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Welcome to the Clicks and Giggles podcast

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. I'm your host , jordan Rothwell

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ready for a good time . Hi

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, today I have Emily

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Judis here with me and I am so

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excited for the conversation we're about to

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have . Emily is a sweet friend

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of mine , an amazing coach

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, and she has been inspiring me so

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much to create the life I want on

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the weekends to not just live for the weekend but

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to build my future on

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it and our future , brad and I , and our family

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. So , emily , I'm so excited to have you here

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. I could introduce you , but

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I don't think I would do it justice . Will you introduce

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yourself to everyone ?

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Yes , absolutely . Hello

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everybody , I'm so excited

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to be here . Jordan met

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in person officially

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probably like six months ago , and

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became fast friends and I'm

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just so thankful that you invited me and that

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I get to have you in my life . So my name is

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Emily Judis , I

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am a certified nutrition

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coach , I specialize in fat loss and

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I'm also a mindset mentor . So

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I am married for

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12 years . I'm a mom to

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four kids , ages

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10 to one . We have three boys and a girl

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. We live in Houston , texas

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, and I'm

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truly just inspiring women to

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see that they're worth it , to believe

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in themselves , to take

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control of their life and not

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play the victim and not play a martyr in your life

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and understand that you really

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are in charge of creating the life that

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you want to live , and really just

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inspiring people to do that . And I really do

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it through a lens of

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health and fitness and wellness

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, but truly

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total body wellness , mind

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, body and spirit .

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I love it , and we were talking before we

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started recording about how it can't be

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compartmentalized , right . So , like mental

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health matters , your physical health matters

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, your spiritual health matters , and it

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all is kind of infinity

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symbol woven together . So

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how did this journey come to be

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for you ? Because I know that many

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people listening can relate as well , maybe

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to like the before side where you're

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at , versus now where you're at

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. So can you share a little bit more about that

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?

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Yeah , so my

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kids are a little bit more spread out , like my first

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two boys and my second two children . There's

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like a four plus year gap

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there , and so when

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I had my first two kids , like

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I'm an unrecognizable from who ?

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I used to be .

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I ate fast food every single day . I never

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identified as like someone who would work

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out like on a regular basis . I did

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not like exercise . I would join a gym

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or join a bar studio . I'd go like for two

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weeks and then I would cancel my membership or freeze my

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membership because I just couldn't be consistent

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. I was like I can't wake up early , I can't do this

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. Like I just couldn't . I felt like I couldn't do anything

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consistently

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when it came to health . I was doing

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the fad diets to try to lose weight . I was a solid

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20 to 25 pounds heavier than I am

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now and I was

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in my early 20s , like I was 24

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when I had my first child , 22 when I got

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married . So this is in

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my early 20s , when you would think you have this

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like fast metabolism and like you can just eat

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whatever you want . But no , I mean I graduated

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college . I think I gained 20 pounds and

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got married , had the babies like , just had

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unhealthy pregnancies as far

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as gained more weight than I should have

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, ate whatever I wanted , used that as

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an excuse to

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let myself off the hook , like

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with everything when it comes to health , and

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so we actually moved from Louisiana

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to Texas right after

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I had my third baby , my

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daughter , and so she was four months old when we moved

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and I had just kind of like decided

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that I wanted to try and lose the baby weight

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. I was ready to get it off and

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I had seen this program , like

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on Instagram or whatever , that I

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was going to try and I was like , ok , sure , I'll try . So

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my whole journey just started with like the nutrition

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side , where it was like healthy , with

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eating the right things . So I learned

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like what a balanced meal looks like , how

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to count macros , like how I

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should be doing weight training over cardio

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and like all these things , and my

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body started to change and that

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really was like the first step . But through

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all of that I really gained this

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passion for health and fitness and

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wellness and like just learning how to take

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care of your body from a food

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standpoint , from a movement standpoint

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. And whenever I

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did that , I just had this passion and people were asking

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me what I was doing . So I was like , ok , maybe I should like

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become a coach . At this point I was

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staying home with our kids

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and I wasn't doing anything after we moved here

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. So I went through the process of getting

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certified in nutrition

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and started coaching and this kind of just

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catapulted me into the

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business that I run now . But it's grown so

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much over the last four and a half years

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and through that process I

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really had to learn how to

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go to therapy for the first time in my

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life , because my

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nervous system was so dysregulated

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, so overwhelmed . I was

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trying to run this business . I didn't know how to

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delegate , I didn't know how to

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be a mom to

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my four kids and or three kids at the

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time and be this business

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owner . I was trying to learn balance and

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so I discovered meditation

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and breath work and the whole masculine

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versus feminine energy and nervous

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system regulation was huge , a huge part

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, and just boundaries setting boundaries

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in my life , and that

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journey for me really started probably a

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year and a half ago . And over

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a year and a half I

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have invested in myself so much

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in learning the right mindset to have

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invested in business mentors and life

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mentors and coaching so that

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I could , so

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that I can know that there's more to life than being overwhelmed

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, hot mess . Express mom life

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, mommy wine culture , like yeah

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, it's just not cool . Like people think that's

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cool and it felt weird to like

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not be a part of that , but like I

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had to learn that , that there is so much more to

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life than that .

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Well , and it's funny you say that because

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I we don't really drink , and

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so like I remember , like

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I can say , the last time I was like drunk

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, drunk was like right before Brad and I met

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and I was like 29 and I was upset over

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the boy before I met Brad and

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now I'm like whatever to that guy , right

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and so . But I look back

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on it and I'm with you like being

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a hot mess is not cute .

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No , it's not cute . Who can be

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the busiest ? Like the busiest badge , and

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like it is so cringe , like that's

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who I was . Yes , oh

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, when I first started my business probably the

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first two years of my business it was like I

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was busier than everyone else . I had

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more going on than everyone else . I

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was wearing this busy badge with so much honor

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and I'm like ugh . It's so

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hard to think back to that

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person . And you know , I just had

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to realize , you know , through a lot of like mentoring

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from my mentors and like

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therapy and like coaching and

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reading and podcasts and paying

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for programs and like investing in myself

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, that like that's not cute , there's

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so much more to life than that and

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that is so normalized

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, like that lifestyle is so

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normalized where it's like you're planning in

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the carpool , you know in the Mother's Day Out

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pickup line , about like your husband

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and you're complaining about how tired you are and complaining

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about how busy you are and like that's , it's

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just not a cute look . No , so

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really , in the last year and a half I've made

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this like huge transformation

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. You know , it's like first it started with my body

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, the food , the health

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, the nutrition , the working out , and now

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, like I completely identify , like

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if you look at my Instagram page , you're like , oh , she like

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works out , like she lists , and I'm in the gym

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like the squat racks , like I love

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to lift heavy weights . That's like a huge part of my identity

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now and I

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don't feel deprived now whenever

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I choose the salad over the burger and fries

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, like that is not a sacrifice for me , because

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being healthy is so

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much easier than being unhealthy . And

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I now know that , looking back at my

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life , like I mean I was counting

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down the minutes whenever my boys were , my older

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boys were little , I call them my bigs . So when my bigs

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were little , like I was counting down the minutes

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to bedtime every day . I was , you

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know , hungover on the weekends and like laying

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on the couch , being like please just play by

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yourself , like , oh , I'm just so ready

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for nap time , and that is just

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not . That's not it , that

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ain't it .

