During the final episode of our season on partnership in CPTSD recovery, Tanner summarizes some of the biggest lessons she has learned in partnership. While some of these are universal, all are especially important in the context of complex trauma recovery and partnership. We explore how to support and build up our relationship as we do some of the tougher healing work of recovery. We unpack the valuable practice of building time to talk into your daily schedule and discuss what is often behind relationship issues that keep on arising. Next, we explore what it might look like to create a sacred union and refuse to disrespect it, touching on the reorganizing and disorienting that occurs during CPTSD recovery. Lastly, you’ll hear all about the beautiful balance of having independent pursuits and shared values in your relationship and how important it is to be able to answer the question of who you are outside of it. Thanks for joining us for this season! I will back May 3rd with the first episode of Season 12! 

Key Points From This Episode:

• Welcome to the final episode on our season dedicated to partnership in CPTSD recovery. 

• Honoring those who have been with us for the whole series.

• Plans for Season 12 of CPTSD to be released on the third of May.

• What this episode consists of: five lessons Tanner learned in partnership while healing from complex trauma.

• The need to build in time to talk into your daily schedule. 

• Understanding that some things that keep coming back simply do so because they are unresolved.

• Creating the sacred union and refusing to disrespect your partner.

• The reorganizing and disorienting that occurs during CPTSD recovery.

• Living in the overlap of shared values with your partner. 

• Supporting independent pursuits and appropriate levels of autonomy. 

• Answering the question of who you are without your partner.

• A recap of the five lessons learned. 

Quotes:

“It can be very reorganizing and disorienting to come to meet the human that emerges during CPTSD recovery.” — Tanner Wallace [18:26]

“What we want to do is come into this beautiful middle space where I am dependent on my partner in very healthy, intentional ways, but I’m also supported in my independent pursuits and I am granted a level of autonomy that feels right in my body.” — Tanner Wallace [21:57]

“Each partner should be able to answer, at any point in the relationship, who am I without you?” — Tanner Wallace [22:23]

“If it’s not resolved, that means it’s going to keep coming back.” — Tanner Wallace [23:28]

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