, okay, don't only have to

17:34

be about your work in the world.

17:39

It can be about your own

17:39

personal desires, your desires

17:44

for your family, all of that is

17:44

important. Any desire is

17:48

important. Because when you work

17:48

with your desire, even one

17:51

desire, it shows you what's

17:51

possible for your life. And How

17:55

incredible is that? Right? In

17:55

Can you even imagine? When you

18:00

fulfill your own personal

18:00

desires, so much more is going

18:04

to open up for you in what you

18:04

want to do in the outside world.

18:07

Because if you're struggling

18:07

with basic survival things like

18:12

Okay, going to your job or

18:12

making money, then your brain is

18:17

not going to allow you to think

18:17

about bigger picture stuff.

18:22

Okay. So this is where doing the

18:22

inner work is going to allow you

18:27

to manifest your own little

18:27

world desires. And then you can

18:33

step into higher desires, like

18:33

what you're really truly here to

18:37

do in the world. So that is my

18:37

invitation to you. Let's start

18:42

with that. So what I'm going to

18:42

have you do, okay, so as a

18:45

recap, get clear about your

18:45

desire your dreams. And if

18:50

you're having a hard time doing

18:50

that, or even if you know what

18:53

you want to do, then ask

18:53

yourself what is holding you

18:56

back. That is an important

18:56

piece. And then let's build a

19:01

bridge and building the bridge

19:01

again, sometimes you need that

19:05

support and help. I just did a

19:05

video on Instagram about one of

19:10

my clients who was in a tech job

19:10

and she really loved her work.

19:16

She did amazing with it. But

19:16

then she had she wasn't feeling

19:20

very fulfilled with it. And from that time, to where she

19:23

is now where she just started

19:28

her own business, doing organic

19:28

food. She's She sells organic

19:35

foods, spices and all that it

19:35

took her 18 months to get to

19:39

that place. And that's that. I'm

19:39

not saying that's going to be

19:44

your life, but sometimes it

19:44

happens that way. And to give

19:48

yourself permission to build a

19:48

bridge and we worked on building

19:52

that bridge. It took time to get

19:52

there and you can too but

19:56

building that bridge is key and

19:56

I can show you how How to build

20:00

that bridge. Okay, so again, it

20:00

doesn't have to be about just

20:04

your dharma or your life

20:04

purpose, it can be about your

20:07

own personal desires, but you

20:07

need to build that bridge.

20:11

Sometimes we can't just jump and

20:11

expect to land on the other

20:15

side. When you build the bridge,

20:15

the bridge from where you are to

20:20

where you want to go, that is

20:20

going to allow you to get there.

20:25

And it can happen, it will

20:25

happen. I have living proof of

20:30

so many of my clients and

20:30

students doing that. I am my own

20:33

proof of doing that for my own

20:33

life. And I can show you how. So

20:39

anyways, so here is my

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invitation to you follow me on

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doing that. And also share this

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20:47

so you can inspire them to learn

20:51

to live their dreams, everybody

20:51

living their dreams is is when

20:57

you live your dreams, it's so

20:57

inspiring. And that's what my

21:02

desire is for you. So with that,

21:02

I'm going to end this episode

21:07

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