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No , and I agree . And like we are

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like planning to start our family and we're older

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, having kids , and , truthfully , like

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that narrative hurt

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me , even wanting to become a mom not

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yours , but other people that

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I have followed and that have posted

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like oh , they're sick again

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. And like , oh , my gosh , this is

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so terrible . And like how are we

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shuttling all these kids here and there .

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I'm like you

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chose this sister you know , and so

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Choose the way you think about it

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and like that is what is . So . I mean the

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difference in my house these days , like just at

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dinnertime , like when we're cooking in the kitchen , like

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the difference in my patients

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level , my not

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feeling overwhelmed , not snapping at my kids

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, like on the way to school at 7.15

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in the morning , the car full-on , because some you know

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my eight-year-old , who always is the one always

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forgets to his shoes and can't find his

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backpack or whatever it is , and that used

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to send me over the edge like yelling

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, snapping at my kids . And now , because of the person

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I am , because of the way that I've invested

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in myself , I'm like just

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so much more chill . Like you

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spill a smoothie in the brand new car , like it's

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okay .

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Like we figured out .

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Come on , we figured out , I just

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used to not live that life and

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so really I have

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truly done like a 180

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. What is it 183.60 ?

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I know I was like I think it's a no .

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I know . Yeah , it's

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totally a different person now and

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you know , I have

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actually recently kind of started this

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journey of like not drinking alcohol . So

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I'm kind of at the stage where I might not making any promises

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. I'm just like right now I'm not drinking

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, but every week is like a new week and I'm like I

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can choose to or I can choose not to . I

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think in the last six months I've maybe had like five

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cocktails and

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it just doesn't serve me and that's

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how we are 100% . You

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don't need that to have fun . Like anybody

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listening , you don't need alcohol

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to have fun . You don't need alcohol to feel more social

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. You know , no one thinks you're weird . Like

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I go out with all my friends all the time and like

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I'm at dinner or I'm at someone's house and like I

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just drink like club soda and lime

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juice or whatever water and

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like you can have so much fun without

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it and you can feel freaking fantastic

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the next day . And that's a huge reason

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why I'm like one of those people that would drink like one or two

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glasses of wine and be like in bed with a headache the

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entire next day and I just live my life

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like that . My goals are so

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big I need to be like , sharp and on

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, you know , on like .

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Yeah , oh no , it was

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funny . We were just on like a little getaway

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for three nights , my husband and I , and like

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I'd go to dinner and they'd bring the wine list

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. I'm like I'm good . And then , like one night , I

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was like I've never had an espresso martini . I've always

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wanted to try one . I was like , oh , I want that

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. And then I'm like , oh , like it's just

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so funny . Like I always say , like adulting my mom's

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, like you're 33 . You've been an adult for a while , but

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I'm like I don't want the caffeine

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or even decaf . I'm like I don't know . And

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I just don't want to risk feeling

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like crap tomorrow , like it

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is so crazy how it changes .

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Thinking back to that feeling I was thinking

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about this earlier yesterday or earlier today

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, I can't remember like , just like , how bad

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feeling hungover feels and I'm like

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, absolutely not , like , absolutely not Like

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. We are just not living our life like that ?

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No , even at my friend's wedding reception

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the other night , I like took a spray

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and they had extra champagne glasses and I just poured

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my sprite into it and I

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could have done tonic or whatever and I told Brad I

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said it's more about the fun

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glass , Absolutely , it

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was like literally .

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Yeah , we were at a friend's party

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recently and for her birthday

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, and it was at their house and they

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had like a whole bar set up and I was like , oh , what am I going

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to fix myself ? And they had like some I

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don't know random sparkling thing . I was like I'm just going to put in

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a wine glass and like put a lime in it and I

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just felt so fancy holding the wine

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glass .

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This is what it's about Like , yeah , it's a

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feminine feminine

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fun energy .

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Yeah , fun energy . I went home , I was asleep

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. We obviously were up later than normal . I'm

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like at 8 to 9 PM , girl , like I'm

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sleeping by that time because I like to

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wake up early . Jordan knows this .

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Yes , we are not the same , but I love it . I'm intense

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in that .

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I can't wait till you all do have kids and you change into

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me , I will . But I

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Was

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up late , obviously , but I slept great

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because I didn't drink . I woke

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up the next morning feeling fresh . I got so

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much accomplished on Sunday and I'm like , yeah , I

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just don't need that like two hours

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of like fun air

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quotes To feel

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bad the next day and so , anyways

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, that's kind of a tangent , but hmm , it's

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, I have what it's kind of

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and it's crazy , like , since I've started this

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and like this isn't even like a thing where I'm like , oh

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, this is popular , I'm gonna try it . But it's like

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all the sudden , since I started doing it , I'm like , oh wait

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, this is a thing . It's like the whole over

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curious movement . It's like

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all over tick-tock . All these like little Gen

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Z is that what they are ? Gen Z , I think

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like which I'm like good for them .

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Like I mean I made so many terrible

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mistakes before . I

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was like Gosh

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, yeah , I was . I used to be . I

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mean , brad knows , it's obvious . I was like wild in college

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. Like I was raised like private school . I was like I

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can drink , like this is so fun , and

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I my mom and dad used

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to always say , like nothing good happens after midday and

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I'm like that and nothing good happens

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like what I'm drinking . Like I was

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just like I , you know what

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it is like . Well , and

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this is hindsight right is I

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wasn't as comfortable with myself as I am

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now to know that like I'm outgoing and

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I'm fun and that's . that's that's

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it , jordan , that's it and when it clicks

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I'm like , oh , I literally don't need

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this . In fact , it takes me to up

15:28

to from a 10 personality

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to 100 , and we don't want that

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, you know .

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You know , my husband we're from South

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Louisiana , like the culture is very much like

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to drink and like , yeah , well

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, I'll preface this , I'm not judging anybody

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Drink on a daily basis . This is totally

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a personal choice . And my husband , I

15:47

remember , like on New Year's Eve , was like you're kind of turning

15:49

into a hermit , like why don't you like come

15:51

out on the porch , like have a glass of champagne

15:54

, like do something , have some fun ? And I was like but

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that's what people don't get , like that's not fun

15:58

to me . Yeah , I'm like .

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I'm having fun right now In

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my bed reading this book my

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good hot bath .

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Like listening to my my breath

16:08

work . That's

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literally fun to me . Like taking

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care of myself is fun and

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it's this whole like getting away

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from the culture of like oh

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, I have to drink because I'm stressed . It's

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literally like , no , you're stressed because

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you drink .

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Yeah , or and that , and

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it's like what else is causing

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you stress that you're not taking care of

16:32

your feeling ?

