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Do you know what happens when you're in a room by yourself?

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The doors close. You have no companionship, no company.

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You feel a sense of darkness.

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Do you know what it takes to problem solve in that situation of dimness,

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of hopelessness, of loneliness?

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Do you know what it takes to come out of feeling the weight of disappointments,

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the depth of feeling like you do not belong,

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the heaviness of feeling like a burden to everyone you meet,

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even when they smile in your face and tells you they appreciate your presence.

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But you always leave a feeling like you are never enough.

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So you're in this room isolated either by choice or by circumstances.

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Do you know what it takes for you to get out of that situation to get up just

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to get up the simple act of getting up?

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Do you know what it takes blocks to then elevate your physical body to open

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the door and to step out of that room,

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when no one else is around, when you have no one to brainstorm with,

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when you have no one to say, to be a back and forth.

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No one to give you the feedback, and you're in that space by yourself and you

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have to figure it out, do you understand what that takes?

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What it takes is resilience. What it takes,

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is the ability to turn every unfortunate event and make it something special

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and make it into to a driving force that creates better opportunities for you.

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What it takes is a mindset shift.

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What it takes is a belief in yourself. And that belief may not initially be

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there, but when you decide to just stand up, to just get up, to just elevate,

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it increases your belief in yourself just a little bit.

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When you decide to go towards the door, it increases it even more,

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and you open the door even more.

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And when you get through the door, your self-belief increases even further.

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And then you are able to say, if I was able to get up and out of that room,

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out of that situation, out of that circumstances, out of that mindset,

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out of that belief system. Then I can go further. Then I can do more.

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Then I can obtain my goals and my dreams.

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Everything you've been through in life has cost you something.

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It's worth something. something so when

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you come to a point where you're able to

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share what you have obtained what you've gained understand

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the value of what you're giving away understand the value of what you're sharing

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understand the value of what you're selling you are first your product no matter

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what it is you're are selling. You are first your product because you had to get to the point where you even

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believed enough that you could either manufacture,

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create, write, develop, market, promote that thing, whatever that thing is.

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It was a journey for you to get to just that place.

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And do not underestimate estimate the journey to get to that place.

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Oftentimes what happens is we don't spend time evaluating and even reminiscing

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on where we've come from, where we are, and sometimes we've forgotten what it took.

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Get to the place that we are now. We do not even consider all the sacrifices.

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We do not consider all the time. We do not consider the losses.

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We don't consider those things. We just go. And sometimes you're in a phase

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of life where you're operating on autopilot, that you don't even have time to

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think about what you're doing. You know you have to survive and you do what it takes to survive,

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and you get through to the next step, and you get through to the next step,

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and you get through to the next one, and the next one, and the next one,

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till you arrived at this place.

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And where you are now is a collection of all the decisions you've made up until this point.

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And every single one of those decisions cost something.

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So again, Again, regardless of what it is that you are selling,

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that you're giving, that you're marketing, that you're promoting,

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it's worth something because it's coming from you and you are valuable.

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Your experiences are valuable.

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What you've been through means something.

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Everything honor everything that

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you've experienced and your resilience to

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endure and your willingness to thrive

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honor those parts of you but by standing with a statue of worth you are enough

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you've been through so much and you're here it doesn't matter who wasn't in the

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room, when you were by yourself.

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It doesn't matter who discouraged you, who neglected you, or abandoned you.

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They don't matter.

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But all of those things work together for your good, so you honor them.

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They cost you something, and so you honor them.

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I'm Marsha Cartalli, and I help women recognize their worth by showing them

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how to turn pain into passion and opportunities that will come from every single disappointment.

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Have a great day.