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It's like just push these feelings

16:35

under the rug and mask them with a glass

16:37

of wine instead Just feeling the hard feelings

16:40

, navigating through the feelings and getting

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on the other side , and what this does is it expands

16:44

your capacity , yeah , to

16:47

manage your feelings better , and that's like a

16:49

huge thing . That I'm always telling my clients is like guys

16:51

, like life is 5050 , like you're

16:53

not supposed to feel good all the time . We did

16:56

not have Bad

16:58

days . You wouldn't even know what a good day

17:00

looks like like if there was no such thing anger

17:02

, there would be no such thing as joy , and

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so we have both . And it's not about

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, like you know , always feeling

17:09

pleasure and always avoiding pain

17:12

, and like taking the path of least resistance

17:14

, like the mental discomfort is how you evolve

17:16

and grow .

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Yeah , that's what I've been like thinking about

17:19

so much lately is like you have a choice

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, like just kind of like the like

17:24

balance right now , and so it's

17:26

like what choice are you gonna make ? Because you have

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you , it could go either way , and like

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it's so interesting because your journey

17:32

is different than mine in the fact that , like

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I'm getting healthier to get pregnant

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. So it's like such a different ball

17:39

game . You know where it's flipped , and like I

17:41

had I started my therapy journey when

17:44

I was 27 and I

17:46

was so I didn't know it

17:48

at the time , but I was actually so anxious that I was

17:50

like not fun to be around for my family

17:52

. My mom would like they still were around me , but

17:55

my mom was like there's just like something's off

17:57

, yeah , and so went to therapy

17:59

, kind of walked through the mud , trudged

18:01

through the mud , I say , and then

18:03

at you know , did my

18:06

Therapist actually gonna be on the podcast soon , but it

18:08

was hilarious . I remember the first meeting

18:10

with her . I was like okay , you know

18:12

, cuz I'm just like let's get her done . I'm like how

18:14

many sessions do you think we need until I'll be better

18:16

? Because I just don't have the

18:19

time . But I'll put the time , like I was

18:21

like , is it four , is it six ? And

18:23

she was like I would probably

18:25

say 18 months to two years

18:27

, and I I was like okay

18:30

, and then I left and I was like I'm

18:32

not going back . And so I did

18:34

go back and now she's been my therapist

18:36

this year will be six years and

18:38

that crazy . And so I , I

18:41

got better . You know , like I and

18:44

I'm not . You know I always say I won't be healed

18:46

this side of heaven and like I don't say

18:48

like I suffer from anxiety , I fight anxiety

18:50

. And so I had to like go on

18:52

the front end of like I had to

18:54

kind of have the breakdown and be like Okay

18:56

, if I want to Steward

18:58

a good relationship one day , be a good mom

19:01

one day , do this like I have to get the help on

19:03

the front end to then . Now , as

19:05

I feel like I was telling my mom , I was like it

19:08

feels like in the last like six months or year

19:10

, like a fog was lifted and I'm like , oh

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my gosh , now I can live the life I've always

19:14

dreamed . I had to like do some freaking

19:16

hard work , which You're

19:19

doing , the hard work on the flip side , with

19:21

a husband , with kids , with the business , you know so

19:23

we're like in different ball games of

19:25

it , but it's like it's so true . And then

19:27

you , you really do get to decide , like

19:29

the the ball . You know

19:31

what . Like nothing a in decision

19:34

makes me freaking crazy , but I understand people

19:36

have trouble deciding . I'm like I get

19:38

that . And then the other thing is like that

19:40

victim mentality that you talk about I

19:42

mean , everyone talks about , but you too talking about it like

19:44

we literally get to choose

19:46

and I am like always Empathetic

19:49

because like there's things in my past I wish I

19:51

could change their things and other people's like

19:53

past and present . And it's like what

19:55

a gift that you can wake up and choose

19:58

, despite your circumstances , to at least

20:00

make one decision better . You

20:02

know like you're not sitting here saying like

20:04

throw out all your plastic and throw

20:07

out your alcohol and no more

20:09

gummy bears . It's like what's like

20:11

one step you can make today .

20:14

You know that's the problem with

20:16

people getting healthy , as they think that

20:18

they have to make a 180 in

20:20

like a week . Yeah

20:22

, did y'all just hear me saying this

20:24

? This is four and a half years . Is this

20:26

my journey ? Four and a half years , and

20:28

even like the alcohol thing has taken

20:30

four and a half years . You know , whenever I started the

20:33

program that I'm a coach for now and like started

20:36

eating healthier and like working out and

20:38

all that I Learned

20:40

about alcohol and was like , oh , when you drink

20:42

, your body Metabolizes the alcohol

20:44

for 12 hours while you're sitting instead

20:47

of burning fat fat , yeah , drinking

20:49

every day . And like I'm basically not

20:51

burning fat . So that that is when I was like

20:53

, okay , I'll go from drinking seven

20:55

days a week because I was Glass of

20:57

wine or seven days a week to

21:00

just drinking on the weekends , and so then I would have

21:02

like two to three drinks , maybe

21:05

like Friday and Saturday , yeah

21:07

, and that was like the first year . The

21:09

second year that kind of turned into like

21:11

maybe the

21:13

weekends I would only drink one of the nights , like maybe

21:15

I'll just have drinks one of the nights , and then , like in year

21:17

three , it was kind of like there would be whole

21:19

weeks where I would go by and I wouldn't have a drink and then it

21:21

was like , you know , maybe two weekends out

21:23

of the out of the month if we went to dinner or something

21:26

plus like social occasions . Really

21:28

, in the last year it's been just social

21:30

occasions and in the last six months there's

21:32

been even social occasions where I've chosen not

21:34

to drink and it's

21:36

just interesting like the the

21:39

pack , it wasn't this like . One

21:41

day yeah , four and a half years

21:43

in the making same thing with my , my health , my food

21:46

. If I look at what I ate the

21:48

first year , whenever I was getting healthy , versus

21:50

what I eat now , I'm like very different

21:52

.

21:53

Yeah , and it's like you . You

21:55

had to become like the one

21:57

person who was like 10% healthier

21:59

to then be the person that's 90%

22:02

healthier .

22:04

One to two degree shift that you need like

22:06

, but it will literally land

22:08

you in a completely different place if you

22:10

just make it . Yeah , that is what I'm

22:12

really trying to get across to my

22:14

clients , to people that are interested in getting healthier

22:16

, they want to lose weight is like when

22:19

they tell me like what they eat in a day or

22:21

like what their workout routine looks like . I'm

22:23

like I can pinpoint the problems and if

22:25

I told you to change two things like , your life

22:27

would look completely different .

22:28

Yeah , and that I think that's the other

22:30

reminder too , because I know like a

22:32

lot of women listening are business

22:35

owners or they're Growing in their career

22:37

. Right is like it doesn't

22:39

. Like I know you're like talking

22:42

to them like their family is important to them , they're friends

22:44

, their spouse relationships , their

22:47

little ones , but like if

22:49

it starts from the health

22:51

and everything trickles down , like

22:53

it can feel easy , right , like

22:55

you're noticing that it was so easy .

22:57

I had this revelation this past week I

22:59

was sitting at I go to

23:01

like lifetime fitness . Yes we

23:03

do too . Yes , we do too , yes . Crowd care . It's like

23:05

the best thing I would do . I'm telling you this yes

23:07

, yes .

23:09

I want to have a baby sooner because

23:11

of being able to put it there . Brad's like oh

23:14

, this is a move .

23:16

Yeah , so I joined lifetime really

23:18

right around the time I started working out

23:20

and I've

23:22

used it because I use the childcare , it's so

23:24

legit , and so I now have a

23:26

fourth baby . I have an 18 month old or 19, . He's

23:28

19 months now and so

23:31

that is who I use it for now , but

23:33

like I use it for my daughter when

23:35

we first moved here , and I will

23:37

work there , like I will literally go work out

23:39

at the gym at five o'clock in the morning so

23:42

that when I come back at like nine or 10

23:44

, I can use the full two and a half hours of childcare

23:46

to work . It's like $30

23:48

or $40 a month per kid and

23:50

you get two and a half hours a day of childcare

23:52

. I mean , that's like three .

23:54

It's three . It's working smarter .

23:56

Yeah , anyways , I was at Lifetime

23:58

last week sitting there , working , just like looking

24:00

around and thinking like

24:03

how easy my life felt . I was like

24:05

I'm at the gym , I feel

24:07

amazing Like I don't wake up ever

24:09

feeling bad ever , like I

24:11

have not been sick Knock

24:14

on wood in like a year . Like

24:17

I feel amazing I'm so , have so much energy

24:19

. When I wake up in the morning I sleep great . I

24:21

am not . I have such a healed relationship

24:23

with food . I eat so much food and

24:26

I don't worry what it's going to do to my body

24:28

and like that is so

24:30

easy . The life is so easy compared

24:33

to where I used to be , and I was like God , it's kind

24:35

of a polarizing topic , like I'm going to get some , some

24:37

shit If

24:40

I go on social media and say that being healthy

24:42

is easy . People are going to look at me like I'm crazy . But

24:44

I'm like it really is . Like maybe

24:46

not every part of getting here was easy

24:48

. Like I had to put in the work

24:50

, but , like that's , what people don't understand is that

24:52

the happiness and the joy

24:55

and the freedom that you

24:57

desire is not going

24:59

to happen when you get to your weight loss goal

25:01

In the process

25:03

. As you get there . It happens when

25:06

you prove to yourself that you

25:08

can follow through on the commitments , that you can

25:10

make promises and keep them to yourself . That

25:12

is where the freedom

25:14

, the freedom is and that is where you

25:16

know , like I

25:18

have this new challenge that you did , which

25:20

we can . Yes , yes , I'm excited

25:22

. Yeah , so I started this challenge

25:25

called the Weekenders Challenge . It's a three

25:27

day challenge and it's funny because

25:29

, like when I first started doing it , I'm like

25:31

, oh , people probably think like they're a week , and they're like , yeah , man , I live

25:33

for the weekend , I'm a week , and I'm

25:35

like , no , no , no , no , that's

25:37

not what you think it is Essentially

25:39

came up because

25:41

all of my clients I

25:44

mean I would say like 90% of them will

25:46

do great Monday through Thursday and then

25:48

when Friday , saturday , sunday come , they just like forget

25:51

what they're doing and they go , they

25:53

fall off and that's why they can't

25:55

reach their goals ultimately . And so it's

25:57

this . It's this challenge

26:00

of like becoming a weekender and realizing that the decisions

26:02

you make and really

26:04

using the weekend to create

26:06

the life you want , instead of using the weekend to escape

26:09

the life that you have , is how

26:11

you , you get your dream life , because

26:13

so many people go into the weekend and

26:15

think that means they should , they deserve

26:18

a treat , they should reward . Actually , jordan , you

26:20

inspired me so much , you

26:23

know , in October and you were like

26:25

, yeah , like I on my health journey , you're

26:28

like . I had to like tell myself , like not every

26:30

meal is a party , like no , it used to

26:32

be a party . She really worked

26:34

so hard all day

26:37

. And then you were like and then I'd be

26:39

like I deserved Dornash . And Brad was

26:41

like everybody , brad's like everybody

26:43

freaking works Like .

26:44

He's like I don't know why there's

26:47

so many things . He thinks I'm the only person

26:49

he says . I think I'm the only person like

26:51

just even like not

26:54

making a lot of traffic when I says , but I've always like

26:56

like my anxiety sometimes around

26:59

safety and I'm like I don't know , I don't want to be there without

27:01

you , like what if I got kidnapped or something ? He's like you

27:03

think so highly of yourself and so like with

27:05

food and with that , but truly

27:07

I would have like a long day of work , which

27:09

everyone does , and other

27:11

people are raising children , they're taking care

27:13

of loved ones who might be sick , and like everyone has

27:15

something going on . And I'd be like I

27:18

deserve something . What should I get ? Yeah

27:21

, and it's like literally

27:23

nothing . Like you

27:25

actually deserve to feel your best

27:27

and to stick to your plan or like plan

27:30

for something down the road , but like just

27:32

because I just didn't even realize what , like a

27:34

caloric and financial

27:36

, like stressor . It was because

27:38

I thought it was a I was

27:40

rewarding myself after hard work

27:42

and it's crazy .

27:44

Yeah , brooke Castillo , who's the life

27:46

coach school . She has like well says

27:48

your dessert . Your reward for doing a good

27:50

job is you did a good job Like good

27:53

job . You did a good job Like you're supposed to do

27:55

a good job , like that's your and so

27:57

, and you know , just like does

27:59

the weekenders challenge is like

28:01

this whole , it's this three day challenge , like

28:03

to give you like a quick , like run down . Yeah , tell

28:06

them 30 minute training , like Friday

28:08

morning , saturday morning , sunday morning . It's on the weekend

28:11

, on purpose , because it's a challenge

28:13

. It's supposed to challenge you to do things differently

28:15

on your weekend and it's

28:18

live like training and coaching

28:20

from me . A lot of mindset

28:22

stuff . We , you know , talk about the stories that

28:24

you tell yourself and like the way we're conditioned

28:26

and the feelings we're chasing on the weekends , that

28:28

sense of stress , relief after a

28:31

long week , that sense of joy , that sense of reward

28:33

, satisfaction , pleasure , and how

28:35

we're looking in the wrong areas

28:37

to gain those feelings . Because

28:39

what ends up happening is like those

28:42

things that you go to that glass of wine

28:44

maybe gives you a little pleasure

28:46

in that very moment , but like long

28:48

term , it doesn't give you pleasure . So it's really

28:50

ignoring those instant

28:52

gratification things in order for like

28:55

long term gratification , long

28:57

term pleasure and reaching your

28:59

goals and proving to yourself

29:01

that , like I , actually can

29:04

do this a different way than

29:06

everybody else does in on

29:08

the weekend . That is how you

29:10

, you build confidence , and confidence

29:12

creates momentum in your life and that

29:15

momentum is what gives you the results you want .

29:17

Yeah , and it's just like even making

29:19

the small changes and I highly

29:21

recommend the challenge and even

29:24

during it , and the timing is perfect because it's like you

29:26

can go , depending on you know if you're going to church

29:28

or whatnot . You can go attend on

29:30

Sunday or you can catch the replay , like

29:32

it's . It's perfect . And just

29:35

even the little shifts I made during it , because I

29:37

mean , I know you and I know some of what you teach , but

29:39

, like that day , it was like

29:41

what else can we do today ? That's going to make

29:43

our life so much easier . And it's like we

29:45

purged a bunch of stuff in the house

29:47

which then turned into this huge

29:50

organizing project , which has been phenomenal

29:52

to like get our just

29:54

house feeling even better . And it's like

29:57

we don't want to feel like

29:59

you talk about , like escaping your

30:01

life on the weekends . It's

30:03

like I love my life . I actually want to

30:05

enjoy it more , so what do I have to do ? And

30:07

then , same thing , you know it trickled

30:10

down into our environment where it's like I'm

30:12

always excited for , like like I'm about

30:14

to head to Charlotte for work , then I'm heading back to Florida

30:16

to see family and work , then we're going to Savannah

30:18

for Brad's birthday and then , like crazy

30:21

town and

30:23

I want to freaking enjoy our house

30:25

, and I don't , because I'm always

30:27

off the next . And so it really

30:30

trickled down into being like how , if

30:32

you're going to enjoy your week and weekend

30:34

, let's enjoy the space you're in , even

30:36

if you're oh , it's so

30:39

important and I mean it's little things

30:41

like I want you like , if you're listening to this

30:43

, like start making a list of

30:45

things that like bother you .

30:46

It's like your it list , like that like or like

30:48

, like this just really drives me and I mean

30:50

it could be your disorganized underwear drawer . Yeah

30:53

, that's what you do on the weekends

30:55

, because you have more time and listen , like

30:57

for all you people listening . They're like I don't have time

30:59

on weekends . I have four . I have four kids too Don't

31:02

forget I have four kids and carve out the time

31:04

. It might just mean you don't watch

31:06

five episodes of Netflix until midnight

31:09

. You know , spend 20

31:11

minutes organizing your underwear drawer , because that

31:13

is going to make you feel better Monday through Friday

31:15

, every time you open the drawer and you can

31:17

breathe the sigh of relief and that is like the

31:19

mental space that

31:21

you create in your brain by

31:24

just creating your life on the weekend . It means grocery

31:26

shopping on the weekend and meal planning on the weekend

31:28

, so that you have a plan for the week whenever

31:30

you have , you know , three different

31:32

sporting activities with your kids on Wednesday night

31:35

and Tuesday night and Monday night , or you

31:37

know you're going in separate directions with your

31:39

husband and just having like a plan . But

31:42

that's also . The whole thing is like you're

31:44

, you're tired after the long week

31:46

and so then you eat , take out

31:49

and you stay up late and you drink , and

31:51

then that's definitely the last thing you want to

31:53

do on Saturday , right , when you get home , all

31:56

you want to do is like take a nap during the baby's nap

31:58

time . You don't want to . You know

32:01

, go to the grocery store while the baby's napping

32:03

, or meal prep while the baby's

32:05

napping , and that's like a huge realization

32:07

that you know . As I have created this challenge

32:10

and as people have gone through this challenge , it's

32:12

like nap time

32:14

looks so different for me . Now I'm not

32:16

hating on you . It's like you want to take a nap during your kid's

32:18

nap time , sometimes like I need to

32:21

lay down too during that time , but it's like I

32:23

create that space to do it the margin right

32:25

, it's the the margin

32:27

.

32:27

And it's proactive , not reactive

32:29

.

32:30

And it's like setting boundaries , like , yeah

32:32

, our kids aren't going to be in four activities

32:34

a piece , like when you have four kids , because

32:36

that is not putting like

32:38

us first , that is not putting our marriage first

32:41

, our relationship , our ourselves

32:43

first , because then we are overwhelmed , then

32:45

we are overextended , then nobody's

32:48

really happy and like for what ? Right

32:50

?

32:51

Well , and that gosh

32:53

, I forgot what the stat was . I need to look it up , but

32:56

I think it was something about kids

32:58

who ate dinner around the table like four

33:00

nights a week . Have you seen that ? I don't know , I've got to look

33:02

it up . Yeah , what percentage

33:04

. Like they were in less trouble , just all different things

33:07

. Like I'm not saying you have to have a meal every single night , but

33:10

I was like , oh my gosh

33:12

, I remember the feeling of

33:14

like Both my brothers played baseball

33:17

. Now , they did both play in college , so it worked

33:19

out for them Like

33:21

practice to practice , to hear

33:23

to there , and like my parents were like how

33:26

y'all are where , like your kid picks a sport , you

33:28

know , and so that at least solidified

33:30

less craziness . But

33:32

yeah , when I see all you

33:34

know People running to all these different fields

33:36

and this and that I'm like I don't

33:38

, I have angst for them and

33:41

it's not my life , you know . And so I

33:43

think that's the other thing too , as you help people identify

33:46

like what does your like ? It's

33:48

almost like looking at , like the legacy you

33:50

want to leave , the awareness people are

33:52

there of it .

33:53

But the thing is is like we

33:55

do all sit in the kitchen

33:58

at the normally , like we have a four

34:00

bar seats and like yeah . Has been

34:02

, are like standing while we're eating . But we're all in there

34:04

together Eating a meal most

34:06

nights , like it might be a 20 minute , 15

34:08

minute meal . It's crazy how

34:10

much that's become our norm . And then

34:12

, just like some of our friends

34:15

, like that Maybe we'll be on the same team

34:17

and like we're gonna do a carpool situation like , oh hey

34:19

, like my husband's gonna be dropping

34:22

this kid off or at this kid's practice and can

34:24

you bring Camden home . It's like I

34:26

might be at home with the baby , you

34:28

know , and if they have practice till like seven or eight o'clock or

34:30

something , and they'll say something

34:32

like oh yeah , we're probably gonna run and get

34:34

something to eat after practice with

34:36

the kids , if that's okay , if Cam comes with us , and

34:38

I'm like , yeah , that's fine . I'm just thinking my head like wow

34:41

, y'all go eat at a restaurant , like an 8

34:44

pm At night , like after practice , like

34:46

that's that's what people do like

34:48

regularly , daily , and

34:51

that is so . That's so bizarre

34:53

to me .

34:54

Like that , yeah , like now , because

34:56

you've changed the culture of your family

34:58

.

34:59

Which the cup we do not , we like literally

35:01

eat out , maybe one time on

35:03

a week night , like every three or four

35:05

weeks . Yeah , literally it like . And

35:08

if we're eating out it's like we picked

35:10

up Chipotle .

35:14

Yeah , it's not like they're being deprived of

35:16

good meals either , like you're cooking yummy

35:18

food . It's not like it's like oh , chicken

35:21

and broccoli . Again , here we go .

35:23

No , we ate red beans and rice . Worth Louisiana

35:25

people , we rate red beans and rice . Last night We'll have

35:28

gumbo , we'll have , you know , whatever

35:30

, like all different kinds of things . And it's like , really

35:32

, that's how my kids are learning

35:35

, how , yeah , what a family should

35:37

look like and what dinner time should look like and can

35:39

look like for them . And

35:42

it's like I I don't even realize

35:44

how Unusual

35:46

that situation is and I see

35:48

, like what other people do that have

35:50

Kids and sports , and I'm like , but

35:53

it's not , it's not me judging

35:55

them for doing that , it's literally they

35:57

have no idea that there's other options

35:59

. Yeah , like there's land

36:01

a little bit . You could eat at like

36:03

445 or 530 before you'll

36:05

have to leave it six for activities . And then you

36:07

know some nights , there are earlier nights

36:10

where maybe there's a baseball game at five

36:12

and you're not getting home till seven . And on those nights

36:14

we have dinner dinner ready , so we

36:16

can pop it in the oven at seven and while they're all showering

36:18

, we stick it in the oven and yeah , shower

36:21

, they eat , and like they're in bed by eight . It's

36:23

just , it just takes a little bit of planning , but people

36:25

don't even realize that that is like available to them

36:27

. They're just , oh , my life so busy . I

36:29

just have to eat at the ballpark . I'm just low on

36:31

right .

36:32

No , you know that's what I got coached

36:34

once and it really did

36:36

kind of change some of my thoughts on this . And

36:39

it actually was with Macy and I said

36:41

you know , I

36:43

feel like gosh . This is almost

36:45

a year ago . I said I feel like

36:47

I when I eat

36:49

and it is not what I intended to eat I'm

36:52

having an out-of-body experience and

36:54

it's like the ghost of Christmas past is like in

36:56

the corner of the room watching Like he

36:58

does in the movie , and I said

37:01

, and it's like I didn't even realize

37:03

I got here because I haven't paused

37:05

to register it , and

37:09

it took that in the conversation

37:11

and pondering to now be like

37:13

so Present and sometimes I'm

37:16

still not because it's a learning experience but

37:18

it is wild to me like how

37:21

much like I have

37:23

lived life on autopilot and and

37:25

a lot , I would say 80%

37:27

of the population is you know , because

37:30

it's crazy .

37:32

You can't even be present or be

37:34

aware if you don't create margin

37:37

in your life . Yeah , that is what

37:39

all these overwhelmed , victim mentality

37:41

, mom , busy life , complainer people

37:43

yeah , I used to be one like

37:46

this is not me hating like I used to be that

37:48

. Yeah , I was so

37:50

over scheduled , so overwhelmed , traveling

37:52

every weekend , had my kids in three activities

37:54

apiece . I was , I was

37:56

that mom and it's like I couldn't even like

37:58

be aware because I had no margin

38:00

in my day . I had no margin in my . Yeah , I

38:03

thought that was the only life available to me

38:05

because I was like well , you chose that for kids , so this

38:08

is just your life . But like it's

38:10

not like that's not the only option

38:12

. I actually I recorded a YouTube

38:15

video , like right before we got on this call

38:17

, and one of the things I was talking about was that

38:19

that unconscious eating that you

38:22

do it's like where you know , I

38:24

was listening to a podcast . They use this example

38:26

. This isn't the example I use , but their

38:28

example . It's maybe better than mine , and they were talking about like when

38:30

you walk in the door from work and

38:32

you're like on the phone talking to someone and

38:34

you like walk in the kitchen and you like grab a bag of

38:36

chips and you pop open a beer and you start eating . It's like

38:38

you didn't consciously make that decision . Yeah

38:41

, someone on the phone , it's out of habit . Yeah

38:43

, I even had a time to like pause

38:45

, be aware of , like the thought

38:48

process that's going behind . Like why do you need a

38:50

beer and a snack when you walk in the ? It's

38:52

like you don't even realize easy . You know

38:54

we're at and you're the

38:56

food tables right here next to you and

38:59

you're talking to your friend and you're just like eating chips

39:01

and dip , like while you're talking to them , like you're not

39:03

consciously making a decision to do

39:05

that .

39:06

No , and my mom and I have this phrase

39:08

. If you ever want to use it , we

39:10

will see each other . If we like get in a moment

39:12

like that and like I'll , I'll

39:14

be like I just want to save you from yourself right now . Do

39:16

you know this is happening and or shall say

39:18

it . And so the other night I got

39:21

like those guardettos , like the like

39:23

check , and

39:26

so I'm like in bed eating

39:28

guardettos , I have my

39:30

AirPods , I have Southern living . I'm like living

39:32

the freaking dream in the midst of like crazy launch

39:34

season . And Brad . Brad

39:37

goes , do you know what you're doing

39:39

right now ? And I said , is it the chewing

39:41

or is it the crunching of the bag

39:43

? Like I didn't know . And he goes no , he's

39:45

, because I was like I'm annoying you . He's

39:48

like you're like autopilot , like

39:50

going to town on this bag of stacks . I'm like

39:52

Brad , I need you to say what my mom

39:54

says . And I said her , I'd said just say like

39:56

I need to save you from yourself and I do it with it . You

39:58

know to him , with other food , he likes that

40:01

, that it's like you can enjoy what you

40:03

want to enjoy , but like , at least be conscious

40:05

.

40:07

Like and that's what I tell my clients . It's like it's

40:10

not about I was working with a

40:12

client last week so I

40:14

do mindset mentoring . This is like a new author

40:16

that I started in the last like two months

40:18

and it's more high touch , like one-on-one Boxer

40:21

access to me , like we talk most

40:23

pretty much daily , and one

40:25

of my clients Is

40:27

really working through some like mindset things with

40:29

food and so she was going to like her

40:31

mother-in-law's house on Friday

40:33

and she was like I'm really worried about going there

40:36

because , like she food is like her cut her

40:38

love language and she always has lots of food and snacks

40:40

and all the things and I'm just worried I'm not gonna make good

40:42

choices there . And so I was talking to her about it and I was

40:44

like you know , she was like it's just hard

40:46

. Like she'll have healthy options , like there will be an apple

40:49

, but like it's hard to

40:51

choose the apple when there's a piece of chocolate sitting next

40:53

to me , like on the table . She'll like a little candy

40:55

bowl chocolate .

40:56

Yeah .

40:57

I was like it's not about like not eating

40:59

the chocolate . It's about like , can you pause

41:01

long enough to make a choice like

41:04

candy or apple ? And like , if

41:06

I eat this apple , how will it make me feel if I eat

41:08

this chocolate ? How I make me feel if I don't

41:11

eat this chocolate , how will it make me feel if I

41:13

don't eat the apple ? Like it's like , just

41:15

like . Ask yourself those questions . I

41:18

was listening to a podcast recently . It was Mari

41:21

Llewellyn , her pursuit of wellness podcast

41:23

. Okay , we had a Saudi

41:25

to Stefano on it , who he's the mind-punk media

41:28

guy . He's like amazing . They're both like fitness

41:30

. But he was like talking

41:32

about Just

41:34

like how he would tell

41:36

his clients to , before you make a food choice , to

41:38

like sit down and journal about it like before

41:40

you Do and like journal like how's

41:42

it gonna make you feel if you eat this or how is it , and it's

41:44

like just the pause will

41:47

literally your life like oh

41:49

yes , and like translate

41:52

that to everything like I feel like Bad

41:54

decisions that are made and like if you

41:56

pause and you're like no , I really want that like good

41:59

. And

42:02

that's the whole thing about . Like what I teach in , like the nutrition

42:04

the the that program is

42:06

. I teach you how to like track your macros

42:09

, make sure you're hitting a protein goal . Yeah , a

42:11

lot of times , like when you're hitting the protein goal

42:13

and you are eating enough on a daily basis , like

42:15

you definitely want those kind of things way

42:17

less .

42:18

Yeah , you're satiated with the protein You're

42:20

satisfied .

42:20

You're like I'm not as snacky like I don't

42:23

. I really am not a person that snacks like ever

42:25

, because I eat really solid Meals meals

42:28

and so I'm just not really snacking

42:30

in between meals . If I am feeling snacky

42:32

in between meals , usually I can very much identify

42:34

what and

42:36

it's also like okay , should I just

42:39

like fix myself another meal or

42:41

do I just want to eat this snack and track it and like

42:43

Sometimes it goes one way and sometimes

42:45

it ? doesn't it's not about shaming yourself

42:47

, but it's like when you have that knowledge

42:50

around food you and

42:52

how your body works and how your body metabolizes

42:54

food , it , it really it's like a

42:56

net , it's it's like game changer .

42:58

Well , and it takes the emotions out of it , like

43:00

I've had conversations with clients recently

43:03

where I've like made this new

43:05

sales Tracking doc and we depending

43:07

on the client and where they're at if they don't have it yet

43:09

, and I'm like let's take the

43:11

drama out of the numbers

43:13

. It just , it's just

43:15

a thing and it's like it is what

43:18

it is and like data helps you make informed decisions

43:20

.

43:20

Oh , and this is amazing because the same

43:23

thing with tracking macros . Yes , people give

43:25

their power to tracking macros and

43:27

I'm like a tool . It's just like a tool

43:29

. So we have data , so we can already you get

43:32

right , not a big deal , like it doesn't

43:34

really take that long you think it does in

43:36

your head . You have so much drama about

43:38

in your head . I'm gonna use that .

43:40

Yeah , it's so true , it's like it just the the

43:42

data . You just look at it and go

43:44

, oh , okay , you know . And

43:46

so , like that's how , in my journey now

43:48

I've taken the power really away from the scale

43:50

because I'm looking at a long-term

43:52

goal , a number I want not . You know , the weeks

43:54

add up to months , to years and I've seen

43:56

that go both ways . But it really

43:58

is like am I heading in the direction

44:01

? Okay , good , let's move . It was funny last

44:03

week I was weighing in in my

44:05

nurse practitioner , I was meeting with her . She was

44:07

like , oh , you're up

44:09

point seven . She's like it's from

44:12

fat , like it's okay , we can just You'll

44:15

get right back on track or whatever . And I I

44:17

left and I was like so Pissed

44:19

. And Brad's like what , chill out , what's

44:21

wrong , what's wrong . And I'm like Brad

44:24

, I am down 48 pounds

44:26

, I am two pounds away from 50 , which

44:29

is my first like big goal , and so

44:31

I'm like to focus on being up point seven

44:33

from bad . He's like , but she doesn't

44:35

know your big picture , she was just filling in

44:37

and I'm like you're right , like it made me

44:39

zoom out and be like this is

44:41

the long term , like this is how

44:44

do I want to live from 33

44:46

to 93 , not 33 to

44:48

34 ? And so yeah , it's

44:50

just so wild because I don't think people

44:52

, when you've been lived on autopilot

44:55

for that long , it's like I

44:57

think I'm there's a cup . There's obviously a bunch

44:59

of lessons on this podcast , but like really the reminder

45:02

of like you have to pause

45:04

to get out of autopilot

45:06

mode to then Restart

45:08

life how you want it on your own terms

45:11

. And I and and I'm excited

45:14

for people to get into the show notes and look at

45:16

when your next challenges and get in , because it

45:18

really does start with , like taking

45:20

a weekend . And Before

45:22

we go to the fun , fun part , I have two other

45:24

questions for you too , but taking the weekend

45:27

to make the life you want

45:29

to have , and so a question for you

45:31

here is like , have you Notice

45:33

like when you say no to things like

45:35

was that hard at first , or now you're

45:37

getting more used to it ?

45:39

This is such a good question . Yeah , oh

45:42

yes , it was hard at first . I'm

45:44

kind of one of those people that gets FOMO like

45:46

I have fear of missing out , like I'm like what

45:48

am I gonna miss . But it was like . I Remember

45:51

somebody told me one time like FOMO is not enough

45:54

big , a big enough reason . Not , it was my favorite

45:56

, it was not a big

45:58

enough reason to like do that . I remember

46:00

exactly what the thing was . It was some friends of

46:02

some friends of ours . We're going to A

46:05

few hours from where we live for like a

46:07

little short , like three-day weekend thing

46:09

and they invited a super last minute . They

46:12

invited just like two days before where they were going and it's like

46:14

you know the water slides for the kids and all the things . But

46:16

we have an eight . Well , at the time he was probably

46:18

one . We had like a 12 month old and he that

46:20

is like the hardest age ever . It's like they

46:22

, they just they don't stop moving . They don't understand

46:25

how to sit . Still , he couldn't walk yet it was . It

46:27

was a lot . And I am so big

46:29

into like boundaries and making sure that my weekends

46:31

look really like calm and like time to De-stress

46:33

. Of course there's gonna be weekends when we travel , but I want

46:36

to have like advanced notice so I can really plan

46:38

that out . I know like how I want to feel

46:40

and all that , and so , like I Messaged

46:42

my therapist and I was like , okay , like we got invited to this

46:44

thing , like I really want to go , like if we don't go

46:46

, I'm gonna have FOMO . And she was like FOMO

46:49

is not a big enough reason for you to like compromise

46:51

, like your boundaries , like and

46:53

your standards because , like I have set

46:55

Standards for like how I want my life

46:57

to look . And she was like if you

46:59

go , like what's gonna happen ? And I was like I already know

47:01

what's gonna happen . Like we're gonna both be stressed out , like we're

47:03

gonna all four kids leaving this one hotel room

47:05

. The babies is gonna be crying the whole time

47:07

. It's gonna be really hard terrible

47:09

yeah . But I'm like

47:12

gonna be able to be there , like with the girls , and

47:14

like it was just

47:16

. No , it was hard

47:18

but it's gotten a lot easier

47:21

. And I remember when we first moved to Texas , especially

47:23

because we didn't have any friends , I would

47:25

feel like so lonely on

47:27

Friday nights and I would literally feel like a loser

47:29

. I was like we're out losers

47:31

, like we don't have any plans on Friday night

47:33

. And now it's like somebody asked me to

47:35

do something . I'm like we're busy , I can't , I have to take my

47:37

back and I have to do my like castor

47:39

oil pack and I have to , yes , all of

47:42

my things on Friday night and I'm

47:44

like I will not compromise that for

47:46

like a fun night . Like occasionally

47:48

I do , of course , like I spend time with my friends . But

47:51

it's just crazy how different things are now

47:53

. Or it's like I used to be like if we did not have

47:55

weekend plans , like I felt like such a loser . I

47:57

felt like I kind of felt like depressed , almost

47:59

like on the weekend Stuff going on , and

48:02

now it's literally like what I covet

48:04

the most , like yeah , and with nothing

48:06

on the calendar you tie

48:08

.

48:08

I mean , I believe time is our greatest asset

48:11

and how you use

48:13

it is . It can make or break

48:15

your life . Right , I mean not to be dramatic

48:18

, but it's true , time is money . I believe that

48:20

too . And so , no , it's cool

48:22

to hear the encouragement to have like making

48:24

the baby steps and realizing , like Put

48:26

it through the lens , to have like am I going just because I don't

48:28

want to have FOMO ? I don't think that's reason enough

48:30

to go . Then , you know , and like I

48:32

always joke , like when someone texts me and they're like , hey

48:35

, can we move our meeting ? Or hey , I have to miss today

48:37

or whatever , I'm like I Do

48:39

not mind canceled plans , like obviously

48:42

it . Like if a friend did it enough , my feelings

48:44

would get her . I might ask I did , I do something right

48:46

? But like If someone gives me 30

48:49

minutes back to my day , I'm like , yes , you know

48:51

, so I'm the same . You know I

48:53

feel the burn right now . I know that

48:55

we're in this season where we're a little over committed

48:58

it's friends getting married , having babies , so

49:00

like it just kind of is the season and

49:02

I'm like what can we do to

49:04

make this feel even better , and how

49:06

, in the lens ?

49:08

that's always the yeah , how yeah ?

49:10

so one last question before we switch to the

49:12

fun part . How do

49:14

you feel like women are leaving money

49:16

on the table , as as it relates

49:18

to weekends , health , movement

49:21

, food , etc . How do you , how do

49:24

you see that ? And what's someone ? What's the way women

49:26

can stop leaving money on the table ?

49:28

Okay , so this is a really good question . I know that a

49:30

lot of people that are listening to this are probably

49:32

entrepreneurs , people in the business world , because

49:34

that's what your , your thing is right . Yeah

49:36

paid ads and so

49:39

a lot of entrepreneurs listening . You are leaving

49:41

money on the table if you are not taking

49:43

care of your health first . Like health

49:45

is wealth . Like times

49:47

a million Um , I've seen

49:49

it in my own life , I think from the time

49:52

that I decided to get healthy to

49:54

now , my revenue has increased like Well

49:57

last time I checked it was like 14 times and probably

49:59

probably like 20 times now . Um

50:01

, the clarity you have

50:03

, the creativity you have to like think

50:06

of new ways to to recreate revenue

50:08

streams , and um the

50:10

time and the clarity you have , that's like oh

50:12

, I'm so I can get so much more

50:15

work done , like four hours instead of eight hours

50:17

. And like you're not procrastinating because you feel

50:19

really good and you have energy when you wake up and it's

50:21

just being healthy , literally

50:23

. Like you , you make

50:25

more money and like Jordan I know you could say this 100

50:28

because losing almost 50 pounds , I

50:30

guarantee you . You've seen oh

50:32

in your revenue .

50:33

Yes , I don't have to go take a nap

50:35

from one to three because I had A

50:38

pokey bowl with so much rice . That

50:40

like puts literally , I was like putting myself to

50:42

sleep every day because I

50:44

was like overcarbing myself

50:46

and I'm Uh , insulin resistant

50:49

, right .

50:49

So it's like , yes , 100

50:51

percent , I'm like wealth if you are not

50:53

taking care of yourself as a

50:55

business owner , if you are not Investing

50:58

money literally in the right workout

51:00

plan , the right nutrition , the right food . Um

51:02

, the mental health like this is mental

51:04

health too , not just like physical

51:06

health , but , yeah , nervous system regulation

51:09

, all of the things like breath work , meditation

51:11

, all of it . If you are not putting money

51:14

into that , you're leaving money in your business on

51:16

the table , on the table .

51:17

No , I love it . That's such good advice . And

51:20

so what are some things

51:22

? It's clicking , clicks and giggles podcast . I

51:24

know you love taking your bath , getting relax

51:26

me with good book . What are some things that make

51:28

you give a giggle , make you just kind

51:30

of refresh to then get back at

51:33

it work , moming , wife

51:35

, life .

51:36

Um , well , travel is something that's really important

51:38

to us . It's a huge value for our family

51:40

. So you know , whenever we talk about like revenue

51:43

goals and like goals for income for our family

51:45

and stuff . We're always planning like the next trip

51:47

, like where we want to go . So I would say , travel

51:50

for sure . We , uh

51:52

, I love to read . Ellen Hilderbrand

51:55

is , okay , an author that I love to

51:57

read and a lot of her books are based in

51:59

nantucket . So like we actually went to nantucket

52:01

this fall , um , which was just

52:03

like Pure

52:05

joy . Like me and my husband went um ourselves

52:08

and now we want to bring our kids back . Um

52:10

, so I definitely love to read fiction . Um

52:12

, I love to um

52:14

, listen to live music . I love

52:16

to um . Yeah

52:19

, travel is like probably number one

52:21

. And I'm always like planning our

52:23

next trip . Yeah when can we know you next

52:25

? I think right now we're trying to go to sea island

52:27

in march . That's our

52:30

, our hopeful spring break plans

52:32

right now . We just kind of started looking at it this past

52:34

weekend .

52:34

So yeah , it's gonna

52:36

be so good . Well , and because you

52:39

Live your life in a way that

52:41

you enjoy your downtime , you enjoy

52:43

your home , then you can get away . But you

52:45

also are probably excited when you're back

52:47

too . You're like , all right , we're back in the group

52:49

. No , this is , this is so good

52:51

. I want anyone who is listening if this has resonated

52:54

with you , if you realize wait , I am

52:56

living my life on autopilot and this is not

52:58

it . I have good news for you . Click

53:01

in the show notes . Emily hosts

53:03

her weekenders challenge . Get a spot , learn

53:05

how you can work with her more . And thanks

53:08

for being on here today . I'm so , so thankful

53:10

to have you and know you as a friend of

53:12

my life and just for you to get to pour into others

53:14

, and I'm excited for all the

53:16

women you're gonna help this year and beyond . It's gonna

53:19

be good .

53:19

Thank you Jordan .

53:24

And that's a wrap . Thank you for listening

53:27

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53:29

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53:31

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